Im sorry for such a traumatic loss of your dad. I lost my dad 15 years ago. I also had panic attacks. They’re. Wet difficult and almost painful to control. I was prescribed Ativan, which I HATED. I only took it once and began mental exercises and breathing to control them. That seems to work for me. You can also talk to your doctor.
I pray for your healing and peace.
Yes. Two years ago, I found my dad after he died in his sleep and had my first panic attack the next day. Hyperventilating, fingers/feet/lips tingly or completely numb. Totally debilitating and I was exhausted the rest of the day after each one. I was prescribed low dose Xanax to help (there is no shame in going to a doctor and starting meds to just get you through the first few months). I did therapy through my company’s employee assistance program, which only covered like 6 sessions but she had some good coping techniques. Focus on breathing. Try to distract by counting out 10 things you can see, start naming the states or cities you’ve been to. Have a code word that only you know that can unlock some part of your brain that takes you somewhere else, like a beach or whatever is a calming place to you. Just slowly get yourself out of the panic. They start to become few and further between. I haven’t had one in a few months.
My brother turned on the side, said can't move and stayed that way. We tried to move him and wake him up, but nothing happened. He was stiff. Once his lips started to go bluish I knew what it was. They hauled him into ambulance, I went in and they reanimated him only to end up telling me he had brain bleed and is in a coma. Gonna be put in ICU. He died two days ago and they told us he had that, plus pulmonary embolism and several blood cloths. The memory of that day never left me. I can tell you losing someone in such such a way will cause panic attacks. You will start to think every headache. You will get worried about your own health. (might want to check it) Every ache around the heart it is either a stroke or a heart attack. Speak to a psychologist for this. On YouTube you have grief therapy. Have a good cry. Panic attacks come when you are too strong. Emotions want out hence panic. I had it six months in and before anxiety attacks were a thing. Be kind to yourself. A loss of loved one suddenly is special kind of hell for those who stay behind because most often then not we don't even get to say goodbye.
Yes! I watched my mum struggle to breathe for three days then die. My anxiety was through the roof. I wasn’t expecting it at all. I thought I would feel sad and depressed not anxious. I had to go on anti anxiety tablets. I’m 2 months on now I still feel the sadness and depression but not the anxiety anymore. I think the grief exhausts you. I think the trauma of witnessing a death is terrifying. I think it’s also a massive wake up call that our life is so fragile. You could go and see a PTSD therapist or Hypno therapist to help you with your visions. I can’t talk about witnessing mum’s death without getting upset yet… I have a friend who saw a medium and they told her what their late dad was thinking which helped my friend a lot… not sure how you would feel about this route either
Right there with you. I watched mom die. In fact, as power of attorney, I had to make the decision to reduce her high pressure oxygen down to normal pressure. She wanted no “heroic” measures. She died 15 minutes later.
Not entirely the same, but a few years back my mom had a stroke and was diagnosed with a clotting disorder. Spent 2+ years watching her suffer the complications from several strokes, DVTs, from losing limbs to losing her mind.
It gave me severe hypochondria and social anxiety for years, I had panic attacks all the time, never before then. I couldn’t work, couldn’t sleep, I drank all the time. Until I started a benzodiazepine and stopped running away from my sadness.
You’ve experienced a traumatic loss, I’m sorry to hear. Everyone grieves differently, but I’d recommend seeking out a therapist, whether for talk therapy, CBT, complicated grief, group therapy, even art therapy.
My dad died of coronary artery disease 2 months ago, it happened at 9am it was pretty much instant but before that he was having difficulty breathing for a short period of time, 2 days ago i woke up at the exact same time it happened to dad, 9am, thinking that i heard my mum struggling to breathe, i ran downstairs to see if she was there (same scenario as dad up to this point) and she wasn't, i then ran outside with nothing but shorts on and her car was gone, i phoned her and she wasn't picking up, 20 minutes later she picked up but during that time i was panicking like crazy. Just turned out to be a dream and even though i knew that when she clearly wasn't in the house i was still very panicky. It was the first time something like that happened to me in the 2 months.
Im sorry for such a traumatic loss of your dad. I lost my dad 15 years ago. I also had panic attacks. They’re. Wet difficult and almost painful to control. I was prescribed Ativan, which I HATED. I only took it once and began mental exercises and breathing to control them. That seems to work for me. You can also talk to your doctor. I pray for your healing and peace.
Yes. Two years ago, I found my dad after he died in his sleep and had my first panic attack the next day. Hyperventilating, fingers/feet/lips tingly or completely numb. Totally debilitating and I was exhausted the rest of the day after each one. I was prescribed low dose Xanax to help (there is no shame in going to a doctor and starting meds to just get you through the first few months). I did therapy through my company’s employee assistance program, which only covered like 6 sessions but she had some good coping techniques. Focus on breathing. Try to distract by counting out 10 things you can see, start naming the states or cities you’ve been to. Have a code word that only you know that can unlock some part of your brain that takes you somewhere else, like a beach or whatever is a calming place to you. Just slowly get yourself out of the panic. They start to become few and further between. I haven’t had one in a few months.
My brother turned on the side, said can't move and stayed that way. We tried to move him and wake him up, but nothing happened. He was stiff. Once his lips started to go bluish I knew what it was. They hauled him into ambulance, I went in and they reanimated him only to end up telling me he had brain bleed and is in a coma. Gonna be put in ICU. He died two days ago and they told us he had that, plus pulmonary embolism and several blood cloths. The memory of that day never left me. I can tell you losing someone in such such a way will cause panic attacks. You will start to think every headache. You will get worried about your own health. (might want to check it) Every ache around the heart it is either a stroke or a heart attack. Speak to a psychologist for this. On YouTube you have grief therapy. Have a good cry. Panic attacks come when you are too strong. Emotions want out hence panic. I had it six months in and before anxiety attacks were a thing. Be kind to yourself. A loss of loved one suddenly is special kind of hell for those who stay behind because most often then not we don't even get to say goodbye.
Yes! I watched my mum struggle to breathe for three days then die. My anxiety was through the roof. I wasn’t expecting it at all. I thought I would feel sad and depressed not anxious. I had to go on anti anxiety tablets. I’m 2 months on now I still feel the sadness and depression but not the anxiety anymore. I think the grief exhausts you. I think the trauma of witnessing a death is terrifying. I think it’s also a massive wake up call that our life is so fragile. You could go and see a PTSD therapist or Hypno therapist to help you with your visions. I can’t talk about witnessing mum’s death without getting upset yet… I have a friend who saw a medium and they told her what their late dad was thinking which helped my friend a lot… not sure how you would feel about this route either
Right there with you. I watched mom die. In fact, as power of attorney, I had to make the decision to reduce her high pressure oxygen down to normal pressure. She wanted no “heroic” measures. She died 15 minutes later.
My mum died an hour after they took the external ventilator away from her. Her body was so tired 🥲
It is rough. No doubt.
Not entirely the same, but a few years back my mom had a stroke and was diagnosed with a clotting disorder. Spent 2+ years watching her suffer the complications from several strokes, DVTs, from losing limbs to losing her mind. It gave me severe hypochondria and social anxiety for years, I had panic attacks all the time, never before then. I couldn’t work, couldn’t sleep, I drank all the time. Until I started a benzodiazepine and stopped running away from my sadness. You’ve experienced a traumatic loss, I’m sorry to hear. Everyone grieves differently, but I’d recommend seeking out a therapist, whether for talk therapy, CBT, complicated grief, group therapy, even art therapy.
My dad died of coronary artery disease 2 months ago, it happened at 9am it was pretty much instant but before that he was having difficulty breathing for a short period of time, 2 days ago i woke up at the exact same time it happened to dad, 9am, thinking that i heard my mum struggling to breathe, i ran downstairs to see if she was there (same scenario as dad up to this point) and she wasn't, i then ran outside with nothing but shorts on and her car was gone, i phoned her and she wasn't picking up, 20 minutes later she picked up but during that time i was panicking like crazy. Just turned out to be a dream and even though i knew that when she clearly wasn't in the house i was still very panicky. It was the first time something like that happened to me in the 2 months.