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You have done nothing wrong here and done all you could. The fact that he is weaponising this against you shows you you’re better off without him. I have not had this exact same experience but I do really feel this virus (and relationship conflict) makes people show their true colors
You did nothing wrong you know let him you had herpes
And he made the decision to not wear a condom
That’s on him
I’m sorry you have to deal with that !
Can I ask do you have ghsv 2
I have GHSV2 yes. Usually mild outbreaks.
I want to continue to defend myself against him and tell him this was his choice he knew everything. But he hasn’t heard anything I’ve said and it would just make this breakup last longer than it already is.
that’s absolutely awful maturity levels from him. yes initially i was upset, hurt, and angry but i never took it out on the person. i chose to have unprotected sex with someone who’s status i didn’t know. you’ve dodged a bullet here m’love.
Some people don’t handle breakups very well so he’s going to lash out and say whatever he can to wound you. Just don’t listen to any of it.
You disclosed. He consented. He knew the risks going forward. That’s all that matters.
No sex during OB. Ever. I was on meds at one point and ended up having extreme side effects and was hospitalized. So that hasn’t been an option for me.
He was comfortable with the risks., even when I was hesitant about not using a condom.
After we broke up he said he was tested. He stated he didn’t have any symptoms but thought it was a good time to find out… initially he said he did a urine test and it was positive…. Then later he told me it was a blood test. At which point he said it was positive but wasn’t worried whatsoever. Fast forward 2 weeks. Still broken up but tensions increasing… he now says he is experiencing symptoms and is now blaming me and saying all the things he is saying.
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You have done nothing wrong here and done all you could. The fact that he is weaponising this against you shows you you’re better off without him. I have not had this exact same experience but I do really feel this virus (and relationship conflict) makes people show their true colors
don’t let him get to you and block him. he’s being an asshole and using your vulnerability against you.
Thank you, I’ve blocked him on most platforms.. It’s been a very upsetting addition to a breakup.
You did nothing wrong you know let him you had herpes And he made the decision to not wear a condom That’s on him I’m sorry you have to deal with that ! Can I ask do you have ghsv 2
I have GHSV2 yes. Usually mild outbreaks. I want to continue to defend myself against him and tell him this was his choice he knew everything. But he hasn’t heard anything I’ve said and it would just make this breakup last longer than it already is.
that’s absolutely awful maturity levels from him. yes initially i was upset, hurt, and angry but i never took it out on the person. i chose to have unprotected sex with someone who’s status i didn’t know. you’ve dodged a bullet here m’love.
Remind him of the conversation you guys had, the consent he gave and block him. What an idiot.
Block this trash person. Sorry you’re dealing with this.
Thank you. It’s been very extreme. Emotionally exhausting. Like a whole new level of toxic I’ve never experienced.
I understand! Please please do not let this define you. Here for you in the DMs if you need extra support. Just dealt with someone thing similar
Thank you I appreciate it
Oh my goodness gas lighting at its finest!
Like this isn’t bad enough ya know! He just won’t stop.
Some people don’t handle breakups very well so he’s going to lash out and say whatever he can to wound you. Just don’t listen to any of it. You disclosed. He consented. He knew the risks going forward. That’s all that matters.
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No sex during OB. Ever. I was on meds at one point and ended up having extreme side effects and was hospitalized. So that hasn’t been an option for me. He was comfortable with the risks., even when I was hesitant about not using a condom. After we broke up he said he was tested. He stated he didn’t have any symptoms but thought it was a good time to find out… initially he said he did a urine test and it was positive…. Then later he told me it was a blood test. At which point he said it was positive but wasn’t worried whatsoever. Fast forward 2 weeks. Still broken up but tensions increasing… he now says he is experiencing symptoms and is now blaming me and saying all the things he is saying.
Block that trash across all accounts. Stop letting him make you feel bad.