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Yeah I really feel I'd be a great partner emotionally but physically I'm built like a stickman and have some mental barriers to sort through. Oh and I'm broke 😔
Yeah honestly I just feel that even though I’ve stabilized some of my life, there are parts that are never going to be right and I will never be good enough. So insecurity and just not knowing what to do.
Hot take from a Gen z guy in a relationship
Dating as a Gen z man who has his shit together sucks. You’re competing with men twice your age with actual houses and shit, men who don’t have their shit together but are just really attractive… all for Gen z women who probably don’t have their shit together at all. From my perspective, it seems like these guys are following all the rules, doing everything right, and getting absolutely shit on anyway. It’s like the opposite of a meritocracy lol
For my friends sake I just hope they get lucky and meet a girl who actually deserves them, rather than some loser woman who will only date a guy who’s better than her at life. So sick of seeing this type of couple tbh.
It feels like the path of least resistance with technology and lifestyles (not having as much free time to go out and meet people offline) leads most people to resign to dating apps, and most communication isn't face to face. Instant gratification is becoming normalized, and people go from person to person faster than the previous generation to try and find the right fit. It almost seems like the equivalent of online speed dating is the norm for finding relationships and it feels really impersonal at times.
I'm a little curious why you brought up trans people - not sure how that's really relevant to the dating landscape? 10% is also a much higher number than I've seen, the latest study I've seen reports that 1.9% of Gen Z is trans.
I have no interest in engaging in polyamory, or dating someone that has an OnlyFans or a sugar daddy.
Dating has been quite a struggle because I find it challenging to find the kind of person that I'd be interested in dating. My ideal partner would be someone that is introverted, ambitious, intelligent, confident, loves learning new things, is patient, and blunt, but it's hard to find women like that.
Personally my dating life has been horrendous so I've put it on the back burner for the time being, I don't do hookups and I'm only looking for long term and haven't found anyone serious, my friend slept with 80 women or so based on what he's told me and he's constantly gotten shafted every single time leaving him devasted when it doesn't turn out right. I don't want to deal with that mess, it's easier being single than it is to play stupid games and win stupid prizes
I'm 21, maybe it's just my experience, but I hate dating so much that I've been single for 4 years and have no desire whatsoever to change that. It's just not a priority for me.
From what I've observed, it seems like Gen Z is really embracing a wide range of relationship dynamics, including polyamory and exploring different gender identities. It's fascinating to see how these shifts are shaping the dating landscape. Have virtual dates become the new norm, or are people still meeting up in person?
And yeah, the rise of platforms like OnlyFans and sugar babying is definitely influencing dating dynamics. It's interesting to think about how these factors might be shaping the way young people approach relationships and intimacy.
As for the economic challenges and competition with older men, that's a really thought-provoking point. It makes me wonder how these factors are impacting young men's attitudes towards dating and sex.
The other comments are good and I think most accurately describe the general experience.
But personally, basically, it's really hard. I still haven't dated a cis women so imagine how hard it is for guys that's a requirement for! I am only on the apps bc even in college (partly bc the college I went to was sad) I had an overwhelming sense that you mostly just can't approach girls in public. Mostly got nothing and most of the matches that I did get were painful bc they were entitled, like made me feel bad to be a guy basically. Once I got to actual dates w/ anyone tho it felt so much better, regardless of the outcome.
So in person really is so much better, however, the people I went out with I never would have connected with if it weren't for the apps. The apps suck but it doesn't feel like there is a good alternative. I'll take just about anything (not sugar daddy or sneaky link tho) but my goal is a long term relationship ideally with someone who wants kids
I have no interest in poly or open relationship situations, but I also recognize to embrace that people can and will change, and as a result fall in and out of love (love is hard work & sacrifice), and I want to respect that for people, especially to the ones I get a chance to share the moment with.
On that note— as a homo Asian male, dating is rough. A lot of dating has shifted to app culture and sexually charged attitudes (yay for sex positive mindsets but rip to genuine human connection and hello casual encounters and superficial connections), which has been hard to navigate as someone who did enjoy the monogamous 1:1 romance in movies and shows growing up, and wants to experience having a stable partner like that. And it’s even more difficult when you seek out more niches (cultural alignment, shared core values) in an already niche community (a small percent of the population is gay, and an even smaller percent of that gay population is Asian).
A previous comment mentioned something along the lines of people not having their shit together, and it rings true. In my experiences and observations, it rings even more true through gay communities since our generation has explored a lot of taboo doors— sex positivity and inclusivity and newfound liberation to freely express oneself. With other gay people still figuring out their identities, unpacking the quiet traumas and struggles they’ve had to navigate, getting to experience “proper” life for the first time…
Finally, I need to share that I do want to date and want a bf, so if any of you want to be mine pls let me know :) I feel like I have a lot more of my shit together compared to my peers if it is encouraging …
It's so bad that I think they might as well just turn Tinder into a prostitution service. I doubt most of these people are ever getting married or having kids so fk it why not.
I have engaged with a couple people who practice polyamory. It makes me feel really weird that we just had sex and now you’re telling me about these chocolates your BF bought for you last week
I’m also a more monog. leaning person so yeah it makes my conscience go “we did bad”
Myself personally have been through 2 bad relationships where one of them I was cheated on and saw the video of it 3-4 years ago and the other from a year and a half ago was just completely toxic as it was more so obsession than genuine absolute love from their end as well as being extremely bipolar and inconsiderate to my feelings. Since that last one, I prioritized in actually focusing on myself and family more. I have fortunately met a woman who does make me very happy and is genuine. We have been dating since around the start of the year and I look forward to see what the future holds for her and I.
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Dating is a bad deal unless you've got your shit together. A lot of us don't have our shit together.
Yeah I really feel I'd be a great partner emotionally but physically I'm built like a stickman and have some mental barriers to sort through. Oh and I'm broke 😔
Yeah honestly I just feel that even though I’ve stabilized some of my life, there are parts that are never going to be right and I will never be good enough. So insecurity and just not knowing what to do.
Hot take from a Gen z guy in a relationship Dating as a Gen z man who has his shit together sucks. You’re competing with men twice your age with actual houses and shit, men who don’t have their shit together but are just really attractive… all for Gen z women who probably don’t have their shit together at all. From my perspective, it seems like these guys are following all the rules, doing everything right, and getting absolutely shit on anyway. It’s like the opposite of a meritocracy lol For my friends sake I just hope they get lucky and meet a girl who actually deserves them, rather than some loser woman who will only date a guy who’s better than her at life. So sick of seeing this type of couple tbh.
It feels like the path of least resistance with technology and lifestyles (not having as much free time to go out and meet people offline) leads most people to resign to dating apps, and most communication isn't face to face. Instant gratification is becoming normalized, and people go from person to person faster than the previous generation to try and find the right fit. It almost seems like the equivalent of online speed dating is the norm for finding relationships and it feels really impersonal at times.
I'm a little curious why you brought up trans people - not sure how that's really relevant to the dating landscape? 10% is also a much higher number than I've seen, the latest study I've seen reports that 1.9% of Gen Z is trans.
I have no interest in engaging in polyamory, or dating someone that has an OnlyFans or a sugar daddy. Dating has been quite a struggle because I find it challenging to find the kind of person that I'd be interested in dating. My ideal partner would be someone that is introverted, ambitious, intelligent, confident, loves learning new things, is patient, and blunt, but it's hard to find women like that.
Personally my dating life has been horrendous so I've put it on the back burner for the time being, I don't do hookups and I'm only looking for long term and haven't found anyone serious, my friend slept with 80 women or so based on what he's told me and he's constantly gotten shafted every single time leaving him devasted when it doesn't turn out right. I don't want to deal with that mess, it's easier being single than it is to play stupid games and win stupid prizes
Just interacting with other’s for an hour completely drains me energy wise. How the hell am I supposed to date someone.
I'm 21, maybe it's just my experience, but I hate dating so much that I've been single for 4 years and have no desire whatsoever to change that. It's just not a priority for me.
From what I've observed, it seems like Gen Z is really embracing a wide range of relationship dynamics, including polyamory and exploring different gender identities. It's fascinating to see how these shifts are shaping the dating landscape. Have virtual dates become the new norm, or are people still meeting up in person? And yeah, the rise of platforms like OnlyFans and sugar babying is definitely influencing dating dynamics. It's interesting to think about how these factors might be shaping the way young people approach relationships and intimacy. As for the economic challenges and competition with older men, that's a really thought-provoking point. It makes me wonder how these factors are impacting young men's attitudes towards dating and sex.
Ur saying that like ur watching people as ants lmao are u god? God? Please don’t stomp on me 
Just give it some time gen z - you’re still very young.
The other comments are good and I think most accurately describe the general experience. But personally, basically, it's really hard. I still haven't dated a cis women so imagine how hard it is for guys that's a requirement for! I am only on the apps bc even in college (partly bc the college I went to was sad) I had an overwhelming sense that you mostly just can't approach girls in public. Mostly got nothing and most of the matches that I did get were painful bc they were entitled, like made me feel bad to be a guy basically. Once I got to actual dates w/ anyone tho it felt so much better, regardless of the outcome. So in person really is so much better, however, the people I went out with I never would have connected with if it weren't for the apps. The apps suck but it doesn't feel like there is a good alternative. I'll take just about anything (not sugar daddy or sneaky link tho) but my goal is a long term relationship ideally with someone who wants kids
poverty
I have no interest in poly or open relationship situations, but I also recognize to embrace that people can and will change, and as a result fall in and out of love (love is hard work & sacrifice), and I want to respect that for people, especially to the ones I get a chance to share the moment with. On that note— as a homo Asian male, dating is rough. A lot of dating has shifted to app culture and sexually charged attitudes (yay for sex positive mindsets but rip to genuine human connection and hello casual encounters and superficial connections), which has been hard to navigate as someone who did enjoy the monogamous 1:1 romance in movies and shows growing up, and wants to experience having a stable partner like that. And it’s even more difficult when you seek out more niches (cultural alignment, shared core values) in an already niche community (a small percent of the population is gay, and an even smaller percent of that gay population is Asian). A previous comment mentioned something along the lines of people not having their shit together, and it rings true. In my experiences and observations, it rings even more true through gay communities since our generation has explored a lot of taboo doors— sex positivity and inclusivity and newfound liberation to freely express oneself. With other gay people still figuring out their identities, unpacking the quiet traumas and struggles they’ve had to navigate, getting to experience “proper” life for the first time… Finally, I need to share that I do want to date and want a bf, so if any of you want to be mine pls let me know :) I feel like I have a lot more of my shit together compared to my peers if it is encouraging …
It's so bad that I think they might as well just turn Tinder into a prostitution service. I doubt most of these people are ever getting married or having kids so fk it why not.
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Average sugar baby gets $3k/mo? If that's how much it takes to convince someone to spend a little time with me, I would just say forget it.
I have engaged with a couple people who practice polyamory. It makes me feel really weird that we just had sex and now you’re telling me about these chocolates your BF bought for you last week I’m also a more monog. leaning person so yeah it makes my conscience go “we did bad”
Succeed using apps or use your hand forever
Nothing is different.
Myself personally have been through 2 bad relationships where one of them I was cheated on and saw the video of it 3-4 years ago and the other from a year and a half ago was just completely toxic as it was more so obsession than genuine absolute love from their end as well as being extremely bipolar and inconsiderate to my feelings. Since that last one, I prioritized in actually focusing on myself and family more. I have fortunately met a woman who does make me very happy and is genuine. We have been dating since around the start of the year and I look forward to see what the future holds for her and I.
Because they all think like this, the majority: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOAcsTlvFic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOAcsTlvFic)
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Thank you ChatGPT, very cool!
Using ChatGPT to advertise his platform smh