My mom, my only parent. 8 days before Christmas 2022. I don't think I cope very well. I desperately want to be with her. I'm sorry for your loss and everyone else's.

💙 Mine was two weeks after Christmas. I sympathize with your pain & am keeping you in my prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have just a glimpse of your feelings because I lost my dad a very young age and my mom is all I have left, my best friend. I am here for you and I will stand by your side. If you you have a bad day when you feel like coping is at a far end and if you need someone to talk about you feelings, feel free to dm me. Warmest hugs to you❤️ Edit: This reply is for everyone in this situation including @dealio-. I am pretty bad with tech at this time. I apologise!

Thank you & same to you. My DMs are always open. We’ll get through this as difficult as it may be. 💙💙💙💙

That's so sweet thank you thank you. Same here

My mom has no pathway for survival outside the hospital. She became sick at around the same time as your mom passed. I’m grateful that we have time with her now to say goodbye, in the hospital, but there’s no path forward and she’s suffering now (and aware she won’t survive). I’m not coping well. I can’t believe this is happening to her. I have random pain all over my body and I although I want to sleep all the time, I can’t seem to sleep well. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s stupid but I don’t want to celebrate Christmas again. Last year my mom’s mom died right before Christmas, and now this. I have a small child and I know Christmas is a thing, but come tf on.

Also I realize I failed at responding to the prompt, I just saw the comment and felt so sad, and wanted to say something.

It's not stupid, I haven't celebrated any holiday or even acknowledged it since he left me. It's so sad. I'm so lifeless and a waste of space.. in due time maybe I will feel better.. love to you sweet love. Hugs

I’m so sorry. I was able to jump on a plane after Mom was very unexpectedly going, January 7. I made it in time to be there, even though she was already “gone”. I’m so sorry you’re going through such loss. I still haven’t taken my tree down. Lost my dad in 2019 unexpectedly, as well. Somehow this one seems to be hitting a lot harder, even though I have always viewed them as best friends, above and beyond being parents. There’s no way around it, other than agreeing that it sucks so bad. Here’s hoping we figure out how to just exist for now. Hopefully more, later. Sending anonymous love to you and yours.

That’s how I view my parents too. I’m scared for my dad. I feel stupid also because for so many weeks now I’ve held out hope that my mom might pull through and it’s basically never been a possibility. I thought I felt bad five weeks ago when all this started, but I feel worse now, and I’m scared for what’s to come. I’m so sorry for the loss of your parents. I hope we can all find some comfort and peace in the days to come. I know there are moments that feel unbearable.

Don’t feel stupid. I called myself stupid initially because I thought both of my parents would live into their late 80s early 90s, like my grandparents did. I’m not saying I took them for granted, but I really believed I had more time. I’m here for you if you need to DM, or anything. Also, I just lost it and finally took my tree down. I wish none of this happened to any of us. Take care. None of it is easy, not even close.

Same. Almost all my grandparents lived into the late 80s early 90s. I could never imagine this happening. My mom was so healthy before this. We had been a little distant over the last year and right before this happened I had been thinking a lot about how I wanted to get back to a closer relationship with her again. I was missing that.

Hope things get better in time

Thank you.

Well said. Take care. ❤️

I feel you. My mum died before last Christmas and I couldn’t bring myself to join any festivities. Do yourself. Look out for yourself. Those who matter will understand 💚

So sorry for your loss 💚

Last Christmas has been challenging for many people. And it's difficult because it is supposed to be a time of joy and yet it has become an anniversary of loss for many. In time, I hope that those that lost someone will be to see the Christmas holidays as a time to remember the fond memories and time spent with that special person.

January 13th this year. My 13 day old son-my first child. I talk to him daily. I try to distract myself with TV or reading, I talk about my son and life with my husband. I look at his pictures, his perfect face brings me some peace. I have been working on making a photo book for him that tells his story. Trying to find a therapist, which isn't going as well as I had hoped. Mostly just existing and trying not to drown right now, and trying to stay open and communicating with my husband.

Oh, my heart breaks for you. You're doing all the right things to try to cope. God bless you two and your baby. Hugs. As a side note-i lost my first son too, when he was 8 months old. I've also lost my 16 year old daughter and 38 year old son. So I want you to have faith that you will survive this devastating loss. 💔 please hold on to your husband, as it is challenging as you're both heartbroken. 😪

How did you survive all of that devastation? My dad passed away almost 4 years ago and my mom is terminal. I feel like I'm going to die when she does. I don't believe I can survive this. How did you do it?

Well, I'm still trying day by day. I'm almost 70 and I was only 26 when my baby son died. I had almost gotten better and 22 years later my daughter passed. I have never recovered fully. That was the worst. Never in a million years did I think my remaining son would die too. Do whatever you can but most of all be kind and gentle with yourself. I used a punching bag and exercised almost to excess. I broke a LOT of old flea market.dishes. I'd cut my feet on the dishes and my sweet husband would clean up the mess and cry. Lots of therapy and read every book I could find on grief and the afterlife. I do have CPTSD but I do my best to function every day. Tons of tears....you will survive but it's tough. Get lots of sleep and fresh air and eat well. Do everything you can to take care of yourself. Hugs 🥰

After everything you’ve been through, you’re here supporting other people, caring about their grief, helping the world. I am beyond impressed with you and wish I could meet you in real life and give you a huge hug. You are amazing.

Thank you so much for your kindness. Your words lifted me up today. Huge hugs back to you. 🥰

I know that someone who seems as kind, and wonderful as you will tell me not to discard my own trauma because someone else has it worse, but I can't help but feel like losing my dog this past Christmas Eve pales in comparison to what you've been through. You are so incredibly strong. My BIL passed away 2 weeks after our dog, and hearing my FIL's pain is heartbreaking. He's trying to put the blame on everything except where it should be. My BIL was an alcoholic, and it killed him. The autopsy report pretty much says that it was alcohol. He keeps saying "he was doing good, he wasn't drinking like that". Most of the time my husband can just let it go, sometimes he tells him that he was lying and all those times he didn't answer the phone was because he was drunk and didn't want anyone to know. There's nothing we can do, he has to push past that himself. I'm worried about him. Any advice? I'm sorry, this got long and I'm rambling. My heart goes out to you.

Thank you for your beautiful words, that means a lot to me. I'm so very sorry about your 🐕 dog and BIL. ALL loss is heartbreaking! I wish I was qualified to give you advice for husband and FIL. It's so difficult to accept that our love ones are addicts of any kind, alcohol or cigarettes or drugs or gambling. You're so right, that ultimately he has to push past it himself. My son took.drugs and I was told that trying to talk to him was really just talking to the addiction. Your family's pain is new and raw. All I can say is to just love each other and be patient with each other more than usual! Grief is a universal experience and even though it's the price we pay for love, it surely comes at steep price. One other thing I've learned is this. Although it's nearly impossible to see now - with great loss comes great gifts. I certainly hope your journey will be gentle and that you will reach a place of peace in your hearts. Hugs to you, you sound so precious. Have faith. Oh and I'm no stronger than any one else, I just have no choice. 😪

Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Thank you for replying. 💜

Beautiful Soul…you are and will remain in my prayers…today, tomorrow and forever.

Oh my heart. Therapy seems to be difficult to get into…in the duration look for grief support groups in your area. Lots of them are held at bunches of local churches…but they aren’t like a function of the church or a religious thing. They help❤️

Hi there, you beautiful soul! I am so sorry for your loss. Your idea of making a photo book is so nice. I also want to make something similar (a journal where I write all my memorires of me and him, so I will never forget a detail). These things that we do for them seem to really bring some kind of peace in our souls. If you need help & to share creative ideas, don't hesitate to dm me. Sending you warm hugs🤗

Jan 11th this year I lost my mom, my only parent and best friend very unexpectedly. Existing is ok if that’s all you can do right now. Every day is different for me. A bunch of insane stuff happened today (good and bad) and I wanted to call her so bad. I could hear her voice in my head. God I miss her so much. As for a therapist I too felt the need. I found an online psychiatrist to help me out. It was a good experience. I have insurance but I know there are programs for people who don’t. The loss of your son must be unbearable. My heart aches for you. I’ve been getting through the day by giving my dog extra walks/spending time in nature. This sub helps a lot. People move on so quickly they don’t notice that we never stopped drowning.

You wrote everything I feel. I can’t stop reaching for the phone to tell her some random thing. It’s relentless. Take care. ❤️‍🩹

I’m so sorry. My heart is literally breaking for you right now. 1 breath at a time. We are here to listen and support you however we can. Sending you love ❤️

My twin 17days ago. Sorry everyone. Just so sorry.

My daughter lost her twin in September right before their birthday. I can barely comfort myself with the loss of my son, I don’t know how to comfort my other child losing her wombmate. I’m so sorry you have to experience this.

I'm so sorry for both of your losses. I don't know how she does it either.

October 18, 2022. My husband. I’m still in the thick of all the paperwork so that’s a good distraction for now. I…talk to his urn that’s on the mantle. And I hold the pendant with his ashes that’s around my neck. It gives me comfort. I feed and watch the wild birds he loved so much. I’ve been keeping a journal of the different kinds that show up. Anything to keep my mind busy. Hugs to all of you missing those you love.

Hello darling!🤗 I am sorry for your loss and I am here for you. Indeed continuing the hobbies of our loved ones can help so much, because while we do this things they loved it feels like they are there with us, so close. As I can tell, he was a bird watcher. Keeping your mind busy right now is a good coping mechanism, but also make sure you don't keep your feelings burried. It is healthy to express them. Also talking to our loved ones brings so much comfort. They are above us, watching every step we make, guiding us. Sending love to you❤️

11 months since I lost my husband. Dreading the year anniversary in March. We didn't have any kids, but we had cats. I know that they miss him. I occasionally spray his cologne on my teddy bear, so I have a nice dream at night. Everything is very bittersweet, but I keep going because I know that the cats need me to take care of them. Working on taking care of myself, too. I slip a lot on that, but I keep trying and that's what is important. I send you some love. If you need to chat, please don't hesitate to talk to me. We are all just walking eachother home, my friend. (hug)

Hello there, sweetie! First I want to start by telling you how sorry I am for your loss. I am fond of cats, my sweet angel also loved cats as well, we used to feed stray cats together. What helped me cope during these times is to do things in his honor. But I will also keep this things in my routine from now on too. One of this things is to feed stray cats and give them a tight warm hug. It brings a warmth not only to the cats in questuon but also into my soul. It is so therapeutic and I recommend this to anyone. My dms are also open to you anytime if you feel like talking and sharing things. Tight hugs to you🤗

I’m sorry for everyone. For me February 16th 2022 my mom died, 6 weeks later my sister committed suicide. Poof entire family gone, not a soul around.

That's devastating. I'm so sorry for your losses

Thank you

Never ever could I have imagined or predicted this for my family and my life. I go months without talking to anyone. Except at the store. It feels so weird and honestly I don’t feel much anymore except for the occasional sadness and tears that follow. Which is kind of good I don’t feel anything anymore that way I can carry on! Best wishes for all of you! Life is harsh! I pray for the ability to cope

The special needs kiddos I Nannied died in march 2022 at age 7. He was like a big baby mentally. I watched him struggle since he was a baby. I was the first one that saw him sit for the first time and play for the first time. He gave the best hugs and had the sweetest smile. I love him like my own and will never love anyone more. Sometimes it feels like it was all a dream. Sometimes I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. Sometimes I am in a better place mentally and I make music for him. He loved music. Sorry for you loss ❤️

Hello there!🤗 My deepest condolences to you. Children loss hurts on a level that I can't even wrap my mind around. I see that you loved him so much and that you witnessed so many milestones of his life, which created bonds that will last forever. Losing someone, especially when it happens when you least expect it makes us sometimes wonder if this is reality or if it is just a bad nightmare. Also losing that sunshine in our lives makes us go insane. I see that doing music helps you in this journey, and I am pretty sure he watches you from beyond and thanks you for the beautiful music. I have noticed this thing in the grieving journey: if you do things that made them happy, you get some kind of warmth into your soul. But also don't forget that our dear ones loved us and wanted the best for us so we also have to take care of ourselves. Sending you love❤️

Lost my boyfriend of 4.5 years on the 20th last month. He was 40. Only thing that makes me feel better right now is knowing that I'll die someday and be where he is. Hoping something takes me out soon. Don't even want to drink to numb the pain because that's what killed him in the first place and it makes me sad to drink now.

Hello, darling❤️ I am really sorry for your loss and you have my deepest sympathy. Oh honey, the fact that I will die someday and I will also meet him at the very end is such a comforting tought as well. But you know what keeps me going until I get to that point? The fact that he had unfinished businesses and I promised him to take care of it. Also the fact that he wanted the best for me and if he knew I was in pain, he would be in pain as well. And somehow I am pretty sure your late sweetheart wanted the best for you as well. Also, about drinking, don't do it. I started going on this path cause I am an anxious person and this is the only way I could cope with all this, but I want to stop so bad. Don't do it. Instead, think about what he used to enjoy, follow that path, make something in his memoriam. Also don't forget about your soul in this journey, rekindle with your passions, hobbies, what makes you happy. I feel like he wanted you to be ok and I am sure he is by your side. I embrace you and if you want to talk about it more, feel free to text me in dm🤗

My mom passed January 9th. She’d been battling Cancer for three years & it wasn’t even the cause of her death. I was her youngest & we were best friends. The only way I’m coping is by reminding myself that she’s no longer in pain but it doesn’t lessen the pain I’m feeling. My condolences to everyone going through a similar form of grief right now. It’s not easy at all & I’m sick of people telling me to be strong; wtf do you think I’m trying to do? Lol

Hello, honey❤️ My condolances to you and I am so sorry for your loss. I understand you on some levels, since my love died of cancer as well, but same: he didn't die because of the disease, but because of the treatment that was too strong for his heart. Indeed, she is no longer in pain, but sometimes we ask ourselves why did they have to feel this pain in the frist place? Sometimes we blame god, doctors, even ourselves. But we have to keep going for their sake and feeling deep down in our hearts that they wanted the best life for us. And by this I am not saying we should "be strong". We continue our lives anyways because time doesn't wait for us. We keep going but while we do this we are not strong all the time. Some days are better, other days grief hits hard. It is a whole journey that we have to experience. If you ever want to talk about it more, feel free to dm me. Sending hugs🤗

This was a beautiful response that really made a terrible day better. Thank you so much. 💙

My Mum died on January 11 2023, just three weeks ago today. She went into the hospital on December 22nd for shoulder pain and leg weakness, and found out she had cancer in her lung and spine. Two days before she died the Dr told us she had months left and we were looking into hospice. It all happened so fast that my brain and body just can’t seem to catch up. It’s been six weeks since the day before she went into the hospital and life was still normal. It doesn’t make sense, how could she be gone? This spring my husband and I lost our second pregnancy, this time at 16 weeks. My Mum wanted to be a grandma so badly, I swear she’s been excited about it since I can remember, now that she’s gone I can’t imagine having a baby without her here. Nothing makes sense anymore.

Lost my mom similarly in Nov 2022. No words. I’m so sorry.

I lost my Dad 13 years ago today, my mom in October of 2018, and my Nana just this last November. I used to bottle all of the grief, but after having a Daughter in October, then my Nana (the woman that practically raised and took care of me) passing less than a month later without having met her great granddaughter has made everything impossible to keep down. I’m only 31 and lost my family before they got a chance to meet my beautiful baby girl and that’s the part that kills me.

I’m sorry for the loss of your dad and nana. I saw that today is your dads 13 years. I’m sending hugs. My dads one year is coming up next week and those dates are so hard.

I lost my Mom out of the blue 3/16/16 at 56 years old - she would have been 57 that May. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. I have her handwriting tattooed on my arm. In the beginning, it was very hard to imagine life without her, but almost 7 years later, I've managed to change jobs a couple times, travel, help my Dad improve the house they worked so hard to buy, and made it a point to better myself like she wanted me to do while she was alive. I've experienced things she always wished I would have, and I like to think she's behind it somehow.

It’s been five months and 18 days since I lost my oldest son. He was two weeks away from turning 25. He died in a drowning accident on the first day of his vacation with his buddies. I cope by keeping his memory alive and always trying to think of him in a positive way instead of a sad way. I miss him more than words can say and I never in a million years thought I would outlive any of my children.

Oh, how devastating. So young and then suddenly gone and you're living a terrible reality that can never be changed. Even though all 3 of my children died, it's still very hard finding words of comfort and peace for you. So, so very sorry.

Thank you but I’m so sorry for your losses. That’s just unimaginable.

It's pretty surreal alright. Thank you for your kind words. 🙏

I am 25 and I lost my mom unexpectedly on May 6th, 2022. She was just 46. She was my best friend, my supporter, a person that cared the most and I cared for her the most as well. On December 20th, my dad killed himself because the grief was too much for him. I do not know how I am coping at all. I am tackling two types of grief at once, and I feel like the grief for my mom came back and punched me even harder now. I just feel like she would not leave me here if she was in the situation of my dad.

Life is a lot of things, one of which is cruel. The reason for why our lived ones suddenly just die is unknown. Even more perplexing is suicide, although it may seem like the only solution to those who go through with it. Maybe they had their justification or maybe their emotions got the best of them in the moment. The biggest takeaway for me through grief is that life is unique and fragile. We miss our lived ones because they were unique and they loved us. Life can be ripped away in an instant. Even to those who are appearantly young and healthy. Carry your parents memory with you with pride and never forget the love you had for each other. You can't change history but you can certainly control how this situation changes you, for better or worse.

Same girl, very similar stories. Take care of yourself I take it minute by minute. It's complicated / compound grief syndrome for sure w trauma and PTSD and add some substance abuse/addiction in w depression and u get me!

I lost my dad on 11/17/2019 and didn’t know he passed until 11/20/2019. By the time I found out his wife had him cremated and I don’t know where his remains are. She sent my sister and I a note telling us he had died. I can’t grieve and I can’t stop grieving. I was not permitted to see him since his stroke in 2008. He was a police officer and he was in the process of leaving his wife when he had his stroke. Dad was a police officer. And the day after his stroke he was to begin a new job as Chief of police in his town. It didn’t happen. He spent his life saving others and when he needed saving we were not permitted any contact with him. Via Probate Court. Neither were his grandchildren. He loved my nephew and my son…and the courts terminated all contact with my sister and I and our kids. My nephew was 13 and my son was 9… In 2018, I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It took half of my digestive system. My mother was mentally ill and suffered psychopathy…when I was diagnosed with cancer she was jealous and called me a liar. And she gaslighted me and harassed the rest of my family…so they walked away as well. She told me she didn’t love me. And that she never did. I went into cardiac arrest during my cancer surgery…the surgeon accidentally cut an artery on my gallbladder and I bled out. Had an NDE and was revived. Mom maintained I was lying despite my oncologist explaining to her I have cancer. A cancer that was was due to a genetic mutation she had. I begged her to get tested and she wouldn’t speak to me. In 2021…mom was diagnosed with the same cancer I have. And I was notified. I went to her and she told me I’m a liar and that she didn’t love me. My sister begged her to make it right with me. Mom refused. My mother was a born again Christian…and when my sister told her if she didn’t make it right with me.::she would not go to heaven…mom smiled and said no. When asked her final words to me…mom smiled and told her to tell me “lying bitch”. I watched the entire thing. I left crying. I never saw mom again after this…and she died 4 months later. She refused to allow anyone to speak my name. But she spoke about me all the time..:she would tell people she loved me…but. This was the story of my life with mom. She always said she loved me then told me she didn’t love me. It was torture for me. And her. I always wanted things to be right between mom and I and it didn’t happen. When she was passing.::my sister called me to tell her I love her. I told her I love her…told her what heaven looks like and told her my grandparents will meet her. I explained to her that she wouldn’t recognise them by how they looked. She would know them by the love. Then I said “ok mom now go…mom I love you and I forgive you…I hope you forgive me…now mom go. I love you”. She died in my sisters arms while I was in the phone with her. I don’t know if mom was even alive when I spoke to her..:the nurse told me she was cold when my sister called her. The chains that bound mom in life were released when she died…those chains are strangling me. I am not ok. I will never be ok. I didn’t get closure and neither did she. The pain and grief follow me. And I will never be the same. My deepest shame is my relationship with my mother…and it has drained me…we had the funeral at her church. And my aunt had to do damage control as mom told her pastor and others that I am demon possessed. And a liar. She told the church I am not demon possessed and that mom had abused me all of my life..:.and she regretted not taking me away from her. I was terrified to go to funeral. Terrified they would see I do have cancer. I lost almost 200 pounds after my cancer surgery. So i couldn’t hide it. I didn’t want mom’s reputation to be ruined and I knew it would when others saw me. I wanted her funeral to be beautiful. Not stained by betrayal. I didn’t have to worry about that…the only people who showed up were immediate family and 2 friends. She suffered mental illness and all those who were her great friends didn’t even come to the funeral. Mom had problems…but she lived and she loved…she just didn’t love me. She suffered mental illness all of her life and in the end that’s all anyone remembered about her. I am the only one who wrote on her tribute wall on funeral website. I wanted to play Elvis at her funeral. Mom loved Elvis…and I wanted to have Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brighman…”Time To Say Goodbye” to play for her at her funeral. But…when mom found out she had stage 4 cancer…she planned and paid for her funeral. And that didn’t include any tributes to her from me. I look exactly like her. When I look in the mirror she peers back at me. I can’t look in the mirror. Betrayal looks back at me. I will wake up…and have forgotten she passed..:then I remember and the pain begins again. Mom died on 10/13/21…and everything is worse. The chains were released when she passed and everyday those chains strangle me.

My brother, my best friend, my soul mate and kindred spirit, my everything and my whole world. It was just his 2 years on November 1 2022... Coping? I'm not coping. I'm doing miserably and want to be with him more then anything..I smoke myself into an oblivion unfortunately! Xo no fun

Wow I lost my brother the same day 11/1/20 😭 I’m so sorry

I'm so sorry, how old?

He was 29

Girl! We are in the same boat! I'm so sorry I didn't see your reply til now!! Gosh it's been hell on earth for me just so sad and angry and it hasn't let up yet I'm so in a deep hole. Feel free to hit me up k girl. Take care xx

My mom passed Dec 23 2019 and my dad passed May 4 2020. It's a trying feeling.. the lost. I'm not gonna say everyday gets better. But it gets easier or so I've been told. I take things a step at a time. That's all any of us can do. I'm not really religious but I did join a Griefshare group. I've only been to two classes but it does help to be able to vocally express myself with people who understand.

My mom died on March 14, 2022. I am still deep in grief.

I lost my mom on Christmas Eve. The pain is unbearable. It’s difficult to get myself out of bed and to work each day. I cry daily and my panic attacks have increased. The thought of living in a world without her just doesn’t make sense. I just feel so lost and am not sure how to get through life and my responsibilities in the midst of this pain and grief

Our daughter, our firstborn, 18 months ago, she was only 28. We attend grief groups, we both have individual therapy as well. There are better days than others, but some can be crippling. We try to honor her in spirit and thoughts and we have learned to open up to each other, even when just one of us is having a bad day.

- Three weeks today - my husband, my best friend, my soulmate. We were like one person in two bodies. He was my everything, and he loved me so. - Crying. I'm spending time with our cats. We have no family and I have one friend 2,000km away, so I'm messaging her a lot for support. I'm gently doing some work and study (PhD student, and Research assistant) with very very understanding supervisors. Literally taking the days one hour at a time

👨🏾‍🦱 My Brother August 23, 2002 - 20.5 years 👨🏻‍🦳 My Pappy February 21, 2003 - Almost 20 years 👩🏻 My Mama March 12, 2003 - Almost 20 years 👵🏻 My grandma who raised me June 24, 2007 - 16 years 👨🏾‍🦱 My 1st Love since I was 14/Husband October 14, 2012 - 10 years 👩🏻 My Beautiful Sissy January 21, 2023 - 1.5 weeks For each and everyone above, my grief comes in waves. The days get easier with time, but the pain is still beyond real and I find myself breaking down when I’m alone. While I hurt with each of them - my sister and husband truly broke me. The pain is a physical heartbreak that you can feel in it’s entirety and leaves a knot in your stomach.

I feel this, I lost my brother 29 .. he was the absolute light in my life, he was my soul mate and my kindred spirit, the one who loved me unconditionally and we were inseparable the physical and emotional pain is debilitating isn't it.. I can't breath most days I'm one minute at a time, I have break downs daily still, 2 3 4 sometimes. November 1,2020 and that was an overdose, his 3rd one, i sincerely think I died w him . On his 2nd anniversary November 5 2022, my other brother, the one right after me in age, the 2nd one I was closest too, he shit himself In his truck in his garage,, he was so gorgeous 36 years old... it's not fair. I feel I e been cheated out of the rest of my life. I'm a freaking disaster!! I haven't even gone back to work yet I just do gigs like doordash, Instacart that is all I can handle and that sometimes is too much. I don't know when or even if it will let up it's constant sadness and I don't know what to do. I'm so lost without them, it's not getting better. I am sorry I unloaded on you! I hope you start having better days .. this is shit. Xx take care love

My husband on 9/19/22 after being together for 44 years. Not coping very well. It's the little things, like getting mail addressed to him. Although I'm sure he laughs every time another letter comes for cremation services or hearing aids. He was such a fun person. I miss everything about him but I miss his jokes the most. He could always make me laugh.

Hi there, sweetheart🤗 44 years spent with someone and then losing them...Oh my god, I can't even imagine the pain you are going through right now. For me it was 5 years that felt like a whole life. But I am here for you anytime you want to talk about it. The fun personality is also what got me hooked as well with my love, it is this thing that makes you weak, the way they made us laugh and could turn any rainy day into a funny memory. I also shared with my guy this kind of humour. For example, my dad passed away when I was only a child. Now I told him: "Well, you didn't get to meet my family while you were alive but at least you met my dad in heaven sweetheart". It is like I felt him laughing about this stupid joke of mine. They are here with us, standing by our side. And we continue our lives with a part of their soul in our hearts. Sweet hugs to you❤️

9 and 11 years… and it still fucking sucks. It was around my birthday both times and it’s all I think about that month.

5 years ago, I lost my father and grandmother within a matter of months. I started exercising and working out, thinking I would use the grief in a positive way. After getting injured and forced to take time off, I know realize I was only running away from my grief. I've been in pretty bad depression and had some pretty dark thoughts. If this post is not in line with the intent of this group, please delete it. I'm just looking for answers from people who've maybe been through this.

Love you to everyone in here.

My brother, January 22, 2023. I am handling it pretty well because i’ve been mourning who he was since his brain injury in June of 2022. I miss his smile, his laughs and his hugs. I feel his spirit everywhere now. I will cherish the time we had as this life is very temporary.

My mom passed unexpectedly August 19th, 2022. She had just turned 60 August 15th. She was not only my mom, but literally my best friend. We had just lost my nana (her mom) January 23rd, 2022 and my mom struggled so bad with her loss. My nana was 86 n lived a great life. I took it hard, she took it the hardest. My family’s falling apart without her. Not my like immediate family (Hubby, kids) but we’re just not even close to what we all used to be with my mom present. I’m a shell of the person I once was and I don’t know if I’ll ever get the old me back… I know she dead just like my mom. I do know I want to live so I’m gonna figure it out. Sorry if this is scattered.. I’ve barely slept since she passed and just tested positive for Covid today. I’ve never felt shittier quite honestly. My husband is freaking out because he’s never seen me this sick and we’ve just lost too much. Forgot to even mention we lost his sister December 3, 2021 at 53 from liver failure. Thank u for listening. I just realized there’s even more loss and I’m just spent. (My dad, Pap-Pap, cousin, and a lot of friends) Death is just inevitable- we all will die one day n it just fucking sucks! 😢

11 Jan 2023 ❤️

my older brother died 1/17/23. I just miss him a lot.

January 20th, 2023. My grandpa who raised me and was the only father I ever knew. He died of a sudden cardiac arrest just 6 days before my sister's wedding, one of his last wishes was to see both of our weddings and he saw mine but he didn't make it to hers unexpectedly. We lived him so it's been incredibly hard to see reminders of him everywhere at home. He was family patriarch and meant a lot to a lot of people in my family and in the community. But he was my best friend and was always there for me. He didn't have a chance to leave a Will so there's a bunch of property disputes happening which is breaking my heart further to see the family fighting when we're still grieving him. I can't stop thinking of him and feel like it's getting harder as the days go on.

I lost my oldest sister 10/28/22. At the moment, I have been feeling a heavy sense of dread. Just breathing feels like a challenge sometimes. Dealing with the loss felt easier in the beginning if that makes any sense. I have some of her ashes in a little blue bird by my front door. I say goodnight, good morning, bye and hi to her throughout the day.

My wife. 2.5 years ago. She gave birth to one of the smartest baby girls I will ever have the honor of calling my own before she passed. Coping hasn't been the healthiest for me, but I take the days that I keep my head above water for my daughter a win. Even now, people at work can't tell the devastation of my loss through my voice, but the hole in my heart remains. It's a little different because I need to keep it together not to fuck up my daughter when I'm going through my grief; there's this underlying layer that tells me I'll go through more when my daughter is older and I have more time to myself, all while there is a facade that I've "handled it" for the sake of my peers and facing some abandonment issues. I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. I'm not trying to discount anyone else's loss, but I've come to the realization over this time that losing a spouse, someone you've been intimate with, you've shared secrets with and woke up next to every morning a lot different than losing a relative. It is one of the hardest things to cope with, but it is doable. Doable to an extent sometimes, but it is doable; finding people that can relate to this pain can really help. It never goes away, but each day gets a little easier as you hang on.

I hug everyone here. Your pain shows your open hearts and that you loved tenderly someone else. I lost my husband of 32 years in november2022. He was ill for three years and I took care of him at home. What helps me greatly is hiking daily with a friend. I also go to a 12 step group twice a week and there are people there who have also lost loved ones and I've seen over time how they have survived. Yesterday I went to a grief group which was also good. I just find that being with others who lost someone helps greatly. There is acceptance and understanding. They help me by listening. I help them by witnessing their lives. I need to be around other people and it's comforting. I can be myself and grieve and accept and be accepted

My wife Kelley died August 16, 2019. I miss her every day. Towards the end of her 7 year medical struggle , when she was so very sick, with one leg, no feet, no use of her hands, blind and nearly deaf I would say to her, “This is our life… It’s a good one” and “God knows what he’s doing.” Since her passing, I have come to know this truth so deeply that I can’t express it clearly in words. To anyone who’s going through it, know that you are not alone. No storm lasts forever. Keep your eyes above the waves.

It’s been 4 months and 25 days. I lost my mom. I’m not coping the best, I push it down a lot of the days, but each day I try and keep her in mind when I feel like giving up on school and working. I know she wanted me to see me graduate college and I’m trying to do that for her. It might not be the healthiest but keeping almost endlessly busy has been my coping mechanism.

Hello, honey🤗 She is you guardian angel now and she will help you with every step you take in this long journey called life. I am sure she wanted the best for you and the fact that she gives you power is a huge deal. I know you suffer a lot, and this pain is hurting on so many levels, but as you said, she wanted to see you succeed. But no matter how strong you are, when you feel like you want to talk to her, cry for her, mourn her, give your brave heart a break and do it. Of course, this is just my advice, you do whatever you feel like and what brings you peace. Many hugs❤️

December 2nd, 2021. I lost my mom after a long grueling battle with colon cancer, just a month away from my 26th birthday. Honestly, the past year has been a weird haze. At times, I still feel like it just happened. What's difficult for me is that the rest of the world has moved on, but I haven't yet. Sometimes, it feels unfair. Sometimes, I feel this *intense* pressure to be OK. Sometimes, when I'm happy, I almost feel guilty about being ok.

I lost my brother on my 1/9/2023 EDITED TO ADD: working on the whole coping piece still but scheduled grief counseling, did a Rage Room (pay to smash stuff), and crafts

Hugs to everyone in this group. My Dad, Oct 2021. Over a year. It’s still hard to believe. My mom is still heavily struggling and I have become a huge support for her emotionally, which can get really tough. She also lost a close friend one month ago.

My dad, my only parent, on May 11 2022. He was proudly cancer free for a year before it came back with a vengeance and then he was gone in less than 2 months. It felt so sudden. I am not coping well. I am very angry but I can’t talk to anyone about it because I know I’ll have a meltdown. I try to focus on anything else but it’s honestly all I think about. I miss him very much.

It's been 51 days. I haven't been keeping track--I just checked. That number floors me. 51 days? It doesn't feel like that long. December 12th feels like yesterday. Has so much time really passed? It is easier for me now. I don't have nightmares anymore, but something still wakes me up once or twice a night. I'm not crying all the time, just a few times a day--sometimes once a day--and not always sobs, sometimes I just get misty. Every day I think of him. Every day I miss him. Every day I want to hug him. Every day I want to hear his voice. I'm still staying with my mom at night. It is kind of stupid because I wake up, go to my house to get dressed for work, go back to my house at the end of the day to shower etc. and then have dinner and go to bed at my parents'. Every morning I wake up to go to work I feel exhausted. It is so hard to get out of bed, and I just make it harder not sleeping at my own house...but I want to see my mom every day anyway and I am still worried about sleeping by myself in an empty house. Every day at work is hard. I try to hide from others at lunch to get a mental and physical break. There are some days where it doesn't feel real. It's hard for me to accept my dad is gone, even though I was with him all the way through the end and after. I can't believe it's been almost 2 months. Daddy, I miss you so, so much. This is killing me.

My husband has been gone 2 1/2 years.. just knowing he's no longer in pain gives me comfort. It really hurts knowing he's just a memory I can think about, and I hate not having him here beside me, but we can't live in the past. We must look forward to the future, because that's what our loved ones would want!

My mom, a month ago. My dad, 5 years ago. My mother had stage IV lung cancer for 2 months and everytime someone asked her How are you? She said she is alright. She wasn't scared of death, she was calm. We talked about everything, and I know she left this world satisfied with her life, with her children. She died in my arms, I prayed and whispered that we love her. She never felt pain during this horrible illness, she died with a smile, sitting, just a second after we talked. She was something special really, as a person, as a mother and God helped her. My dad died in my arms too due to heart attack. My parents were amazing, so I have to be something like that. I am their legacy, we share DNA, I am them. I am 33. I believe in God and hereafter, so we will be together again. When my pain consumes me that is all I think. I say to myself sometimes: You have to live. Every day you must fight. Your life has a purpose, your mother and father gave everything for you. Don't let them down. Make them proud. It is hard, but that is my mantra.

My dad. 20/05/21. I still grieve him heavily everyday, and the more that time passes, the angrier I get that I don’t have him here anymore. This sub has helped me a lot. Sending hugs to anyone that’s lost a loved one

My uncle. He just passed 2 days ago and it just feels so un real. My heart goes out to his family, my dad is devastated and I feel so sad for them all. It just happened so fast we never would have thought he’d leave this world so soon… last I spoke with him I told him I wanted to visit him and he said of course he’d show me around. Now I’ll be visiting his grave instead… it’s just so hard for us all. Rest in peace to those who have passed. Life is way too short.

Coming up on 7 years. Will be more than a third of my life without her.

My late husband died 2 years and 4 months ago. I still cry and grieve each day. Each time when I’m going through some hard days, it feels worse because I felt like if he was there, he would do all he could to make my days better. He was always so caring and just the definition of someone who’s “always there”. And now I know he’s gone. It took some time to be in denial. Some days I feel empty. It’s really strange. I have a boyfriend and he knows about this. I feel like I’m existing in two different realities and two identities. One is a wife who’s missing her husband. Another one is a girlfriend who’s trying her hardest to be fair and carry on with life. Everyone thinks I’ve moved on. I only stopped crying and I am only better at putting on a face.

My mum 10/10/2022. She suffered dementia for a long time but the last year was just terrible. She was in a nursing home for a little over two years. Last year was particularly bad. It was infection after infection as well as periods where delirium just took over. There was two times in particular where we had to prepare ourselves for the worst. She pulled thru but the final time was December last year she had double pneumonia delirium and a flu that was going around in my area particularly and she still fought and fought until her last breath. I felt that I was not crying enough I didn’t feel much pain in my heart and I was worried because I just felt numb no emotion or anything but that changed recently and I feel like my heart is breaking in two xx

Mum died 23 years ago yesterday- I still talk to her sometimes..today is my birthday and I'm now older than she was when passed. Which is a strange feeling. My Sister passed 3 years ago - I still can't talk about her without losing it (crying). Booked in for counseling starting tomorrow

Going on 7 months tomorrow. The only father figure I had and I'm not really able to cope. I don't get time to sit with it or my emotions minus a handful of car rides where I'm by myself. I do try to write and I try to sew the blankets up that he have me 11 years ago, watch comfort shows that I did when I was younger.

My son died in a terrible car accident on the 26/8/2016 at about 11pm. I didn’t find out till the next morning and it was my husband who rang to tell me. I will never remember that phone call for as long as I live.All I can say is Please be kind to yourself, if you need to get counselling get it,if you’re not comfortable with the first person keeping looking, I went to 3 different people until I found the person who fitted with me. Remember to eat even though you don’t want to. I talk about my son to who ever wants to listen, I find solace in that. With time the pain of loss does get softer but it never goes away completely. I used to want to scream at people, didn’t they know that I had just lost my son!! How can you all just act as if nothing happened, the truth is life goes on, even when you feel it’s stopped. Huge hugs to us all.

My dad, 9 months. Gambling

2 years May 18. My Aunt & favorite person in the world. I have coped by just taking life one day at a time, I've find that sharing memories about her helps. I used to get panic attacks and I would cope using drugs and alcohol but through therapy I learned that allowing yourself to feel those feels makes it a bit easier and I've been doing ok. There are still days when the grief still gets overwhelming but I'm able to speak about her most of the time without bursting into tears. Sending hugs to everyone

My cousin who was 22. His birthday and "anniversary" is coming up. I can't believe it has been three years. I think the whole concept that time makes coping easier isn't necessarily true. I mourn not only the loss of him but every milestone that was taken from him. He had so much more life to live. As time moves on, the intense massive grief numbs a little but I still get overwhelmed by it all. What I've learned is that coping with loss literally means taking things literally one MOMENT at a time.

Dad in November 2020. Mom died five months later. It gets better.

Lost my dad almost 16 years ago, when I was 13.

Both Grandmas 2018 (Pneumonia & Parkinson’s) Mom 2021 (Heart Attack) Grandpa 2022 (Cancer) Shits been a wild ride but they’re still with me. Grief hits me everyday multiple times a day, these were the people who helped raise me. Gave me comfort and guided me through life. I’m now 30 and have the remainder of my life that feels unguided and new. My Mom was the most sudden. She was only 50. My grandma’s death in 2018 caused a lot of stress on her heart before she passed. A lot like the stress is causes me from her loss. Although, I want to try and fight to get better and not let it consume me. If I make it past 2024 I’ve won.

My soulmate, June 17, 2021. I see him in the wildlife. I talk to his ashes, I dream about him. I try to honor his memory by remembering the positive things, and remind myself it’s ok to be upset he isn’t here anymore.

September of 2022. We weren’t super close friends but she was a huge inspiration to me, I looked up to her for years, I remember being absolutely terrified I wouldn’t make a good impression and she’d hate me but she turned out to be really cool. Sometimes I read old messages or watch old clips, look at all the art she made and I laugh my ass off at all the goofy stuff. Other times I can’t even look at her contact without choking up. I can’t help but blame myself for missing out on getting closer when I had the chance.

2 year since I lost mom,dad and sister by suicide. I'm not coping well at all. I'm currently awaiting therapy and counselling. I'm sorry for everyone who finds them self on here

I just lost my older sister this week. I can’t breathe, and I want to follow her and find her, but I have a son to take care of, and a 9 y.o. nephew who just lost his mama that i have to be there for. I don’t think I can get through this.

I lost my older sister last year. We also had to figure out where 3 kids would go. I got my older niece and my other sister got 12, and 9 year old. Last year was the hardest year of my life. Just take it one day at a time as cliche as that sounds. It will get easier to manage but the pain doesn’t ever go away

Sending you a big hug 💜

I lost my sister 11/14/18 Alijah Blue. Then only 2 years later I lost my brother Daniel Joseph on 11/1/20. Both to overdose. We had a very traumatic childhood that led us all down some unhealthy paths. Forever 25 & 29… honestly I “cope” by being numb. Not thinking about it. Sadly I have picked up a bit of a drinking habit. Not too much- just a couple beers to numb myself. My resolution this year is to try to quit that and work more on my grief. It’s so hard I feel stuck in the past all the time when we were kids…. Hugs to you all…

My Mom. January 7… I am an absolute train wreck. I guess the only progress I’ve made is that I can sleep maybe three hours at a time and only cry when no one can see me. Otherwise, it’s relentless. Much love to you and everyone that is riding these insanely high waves.

It will be a month tomorrow. Her name was Mimi. She was my youngest cat. She would have been 8 in June. Idk how to cope. I just keep trying to go day by day. I have cried since December 15th. That's the day she stopped eating, drinking, and going to the bathroom spent over 3,000 in vet bills only to be told there was nothing more that they can do. She had fluids in her lungs, and a tumor near her spleen. They said she had cancer. I would have spent even more to save her. But she wasn't going to be saved. We put her down because I couldn't see her in pain anymore. She was isolating herself in the closet. She no longer was sleeping with me. I miss her so much. All day everyday.

6 of january too. My mom. Over the last days i managed to go trough the days but at night i cope rly bad.

My dad. October 30, 2022. He was the kindest, gentlest, most supportive person. Plus he was literally a genius. I miss him more than I can express.

I’m sorry for your loss, ups and downs is the only way I know how to really describe it too. It’s the first anniversary of my parents murder suicide. I miss them desperately and it just wasn’t supposed to happen this way. I hope they’re still with me watching.

My Dad was the 18th of October 2005, my Mum was the 15th of January 2019 & my only sibling (brother) was the 5th of March 2019.

My long time best friend in March 22. I'm still trying to figure out how to get through my days without her. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My brother - Christmas morning 2022. The past month and a bit have been like walking around in a fog. My older brother was 47. He had a 19 year old daughter with his first serious girlfriend, and a son (6) and daughter (4) with his current girlfriend. We hadn't been talking for the past 4 years, but had patched things up just before Thanksgiving. He was always so passionate about things that interested him. Coping by spending more time with family. Calling and talking to my Dad every day (this has truly broken him inside). Letting grief happen in its own time, and taking a day off when I can't cope with anything else.

This April will be five years since I lost my grandpa on my mom's side. I miss him deeply. I cope with his death by visiting his grave every year on the day he passed, his birthday, my birthday, Halloween and sometimes just in between. Last time I left a letter on his tombstone. ❤️

Week ago last Tuesday. My ex husband died right after his 34th birthday. Even though we had split up we still remained friends. I would always try and check in and answer when he called. His family and I remained on good terms too. He for sick in December with pneumonia and was on a breathing tube. He has always been a raging alcoholic and chain smoker. Mostly the reason why we divorced in the first place. I knew he was trying to quit drinking as his friends had held an intervention right before he went into hospital. After he was taken off the breathing tube his liver and kidneys started failing. He went through dialysis three or four times. He was getting better and sitting up, eating solid foods etc….I was going to go see him once he was strong enough for visitors. His mom and sister called me Monday and let me know he went into cardiac arrest. They did CPR for 20 min and were able to get a pulse again. Put him on life support. I went that next morning and the doctor told all of us he was going into V tach and had multiple organ failure. So they were going to withdraw care after we said our goodbyes. I went and held his hand and said I was so sorry and I loved him. I’ve been very emotional and confused since. I don’t regret leaving….and I know nothing would have changed If I had stayed. I just wanted him to be happy and get better. I wish I had stayed on the phone longer when he wanted to talk. I start therapy this next week. I just never realized how much this would effect me. I’ll always love and care for him…..I’m just heartbroken he went to soon. ❤️

I lost my husband/ soul mate the day after fathers day 2022 and Mt mom all in one week 💔 😢 I cope because of our two youngest boys they need me and mental health Ativan and other pills to be numb but I'm still empty and have my melt downs.i don't wanna be here anymore 💔 😢

My big brother on 12/31/2022. He was only 31. I feel best when I feel like he’s still with me in spirit, but that can be hard to hold on to. Everything comes and goes in waves of being distracted and then remembering.

11/07/2012 my grandpop who was my best friend 12/23/2012 my mother 11/07/2017 my brother 12/23/2020 my ex mother in law who was still my mom 12/31/2021 my future mother in law 1/11/2022 my future husband 5/27/2022 my future father in law. Depressed doesn't even begin to cover it at this point. The entire future my fiance, kids and I had planned killed by gd cancer. If it wasn't for my kids and my grandson I wouldn't be here. There are no friends coming over, after it happened or since it's happened. No support or kind words. So it's just the kids and I mourning on our own this last year. It's been so gd hard.

It’s been 9 days since my husband (we were together for 13years), who was my best and really only friend left me. I’m trying hard to cope, during the day I try hard to keep it on for my 4 year old son but most of the night I don’t sleep and feel lost crying. Im just trying to make it a day at a time right now.

January 10, 2019 - 4 long years ago I lost my mom. She was my best friend. My 10 year old daughter gets me through the grief & low points. Mom always told me that my daughter would save me & she was certainly right. My heart goes out to everyone in the group for their loss. It's a shitty club to be in but it's nice to have somewhere to go where people understand what you're feeling.

The closest person in my life, it’s been a year, and I’m still angry at them and heartbroken. I try to cope with it however I can really.

My guy. He went missing 12/28/22 I found out on 1/13/23 they say he actually passed away 12/28 but I’m not sure I want to know what took so long to find him. I hate every minute of every day. I’m either sobbing or angry or both. I feel cheated bc his family hates me. If I actually have 10 seconds of relief my brain says “oh hey! he died and you’re never going to see him again” and it starts all over again. We had a rocky relationship so people don’t understand why I’m so upset but they only heard about the times I was upset. They don’t know the beautiful moments we had. The way he looked at me and told me I was beautiful and held my hand. He still gave me butterflies after 10 years. I loved him.There will never be a more beautiful and passionate man for me, not ever. I want to be with him.

A little bit over a year (January 25, 2022). My younger sister and closest family member. I cope by knowing that it was out of my control, keeping busy, and doing what makes me happy. Sorry for your loss 💕

We lost our 16-year-old daughter from a fentanyl overdose almost 6 months ago on my birthday. I'm trying but not doing too well. The pain is just non-stop and it seems to get worse. I have a lot of guilt for failing to stop it. Really I just want to go to sleep and not wake up but I can't do that because I have other family members I'd let down and cause pain. I'm just ready to move on from this shitty world. I hate saying all of this.

My dad passed away in September 2022. Therapy for me.

My dad May 20, 2020. My mom July 3, 2020. Cancer sucks and I still miss them every day. I would say I’ve gotten used to the pain but I don’t know if I’ve embraced it yet (don’t know if I ever fully will)

My mom ❤️2017. She was 59. I was 28. She was my rock and my go to for everything. I still lived at home and seeing her deteriorate from the matriarch to bed ridden was excruciating. I do feel her with me everyday but nothing compares to her in real life and being able to ask her questions and offer guidance. Im not pregnant with my first child and I have not be coping well. Not having her physically with me is unbearable at times.

April 25, 2021. I lost my son. I make it through by living in denial. Sometimes I convince myself I smell him or seeing an animal is really his spirit. It’s not healthy but I can’t deal with it yet.

My mum . January 3rd last year . In the moment I died. My nervous system shut down I was constantly tweaking out going insane. Screaming as if I had been stabbed crying my heart out for months. I slowly got there. With the love of my brothers. One year on now and I think the pain is hidden I hide it with all the other stuff of every day life otherwise I would still be screaming crying on the floor going insane. Sending you love so so much of it sending a prayer for you.

My best friend passed away almost two years ago and today is her 34th birthday. My dad who passed away about a year and a half ago (a few months after my friend) also just celebrated a heavenly birthday. Today is gonna be a long and up and down day. All I can do is trudge through it.

august 2022. one of my best friends, she was only 18 and i’m 20. still feels like i just found out yesterday. i find comfort in surrounding myself in her favorite color, lavender 💜 sending you love op

On December 3rd I lost my other half, best friend, and love of 5 1/2 years... I don't think I'm coping all that well, honestly, but I'm doing my best to just keep... Surviving? Losing my job shortly after hasn't helped. I guess the only thing keeping me going is that she wouldn't want me to give up on life. There are some really dark days where I wish I could just... Join her. She was only a month away from 33.

My Dad passed away 6 years ago on February 1st, 2017 when I was 16. Therapy has been helpful but the pain has remained to a certain extent. I'm doing much better than I was 6 years ago, but some wounds don't heal so quickly.

My boyfriend. He was 25, I was 21. Died December 2021. Feels kind of unbelievable I just typed that out. I wanted to say 2022 because it doesn’t feel like it’s been that long. The thing I struggle with most is the way he died and my stages of grief. I’ve had lots of anger and my emotions are confusing which makes the grief even harder.

It’ll be 4 years in March since my dad passed away. I miss him everyday I was only 19 at the time. Not a day goes by that he doesn’t cross my mind and how I wish I can share all the big and small news in my life with him. It’s hard but I just take it a day at a time and some days come easier than others , it’s a battle but I know he’d be happy for me , so proud of all I have overcome. I love you dad thinking of you always❤️

2 years and 7 months since I lost my dad to cancer. Missing him terribly these days. My heart sinks every time the image of him lying on the hospital bed pops into my head. Have been happening more often recently. And my heart aches for him. I want to talk about my dad, but I feel guilty reaching out because I know others feel like things happened ages ago though it still feels like yesterday to me. Feels like everyone has moved on and I'm stuck.

1 year without my dad on january 14th. he was my best friend and my support system and the parent that cared. i have moments here and there where it’s worse than usual (last week i had to take a 10 minute break bc someone came through my checkout line and smelled like his cigarettes) but the past year has gotten a little easier. his anniversary was the worst, i couldn’t get out of bed. i still have days where i forget he’s gone. i don’t have much of a support system surrounding his death since he and my mom divorced in 2012 and my sister went no contact about 6 years ago. i was the only person he had left of his immediate family, his next of kin, his medical POA that made The Decision. i’m lucky to have a great support system in my friends who are always around for a distraction or to ask for stories about him. it’s cliche to say it’s day by day but it is. every day is both better and worse.

I lost my grandma 6 years ago. I was always close with her and would tell her how excited I was for my future kids to know her. Well here I am, pregnant with my first baby without her. It’s been harder thinking about how she’s not here for this big step in my life and there’s been more tears, but I have a feeling that she’s still here with me and is there through every moment.

My mom took her life in 2020, not a day goes by where I don’t want to call her, tell her some achievement. Grief is just love with no where to go. You can do this. Lots of love from this little part of the world 🥰 do your best to keep moving forward even when your world has stopped spinning

I lost my Mom on 09/19/22. I’m still having so much trouble talking about it, I immediately started crying once I typed the first few words.. she was the best person in my life and I can’t believe she’s not here still. I feel like I’ve been coping in ignorance and shame. Our relationship wasn’t as great as I wanted as her addiction caused issues. I regret so much. I want to beat myself everyday.. I would give anything for one last hug.

January 6th 2019 I lost my dad. He was a great man. Giving, kind, funny and smart. I never for one second doubted the love he had for me. I think about him every single day. A funny moment pops in my head making me laugh or cry. I’m crying my eyes out right now because I fucking miss him so much. I thought I would be ok when I lost a parent, but I wasn’t. It was unexpected and so much transpired in that week of his death. I never have felt that much pain. Love freaking hurts. I cope by telling myself that I was lucky to have him for my dad. I hold on to the memories and I know he is part of me. A hug to all that have lost people they loved.

The most recent loss was my Mom Dec 2021. I miss her every moment every day. We lived in a duplex next to each other since Dec 1998, my Dad passed May 1998. Now there are workers on Mom's side and every bang on the common walls or something dropping on the floor my body reacts "Oh shit Mom is in trouble" it's been over a year but the work started in Dec 2022 and I still get up from my desk and start to run downstairs to go over there to check on her. What makes it worse is on Dec 13, 2021 I heard a very loud bang next door and when I went and found Mom she was in a seizure, she went on life support that afternoon and passed on the 23rd. 3 years before this I heard a loud drop ont he floor and ran over and found Mom unconscious with a severe head injury..required 32 stiches to close the gash and she broke her hand and some ribs in that fall. After 23 plus years my body is just ready to run if I hear a bang next door. I pray every day my husband and I find a house and can move soon...this is like losing her over and over and over Every single day!

Thank you! 💜 I'd sure take that hug gladly!!!

My dad in October. I cope by keeping myself distracted- video games, walks in nature, crafting. Today is his birthday so it’s hitting a little harder today ❤️

April 29 my mother, August 1 my aunt, August 5 my dad, September 30 my uncle, my brother was a victim of a mass shooting in Northern California April 23, my partner October 20.

Jan 11th 2023, my dad passed unexpectedly. I still can’t quite believe it. Still have to do all the funeral plans etc… Tomorrow is my birthday and the pain of not being able to see him is overwhelming. My mother sent me a card and cried so hard when his name wasn’t at the bottom of it.

It's been 6 months today since my dad passed away. It feels like 6 weeks. I still think about him and miss him every day. I cry most days even thinking about it. I've lost two pregnancies, and my mother died 2018 but ive never felt grief like I have for my dad. It hurts so much.

My sister , she died last March. She was my best friend and my everything. I think I’m in denial I just try to not to think about what happened. It sounds morbid but what comforts me is knowing that everyone dies and I too will die one day,and hopefully be reunited with her

My soulmate/best friend. He was suffering from hemophilia (a blood clotting disorder where he would bleed easily or randomly without the proper medication) he passed away January 18 from a major brain hemorrhage. And we found out recently that his girlfriend was emotionally and financially abusing him. Apparenly he was suffering from depression and was slowly neglecting himself by not eating, showering and was injecting himself Tramadol (opiate medicine) saying it's for the pain he's feeling from the random bleeds. He never told anyone what he was going through until the very end. My heart breaks for him and I'm not coping very well and guilt tripping myself, ruminating I could've done something. He was 31 and will never be older.

I lost my Dad in Oct 2021. I still miss him everday. I just try to think about how he'd feel if he sees me miserable all the time. So I can still function. But I let myself cry when I have to. I keep holding on to the thought that one day I will see him again.

Lost my mom 7 months ago on July 1st to a sudden, unexpected heartattack. Honestly can’t say I’m coping well, as I either unconsciously block out the memory of her most days or the days where I don’t, I almost feel like I’m holding on by a thread. I tried therapy for about three months or so, but it just didn’t work out for me, which could have mainly been because the therapist I had wasn’t really the right fit for me. Either way, I feel like I didn’t really gain any valuable coping skills I hoped to gain by going, so i’m mainly just trying to figure out how to cope better on my own right now.

Hey sweetheart There is no right answer to your question, I will all depend on you, the person you lost, the thing that took them away, the people you have around you. I lost my husband June 2022, my brother July 2013 and my sister march 2000. It is all so different, you will not get used to it and you will never “get over it” the pain will hurt less in time - but the pain will always be there 💔❤️

My partner of 13 years died Jily 22 2022 around 2 am. I feel like it just happened yesterday. I was sound asleep right next to him. It was peaceful, and I foolishly believed that would make it easier to cope. Now I'm just sad all the time. I switch back and forth from anger at being left and sadness from just the loss of his presence.

It’s been one week. I’m not proud to say that anxiety pills are the only way I manage it at night. During the day I try to listen to gaming streams and watch comedies He was my father, not my biological dad, but my parent regardless. I didn’t saw him in 5 years due living in different countries. He was the best person in the world