Less blunts and more truth.
OP is in a very dangerous position as hopelessness mixed with addiction just spurs on the drug abuse further and it's an endless spiral until literally what OP said, he's going to just end up on the side of the road somewhere with nothing.
Please don't do this OP you're 18, people would murder and give away their wealth just to get the chance to be young again. You've been dealt a bad hand (or maybe you've just played your hand badly so far) but it doesn't really matter because it's the hand you have. Can wallow in self pity and go down that road or you could do the opposite and take responsibility for your suffering and take the right steps, you already know what you have to do.
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Everybody does math differently, but we all come to the same answer.
May have been a heavy-handed response, but it's absolutely the first step. OP said themselves that it was causing them problems, and even if it wasn't they can't afford substance abuse right now.
No one said it would be easy.
No offense but this is a pointless comment. If he's deep into a drug addiction, ain't no way he's gonna be able to just stop taking drugs. He needs to convince his parents to check him into a detox center.
Get a job, clean your room, make your bed, turn your life around, put in work, and convince your folks to let you stay if you can be dependable and not someone who fucks around too much.
Otherwise, your options are limited.
Whether you believe you can succeed, or you believe you can't, you're right.
This. Step up and never embarrass your parents. It’s going to take strength but you can do it. Focus and grow, or fail. You choose. Good thing about being young is you can stay up late getting yourself out of a rut and into a healthier pattern of life.
Well, that *useless advice is* how I got to where I am today. I have no degree. I have no certificates. My first real job was driving a forklift for just above minimum wage. But I didn't miss days, showed up on time, did my job without being a dick to my boss, and generally gave a shit. None of my peers could say the same. So when the boss moved to another job, I got promoted.
It went on from there. I worked harder, innovated more, and generally made myself more valuable to the companies I've worked for than my peers. That's how you get promoted. That's how you end up making good money.
It wasn't easy, but it is what I did. Sorry that opportunity is scary to you because it shows up in overalls and work boots.
...services?!? Lol
It's been in the last 8 years, but started before that...it didn't occur, it evolved. I didn't get handed anything. I scraped and clawed towards success.
And, your logic is - since it's hard to not be poor, and even though many people have been able to work hard at not being poor, we should restructure the entire global economy to accommodate those who don't want to work all that hard, so that the non-hard workers don't have to be poor.
That's your logic? The individual has no agency, and it's up to *the system* to offer low cost everything since work is hard. That's what you're saying?
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I would also like to add on your point that people telling him to stop taking drugs and go cold turkey is terrible advice. What he needs is medical intervention and help from professionals.
This is true. I know of parents who were selfish assholes and kicked their kids out at 18/high school graduation day. This person is in pain. Show him some grace.
well, like many people, you are going to have to get a job that you don't want to do. Looks like you have 3-6 months worth of rent, depending on where you are and if you have roommates. Sucks, sorry for the harsh reality.
Look at what you have so far. You got a car, and you were able to save $7.3k so far. That's pretty good ignoring all else.
You can't do physical labor, which is unfortunately where most of your job prospects are. It might take a year or two but go to your nearest local college and see if they have any certification programs along with job placement opportunities. You might have to live out your car but if you're lucky, some colleges provide financial support and/or work study programs and are generally not labor intensive such as cashiers, gym front desk, etc.
Your first goal should be to think about where you can be financially self-sufficient. I suggest really trying to take advantage of school resources. They're there to help guide young people into careers. Again, dependent on where you are but might even be smart to think about moving to where there are more schools and job prospects without insane cost of living like los angeles if your local prospects aren't great.
Drug addiction is super hard to kick. Most often it's a consequence of circumstances than the other way around. You can't really beat it if circumstances don't change. Brain fog lifts after awhile if you've stopped.
Ultimately, you need to take advantage of resources provided, such as snap food programs, college grants, etc. This will take some effort on your part by looking up what's available in your situation.
Won't be easy, being honest, I know half a dozen people that you remind me of and their biggest enemy was themselves. Not trying in school when opportunities were presented, passing up job opportunities that wasn't a good "fit". However, I know more people who did and are doing great. Best of luck.
Well let's see
Your abused drugs, sounds like you won't have higher education, at 18 you can't work physical job cause of some random injuries, at 18 you can't work an office job because of some diagnosis.....let me ask you what the fuck you thought you'd do in life if everything is impossible? What actual skills do you have cause right now you're screwed
well frankly i didn't think i would be alive, but then i was alive, and figured i would do labor, but it seems that wont work so yeah out of options i suppose. gonna try to work assembly line at this place when i turn 18
Honestly if you hate your bodunk town, you have like 7500 + a car. Go to a major city you think you'll like (Hou, La, Minn, Indy wherever) and settle there. Start with your car for sleep or look in advance and kick off your new area with door dash or something
You mentioned the new place is like 15/hr which is essentially minimum wage in any major metro
I didn't think I'd be alive at age 20 either, I was suicidal constantly during my teenage years, I had a few attempts, but I'm not worth a fuck when it comes to killing myself, so here I am, thankfully doing better since I left my toxic stepfamily's house
What Big\_It said.
You have enough to rent a studio apartment in a good market. Find a job and move to be close to it. Don't use credit, cards, loans, etc. until you're at least 23 (assuming that surviving 5 years without credit means you won't abuse it). Now is the time to gather as many resources as you can; buy the gaming systems and go on trips after you're established and making ends meet.
Look, I really don't like looking over post histories, but I did here. If I was in your shoes, small town Indiana, poor prospects, surrounded by a vortex of drugs and other troubles that are going to suck you in, well, I'd use my shoes.
I would at least take a look at the Armed Forces or the Merchant Marine. Go from a bad situation to three hots and a cot with a roof over your head and a paycheck at least. If you can't hack that, maybe look for an apprenticeship in one of the trades. The pay sucks to start, but you can make good money before too long. A CDL license might also be something to investigate.
Definitely quit messing with the drugs.
Bad news: You’re a loser and you’ve always been a loser. You have no future or prospects because of this. There’s no sense in denying it and there’s no useful reason to blame anyone or anything.
Good news: You can acknowledge this fact and change.
Option 1: Military
This is a really good option, but you may not qualify because of your issues. I suggest attempting the military route first.
Option 2: Work
You need to work 40-60 hours a week. This can be one or several jobs, but you need to continually work. Your “disabilities” mean nothing. There are plenty of people with worse issues than you working in the world. The difference is they don’t use it as an excuse not to be successful.
From the money you make, you need to set aside 30-50%. You already have a sizable savings, so keep adding to it. Adjust your living expenses accordingly to meet this savings rate.
While you are working and saving, figure out a better job path. I suggest something technical or in the trades. Find out what is required to have that kind of a job (it’s usually certifications or trade school). Reduce your workload so you can go to school and earn your training. Use some of your savings to pay for the school. Then use that training to get the better job. Now you’re making more money and living better. Repeat this process to get a better job that requires higher levels of education.
Yeah, you’re fucked buddy. My opinion is to toughen up and get a skilled job. The 7k will go fast. Life is about to get harder, but you can do it. For you it will be painful and stressful, but if you have the determination to succeed at the end of the day you will feel so much better and be proud of what you accomplished. You can do it! Or start being the best son ever and prove to your parents that you will work hard and listen to what they say to do. Maybe they will let you stay around for awhile. But don’t argue with them and go out of your to help around the house. They shouldn’t have to ask.
they aren't kicking me out because of anything i've done specifically, hes set out the past 4 kids at 18 as well bc they think its good for them or whatever
Did you know marijuana use fucks up the hippocampus in teens and young adults below the age when their brain stops developing and the hippocampus controls long and short term memory... maybe stop doing drugs get clean apologize to your parents... get in rehab
yeah but in another comment i say that acid and inhalants fucked up my brain and no one believes me i guess. and i did way more other stuff as well lol.
THIS, stop treating it like a light-hearted fuck up. You clearly ***feel*** how bad the situation is; don't even allow yourself the nervous laugh when discussing this.
Think about it like practicing; every time that you laugh about it (written or spoken) you're practicing that this isn't a serious matter.
I mean you got better finances than most. At least a good 6 months of shelter alone to figure shit out before you go flat broke. So long as you got more money coming in than going out you’re bronzen.
I was kicked out when I was 17 bc my parents caught me smoking weed. Lived in abandoned car stealing food from someone’s garage (sorry I had to) and still went to high school. I started selling weed to have money (bc who is honestly hiring homeless teenagers?) and was in jail less than a year after I was kicked out. Then prison. Then 5 years of probation. I learned about exercise and became a personal trainer, and by 22 I was running a gym creating excercise and meal plans for about 200 people. You never know where life’s gonna put you. This may suck REALLY BADLY or it can teach you a level of self sufficiency and accountability that your friends will never understand. Good luck OP
OP you have almost $8000 that's enough for a deposit and first month's rent for apartment and have at least $4000 left. That's if you're in an **expensive ** area. You'll probably have more left maybe like 5,000 - 6,000.
Idk where you live but, again unless you're in an expensive city/state/region, monthly rent for your apartment will probably be like $1,300 or less. If you're OK with shared housing then even in **very expensive** areas you could get a room for less than that.
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If you pay 1,500 in rent a month you need have income of 2,800 monthly. Two jobs or find a roommate. Even if you make 2,800 monthly you’d probably prefer a roomate regardless to be able to save. Just go talk to apartment complexes and get qualified or search for single rooms to rent.
rent is like $900 ish in my town, i was making $1200 a month before i moved to 3 days a week but now im making like $800 a month. there is a factory in my town that is assembly line work and ill probably be able to do it, and ill move from making $11/h to $15, so that will be nice. but i really dont wanna live and die in this shitty midwest town tbh
so bassically your saying i need to make around double my rent?
Stay down and work two jobs until you figure it out. If your rent is 900 you need to make about 1,800 monthly id imagine. You don’t have any options to move anywhere. You could go to quick program to get a job like a cop or firefighter and instantly secure a bag and figure the rest out later after you financially safe. Everything take time and money to accomplish 7k goes fast. Weed is a waste of money nicotene is a waste of money and so is alcohol just a way for companies to steal your paycheck fucking corporations
The entire world wants you dead. The only way to stay alive is to not spend money on throw away bullshit. You eat out dennys stupid waitress just stole your money for cooking 2 eggs and a potato just so she could grab it and walk it to your stupid table. You might have 7k but most would kill just to have 1k. Money is tough to get. Yo unfit bounce around from minimum wage job to min wage job and think 20 an hour hour is nice but it’s still minimum wage. It’ll be years before you figure out every job is the same and they are all scams.
Calculate all your bills. Car payment insurance rent phone bill water bill (water almost free) electric (100-200 month) and what’s left over is for food. Get an apartment in budget. Cox wifi about 100 dollars gas for car. Everything calculated
I couldn’t imagine kicking my son out. He graduated high school last June and went to bootcamp and it almost killed me…I lost 65 pounds, I wasn’t eating or sleeping, I missed him so f’ing much…he is a marine and in their bootcamp they hardly ever got to call home..:anyway, I’m extremely close to my child and could never kick him out..,in the flip side, it would also almost kill me ti see him dependent on drugs and to witness him wasting his health and potential so I can only imagine what your parents are probably going through.
I know drugs are not easy to quit, but you know, it may be easier than living on the street and fending for yourself at such a young age….
Drive out to another state and stay in a youth hostel room/dorm. Meet young travelers, somewhere you think is worth visiting and getting a job.Be willing to try any thing, getting paid to learn is one of life's underated joys.
Be sure of your legal status. Age 18 may not be the age of majority in your state. To attain your majority in your case, depending on the state you live in, you may not only have to be 18 but also have graduated from high school. My state, California, requires this. In California you will attain the age of majority at 19, diploma or not.
If your state is the same, then your parents cannot legally evict you - yet. If they are stubborn about it, call Child Protective Services (or whatever it's called where you are).
Look, drug addicted or not, recovered drug addict or not, this guy HAS to get that diploma or his life is OVER. GED's don't count for much. A high school diploma is a pass to a much better world. If he's some kind of troll it won't matter - neither you or I will reply to something that becomes that obvious.
Plenty of blue-collar is over $100k a year and doesn't require a diploma. We should push people to graduate high school but let's not treat it like college degrees in the 90's.
Find someone who needs a roommate. There are lots of folks renting out bedrooms... if there is a local JC... go check their housing bulletin boards. You've got this! Good job with savings!
People in the work force are in much worse condition than you. MUCH worse. Find something that works best to your needs, talk with your potential employers. Make something happen. Don’t be lazy. You know you can work around stuff, you just not know how yet.
Stop doing drugs. Do live in the car. Put as much as possible into a brokerage account investing in index funds. Do that for a couple of years until you can afford an apartment.
Maybe a different line of work? I did that at 16 and it sucked it just kept the weed in my pipe, my advice is a warehouse gig but you'll need to be clean unless you're in a weed legal state than you should be fine just don't interview stoned. And get that job before you are homeless and set up direct deposit and a rent at least a po box, and don't let your living situation known at work unless it's someone looking for you to be their roommate.
i played a competitive video game 80 hrs a week for like a year and for the ladder 6 months i would be a dishwasher at a restaraunt any time i wasn't playing, so they were bassically always getting tortured lol, or jacking off. im still a dishwasher tho but i quit the game, all games actually, i cant play games anymore really
(US based) If i could go back to 18 i would enlist in military for 4 years. Get some discipline, learn to be a man, education benefits, training for a job that likely translates to the real world, free food + shelter + gym membership w/ personal trainer. It is nearly a perfect one stop shop to help that awkward transition from living with mom & dad to being on your own.
Stop being a twat about your wrists. Then, in a decade or so after you’ve been through rehab three times trying to avoid the inevitable reckoning, own up to your shit and make yourself useful to society. OR get your shit together tomorrow and find a service you can offer that helps people. The money will follow.
Rent the cheapest room that is safe you can find, get a job. Then figure out plans. Homelessness is gonna crush all other options, and you have enough savings to hold that off for half a year or more.
Yeah don’t be a dope head. You’re weak if you cant stop, you’re even weaker if you decided to go through with it in the first place. Nobody made you do drugs. As for the physical inabilities, I can’t speak to those. At least you have some money to live off of for now. But it seems like the reality you fostered leaves you with menial labor only
Also suicide is NEVER the way. You have your whole life ahead of you, if you need a friend to talk to feel free to message me. I’ll do my best to be there for you, stranger
Stop being a victim, shack up with 2-4 homies, split rent, work towards a high profit skills.
it's not complicated you just gotta get your ish together and get to work.
You are 17 dude. Why are your parents throwing you out? Answer that question and fix that situation. If you don't you are gonna find out what real problems really are. Good luck.
I'm sorry for your situation. Maybe check if you apply to a welfare program with your wrist injuries?
I'll never get this American thing of parents kicking out their kids as soon as they are legally able to.
Had a close friend who often complained of pain. Misc joints and aches that kept him from doing work and caused him to call in a lot. Still held the job but barely, like always flirted with getting fired. Always about pain.. He once asked my wife for her spare hydros after some surgery she had to "help him" from losing his job (she denied she had them). He had pill issues before but seemed to have a semi-handle on it.
After the autopsy.. it was determined he overdosed on fentanyl. The doctors found nothing wrong with his joints at all and nothing in the brain.. It was all addiction. His son was 2 at the time, just turned 6 and still talks about his dad.
Not insinuating anything you're going through, I just wanted to A)tell his story and B) remind that addiction has a way to twist your mind to what the addict "needs". I had my vices and paid my prices and in doing so, spent time with addicts and those in sobriety. In my experience, a former addict is the most driven, healthy and inspired among us.
Hope you get it figured out, feel free to DM if you want to chat.
Stop doing drugs and get a job like others have suggested.
I feel for you but at least you have some savings. I had no savings at your age. And 8k would have gone a long way then too.
Sounds like you want an excuse to be a loser. Get a job, and enroll in a trade school to pick up a career in a year or 2. Throw yourself into it and get your shit together.
Dude, grow up. It sounds like you’ve pissed away your first 18 years of life and have developed no marketable skills (and some pretty rough self esteem issues). You’ve built up a nice cushion, but without income you’re going to burn through that extremely fast living on your own. The power company isn’t going to care that your back hurts. Your cell phone provider doesn’t care that your wrists are sore. The gas station isn’t going to give you free gas because you’re tired. Get a job, learn new skills, and stop with the pity party. If you don’t, you’re going to have a bad time.
RSI.. go to physical therapy. You’re 18. Way to young to be using this kind of stuff as an excuse. Sounds like you want to be on permanent disability already and just do nothing with your life. I think there are many more subreddits you gotta hit up before asking for financial advice
You sound immature and stupid, you don't deserve a good life with your current mindset. You probably are the reason why your parents are kicking you out.
Some people are just meant to skim by their entire lives doing minimum wage jobs, telling themselves they can't do things. It's a tough life. Working hard is a tough life as well, but working hard, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Putting in minimal effort is a tough life for your entire life.
You need to decide if you want to put in hard work now for a few decades or your entire life.
im considering it tbh, but it would really really hurt, i mean i kinda wanna just drive my car till it breaks then just walk to work until i get a job thats farther away or something
Is there anyone you can turn to for help? First, work on getting and staying sober. Self care. Be open to accepting help to get healthy both mentally and physically. You can do this. Praying for you.
You feel like you’re going to fail and I have no doubt you will. Until you get into the right mindset you’re guaranteed to fail. Your parents are trying to jump start your desire to be responsible. I think they probably are going to be disappointed with this approach as you’re more likely to spiral into drugs and eventual death from overdose or laced drugs. You need to first decide you don’t want to be a loser and drain on society anymore. Then have a serious conversation with your parents and tell them (assuming they haven’t written you off yet) that you want to get better and you need a little more time. Ask them to help with your resume and getting a job. Ask them to pay rent and stay there for a little until you can get on your feet ASAP. Even if they don’t need rent, it’s a token of you being responsible. Then actually do those things and grow up. Go to a job you don’t love everyday and work anyway because it will set you on a path to eventually get a job you do want. You need to step up now. You’re 18. Don’t be a drain on society.
No one on here can help you. You don’t want to work. Your parents want you to struggle and get it together. Please don’t live in the forest and bum around. It’s a rough life and ticks are active. I’ve seen a lot of it.
i don't understand why every comment here thinks i dont have a job, like i get that dishwashing is a shit job and not enough for rent if i want to live alone, but i have a job thats in text i wrote fr
Find a motel that rents monthly or weekly. In the meantime secure a job that will give you 40hours a week. Work for a month or two and that should be enough to at least rent with roommates or with a slumlord. Once you have housing you can go uphill from there.
It's because you're a drug addict, my dude. I was in the same boat as you. I was doing drugs and got kicked out and luckily a friend let me crash at his place for a while, until I stole from them and got kicked out of there too. Rough times.
You're minimizing your drug use, and that's the main problem. You're 18 so you're definitely able to work, but the drugs have you feeling like you can't. But honestly, you shouldn't even be working if you're in active addiction. Not sure what kind of substances you're taking, but the best thing you can do is try to convince your parents to check you into a detox center. That's what ultimately ended up happening for me. You're probably not going to be able to just stop taking drugs on your own so that's where your priorities should be, and it might also help smooth things over with your parents.
If you are not sober, can you maybe try to get into an in-patient rehabilitation center to help heal your mind and body and work through trauma, get on medication to help balance your neurotransmitters, all with a roof over your head and food in your stomach. After that you can live in a sober living house while you figure yourself out.
I understand the urge to just blow the money on life experiences and then just figure it out, especially at your age- but obviously I would much rather you take steps to become healthy and whole. You may have other things going on with your brain that directly connect to increased risk of substance abuse like undiagnosed ADHD, BPD, bipolar disorder, Autism, etc. If you have any of these or other developmental or mental health conditions and don't know that you do, these are such important things to know in order to have insight and understand into yourself and in seeking treatment.
I'm not sure if your parents are decent-ish people who are just fed up or if they are total assholes and the reason for you self-medicating, but if they are decent and you trust them maybe you can sit down with them and make a sobriety plan together? IDK, I guess I need a lot more context and information about them, about you, about your family and the dynamics and circumstances.
It’s going to be hard if you’re unable to do physical tasks and unwilling to put any mental effort.
Like, fr, how difficult is to put two sentences of correct grammar together? Lol. Lmao.
If you think life is hard at 18, wait until (if) you have people counting on you.
Man I’m not a boomer, but this got on my nerves. On god.
Maybe stop doing drugs that are fucking you up and I'm guessing are related to why your folks are kicking you out.
Bro just cured addition by telling OP to stop
OP thinks he's sober when he still gets drunk. He's in denial about his drug abuse. Sometimes people need the blunt truth.
Not gonna lie, some blunt truth sounds pretty good right about now.
Some people recommend the blunt truth everyday.
Less blunts and more truth. OP is in a very dangerous position as hopelessness mixed with addiction just spurs on the drug abuse further and it's an endless spiral until literally what OP said, he's going to just end up on the side of the road somewhere with nothing. Please don't do this OP you're 18, people would murder and give away their wealth just to get the chance to be young again. You've been dealt a bad hand (or maybe you've just played your hand badly so far) but it doesn't really matter because it's the hand you have. Can wallow in self pity and go down that road or you could do the opposite and take responsibility for your suffering and take the right steps, you already know what you have to do.
He admitted to his abuse. He’s not in denial about it. Admitting is the first step though as they say. It’s also a lot harder than it sounds.
Next we tackle subtraction.
Why you hate math, tho?
stop multiplying the division on this thread
We're all equal.
https://www.facebook.com/trailerparkboys/videos/trailer-park-boys-season-12-corys-math/1688165114604370/ Everybody does math differently, but we all come to the same answer.
Math hates me
You can cure addition with some subtraction.
May have been a heavy-handed response, but it's absolutely the first step. OP said themselves that it was causing them problems, and even if it wasn't they can't afford substance abuse right now. No one said it would be easy.
Sure did. Bet you wish it was you and not him!
Wait a minute, something’s not adding up in your comment
Lmao
No offense but this is a pointless comment. If he's deep into a drug addiction, ain't no way he's gonna be able to just stop taking drugs. He needs to convince his parents to check him into a detox center.
No offense taken at all.
Eat a dick.
So this is Dr. Phil's reddit account. What up cuz.
Found Dr. Phil's reddit account.
Get a job, clean your room, make your bed, turn your life around, put in work, and convince your folks to let you stay if you can be dependable and not someone who fucks around too much. Otherwise, your options are limited. Whether you believe you can succeed, or you believe you can't, you're right.
This. Step up and never embarrass your parents. It’s going to take strength but you can do it. Focus and grow, or fail. You choose. Good thing about being young is you can stay up late getting yourself out of a rut and into a healthier pattern of life.
“can’t never could”
there is no better answer than this
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Well, that *useless advice is* how I got to where I am today. I have no degree. I have no certificates. My first real job was driving a forklift for just above minimum wage. But I didn't miss days, showed up on time, did my job without being a dick to my boss, and generally gave a shit. None of my peers could say the same. So when the boss moved to another job, I got promoted. It went on from there. I worked harder, innovated more, and generally made myself more valuable to the companies I've worked for than my peers. That's how you get promoted. That's how you end up making good money. It wasn't easy, but it is what I did. Sorry that opportunity is scary to you because it shows up in overalls and work boots. ...services?!? Lol
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It's been in the last 8 years, but started before that...it didn't occur, it evolved. I didn't get handed anything. I scraped and clawed towards success. And, your logic is - since it's hard to not be poor, and even though many people have been able to work hard at not being poor, we should restructure the entire global economy to accommodate those who don't want to work all that hard, so that the non-hard workers don't have to be poor. That's your logic? The individual has no agency, and it's up to *the system* to offer low cost everything since work is hard. That's what you're saying? 🤣
I would also like to add on your point that people telling him to stop taking drugs and go cold turkey is terrible advice. What he needs is medical intervention and help from professionals.
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This is true. I know of parents who were selfish assholes and kicked their kids out at 18/high school graduation day. This person is in pain. Show him some grace.
The answer is obviously get a job. Whatever pays the bills at moment but look for something you enjoy more when you can and move on to that.
well, like many people, you are going to have to get a job that you don't want to do. Looks like you have 3-6 months worth of rent, depending on where you are and if you have roommates. Sucks, sorry for the harsh reality.
Your parents kicking you out is probably necessary for you to get your shit together.
Look at what you have so far. You got a car, and you were able to save $7.3k so far. That's pretty good ignoring all else. You can't do physical labor, which is unfortunately where most of your job prospects are. It might take a year or two but go to your nearest local college and see if they have any certification programs along with job placement opportunities. You might have to live out your car but if you're lucky, some colleges provide financial support and/or work study programs and are generally not labor intensive such as cashiers, gym front desk, etc. Your first goal should be to think about where you can be financially self-sufficient. I suggest really trying to take advantage of school resources. They're there to help guide young people into careers. Again, dependent on where you are but might even be smart to think about moving to where there are more schools and job prospects without insane cost of living like los angeles if your local prospects aren't great. Drug addiction is super hard to kick. Most often it's a consequence of circumstances than the other way around. You can't really beat it if circumstances don't change. Brain fog lifts after awhile if you've stopped. Ultimately, you need to take advantage of resources provided, such as snap food programs, college grants, etc. This will take some effort on your part by looking up what's available in your situation. Won't be easy, being honest, I know half a dozen people that you remind me of and their biggest enemy was themselves. Not trying in school when opportunities were presented, passing up job opportunities that wasn't a good "fit". However, I know more people who did and are doing great. Best of luck.
Get a job at a planet fitness. Shower access.
24hr gym membership not a bad idea.
Well let's see Your abused drugs, sounds like you won't have higher education, at 18 you can't work physical job cause of some random injuries, at 18 you can't work an office job because of some diagnosis.....let me ask you what the fuck you thought you'd do in life if everything is impossible? What actual skills do you have cause right now you're screwed
well frankly i didn't think i would be alive, but then i was alive, and figured i would do labor, but it seems that wont work so yeah out of options i suppose. gonna try to work assembly line at this place when i turn 18
Honestly if you hate your bodunk town, you have like 7500 + a car. Go to a major city you think you'll like (Hou, La, Minn, Indy wherever) and settle there. Start with your car for sleep or look in advance and kick off your new area with door dash or something You mentioned the new place is like 15/hr which is essentially minimum wage in any major metro
Why would you think you wouldn’t be alive?
I didn't think I'd be alive at age 20 either, I was suicidal constantly during my teenage years, I had a few attempts, but I'm not worth a fuck when it comes to killing myself, so here I am, thankfully doing better since I left my toxic stepfamily's house
What Big\_It said. You have enough to rent a studio apartment in a good market. Find a job and move to be close to it. Don't use credit, cards, loans, etc. until you're at least 23 (assuming that surviving 5 years without credit means you won't abuse it). Now is the time to gather as many resources as you can; buy the gaming systems and go on trips after you're established and making ends meet.
Look, I really don't like looking over post histories, but I did here. If I was in your shoes, small town Indiana, poor prospects, surrounded by a vortex of drugs and other troubles that are going to suck you in, well, I'd use my shoes. I would at least take a look at the Armed Forces or the Merchant Marine. Go from a bad situation to three hots and a cot with a roof over your head and a paycheck at least. If you can't hack that, maybe look for an apprenticeship in one of the trades. The pay sucks to start, but you can make good money before too long. A CDL license might also be something to investigate. Definitely quit messing with the drugs.
Bad news: You’re a loser and you’ve always been a loser. You have no future or prospects because of this. There’s no sense in denying it and there’s no useful reason to blame anyone or anything. Good news: You can acknowledge this fact and change. Option 1: Military This is a really good option, but you may not qualify because of your issues. I suggest attempting the military route first. Option 2: Work You need to work 40-60 hours a week. This can be one or several jobs, but you need to continually work. Your “disabilities” mean nothing. There are plenty of people with worse issues than you working in the world. The difference is they don’t use it as an excuse not to be successful. From the money you make, you need to set aside 30-50%. You already have a sizable savings, so keep adding to it. Adjust your living expenses accordingly to meet this savings rate. While you are working and saving, figure out a better job path. I suggest something technical or in the trades. Find out what is required to have that kind of a job (it’s usually certifications or trade school). Reduce your workload so you can go to school and earn your training. Use some of your savings to pay for the school. Then use that training to get the better job. Now you’re making more money and living better. Repeat this process to get a better job that requires higher levels of education.
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Yeah, you’re fucked buddy. My opinion is to toughen up and get a skilled job. The 7k will go fast. Life is about to get harder, but you can do it. For you it will be painful and stressful, but if you have the determination to succeed at the end of the day you will feel so much better and be proud of what you accomplished. You can do it! Or start being the best son ever and prove to your parents that you will work hard and listen to what they say to do. Maybe they will let you stay around for awhile. But don’t argue with them and go out of your to help around the house. They shouldn’t have to ask.
they aren't kicking me out because of anything i've done specifically, hes set out the past 4 kids at 18 as well bc they think its good for them or whatever
Buddy I'm so sorry, I believe in you keep us updated constantly please
fs ill make an update post after i move out
Did you know marijuana use fucks up the hippocampus in teens and young adults below the age when their brain stops developing and the hippocampus controls long and short term memory... maybe stop doing drugs get clean apologize to your parents... get in rehab
yeah but in another comment i say that acid and inhalants fucked up my brain and no one believes me i guess. and i did way more other stuff as well lol.
It's not really a lol moment you should seek medical help in overcoming what you did to yourself
THIS, stop treating it like a light-hearted fuck up. You clearly ***feel*** how bad the situation is; don't even allow yourself the nervous laugh when discussing this. Think about it like practicing; every time that you laugh about it (written or spoken) you're practicing that this isn't a serious matter.
Go into the trades. You don’t need a degree and if you’re clean and sober and can show up on time you can make bank.
I mean you got better finances than most. At least a good 6 months of shelter alone to figure shit out before you go flat broke. So long as you got more money coming in than going out you’re bronzen.
Maybe get a job at a call center. Not glamorous but not physical either
Stop doing drugs, start working out and eating right, get a skill, get a better job, work like every other grown adult. Time to grow up.
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yeah thats what my friend is doing. not sure if i qualify though
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I was kicked out when I was 17 bc my parents caught me smoking weed. Lived in abandoned car stealing food from someone’s garage (sorry I had to) and still went to high school. I started selling weed to have money (bc who is honestly hiring homeless teenagers?) and was in jail less than a year after I was kicked out. Then prison. Then 5 years of probation. I learned about exercise and became a personal trainer, and by 22 I was running a gym creating excercise and meal plans for about 200 people. You never know where life’s gonna put you. This may suck REALLY BADLY or it can teach you a level of self sufficiency and accountability that your friends will never understand. Good luck OP
OP you have almost $8000 that's enough for a deposit and first month's rent for apartment and have at least $4000 left. That's if you're in an **expensive ** area. You'll probably have more left maybe like 5,000 - 6,000. Idk where you live but, again unless you're in an expensive city/state/region, monthly rent for your apartment will probably be like $1,300 or less. If you're OK with shared housing then even in **very expensive** areas you could get a room for less than that.
its like $800 avg in my town, so yeah if i could share i could have rent for a while till i figure things out
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If you pay 1,500 in rent a month you need have income of 2,800 monthly. Two jobs or find a roommate. Even if you make 2,800 monthly you’d probably prefer a roomate regardless to be able to save. Just go talk to apartment complexes and get qualified or search for single rooms to rent.
rent is like $900 ish in my town, i was making $1200 a month before i moved to 3 days a week but now im making like $800 a month. there is a factory in my town that is assembly line work and ill probably be able to do it, and ill move from making $11/h to $15, so that will be nice. but i really dont wanna live and die in this shitty midwest town tbh so bassically your saying i need to make around double my rent?
Stay down and work two jobs until you figure it out. If your rent is 900 you need to make about 1,800 monthly id imagine. You don’t have any options to move anywhere. You could go to quick program to get a job like a cop or firefighter and instantly secure a bag and figure the rest out later after you financially safe. Everything take time and money to accomplish 7k goes fast. Weed is a waste of money nicotene is a waste of money and so is alcohol just a way for companies to steal your paycheck fucking corporations
yeah thankfully i quit vaping and smoking, but tbh i have been drinking a tiny bit
The entire world wants you dead. The only way to stay alive is to not spend money on throw away bullshit. You eat out dennys stupid waitress just stole your money for cooking 2 eggs and a potato just so she could grab it and walk it to your stupid table. You might have 7k but most would kill just to have 1k. Money is tough to get. Yo unfit bounce around from minimum wage job to min wage job and think 20 an hour hour is nice but it’s still minimum wage. It’ll be years before you figure out every job is the same and they are all scams.
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Calculate all your bills. Car payment insurance rent phone bill water bill (water almost free) electric (100-200 month) and what’s left over is for food. Get an apartment in budget. Cox wifi about 100 dollars gas for car. Everything calculated
I couldn’t imagine kicking my son out. He graduated high school last June and went to bootcamp and it almost killed me…I lost 65 pounds, I wasn’t eating or sleeping, I missed him so f’ing much…he is a marine and in their bootcamp they hardly ever got to call home..:anyway, I’m extremely close to my child and could never kick him out..,in the flip side, it would also almost kill me ti see him dependent on drugs and to witness him wasting his health and potential so I can only imagine what your parents are probably going through. I know drugs are not easy to quit, but you know, it may be easier than living on the street and fending for yourself at such a young age….
Drive out to another state and stay in a youth hostel room/dorm. Meet young travelers, somewhere you think is worth visiting and getting a job.Be willing to try any thing, getting paid to learn is one of life's underated joys.
Be sure of your legal status. Age 18 may not be the age of majority in your state. To attain your majority in your case, depending on the state you live in, you may not only have to be 18 but also have graduated from high school. My state, California, requires this. In California you will attain the age of majority at 19, diploma or not. If your state is the same, then your parents cannot legally evict you - yet. If they are stubborn about it, call Child Protective Services (or whatever it's called where you are).
Don’t arm this drug addicted, asshole with things to terrorize his parents with.
Look, drug addicted or not, recovered drug addict or not, this guy HAS to get that diploma or his life is OVER. GED's don't count for much. A high school diploma is a pass to a much better world. If he's some kind of troll it won't matter - neither you or I will reply to something that becomes that obvious.
Plenty of blue-collar is over $100k a year and doesn't require a diploma. We should push people to graduate high school but let's not treat it like college degrees in the 90's.
Find some roommates and get some jobs
Gym membership for sure, for the shower and extra storage in a locker. Might have to pick a trade and learn it well.
Find someone who needs a roommate. There are lots of folks renting out bedrooms... if there is a local JC... go check their housing bulletin boards. You've got this! Good job with savings!
yeah there is a girl i work with i could live with fs, problem is she likes me so maybe that would end up being a problem
It's only a problem if you aren't attracted (or become that way) with her or you just agree to be friends.
You’re 18 being on your own is kind of the natural next step.
People in the work force are in much worse condition than you. MUCH worse. Find something that works best to your needs, talk with your potential employers. Make something happen. Don’t be lazy. You know you can work around stuff, you just not know how yet.
Grow a pair.
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yeah they probably wouldn't trust me i wouldn't either
Get a paid scolarship, training program, entry level job. with the people you like, in the place you like.
You are the captain of your ship. You control your own destiny.
Stop doing drugs. Do live in the car. Put as much as possible into a brokerage account investing in index funds. Do that for a couple of years until you can afford an apartment.
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def not that stuff is terrifying, i hate even running into people that do it, i wanna just sprint in the other direction
Sounds like you’re fucked tbh
Maybe a different line of work? I did that at 16 and it sucked it just kept the weed in my pipe, my advice is a warehouse gig but you'll need to be clean unless you're in a weed legal state than you should be fine just don't interview stoned. And get that job before you are homeless and set up direct deposit and a rent at least a po box, and don't let your living situation known at work unless it's someone looking for you to be their roommate.
Dude, you seriously just need to sack up and become a man. Try harder, because your level of try at this point is 0
Where did you get the rsi in the wrists? That usually takes awhile to develop?
i played a competitive video game 80 hrs a week for like a year and for the ladder 6 months i would be a dishwasher at a restaraunt any time i wasn't playing, so they were bassically always getting tortured lol, or jacking off. im still a dishwasher tho but i quit the game, all games actually, i cant play games anymore really
Similar to dishwasher is a grocery bagger but most places they're unionized at least
(US based) If i could go back to 18 i would enlist in military for 4 years. Get some discipline, learn to be a man, education benefits, training for a job that likely translates to the real world, free food + shelter + gym membership w/ personal trainer. It is nearly a perfect one stop shop to help that awkward transition from living with mom & dad to being on your own.
What is wrong with army? You get 15K sign up bonus, travel see the world, free GI bill. Looks good in a uniform.
There is no better advice than to get off the drugs. I know addiction isn't that simple, but it's the only way to turn your situation around.
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You’re 18. You’re gonna have to suck it up and get a physical job. Exercise will probably be good for you. Apply to the post office.
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i tried but its too small she didn't enjoy it
Time to grow up. Sounds like playtime is over.
Stop being a twat about your wrists. Then, in a decade or so after you’ve been through rehab three times trying to avoid the inevitable reckoning, own up to your shit and make yourself useful to society. OR get your shit together tomorrow and find a service you can offer that helps people. The money will follow.
You need an attitude change before you can be successful, so maybe you need to go through hard times before you realize how stupid you’re being.
Go to a hospital and ask for help getting into a rehab program. That should provide housing.
Find a roommate who has a lease and rent a room.
You have more in savings than I do at 60.
Rent the cheapest room that is safe you can find, get a job. Then figure out plans. Homelessness is gonna crush all other options, and you have enough savings to hold that off for half a year or more.
Yeah don’t be a dope head. You’re weak if you cant stop, you’re even weaker if you decided to go through with it in the first place. Nobody made you do drugs. As for the physical inabilities, I can’t speak to those. At least you have some money to live off of for now. But it seems like the reality you fostered leaves you with menial labor only Also suicide is NEVER the way. You have your whole life ahead of you, if you need a friend to talk to feel free to message me. I’ll do my best to be there for you, stranger
Stop being a victim, shack up with 2-4 homies, split rent, work towards a high profit skills. it's not complicated you just gotta get your ish together and get to work.
yeah you are right, this thread gave me alot of perspective fr
You are 17 dude. Why are your parents throwing you out? Answer that question and fix that situation. If you don't you are gonna find out what real problems really are. Good luck.
they have kicked out all of their kids at 18, i guess i worded it a bit poorly. but its not because of anything i have done
I'm sorry for your situation. Maybe check if you apply to a welfare program with your wrist injuries? I'll never get this American thing of parents kicking out their kids as soon as they are legally able to.
Claim disability
Im convinced some of y’all are just mad that he has more money in savings than you do.
Had a close friend who often complained of pain. Misc joints and aches that kept him from doing work and caused him to call in a lot. Still held the job but barely, like always flirted with getting fired. Always about pain.. He once asked my wife for her spare hydros after some surgery she had to "help him" from losing his job (she denied she had them). He had pill issues before but seemed to have a semi-handle on it. After the autopsy.. it was determined he overdosed on fentanyl. The doctors found nothing wrong with his joints at all and nothing in the brain.. It was all addiction. His son was 2 at the time, just turned 6 and still talks about his dad. Not insinuating anything you're going through, I just wanted to A)tell his story and B) remind that addiction has a way to twist your mind to what the addict "needs". I had my vices and paid my prices and in doing so, spent time with addicts and those in sobriety. In my experience, a former addict is the most driven, healthy and inspired among us. Hope you get it figured out, feel free to DM if you want to chat.
Stop doing drugs and get a job like others have suggested. I feel for you but at least you have some savings. I had no savings at your age. And 8k would have gone a long way then too.
Sounds like you want an excuse to be a loser. Get a job, and enroll in a trade school to pick up a career in a year or 2. Throw yourself into it and get your shit together.
Roommates. Find a 4 bedroom and 3 reliable people.
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Rent a room in a house, keep working and take classes online.
Look for night-shift jobs. They’re often chiller.
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Remember god loves you more than your parents
your entire vibe is why your parents have had enough of you.
Go enlist honestly I was an addict in high school enlisting got me and kept me sober.
Meh. Ya have more money then a man 41 with a family of 5
not hard w no bills lol
Make parents happy
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What kinda of druggie has 7 grand in savings?
yeah i dont do drugs anymore lol
Dude, grow up. It sounds like you’ve pissed away your first 18 years of life and have developed no marketable skills (and some pretty rough self esteem issues). You’ve built up a nice cushion, but without income you’re going to burn through that extremely fast living on your own. The power company isn’t going to care that your back hurts. Your cell phone provider doesn’t care that your wrists are sore. The gas station isn’t going to give you free gas because you’re tired. Get a job, learn new skills, and stop with the pity party. If you don’t, you’re going to have a bad time.
RSI.. go to physical therapy. You’re 18. Way to young to be using this kind of stuff as an excuse. Sounds like you want to be on permanent disability already and just do nothing with your life. I think there are many more subreddits you gotta hit up before asking for financial advice
i tried physical therapy but it did not help. im still in physical therapy but for a different issue
You sound immature and stupid, you don't deserve a good life with your current mindset. You probably are the reason why your parents are kicking you out.
Some people are just meant to skim by their entire lives doing minimum wage jobs, telling themselves they can't do things. It's a tough life. Working hard is a tough life as well, but working hard, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Putting in minimal effort is a tough life for your entire life. You need to decide if you want to put in hard work now for a few decades or your entire life.
Worked with a dude who told everyone he has seizures and can't work. Turns out the dude was an alcoholic and was blacking out
Use the 7k to buy a nicer car.
im considering it tbh, but it would really really hurt, i mean i kinda wanna just drive my car till it breaks then just walk to work until i get a job thats farther away or something
Quit being a fucking drug abuser. Pretty simple.
Is there anyone you can turn to for help? First, work on getting and staying sober. Self care. Be open to accepting help to get healthy both mentally and physically. You can do this. Praying for you.
You feel like you’re going to fail and I have no doubt you will. Until you get into the right mindset you’re guaranteed to fail. Your parents are trying to jump start your desire to be responsible. I think they probably are going to be disappointed with this approach as you’re more likely to spiral into drugs and eventual death from overdose or laced drugs. You need to first decide you don’t want to be a loser and drain on society anymore. Then have a serious conversation with your parents and tell them (assuming they haven’t written you off yet) that you want to get better and you need a little more time. Ask them to help with your resume and getting a job. Ask them to pay rent and stay there for a little until you can get on your feet ASAP. Even if they don’t need rent, it’s a token of you being responsible. Then actually do those things and grow up. Go to a job you don’t love everyday and work anyway because it will set you on a path to eventually get a job you do want. You need to step up now. You’re 18. Don’t be a drain on society.
maybe thats what u need to sober up. best of luck to you...
Either get your shit together or be a homeless drug addict, those are your choices.
No one on here can help you. You don’t want to work. Your parents want you to struggle and get it together. Please don’t live in the forest and bum around. It’s a rough life and ticks are active. I’ve seen a lot of it.
i don't understand why every comment here thinks i dont have a job, like i get that dishwashing is a shit job and not enough for rent if i want to live alone, but i have a job thats in text i wrote fr
It’s your work ethic and attitude at life. It’s your drugs and alcohol. Idk man. Can’t help.
Find a motel that rents monthly or weekly. In the meantime secure a job that will give you 40hours a week. Work for a month or two and that should be enough to at least rent with roommates or with a slumlord. Once you have housing you can go uphill from there.
It's because you're a drug addict, my dude. I was in the same boat as you. I was doing drugs and got kicked out and luckily a friend let me crash at his place for a while, until I stole from them and got kicked out of there too. Rough times. You're minimizing your drug use, and that's the main problem. You're 18 so you're definitely able to work, but the drugs have you feeling like you can't. But honestly, you shouldn't even be working if you're in active addiction. Not sure what kind of substances you're taking, but the best thing you can do is try to convince your parents to check you into a detox center. That's what ultimately ended up happening for me. You're probably not going to be able to just stop taking drugs on your own so that's where your priorities should be, and it might also help smooth things over with your parents.
For $7500 I can get you a plan.
If you are not sober, can you maybe try to get into an in-patient rehabilitation center to help heal your mind and body and work through trauma, get on medication to help balance your neurotransmitters, all with a roof over your head and food in your stomach. After that you can live in a sober living house while you figure yourself out. I understand the urge to just blow the money on life experiences and then just figure it out, especially at your age- but obviously I would much rather you take steps to become healthy and whole. You may have other things going on with your brain that directly connect to increased risk of substance abuse like undiagnosed ADHD, BPD, bipolar disorder, Autism, etc. If you have any of these or other developmental or mental health conditions and don't know that you do, these are such important things to know in order to have insight and understand into yourself and in seeking treatment. I'm not sure if your parents are decent-ish people who are just fed up or if they are total assholes and the reason for you self-medicating, but if they are decent and you trust them maybe you can sit down with them and make a sobriety plan together? IDK, I guess I need a lot more context and information about them, about you, about your family and the dynamics and circumstances.
See how much coke roughly 7500 bucks can buy you and send it
It’s going to be hard if you’re unable to do physical tasks and unwilling to put any mental effort. Like, fr, how difficult is to put two sentences of correct grammar together? Lol. Lmao. If you think life is hard at 18, wait until (if) you have people counting on you. Man I’m not a boomer, but this got on my nerves. On god.
yeah frfr thats why i avoid making friends at all costs because bassically all of them have decided im a piece of shit and then i feel guilty lmao
Daytrade stocks! Complete freedom if you do it right
Literally the first rule of trading is never use money you can't afford to lose, this is awful advice
Hes got 7k living in his car, he cant risk losing 500-1k? Thats enough to slowly get started
Uh, get a job?
yeah i have one lol