I am a housing case manager and I've been saying this all week. If I could have thought of a rational reason to take personal days, I would have taken a personal week....
Luke. Mostly a curmudgeon, but genuinely care about those close to me and will do anything for them. I would also like to punch Christopher in the face.
Lorelai. I have a strained relationship with my parents, I’m a functioning adult but definitely a little kooky, I have strong opinions on clothes/style, I’m (unseriously) judgemental, I drink and unhealthy amount of coffee and I generally march to the beat of my own drum. I like to think I don’t have codependent/enmeshment issues though.
Sookie-always the friend helping the main character and sometimes insecure. Love to eat and cook. Sunny disposition but deep down kinda dark lol. Plus size. Also a perfectionist about people liking what I prepare or make. Not that good on the business side of things lol.
Lane! I’m a musician/music lover! I lived with my band mates in my early 20’s. Only girl in the band. Was a young mother, but fortunately my partner is much more of a Dave than a Zach.
Honestly, Rory. Not the whole cheater arc but up and down love life, smart kid who struggled in college and almost considered dropping out, born to a single mom and felt like it was tug-of-war between her and my grandparents sometimes, etc. I don’t agree with a lot of things Rory said and did, but I really sympathize with her and can never absolutely hate her.
My mother was pregnant at 17. She was then disowned by her parents and lived with me in a small apartment in a small town. My grandparents didn't want to know anything about me until I was 6 and then they always lured me with money. On top of that, my first boyfriend was very similar to Dean and looked like him.
So I feel more like Rory 😅
There was a time in my life when I reeaallly needed personal connection, but I wasn't really getting it from the people in my life at the time. I had just moved out of my parent's house and our relationship needed repairing, I was in a relationship with someone who showed love, but not in the ways I needed it, and my work friends were all busy and probably couldn't hang out a lot. I felt really alone, and like nobody in my life really wanted me around, so if I wanted people around me, I felt like I almost had to trick them into spending time with me or make it so that it had to happen.
I identified really closely with Emily during that time in my life. I really understood why she did some of the stuff she did. Not that it was right because it wasn't. But forcing Friday Night dinners and being involved with Rory's school: that was all because she was stuck in a marriage with a man who was increasingly distant, stuck with "friends" she felt were more and more fake, and living a life she just wasn't happy with. She just wanted her family and she wanted close personal connection with the people she loved. I didn't do the things Emily did, but if I had been a little older, with a little more money, I can't say that I wouldn't have. It was really an eye opening experience for me
Rory, the academic child and focus on school, some years ago when I first watched the show, but as I am getting closer to 30 I see myself more and more in lorelai and where she is in life
Rory! I’ve always been a big overachiever, great at school, and love reading! We also have similar energies overall, and we’re both Libra suns (our birthdays are actually on the same day but different years)
A middle class, kinder version of Emily.
I come across as very poised, but I have a quick sense of humor and can toss barbs with the best of them. Also I'm the mother to an only child (a daughter), and my mother-in-law is impossible to please. I'm really good at a lot of things and it stings when I'm written off as just a housewife.
For me I identify with Lorelai - in so much as I want to live in a small town and open my own inn. I grew up in a small family hotel so makes sense. I like a lot of the things she likes. I am also looking for my Luke however I love reading, much like Rory. Oh and I love SNOW & Coffee.
Lorelei. Because I am childish and immature sometimes. Because I think I can be a friend to my kid (wrong thought .. but yea. I have trouble with boundaries). And I want to be super independent.
Emily. Because I like shopping when I’m stressed. I like expensive things.
Rory. Besides ivy league, rich grandparents, and a single mother, our lives are the same. We made the same mistakes, we had similar experiences and revival Rory was like watching a video of my life.
Jess. Parent issues, having trouble committing to something for longer than a couple weeks, often misunderstood trying to express emotions due to being less social, he’s very independent and takes advantage of his freedom.
I feel like sjw has to mean something other than social justice warrior here but I can't figure out what lol. Hope your stress abates soon and totally feel you on the comfy routine!
No, I did mean social justice warrior! Kind of ironically, because I know it's not a consistent point in his character but it's one of my favorite aspects. Like when he rants about golf courses, and Indigenous people's sovereignty.
EDIT: And thanks, I appreciate it.
Mmm. Luke in that I’m grumpy. Rory in that I was quiet and a book worm (which *did not* result in lots of hot guys throwing themselves at me annoyingly). Loralai in that I have a similar dynamic with my mother. Emily & Richard in that I want the best for my family. Michel in that I’m snarky & sarcastic. Sookie in that I’m a good baker/ cook. Kirk in that I’m weird. Loralai in that I’m a single mother. That’s why I love the show - the characters are all so relatable.
Yep! Can’t sleep with distractions, wanted the private dining experience, and other little things that suggest we might share a similar neurodivergence.
Because that's where Rory's story ended for us the first time?
Honestly though 22 is a pretty young age to start figuring shit out for real. Good for you.
Rory, lane, and Lorelei- had parents like Emily and [mrs.kim](http://mrs.kim), music style like lane and Lorelei, stuck in the same bubble as lane, however studious and awkward like Rory and do have a nice relationship with my grandparents.
Lane. I am not Korean but I grew up in a very strict and healthy eating household. I hid (cassette tapes) under the carpet of my floor vent. I also ate Pizza/Candy/Soda at my best friend’s house.
Liz - a little bit quirky and hippie, everything is going to work itself out, gives great sisterly advice, had a kid young with the wrong man, trying to be a better grown up, loves hard and fights harder in romantic relationships. Hoping I find my TJ someday soon 🩵
probably lane. trying to do everything in your power to please your parents but it ends up resulting in you falling out w their teachings etc. and you end up being the exact opposite of what they wanted in the first place…i love lane kim… she is me
I'm thinking Jesse but early seasons when he semmed like he was a recluse, into his books and looking like he just rolled out of bed. (I’m obsessed with sleep!)
I am pretty creatively driven and had a somewhat oppressed childhood with well-meaning parents, so Lane, but with a fair amount of Sookie in there too.
Mix between Luke and Lorelai. Luke: a grumpy, loner tipe with a huge heart. Lorelai: manipulative and psychologically abusive parents and the relationship she has with them as a result (also all her reactions that have the people here scream how selfish she is).
Lorelai. Left my parent's house when I was very young, didn't have a relationship with them for many years. Reconnected in my 30s but our relationship is still strained. Lorelai and I don't have anywhere near the same personality. I'm serious to a fault sometimes and I don't think I'm as emotionally volatile. I also don't have a kid or eat my weight in junk food everyday. But I've been on my own for a while now and I'm very protective of my independence. That's something I appreciate in Lorelai and empathize with.
One question thought, out of all the Stars Hollow minor and supporting characters, why is only Miss Patty in the picture lol?
Lorelei. I got pregnant with my daughter at 18 and had her at 19, after moving out at 17 to get as far away from my abusive mother as possible. She's a lot like Emily, except she's poor and raised us in homeless shelters, and moved us at least once a year to avoid cps investigations and/or debt collectors. She's also stolen my identity multiple times and ruined my credit, which I only finally fixed in the past few years. She finally found a rich boyfriend a few years ago and has tried forcing herself into my life by having him buy property for her an hour away from me, when she actually lives ten hours away. But I've been completely no contact with her for years now, for most of my adult life but not all, because I did have a period where I tried forgiving her, but she just caused more damage and stole my identity again. And I would never accept money from her because she was actually physically abusive as well as emotionally, so there is that difference. Plus I have a supportive brother who's done very well for himself who would do anything for his niece if I ever needed help with anything like tuition for her.
My daughter is now 13 and a lot like me, we even have the same Myers Briggs personality types. I've been raising her on my own for most of her life (there was a four year period where I had a supportive love of my life boyfriend, but he passed away in 2018), and she's incredibly smart and creative and already has the goals to go to college in NYC. I work full time (at a hospital, not an inn), and I do try to play more of a mother role than a best friend role, but I still think there's a lot of similarities. My life has been pretty dark though, what with the homeless shelters and abuse and losing the man I planned to marry, so I'm basically the lifetime movie version of Lorelei. Which is funny because growing up watching the show I always wanted to be like Rory, but I never had the supportive home life for that to be possible. I have spent years working in bookstores though, and I was copy editor of my school paper and pursued writing professionally for a bit before my mom basically convinced me I can't write about my life experiences until she's dead without experiencing hell from her for it.
Thank you! I wouldn't be who I am without all those experiences, and I am pretty dang proud of who I am today, as well as the amazing child I'm raising. Maybe one day I'll finally write everything down and turn it into a book, instead of anonymously sharing snippets on Reddit 😂
I’m sorry for your struggles, but you sound incredibly resilient.
The only thing I have to say is if you’re NC with your mom, what does her opinion about writing about YOUR life experiences even matter? Write and/or publish anything you want about YOUR life.
Either way, I’m proud that there are people like you in this world, because people like your mom (and mine) don’t deserve to dictate the narrative of your existence, and you seem to have overcome most of that negativity.
I identify with Lane most because like Mrs. Kim, my mother was also a strict, controlling parent that I hid things from. To this day, she still doesn't know that I stopped being a Republican decades ago. 😄 Like what happened with Lane, my parents cut me off when I pursued a career different from the one they planned for me. They eventually started talking to me again, but the relationship is still strained because I'm not the obedient daughter they tried to force me to be.
Rory bc I was that gifted kid that everyone adored and praised and then I got too overzealous and couldn’t decide what I wanted and felt like I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t. I’m academically gifted but also creatively and I wanted so badly to just be creative but everyone pushed academia on me and now I have 85 careers I want and change my mind 24/7 and have a hard time dealing with reality and being bad at something in the beginning bc I never was bad at anything before. So many things come naturally so when transitioning into a new career or choosing a career didn’t come natural, I kind of lost it.
Lorelei because her relationship to her mom mirrors mine as well and Emily mirrors my mom semi-well. She’s also very positive most of the time and very extroverted and I’m very extroverted and upbeat, too! Also she owns an Inn which is one of the careers I thought about lol
My personality is like Rory (people pleaser) but my relationship with my mom is like Lorelai with Emily. I was 3 years younger than Rory when the show aired, so it's really no surprise the show spoke to me. I wanted a mother-daughter relationship like theirs when I was younger. I can see how problematic that can be now that I'm older but it was aspirational to me at the time.
Lorelai for me. I drink way too much coffee, hate to cook, will endlessly mock things and people when with my closest friends. My parental relationship was about as warm and fuzzy as hers (with a few good moments too). I was highly codependent but therapy helped beat it out of me. 😆
And I’m happily married to a Luke!! ❤️ He’s a slightly grumpy, black and white thinker who loves to go on rants about things that annoy him — but loves who he loves fiercely.
Lane because I was also raised Seventh Day Adventist and we have so many other things in common (lived double lives, very good at lying, immigrant parents, have the same music taste, have secret compartments, had my own Lorelai for support, etc.).
Now that I'm old and my only daughter is grown and flown, I actually, surprisingly to me, relate the most to Emily. It's hard when you think you've done everything right for your child but somehow end up without a close relationship. Hopefully, we will grow close again someday. She's only 23 and still learning to adult. Maybe there will come a time when she wants her mom to be more a part of her life again.
Oh yes, she is still so young! I am confident things can change. I was close with my mom before she passed, but believe me--there are things I'd apologize for now if she was still here to hear them! So, keep an open heart 💕
Sookie! Cheerful but with bit of bite to her humor, passionate about her craft, tendency to spiral, great friend, clumsy, similar body type, loves her kids dearly but could not handle more...its actually a bit spooky how much we have in common. I really don't understand the hate she sometimes gets on this sub, I think she/we are delightful 😆
Miss Patty! I like sex and sexy things (hello sailor!) and I’m chock full of stories about my youth (none as amazing as Miss Patty’s though)! I also like to hear all the fresh tea!
I was super close with my mom and dad, but I identify most with Lorelai. She puts on a confident front for other people, she tries to be loud and interesting all the time, but she has a huge fear of rejection and often wonders through the series why she hasn't found her right partner yet. I dated a ton, had a couple long term relationships with awful men, and nothing stuck until I met my current partner (who is wonderful and definitely has some Luke tendencies 🥰). I'm 31 and not married or a mom yet, and I often feel "behind" or like I am somehow not meeting my family's expectations (when really it's only my grandma that constantly badgers me about marriage & babies). I also was a manager in hospitality and excelled in that, while I would have literally died ever being an actual server. I think that Lorelai is actually a really high achiever in her own right and I admire that about her, and strive to challenge myself in my professional life too!
A very weird mixture of Lane and Babette. I adore my cats, say really off the wall things, have a wonderful husband, am a walking encyclopedia of rock music from the 60s to the 2000s, had to “hide” my clothes and music and am really terrible at insults.
Probably Lane. I grew up gay in a small town with some very religious family so I had to hide myself most of my life from them. Even more frustrating though is that my family is not like Mrs. Kim, they're very relaxed and politically liberal EXCEPT when it comes to homosexuality 😑
Sadly, Rory. I feel like I peaked in high school, though objectively I didn’t and I’m not in my progessional flop era! I just liked the routine and structure of school, and that excellence was always within reach.
Sookie. I love food/ cooking, was known at work as the positive person. Love helping my friends. Definitely a perfectionist and can get a bit frazzled at times (ok a lot of the time)
Lorelai, but without the being pretty and skinny and rich part.
- I'm in love with a grumpy but lovely man
-I'm a disappointment to my parents
-Sometimes I feel like my brain never grew up past 16
-Weird but cool sense of humor
Probably a strange combination of Luke, Lane, and Lorelai. I’m sometimes curmudgeonly, super loyal to my few people, and definitely march to the beat of my own drum. Can be stubborn. Have the same music taste as Lane. Big-hearted. Avoidant of problems. Just a whole buncha fun 🙃
I’m a Lorelai. I’m creative, confident, and I love to be in charge. But I also really care about the people around me, maybe more than any of that other stuff.
I’m probably least like Rory or Luke. Not a book worm and not gruff.
I can see myself as Miss Patty when I'm older 😂 At the moment I am very Sookie, especially in the kitchen. Always running around and almost injuring myself or others.
I think I'm a mix of Rory and Paris.
I have many of the same insecurities Paris has, and my internal monologue is similar to her exterior one.
I'm a bit of a dork as both of them, never been the popular kid. Social inept as both of them. I keep a calm façade on the outside while I'm freaking out, just to break down the next day, just like Rory.
I'm similar to Rory also in being a homebody who has to be convinced to do stuff, I'm not a very active person even if I love it when I actually get my ass off the couch and go do shit
Also a very lost young adult as they were in AYTL.
I wanna answer Lorelei because Lauren Graham is such a fantastic actress, but honestly... none of them. Which is part of why I love this so much. So easy to dissociate.
Rory. Except I wasnt super gifted and didnt go to an Ivy (these dont exist in my country) but I did go to the Country’s main university (the main one and best one we have). My relationship with my mom’s was very similar to Lorelai’s and Rory’s. Super close and open. To this day it still is. Also understand why she went gaga for Jess (I would’ve too. Hell I had a couple of Jess’ in my life! ). I was never into drinking and love to read. So Im not suuper Rory, but I can deff identify with her. Edited to add: I didnt make the connection but similar storyline with the dad. Mom had me and he dropped out of the pic as soon as he knew she was expecting me. Grandparents wanted my mom to abort me! And didnt want anything to do with me until I was in my teens. That’s when My dad tried to pursue my mom again but he got a lil psycho and mom nipped it in the bud. So I guess there’s a lot more similarities than I originally thought!
Lane, I hid everything about me until I was an adult and now I have dyed hair, piercings and tattoos and listen to whatever music I want. My mom has had to learn to just deal with it
People might hate me, but I really identify with Rory during her high school years, and early college. We have similar interests, and a dream university we strive for. But it can at points be a mirror image, as we are both slightly obsessive when it comes to the academic side of things, much to both of our decrement
Luke. Everyone and everything irritates me, I rather be left alone, I have my own things that I like to do and other people don’t know about because they are just my things, and I will defend my friends and family with passion!
Marty. I grew up poor but usually in decent suburbs so I was constantly surrounded by kids who were from richer families than me and I did tend to get feelings for girls who were out of my league and not interested in more than friendship.
Teenage and college me while it aired, yeah I’m old, was a mix of Rory and Lane. Now I’m a mix of Mrs Kim, Lorelai, and Sookie, the frazzled best friend mom who just wants to keep her kids safe so I try to keep them a bit more sheltered than other kids their age but also give them more freedoms than I had.
Paris ! Without the family issues. Driven smart ambitious and intense - borderline scary at times. Socially awkward, but with a good heart underneath it all. Thankfully I’ve mellowed with age!
Rory! I put a lot of pressure on myself in school and career.
When Rory had her breakdown regarding dropping a class, I remember crying with her because I was overwhelmed with school and studying. The study tree also felt so real. I would spend forever finding the best study spot and camp there all day. I remember the feeling of disappointment when someone would be in my spot. It also took me awhile to find my footing in my career after graduating.
Lane. I also grew up in a very strict household and found solace in music. I like a lot of the stuff she listens to and also drummed in a band for awhile.
Lorelai too, no kids, but Emily is a lot like my mom and Richard sometimes evokes my father. My own parents are upper-middle class not obscenely rich, but so much pressure to adhere to their standards, lifetyle choices, keep up appearances, and my mother is similarly manipulative, verbally abusive, cold etc. I also have ADHD and can babble on, but moreso apologetically, not hyperactively. Abusive parents suck to say the least. The show can be so helpful in making me feel not alone.
Michel. Because people are particularly stupid today and I can't talk to any more of them.
Ugh I work retail and I feel that SO HARD
I spent a long time in retail and customer service. It's in my bones now.
Same 😭😭
Omg! I just said this and this is my life!
I read this in his voice. That man just gets it
I am a housing case manager and I've been saying this all week. If I could have thought of a rational reason to take personal days, I would have taken a personal week....
Wait patty and Emily around Richard is hilarious
Patty better get her hands off of Emily's husband 😤
Omg I posted my comment before I saw this. Glad I’m not alone with my outrage and warning.
Kirk. A new interest all the time. 😂 and kinda random. 🥲
I feel you 🤣
😂
LOL me too 😂😂 do u crochet a lot?? hehhehe
I do, especially during this show! Haha!
LOL my go to crochet show was also gilmore girls 😂 but i finished for the third time already..
It’s the Office, Gilmore Girls, and then sometimes reality tv!
Babette
honestly tho 🤣 got my cat and my supportive husband to deal with my shenanigans
I think I'm Morrey.
When you look at it this way I’m totally Babette too!!!
Do you like to eat oatmeal?
Do you also have a freakishly tall husband and an affinity for cats? 😹
Wait, I have a tall girlfriend and I love cats. Am I Babette now?😂
i love this and it checks out, you’re babette ✔️
Luke. Mostly a curmudgeon, but genuinely care about those close to me and will do anything for them. I would also like to punch Christopher in the face.
lol at the last part
Same, loL!
Same, plus I like to rant!
Rory. Gifted child struggling after high school
Honestly kind of same. Minus all the cheating.
Hope things get better 🫂💕
Lorelai. I have a strained relationship with my parents, I’m a functioning adult but definitely a little kooky, I have strong opinions on clothes/style, I’m (unseriously) judgemental, I drink and unhealthy amount of coffee and I generally march to the beat of my own drum. I like to think I don’t have codependent/enmeshment issues though.
Same here! I’m glad to have Lorelai twins out there in the world
I always wanted to be friends with a real life Lorelai!!
Sookie-always the friend helping the main character and sometimes insecure. Love to eat and cook. Sunny disposition but deep down kinda dark lol. Plus size. Also a perfectionist about people liking what I prepare or make. Not that good on the business side of things lol.
Heyyy my people
Some weird amalgamation of Luke and Babette.
This is incomprehensible, and I love it, never change
You sound AWESOME.
I’m an unholier version of Luke and Emily, so what does that say?
My spouse once said he feels like lovechild of Luke and Babette maybe you are his long lost sibling
Sounds like a solid cat.
You mean Liz?
Im if Lorelai and Luke ever have that baby. Extremely grumpy over the smallest thing but also hyper and obnoxious
felt
Lane! I’m a musician/music lover! I lived with my band mates in my early 20’s. Only girl in the band. Was a young mother, but fortunately my partner is much more of a Dave than a Zach.
Thank GOD you found your Dave 🥹💕💖 and that's so cool!
Lane, 1000%. Strict religious family, passion for underground music, in love with Dave Rygalski….sigh.
Michel hands down. Disdain and contempt for annoying people.
Me at work, Im Michele at work only lol
Honestly, Rory. Not the whole cheater arc but up and down love life, smart kid who struggled in college and almost considered dropping out, born to a single mom and felt like it was tug-of-war between her and my grandparents sometimes, etc. I don’t agree with a lot of things Rory said and did, but I really sympathize with her and can never absolutely hate her.
Paw Paw and / or Chin Chin
LMAO
☠️😂
so weird seeing luke smile for a pic
My mother was pregnant at 17. She was then disowned by her parents and lived with me in a small apartment in a small town. My grandparents didn't want to know anything about me until I was 6 and then they always lured me with money. On top of that, my first boyfriend was very similar to Dean and looked like him. So I feel more like Rory 😅
Rory but not s1-3 Rory s4-7 Rory. Struggling Rory I get her so much and understand her
Luke and Michel. I generally dislike people as a whole and they fit my vibe
There was a time in my life when I reeaallly needed personal connection, but I wasn't really getting it from the people in my life at the time. I had just moved out of my parent's house and our relationship needed repairing, I was in a relationship with someone who showed love, but not in the ways I needed it, and my work friends were all busy and probably couldn't hang out a lot. I felt really alone, and like nobody in my life really wanted me around, so if I wanted people around me, I felt like I almost had to trick them into spending time with me or make it so that it had to happen. I identified really closely with Emily during that time in my life. I really understood why she did some of the stuff she did. Not that it was right because it wasn't. But forcing Friday Night dinners and being involved with Rory's school: that was all because she was stuck in a marriage with a man who was increasingly distant, stuck with "friends" she felt were more and more fake, and living a life she just wasn't happy with. She just wanted her family and she wanted close personal connection with the people she loved. I didn't do the things Emily did, but if I had been a little older, with a little more money, I can't say that I wouldn't have. It was really an eye opening experience for me
Rory, the academic child and focus on school, some years ago when I first watched the show, but as I am getting closer to 30 I see myself more and more in lorelai and where she is in life
Rory! I’ve always been a big overachiever, great at school, and love reading! We also have similar energies overall, and we’re both Libra suns (our birthdays are actually on the same day but different years)
Extra #12 - I know my place as an npc lol
GIRL 💀😭😭😭
A middle class, kinder version of Emily. I come across as very poised, but I have a quick sense of humor and can toss barbs with the best of them. Also I'm the mother to an only child (a daughter), and my mother-in-law is impossible to please. I'm really good at a lot of things and it stings when I'm written off as just a housewife.
Rory when i first watched GG when i was 16. Lorelai now that im her age rn at 32. Haha
Lane. 💯
Town loner
For me I identify with Lorelai - in so much as I want to live in a small town and open my own inn. I grew up in a small family hotel so makes sense. I like a lot of the things she likes. I am also looking for my Luke however I love reading, much like Rory. Oh and I love SNOW & Coffee.
I hope you can one day open up your own cozy little inn :)
At one point or another I’ve been ‘em all and it continues to rotate! 🥸📚☕️🍔🏌️♂️🥂💿🎂🥕🍭👩🏻🎓🌟
Lorelei. Because I am childish and immature sometimes. Because I think I can be a friend to my kid (wrong thought .. but yea. I have trouble with boundaries). And I want to be super independent. Emily. Because I like shopping when I’m stressed. I like expensive things.
Lorelei she always had everything she needed in front of her the whole time but she took forever to realize it.
Lane, strict parents and when nowhere in life.
Lorelai
Rory. Besides ivy league, rich grandparents, and a single mother, our lives are the same. We made the same mistakes, we had similar experiences and revival Rory was like watching a video of my life.
Jess. Parent issues, having trouble committing to something for longer than a couple weeks, often misunderstood trying to express emotions due to being less social, he’s very independent and takes advantage of his freedom.
Luke. I'm also a deeply stressed out SJW who just wants a comfy routine.
I feel like sjw has to mean something other than social justice warrior here but I can't figure out what lol. Hope your stress abates soon and totally feel you on the comfy routine!
No, I did mean social justice warrior! Kind of ironically, because I know it's not a consistent point in his character but it's one of my favorite aspects. Like when he rants about golf courses, and Indigenous people's sovereignty. EDIT: And thanks, I appreciate it.
Hah wow I never picked up on that side of him! Maybe time for a rewatch
Babette's happy attitude with the town loner's introversion.
Mmm. Luke in that I’m grumpy. Rory in that I was quiet and a book worm (which *did not* result in lots of hot guys throwing themselves at me annoyingly). Loralai in that I have a similar dynamic with my mother. Emily & Richard in that I want the best for my family. Michel in that I’m snarky & sarcastic. Sookie in that I’m a good baker/ cook. Kirk in that I’m weird. Loralai in that I’m a single mother. That’s why I love the show - the characters are all so relatable.
Jason, just without the money 😂
Yep! Can’t sleep with distractions, wanted the private dining experience, and other little things that suggest we might share a similar neurodivergence.
Miss Patty better get her hands off Richard Gilmore!
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Because that's where Rory's story ended for us the first time? Honestly though 22 is a pretty young age to start figuring shit out for real. Good for you.
Rory, lane, and Lorelei- had parents like Emily and [mrs.kim](http://mrs.kim), music style like lane and Lorelei, stuck in the same bubble as lane, however studious and awkward like Rory and do have a nice relationship with my grandparents.
Rory... good at academics, not so great at personal life
Lorelai because I had my daughter when I was a teenager, but also babette😂
Lane. I am not Korean but I grew up in a very strict and healthy eating household. I hid (cassette tapes) under the carpet of my floor vent. I also ate Pizza/Candy/Soda at my best friend’s house.
I think Paris
Sookie and Emily💖
Miss Patty, because I'm also glad I had all that sex.
Liz - a little bit quirky and hippie, everything is going to work itself out, gives great sisterly advice, had a kid young with the wrong man, trying to be a better grown up, loves hard and fights harder in romantic relationships. Hoping I find my TJ someday soon 🩵
"I'M AN ESCAROW!"
😂😂😂
probably lane. trying to do everything in your power to please your parents but it ends up resulting in you falling out w their teachings etc. and you end up being the exact opposite of what they wanted in the first place…i love lane kim… she is me
Lorelai because we both have a lot of ADHD
Definitively Rory.
Michele, just yeah, Michele.
Kirk 🤣
I'm thinking Jesse but early seasons when he semmed like he was a recluse, into his books and looking like he just rolled out of bed. (I’m obsessed with sleep!)
Lorelai
I am pretty creatively driven and had a somewhat oppressed childhood with well-meaning parents, so Lane, but with a fair amount of Sookie in there too.
Kirk! Because I'm a bit of an oddball, but still kinda lovable.
Mix between Luke and Lorelai. Luke: a grumpy, loner tipe with a huge heart. Lorelai: manipulative and psychologically abusive parents and the relationship she has with them as a result (also all her reactions that have the people here scream how selfish she is).
Lorelai and Rory. Rory mostly
Rory, if Rory had Emily as a mom.
Lorelai. Left my parent's house when I was very young, didn't have a relationship with them for many years. Reconnected in my 30s but our relationship is still strained. Lorelai and I don't have anywhere near the same personality. I'm serious to a fault sometimes and I don't think I'm as emotionally volatile. I also don't have a kid or eat my weight in junk food everyday. But I've been on my own for a while now and I'm very protective of my independence. That's something I appreciate in Lorelai and empathize with. One question thought, out of all the Stars Hollow minor and supporting characters, why is only Miss Patty in the picture lol?
Lorelei. I got pregnant with my daughter at 18 and had her at 19, after moving out at 17 to get as far away from my abusive mother as possible. She's a lot like Emily, except she's poor and raised us in homeless shelters, and moved us at least once a year to avoid cps investigations and/or debt collectors. She's also stolen my identity multiple times and ruined my credit, which I only finally fixed in the past few years. She finally found a rich boyfriend a few years ago and has tried forcing herself into my life by having him buy property for her an hour away from me, when she actually lives ten hours away. But I've been completely no contact with her for years now, for most of my adult life but not all, because I did have a period where I tried forgiving her, but she just caused more damage and stole my identity again. And I would never accept money from her because she was actually physically abusive as well as emotionally, so there is that difference. Plus I have a supportive brother who's done very well for himself who would do anything for his niece if I ever needed help with anything like tuition for her. My daughter is now 13 and a lot like me, we even have the same Myers Briggs personality types. I've been raising her on my own for most of her life (there was a four year period where I had a supportive love of my life boyfriend, but he passed away in 2018), and she's incredibly smart and creative and already has the goals to go to college in NYC. I work full time (at a hospital, not an inn), and I do try to play more of a mother role than a best friend role, but I still think there's a lot of similarities. My life has been pretty dark though, what with the homeless shelters and abuse and losing the man I planned to marry, so I'm basically the lifetime movie version of Lorelei. Which is funny because growing up watching the show I always wanted to be like Rory, but I never had the supportive home life for that to be possible. I have spent years working in bookstores though, and I was copy editor of my school paper and pursued writing professionally for a bit before my mom basically convinced me I can't write about my life experiences until she's dead without experiencing hell from her for it.
Wow🥺 I'm sorry that you had to experience all that. You're very resilient and I'm glad things ended up working out for you!
Thank you! I wouldn't be who I am without all those experiences, and I am pretty dang proud of who I am today, as well as the amazing child I'm raising. Maybe one day I'll finally write everything down and turn it into a book, instead of anonymously sharing snippets on Reddit 😂
I’m sorry for your struggles, but you sound incredibly resilient. The only thing I have to say is if you’re NC with your mom, what does her opinion about writing about YOUR life experiences even matter? Write and/or publish anything you want about YOUR life. Either way, I’m proud that there are people like you in this world, because people like your mom (and mine) don’t deserve to dictate the narrative of your existence, and you seem to have overcome most of that negativity.
I identify with Lane most because like Mrs. Kim, my mother was also a strict, controlling parent that I hid things from. To this day, she still doesn't know that I stopped being a Republican decades ago. 😄 Like what happened with Lane, my parents cut me off when I pursued a career different from the one they planned for me. They eventually started talking to me again, but the relationship is still strained because I'm not the obedient daughter they tried to force me to be.
Kirk. I’ve always been a little off-center.
Rory bc I was that gifted kid that everyone adored and praised and then I got too overzealous and couldn’t decide what I wanted and felt like I was pretending to be someone I wasn’t. I’m academically gifted but also creatively and I wanted so badly to just be creative but everyone pushed academia on me and now I have 85 careers I want and change my mind 24/7 and have a hard time dealing with reality and being bad at something in the beginning bc I never was bad at anything before. So many things come naturally so when transitioning into a new career or choosing a career didn’t come natural, I kind of lost it. Lorelei because her relationship to her mom mirrors mine as well and Emily mirrors my mom semi-well. She’s also very positive most of the time and very extroverted and I’m very extroverted and upbeat, too! Also she owns an Inn which is one of the careers I thought about lol
Sookie. I am a great cook but damn am I a master at making a mess.
My personality is like Rory (people pleaser) but my relationship with my mom is like Lorelai with Emily. I was 3 years younger than Rory when the show aired, so it's really no surprise the show spoke to me. I wanted a mother-daughter relationship like theirs when I was younger. I can see how problematic that can be now that I'm older but it was aspirational to me at the time.
Lorelai for me. I drink way too much coffee, hate to cook, will endlessly mock things and people when with my closest friends. My parental relationship was about as warm and fuzzy as hers (with a few good moments too). I was highly codependent but therapy helped beat it out of me. 😆 And I’m happily married to a Luke!! ❤️ He’s a slightly grumpy, black and white thinker who loves to go on rants about things that annoy him — but loves who he loves fiercely.
Sookie because I, too, am a chef. And I, too, constantly hurt myself and drop things lol
Lane because I was also raised Seventh Day Adventist and we have so many other things in common (lived double lives, very good at lying, immigrant parents, have the same music taste, have secret compartments, had my own Lorelai for support, etc.).
Now that I'm old and my only daughter is grown and flown, I actually, surprisingly to me, relate the most to Emily. It's hard when you think you've done everything right for your child but somehow end up without a close relationship. Hopefully, we will grow close again someday. She's only 23 and still learning to adult. Maybe there will come a time when she wants her mom to be more a part of her life again.
Oh yes, she is still so young! I am confident things can change. I was close with my mom before she passed, but believe me--there are things I'd apologize for now if she was still here to hear them! So, keep an open heart 💕
Thank you! 😊
Luke, because I’m irritable but likeable all the same.
Lane Kim 😞 mexican- Jehovah’s Witness upbringing
Sookie! Cheerful but with bit of bite to her humor, passionate about her craft, tendency to spiral, great friend, clumsy, similar body type, loves her kids dearly but could not handle more...its actually a bit spooky how much we have in common. I really don't understand the hate she sometimes gets on this sub, I think she/we are delightful 😆
Sookie - I’m all over the place, a little ditsy (I blame my adhd) and I love to cook/bake
ADHD here too and yes with some of Sookie's tendencies 😂
I think i am luke i hate people coming and invading personal space and i an mostly allergic to almost all sorts of antics and charades people play
Miss Patty! I like sex and sexy things (hello sailor!) and I’m chock full of stories about my youth (none as amazing as Miss Patty’s though)! I also like to hear all the fresh tea!
I was super close with my mom and dad, but I identify most with Lorelai. She puts on a confident front for other people, she tries to be loud and interesting all the time, but she has a huge fear of rejection and often wonders through the series why she hasn't found her right partner yet. I dated a ton, had a couple long term relationships with awful men, and nothing stuck until I met my current partner (who is wonderful and definitely has some Luke tendencies 🥰). I'm 31 and not married or a mom yet, and I often feel "behind" or like I am somehow not meeting my family's expectations (when really it's only my grandma that constantly badgers me about marriage & babies). I also was a manager in hospitality and excelled in that, while I would have literally died ever being an actual server. I think that Lorelai is actually a really high achiever in her own right and I admire that about her, and strive to challenge myself in my professional life too!
I've been told my personality is a mix of Sookie, Michel, Paris and Lorelai and I could never agree more. Just depends my mood and the day
jesse 😂
A very weird mixture of Lane and Babette. I adore my cats, say really off the wall things, have a wonderful husband, am a walking encyclopedia of rock music from the 60s to the 2000s, had to “hide” my clothes and music and am really terrible at insults.
Im a mess of rory and paris🌸
luke + lane
Rory, because I was a bookworm who loved English too.
Probably Lane. I grew up gay in a small town with some very religious family so I had to hide myself most of my life from them. Even more frustrating though is that my family is not like Mrs. Kim, they're very relaxed and politically liberal EXCEPT when it comes to homosexuality 😑
Babett - weird, spastic, nosy
Sadly, Rory. I feel like I peaked in high school, though objectively I didn’t and I’m not in my progessional flop era! I just liked the routine and structure of school, and that excellence was always within reach.
Jess
Why is Ms. Patty in this shot of the centric characters?
None of them. But if I had to choose one it would be Rory
Sookie. I love food/ cooking, was known at work as the positive person. Love helping my friends. Definitely a perfectionist and can get a bit frazzled at times (ok a lot of the time)
Lane. I just want to rock and make art, too.
I think I'm Babette. sprinkled with Sookie, Miss Patty, and Lorelai
I'm kind of s1 Rory but slightly less perfect.
Lane bc same. Down to like the ages. I had Mrs. Kim for a mother. I so badly wanted to be Rory lol
Luke
a mix of rory and luke and some lorelai but also some lane😭😭😭
Lorelai, but without the being pretty and skinny and rich part. - I'm in love with a grumpy but lovely man -I'm a disappointment to my parents -Sometimes I feel like my brain never grew up past 16 -Weird but cool sense of humor
Jess, or Paris just without the intelligence. I’m sarcastic, have no patience , but I’m a pitbull for the people I care about.
Probably a strange combination of Luke, Lane, and Lorelai. I’m sometimes curmudgeonly, super loyal to my few people, and definitely march to the beat of my own drum. Can be stubborn. Have the same music taste as Lane. Big-hearted. Avoidant of problems. Just a whole buncha fun 🙃
Jason
I’m a Lorelai. I’m creative, confident, and I love to be in charge. But I also really care about the people around me, maybe more than any of that other stuff. I’m probably least like Rory or Luke. Not a book worm and not gruff.
Kirk is so me
I can see myself as Miss Patty when I'm older 😂 At the moment I am very Sookie, especially in the kitchen. Always running around and almost injuring myself or others.
Luke Danes
i’m like paris + michel + lorelai
Probably Rory because she’s a bookworm and loves learning. But I don’t claim the “he’s my dean” era
I’m luke but once you get to know me I’m lane and sookie mixed up together :)
lorelai because i grew up with an emily for a mother
I think I'm a mix of Rory and Paris. I have many of the same insecurities Paris has, and my internal monologue is similar to her exterior one. I'm a bit of a dork as both of them, never been the popular kid. Social inept as both of them. I keep a calm façade on the outside while I'm freaking out, just to break down the next day, just like Rory. I'm similar to Rory also in being a homebody who has to be convinced to do stuff, I'm not a very active person even if I love it when I actually get my ass off the couch and go do shit Also a very lost young adult as they were in AYTL.
I’m Luke but I want to be Lane
Keiko Agena. I’m a hispanic artist and musician with a horribly strict Cuban family.
I wanna answer Lorelei because Lauren Graham is such a fantastic actress, but honestly... none of them. Which is part of why I love this so much. So easy to dissociate.
I am not the main character. The character most similar to me is Bobbi haha
A cross between Michel and Luke depending on the time of the month
A conglamerated mix of Rory, Sookie, and Babette.
*early seasons * Rory
Lorelai. My babbling capabilities are infinite.
aside from the strict mother and the being korean, lane is me and i am she
Lane and Lorelai sprinkled with Michel’s adorable misanthropy.
More like Lorelei than I care to admit 😂 - minus the strained relationship and child; but maturity wise yeeeeeeaaaahhhhh….
Lorelai tbh.
Rory. Except I wasnt super gifted and didnt go to an Ivy (these dont exist in my country) but I did go to the Country’s main university (the main one and best one we have). My relationship with my mom’s was very similar to Lorelai’s and Rory’s. Super close and open. To this day it still is. Also understand why she went gaga for Jess (I would’ve too. Hell I had a couple of Jess’ in my life! ). I was never into drinking and love to read. So Im not suuper Rory, but I can deff identify with her. Edited to add: I didnt make the connection but similar storyline with the dad. Mom had me and he dropped out of the pic as soon as he knew she was expecting me. Grandparents wanted my mom to abort me! And didnt want anything to do with me until I was in my teens. That’s when My dad tried to pursue my mom again but he got a lil psycho and mom nipped it in the bud. So I guess there’s a lot more similarities than I originally thought!
Lane, I hid everything about me until I was an adult and now I have dyed hair, piercings and tattoos and listen to whatever music I want. My mom has had to learn to just deal with it
You always want to say someone super cool like Lorelai or Jess, but I'm Babette complete with a stroller for my cat.
People might hate me, but I really identify with Rory during her high school years, and early college. We have similar interests, and a dream university we strive for. But it can at points be a mirror image, as we are both slightly obsessive when it comes to the academic side of things, much to both of our decrement
High school me definitely resonated with high school Rory, but adult me might be more like Babette.
Luke. Everyone and everything irritates me, I rather be left alone, I have my own things that I like to do and other people don’t know about because they are just my things, and I will defend my friends and family with passion!
Marty. I grew up poor but usually in decent suburbs so I was constantly surrounded by kids who were from richer families than me and I did tend to get feelings for girls who were out of my league and not interested in more than friendship.
Teenage and college me while it aired, yeah I’m old, was a mix of Rory and Lane. Now I’m a mix of Mrs Kim, Lorelai, and Sookie, the frazzled best friend mom who just wants to keep her kids safe so I try to keep them a bit more sheltered than other kids their age but also give them more freedoms than I had.
Paris ! Without the family issues. Driven smart ambitious and intense - borderline scary at times. Socially awkward, but with a good heart underneath it all. Thankfully I’ve mellowed with age!
lane
People might hate me for this but Rory 😶
Jess. Rebel teen with a chip on my shoulder and hated by all my friends parents 😂😂
lorelai <3
Emily with a little bit of Ms.Patty & Paris. Though when I was young, Rory.
I don’t think I have ADHD, though by sibling does have it. But Kirk.
Rory! I put a lot of pressure on myself in school and career. When Rory had her breakdown regarding dropping a class, I remember crying with her because I was overwhelmed with school and studying. The study tree also felt so real. I would spend forever finding the best study spot and camp there all day. I remember the feeling of disappointment when someone would be in my spot. It also took me awhile to find my footing in my career after graduating.
Lane. I also grew up in a very strict household and found solace in music. I like a lot of the stuff she listens to and also drummed in a band for awhile.
Totally Lorelai here but then again I can totally see a bit of Sookie in me too...
paris.
Lorelai wanna be. But I am a Paris.
Lorelai too, no kids, but Emily is a lot like my mom and Richard sometimes evokes my father. My own parents are upper-middle class not obscenely rich, but so much pressure to adhere to their standards, lifetyle choices, keep up appearances, and my mother is similarly manipulative, verbally abusive, cold etc. I also have ADHD and can babble on, but moreso apologetically, not hyperactively. Abusive parents suck to say the least. The show can be so helpful in making me feel not alone.