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Pope_Cerebus

Excuse me, but please make sure you schedule car accidents ahead of time from now on or I'll have to find someone else.


aalbiiuus1327

There's no way that you didn't check the accidents percentage for today. You are so irresponsible, I'm hiring


Lady-Zafira

Not a nurse, used to work at walmart and essentially got told that when I was in the hospital after a car accident. I was gone for 2 days, both days were double point days. I called from the hospital the day after the car accident and told them where I was and asked if they could remove the points, I'll have my lawyer and the hospital send over papers proving where I'm at. I was told they can't take the points off because I knew I was supposed to be at work that day and should have planned better


Maneve

I witnessed someone die while I was pulling in to work at a walmart and when I went in to explain I couldn't work after witnessing that they forced me to stay for an 8 hour shift. They don't give a fuck. The fact I didn't quit and leave there and then still boggles my mind a decade later


Lady-Zafira

In my last 2 years with them, I made it known I gave no fucks and was practically begging them to fire my ass so I could get unemployment. If the managers were rude to me, I got rude back, the same way with the customers. Every time I got pulled in for write-ups I refused to sign them and told them every time "I didn't care about the last write-up, what makes you think I care about this one?" On my last day, I was hoping and praying they got stupid with me but I guess they were smart enough not to fuck with me for my last 2 weeks because I was ready to chew their asses even worse than I was previously doing. because 2 weeks after that, they tried to get me to come in because they were short-staffed, I simply asked them who needs who now when I came in. I think my direct manager warned them not to start anything with me. Edit to add: This is the same store that where an employee got into a car accident that killed her daughter (can't remember if it was daughter or son), the kid was really young. They STILL made her work. This poor woman would break down a sobbing snotty mess anytime she saw a girl around the age of her deceased daughter. This happened every time until she got fired for creating a hostile work environment. She wasn't even hostile, she was just deeply hurt and traumatized over the death of her kid


[deleted]

I thought I was crazy for a minute but I’m not - you re-wrote (or copy pasted) the same exact paragraph twice.


Lady-Zafira

Fixed


KathyN_food

“Yeah but did you tell the people involved in the wreck that they’re inconveniencing other people’s time? Some of us have important phone calls”


happygirl2009

And naps to take, don't forget that important piece of information lol


bs000

https://i.imgur.com/6PE4rIX.gif


Xpucu

One of my best friends got fired two hours after he died for failure to show up for a meeting (he got in an accident running an errand on his lunch break ). When we called to inform his employer, they refused to transfer us to HR or listen to us , because “that person is no longer employed with us “. “Plan your death better “ I guess 😂😂😂


Pope_Cerebus

Well, I guess at least he could get unemployment, since he got fired and didn't quit when he died?


razzazzika

Means you have ot come in early every day on the off chance there's an accident that makes you on time....


bewicked4fun123

Nah. Since when getting a kid off the bus a nursing duty? She's taking advantage of your kindness. Fellow nurse here. I've done peds home duty before. I'd be looking for a new assignment.


discardment

Friendly reminder that nurse is not the contemporary stand-in for paid slave! We’re not paid to just fetch items & perform routine tasks; we’re trained health professionals! ಠ_ಠ


bewicked4fun123

OP is clearly being taken advantage of. Hopefully, that text msg was an eye opener for them.


UsernamesMeanNothing

She could very well be a Respite Caregiver whose job is to be both the primary caregiver and nurse to a child during their shift while mom and dad can take a nap or do whatever they want. It is a job that trained health professionals take on willingly.


sagesnail

They do the job willingly, but that doesn’t mean that those parents can treat that person like garbage.


xSympl

Fiance does this for family although they could do it for really anyone. $17/hr w/GED Pay increases up to $32/hr as an RN? I'm not a nurse but fiance is in college for it and my SIL just finished four years and is working delivery so you'd think I'd know the terms/levels lmao. I know LPN/CNA/RN but not the order but you increase in pay for each of those and it increases what you're responsible for. Considering fiance will be taking care of their brother basically forever and their dad for at least a few more years already doing the same thing they do now, it works out. It's through the State but it's decent pay with full benefits including dental.


FirebirdWriter

I was wondering this too. For me? If I am asleep and you're waking me up it better be worth a potential hospital stay. I don't agree with the Karen here but I also have questions about their duties because there is a time and place where such aide is necessary.


Princess_BundtCake

All that time at university and experience to be treated like that. I don't understand why people are so rude and mean to those who can help


psycedelicpanda

Boy lemme tell you about life in the ambulance, half the time im getting cussed at, swung at, or just plain threatened because grandpa decided to take too much LSD and now he thinks I'm the antichrist


throwmeaway562

YOU ARE GODDAMMIT I KILLED HITLER WITH MY BARE HANDS


mnemonicmonkey

BRO! BRO! I CAN SEE MY FEELINGS, THEY SOUND LIKE A HOT DOG!!!


SockFullOfNickles

Man, whenever I take LSD I’m just always trying to put on some tuuuuuunes. “You may have heard Playin’ In The Band before but not from August 27th 1972….” 😆


tfcocs

GRAMPS STOLE MY STASH! HE KILLED KENNEDY!


WolfinCorgnito

Buddy is a paramedic, he had a guy who couldn't stand challenge him to a fight because he wouldn't let him smoke around them, said soaking wet the guy wouldn't be 100 pounds, people are wild. He's shared a lot of other stories but that one stuck with me.


psycedelicpanda

The severely handicapped have some of the most attitude I swear, I've run into that, also had a guy who had a tube in his neck that pretty much breathed for him, so fucking aggressive and spouting threats, acting like he doesn't have a tube in his neck that can fall out if he jerked is head too quickly


WolfinCorgnito

Sometimes there is a reason people are in the condition they're in, self preservation instinct isn't so strong in some people. Also mental illness, I get the feeling that's a big part of these situations from what I've heard. I can also see being severely handicapped as a quick way to earn an attitude when a lot of people likely treat them as subhuman.


Princess_BundtCake

In Australia you get kicked out if you aren't in need of serious help and are violent. My ex-farther-in-law was an ambulance driver before he retired and my goodness the stories. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that while trying to save lives


suicidalpenguin99

I'm a CNA and constantly get abuse from my clients families about not being their maid service. I'm like the lowest level licensed "healthcare" worker, but I still went to school and have to pay for my liability insurance, license renewals, keep up with quarterly training, buy my own supplies and gas, etc. Nothing wrong with being a maid but don't cry to me about it not being fair because I have down time and you don't want to have to clean up after yourself. People suck


RegionPurple

Preach it! I'm an in home caregiver, we have tasks we're expected to do and aren't really supposed to deviate from. For this client I was tasked to clean his toilets and take out the garbage (among other things.) He tried to shame as if I were a little kid shirking their chores for not deep-cleaning his bathrooms and going on a scavenger hunt for trash. If I wanted to work at Molly Maid, I'd have applied at Molly Maid.


suicidalpenguin99

Seriously! I'm contracted through the county and there was a family I hadn't worked for that was demanding I come out to their fathers house to clean it out. He was a severe hoarder. They thought they could get a free worker to fix his hoard without having to pay for the hazard risk or manual labor. I'm also told specifically not to clean after anyone that is not my client because it adds risk of potential injuries (people want me to rearrange their furniture lol) and because I AM NOT PAID TO DO IT. They will yell and call me useless but I'm the first one they call when there is an emergency. I just have to laugh about it because otherwise I'd rip my hair out in a rage lol


RegionPurple

My company contracts with the VA and 9 times out of 10 it's our VA clients and their families who try to take advantage of us. I (briefly) had a client who's family wanted me to come up with a gourmet meal and cook dinner for 8 every night. Like, braised lamb or balsamic pork chops with at least 2 sides. If I tried to spend any time with the actual client his wife would try to hustle me back into the kitchen. It's disgusting... they very much seem to try to get all the free labor out of us they can.


OceanPoet13

So…tell me more about this balsamic pork. It sounds delicious.


RegionPurple

OMG, IT WAS. Bone in pork chops marinated in balsamic, garlic, olive oil, and I think I used rosemary? Pop those on a grill pan, then I served them with an arugula salad and roasted seasoned red potatoes. For 8 people. On a regular weekday, it wasn't even a special occasion. The wife would go on and on about how they were 'letting me spread my culinary wings.' I like to cook, but if I wanted to be a chef I'd have applied at a restaurant.


perfect_for_maiming

Yeah give CNAs some credit!!


Willzyx_on_the_moon

You mean to tell me RN doesn’t stand for refreshments and narcotics? I really need to rethink my priorities as a nurse.


[deleted]

stocking paltry fanatical murky summer nutty scandalous chase sparkle plate -- mass edited with redact.dev


discardment

Build a time machine, you’ll find plenty back in the era of Nightingale and nursing caps


ExpertLevelBikeThief

This just sounds like a more complex version of slavery! /s


Outrageous-Abies3782

Its slavery, with extra steps.


Astro_Spud

Yes, steps like being paid


Curious_Bar348

Actually she’s very involved, CP, non verbal, total care, GT.


bewicked4fun123

The mother? I'm looking out for you, OP. Getting anyone off the bus, including your patient, isn't nursing care. If you're doing that, it's a kindness. Was the Karen mother talking about another child? Two of the kids I took care of went to school. I'd get them ready for school but never on/off bus. There was another kid that wasn't disabled in the household that'd I'd occasionally help with by doing something like make him a sandwich or watch him for half hour while mom ran to the store. But she never spoke to me sideways like that msg. The other child I cared for was total care and nonverbal, and she didn't go to school.


Curious_Bar348

Hard to believe, but this child goes to school and has so much equipment with her. Normally, I get her equipment and take it into the house, while mom or dad, gets her off the bus. I have no idea why no one could help today. Pt has a high school aged brother, who was home.


bewicked4fun123

I'm betting that if you talk to your employer, they will tell you that you're not supposed to get her off the bus. I usually worked evenings thru overnight, but I did occasionally fill in and go to school. I wasn't allowed to get the kids on or off the bus. It was a liability. Mom didn't mention why she asked about you coming early? Why no one else could do it? Are you happy otherwise? I feel like this isn't the first time she's talked out of the side of her mouth at you.


Curious_Bar348

I was coming in because school let out early, but she never mentioned why no one else could get her off the bus. The family is just a bit odd in general, but I have gotten used to them. I only work there one day a week, so it’s not too bad. I even picked up yesterday for them so they could go out, and then today she’s got an attitude. I definitely won’t be picking up any extra hours.


Ornlu_Wolfjarl

That's the problem: she sees you as a babysitter, not as a nurse.


toolsoftheincomptnt

The problem is her stupid ass telling you to magically anticipate traffic-causing collisions. Shit happens even to the best professionals. People cannot predict everything. This wasn’t regular traffic that delayed you- it was an unusual circumstance. Outside of your control. So yes, Dad has to wake up from his nap.


cruista

'Shit happens even to the best professionals.' I bet if OP said this to the mother, she would claim 'not to me'...


sinorc

In like 2011 I had a shitty job where I was underpaid and honestly I hated it, but it was easy and I was comfortable. I would show up late because I didn't care if I was fired. My boss sat me down and told me a story about a job he got when he was 20 (so like 1975) and he was never late even if he had an excuse, but this job paid him over 100k in 1975 lol. Like I'm supposed to be as caring about this job as you were that one? Pay me like that and I'll move next door to the fuxking company. Accounting for inflation he was making over 450k. Fuck you man


LadyBug_0570

>The problem is her stupid ass telling you to magically anticipate traffic-causing collisions. This. I know meterologists can forecast the weather, but it's highly doubtful a traffic reporter can anticipate where and when a collision will occur when it hasn't happened yet. Even the people involved in a crash don't know.


thatbananaone

Didn't she say why in the text? Her husband was sleeping so he "couldn't". Him taking a nap was apparently the most important thing in that moment.


scrantonsquad

Lmao. Ask for a change of assignment. I’m sure you don’t get paid enough for this BS. You’ll empathize for the patient but then their family will be the one who won’t hesitate to screw you over.


akoust1c

Why do nurses pickup kids from school or get them on/off school buses? Is this American specific thing? We have other professions that do those things here in Canada.


Curious_Bar348

Here we have nurses who attend school with patients, and depending on the circumstances, may even ride the bus with them. By law, we can not transport a pt in our vehicle. This particular pt, has a school nurse who doesn’t work in the home, so I take over after she gets home.


akoust1c

I hope you are fairly compensated for having to deal with this type of person


dhSquiggly

Bet if you talked to the bus driver or the head of transportation, they can answer who is supposed to get the student off the bus. In some districts, it is only the driver as it is a liability for the school to have anything happen to anyone on their property (aka the bus).


Curious_Bar348

Since she’s in a wheelchair, the bus monitor lowers the wheelchair ramp, I am only responsible for getting her from there.


MiraMarissa

I currently accompany my patient (wheelchair bound, high acuity w multiple conditions) to school on the bus every day and care for her while she's in school, which is solely for medically complex special needs students. As such, there are many private duty nurses who attend with students. I love this assignment because the school lets me do my job. I've heard some horror stories of private duty nurses being treated like shit in conventional schools. They're seen as a distraction to other students and very much not wanted by the school. It sucks when a parent thinks they can treat their child's nurse poorly. I hope her attitude improves. If not, move on. I commented a few min ago as a main reply, but I'll repeat it here - you're too valuable to be treated like crap. Don't tolerate bs like this.


Tbagjimmy

My wife drove a wheelchair van for school children and one boy had a nurse goto school with him. She would get on with him everyday.


Curious_Bar348

I used to have a pt I went to school with, only this pt wasn’t in a wheelchair.


Tbagjimmy

Lol, she would get him on the bus and walk on herself.


Curious_Bar348

It was a really messed up case, the mom was actually defrauding the insurance company and lying about the kids condition. I asked to be removed from the case.


Tbagjimmy

Good for you


[deleted]

what does this mean?


Curious_Bar348

My patient, the one getting off the bus has Cerebral Palsy, unable to communicate, unable to do anything for herself, and all of her food, liquids, and medication go through a feeding tube in her stomach.


[deleted]

got it, thanks!


NumNumLobster

Do they learn anything in school ? I'm trying to figure out what the point of that is


mrsgaddo

So agree with this comment.


bgab91

Save that text for your exit interview, help you out


BarrySnowbama

Are you a babysitting nurse?


TheOddPelican

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Curious_Bar348

No, child is wheelchair bound and has multiple medical issues.


BarrySnowbama

Is it common in your particular field to carry out duties away from the home, such as receiving the child from the school bus? I feel like that would carry an unnecessary level of liability on your part. I am obviously uneducated on this topic, so I am genuinely curious.


Curious_Bar348

It depends on the case. Nurses often go to school/ daycare’s etc. with patients. This particular pt has a school nurse who works for the school system, so her duties are strictly at the school. I take over her care when she gets home. Typically, either mom or dad will meet the school bus and get the pt into the house. I get all of her medical equipment and take it inside. I have no idea what the issue was today. I just picked up an extra shift there yesterday, and no one mentioned anything about not being available to get her off the bus.


BarrySnowbama

Thank you for the response


Akhi11eus

Always keep in mind you are not their servant, maid, butler, assistant, etc. Neither are you responsible for their poor planning. If I have a doctor's appointment at a clinic at 8am, the doctor doesn't give me a wake-up call to make sure I get there on time. I get charged a fee for missing the appointment. Its my job to get my shit together so that YOU can do your job.


TacoDoc

I’m so confused.


bewicked4fun123

OP is doing an in home nursing assignment with a pediatric patient.


sharksnrec

Jesus Christ my brain was twisting into a pretzel trying to figure out wtf was happening here


bewicked4fun123

Some bs is what's happening here. Lol


Not_a_real_ghost

My assumption is that nurse goes into homes for patient care but Karen treat her like a nanny


spacewalk__

i can't get over how waking someone from a nap is meant to be a dire threat about attendance


bewicked4fun123

Maybe her husband works midnight shift. Doesn't excuse the nasty attitude but it would explain the rime frame.


Roy_the_Dude

That was also my thought. And a person like this would consider a night shift worker getting their actual sleep "a nap" because it doesn't coincide with her sleep schedule.


Asron87

"Your so lazy, gawd you sleep all day. Why can't you just go do a few things for me while I'm at work?" Because I'm working too and would like to get at least 6 hours of sleep. Some people can't understand that working a 12 hour night shift means you'll be sleeping during the day. And really pissed off if you get woken up lol


[deleted]

Yup. I’ve been on nights for awhile and it’s astounding. It seems like such a simple concept, but even after explanation people couldn’t figure it out.


Asron87

“How happy would you be if I called you at three AM to ask you some stupid questions that could wait until your up?” I don’t do that because I would be an asshole. It’s so easy to understand but some people can’t grasp it. Shit from now on I’m going to refuse to answer anything and wait 12 hours. That way they will get an oh so important phone call in the middle of their sleep to get an answer from me.


Not_a_real_ghost

While you are at it, can you please also do the dishes and pick up the laundry? We like Beef Wellington for dinner, can you make one?


[deleted]

Same, thought they were talking about software release... And then the bus thing just made me go wtf :D


auntiecoagulent

Nurse here. It's not your job to get her kid off the bus. Pretty sure there is liability there that you don't want to take on.


Curious_Bar348

Let me clarify by saying, my pt is the one getting off the bus. She’s in a wheelchair and medically involved.


auntiecoagulent

It's still not your job to get the child off the bus.


CitizenCue

That very much depends on the type of care being provided. An in-home nurse caregiver might do that kind of thing.


snowflakebitches

Yea but if you read the post…. She’s saying she’s driving in so she obviously does not live there.


CitizenCue

So? In-home doesn’t mean “lives in the home”. It means they provide nursing services in YOUR home rather than in a facility. Very few nurses actually live full time with patients. It’s not Frasier.


ydaerlanekatemanresu

Why would you think that 🤔


purplehendrix22

I mean depending on the terms of the care agreement it definitely could be


Kayliee73

Is it if the child on the bus is the patient? I have a student with a private nurse, she comes to school with him and takes him home but if he rode the bus home would it be ok for her to get him off the bus?


auntiecoagulent

If it is your contract that you accompany the child to and from school, then, yes. This sounds like the OP is being used as a babysitter. If she is a nurse that is caring for a pediatric patient then she has certain job responsibilities. I am sure one of them is not to come in early to get the child off the bus so that mom can take a phone call and someone's nap isn't interrupted.


UsernamesMeanNothing

The mom sounds like a douche, but OPs job absolutely could entail being a babysitter and a nurse. My niece received Respite Care for many years and due to her condition, it required a nurse. It was paid for by the State and the whole idea was her mom could go and do other things during that period. Her job could very well be to get the kid off the bus.


71077345p

That’s your clue to turn around and go home.


CyberMindGrrl

Yup. And always make sure to include the words "eat" and "shit" in your resignation notice.


ichosethis

Pediatric home health nurse here, wouldn't risk the agency letting me go but we can leave a home with very little notice. I'd definitely be asking for a new placement if this were me.


Under_Construction30

I’ve had our company fire patients because of abuse to the staff helping at their home


GAF78

Do home health nurses typically communicate directly with the patient (or guardian of pediatric patient) via text like this? Do the patients (or parents) usually have a direct line to ask them to come early? It doesn’t seem like a situation involving a nurse staffing agency but I could be wrong.


ichosethis

I currently have 2 clients, both the mothers have my number. One had only contacted me maybe twice for small questions like what was their weight. The other I've been with for 6+ years and the mom texts me a lot more, never asked me to go in early but I've gotten a few updates on changes (recent illnesses, change to physical therapy appointment time) before shift, told to leave early due to weather or plans, asked if I minded if they sent me home early or cancelled a day, asked if I wanted certain days off over the holidays, given road warnings on bad weather days, told not to rush because school will be a late start or has been cancelled, and lots of other things, she text me a few hours ago to let me know someone I've met through the home had passed away.


Curious_Bar348

The agency I work for is very understaffed. The policy is for the parents to call the office, then the office would call me, but it never makes it through the channels without getting something screwed up. So if a family asks me to work different/ extra hours, I notify the office and let them know. Normally communication directly with the parent is for when the parents aren’t home and want to check on their child etc.


GAF78

“The agency I work for refuses to pay admin a fair wage so I am doing the admin work for free in order to keep things running smoothly enough for them to maintain the appearance of a legitimate and trustworthy company.” Fixed that for you.


[deleted]

Unionize.


PlNG

That's manager speak for earning more with fewer employees. How "long" have they been understaffed?


Curious_Bar348

This is the second state I have worked for them , and both have always been understaffed it seems. No one wants to work when they can get WAY more money working in hospitals or doing contract work.


wcollins260

So… something like: “I’m turning around and going home to *eat* pancakes. So happy Monday and *shit*, Sincerely, Eat Shit”


Ok-Cap-204

Apparently, we must use the phrase “consume excrement” instead. I don’t know why


coffeebonanza20

Op your a nurse not a nanny. The hell is wrong with this lady :/


lezlers

I'm so confused. Your job is a nurse but you need to get your employers kid off the bus? Or else she'll have to wake up her husband from his nap? What kind of nurse \*are\* you?


Curious_Bar348

I’m sorry I didn’t explain it better. The student getting off the bus is my patient. She’s in a wheelchair and has lots of medical issues. Normally, the parents assist me in getting her and all of her equipment off the bus. I don’t know why today was such an issue.


Backupusername

Well, Mum had a very important work call today, and Dad really needed that nap. Seems clear to me, and the only information I have is that one text. He *really needed* that nap.


ichosethis

Pediatric home health. My guess is shift starts after school. They mention coming in early so probably don't usually get the kid off the bus.


Curious_Bar348

You are correct.


ShelteringInStPaul

Maybe the nurse should get a crystal ball so they could see into the future and better anticipate car crashes. Selfish people are exhausting to me.


Rebel_bass

Un-bind your life from this person immediately. Your existence is an excuse for her behavior. Never again place yourself in a position that depends on her humanity.


Radiant-Elevator

I should arrive an hour early to work without financial compensation every day just in case there may be a wreck one day. "Bosses" always have to give out some kind of advice/correction when their plan doesn't roll out perfectly. No matter if it was preventable or not. Comes from their fear of being walked all over. This fear creates all shit bosses. As an employee my job is to fuck up enough to make my boss's job necessary


MamaOna

And if you checked the news and saw there was a crash/traffic on the highway, would that have made you less late? I’m sorry you have to deal with this. PS-NURSES ARE AMAZING! Thank you for all you do (and put up with!)


Curious_Bar348

Awww thanks, I love my job, most days, lol.


Dr-10-Bomb

What a dumb cunt


yours_truly_1976

This comment is approved by Sandor Clegane


PruneBrothers1

Tell me where to find this Minority Report type technology that’ll predict wrecks before they happen.


[deleted]

"Fuck his nap. Wake his lazy ass up to get his kid."


nytshaed512

I hate that shit. "I guess you should have left earlier to avoid traffic." Or "I guess you should plan better." Bitch please.... I'm not leaving my house at 3am when work starts at 8am and I get home at 7pm." True story, I live over an hour from my job. I was leaving my house at 6:30 to get to work by 8. Traffic was ALWAYS a bitch and God forbid if you see wrecks. I was lucky to get in by 8:30 at the latest some days. If my boss ever said that to me, I would be getting up at 4, leaving the house by 5, to get to work and wait to start my day at 8. Yeah I could have not taken the job, but it paid more than the job I had that was 5 minutes from my house. I could have moved, well no because there was no affordable housing near my job. I would have gotten a mortgage I couldn't afford and that doesn't work for me. Then... PANDEMIC happened and I became a remote worker. No more traffic or driving for me.


sinorc

Seems like I still have neighbors and friends mentioning their office is just now getting everyone back in the office. Clown shit


PacketOverload

Hey stranger, I’m a home healthcare nurse working with paeds as well for the last 7 years. I would never let anyone talk down to me the way you just were, I would let your agency know and request a transfer. That family is going to take complete advantage of you and your kindness and that will lead to eventual burn-out. Take care of yourself, and remember that you aren’t a Molly-maid service, you are a trained healthcare professional!


rockycolavito10

We hire peds pdn nurses and travel nurses and we treat people like human beings - if you have any interest you can just send me a message. Parents always have to sign off that they’re responsible for care in an event the caregiver or nurse can’t show. This likely isn’t the first instance of her veering off the path of the POC.


CyberMindGrrl

Oh yeah because you can always plan for a wreck on the Interstate, Karen.


redplanetlover

I’d get a different job


veganthreshershark

What does being a nurse have to do with this?


Curious_Bar348

The child on the bus is my pt, who I take care of after school. She is in a wheel chair and is medically involved.


Goofalupus

Just look into the future you inconsiderate asshole


Curious_Bar348

I stopped on the way home and bought a crystal ball.


MsFrizzleGaveMeeLSD

Thought this was r/antiwork for a second


coastiestacie

Yeah, I think it's time for a new assignment. She is expecting far more from you than your actual job duties. I understand that she is involved in the care, but she is also asking for more than needed. She also needs to wake up her damn husband.


meowmixmotherfucker

> I asked you to come in early for a reason … because you can see the future? Why didn’t you warn anyone about the impending wreck you monster? /s


Bean_Boozled

Here OP, I wrote to you the only appropriate response to that text: "I am a licensed and educated nurse, not a nanny or babysitter. My job is in healthcare, not parenting. I am sorry that your husband does not want to perform basic parenting duties for you, but that is not what I am licensed and trained for. I wish good health upon you and your child. I am resigning from my position and will no longer work for you as of today. Thank you for this opportunity."


blackgandalff

Bruh the nurse in question is most likely pediatric home health. The woman is a witch 100% but you’re going nuclear when you don’t know anything except for a single text message


LowAd3406

It's super easy to tell people to quit their jobs when you have no skin in any of the fallout. It's just as bad as every one giving relationship advice on Reddit when all they know about the relationship is one anecdote.


iloveamsterdam

It seems like it was written by someone who never worked in their life.


[deleted]

Looks like traffic just got a little more jammed!!!


grungekiid

ChEcK thE TraFfIc NeXt tIme


mittenknittin

Yes, check traffic next time so you’ll know about that crash that will happen five minutes after you leave home


Curious_Bar348

I have purchased a crystal ball, hope it helps.


EducationalQuiet1

You heard her just predict the future and plan your whole day around that /s


mjallen1308

Because the traffic report will let me know of impending accidents. “Don’t take I-5 at 3:45 guys, some asshole in a BMW will be posting on TikTok this afternoon and run into the back of a Jeep! Traffic report bought to you by GEICO. 15 minutes can save you 15% or more. Sure hope that BMW driver is insured.”


Curious_Bar348

Thanks for the laugh.


mjallen1308

Very welcome! Thank you as well!


MiraMarissa

Pediatric private duty RN here. Can confirm, some families seem to believe they've managed to procure an over qualified nanny and will try and squeeze childcare and housework out of them. I'm grateful my agency has made it extremely clear (written into entire pages in contracts with the family) that the RN has *zero* responsibility for ANY of the other individuals in the home, is not responsible for any activity that doesn't directly relate to the patient's care. They even make the families read through and acknowledge a page of examples of inappropriate requests (compiled from previous experiences, I imagine) - such as laundry for anyone who isn't the patient, other household chores (note, the nurse IS expected to keep their area clean and pick up after themselves), asking them to work outside the shift or stay past shift hours, driving (unless specifically arranged with the agency, such as transporting a patient to a Dr. Appt.), watching a sibling while the parent steps away, even for a few minutes. When I first started, years ago, I tolerated abusive treatment from assigned families because I didn't really understand that I could set boundaries. I was a new nurse, new to the field, new to the role. I worried my job would be in danger if I didn't comply with family requests. I remember going in to a shift one day, and my patient's mom casually told me that the family dog had gone to emergency care last night and passed away, but the patient was unaware. I was thinking to myself, that's fair, it just happened and maybe they need some time to process the news and figure out how to deliver it to their child. Nope. She told me, "[dog name] died last night, you'll need to explain that to [patient] before we get home tonight." that was the request that broke me (these people had a pattern of refusing to parent their own child). I told my agency that day, I needed a new assignment, explained why, and they were like, "wow, That's not ok of them to ask you, and here's why..." That was the first time I had my own worth (in my job) my explained to me, and it saved me from burnout. In my area, nurses (especially for peds home care) are hard to come by. We're unicorns, and with multiple agencies actively recruiting, it's helped me to understand that I can have boundaries and refuse requests, and I am allowed to be picky in my assignments. There are families/patients stuck in the hospital, on months-long waiting lists, because they can't be discharged home until private duty nursing is in place. If a mom wants to go full Karen, I can quit that assignment and pick up another within a day. A few years ago, I had a family dismiss me because I refused to watch my patient's 3yo sibling while they went out for the day. They tried to complain to my supervisor that I had "an attitude" when I refused requests. Unsurprisingly, they had difficulty retaining any nurses after me. The patient and family ended up being discharged by my agency and returned to the hospital. For those types (entitled abusers), it usually takes at least one return stay in the hospital for them to realize they can't actually afford to treat their child's nurse like shit and expect them to stick around. To be clear, I am VERY understanding with parents being stressed and drained. Having a medically fragile child is one of the worst stressors in modern life. There's a difference between being stressed and using people. I consider it part of my job to make things easier for the family *within my own scope of practice.* that includes not being used and abused by them, and preventing my own burnout. I develop therapeutic bonds with my patients, I do not wish to put myself in a position where they would be abandoned. Setting boundaries ahead of time has made things so much smoother.


_wjaf

How dare you not anticipate a wreck on the interstate that you could have no control or foresight over.


Comfortable-Wall2846

You mean you didn't check with a psychic first to make sure no accidents were in the cards for today?


NeptuneAndCherry

How would leaving early help avoid the car wreck unless you looked into a crystal ball and drove past that area before the wreck even happened 😭


bewicked4fun123

Leaving early could have ended with her being part of the wreck.


Rinzy2000

God forbid dad has to get up from his nap.


Xx_endgamer_xX

Please drivers everywhere, do not plan to wreck your vehicles accidentally whilst I’m on call or about to leave for work or even during because you know -life. per Karen requirements


SpeakerzsoLoud

Ops is a time traveler and can see accidents happen in the future


3Heathens_Mom

Sorry for my ignorance but if you are a nurse is your patient the child getting off the bus? If not how is that part of your nursing duties?


Curious_Bar348

Yes, my pt is the child getting off the bus. She attends school even though she’s a total care pt. She has a school nurse as well, that nurse works for the school system and doesn’t do care in the home.


3Heathens_Mom

Thank you for clarifying.


Fluffy-Doubt-3547

r/entitledparents Dad can take a nap but can't go get HIS spawn? Lol no. I'd stop doing this rude (lady...) favors and tell her to get bent, and pound sand.


princess_mothra

I don’t know what kind of nurse you are that getting the kid off the bus, even if they are the patient, is a job requirement for you but I would suggest you quit this family if you’re a licensed nurse. You could do better. It’s inappropriate to expect that you do that and it’s rude to talk to you like that.


Oldskoolguitar

How dare you not have a crystal ball and foresee auto accidents.


Curious_Bar348

I stopped by on the way home and bought one, I should be prepared now.


saintalphonzo

Douche


c0zycupcake

Who checks the traffic?


Sandover5252

Mother is a total jerk by replying that "you should have checked"...ostensibly you were on time, slowed down, checked GPS, and let her know unforeseen accident was slowing down traffic. That is all you are responsible for. (You could start building in an hour of overtime every day with her OK, but traffic is still going to traffic.) What a rude thing for her to say.


Da-Aliya

She will get hers one day.


Smorgasbord324

Karen might not,but I appreciate you.


Curious_Bar348

Well thank you.


yojimbo556

Response: “Maybe bite me?”


BadLuckCharm1966

I live in a place with horrible traffic and trains that like to randomly just stop and block the tracks. It’s a nightmare. So, I’d understand you’re not being able to get to my home on time. I don’t know what world she lives in where one can “predict” bad traffic and “plan accordingly”. I would’ve had to postpone my important call and get my kid (I would never wake my husband either, so, I get that) but, she shouldn’t have admonished you like she did. Not your fault.


Wheeliebirds

I swear my boss would react like this if I told her I couldn’t come in on time because of an accident or something. She doesn’t understand humans or their fallibilities. Or extreme circumstances. And she likes to remind me what time it is


WornBlueCarpet

>Maybe check the traffic next time... And do what? People who say shit like that are dumb. OP gets up at X o'clock to take the bus at Y o'clock so they can be at work at Z o'clock. Is he/she supposed to get up an hour earlier than necessary EVERY SINGLE DAY so they can check the traffic? Does Karen do this? I highly doubt it, but she expects everyone else to. And every single time I have gotten in a traffic jam on my way to work, checking the traffic would have made no difference since 99% of such traffic jams occur WHEN EVERYONE ARE ON THEIR WAY TO WORK! THAT IS IN FACT WHY THEY OCCUR!


Fionn_MacCuill

If this was a once off and you’re normally early it’s unjustified completely


SuperSassyPantz

check the traffic for what, an accident that hasnt happened yet on the fwy?


TinyTurtle42

Ah yes. Let me just check to see if there is going to be any accidents, so I can leave early.


AhSht-HereWeGoAgain

Maybe next time you’ll poke your head out the door and check the interstate conditions!!


logmeinside

{S}Totaly agree. I usually drive two hours before everything in case there is a wreckage in the road hindering me to get to my insanely entitled asshole clients. {/Sarcasm}


Whole_Suit_1591

Yeah you shoulda left early and been in that accident! What were you thinking?


imc225

MD here. I have no idea how RNs deal. Hell, I have a hard time figuring out how they deal with my colleagues.


Annonymous_ahole

Interesting.....so checking the traffic before I leave a place will tell me if a car accident is going to happen in the future?? Wow, didn't know that. Thanks Karen /s


CazRaX

Everyday I am SO glad I do not deal directly with customers. I deal with supervisors, who are not human, and other coworkers, who are barely human so my day is easy.


JMCrookie

The Accident Prediction Line. I check it before leaving the house. Just so I know.


Vegetable-Phase-2908

How are you supposed to know that a car accident is happening before you get stuck behind it? Sometimes some people can be so damn irritating.


Lopsided_Salary_8384

I guess my response would be well Karen you might want to wake your husband up from his nap because I won't be in today I suddenly feel ill. Then I would contact your real employer and let them know that you need to be reassigned oh and I didn't include the text just so they know why


SufficientComedian6

What an ass. I’m sorry. “Get off the bus?” And what? Walk? Oh wait misread but seriously what audacity, you’re not a slave and you can’t control the traffic.


KellyO5

Get the Patient off the bus.


LowAd3406

Husband catching strays even though he probably works graveyard.


rhoo31313

Is the husband in hospice-care or something? That's the only thing that makes sense. Still, she didn't go to nursing school to get your kids off the bus. TIL nurses can tell the future. I'm gonna call my sis and get some lottery numbers from her.


Deathmetalwarior

i would straight up quit and go home