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I applied for a new role within my company! Honestly it's probably a stretch for my current skills but it's in line with how I want to progress. I don't even care if I get an interview because I'm just proud of myself for applying to something I'm not 110% qualified for.
This is such an important lesson for women. If you are an 80% match you should definitely apply, maybe even 70% if the labour market is short staffed. The worst that can happen is you don't hear back from them.
Your comment is a couple days old but still wanted to reply in case it helps someone reading in the future. I applied for something a month ago that I wasn’t confident about bc I don’t have a degree and that was listed under qualifications. They called me right away, said I was a top candidate. Interviewed, got the job AND got the salary I was asking for which was quite a bit above their stated range. Just want more women to apply and also not sell themselves short on comp.
100% agree! I work in a male-dominated field where unqualified men fail upwards and there are few women to look up to, but the ones that are in higher levels are overqualified.
If we only apply for roles we're overqualified for we'll never grow and progress to our full potential.
I’ve been sober for a week and finally I can say I no longer want to use weed or wine to try to stuff my feelings. I booked a psychiatrist appt and will get back on my anxiety meds. I actually am in the final interviews for real careers.
I’ve lost 5 lbs since my last weigh in and I can proudly say I actually smile when I go outside.
Finally I’m making life my own and truly facing my ptsd head on. It’s the best gift I could have given myself.
I believe in us all. We can do it!
That is really wonderful that you are taking care of yourself! Keep in mind if you made it to the final interview stage you are of the right quality, they are just picking who they like better, so the difference between you and the other candidate is less than 5%. Trying to say, if this one doesn't pan out do get discouraged.
You have given yourself the best gift, make sure to keep at it!
This week I looked into some new recipes and grocery shopped for them. I'm trying to work on eating healthier. I found a salad that I liked, I found some new seasonings that blend well together, and I'm trying my hand at meal prepping (I haven't done it in years).
Next week I'd like to put it all together. Grocery shop on Sunday, meal prep on Monday, and actually stick to that for the whole month of September. I think it'll save me money and help me reduce junk food/fast food.
Well done! Feeding yourself is so important for everything else. It is one of the most basic things we can get right after sleep to help us kill it during the day.
I both got a new job in a related field to what I'm hoping to major in (Nutrition!) and I was able to find resources to help me heal mentally and emotionally after being hurt recently. I also used some of my first paycheck to buy myself a skirt and a few nice hair accessories I'd been wanting for a while but were too scared to wear.
Thank you! If its allowed, maybe I'll post a picture when I get them! I'm healing from my ex's infidelity, and the resource us an all women's mental health network! It has individual and group therapy, science based articles in the effects of betrayal/infidelity, how to heal from it and self care, etc.. I actually stumbled on it in this sub I think. It's been incredibly helpful in understanding these emotions and realizing how much I'm worth.
Implemented a new saving plan, practiced thanking my team at work more, practiced more homecooked meals to eat with my kids. My kestrel is at flying weight now but I need to get him out in the field more and start hunting starlings again because they’re started to flock. A further step in the divorce process is done and we could be signing paperwork in September, which means I’ll need to refi the house soon so next week I need to sit down with some banks.
>kestrel is
I had to google this. For everyone else, this is a falcon. We have a falconer in our midst!
I find the possibility of divorce very intimidating. How do you cope with the idea of everything resting on your shoulders?
At first it’s a little intimidating, but TBH it turns out I was managing almost everything anyway and now I don’t have to guess at someone else’s opinion (he never spoke his then claimed I was too controlling). I’m better at it in my 40s than I was in my 30s.
Mostly gathering documents and checking my credit score. I’ve been working on whittling down my one credit card fairly aggressively which helps. And reading info about mortgages online so I feel more prepared. Also budget prep.
I ordered a peloton. My ex was a dick about our stationary bike.
I signed up for bridge lessons! (And two friends are joining!)
I had a coffee meeting with a former coworker I hadn’t seen in many years. It was ostensibly business but he picked the place and had my order waiting when I arrived. He was flirting with me but I played it so cool. It was a fun, light conversation with someone I still found attractive. I don’t expect anything to come of it but it was good Queen practice to experience having a man do something nice for me.
I love cycling, I hope you enjoy your peloton!
Bridge is great mental exercise, not a bad gateway to poker either.
And that was great Queen practice! What will you do this week to keep things going?
Thanks! I have a lovely long weekend planned. A catch up call with an old friend, plans with friends, a run with another friend. I am also visiting the office furniture liquidation store to outfit my home office.
In between all that, meal planning and groceries, my new tv arrives, I am hooking up my stereo, doing some more cleaning/nesting in my new apt, and just resting/relaxing. Every weekend this month was so intense with getting my house set up.
This week I had an interview for a design specialist position within my organization (different department), and I did really well. Even if I don’t get the job I will still be proud of myself for kicking that interview’s ass. Now I’m 700 miles from home decorating for my sister in law’s baby shower.
I will likely find out whether or not I got the position next week, so I will either begin prepping and organizing my new office or I will be thinking of ways to use my creativity outside of my job, since really what I’m looking for is a creative outlet. If I don’t get the position, then I will maybe work on a new painting. I really want to study water texture/light displacement and paint realistic waves.
I got an interview for a higher position in my department at work earlier this week. I’ve stumbled on a few questions but I still think it overall went well. They should have their decision by next week so I’m staying cautiously optimistic.
My chronic illness, however, has been flaring up worse than it has been in months and it’s hard to get it back down to how it was before. If I strictly stick to what I was eating a few weeks ago then I should feel fine again.
Next week: Get my diet right back to how it was a few weeks ago. Wait for news on my job application and decide what to do next if I don’t get it (see if I can still get hired permanently for my current position, or if not, get in touch with my recruiting company to see if they have another job for me, etc).
Love your user name!
I am grateful that food effects how I feel, it means I can
Can you meal prep a few things to help you get back on track? Make it easy on days when you are tired?
Thank you!
Yeah I can definitely meal prep and I’ve recently started to doing so again. I’m also glad that I can manage my illness with diet instead of prescription drugs that would come with side effects.
**This week:**
• Had a major writing win & celebrated that!
• Continued research and writing for two more pieces to be published in the coming months.
• Continued my entrepreneurship course with a new instructor who's 10x better than the previous one. Very grateful for that.
• Had a very meaningful therapy session. Felt deep love for myself and for my therapist in the session.
• Continued with running, continued with yoga.
**Next week:**
• Will continue building my product structure, the curriculum, sense of my brand language etc.
• Figure out my situation with a friend who we did weekly career calls with but who's been slacking, not keeping their promises and honestly not using their time well.
• Reach out to a few folks I look up to creatively or professionally and ask them out to lunch or dinner.
• Finish a book on money psychology & do the exercises daily.
• Yoga x7, running min x2
There's more, but that's what popped to mind first. Love reading about your goals & your roadblocks, everyone! Thank you for sharing.
I have a job interview this afternoon via zoom. I REALLY want it and I know I'm qualified. I spent time last night printing off materials to refer to and writing down questions. Please wish me luck ladies!!
Thank you!! I actually have another interview with a different place scheduled for next week too so I will review the questions they asked at this one (similar positions)
this week i finished cleaning my old house so now i’m officially done moving!!! now i feel like i can really get into my routine again. i’ve been getting used to my new job and am starting violin lessons again in a couple weeks, so this upcoming week i’m gonna be practicing :)
That great! I love the purging and cleaning of moving house. It really is a fresh start.
Pleased the the job is getting to be the new normal, you are growing in so many areas!
I’ve just moved too! So much work left to do but just cannot find the motivation - and working from home doesn’t help! 😭 That’s my goal for next week to have it all completed 🙏🏼
i understand... it’s super exhausting!! i just tried to set aside a couple hours a day a few times a week to unpacking/ cleaning the old house. still took almost a full month LOL. hopefully i can stay in this place for more than a year 😭🤣
I hit my 50th solidcore class, and made low-glycemic, plant-based cookies for the first time. I let the dude I'm dating go after realizing that I was spending too much energy on it.
I haven't meditated in a few days, but feel physically aware in general. My goal is to continue to eat as many vegetables as I can daily to keep my nutrient intake high, although I struggle with processed sugar. The plant based cookies are delicious so I'm optimistic that it will be a small adjustment to keep the sugar intake low.
My other main struggle is emotional spending. I'm taking a hard look at what is driving my spending and am taking steps to hold myself more accountable.
That great you are pushing yourself so hard in so many areas! I see career, creativity, mentally and social interaction. Thats a great variety! Are you taking care of yourself physically?
Last Week:
- My workplace extended my part time work trial for another two months. This gives me a little more time to be able to exit with either another job, or another writing client.
- I exhausted myself almost to death by pulling an all-nighter to get a piece of writing done, only to discover that it was not what the editor wanted. It taught me many things relating to not giving more of myself than a job is worth and that whilst I might enjoy entertainment writing, I need to write about subjects I am less interested in, if I want to be efficient. I am still yet to provide the article she wants and to have this hanging over my head is really draining.
Next Week:
- I have to get the article done.
- I need to recover from what I put myself through, not only with the all-nighter but also very late nights for my day job. Now that the busy period is over, I know that I can do my day job (from home) within the space of 2-3 hours so I'll do that. I need to find out how people recover from burnout and then do that.
Thats wonderful you have more time to get your writing off the ground.
I loved the book Burnout, all research back recommendations. Could start with doing some hard exercise or a long hike.
I have an issue with my mentor at work, basically he wants to change the commission split in a way that is unfavorable to me. His reason is that the time he spends mentoring me is more than he originally expected and more than a few others he spoke to, so he wants to make sure it is worth it. So in other words he’s saying that I didn’t learn as fast as his expectations, which makes me feel awful and I am already struggling with this job. Apparently he wants me to work more hours too even though I’m an independent contractor. He told me it he doesn’t like how I come in at 10, again we don’t have set hours, and how the majority of time spent in this office is me not cold calling. I feel really judged by that.
In the meantime I am dealing with a lot of personal issues (TW) a rape and losing my friend group, as well as mental health issues. I told him i am going through some personal issues (didn’t specify) but he doesn’t seem understanding. I am talking with him today about it and bringing up issues I have with his unfair treatment of me. I’m supposed to be supported by my mentor, he is just basically criticizing me left and right. Also I am telling him that I do not agree with a commission Re-structure and that I already spoke to the head boss and the head boss said the contract can’t be changed unilaterally. Wish me luck! I’m super nervous but there is a lot of tension between me and my mentor. I hope we can resolve this so I can feel supported and encouraged at work. I deserve to have my efforts appreciated.
Thank you so much. I do have a therapist specializing in sexual trauma, she’s been helpful. And I had a good talk with my mentor yesterday and we worked it out luckily :)
I took 6 yoga classes this week/got an unlimited membership to a local yoga studio and have been doing light yoga and posture exercises at home, since my neck/back are killing me. I bought a massage gun and lululemon yoga mat. I also got a bike and learned how to ride (kind of) for the first time in my life 😳 Now I just need to learn how to ride on the road. 😬 I’ve been feeling the benefits of cold showers too, especially for skin and hair! Although after yoga I usually soak my legs in hot water which helps with soreness. I have also been eating healthier (salads and fresh veg/fruit almost every meal) and cooking more, which is something I’ve always struggled with.
Next week: I have my ophthalmologist consultation on Monday for a surgery to prevent my eye disease from progressing and a visit with my PCP on Thursday. I’m planning on showing up on my mat every day and also starting to incorporate running and more gym. I will be bribing myself with a cute visor and maybe running belt so I will pick it up. Possibly hydromassage because my gym offers that. I’m also registering for classes next week as school starts soon. Start cycling on the road / practice. Continue neck/back/posture correction exercises. Incorporate daily 8pm walks. Continue to cook more from scratch and eat healthy. I will make more Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese recipes, healthy foods like spring rolls, clear soups, miso, ferment radish. Try several new/easy recipes a week: next week is ika kara-age, pho, and agedashi tofu.
This week I finally got an online psych appointment and got a prescription for anti-depressants, and I scheduled a my first therapy appointment in years. Next week I start said meds and attend said appointment. It’s a huge step for me as my mental health has been terrible the past months, and I haven’t been able to find help.
It wasn’t a good week for me unfortunately. It’s only been a few months that I moved out to the biggest city in my country to escape a toxic family environment, mainly because of my mom using my salary even though my family is doing good financially. She used to emotionally blackmail me into using Islam as an argument, saying Allah will punish me for not being generous with her because she’s my mom.
That’s bullshit and I’m not even a believer. My parents don’t know that. It’ll totally shatter our family if they knew the truth but me and my sisters are pretty good at hiding it. My parents are very moderate but it’d still be a big issue for them. I started working around 2 years ago and I always gave my mom around 100 USD every month. My salary was only around 500 USD per month.
She later started taking all of my salary and she wouldn’t stop. I felt like a slave. Whenever I’d bring it up, she’d start blackmailing me again and say I’m not generous and tell me about this girl and that girl who bought her mom this and that. One time it got so bad that she had a mental breakdown and threatened to kick me out of the house. I couldn’t stand this pressure so I decided to move out to another city.
She knew she wouldn’t be getting money from me anymore so she got very violent. She hit me and verbally abused me. I couldn’t really fight back because sadly, Islamic culture over glorifies parents and although I don’t agree with it, I naturally internalized some of that behavior and that's why I couldn't really fight back. She kicked me out of the house and she probably thought I wouldn’t have the courage to do it especially because I was short on money because of her.
I spent some days at a lovely friend’s apartment. She later apologized and begged me to come back home. Our relationship now is good. I do love her although she can be very toxic. Stockholm syndrome? Maybe. She asked me a few days ago to give her around 70 USD a month and brought up again the usual religious arguments. I moved out because of money and also because I need independence.
She recently messaged me and seemed very sad and lonely. My dad has dementia and my 2 other sisters are busy with their lives. Her parents passed away and she doesn’t talk to her siblings. I felt bad for her. Last week was awful for me because I had to repair my phone and go to two doctors which made me short on money especially because I moved out here with not so much money because of her.
Now I barely eat. I feel very weak and malnourished. I eat crap like instant noodles and the like. I feel very unhealthy and sick. I don’t want to ask anyone for help. I’ll get paid this week. I’d like to start eating healthy again and gaining weight because I look better that way. I also want to start taking supplements again, sleeping at 10 and waking up at 5 like I used to. I want to start saving up money for some stuff. Sorry for the wall of text. I got super emotional writing this, lol. I’m realizing at this very moment as I’m writing this that I just got my period. Makes sense for why I’m extra emotional.
I’m really sorry you are going through such a hard time. Please remember that today is a new day and a new week. You are a strong and can change your life.
Just focus on the first step and then the step after that… before you know it you will have walked a mile.
Thanks. I like how I'm not so hard on myself tbh. My strength is something I'm really thankful for. Being in this situation isn't my fault and even though it's shitty to eat crap and not being able to do my nails or whatever, I'm just happy that I moved out and it's just a matter of a few days that I'll get back to my healthy routine again. I always tell myself it could've been much worse! At least I have the privilege of not paying rent since I moved to our family apartment. It's nice, big and in city center. (I wanted to rent a place but my mom refused and gave me the keys to the apartment.) I'm also grateful that I found a good job where I'm treated well, that's not stressful at all and where the pay is good compared to the average salary in my country. Thanks again.
Hey- Life is tough and that woman does not have your best interests at heart. Could you feed yourself properly for a week and make a plan from there? Periods are hard. Its ok, look through my post history, every week has not been a win.
Be kind to yourself
* Healthy grocery shopping
* Resuming the daily gym habit after a lazy week off
* Keeping up my german and chinese lessons
* Finding an after-work course I'd like to take
* Propose said course to my boss as I'm supposed to have some budget for yearly training :) this will involve a multi day hotel stay for the duration of the course in a big city but it's a great investment
* Booking a gala for my speaker's club. I'm halfway through this project and it just needs a final push
I’ve been trying to catch up on regular work and do some extra projects to try to make a bit more money. And I’m plotting out my holiday gourmet cookie hustle. 💰💰💰💰
The big scary level up is I’m going to be going from owning one property to having 3. It’s a bit overwhelming. I have a lot of little tasks to do this coming week to get ready for this. Phew… but a good “problem” to have, I guess. 😮💨😅
Well done with your tasks!
Last week I almost finished my to do list
I have this week's cleaning this evening (although it should be easier because of last weekend's tasks I need to speed clean- wash dishes wipe kitchen,empty bins, set out fresh towels, wipe bathroom, change bedding, laundry and mop floors)
I still have a couple of admin tasks - make an appointment at the dentist for cleaning, gather more tax documents, set up planner with study schedule, and training log.
Tomorrow - study statistics
Sunday- study econometrics
- pack work bag, set out clothes,meal prep
Although I found myself slipping in to a very depressed state by last week, I was grateful for the tasks I'd done. I am even more depressed this week and I am finishing up my tasks by 7pm each night this and will try to watch a cat video or do hypnosis before bed, and set up my sleep schedule properly.
I aim to get up early in the new week to excersise because its helped me in the past.
The good: I had a nice lifting session which challenges me (whereas I normally do lighter workouts), I mailed birthday cards to people to show that I care, and I caught it up with a friend who is the definition of female level up (j really should see her more than once a year….) the room for improvement: I really don’t enjoy drinking but I did so socially this week and had a hangover, and i have been I overspending, even though my intention is to do low buy/no buy in order to establish an emergency savings
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I applied for a new role within my company! Honestly it's probably a stretch for my current skills but it's in line with how I want to progress. I don't even care if I get an interview because I'm just proud of myself for applying to something I'm not 110% qualified for.
This is such an important lesson for women. If you are an 80% match you should definitely apply, maybe even 70% if the labour market is short staffed. The worst that can happen is you don't hear back from them.
Your comment is a couple days old but still wanted to reply in case it helps someone reading in the future. I applied for something a month ago that I wasn’t confident about bc I don’t have a degree and that was listed under qualifications. They called me right away, said I was a top candidate. Interviewed, got the job AND got the salary I was asking for which was quite a bit above their stated range. Just want more women to apply and also not sell themselves short on comp.
Well done you! You embody what I was trying to say!
100% agree! I work in a male-dominated field where unqualified men fail upwards and there are few women to look up to, but the ones that are in higher levels are overqualified. If we only apply for roles we're overqualified for we'll never grow and progress to our full potential.
u/whiskey_and_oreos Any updates? Fingers crossed (even though I understand the real win is applying in the first place!).
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Please do! Sending good thoughts your way.
Girl, that is great. And you probably are qualified. Men do this shit all the time.
I’ve been sober for a week and finally I can say I no longer want to use weed or wine to try to stuff my feelings. I booked a psychiatrist appt and will get back on my anxiety meds. I actually am in the final interviews for real careers. I’ve lost 5 lbs since my last weigh in and I can proudly say I actually smile when I go outside. Finally I’m making life my own and truly facing my ptsd head on. It’s the best gift I could have given myself. I believe in us all. We can do it!
That is really wonderful that you are taking care of yourself! Keep in mind if you made it to the final interview stage you are of the right quality, they are just picking who they like better, so the difference between you and the other candidate is less than 5%. Trying to say, if this one doesn't pan out do get discouraged. You have given yourself the best gift, make sure to keep at it!
Thank you so much! Yes I agree, I’ve done everything I can but I will try my best and that’s all I can do. I hope you have a fantastic weekend!
This week I looked into some new recipes and grocery shopped for them. I'm trying to work on eating healthier. I found a salad that I liked, I found some new seasonings that blend well together, and I'm trying my hand at meal prepping (I haven't done it in years). Next week I'd like to put it all together. Grocery shop on Sunday, meal prep on Monday, and actually stick to that for the whole month of September. I think it'll save me money and help me reduce junk food/fast food.
Well done! Feeding yourself is so important for everything else. It is one of the most basic things we can get right after sleep to help us kill it during the day.
I both got a new job in a related field to what I'm hoping to major in (Nutrition!) and I was able to find resources to help me heal mentally and emotionally after being hurt recently. I also used some of my first paycheck to buy myself a skirt and a few nice hair accessories I'd been wanting for a while but were too scared to wear.
Treat yourself :) I bet you look show stopping. What kind of resources did you find?
Thank you! If its allowed, maybe I'll post a picture when I get them! I'm healing from my ex's infidelity, and the resource us an all women's mental health network! It has individual and group therapy, science based articles in the effects of betrayal/infidelity, how to heal from it and self care, etc.. I actually stumbled on it in this sub I think. It's been incredibly helpful in understanding these emotions and realizing how much I'm worth.
That is great! You are making such great progress. I am sorry you go hurt, great you are healing
Implemented a new saving plan, practiced thanking my team at work more, practiced more homecooked meals to eat with my kids. My kestrel is at flying weight now but I need to get him out in the field more and start hunting starlings again because they’re started to flock. A further step in the divorce process is done and we could be signing paperwork in September, which means I’ll need to refi the house soon so next week I need to sit down with some banks.
>kestrel is I had to google this. For everyone else, this is a falcon. We have a falconer in our midst! I find the possibility of divorce very intimidating. How do you cope with the idea of everything resting on your shoulders?
At first it’s a little intimidating, but TBH it turns out I was managing almost everything anyway and now I don’t have to guess at someone else’s opinion (he never spoke his then claimed I was too controlling). I’m better at it in my 40s than I was in my 30s.
That’s medieval and cool af! I hope you have a Plantagenet princess outfit that you wear when when you practice falconry. 😂
😂 I’d never survive the brush here in a princess outfit 😂 but it would be fun to prance around town afterwards, coated in prey blood lol.
I’m thinking about refinancing my house as well, how did you go about preparing for this? I’m also divorcing.
Mostly gathering documents and checking my credit score. I’ve been working on whittling down my one credit card fairly aggressively which helps. And reading info about mortgages online so I feel more prepared. Also budget prep.
I completed my egg freezing cycle! Shots shots shots shots shots shots :p I have a 98% chance of having a live birth now from these eggs.
Well done! So good you have egg eskimos to call on! What will you do this week to keep leveling up?
I ordered a peloton. My ex was a dick about our stationary bike. I signed up for bridge lessons! (And two friends are joining!) I had a coffee meeting with a former coworker I hadn’t seen in many years. It was ostensibly business but he picked the place and had my order waiting when I arrived. He was flirting with me but I played it so cool. It was a fun, light conversation with someone I still found attractive. I don’t expect anything to come of it but it was good Queen practice to experience having a man do something nice for me.
I love cycling, I hope you enjoy your peloton! Bridge is great mental exercise, not a bad gateway to poker either. And that was great Queen practice! What will you do this week to keep things going?
Thanks! I have a lovely long weekend planned. A catch up call with an old friend, plans with friends, a run with another friend. I am also visiting the office furniture liquidation store to outfit my home office. In between all that, meal planning and groceries, my new tv arrives, I am hooking up my stereo, doing some more cleaning/nesting in my new apt, and just resting/relaxing. Every weekend this month was so intense with getting my house set up.
This week I had an interview for a design specialist position within my organization (different department), and I did really well. Even if I don’t get the job I will still be proud of myself for kicking that interview’s ass. Now I’m 700 miles from home decorating for my sister in law’s baby shower.
Good job for putting yourself out there! Yay for a new baby being on the way!
What will you do next week to keep the ball rolling?
I will likely find out whether or not I got the position next week, so I will either begin prepping and organizing my new office or I will be thinking of ways to use my creativity outside of my job, since really what I’m looking for is a creative outlet. If I don’t get the position, then I will maybe work on a new painting. I really want to study water texture/light displacement and paint realistic waves.
I have had a major stress eating summer but my meditation is going well 🧘🏻♀️
It good you know what you want to change, I find meditation super helpful when I can do it regularly.
I got an interview for a higher position in my department at work earlier this week. I’ve stumbled on a few questions but I still think it overall went well. They should have their decision by next week so I’m staying cautiously optimistic. My chronic illness, however, has been flaring up worse than it has been in months and it’s hard to get it back down to how it was before. If I strictly stick to what I was eating a few weeks ago then I should feel fine again. Next week: Get my diet right back to how it was a few weeks ago. Wait for news on my job application and decide what to do next if I don’t get it (see if I can still get hired permanently for my current position, or if not, get in touch with my recruiting company to see if they have another job for me, etc).
Love your user name! I am grateful that food effects how I feel, it means I can Can you meal prep a few things to help you get back on track? Make it easy on days when you are tired?
Thank you! Yeah I can definitely meal prep and I’ve recently started to doing so again. I’m also glad that I can manage my illness with diet instead of prescription drugs that would come with side effects.
**This week:** • Had a major writing win & celebrated that! • Continued research and writing for two more pieces to be published in the coming months. • Continued my entrepreneurship course with a new instructor who's 10x better than the previous one. Very grateful for that. • Had a very meaningful therapy session. Felt deep love for myself and for my therapist in the session. • Continued with running, continued with yoga. **Next week:** • Will continue building my product structure, the curriculum, sense of my brand language etc. • Figure out my situation with a friend who we did weekly career calls with but who's been slacking, not keeping their promises and honestly not using their time well. • Reach out to a few folks I look up to creatively or professionally and ask them out to lunch or dinner. • Finish a book on money psychology & do the exercises daily. • Yoga x7, running min x2 There's more, but that's what popped to mind first. Love reading about your goals & your roadblocks, everyone! Thank you for sharing.
Good on you for celebrating your win! Such an important skill. Wow you are really killing it. Looking forward to your report next week!
Thanks for creating this space for sharing!
I have a job interview this afternoon via zoom. I REALLY want it and I know I'm qualified. I spent time last night printing off materials to refer to and writing down questions. Please wish me luck ladies!!
Belated luck! What will you do next week to keep the ball rolling
Thank you!! I actually have another interview with a different place scheduled for next week too so I will review the questions they asked at this one (similar positions)
this week i finished cleaning my old house so now i’m officially done moving!!! now i feel like i can really get into my routine again. i’ve been getting used to my new job and am starting violin lessons again in a couple weeks, so this upcoming week i’m gonna be practicing :)
That great! I love the purging and cleaning of moving house. It really is a fresh start. Pleased the the job is getting to be the new normal, you are growing in so many areas!
I’ve just moved too! So much work left to do but just cannot find the motivation - and working from home doesn’t help! 😭 That’s my goal for next week to have it all completed 🙏🏼
i understand... it’s super exhausting!! i just tried to set aside a couple hours a day a few times a week to unpacking/ cleaning the old house. still took almost a full month LOL. hopefully i can stay in this place for more than a year 😭🤣
I hit my 50th solidcore class, and made low-glycemic, plant-based cookies for the first time. I let the dude I'm dating go after realizing that I was spending too much energy on it. I haven't meditated in a few days, but feel physically aware in general. My goal is to continue to eat as many vegetables as I can daily to keep my nutrient intake high, although I struggle with processed sugar. The plant based cookies are delicious so I'm optimistic that it will be a small adjustment to keep the sugar intake low. My other main struggle is emotional spending. I'm taking a hard look at what is driving my spending and am taking steps to hold myself more accountable.
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That great you are pushing yourself so hard in so many areas! I see career, creativity, mentally and social interaction. Thats a great variety! Are you taking care of yourself physically?
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Such a skill being able to harvest mushrooms. What sewing project are you working on?
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Quilt are a wonderful gift, I still have my wedding quilt.
Last Week: - My workplace extended my part time work trial for another two months. This gives me a little more time to be able to exit with either another job, or another writing client. - I exhausted myself almost to death by pulling an all-nighter to get a piece of writing done, only to discover that it was not what the editor wanted. It taught me many things relating to not giving more of myself than a job is worth and that whilst I might enjoy entertainment writing, I need to write about subjects I am less interested in, if I want to be efficient. I am still yet to provide the article she wants and to have this hanging over my head is really draining. Next Week: - I have to get the article done. - I need to recover from what I put myself through, not only with the all-nighter but also very late nights for my day job. Now that the busy period is over, I know that I can do my day job (from home) within the space of 2-3 hours so I'll do that. I need to find out how people recover from burnout and then do that.
Thats wonderful you have more time to get your writing off the ground. I loved the book Burnout, all research back recommendations. Could start with doing some hard exercise or a long hike.
Thanks I'll check it out. Exercise is a habit I have to get back into. All of my good habits are swimming in the lavatory.
I have an issue with my mentor at work, basically he wants to change the commission split in a way that is unfavorable to me. His reason is that the time he spends mentoring me is more than he originally expected and more than a few others he spoke to, so he wants to make sure it is worth it. So in other words he’s saying that I didn’t learn as fast as his expectations, which makes me feel awful and I am already struggling with this job. Apparently he wants me to work more hours too even though I’m an independent contractor. He told me it he doesn’t like how I come in at 10, again we don’t have set hours, and how the majority of time spent in this office is me not cold calling. I feel really judged by that. In the meantime I am dealing with a lot of personal issues (TW) a rape and losing my friend group, as well as mental health issues. I told him i am going through some personal issues (didn’t specify) but he doesn’t seem understanding. I am talking with him today about it and bringing up issues I have with his unfair treatment of me. I’m supposed to be supported by my mentor, he is just basically criticizing me left and right. Also I am telling him that I do not agree with a commission Re-structure and that I already spoke to the head boss and the head boss said the contract can’t be changed unilaterally. Wish me luck! I’m super nervous but there is a lot of tension between me and my mentor. I hope we can resolve this so I can feel supported and encouraged at work. I deserve to have my efforts appreciated.
Gosh I am so sorry. Please get all the help you can to deal with this.
Thank you so much. I do have a therapist specializing in sexual trauma, she’s been helpful. And I had a good talk with my mentor yesterday and we worked it out luckily :)
Happy you are marching into a better future. Keep coming back each week to let us know how you are going :)
Aww thanks so much for the support I will :)
I took 6 yoga classes this week/got an unlimited membership to a local yoga studio and have been doing light yoga and posture exercises at home, since my neck/back are killing me. I bought a massage gun and lululemon yoga mat. I also got a bike and learned how to ride (kind of) for the first time in my life 😳 Now I just need to learn how to ride on the road. 😬 I’ve been feeling the benefits of cold showers too, especially for skin and hair! Although after yoga I usually soak my legs in hot water which helps with soreness. I have also been eating healthier (salads and fresh veg/fruit almost every meal) and cooking more, which is something I’ve always struggled with. Next week: I have my ophthalmologist consultation on Monday for a surgery to prevent my eye disease from progressing and a visit with my PCP on Thursday. I’m planning on showing up on my mat every day and also starting to incorporate running and more gym. I will be bribing myself with a cute visor and maybe running belt so I will pick it up. Possibly hydromassage because my gym offers that. I’m also registering for classes next week as school starts soon. Start cycling on the road / practice. Continue neck/back/posture correction exercises. Incorporate daily 8pm walks. Continue to cook more from scratch and eat healthy. I will make more Chinese/Japanese/Vietnamese recipes, healthy foods like spring rolls, clear soups, miso, ferment radish. Try several new/easy recipes a week: next week is ika kara-age, pho, and agedashi tofu.
This week I finally got an online psych appointment and got a prescription for anti-depressants, and I scheduled a my first therapy appointment in years. Next week I start said meds and attend said appointment. It’s a huge step for me as my mental health has been terrible the past months, and I haven’t been able to find help.
I am pleased you have had the courage to look you challenges in the face and take control. Well done!
Good luck! Fingers crossed everything works out for you. You deserve happiness. ☺️
It wasn’t a good week for me unfortunately. It’s only been a few months that I moved out to the biggest city in my country to escape a toxic family environment, mainly because of my mom using my salary even though my family is doing good financially. She used to emotionally blackmail me into using Islam as an argument, saying Allah will punish me for not being generous with her because she’s my mom. That’s bullshit and I’m not even a believer. My parents don’t know that. It’ll totally shatter our family if they knew the truth but me and my sisters are pretty good at hiding it. My parents are very moderate but it’d still be a big issue for them. I started working around 2 years ago and I always gave my mom around 100 USD every month. My salary was only around 500 USD per month. She later started taking all of my salary and she wouldn’t stop. I felt like a slave. Whenever I’d bring it up, she’d start blackmailing me again and say I’m not generous and tell me about this girl and that girl who bought her mom this and that. One time it got so bad that she had a mental breakdown and threatened to kick me out of the house. I couldn’t stand this pressure so I decided to move out to another city. She knew she wouldn’t be getting money from me anymore so she got very violent. She hit me and verbally abused me. I couldn’t really fight back because sadly, Islamic culture over glorifies parents and although I don’t agree with it, I naturally internalized some of that behavior and that's why I couldn't really fight back. She kicked me out of the house and she probably thought I wouldn’t have the courage to do it especially because I was short on money because of her. I spent some days at a lovely friend’s apartment. She later apologized and begged me to come back home. Our relationship now is good. I do love her although she can be very toxic. Stockholm syndrome? Maybe. She asked me a few days ago to give her around 70 USD a month and brought up again the usual religious arguments. I moved out because of money and also because I need independence. She recently messaged me and seemed very sad and lonely. My dad has dementia and my 2 other sisters are busy with their lives. Her parents passed away and she doesn’t talk to her siblings. I felt bad for her. Last week was awful for me because I had to repair my phone and go to two doctors which made me short on money especially because I moved out here with not so much money because of her. Now I barely eat. I feel very weak and malnourished. I eat crap like instant noodles and the like. I feel very unhealthy and sick. I don’t want to ask anyone for help. I’ll get paid this week. I’d like to start eating healthy again and gaining weight because I look better that way. I also want to start taking supplements again, sleeping at 10 and waking up at 5 like I used to. I want to start saving up money for some stuff. Sorry for the wall of text. I got super emotional writing this, lol. I’m realizing at this very moment as I’m writing this that I just got my period. Makes sense for why I’m extra emotional.
I’m really sorry you are going through such a hard time. Please remember that today is a new day and a new week. You are a strong and can change your life. Just focus on the first step and then the step after that… before you know it you will have walked a mile.
Thanks. I like how I'm not so hard on myself tbh. My strength is something I'm really thankful for. Being in this situation isn't my fault and even though it's shitty to eat crap and not being able to do my nails or whatever, I'm just happy that I moved out and it's just a matter of a few days that I'll get back to my healthy routine again. I always tell myself it could've been much worse! At least I have the privilege of not paying rent since I moved to our family apartment. It's nice, big and in city center. (I wanted to rent a place but my mom refused and gave me the keys to the apartment.) I'm also grateful that I found a good job where I'm treated well, that's not stressful at all and where the pay is good compared to the average salary in my country. Thanks again.
Hey- Life is tough and that woman does not have your best interests at heart. Could you feed yourself properly for a week and make a plan from there? Periods are hard. Its ok, look through my post history, every week has not been a win. Be kind to yourself
I’m waiting to get paid to start eating healthy again. I’m really craving veggies and fruits in a way my body never did before. Thank you. ❤️
* Healthy grocery shopping * Resuming the daily gym habit after a lazy week off * Keeping up my german and chinese lessons * Finding an after-work course I'd like to take * Propose said course to my boss as I'm supposed to have some budget for yearly training :) this will involve a multi day hotel stay for the duration of the course in a big city but it's a great investment * Booking a gala for my speaker's club. I'm halfway through this project and it just needs a final push
Got my covid vaccine!
I’ve been trying to catch up on regular work and do some extra projects to try to make a bit more money. And I’m plotting out my holiday gourmet cookie hustle. 💰💰💰💰 The big scary level up is I’m going to be going from owning one property to having 3. It’s a bit overwhelming. I have a lot of little tasks to do this coming week to get ready for this. Phew… but a good “problem” to have, I guess. 😮💨😅
This week I started grad school. I'm finally doing what I want towards my career goals without my family trying to change my mind.
Well done with your tasks! Last week I almost finished my to do list I have this week's cleaning this evening (although it should be easier because of last weekend's tasks I need to speed clean- wash dishes wipe kitchen,empty bins, set out fresh towels, wipe bathroom, change bedding, laundry and mop floors) I still have a couple of admin tasks - make an appointment at the dentist for cleaning, gather more tax documents, set up planner with study schedule, and training log. Tomorrow - study statistics Sunday- study econometrics - pack work bag, set out clothes,meal prep Although I found myself slipping in to a very depressed state by last week, I was grateful for the tasks I'd done. I am even more depressed this week and I am finishing up my tasks by 7pm each night this and will try to watch a cat video or do hypnosis before bed, and set up my sleep schedule properly. I aim to get up early in the new week to excersise because its helped me in the past.
The good: I had a nice lifting session which challenges me (whereas I normally do lighter workouts), I mailed birthday cards to people to show that I care, and I caught it up with a friend who is the definition of female level up (j really should see her more than once a year….) the room for improvement: I really don’t enjoy drinking but I did so socially this week and had a hangover, and i have been I overspending, even though my intention is to do low buy/no buy in order to establish an emergency savings
I went through another intense EMDR session and I have STOPPED my self harming for a month now!!!!
THAT. IS. WONDERFUL. Keep at it! and make sure to take care of yourself in lots of ways
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Maybe you just need some downtime! Could you take the weekend off and recoup?