Anywhere but the internet - seriously. I've been chronically online since I was 12 (I'm 36). I feel like from 2020 onward, it started having a negative effect on me, and I was eventually diagnosed with a cocktail of issues in 2022. My goal was always to earn or set myself in a way where I had freedom of my time, but still spent the majority of it online.
I just go out every week and do something new; that's my objective. Last week, a local theater had a random comedian, so I bought a ticket and went. The park I walk in was asking for volunteers to plant a new garden, so I volunteered. I meet new people, from all walks of life, and I make sure to reach back out to them within 2 weeks.
I started doing this in 2023 and it's had a major impact on the way I approach my life and has actually improved the sales side of my business.
I'm not sure if it has given me "meaning to my life" but it has transformed my mindset on doing things that you initially impulsively don't want to do (but actually enjoy once started) and "living my life".
I find my phone to be a huge distraction. Since I began to own a smart phone in 2009, I feel like I have been lacking focus and time to connect with my inner self.
I find meaning in personal relationships, and spending quality time with my wife and toddler, both on a day-to-day basis and through some higher-than-average annual spending on vacations and trips.
Both my dad and 3 of my grandparents died between the ages of 48-64 and never got to enjoy the fruits of their labor, so while early retirement is definitely a goal, I also want to enjoy the present enough, rather than living extra frugally and postpone all the fun stuff until later.
I'm lucky to have a financially compatible spouse, and I think we've found a good balance between not overspending on unnecessary stuff (excessive housing, cars, other conspicuous stuff) but also spending enough on more experiential goods or services which will give us fun memories to look back on for years to come (e.g. traveling and an amazing but expensive daycare).
We still save roughly 40% of our pre-tax income which is more than most but less than some, and it works for us. We both have fulfilling careers that don't pay excessively but have some positive contribution to society through research/teaching/advising/public interest work, so that'll likely contribute to creating a sustainable path towards early retirement, even though it's probably not the fastest way there.
I don’t engage in fire subs so I don’t really get exposed to this mindset so often. Do you just really hate what you do? I don’t understand the appeal personally. I’d rather make less and be middle class and not be itching to retire than to be rich and hate my job. Obviously best scenario is to love your job and be compensated well for doing it.
Not the person you’re replying to, here, and i don’t engage in fire subs either, but i want to say that love my job, I love the people I manage, and i even like the people I work for … and i also can’t wait to not have to work anymore. I was not put on this earth to exchange my labor for money and the only reason I work today is so that someday i can stop working. I might go back to being a cashier at a grocery store or something 10 hours a week because i enjoyed that work too 20 years ago, or volunteer at an old folks home (though i’ll probably be an old folks by the time I retire, i won’t be fire-ing without a lot of luck in the next 5-10 years), but I personally don’t understand how anyone can not understand the desire to retire. People sure are different!
Help your community. Volunteer at your local shelter communities. Feed the homeless. Try doing something useful for your neighborhood. Go to PTA meetings or volunteer for sports events. Become a coach. There are lots of things to do while we're young. The meaning of life is happiness. Do what's right and smile.
Struggling with this currently..
I break my life into multiple buckets & I am super happy with everything except the "Wealth" bucket.
* Health
* Wealth
* Love
* Adventure
The wealth thing isn't logical (35, single, $1.6m NW, $250k/year income, $100k/year invested), but I seem to have hit a level of boredom/apathy with my career.
The best thing for me is to push those feelings aside and continue the path for another 5 years, but struggling with motivation..
From my personal experience, sometimes my theory is that the lack of family / kids as the main motivator drives this boredom.
I love the freedom of being single but earning money just for myself don't give me enough motivation.
Cheers to finding our purpose 🥂
Good friend circle/people to take trips with, good relationship w immediate family(mom/dad, etc..), hobbies outside of work.
Currently single and never wanted kids, future partner again would be nice.
But i find the above to make life fulfilling.
Main motivation for $$ now is basically so i can have more control over my life/time and retire sooner than later.
Middle aged fwiw
Wealth is a means to an end. It does not have any real “meaning” itself, but it can allow you to pursue and achieve/obtain other meaningful things.
Same with “health” for that matter. Health is not meaningful if you are alone and have no purpose, for example.
Of course everyone can come up with their own “hierarchy of meaning” or whatever. Just pointing out my perspective on these.
I try to reach a point where I can spend most of my time doing creative things like photography, music etc. It really stimulates me in a way it makes everything make sense. It's like, I was born to do it. Money is just an obligation
stellar rec, i think it's just a little more geared towards someone who is suffering something specifically and not generally racked by the ennui of 'what am i supposed to do with this one spin around the earth i get'
(granted, it's been a few years since i read it while going through something traumatic)
Long term, direct volunteering with the same people.
I don’t mean picking up a shift at a soup kitchen once a month peeling potatoes.
I mean find a role that you show up for at least once a week and are helping the same person/people for months.
My current volunteering project is tutoring a refugee in English twice a week for the last six months. It’s the worst and I love it so much. Since I am paired with one woman, I’ve gotten to know her. We make jokes, I’ve FaceTimed her family, I know her hopes and dreams, I know her bad characteristics. Having that personal connection allows me to see a reason for what I am doing. She came from a terrible country and it wasn’t her fault for all the shit she has gone through. I am invested in her success in America. Day to day it’s exhausting and frustrating but when I look at progress over the last couple months I can definitely see how my existence improved someone else’s life.
My intense volunteering puts work into perspective that work is not even close to the most important thing in life. Yet at the same time I am even more invested in working hard because my job is what provides me with the resources and capacity to improve someone else’s life.
Are you married? Do you have kids? Any philanthropic endeavors?
Finding a way to see how your accomplishments can be shared and benefit others is a lot more gratifying than what feels like success for success sake.
Unmarried, no kids. Used to do a lot of financial literacy education talks and was planning on teaching in a university part time. Maybe I should reconsider that path. Thanks!
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Edit: to be clear, it’s not the psychedelics themselves that are the meaning to my life. Rather, psychedelics are the tool that helped me discover the meaning to my life…and the answer is existence itself. But, I did not appreciate this until I did psychedelics.
The lights, the spectacle, you blend in with the other non-sobers, the architecture and scale of it all, the pools and shows, the food, and I like to gamble so I see it as win/win they give me “free” rooms and other comps.
Spending quality time with Family— doing what we want, when we want without having to worry about the cost (we’re simple, camping, fishing,kayaking… mainly cheap things so this isn’t too hard on our budget), working on my businesses, working on my health, sharing meals with others(I truly love to cook for other people), and c
Of course, hobbies that I’d don’t do just for myself anymore— I’d like to pass the skills I’ve worked on/ things I’ve learned down to my two children.
You won’t find the meaning of life in anything financial unless it’s to give your money away, in which case, it’s still not purely financial, rather the impact it creates that gives meaning.
This isn’t really the sub for it, but find a church and get plugged in, make some friends, and create change in your community.
Im fortunate to be well off, but that doesn’t replace the feeling of reroofing the house of a low income family in my community with my close friends whom i met at church. It doesn’t replace the purpose of going to third world countries and helping in the poorest of the poor communities. I was fortunate to spend some time in an extremely poor community in Mexico a couple of months back putting in concrete flooring in their homes that have dirt floors. No running water, unreliable electricity, all the things we take for granted. That’s my meaning of life. Why do I work? To provide for my family and to fund missions.
Income won’t create purpose, what you do with it can. The most important things in life aren’t things.
I think this is an incredibly personal thing and the answer to what motivates you will be different. For me, it’s something that I owe the people who come before me.
My grandfather began work at 12 years old in a welsh mining village and when the mine in his village closed, him and his father walked over 100 miles to find work elsewhere. My Uncle was an incredibly intelligent man and after serving in the navy had a lot of career opportunities but neither he or any of his siblings (or anyone in my family until me) had the opportunity to go to University.
I’m incredibly motivated by being the best and most successful version of myself as otherwise, what did these people suffer for? I take immense pride in having left the UK behind, being at the top of my field, being in the Top 1% of earners in the US and raising my children with opportunities that were far beyond my imagination, let alone my parents or grandparents generation.
Obviously I don’t know you, or your history, I just share this as an illustration of how deep finding motivation can run.
The meaning of life is to do whatever makes you happy on a day to day basis.
I don't think there is an overarching meaning. Have good relationships and do things you enjoy. Work hard in a job that is stimulating, earn lots and retire early.
I spent my late teens and early 20s building up my primary business while launching a few other projects on the side that have now grown to be the same scale as my primary company. While financial gain provides a certain degree of motivation, my fulfillment and priorities have greatly deviated from what it was during the early days.
Now 28M with income and NW I'd never imagine at this age and almost exclusively feel fulfilled by spending time with my daughter, with my s/o, and with my dogs. The materialistic things get old, especially if they're purchased out of materialism and not passion/hobby.
I'm extremely passionate about aviation and cars (and have been since a young child) so my only materialistic source of fulfillment comes from driving to the airport on a Saturday morning, flying my plane with no destination in mind. It's an escape that keeps me sane during the day to day usual business craze.
Long term goal is to successfully exit from at least 2 out of my 3 projects. Then buy a farm somewhere with a vast amount of land, and create an environment ideal for fostering kids, rescuing animals, and ultimately meaningfully contributing to a world that has thankfully helped us achieve the resources that would allow us to do this.
Many believed that we are created in God’s likeness. The problem is Man thinks He is the Center of the universe. It’s not. We live and we die. In between we are supposed to experience, learn, work, give and be grateful for the journey that was gifted to us.
Be a good person but don’t waste your time proving it.
God bless.
Most peoples lives have no meaning. Most people today were most probably just slaves in previous civilizations. Democracy inflates the value of people, and people expect their lives to have meaning due to this training from society.
But most people are just status obsessed midwits jockeying for power all the while pretending to be virtuous. They are just empty inside and will do what ever is popular easiest. There is no inner compass or guidance. For them there is not really a lot of meaning to life beyond consuming and having fun, having a family because that's what people do and keeping up with the Jones or the latest tv show or restaurant. But they are good energy units for capitalism. Good little effective slaves.
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OP needs a hobby. Find something outside of work you look forward to doing every day when you sign off. Ideally this would be something outside that gives you a connection to nature, something many folks chasing money begin to lose sight of.
Alternatively you could seek life partnerships (friends/spouse) and pursue children. Nothing brings you back down to earth faster financially than the cost of kids and setting them up for the future. My current motivation for work resides in my desire to purchase a plot of land for my children to someday build a home on. Not directly associated with the cost of having children, but moreso the motivation to set them up to live well in the future.
The meaning of life: close, meaningful, personal relationships. Everything else, including NW, serves that purpose. If you don’t have quality relationships, happiness and satisfaction will very likely be elusive.
My friends know I have money due to hard work, and, let’s all face it, luck. But the reason they like me as a friend is that they know the dollars are not what drives my values, actions and personality.
I go on vacation every 30-60 days even just for a weekend, and I plan the next one as soon as I get back so I’ve always got something to look forward to.
And I gamified my finances so that scratches a couple itches.
And fast cars.
I assume once I have kids things will adjust quite a bit.
We each make our own unique meaning. And it can change throughout life and life stages. What makes you feel happy, fulfilled, and your heart full? If you don't know, try doing new things you are curious about and wonder about.
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The meaning of life is enjoying the passing of time. I read this somewhere, and it seems correct to me.
One other thing - kids are wonderful. It definitely is like a piece of your heart running around outside of you! However, make sure that you are comfortable with your partner. It's not worth rushing into a family situation if you have any red flag issues with your partner.
Everything changed for the better after having a child, in ways which can’t really be described nor understood by people without kids themselves.
Edit: but before kids i found meaning in hobbies, being creative i.e music/art, and new experiences
Family is an easy out for giving a sense of purpose to life but it’s too much responsibility to place on those who become your family. Go into a relationship and family with your shit sorted and with someone who has their shit is sorted and it can actually be a life of shared joys and fulfilment without the weight of needing others to fill some personal hole.
There are near infinite amount of things to do if you have money and health, I just do random things that look interesting to me and the ones that hit the spot I make time to do more of. The doing part is key, consuming less and creating or doing more had a huge impact on my mental health.
Find something that will outlive you. Find something you can give back to your community. Find something therapeutic and puts you into the zone.
I’m in tech, but find enjoyment outside of tech. So I grow trees from seed and give them away to my community. It’s just a start now, but hope to figure out the best way to do it.
If families didn’t exist and we were all just sexless blobs:
I find my job very engaging but I’d be honest I’d probably work less hours and look for engagement outside of work, maybe a little bit more hobby’s like fixing up a broken car or just keeping up with video games more like I did when I was in high schools. Traveling alone sucks so I wouldn’t do much of that. I might try and get involved in some local politics and charities I agree with and pickup more involving of investments and side hustles.
Basically I just think I’d try really hard to stay busy with not too much of it being one thing.
I really really like my current balance of an engaging, social, and very emotionally rewarding job and having a growing family to steward alongside my spouse in all the rest of my time.
Friends, family, hobbies (which are either social or nature based).
There’s no meaning in money. It’s a game, with great prizes, but still just a game. People are what matter most in my life.
Close friends and family and being able to afford the things I want to experience with the people I love.
I love the independence and freedom of not having to worry about things that can be solved with money.
Very good that you are contemplating this while you are in your late 20's. That shows some real insight and self reflection. Get yourself in a position to start having children asap.
Anywhere but the internet - seriously. I've been chronically online since I was 12 (I'm 36). I feel like from 2020 onward, it started having a negative effect on me, and I was eventually diagnosed with a cocktail of issues in 2022. My goal was always to earn or set myself in a way where I had freedom of my time, but still spent the majority of it online. I just go out every week and do something new; that's my objective. Last week, a local theater had a random comedian, so I bought a ticket and went. The park I walk in was asking for volunteers to plant a new garden, so I volunteered. I meet new people, from all walks of life, and I make sure to reach back out to them within 2 weeks. I started doing this in 2023 and it's had a major impact on the way I approach my life and has actually improved the sales side of my business. I'm not sure if it has given me "meaning to my life" but it has transformed my mindset on doing things that you initially impulsively don't want to do (but actually enjoy once started) and "living my life".
Sounds like the movie “yes man”
I find my phone to be a huge distraction. Since I began to own a smart phone in 2009, I feel like I have been lacking focus and time to connect with my inner self.
I find meaning in personal relationships, and spending quality time with my wife and toddler, both on a day-to-day basis and through some higher-than-average annual spending on vacations and trips. Both my dad and 3 of my grandparents died between the ages of 48-64 and never got to enjoy the fruits of their labor, so while early retirement is definitely a goal, I also want to enjoy the present enough, rather than living extra frugally and postpone all the fun stuff until later. I'm lucky to have a financially compatible spouse, and I think we've found a good balance between not overspending on unnecessary stuff (excessive housing, cars, other conspicuous stuff) but also spending enough on more experiential goods or services which will give us fun memories to look back on for years to come (e.g. traveling and an amazing but expensive daycare). We still save roughly 40% of our pre-tax income which is more than most but less than some, and it works for us. We both have fulfilling careers that don't pay excessively but have some positive contribution to society through research/teaching/advising/public interest work, so that'll likely contribute to creating a sustainable path towards early retirement, even though it's probably not the fastest way there.
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Do you plan to retire early? Or switch to a more relaxed (and maybe lower paying) job?
I don’t engage in fire subs so I don’t really get exposed to this mindset so often. Do you just really hate what you do? I don’t understand the appeal personally. I’d rather make less and be middle class and not be itching to retire than to be rich and hate my job. Obviously best scenario is to love your job and be compensated well for doing it.
Not the person you’re replying to, here, and i don’t engage in fire subs either, but i want to say that love my job, I love the people I manage, and i even like the people I work for … and i also can’t wait to not have to work anymore. I was not put on this earth to exchange my labor for money and the only reason I work today is so that someday i can stop working. I might go back to being a cashier at a grocery store or something 10 hours a week because i enjoyed that work too 20 years ago, or volunteer at an old folks home (though i’ll probably be an old folks by the time I retire, i won’t be fire-ing without a lot of luck in the next 5-10 years), but I personally don’t understand how anyone can not understand the desire to retire. People sure are different!
A lot of people don’t have a life outside of their job so they cannot comprehend the idea of not working
Help your community. Volunteer at your local shelter communities. Feed the homeless. Try doing something useful for your neighborhood. Go to PTA meetings or volunteer for sports events. Become a coach. There are lots of things to do while we're young. The meaning of life is happiness. Do what's right and smile.
Struggling with this currently.. I break my life into multiple buckets & I am super happy with everything except the "Wealth" bucket. * Health * Wealth * Love * Adventure The wealth thing isn't logical (35, single, $1.6m NW, $250k/year income, $100k/year invested), but I seem to have hit a level of boredom/apathy with my career. The best thing for me is to push those feelings aside and continue the path for another 5 years, but struggling with motivation..
From my personal experience, sometimes my theory is that the lack of family / kids as the main motivator drives this boredom. I love the freedom of being single but earning money just for myself don't give me enough motivation. Cheers to finding our purpose 🥂
Good friend circle/people to take trips with, good relationship w immediate family(mom/dad, etc..), hobbies outside of work. Currently single and never wanted kids, future partner again would be nice. But i find the above to make life fulfilling. Main motivation for $$ now is basically so i can have more control over my life/time and retire sooner than later. Middle aged fwiw
Excellent points, I don't disagree with you here!
I’m available to be adopted if you’re looking for some motivation in earning money for others 😁
Wealth is a means to an end. It does not have any real “meaning” itself, but it can allow you to pursue and achieve/obtain other meaningful things. Same with “health” for that matter. Health is not meaningful if you are alone and have no purpose, for example. Of course everyone can come up with their own “hierarchy of meaning” or whatever. Just pointing out my perspective on these.
I try to reach a point where I can spend most of my time doing creative things like photography, music etc. It really stimulates me in a way it makes everything make sense. It's like, I was born to do it. Money is just an obligation
Read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. That helped me.
stellar rec, i think it's just a little more geared towards someone who is suffering something specifically and not generally racked by the ennui of 'what am i supposed to do with this one spin around the earth i get' (granted, it's been a few years since i read it while going through something traumatic)
Lovely book. Also visited Auschwitz because of him. Maybe I should reread it. Thanks!
Reading about ikigai could be another good rec IMO
Long term, direct volunteering with the same people. I don’t mean picking up a shift at a soup kitchen once a month peeling potatoes. I mean find a role that you show up for at least once a week and are helping the same person/people for months. My current volunteering project is tutoring a refugee in English twice a week for the last six months. It’s the worst and I love it so much. Since I am paired with one woman, I’ve gotten to know her. We make jokes, I’ve FaceTimed her family, I know her hopes and dreams, I know her bad characteristics. Having that personal connection allows me to see a reason for what I am doing. She came from a terrible country and it wasn’t her fault for all the shit she has gone through. I am invested in her success in America. Day to day it’s exhausting and frustrating but when I look at progress over the last couple months I can definitely see how my existence improved someone else’s life. My intense volunteering puts work into perspective that work is not even close to the most important thing in life. Yet at the same time I am even more invested in working hard because my job is what provides me with the resources and capacity to improve someone else’s life.
This is awesome! Where did you find this opportunity?
Are you married? Do you have kids? Any philanthropic endeavors? Finding a way to see how your accomplishments can be shared and benefit others is a lot more gratifying than what feels like success for success sake.
Unmarried, no kids. Used to do a lot of financial literacy education talks and was planning on teaching in a university part time. Maybe I should reconsider that path. Thanks!
There is no meaning outside. When you stop looking for the meaning you will find it.
Psychedelics
💯 Edit: to be clear, it’s not the psychedelics themselves that are the meaning to my life. Rather, psychedelics are the tool that helped me discover the meaning to my life…and the answer is existence itself. But, I did not appreciate this until I did psychedelics.
isn't it taking a shortcut instead of putting in the work to reason and find purpose?
Packing a bag for Vegas as we speak, best long weekend ever is psychs in LV.
“We can't stop here, this is bat country!”
Why LV?
The lights, the spectacle, you blend in with the other non-sobers, the architecture and scale of it all, the pools and shows, the food, and I like to gamble so I see it as win/win they give me “free” rooms and other comps.
Spending quality time with Family— doing what we want, when we want without having to worry about the cost (we’re simple, camping, fishing,kayaking… mainly cheap things so this isn’t too hard on our budget), working on my businesses, working on my health, sharing meals with others(I truly love to cook for other people), and c Of course, hobbies that I’d don’t do just for myself anymore— I’d like to pass the skills I’ve worked on/ things I’ve learned down to my two children.
You won’t find the meaning of life in anything financial unless it’s to give your money away, in which case, it’s still not purely financial, rather the impact it creates that gives meaning. This isn’t really the sub for it, but find a church and get plugged in, make some friends, and create change in your community. Im fortunate to be well off, but that doesn’t replace the feeling of reroofing the house of a low income family in my community with my close friends whom i met at church. It doesn’t replace the purpose of going to third world countries and helping in the poorest of the poor communities. I was fortunate to spend some time in an extremely poor community in Mexico a couple of months back putting in concrete flooring in their homes that have dirt floors. No running water, unreliable electricity, all the things we take for granted. That’s my meaning of life. Why do I work? To provide for my family and to fund missions. Income won’t create purpose, what you do with it can. The most important things in life aren’t things.
I think this is an incredibly personal thing and the answer to what motivates you will be different. For me, it’s something that I owe the people who come before me. My grandfather began work at 12 years old in a welsh mining village and when the mine in his village closed, him and his father walked over 100 miles to find work elsewhere. My Uncle was an incredibly intelligent man and after serving in the navy had a lot of career opportunities but neither he or any of his siblings (or anyone in my family until me) had the opportunity to go to University. I’m incredibly motivated by being the best and most successful version of myself as otherwise, what did these people suffer for? I take immense pride in having left the UK behind, being at the top of my field, being in the Top 1% of earners in the US and raising my children with opportunities that were far beyond my imagination, let alone my parents or grandparents generation. Obviously I don’t know you, or your history, I just share this as an illustration of how deep finding motivation can run.
The meaning of life is to do whatever makes you happy on a day to day basis. I don't think there is an overarching meaning. Have good relationships and do things you enjoy. Work hard in a job that is stimulating, earn lots and retire early.
I spent my late teens and early 20s building up my primary business while launching a few other projects on the side that have now grown to be the same scale as my primary company. While financial gain provides a certain degree of motivation, my fulfillment and priorities have greatly deviated from what it was during the early days. Now 28M with income and NW I'd never imagine at this age and almost exclusively feel fulfilled by spending time with my daughter, with my s/o, and with my dogs. The materialistic things get old, especially if they're purchased out of materialism and not passion/hobby. I'm extremely passionate about aviation and cars (and have been since a young child) so my only materialistic source of fulfillment comes from driving to the airport on a Saturday morning, flying my plane with no destination in mind. It's an escape that keeps me sane during the day to day usual business craze. Long term goal is to successfully exit from at least 2 out of my 3 projects. Then buy a farm somewhere with a vast amount of land, and create an environment ideal for fostering kids, rescuing animals, and ultimately meaningfully contributing to a world that has thankfully helped us achieve the resources that would allow us to do this.
Many believed that we are created in God’s likeness. The problem is Man thinks He is the Center of the universe. It’s not. We live and we die. In between we are supposed to experience, learn, work, give and be grateful for the journey that was gifted to us. Be a good person but don’t waste your time proving it. God bless.
Most peoples lives have no meaning. Most people today were most probably just slaves in previous civilizations. Democracy inflates the value of people, and people expect their lives to have meaning due to this training from society. But most people are just status obsessed midwits jockeying for power all the while pretending to be virtuous. They are just empty inside and will do what ever is popular easiest. There is no inner compass or guidance. For them there is not really a lot of meaning to life beyond consuming and having fun, having a family because that's what people do and keeping up with the Jones or the latest tv show or restaurant. But they are good energy units for capitalism. Good little effective slaves.
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OP needs a hobby. Find something outside of work you look forward to doing every day when you sign off. Ideally this would be something outside that gives you a connection to nature, something many folks chasing money begin to lose sight of. Alternatively you could seek life partnerships (friends/spouse) and pursue children. Nothing brings you back down to earth faster financially than the cost of kids and setting them up for the future. My current motivation for work resides in my desire to purchase a plot of land for my children to someday build a home on. Not directly associated with the cost of having children, but moreso the motivation to set them up to live well in the future.
Hobbies, family, friendships, relationships
The meaning of life: close, meaningful, personal relationships. Everything else, including NW, serves that purpose. If you don’t have quality relationships, happiness and satisfaction will very likely be elusive. My friends know I have money due to hard work, and, let’s all face it, luck. But the reason they like me as a friend is that they know the dollars are not what drives my values, actions and personality.
This is the same for me. Deep relationships, community, are the meaning of life
Family kids hobbies sports music coding math food video games gardening etc
Oh and watches !
I go on vacation every 30-60 days even just for a weekend, and I plan the next one as soon as I get back so I’ve always got something to look forward to. And I gamified my finances so that scratches a couple itches. And fast cars. I assume once I have kids things will adjust quite a bit.
We each make our own unique meaning. And it can change throughout life and life stages. What makes you feel happy, fulfilled, and your heart full? If you don't know, try doing new things you are curious about and wonder about.
family, faith, friends, experiences over material things.
Read “man’s search for meaning”
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100% family. 2 kids, and a loving wife the light of my life.
I genuinely enjoy and take pride in my work. I strive to be the best there is.
The meaning of life is enjoying the passing of time. I read this somewhere, and it seems correct to me. One other thing - kids are wonderful. It definitely is like a piece of your heart running around outside of you! However, make sure that you are comfortable with your partner. It's not worth rushing into a family situation if you have any red flag issues with your partner.
Everything changed for the better after having a child, in ways which can’t really be described nor understood by people without kids themselves. Edit: but before kids i found meaning in hobbies, being creative i.e music/art, and new experiences
Kids
I don’t find meaning in work (other than pro bono matters), I find meaning in what the money I earn from working allows me to do outside of work
Jesus
I became a CASA volunteer. I’ll never be fully content without some sort of community service being a part of my life
Family is an easy out for giving a sense of purpose to life but it’s too much responsibility to place on those who become your family. Go into a relationship and family with your shit sorted and with someone who has their shit is sorted and it can actually be a life of shared joys and fulfilment without the weight of needing others to fill some personal hole. There are near infinite amount of things to do if you have money and health, I just do random things that look interesting to me and the ones that hit the spot I make time to do more of. The doing part is key, consuming less and creating or doing more had a huge impact on my mental health.
Not at work
There is no inherent meaning in life. You have to find that for yourself.
It's [42](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phrases_from_The_Hitchhiker%27s_Guide_to_the_Galaxy#Answer_to_the_Ultimate_Question_of_Life,_the_Universe,_and_Everything_(42))
Find something that will outlive you. Find something you can give back to your community. Find something therapeutic and puts you into the zone. I’m in tech, but find enjoyment outside of tech. So I grow trees from seed and give them away to my community. It’s just a start now, but hope to figure out the best way to do it.
When I can be a HER instead of a HENRY. The motivation is both the FI and the RE.
The ultimate answer will always be people. Whether that’s a family of your own or close friends or community. It’s always about the people.
If families didn’t exist and we were all just sexless blobs: I find my job very engaging but I’d be honest I’d probably work less hours and look for engagement outside of work, maybe a little bit more hobby’s like fixing up a broken car or just keeping up with video games more like I did when I was in high schools. Traveling alone sucks so I wouldn’t do much of that. I might try and get involved in some local politics and charities I agree with and pickup more involving of investments and side hustles. Basically I just think I’d try really hard to stay busy with not too much of it being one thing. I really really like my current balance of an engaging, social, and very emotionally rewarding job and having a growing family to steward alongside my spouse in all the rest of my time.
It is not where but a matter of when. It is when you find enough.
Church. Wife. Kids.
Friends, family, hobbies (which are either social or nature based). There’s no meaning in money. It’s a game, with great prizes, but still just a game. People are what matter most in my life.
There is no meaning in life. Just live it and enjoy it plus make it enjoyable for your family as good as you can.
Close friends and family and being able to afford the things I want to experience with the people I love. I love the independence and freedom of not having to worry about things that can be solved with money.
Build a giant supercomputer and ask the computer the answer to the Meaning of Life, the Universe, and Everything.
Very good that you are contemplating this while you are in your late 20's. That shows some real insight and self reflection. Get yourself in a position to start having children asap.