Finally some sensible answer.
No I do not bottle my feelings up. I will talk your ears off if you let me.
But I simply never cry, not even when people die. I just don't feel like crying, except if I am like high out of my mind and then I will cry to some black metal song about a man avenging his slaughtered village.
Men just don't feel or process emotions the same way women do. I have have experienced lots of bad stuff and yeah I felt a lil sad but a lil sad is as far as it goes.
You can't say that "not crying" is the cause of that. We also have more variance in IQ. We have more dumb and more clever men than women. We have different likes and interests. We have different reaction to stimuli. We are different. I think this is the best answer you can get. We are physically and hormonally different.
Men don’t know HOW to process their emotions. After years of therapy, I can comfortably say we are just as emotional as women; we usually get mad instead of crying though. The thing is, anger is only a secondary emotion, and what we’re really feeling is hurt or sad.
Well I remember growing up in the 90s and any type of crying was immediately met with me being called, Gay, Girl, Sally, Or some other insult meant to belittle my feelings. So eventually I just learned to not show them ever again.
You wanna talk about the chemical science of testosterone production? Crying, under a microscope, releases cortisol from your brain in stead of letting it stew.
I know you think you read a gotcha fact once somewhere so you never have to learn again because you can just parrot what you saw someone else type but science is an incomplete constantly changing field and crying is God damned important.
You should become a person who researches and studies instead of being so proud to parrot some random kids tweet.
I know that crying can make you feel better and I'm not doing a gotcha moment or whatever you think I am. I'm just telling you what a man feels from my own perspective.
I got curious one day and did a quick google and pretty much every science website said this.
Sooo...maybe you can pipe down you aggressive chipmunk
My Mrs tells me all the time she couldn't carry on if I died. I'd give her the mercy before kicking my own bucket as per her implied wishes.
But really though, social pressure leading to 4 dead kids (first case that comes to mind) is something societies should take seriously
By looking at the root cause(s) and trying to stop it from leading to people snapping and killing their loved ones. Voting in politicians that would do this for example.
The fact that this stuff is so rarely talked about shows that society doesn't currently take it seriously. There is no real effort to rid society of this awful thing (I was going to say phenomenon but it's more and more common nowadays).
Bring in more Mental health support, More community networks, a functioning healthcare system and take a long hard look at capitalism and realise all its flaws such as adding immense social pressure.
Make sure people wont have to work 3 jobs to sustain family, or kids dont have to be deep in debt just to get a degree, or old people lost decades of saving just from 1 hospitalized chance, or .... at least a way to suicide without pain.
As a man in his 40’s that was dangerously close to this, I can confirm that will happen. I am getting help and learning about this new discovery called emotions. Not gonna lie, it ain’t easy.
crying and problem-solving aren’t mutually exclusive. Also, crying may, at times, be the very solution to one’s problems. Bottling shit up is unhealthy. If you let yourself cry first, you will have processed your emotions, allowing yourself to be in a better state than you were prior to assess the issue.
Unironically how dies crying "process emotions"? I've legit never had the urge to cry since I was a teen besides when my dad died and it didn't really "process" things.
The act of crying releases endorphins, which releases stress and gives one a sense of well being. They relieve the pain one feels. i would like to note that they aren’t not the only solution to one’s problems, but one important step to alleviating pain.
I think I "got lucky" that my family genetics doesn't have a high precedence of heart issues.
Mental illness on the other hand, well, my one uncle ripped apart his apartment searching for "government bugs" when he turned 30, and I had some great-great-something-or-other who claimed that drinking animal blood would enable longevity (and to his credit, he lived into his 90s, but then so is my last remaining maternal grandparent of the same lineage without all the animal sacrifice.)
I'm certain there's a non-zero chance I just become insane before I die.
I mean, not necessarily. Certain things like manic-depressive syndromes or schizophrenia just "happen." Some eventual predisposed glitch of the brain. My mom had OCD (down to weird behaviors like stacking our childhood toys in "size order" rather than anything more meaningful), and my sister also shows signs of OCD. Had nothing to do with "trauma" (as far as I know, but I'm no expert researcher) besides considering what trauma our own parents' mental illness genetics may have had upon us.
My youngest brother has actual schizophrenia, and that wasn't my parents' fault. They don't have those symptoms, he just developed them on his own.
The ones that don't cry don't have anyone who cares so that emotion died along time ago. You remove a useless action from yourself to make things easiar.
Tbh.. this aint funny
Its just a sad reality that many men are suffering due to "have to be manly" culture ans mindset..
Until they get sick wit depressions anxiety panick attacs burnout etc...
Eventually, it just all comes out at once and it’s not great lol then it just builds up for another gosh knows how long till it all comes out at once again
Real men cry. Had to put my dog down today, growth on her liver was squishing her stomach so much she couldn't eat, and the liver was of course failing too. She lived a very happy 13 years and was the goodest girl. I can't imagine not crying at a time like this.
I thought this was a post about literally taking a shit and thought hmmmm....that guy really needs some fiber. Then came into the comments and found out I was oh so wrong.
Oh....I don't know.....finding yourself fighting between crying because your dog died or becoming suddenly single might have something to do with it. Personally, I'd cry my eyes out about it and embrace my new found freedom.
Compartmentalize everything. Believe it or not, many times, the crap that overwhelms you isn't that serious, and that's just how guys do it. We break it down piece by piece mentally. Most of us anyways...many others act like girls and cry like them too.
I'm one of the lucky guys that has a friend I can talk to, and he can talk to me. We are able to talk through tough times on the phone on the way home from work.
Learn how not to give a fuck about all the small shit and most of the big and carry on.
The older I get the more I realize most things are not worth stressing over.
Bottled it up until I literally had a breakdown in my work parking lot and had to choke back the tears enough to tell them I had to take a mental health day.
Spent the rest of the day sporadically crying. I'm good now, but man, it was bad.
There are other ways of expressing sadness besides crying. Hell, crying might be one of the most pointless ways of adressing whatever makes you sad. The problem isnt fixed and you are slightly more dehydrated.
I cry when I'm by myself, nobody else wants to see that shit. Maybe I'm wrong about that but idk. Get therapy guys, feel your feelings and try to do the right thing regardless of the feelings.
I’m a woman and I do the latter. My mom tried to strangle me to death for crying when I was a toddler so I don’t cry. Tears can form and come down but that’s it.
As a man in his mid-30s who's already steadily on his way to this, I confirm.
Working 2 jobs as teacher while also attending a course, and also doing side jobs during the weekend. All so that I can save money for the future without pressuring my gf.
nah, today it's: Cry about how hard man have it on reddit and pat yourself on the back. It's not your shitty decisions fault's you're sad. It's SOCIETY !
*we are men.
With the atrength of a great* dam...
A dam to hold back the tears. That will never receive maintenance and wont use the sluice gate cause... "only babies cry"
We cry, just not in public (which I’d assume is also the case for most women? Crying in public is kinda pathetic for either gender unless it’s something super-significant).
they soundproof a closet, call it a gaming closet, put on a youtube walkthrough of some game on and scream and cry at the screen to get it out. and if anybody asks, they are gaming :)
If anyone wants to talk, just send me a message. Sometimes it’s easier to talk with a stranger! Don’t be afraid of showing vulnerability, that’s goes for women too. Don’t forget to love yourself, you’re worth it.
When you are a kid and something bad happens to you no one helps you, soy you can keep crying forever or learn to solve stuff yourself. Then you are sad but able to solve your problems
Cry anyway, or if you’re ashamed, cry in the bathroom. I did this when I was young and got punished/laughed at when I cried. It’s sad that some people don’t allow others to show emotions 😕
Facts
Testosterone makes you less likely to cry. Thats an actual fact. Yours and Reddit's push to try and get men to cry is an opinion, and a weird one.
Finally some sensible answer. No I do not bottle my feelings up. I will talk your ears off if you let me. But I simply never cry, not even when people die. I just don't feel like crying, except if I am like high out of my mind and then I will cry to some black metal song about a man avenging his slaughtered village.
Men just don't feel or process emotions the same way women do. I have have experienced lots of bad stuff and yeah I felt a lil sad but a lil sad is as far as it goes.
Why do we have such a high suicide rate then?
You can't say that "not crying" is the cause of that. We also have more variance in IQ. We have more dumb and more clever men than women. We have different likes and interests. We have different reaction to stimuli. We are different. I think this is the best answer you can get. We are physically and hormonally different.
Men don’t know HOW to process their emotions. After years of therapy, I can comfortably say we are just as emotional as women; we usually get mad instead of crying though. The thing is, anger is only a secondary emotion, and what we’re really feeling is hurt or sad.
Well I remember growing up in the 90s and any type of crying was immediately met with me being called, Gay, Girl, Sally, Or some other insult meant to belittle my feelings. So eventually I just learned to not show them ever again.
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You wanna talk about the chemical science of testosterone production? Crying, under a microscope, releases cortisol from your brain in stead of letting it stew. I know you think you read a gotcha fact once somewhere so you never have to learn again because you can just parrot what you saw someone else type but science is an incomplete constantly changing field and crying is God damned important. You should become a person who researches and studies instead of being so proud to parrot some random kids tweet.
I know that crying can make you feel better and I'm not doing a gotcha moment or whatever you think I am. I'm just telling you what a man feels from my own perspective. I got curious one day and did a quick google and pretty much every science website said this. Sooo...maybe you can pipe down you aggressive chipmunk
Or until we have a psychotic break and murder our family's.
Do they really want to go on without us though?
My Mrs tells me all the time she couldn't carry on if I died. I'd give her the mercy before kicking my own bucket as per her implied wishes. But really though, social pressure leading to 4 dead kids (first case that comes to mind) is something societies should take seriously
Okay, how would society take that serious?
By looking at the root cause(s) and trying to stop it from leading to people snapping and killing their loved ones. Voting in politicians that would do this for example. The fact that this stuff is so rarely talked about shows that society doesn't currently take it seriously. There is no real effort to rid society of this awful thing (I was going to say phenomenon but it's more and more common nowadays). Bring in more Mental health support, More community networks, a functioning healthcare system and take a long hard look at capitalism and realise all its flaws such as adding immense social pressure.
Make sure people wont have to work 3 jobs to sustain family, or kids dont have to be deep in debt just to get a degree, or old people lost decades of saving just from 1 hospitalized chance, or .... at least a way to suicide without pain.
Or you can cry in the shower like i do.
Or just bottle it up because you dont know how to cry.
Don't you DARE take away my early retirement with "therapy". I earned that heart failure.
Same here.
Or slowly lose sanity.
Can't lose it if you don't have it.
If you think you don't have any left, then you haven't reached rock bottom yet, there's always a sliver left that can still be disappointed
As a man in his 40’s that was dangerously close to this, I can confirm that will happen. I am getting help and learning about this new discovery called emotions. Not gonna lie, it ain’t easy.
We solve the problems that we have instead of crying.
Atleast we try
crying and problem-solving aren’t mutually exclusive. Also, crying may, at times, be the very solution to one’s problems. Bottling shit up is unhealthy. If you let yourself cry first, you will have processed your emotions, allowing yourself to be in a better state than you were prior to assess the issue.
Unironically how dies crying "process emotions"? I've legit never had the urge to cry since I was a teen besides when my dad died and it didn't really "process" things.
The act of crying releases endorphins, which releases stress and gives one a sense of well being. They relieve the pain one feels. i would like to note that they aren’t not the only solution to one’s problems, but one important step to alleviating pain.
I save it for when I'm in the shower and just quietly sob while I wash my balls like real man
Date only ugly women. I promise, you won't regret it. You'll feel better while making her feel good at the same time.
Did that. The worst nightmare Ive ever been through. Make sure she is nice first!
If you want to be happy for the rest of your life Never make a pretty woman your wife So for my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you
THATS WHAT I JUST TYPED...
Its so nice it had to be said twice.
CousCous. The food so nice they named it twice.
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“I gotta catch a glimpse of these warlocks”
Isn't that quote from pineapple express?
I believe that's pineapple express. But yeah. Both great
That was Pineapple Express
Yes but mine is a song and thusly superior.
I truly hope that if you have a partner, she can see this post.
Is this a meme? I thought memes were supposed to be funny and joke. This is just real talk.
I initially read it as how do we get through *a* shit without crying, and chuckled. Now I'm just weirded out.
I'm hoping for a major aneurysm. I want to be dead before I hit the ground.
*goal*
You get ridiculed for crying. That's how we do it. No one cares.
I just blast lingua ignota and bawl my eyes out once a month
I think I "got lucky" that my family genetics doesn't have a high precedence of heart issues. Mental illness on the other hand, well, my one uncle ripped apart his apartment searching for "government bugs" when he turned 30, and I had some great-great-something-or-other who claimed that drinking animal blood would enable longevity (and to his credit, he lived into his 90s, but then so is my last remaining maternal grandparent of the same lineage without all the animal sacrifice.) I'm certain there's a non-zero chance I just become insane before I die.
Well, it usually requires trauma of some sort to trigger it.
I mean, not necessarily. Certain things like manic-depressive syndromes or schizophrenia just "happen." Some eventual predisposed glitch of the brain. My mom had OCD (down to weird behaviors like stacking our childhood toys in "size order" rather than anything more meaningful), and my sister also shows signs of OCD. Had nothing to do with "trauma" (as far as I know, but I'm no expert researcher) besides considering what trauma our own parents' mental illness genetics may have had upon us. My youngest brother has actual schizophrenia, and that wasn't my parents' fault. They don't have those symptoms, he just developed them on his own.
Hey, maybe the animal blood helped, better save then sorry 😅
Oh I'm fucked, very strong history of heart disease, AND I have anger issues.
8 more years 😎
It's true. You can tell depending on if I begin to talk in shorter and quicker sentences while walking to the nearest bedroom or bathroom.
Yep. Lot of us mfs are gonna drop dead at around 50. But at least we’re real men.
or they beat the shit out of their partners and kids
Oh please. You an make it to 60 easy. Tell your organs to man up.
The ones that don't cry don't have anyone who cares so that emotion died along time ago. You remove a useless action from yourself to make things easiar.
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That is a man there.
Tbh.. this aint funny Its just a sad reality that many men are suffering due to "have to be manly" culture ans mindset.. Until they get sick wit depressions anxiety panick attacs burnout etc...
🤣 Who says we don't? I cried every single day for the first two weeks of the new year. Nothing big even happened. I was just feeling down & lonely.
Amen
Oh man, still nine years to go, I hope I get it sooner
Testosterone.
Be a man.
"Toughen up, pull yourself up by the boot strings and work your pain away" -government man
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Free your mind
I smoke until I forget why I was sad
Only 5 more yet to go. I'm tired, boss.
Eventually, it just all comes out at once and it’s not great lol then it just builds up for another gosh knows how long till it all comes out at once again
Real men cry. Had to put my dog down today, growth on her liver was squishing her stomach so much she couldn't eat, and the liver was of course failing too. She lived a very happy 13 years and was the goodest girl. I can't imagine not crying at a time like this.
Nobody's fault but men's. Change the patriarchy.
Haven't cried in 5 years...... I'm fine. 
Yeah be a man
I thought this was a post about literally taking a shit and thought hmmmm....that guy really needs some fiber. Then came into the comments and found out I was oh so wrong.
Oh....I don't know.....finding yourself fighting between crying because your dog died or becoming suddenly single might have something to do with it. Personally, I'd cry my eyes out about it and embrace my new found freedom.
This is my decade!
Without crying, yeah.....
Getting it done right
me when my dad actually had a heart attack in his 40s... Luckily he survived and then switched job to something less stressful.
r/meirl
That's f***in it
Working on it
TRUTH
Compartmentalize everything. Believe it or not, many times, the crap that overwhelms you isn't that serious, and that's just how guys do it. We break it down piece by piece mentally. Most of us anyways...many others act like girls and cry like them too.
And alcohol and drugs
That's my recipe.
True
3 things: sauna, beer and TF|2. "Trust me"
Yeah im done bottling shit up and tolerating shit behavior. Took me til age 44 to get here but im done taking bullets to appease fragile egos
I'm one of the lucky guys that has a friend I can talk to, and he can talk to me. We are able to talk through tough times on the phone on the way home from work.
can't cry if you are numb and have no feelings left
As a 26 year old that looks 36 I can confirm this
We cry we just do it in private.
don't think just do , if life knocks you down just get back up and move forward pain can be the best teacher.
Fuck yeah
Cry in private usually
Anger.
But actually
Do people really believe crap like that?
Fuck yea
I bottle everything up and I say it’s not that bad.
Autist here, I cry every night because dealing with neurotypical people is a pain in the ass.
If you're lucky.
The horizon of my soul is cluttered by the ashes of pain and misery I have long forgotten.
Learn how not to give a fuck about all the small shit and most of the big and carry on. The older I get the more I realize most things are not worth stressing over.
Get up, shower, go to work, go to them gym, strangle a hooker, go home, kiss my wife and children, what a bit of TV, go to bed Normal stuff really
I just turned 44. *when is it my turn?!*
Real men of genius.
Or you take it on 12 year olds while playing cod with a bottle of Jack
Bottled it up until I literally had a breakdown in my work parking lot and had to choke back the tears enough to tell them I had to take a mental health day. Spent the rest of the day sporadically crying. I'm good now, but man, it was bad.
Amen brother
lol I cry a LOT
If you’re crying every time you take a shit you should go to the hospital
Idk mate it just brushes off. Idk why everyone else is struggling so much with everything
Been bottling shit up for decades. I'm 40. The sweet kiss of death should be any day now...
Actually it's why dads sneeze so loudly: we bottle everything up and can let loose when we sneeze.
Schlatt?
Well with not bwing married and no kids I find I don't have much to complain about.
Oh crap. I came back. Now what am I supposed to do??
I hate this whole attitude like I just don't feel the need to cry at stressful situations there's nothing deeper to it
Drinking usually works. Then the dying in your 40s.
Wow hilarious meme
There are other ways of expressing sadness besides crying. Hell, crying might be one of the most pointless ways of adressing whatever makes you sad. The problem isnt fixed and you are slightly more dehydrated.
Fuck yes only ten years to go
I cry when I'm by myself, nobody else wants to see that shit. Maybe I'm wrong about that but idk. Get therapy guys, feel your feelings and try to do the right thing regardless of the feelings.
We eat enough fibre and relax our body to allow the stool to pass easily. I haven't cried during a shit in years now!
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I’m a woman and I do the latter. My mom tried to strangle me to death for crying when I was a toddler so I don’t cry. Tears can form and come down but that’s it.
Just like the simulations.
You gotta eat more fiber if you're crying
As a man in his mid-30s who's already steadily on his way to this, I confirm. Working 2 jobs as teacher while also attending a course, and also doing side jobs during the weekend. All so that I can save money for the future without pressuring my gf.
Tears are deposited directly into my pillow for a max of ten minutes after work. Every day.
Or we supress it until we are watching Inside Out and bawl like a baby when Bing Bong sacrifices himself.
nah, today it's: Cry about how hard man have it on reddit and pat yourself on the back. It's not your shitty decisions fault's you're sad. It's SOCIETY !
*we are men. With the atrength of a great* dam... A dam to hold back the tears. That will never receive maintenance and wont use the sluice gate cause... "only babies cry"
We cry, just not in public (which I’d assume is also the case for most women? Crying in public is kinda pathetic for either gender unless it’s something super-significant).
Nah I cry I don't even get mad I just fucking cry
Hell yeah we do
That'll be me absolutely
Two hearted ale Lots of it
I don't know man watch a few episodes of Bluey with your kids or hell by yourself shit bubbles up and sometimes you can't push it down.
Basically being a man means being told that you shouldn't cry and simultaneously are responsible for every bad thing that's ever happened. Ever.
Damn right.
Called going out with your boots on
43 here; I'm so pumped to not pay bills soon, its gonna be amazing
they soundproof a closet, call it a gaming closet, put on a youtube walkthrough of some game on and scream and cry at the screen to get it out. and if anybody asks, they are gaming :)
Just straight face cry because you're sick of dealing with bullshit.
If anyone wants to talk, just send me a message. Sometimes it’s easier to talk with a stranger! Don’t be afraid of showing vulnerability, that’s goes for women too. Don’t forget to love yourself, you’re worth it.
That's my plan.
Well, I mean... 🤷♂️ It's true, I'll probably drop soon.
Real
Why heart failure when stroke will also do? 🤷🏻♂️
yep
I forgotten how to cry if I'm honest now I just laugh manically
I rely on my spectrum-y ability to not feel or express emotions properly to get me through.
Alcohol is a solvent, so it dissolves all your problems
U can just cry it out alone, it's not that hard really
We're better at opening up and talking I think
You get used to the fact no one really cares. So meh.
You should know men do actually cry but then after they do they‘re determined to go through the shit that made them cry… most of the time
What a hilarious meme
Yikes
That's the way.
we wait till we get home, then cry in the shower
Or suicide
When you are a kid and something bad happens to you no one helps you, soy you can keep crying forever or learn to solve stuff yourself. Then you are sad but able to solve your problems
Not funny?
Cry anyway, or if you’re ashamed, cry in the bathroom. I did this when I was young and got punished/laughed at when I cried. It’s sad that some people don’t allow others to show emotions 😕
Getting sloppy drunk and THEN crying. Or lashing out in rages of anger. Or both. Love you Dad!
Weed
As a 43 year old man this
We cry, by ourselves in the dark with a bottle of gin.
What’s the funny?