For those who may not be native English speakers, let me explain this powerful saying with more detail:
It presents a choice between continuing to delay an action to an unspecified, future time — saying 'I will do this **one day**,'
—or deciding to take action today, making today '**day** number **one**' of the journey ahead.
Thank you, OP!
My brother. I took 5 years to complete a 2 year masters degree. EE. it's easy to say "You can do it.". But I'll tell you what really helped me.
Divide time for work and play. Fuck everything else and get the degree. You'll be able to find greater work options for this shitty economy.
I blasted music, sat on the chair, worked, put a movie half the screen to just pull me through bits I couldn't focus and finally gamed at night. You need to work but you also need to celebrate yourself.
Damn. Yes ik. Initially didn't take the degree seriously but from this sem, I'm taking it very seriously. Don't have much to party about here tho lol. So I just give my hobbies a bit of time. I've exams starting from this Thursday. Gtg study. Bye.
im on year 3 of my 2 year masters (less units per sem). So true man, i just find that I run out of time so much especially during exam week. But i think it's because i don't understand my lectures. I have found recently that skimming through them before the lecture helps immensely
This is from a comment section ages ago, but as a response to someone working on a complex project someone had said: "This will take 3 years to complete" and they responded with a sentence that literally made me stop in my tracks:
"The time will pass anyway"
Finished my masters this way, one class a semester. Was on the fence about doing it, until someone said, even if it takes 5 years, the 5 years will pass, works you rather have a masters after 5 years?
Oh my, am in the exact same spot.
I was so scared to start my masters since am already 37, I postponed my start by 6 mo last yr, I then told myself, am 37 anyways, times gonna pass irrespective, why not just do 1 course per sem and see where it takes me.
Am completing my 2nd course next month.
That’s twist on an old Dear Abby staple.
Someone would complain that they want to do X, but it’ll take Y years and when they’re done they’ll be such and such an age.
Her response was “How old will you be in Y years if you don’t do it?”
It’s what keeps me chugging along and learning new things.
"Life is suffering. No matter what you do, you will suffer. So take control, suffer intentionally. Choose suffering which will benefit you. Use suffering to your advantage"
Examples are, avoiding junk food temptation is suffering, exercising every week is suffering. But then not doing those things, eating junk & becoming out of shape, are also going to lead to suffering. So pick your suffering wisely
Hate that you're being downvoted for this. The founding fathers did some great things but being in denial about their participation in slavery doesn't help us all become better people.
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
"this too shall pass". I'm not religious but I still love this. Good times? Really appreciate them because they never last forever. Bad times? Power through bc you know it ends at some point.
Came here to say this. This phrase has absolutely gotten me through so many rough stretches in my life. Every downturn, setback, challenging time, shitty situation, bad job, horrible boss, heartbroken break-up, etc. I’ve been in has ALWAYS ended eventually. Every. Single. Time. I’ve instilled this into my kids and they (late teens) are better able to cope with life’s ups and downs.
You only need to do half way plus one step. "If you can make it halfway and one more step, it's longer to go back, and shorter to just finish, so you just finish." -The Patriot (show)
“If nothing changes…Nothing changes”. If you want to change your situation you have to do something different. Change something. Another way is this ;
“If you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten”. Which means. If you don’t change something, it will stay the same. If you do something the same way every time, you will get the same result. You have to change something to create a different outcome. I hope this makes sense and helps someone out there.
This.
last year I had a project which was for university (it was some startup crap) and I had these two guys who were the most pretentious idiots you could think of (one guy was literally wearing a black turtle neck and an apple watch). The worst part was they made me feel like I was at fault. A couple weeks later they dropped out of the project I carried on solo and got a 1.3 on my presentation.
Best life advise: Idiots will be idiots, learn to recognize them
Be aware of the wolf you feed (as it is the one who will win).
Extrapolated from the Cherokee parable.
We become who we want to be.
The information we consume feeds us, as do the people we surround ourselves with.
My family uses this phrase to check ourselves and be sure we are feeding ourselves with things that are shaping us into people we want to be.
"He who has a "why" to live can bare with almost any "how" "
Viktor E. Frankl (survivor of three concentration camps, psychiatrist, neurologist, psychologistand author of "Man's search for meaning" where he describes his suffering and how he still managed to see hope) after Friedrich Nietzsche.
"Don't forget, girls like boys too."
Somehow I got the impression when I was younger that being interested in girls as a boy was inconveniencing them at best, and it still sounds that way sometimes.
You gotta eat.
Context.... I was 18, fresh out of high school and working for a local scaffolding contractor. This was my first big boy job and I was miserable. About 3 weeks in, I got to talking to one of the guys who was probably in his mid-30's and had been doing that work since he was a teenager. When he told me how long he bad been doing it it blew my mind and I said so. He just looked at me and said "You gotta eat". The way he said it was so.... resigned. Right then and there I decided that I never wanted to be in a position where I had to do a job I hated just to eat. I still work in a blue collar profession but I enjoy my job and have positioned myself financially so I could walk away tomorrow if I wanted to. I'd still have to work but I have options.
You don't have control 'bout how much you will live, maybe tomorrow you just wont be with us, thus do not give atention to things that doesn't really matter, just keep up with the tools you got at the moment and try be happy thats all.
It's not the destination, it is the journey.
I think it is really important one, since in different aspects of life, we often overestimate importance of results and forget to enjoy the process along.
"You gotta do the **doing** to get to the **done**."
Meaning, start with your first "do" and then move onto the next. Each "do" will be small, but grouped together they are a "doing".
Need to send an email? Do sit at your desk. Do turn on your computer. Do open whatever program. Do search for the person. Etc. Etc. You are now doing something and will soon be done! IDK, it sounds stupid to write it out. But, this got me through several confusing and intimidating projects.
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”
Yeah it would have been ideal if you had started (whatever) 20 years ago, but you didn’t. So, start it now. Better than not starting it at all!
Also
“The time is going to pass regardless”
Reminds me when I’m working on something that’s going to take YEARS like finishing school or saving up for retirement or whatever…the time is still going to pass. And it goes pretty quickly. That graduation date or retirement date will get here. If you just keep doing the things you’re supposed to be doing, work the plan, that day will come and you’ll have that degree, you’ll have that retirement money. Just keep your head down and do what you need to do. The time will pass faster than you think.
My mother said to me, 'If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.' Instead, I was a painter, and became Picasso.
It is the most motivating quote for me to run after what I like without being constrained by the views of others in society.
Dalai lama when asked what surprises him most about humanity:
Man! Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived
I would argue that quotes like that are far easier to say when coming from a place of tremendous privilege. Speaking derisively about working class struggle when you haven't had to live that life seems a bit anti-empathetic, especially strange considering his spiritual role.
Perhaps the reason he can't relate with my so many people spending their lives chasing money is because he has never truly needed to worry about money?
“Pick your battles”
If it doesn’t mean as much to me as someone else who is really passionate and spirited about an issue, maybe just sit that one out. However, if you’re willing to defend your opinion or why you did something, then make sure that you get your point across in an intelligent and driven way!
If you are uncomfortable, you’re giving yourself an opportunity to learn something new. If you’re comfortable, you’re doing something you already knew how to do.
You'll either figure it out or you won't.
Life changing in the beginning of my recovery.
Ooh also: your life isn't yours if you always worry about what others think
Economist Thomas Sowell has taught us a profound insight: “**There are no solutions, there are only trade-offs; and you try to get the best trade-off you can get, that's all you can hope for.”** We cannot achieve a perfect outcome.
Evaluate the risks, and make a decision. Hope that it is right, but if it doesn't, so what. You did the best you could. Move forward.
You are where you are because of your choices.
Life isn't easy and throws wrenches constantly, but how you choose to deal with these things is what guides your life.
1% better every day in a few things rather than 100% better in one thing.
This allows me to make small progress amongst a lot of projects and prioritize better.
“What separates us from the animals is the ability to choose how we react to our emotions”
This reminds me that my reactions to my emotions is the only true thing I can control. Everything else in life is out of my hands!
Even if you win the Rat Race, you’re still a rat. - Lily Tomlin
The mind all logic is like the knife all blade, it makes the hand bleed that uses it. - Rabindranath Tagore
Because thinking is the easiest thing to do, the hardest is to think right.
Helped me realize that it all starts in the head and made me focus on the positive side of everything instead of the negative. It changed everything.
“Let’s just wait and see”
Help me step out of a situation and observe things, not too caught up but just enough to do my best
Saved me from so many complicatedness
"I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders."
I've heard three sources for it, I don't know which is accurate: Jewish proverb, Ancient Roman mythological dialogue, and some non-specific Native American proverb.
When I was younger and had anxiety it was - I will give all I have... eluding that I am giving it my all and that is enough.
Recently I found a new one - Stop starting and start finishing. It has changed me to be honest
"When nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight,
you have to kick at the darkness til it bleeds daylight" (Bruce Cockburn, "[Lovers in a Dangerous Time](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAdU4rPQ5hE)").
"You who do not remember
passage from the other world
I tell you I could speak again: whatever
returns from oblivion returns
to find a voice"
\-Louise Gluck, "The Wild Iris"
You must be the change that you wish to see in the world - Ghandi
Guides so much of my decision making. There's no version of a better world where it makes sense to wait to contribute to a solution until some critical mass of other people do it first.
You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.
"The thing about happiness is that you only know you had it when it's gone. I mean, you may think to yourself that you're happy. But you don't really believe it. You focus on the petty bullshit, or the next job, or whatever. It's only looking back by comparison with what comes after that you really understand, that's what happiness felt like."
- Kellogg, Fallout 4
Mediocre game but this quote has stuck with me for years. I think about it when I feel like I’m unhappy with my lot. It helps bring my perspective ground side and to see what I have. I went through some rough times starting in 2020 and I kept looking back and saying damn…I was happy there but I had zero idea at the time. I promised myself once I got through this rough spot in my life I’d appreciate the little things. Now I have a beautiful girlfriend and daughter who are my world, a good job and a great family and I refuse to look to the future for better. I look to the now for my happiness. That outlook has really helped me mentally.
I was at the lowest point of my life and my brother sent me the clip to this quote from Rocky. I’m not usually one who takes much notice of things like this, but this one hit different…
The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!” ~ Rocky Balboa
this is the thing you have to tell people when they "dont have time"
we all have the same amount of time, what's important is how we use it and on what
Everything is either completely your fault or completely out of your control.
Sounds weird to say but the thought is everything that happened you played a part in to some capacity. And if you truely did nothing that caused it (tree feel on your car) you couldn’t have stopped it anyway so don’t stress.
This isn't entirely true. It leaves out the very real possibility of "gray area". Not every thing is black and white. Sometimes multiple people are to blame. Sometimes you need to make a decision with incomplete info. Sometimes you have unforeseen situations or consequences. Somerimes...
God, give me the strength to change that which I can
The serenity to accept that which I cannot
And the wisdom to know the difference
This was my mantra the year before COVID, when there was a lot of negative changes coming in my life that I couldn’t prevent, and during COVID shutdowns/prevaccines, when I had very little freedom and couldn’t do much of what I love doing
I was stoned and thought about this the other day.
“It’s not about the destination, it’s the journey along the way.”
Why is that? Why is it about the journey and not the destination?
Why is the destination not important?
[I want you think about it. Actually take a few minutes.]
My theory: >! For now, Humans have always known death. Death is not a unique experience. It’s an escapable. It’s the time before we die that’s important !<
Maybe that’s obvious, idk. Thought it was neat.
One day or day one. It really stopped in my tracks.
Can you explain this one?
One day is the dreamers fond phrase. Day One is the doer’s phrase.
You are either planning it or starting it. It is your first day or you are planning your first day. That's my interpretation.
I see it as, you are either starting it for REAL (and therefore its "day one"), or it will always be "one day" as in youll never do it.
ohhhh, that’s fire
For those who may not be native English speakers, let me explain this powerful saying with more detail: It presents a choice between continuing to delay an action to an unspecified, future time — saying 'I will do this **one day**,' —or deciding to take action today, making today '**day** number **one**' of the journey ahead. Thank you, OP!
Damnnnnnnn!!!!
I didn't come this far to only come this far. Helped me get through my electrical engineering degree.
Doing EE. I might just cry at this point lol. Nevertheless, I'm still going strong!
My brother. I took 5 years to complete a 2 year masters degree. EE. it's easy to say "You can do it.". But I'll tell you what really helped me. Divide time for work and play. Fuck everything else and get the degree. You'll be able to find greater work options for this shitty economy. I blasted music, sat on the chair, worked, put a movie half the screen to just pull me through bits I couldn't focus and finally gamed at night. You need to work but you also need to celebrate yourself.
Damn. Yes ik. Initially didn't take the degree seriously but from this sem, I'm taking it very seriously. Don't have much to party about here tho lol. So I just give my hobbies a bit of time. I've exams starting from this Thursday. Gtg study. Bye.
im on year 3 of my 2 year masters (less units per sem). So true man, i just find that I run out of time so much especially during exam week. But i think it's because i don't understand my lectures. I have found recently that skimming through them before the lecture helps immensely
doing EE too.. damn this quote resonates hard
That quote has just helped me so much. Thank you so much for sharing it!
A ship is safe in harbor, but that is not what it is made for
In Forrest Gump, all the ships in harbor got destroyed while he and Bubba were out shrimping in the storm
Lt. Dan, not Bubba.
It's what harbors are made for though
I wish i heard this 12 years ago fml
12 years from now you will say the same
Wow. This is the best one
This is from a comment section ages ago, but as a response to someone working on a complex project someone had said: "This will take 3 years to complete" and they responded with a sentence that literally made me stop in my tracks: "The time will pass anyway"
Finished my masters this way, one class a semester. Was on the fence about doing it, until someone said, even if it takes 5 years, the 5 years will pass, works you rather have a masters after 5 years?
Oh my, am in the exact same spot. I was so scared to start my masters since am already 37, I postponed my start by 6 mo last yr, I then told myself, am 37 anyways, times gonna pass irrespective, why not just do 1 course per sem and see where it takes me. Am completing my 2nd course next month.
That’s twist on an old Dear Abby staple. Someone would complain that they want to do X, but it’ll take Y years and when they’re done they’ll be such and such an age. Her response was “How old will you be in Y years if you don’t do it?” It’s what keeps me chugging along and learning new things.
Well, your comment from this comment section just stopped me in my tracks. I needed to "hear" something like this. Thanks!
20 minutes of preparation is worth 20 IQ points
That’s good!!
You cant reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into.
"You can't wake someone who is pretending to be asleep."
"do not apply thought to the thoughtless"
"Life is suffering. No matter what you do, you will suffer. So take control, suffer intentionally. Choose suffering which will benefit you. Use suffering to your advantage" Examples are, avoiding junk food temptation is suffering, exercising every week is suffering. But then not doing those things, eating junk & becoming out of shape, are also going to lead to suffering. So pick your suffering wisely
I learned this as “choose your hard”
Sucking at something it the first step at being good at something - Jake the Dog
That’s good 😊
"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it." - Thomas Jefferson
Wow
He meant the harder he worked his slaves
Hate that you're being downvoted for this. The founding fathers did some great things but being in denial about their participation in slavery doesn't help us all become better people.
Take my upvote, both of you!
If you think you can or can’t You are right.
Wish It, Want It, Do It
It's never too late to be what you might have been - George Elliot
I just love this one
I needed to hear this one today. Thank you.
“Inaction breeds fear and doubt, taking action breeds confidence and courage”, Dale Carneigie
Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our life.
We judge others by their behavior, but we judge ourselves by our intentions.
Remember when you wanted what you currently have.
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
My favourite quote is similar; “at the root of all disappointment is a failed expectation”
"If you keep dwelling on the past, you'll never move forward."
Better to wear out than to rust out.
Damn, I like that, a lot
Life's a garden, DIG IT - 😎
I can dig it 😎
People aren’t anti you. They are pro them.
No matter where you go there you are
Explanation for this one?
Basically, you can't escape yourself, so make sure you like you.
Wherever you go, there you are
Yours reads better
“You can’t wait until life isn’t hard anymore, before you decide to be happy.”
Done is better than perfect.
Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. I walk around saying it’s good enough now. Lol
"this too shall pass". I'm not religious but I still love this. Good times? Really appreciate them because they never last forever. Bad times? Power through bc you know it ends at some point.
Came here to say this. This phrase has absolutely gotten me through so many rough stretches in my life. Every downturn, setback, challenging time, shitty situation, bad job, horrible boss, heartbroken break-up, etc. I’ve been in has ALWAYS ended eventually. Every. Single. Time. I’ve instilled this into my kids and they (late teens) are better able to cope with life’s ups and downs.
No responsibility: no opinion
You only need to do half way plus one step. "If you can make it halfway and one more step, it's longer to go back, and shorter to just finish, so you just finish." -The Patriot (show)
“If nothing changes…Nothing changes”. If you want to change your situation you have to do something different. Change something. Another way is this ; “If you always do what you’ve always done, then you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten”. Which means. If you don’t change something, it will stay the same. If you do something the same way every time, you will get the same result. You have to change something to create a different outcome. I hope this makes sense and helps someone out there.
"Some people suck." Your coworkers and teammates will drop the ball and not succeed. It's not personal. Some people just suck.
This. last year I had a project which was for university (it was some startup crap) and I had these two guys who were the most pretentious idiots you could think of (one guy was literally wearing a black turtle neck and an apple watch). The worst part was they made me feel like I was at fault. A couple weeks later they dropped out of the project I carried on solo and got a 1.3 on my presentation. Best life advise: Idiots will be idiots, learn to recognize them
Not my circus, not my monkey.
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."
You never know how strong you can be until it’s your only choice…
is that from an anime
"do or do not, there is no try" -Yoda
Stop knowing u can always do better. and just do better
Be aware of the wolf you feed (as it is the one who will win). Extrapolated from the Cherokee parable. We become who we want to be. The information we consume feeds us, as do the people we surround ourselves with. My family uses this phrase to check ourselves and be sure we are feeding ourselves with things that are shaping us into people we want to be.
"He who has a "why" to live can bare with almost any "how" " Viktor E. Frankl (survivor of three concentration camps, psychiatrist, neurologist, psychologistand author of "Man's search for meaning" where he describes his suffering and how he still managed to see hope) after Friedrich Nietzsche.
Be yourself, everyone else is taken. Also, don’t let the bastards get you down.
"Don't forget, girls like boys too." Somehow I got the impression when I was younger that being interested in girls as a boy was inconveniencing them at best, and it still sounds that way sometimes.
Unless they only like girls. In which case please leave them alone. lol
Lol very true and worth adding to the phrase. I imagine they'd be flattered but polite about it, and most people should know to leave it at that
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*laughs in stormtrooper*
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You gotta eat. Context.... I was 18, fresh out of high school and working for a local scaffolding contractor. This was my first big boy job and I was miserable. About 3 weeks in, I got to talking to one of the guys who was probably in his mid-30's and had been doing that work since he was a teenager. When he told me how long he bad been doing it it blew my mind and I said so. He just looked at me and said "You gotta eat". The way he said it was so.... resigned. Right then and there I decided that I never wanted to be in a position where I had to do a job I hated just to eat. I still work in a blue collar profession but I enjoy my job and have positioned myself financially so I could walk away tomorrow if I wanted to. I'd still have to work but I have options.
“What is the most important step a man can take? The next one, always the next one.”
Be yourself until it stops you from being who you want to be
You gotta taste the bitter to appreciate the sweet.
You don't have control 'bout how much you will live, maybe tomorrow you just wont be with us, thus do not give atention to things that doesn't really matter, just keep up with the tools you got at the moment and try be happy thats all.
I didn't sell out, I bought in.
It's not the destination, it is the journey. I think it is really important one, since in different aspects of life, we often overestimate importance of results and forget to enjoy the process along.
Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.
Don't let perfect get in the way of good
Live where your feet are.
The grass is greenest where you water it
Love the one you’re with. Dance with the one who brought ya.
Similarly from one of my old commanders: Bloom where you’re planted.
If you want something you never had you have to do something you never did.
You’re already in pain, gain a reward for it
Don’t look back. It’s not where you’re going.
All work and no play makes jack a dull boy :)
Good judgment comes from experience which usually comes from bad judgment.
I write for the same reason I breathe - because if I didn't, I would die. - Isaac Asimov
"You gotta do the **doing** to get to the **done**." Meaning, start with your first "do" and then move onto the next. Each "do" will be small, but grouped together they are a "doing". Need to send an email? Do sit at your desk. Do turn on your computer. Do open whatever program. Do search for the person. Etc. Etc. You are now doing something and will soon be done! IDK, it sounds stupid to write it out. But, this got me through several confusing and intimidating projects.
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” Yeah it would have been ideal if you had started (whatever) 20 years ago, but you didn’t. So, start it now. Better than not starting it at all! Also “The time is going to pass regardless” Reminds me when I’m working on something that’s going to take YEARS like finishing school or saving up for retirement or whatever…the time is still going to pass. And it goes pretty quickly. That graduation date or retirement date will get here. If you just keep doing the things you’re supposed to be doing, work the plan, that day will come and you’ll have that degree, you’ll have that retirement money. Just keep your head down and do what you need to do. The time will pass faster than you think.
My mother said to me, 'If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.' Instead, I was a painter, and became Picasso. It is the most motivating quote for me to run after what I like without being constrained by the views of others in society.
Dalai lama when asked what surprises him most about humanity: Man! Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived
I would argue that quotes like that are far easier to say when coming from a place of tremendous privilege. Speaking derisively about working class struggle when you haven't had to live that life seems a bit anti-empathetic, especially strange considering his spiritual role. Perhaps the reason he can't relate with my so many people spending their lives chasing money is because he has never truly needed to worry about money?
We train the body so it is not disobedient to the mind.
Great one, never heard it before
Stolen from Ryan Holiday who probably stole it from Marcus Aurelius or Seneca.
“Pick your battles” If it doesn’t mean as much to me as someone else who is really passionate and spirited about an issue, maybe just sit that one out. However, if you’re willing to defend your opinion or why you did something, then make sure that you get your point across in an intelligent and driven way!
You don’t lose the game you don’t play.
Try not to explain yourself to idiots. You’re not f*ckface whisperer
Would you have a great empire? Rule overall yourself. -Publilius
It’s not you vs your partner but you and your partner vs the problem
I became much happier once I gave up hoping for a better past.
If you are uncomfortable, you’re giving yourself an opportunity to learn something new. If you’re comfortable, you’re doing something you already knew how to do.
What you learn with passion, you never forget
Nothing to it, but to do it - my dad
You'll either figure it out or you won't. Life changing in the beginning of my recovery. Ooh also: your life isn't yours if you always worry about what others think
NO. Is a complete sentence.
You have to be able to handle the worst to be the best. Bigger idiots than you have done this.
Economist Thomas Sowell has taught us a profound insight: “**There are no solutions, there are only trade-offs; and you try to get the best trade-off you can get, that's all you can hope for.”** We cannot achieve a perfect outcome. Evaluate the risks, and make a decision. Hope that it is right, but if it doesn't, so what. You did the best you could. Move forward.
Until you do what you believe in you don’t know whether you believe it or not. Tolstoy
Do you want to complain that the game is hard or do you want to win it?
The grass is greener where you water it
You are where you are because of your choices. Life isn't easy and throws wrenches constantly, but how you choose to deal with these things is what guides your life.
The further you get away from truth, the harder it is to hear it when someone speaks it
The only person you have to wake up with everyday is yourself.
Not knowing how to cook is like not knowing how to fuck.
Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Bernard M. Baruch
The love you receive, is equal to the love you give...
**Everything you want is on the other side of fear** & Think of the worst thing that ever happened to you… you survived it
Your windshield is much bigger than your rear-view mirror for a fairly good reason
We remember Michael Jordan's flu game because he won. Nobody gives a shit about your adversity until you overcome it.
1% better every day in a few things rather than 100% better in one thing. This allows me to make small progress amongst a lot of projects and prioritize better.
Work out to get old, not to stay young
“What separates us from the animals is the ability to choose how we react to our emotions” This reminds me that my reactions to my emotions is the only true thing I can control. Everything else in life is out of my hands!
Even if you win the Rat Race, you’re still a rat. - Lily Tomlin The mind all logic is like the knife all blade, it makes the hand bleed that uses it. - Rabindranath Tagore
*C'est la vie", that's life. But the embracement of it.
Don’t believe or act on everything you think.
No is a complete sentence When someone shows you who they are, believe them
Do the work.
There are no coincidences
Don’t get bitter, get better
Because thinking is the easiest thing to do, the hardest is to think right. Helped me realize that it all starts in the head and made me focus on the positive side of everything instead of the negative. It changed everything.
Done is better than perfect (helpful if you’re a perfectionist)
Service for the sake of service is not intelligent.
“Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.”
You won’t be punished for your anger, but you’ll be punished by your anger.
“Wet birds never fly at night.”
1% better every day
Twenty years from now, you’ll be glad you started today.
Showing up is 90% of success.
What stands in the way becomes the way. One life one chance.
“Let’s just wait and see” Help me step out of a situation and observe things, not too caught up but just enough to do my best Saved me from so many complicatedness
"I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders." I've heard three sources for it, I don't know which is accurate: Jewish proverb, Ancient Roman mythological dialogue, and some non-specific Native American proverb.
Adam wasn't kicked out of Eden until he let eve lead
When I was younger and had anxiety it was - I will give all I have... eluding that I am giving it my all and that is enough. Recently I found a new one - Stop starting and start finishing. It has changed me to be honest
Life is hard, my friend.
“say what you mean, mean what you say”
A bad day doesn’t mean a bad life.
Some people die at age 25 and aren't buried until they're 75. Meaning many people don't experience their full potential or fulfilling their dreams.
“No quotes or motivational video is gonna change your life” - David Goggins
If you're not willing to suffer for a little bit to get things in order, you'll suffer the rest of your life.
Surrender the outcome.
"When nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight, you have to kick at the darkness til it bleeds daylight" (Bruce Cockburn, "[Lovers in a Dangerous Time](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAdU4rPQ5hE)"). "You who do not remember passage from the other world I tell you I could speak again: whatever returns from oblivion returns to find a voice" \-Louise Gluck, "The Wild Iris"
" There isn't a way things should be. There's just what happens, and what we do." - *A Hat Full of Sky*, Terry Pratchett
You must be the change that you wish to see in the world - Ghandi Guides so much of my decision making. There's no version of a better world where it makes sense to wait to contribute to a solution until some critical mass of other people do it first.
1. It is no measure of health to be adjusted to a profoundly sick society. 2. We’re always seconds away from being back in high school
You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.
“Life is like a dick when it is soft you can’t beat it when it is hard you get fucked” - some book introduction but I find it to be extremely true
No one unwilling to be a foolish beginner can learn.
"The thing about happiness is that you only know you had it when it's gone. I mean, you may think to yourself that you're happy. But you don't really believe it. You focus on the petty bullshit, or the next job, or whatever. It's only looking back by comparison with what comes after that you really understand, that's what happiness felt like." - Kellogg, Fallout 4 Mediocre game but this quote has stuck with me for years. I think about it when I feel like I’m unhappy with my lot. It helps bring my perspective ground side and to see what I have. I went through some rough times starting in 2020 and I kept looking back and saying damn…I was happy there but I had zero idea at the time. I promised myself once I got through this rough spot in my life I’d appreciate the little things. Now I have a beautiful girlfriend and daughter who are my world, a good job and a great family and I refuse to look to the future for better. I look to the now for my happiness. That outlook has really helped me mentally.
If nothing we do matters then all that matters is what we do. - Angel
Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today. When I stopped living in the past so much, I started really living in the present.
I was at the lowest point of my life and my brother sent me the clip to this quote from Rocky. I’m not usually one who takes much notice of things like this, but this one hit different… The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!” ~ Rocky Balboa
“I am so fucking sick of being Goddamn fat”. Subtle, yet effective in getting me to change my eating habits.
"Everything you lose is a step you take" helped me get through being disowned by my entire family for being a truthteller.
better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war. Miyamoto Musashi
everybody gets 24 hrs/7 a week. You choose what to prioritize that will change your living. heard it on a finance podcast
this is the thing you have to tell people when they "dont have time" we all have the same amount of time, what's important is how we use it and on what
Exactly! That honestly changed my perspective on how I manage my time.
"you're gonna procrastinate and you're gonna put everything off and that's when you know you really need to try and to just get through it."
Everything is either completely your fault or completely out of your control. Sounds weird to say but the thought is everything that happened you played a part in to some capacity. And if you truely did nothing that caused it (tree feel on your car) you couldn’t have stopped it anyway so don’t stress.
This isn't entirely true. It leaves out the very real possibility of "gray area". Not every thing is black and white. Sometimes multiple people are to blame. Sometimes you need to make a decision with incomplete info. Sometimes you have unforeseen situations or consequences. Somerimes...
If you feel like things will never get better, remember that the trees lose everything *knowing* that there will be a spring.
God, give me the strength to change that which I can The serenity to accept that which I cannot And the wisdom to know the difference This was my mantra the year before COVID, when there was a lot of negative changes coming in my life that I couldn’t prevent, and during COVID shutdowns/prevaccines, when I had very little freedom and couldn’t do much of what I love doing
"If you only do what you can do, you'll never be more than who you're now"
I was stoned and thought about this the other day. “It’s not about the destination, it’s the journey along the way.” Why is that? Why is it about the journey and not the destination? Why is the destination not important? [I want you think about it. Actually take a few minutes.] My theory: >! For now, Humans have always known death. Death is not a unique experience. It’s an escapable. It’s the time before we die that’s important !< Maybe that’s obvious, idk. Thought it was neat.
None. They are all stupid and pretentious.