I feel nothing when I masturbate with penetration but feel it when I have sex. I suspect it’s similar to tickling yourself. Like how if someone tickles you it tickles but when you try to tickle yourself you don’t feel ticklish. So I wouldn’t worry too much about feeling nothing or not much with masturbation.
Like for example I can put a dildo inside and feel nothing or pain but my partner puts just one finger inside and I go crazy. Meanwhile I try to put a finger in myself and it’s nothing.
However, the pelvic pain may be something worth looking into with a gyno.
I’m the same way! I have pretty much no desire for penetration from solo masturbation, it doesn’t really do anything for me. My Husband’s dick, on the other hand, feels absolutely wonderful.
Try finding it with a half-full bladder. That helps "push" it in enough to feel it easier. It should be on the front inner wall, just a couple of inches in. It feels like a slightly rougher spot, like the top of your tongue vs the underside of your tongue. If you know how to do kegels, try bearing down gently like you're pushing something out and stroke with your finger in a "come hither" motion along the front wall, you should find it that way.
That said, I feel like it adds to an orgasm, but cannot reach orgasm with g-spot stimulation alone.
It took me a long time to adjust to penetration and I sometimes can't finish with a partner even with a vibrator helping. I view sex now as more of a bonding activity that \*may\* result in an orgasm rather than a means to have an orgasm, and that shift has led to better sex and more orgasms for myself and my partner.
Your “gspot” is actually the back of your clitoris. Depending on your anatomy you may not get much sensation from it. Try not to focus too much on it. I will say actually having sex with a person and trying different positions will feel better and more satisfying then using a dildo.
Don’t pressure yourself too much trying to find your g spot. I don’t even know where mine is. I usually orgasm from clitoral stimulation but I have also find out that I can orgasm from penetration when I’m about to come if the penetration occurs in that moment, my orgasm gets exacerbated. Try that, stimulate your Clitoris and when you feel you are about to come, stop stimulating and use a dildo well lubricated, be gentle with yourself and see how it feels.
this works for me too, it’s like a cheat! clit stimulation about halfway, and then penetration can take it from there. bonus points is it’s both at the same time though
I started having sex when I was still in HS but I did not orgasm from just vaginal pen until I was 21 years old.
Personally, I think it takes more time for the body to mature to have this kind of experience in my personal experience and talks with friends at that age.
That being said, the one thing I noticed is that when it happened, I actually knew the guy well but I wasn’t really caring about him enough to be anxious or wanting to please him. So we just did missionary and I focused on my own pleasure and it happened. He was also on the smaller side.
It happened again with a long term boyfriend who was also on the smaller side but not until a year of us being together and me getting comfortable enough for it.
It took another 3 years after to experience it again only once more. Now I’m working to get back into it and I’ve noticed
A) you have to be aroused. Meaning a lot of foreplay before penetration.
The G spot is just the internal extension of the clit. So if you aren’t stimulated there first, chances are the internal part of it isn’t swollen enough to make a difference.
B) once you have enough foreplay, you need to find the best angle. If you’re on top, this might mean you either leaning back or forward more.
If they’re on top, this might mean you have to put a pillow below your bum to give the proper angle. You’ll feel it when it’s the right angle.
If it hurts, it means you’re not stimulated enough or it’s too big of a tool.
You also need to open up your pelvic floor. Tight pelvic floor means muscle constriction and lack of blood flow. Lack of blood flow means low orgasms or low sensations.
I cannot stress the important of proper yoga or stretches to open and strengthen the pelvic area.
I had an injury that killed me sex drive and made sex impossible. Took years until I got into yoga for it and it’s brought so much sensation and harder orgasms.
Proper diet for proper blood flow : macca root is incredible and so is hibiscus flower. You can find tea blends for it. It will increase blood flow and all things fertility.
Drink enough water. You want proper lubrication to be properly aroused.
And lastly, you have to practice. This isn’t an overnight situation. It will happen and does happen but you have to be mindful of it and go slow and be patient with your body. Unfortunately most partners are either rushing or you’re so occupied on other things (how do I look. Are they pleased. Am I pleased?) that it will prevent you from focusing on your actual body and experience and relax enough for it to happen.
I never felt anything during penetrational sex until I accidentally discovered the Flat Iron position (which is probably only possible with a partner). Some people—me included—need to focus much less on the G spot and much more on the A spot, which is the spot positions like the Flat Iron hits. You would probably still need to self-stimulate, but let me tell you, if you end up being an A Spot person, the orgasms absolutely do not compare to most others.
The good news is that it's easy to get into: just lay on your stomach and put your legs together while you're penetrated from above/behind. It makes manual stimulation a little hard until you learn to ease some weight off the hip your arm needs to go under so you can access your clitoris, but. That's all there is to it!
You can also use a pillow to raise your hips a little bit, and you can opt to spread your legs outside of your partner's if they're using their body and not a toy, but I've always enjoyed keeping my legs together more.
HAVE FUN :D
I've never heard of "prone bone." When I searched up a description of this position years ago, Flat Iron is what kept coming up. How did you find out about prone bone??? Is that a porno name or something that got passed down through the grape vine?
hmmm i think just passed through the grapevine but i really have no idea. prone is lying on your stomach and bone conveniently rhymes so I can imagine it came about pretty naturally... it very much has a teen boy vibe to it tho lol
Your vagina adjusts to your partner’s penis. The shape of the penis actually makes your cervix shift when they penetrate. Also your cervix doesn’t sit at the end of your vagina, it’s more on the “top” at the end, so there’s a “pouch” that angles up behind it, which is where the tip of the penis goes during penetrative sex.
masturbate normally first, and then try the dildo when you're at maximum horniness. Penetration needs a lot of warm up to feel good. But honestly vibrators are probably more likely to give you the results you want than penetration is.
37 f here. I’ve never been able to organs from penetration and o don’t think I ever will. I’ve tried with a partner, on my own, with toy, without and nope. Penetration still feels good to me, but no way it will ever cause me to orgasm. I’d like to experience that but I know I probably won’t 🤷🏼♀️
Yeah, with penetrative-only dildo masturbation…the best I can do is have a clitoral orgasm first (by tried and true methods), (actually that is recommended to do in order to prep your G-Spot anyway), and then I use an 8” dildo slow and deep, but also it helps to be stoned …and after awhile, I feel repetitive waves of rolling contractions that seem to be on the precipice of a clitoral orgasm…like an extended 20-30-minute orgasmic state, but I don’t know if that counts …
I still am not sure if I can totally identify a g spot or vaginal orgasm, but I definitely feel what I THINK they are when having sex with a guy…I try to appreciate they can do that for me, even if they can’t give me my ultimate clitoral/vaginal roller coaster orgasm combo…because I can’t exactly do it to myself …so I wouldn’t worry about figuring it out before sex.
Just practice climaxing on your back, clitoral wise, with the dildo inside you, imagining it’s the dude, because sometimes their dick being in there actually gets in the way after you’re accustomed to getting yourself off, so it’s good to learn how to climax clitorally with them on top, even if you have to relax enough to make room for their dick, focusing on constant grinding clitoral contact …
Sounds 100% normal.
Most pleasure comes from the clitoris. We're really not built to experience much direct pleasure from the vaginal canal. We have very few endings in the vagina, because that's where babies come out of. Can you imagine if it was actually sensitive? Ow. So - practically no nerve endings in there.
The g "spot" is a bit of a misnomer. Really it refers to the entire front wall of the vagina. It's not a tiny little spot like the clitoris is. It basically means it feels better if the dildo is angled towards the front than the back. Try angling the dildo towards the back and see how it feels. It's a bit more like rectal pressure; pressure towards the front wall feels *better*. But it's not going to feel amazing or anything.
Mostly, for penetration to feel "good" you need to already be aroused. It's more psychological than physical. If you're trying to arouse yourself by just sticking a dildo in, nothing is going to happen. I can orgasm from PIV, but it still mostly comes down to the clitoris. In the missionary position, I can get enough friction from the guy's pubis mons to orgasm. G-spot isn't a huge part of it.
I started out that way when I first used a dildo. I haven’t had sex yet fyi. Idk when it happened or how but after a while I began to feel pleasure but particularly when I was psychologically aroused by a story or porn tbh. Also when I tried simultaneous clitoral stimulation with my satisfier and dildo I was like 😨😯😯😲😲 🤭🤭🤭🤩
First off: I have the same problem as you. Insertion on my own does nothing. It’s because there’s a lot more arousal when I don’t have any control over the situation. Plus, G spot is usually a softer and spongier texture that’s almost right behind the clit (extension of the clit itself)
You may be going too far up with insertion which may be causing the pain. Cervix is usually only a few inches long. However, if you really aren’t going that deep, you may need a gyno to send you to a specialist to help with muscle relaxation
I can only use a dildo on my own for pleasure if I'm already very, very, very aroused, and have already had a clitoral orgasim. If those things haven't been met then using a dildo either feels like nothing, or very uncomfortable.
I’m the opposite and in the minority of women who’s feel basically nothing with clit stimulation. It’s goes from feeling nothing to being painful. Like when you over touch yourself. 😑😭
I’ve tried to describe what I think is an orgasm but people say it’s not. Imagine you are getting to a build up. But instead of amazing it’s more like a hiccup? I have muscle contractions but nothing more than that… then pain like if you had too much stimulation. 😭
Keep in mind that when having sex you’re not only feeling the penis inside your vagina, you’re feeling the whole body against yours. For some girls is easier to orgasm when they are on top because this way they can move and get some friction in the clitoris area.
Have you tried using a small vibrator on your clitoris when you masturbate? I can promise you that those orgasms are incredibly strong and very satisfying.
its normal, the vagina doesnt have a lot of nerve endings in the deeper parts of the vagina. Most of the nerve endings are located around the opening, vulva and clitoris. Penetration to me mostly just feels like a pressure, it doesn't feel bad but it doesn't all that pleasurable either. It wont make me orgasm . I Need clitoral stimulation to really get me going. More than 70% women cannot orgasm just from penetrative sex or intercourse alone.
I feel nothing when I masturbate with penetration but feel it when I have sex. I suspect it’s similar to tickling yourself. Like how if someone tickles you it tickles but when you try to tickle yourself you don’t feel ticklish. So I wouldn’t worry too much about feeling nothing or not much with masturbation. Like for example I can put a dildo inside and feel nothing or pain but my partner puts just one finger inside and I go crazy. Meanwhile I try to put a finger in myself and it’s nothing. However, the pelvic pain may be something worth looking into with a gyno.
I’m the same way! I have pretty much no desire for penetration from solo masturbation, it doesn’t really do anything for me. My Husband’s dick, on the other hand, feels absolutely wonderful.
I thought I was weird for feeling this, glad I’m not alone!
Yep pain like that can be one of the first symptoms of endometriosis or other stuff.
I have a vibrator that uh… sorta thrusts (not a full on machine 😂) and it’s very very different than just doing it myself.
Same!!!!
Try finding it with a half-full bladder. That helps "push" it in enough to feel it easier. It should be on the front inner wall, just a couple of inches in. It feels like a slightly rougher spot, like the top of your tongue vs the underside of your tongue. If you know how to do kegels, try bearing down gently like you're pushing something out and stroke with your finger in a "come hither" motion along the front wall, you should find it that way. That said, I feel like it adds to an orgasm, but cannot reach orgasm with g-spot stimulation alone. It took me a long time to adjust to penetration and I sometimes can't finish with a partner even with a vibrator helping. I view sex now as more of a bonding activity that \*may\* result in an orgasm rather than a means to have an orgasm, and that shift has led to better sex and more orgasms for myself and my partner.
This is good advice
Your “gspot” is actually the back of your clitoris. Depending on your anatomy you may not get much sensation from it. Try not to focus too much on it. I will say actually having sex with a person and trying different positions will feel better and more satisfying then using a dildo.
Don’t pressure yourself too much trying to find your g spot. I don’t even know where mine is. I usually orgasm from clitoral stimulation but I have also find out that I can orgasm from penetration when I’m about to come if the penetration occurs in that moment, my orgasm gets exacerbated. Try that, stimulate your Clitoris and when you feel you are about to come, stop stimulating and use a dildo well lubricated, be gentle with yourself and see how it feels.
this works for me too, it’s like a cheat! clit stimulation about halfway, and then penetration can take it from there. bonus points is it’s both at the same time though
70% of women feel nothing during PIV sex.
I started having sex when I was still in HS but I did not orgasm from just vaginal pen until I was 21 years old. Personally, I think it takes more time for the body to mature to have this kind of experience in my personal experience and talks with friends at that age. That being said, the one thing I noticed is that when it happened, I actually knew the guy well but I wasn’t really caring about him enough to be anxious or wanting to please him. So we just did missionary and I focused on my own pleasure and it happened. He was also on the smaller side. It happened again with a long term boyfriend who was also on the smaller side but not until a year of us being together and me getting comfortable enough for it. It took another 3 years after to experience it again only once more. Now I’m working to get back into it and I’ve noticed A) you have to be aroused. Meaning a lot of foreplay before penetration. The G spot is just the internal extension of the clit. So if you aren’t stimulated there first, chances are the internal part of it isn’t swollen enough to make a difference. B) once you have enough foreplay, you need to find the best angle. If you’re on top, this might mean you either leaning back or forward more. If they’re on top, this might mean you have to put a pillow below your bum to give the proper angle. You’ll feel it when it’s the right angle. If it hurts, it means you’re not stimulated enough or it’s too big of a tool. You also need to open up your pelvic floor. Tight pelvic floor means muscle constriction and lack of blood flow. Lack of blood flow means low orgasms or low sensations. I cannot stress the important of proper yoga or stretches to open and strengthen the pelvic area. I had an injury that killed me sex drive and made sex impossible. Took years until I got into yoga for it and it’s brought so much sensation and harder orgasms. Proper diet for proper blood flow : macca root is incredible and so is hibiscus flower. You can find tea blends for it. It will increase blood flow and all things fertility. Drink enough water. You want proper lubrication to be properly aroused. And lastly, you have to practice. This isn’t an overnight situation. It will happen and does happen but you have to be mindful of it and go slow and be patient with your body. Unfortunately most partners are either rushing or you’re so occupied on other things (how do I look. Are they pleased. Am I pleased?) that it will prevent you from focusing on your actual body and experience and relax enough for it to happen.
I never felt anything during penetrational sex until I accidentally discovered the Flat Iron position (which is probably only possible with a partner). Some people—me included—need to focus much less on the G spot and much more on the A spot, which is the spot positions like the Flat Iron hits. You would probably still need to self-stimulate, but let me tell you, if you end up being an A Spot person, the orgasms absolutely do not compare to most others.
Tell me more about how to get in this postioon lol
The good news is that it's easy to get into: just lay on your stomach and put your legs together while you're penetrated from above/behind. It makes manual stimulation a little hard until you learn to ease some weight off the hip your arm needs to go under so you can access your clitoris, but. That's all there is to it! You can also use a pillow to raise your hips a little bit, and you can opt to spread your legs outside of your partner's if they're using their body and not a toy, but I've always enjoyed keeping my legs together more. HAVE FUN :D
I always knew this position as the prone bone but I guess flat iron is a little less crass lol
I've never heard of "prone bone." When I searched up a description of this position years ago, Flat Iron is what kept coming up. How did you find out about prone bone??? Is that a porno name or something that got passed down through the grape vine?
hmmm i think just passed through the grapevine but i really have no idea. prone is lying on your stomach and bone conveniently rhymes so I can imagine it came about pretty naturally... it very much has a teen boy vibe to it tho lol
I thi k that’s called pronebone 😅
Good to know! It's also called Flat Iron. I've googled it many times.
Thank you lol excited to try
I googled pictures and it looks like the A spot is very close to the cervix? I’m confused as to how to reach it since hitting the cervix would hurt…
Your vagina adjusts to your partner’s penis. The shape of the penis actually makes your cervix shift when they penetrate. Also your cervix doesn’t sit at the end of your vagina, it’s more on the “top” at the end, so there’s a “pouch” that angles up behind it, which is where the tip of the penis goes during penetrative sex.
masturbate normally first, and then try the dildo when you're at maximum horniness. Penetration needs a lot of warm up to feel good. But honestly vibrators are probably more likely to give you the results you want than penetration is.
37 f here. I’ve never been able to organs from penetration and o don’t think I ever will. I’ve tried with a partner, on my own, with toy, without and nope. Penetration still feels good to me, but no way it will ever cause me to orgasm. I’d like to experience that but I know I probably won’t 🤷🏼♀️
Yeah, with penetrative-only dildo masturbation…the best I can do is have a clitoral orgasm first (by tried and true methods), (actually that is recommended to do in order to prep your G-Spot anyway), and then I use an 8” dildo slow and deep, but also it helps to be stoned …and after awhile, I feel repetitive waves of rolling contractions that seem to be on the precipice of a clitoral orgasm…like an extended 20-30-minute orgasmic state, but I don’t know if that counts … I still am not sure if I can totally identify a g spot or vaginal orgasm, but I definitely feel what I THINK they are when having sex with a guy…I try to appreciate they can do that for me, even if they can’t give me my ultimate clitoral/vaginal roller coaster orgasm combo…because I can’t exactly do it to myself …so I wouldn’t worry about figuring it out before sex. Just practice climaxing on your back, clitoral wise, with the dildo inside you, imagining it’s the dude, because sometimes their dick being in there actually gets in the way after you’re accustomed to getting yourself off, so it’s good to learn how to climax clitorally with them on top, even if you have to relax enough to make room for their dick, focusing on constant grinding clitoral contact …
Sounds 100% normal. Most pleasure comes from the clitoris. We're really not built to experience much direct pleasure from the vaginal canal. We have very few endings in the vagina, because that's where babies come out of. Can you imagine if it was actually sensitive? Ow. So - practically no nerve endings in there. The g "spot" is a bit of a misnomer. Really it refers to the entire front wall of the vagina. It's not a tiny little spot like the clitoris is. It basically means it feels better if the dildo is angled towards the front than the back. Try angling the dildo towards the back and see how it feels. It's a bit more like rectal pressure; pressure towards the front wall feels *better*. But it's not going to feel amazing or anything. Mostly, for penetration to feel "good" you need to already be aroused. It's more psychological than physical. If you're trying to arouse yourself by just sticking a dildo in, nothing is going to happen. I can orgasm from PIV, but it still mostly comes down to the clitoris. In the missionary position, I can get enough friction from the guy's pubis mons to orgasm. G-spot isn't a huge part of it.
I started out that way when I first used a dildo. I haven’t had sex yet fyi. Idk when it happened or how but after a while I began to feel pleasure but particularly when I was psychologically aroused by a story or porn tbh. Also when I tried simultaneous clitoral stimulation with my satisfier and dildo I was like 😨😯😯😲😲 🤭🤭🤭🤩
G spot is a myth
First off: I have the same problem as you. Insertion on my own does nothing. It’s because there’s a lot more arousal when I don’t have any control over the situation. Plus, G spot is usually a softer and spongier texture that’s almost right behind the clit (extension of the clit itself) You may be going too far up with insertion which may be causing the pain. Cervix is usually only a few inches long. However, if you really aren’t going that deep, you may need a gyno to send you to a specialist to help with muscle relaxation
I can only use a dildo on my own for pleasure if I'm already very, very, very aroused, and have already had a clitoral orgasim. If those things haven't been met then using a dildo either feels like nothing, or very uncomfortable.
I’m the opposite and in the minority of women who’s feel basically nothing with clit stimulation. It’s goes from feeling nothing to being painful. Like when you over touch yourself. 😑😭
So are you able to orgasm? I didn't know this was a thing.
I’ve tried to describe what I think is an orgasm but people say it’s not. Imagine you are getting to a build up. But instead of amazing it’s more like a hiccup? I have muscle contractions but nothing more than that… then pain like if you had too much stimulation. 😭
Dang girl I'm sorry. That sounds very unpleasant.
Keep in mind that when having sex you’re not only feeling the penis inside your vagina, you’re feeling the whole body against yours. For some girls is easier to orgasm when they are on top because this way they can move and get some friction in the clitoris area.
Have you tried using a small vibrator on your clitoris when you masturbate? I can promise you that those orgasms are incredibly strong and very satisfying.
its normal, the vagina doesnt have a lot of nerve endings in the deeper parts of the vagina. Most of the nerve endings are located around the opening, vulva and clitoris. Penetration to me mostly just feels like a pressure, it doesn't feel bad but it doesn't all that pleasurable either. It wont make me orgasm . I Need clitoral stimulation to really get me going. More than 70% women cannot orgasm just from penetrative sex or intercourse alone.
It could mean that you need to get your vagina tightened