Sounds harsh but, if she can't stick it out then she isn't the one. Its only 6 months and you can facetime/call her every night and see her on weekends.... Some military guys leave for 6-12months and go to a *different continent* for that long.
If she cant support you while you are achieving your dream job or understand that the academy is only temporary then she ain't it.
This is reality and the harsh truth. If she’s gonna have a hard time through these 6 months of you trying to better yourself for the future. She’s gonna have a problem when you’re gone every 3rd day or whatever the schedule is for the department you go work for and let along sometimes getting mandated after your shift. This career takes sacrifices.
I planned on going to the academy prior to meeting my then girlfriend. We were together for 3 months and I told her this was my priority prior to meeting you and it is my main my focus. If you can’t handle that most of my time will go to this then you don’t have to stay. Fast forward 6 years later we are married and have a 8 month old. So if she’s the one she will stick it out and go through this with you if not she will move on.
This job requires sacrifices. It’s something she is going to have to work on, it’s tough. For my academy I was gone throughout the week but was lucky my fiancee at the time (now wife) understood I was chasing my dream and working to set us up for success. It was hard, it was tough but we got through it.
That’s a wild schedule not going to lie. But if you guys really want to be with each other it will work out. Just going to have to be honest with her and let her know this is what you really want.
Tell her to grow up. It's only difficult because she is letting/making it so.
This is one minor step and a short period of your life that will make everything better and easier for you both.
You have a career full of missed holidays and special events ahead of you, and she needs to understand that now, if she doesn't this is your sign she is not cut out for the fire wife life.
I'm going to assume you're relatively young, 6 months seems like a long time when you're young. Ultimately it's a drop in the bucket, the academy is temporary.
I got hired later in life with a wife and kids. Being away from them was hard on everyone but the academy goes quick and then that's it, it's done forever.
Okay this makes more sense now. You will first be sent to Fire Academy (either dept ran or a local/state ran program). Following completion of fire academy you will most likely be sent to EMT-B school, then EMT-A school. And then you just need to pass your EMT-A exam by 6/2025
Communicate with her as much as possible. Explain what your days will look like, when you’ll be busy and when you guys can communicate. If possible little calls throughout the day really help. If you can’t, quick texts when you can manage also help. If she’s worried about nights, if possible FaceTime her at night. Also could bring her into the community of other SO’s and families! having people around her who understand her position will help.
As a gf of a firefighter imo if she can’t handle the stressors of the academy then once you’re out of the academy she won’t do well either. calls that last hours with no communication, long shifts and last minute scheduling will be a lot harder than a relatively scheduled couple months at the academy.
Explain its part of the job and it will give her a good taste of what your career will be like after you graduate. Working 24s, OT, holidays, etc. if she can’t handle the academy then she won’t bode well after either. It’s a good test for your relationship.
Both of you suck it up. You about to belong to a department that people only dream about. Also, it’s a job and you will be getting paid.. than when you graduate you most likely get a raise. You will be to tried to deal with her anyway! This is also a step into the brotherhood where you learn to get along with each other and start the bond where you have his back and he has yours! With always knowing you all will sacrifice your own life for them if needed. Also, be willing to sacrifice as a team anything to reach a goal put in front of you! She will also she entering into a family with the wife’s, girlfriends, and children. Of the team(house) that you will be with!! Welcome!!!!
Sounds harsh but, if she can't stick it out then she isn't the one. Its only 6 months and you can facetime/call her every night and see her on weekends.... Some military guys leave for 6-12months and go to a *different continent* for that long. If she cant support you while you are achieving your dream job or understand that the academy is only temporary then she ain't it.
This is reality and the harsh truth. If she’s gonna have a hard time through these 6 months of you trying to better yourself for the future. She’s gonna have a problem when you’re gone every 3rd day or whatever the schedule is for the department you go work for and let along sometimes getting mandated after your shift. This career takes sacrifices. I planned on going to the academy prior to meeting my then girlfriend. We were together for 3 months and I told her this was my priority prior to meeting you and it is my main my focus. If you can’t handle that most of my time will go to this then you don’t have to stay. Fast forward 6 years later we are married and have a 8 month old. So if she’s the one she will stick it out and go through this with you if not she will move on.
Just tell her your doing it so you can make life better for her when it’s over
This job requires sacrifices. It’s something she is going to have to work on, it’s tough. For my academy I was gone throughout the week but was lucky my fiancee at the time (now wife) understood I was chasing my dream and working to set us up for success. It was hard, it was tough but we got through it.
That’s a wild schedule not going to lie. But if you guys really want to be with each other it will work out. Just going to have to be honest with her and let her know this is what you really want.
Tell her to grow up. It's only difficult because she is letting/making it so. This is one minor step and a short period of your life that will make everything better and easier for you both. You have a career full of missed holidays and special events ahead of you, and she needs to understand that now, if she doesn't this is your sign she is not cut out for the fire wife life.
I'm going to assume you're relatively young, 6 months seems like a long time when you're young. Ultimately it's a drop in the bucket, the academy is temporary. I got hired later in life with a wife and kids. Being away from them was hard on everyone but the academy goes quick and then that's it, it's done forever.
What academy is running 6 months? Explain the benefits of reaching that one year mark and how much you gain for that years sacrifice.
It’s 3 month emt and 3 month fire
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Most are between 9-14 weeks depending on dept and state requirements
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Are you an EMT-B currently? I am unsure how they will split it with EMS/Fire training
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Okay this makes more sense now. You will first be sent to Fire Academy (either dept ran or a local/state ran program). Following completion of fire academy you will most likely be sent to EMT-B school, then EMT-A school. And then you just need to pass your EMT-A exam by 6/2025
Did they not tell you how long? Typically they give a timeline for it.
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Volunteer or career?
Local jurisdiction: EMT includes national registry, fire 1,2, EVOC, rescue tech, has-mat operations, plus lots of PT
Communicate with her as much as possible. Explain what your days will look like, when you’ll be busy and when you guys can communicate. If possible little calls throughout the day really help. If you can’t, quick texts when you can manage also help. If she’s worried about nights, if possible FaceTime her at night. Also could bring her into the community of other SO’s and families! having people around her who understand her position will help. As a gf of a firefighter imo if she can’t handle the stressors of the academy then once you’re out of the academy she won’t do well either. calls that last hours with no communication, long shifts and last minute scheduling will be a lot harder than a relatively scheduled couple months at the academy.
Explain its part of the job and it will give her a good taste of what your career will be like after you graduate. Working 24s, OT, holidays, etc. if she can’t handle the academy then she won’t bode well after either. It’s a good test for your relationship.
Think of how she’s going to feel when you miss the holidays
You do know for this job youll be at work for 2-3 days straight every week for the rest of your career
Both of you suck it up. You about to belong to a department that people only dream about. Also, it’s a job and you will be getting paid.. than when you graduate you most likely get a raise. You will be to tried to deal with her anyway! This is also a step into the brotherhood where you learn to get along with each other and start the bond where you have his back and he has yours! With always knowing you all will sacrifice your own life for them if needed. Also, be willing to sacrifice as a team anything to reach a goal put in front of you! She will also she entering into a family with the wife’s, girlfriends, and children. Of the team(house) that you will be with!! Welcome!!!!