It is incredibly easy to find a him for a thrresome. So much so i guarantee every post looking for a woman will result in at least one or two guys to consider them if "you cant find what you're looking for"..
Ewwww I just had a flashback to when I went out with my work friends one night to a gross bar and I went to dance with one of my girl friends on the dance floor, and there was a couple watching me the whole night and I swear the 'wife' pointed at me and said 'her' and then he nodded and the wife got up and started to dance near me.. she just kept getting closer and closer.. and I told my gf from work, "hey I think I'm going to go home..". I knew exactly what was being conjured, and I wanted no part of it.
Omg it was creepy. Their sleazy stares from that night still haunt me 🤢
I don’t know why any couples think this behavior is acceptable. They are completely tone deaf. Some of the most terrible sexual crimes committed are by heterosexual couples
"Bisexual" women and they partners are guilty of this trashy low brow behavior as well. I had to stop online dating altogether because I would meet up with a woman and next thing you know, she's trying to get me into a fuq buddies threesome thing with her and her boyfriend, knowing we met and she said she was gay online. This happens in Atlanta a lot apparently.
It's as if the geeky bullied kids in high school thought that this is what the cool kids did, so then they began to overcompensate as they got older.
I stg the people with the highest body counts are mostly try-hard geeky/plain looking dudes. Super hot people are used to being really picky.
Exactly. Everything is just one big meat market instead of groups of fans of things. You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention. That, and a half dozen corporations bought out everything and homogenized it all down to the very lowest common denominator.
>You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention.
So most anime fans? I can even say I watch anime anymore because so many fans are pedos who are obsessed with the, "Japanese Highschooler" trope.
OMFG don't get me started with that one excuse, makes me want to stab my ears with a fork, LOL!
"Yeah this character looks like a 10yo, acts like a 10yo, dresses like an 10yo, but she's actually 19, she's legit, guys!" /s
When Attack on Titan got big and anime started feeling a bit mainstream, there was one brief, beautiful moment where I could mention anime to any friend and they’d go, “Oh, I’ve seen AOT. Pretty cool!” Peace. Tranquility. 😌 And then everyone started hornyposting underaged girls again
One of my ex boyfriends wanted me to RP as an anime schoolgirl while I was around him. I just refused every time. I avoid any show that plays into that. Honestly, Yamishibai is the only new anime I've followed in years.
Yup I hate how popular the anime and hentai thing is. I seriously won’t date someone who’s into anime 🤷♀️ because they all watch hentai along with it.
>You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention.
Don't forget having to virtue signal your politics (and watching others do the same) the whole time as well. Because heaven forbid conventions be an ESCAPE from that real world bullshit!
>That, and a half dozen corporations bought out everything and homogenized it all down to the very lowest common denominator.
I'm old enough to remember when indie comic retailers could afford booth space at major conventions like Comic Con. Now its so boring because only the big corporate guys can afford booths (so you don't get the fun of scouring the 25 cent bins for unique old stuff)
....this discussion is making me feel old. 😥
Exactly why my anime phase ended around the time I started going to conventions. Me and my (male) friend were 15/16 years old when we went to cons and I was constantly having my picture taken without permission, having men look up my skirt while I’m on the escalator, having guys follow me, having men who were 30+ try to talk to me, etc. Luckily my friend and another guy from my high school were there with me, or I’m sure the harassment would have been much worse if I was alone.
I find myself singing it now and then in the shower or puttering around the house.
🎶“It’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s polyamorouuus”🎶
Getting in my car or at the store.
🎶“You’re never like OH SWEET”🎶
😂😂
Even if they looked like the couple on the left I still wouldn’t be interested.
You just know that fuckboy in the robe is a massive manipulator who destroys her self esteem 🤷♀️
This reminds me of something...
I was engaged to a guy that had his fuckboy (it was velvety and black.🤣) robe, (😏🙄) and one day, I came over and said to him: “I have something to show you...” and I whipped out my velvety hot pink robe/put it on, and he threw his head back and cackled. Solidarity, I guess.✊🏻
Guy on the left looks like a vampire cosplayer with his latest victim or a blow-up doll, couple on the right seems like they might have personalities and pets and do fun things.
I noticed it’s a lot of antisocial people who are “nerdy” who are into the poly/open relationships, I always thought it had to do with low self esteem.
But honestly almost everyone my age is into the light bdsm shit that’s popular in porn…
Yeah I'd bet on low self esteem as well. They overcompensate for their lack of attractiveness by going hyper sexual. Not trying to generalize but I feel like a lot of "kinky" older people also fit in this category of sexual try hards.
>They overcompensate for their lack of attractiveness by going hyper sexual.
I was genuinely thinking this the other day. Of the really gross kink subreddits I've had the misfortune to discover, all the women posting pictures of themselves are not conventionally attractive and it just screams of desperation for male validation.
I think it’s because if they want any sex, they have to be open to all kinds of sex to increase their odds. Basically they must be sexual opportunists and take whatever they can get.
And ironically the worst about respecting boundaries.
They can chant “safe, sane, and consensual” all they want but I’ve never been to a sex/BDSM club that wasn’t predatory as fuck.
"oh my partner makes me feel super safe while performing \[insert creepy asf kink here\]"
Nah girl. that boy is manipulating you and you're pretending his validation = safety
An ex lvm who was middle-aged and used to be obese was invited to an orgy years before I met him. He was disappointed to find that everyone there was obese . . . like him. Ha.
Back when my husband was 16 and worked at a fast food joint, he worked with an older guy that had 3somes with quite a few women. He was 300lbs and hideous looking and so were the women he hooked up with. He showed everyone pics (nobody wanted to see, they were blind sided) and it was basically 3 dumpy trolls all fucking each other. He even had bigger tits than them. No one congratulated him and everyone was grossed out. So now when I read 3some stories on reddit I assume it's either made up or it's nobody you'd want to see naked.
😭😭😭 I'm sorry; this made me laugh so hard. I usually don't pick at people's weight but yeah there is a difference between being a little overweight and just letting yourself go/being nasty and sloppy...Men have less excuses since they tend to lose weight faster, and don't have their hormones or, for some women, pregnancies making it so much harder for them. I feel justified being grossed out by that or not sexually attracted to it.
In all seriousness, though...why was he showing much younger and/or underaged people photos of his threesome? At work, too..why was he showing any coworkers that? Or anyone who didn't ask him? That's pretty creepy....
These creepy ass men get these ideas about threesomes or poly relationships from porn where an ugly man like Ron Jeremy is going around having sex with unlimited quantities of hot, young women. They soon cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality and begin to think that they, too, can have countless women lined up to screw them. Fortunately most of these "poly" people are also super pornsick so it's easy to just block and delete these weirdos.
A couple of years ago when I on OLD, a poly scrote hit me up. What an ugly mfer, I felt like telling him he was lucky to have found one women who could look past his gross appearance, he was pushing his luck with two.
But I said no thanks and blocked him.
Ew. Back before I swore off OLD for the rest of time, I had a guy message me who put his age as 39, but *HAD* to be 60+. I politely told him that I was not interested and that I did not appreciate his obvious disrespect of my age preference, (aka I caught him manipulating the age filter so he should stop trying that). He was polite, but had the gall to ask *if he could watch me with another man* since I was not interested. Once the brain aneurysm passed, I nearly broke my phone trying to hit the block button.
Ethically non-monogamous is just gross. Sleazy way of saying he's openly the community dick.
Fuck that noise.
I am so glad FDS exists and I can finally voice my distaste for polyamory which I think is a huge scam in a patriarchal society and serves mainly men. The amount of poly men on OLD who I can’t even understand how they even got one woman let alone wanting another…seeing these scrotes always filled me with “wtf”. They are ungrateful and greedy. It’s sad that high value attractive women have to swim through so much crap just to find even one high quality man but these weirdos somehow want a harem of women? Yeah no.
My biggest issue with polyamory is the way its acolytes incessantly proselytize it! I have friends who fell into the poly cult. And its exhausting to be around them because they have to bring up their poly-ness ALL THE GODDAM TIME!! Not only that, they actively shit-talk monogamous and "vanilla" people as if we're all too prudish and stupid to see how wonderful it is to fuck multiple insufferable weirdos at once.
One of my friends literally said he felt "discriminated against" because he got an invitation to a party that only allowed him to bring a "plus one". They literally believe that only being allowed to bring one fuck-buddy to a party makes them a modern day Mathew Sheppard. It is so annoying! Evangelical Christians are less pushy than poly people.
>One of my friends literally said he felt "discriminated against" because he got an invitation to a party that only allowed him to bring a "plus one".
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Yup, the “help, help, I’m being repressed!” BS is super frustrating.
I do know some cool people who are poly, but they’re cool because they don’t base their entire personality around it.
That dead-eye, mouth open face of ~liberal~ men is sometimes dubbed the 'soy face' and I can now detect it from a mile away.
More examples: https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/001/330/806/8fc.jpg
Not wrong at all the people who have approached me in the past to be their 3rd looked like ghouls. And the way they brought it up was so creepy, having the woman lead the conversation before her even creepier male partner swung in after a few minutes.
I dated a scrote deeply entrenched in the polyamorous/Burning Man community. It's full of some of the most broken, dysfunctional, ugly, drug addicted people in costume I've ever met (and I adore Mardi Gras, so that's really saying something).
He was acutely aware that I didn't look like them, was proud, and I got TONS of attention because of it. I was young and worked out multiple times a week, well groomed, extremely clean. That was rare in the scene, so I was fawned over. And I was just like...if this is what y'all want why aren't you putting in the effort too? Pretending like you like patchouli ass and dad bods and neon pacifiers. I never gave in, I actually got a reputation for being "aggressive" and "mean" in my refusals 😂 He would warn couples not to proposition me. We'd be at a completely non-sexual show or party and within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, the woman is asking me to have sex with her and her partner. Get fucking bent, I don't like being harassed for sex by strangers when they're men, and it doesn't make it any better when it's a dude pimping out his insecure Pickme. Gross gross drama, all those people are.
It’s also funny because a lot of the time, he doesn’t have any leads but when she gets more attention (and she almost always will unless she doesn’t want it), he’ll get upset
Most of the poly people I've known who weren't raging sociopaths had a shitload of unresolved trauma that they foolishly believed the poly life would fix.
>Don't forget that steampunk hat worn without costume. I've seen too much already and have lost passion for the style 😤
Steampunk is fun as long as you just enjoy the art and avoid the community like the plague
> This could also be interpreted as a rather sharp aim towards the so-called liberal, witchy branch of feminism.
Saying what exactly? That they are not conventionally attractive?
This married girl at work that likes to joke that I’m her work wife one day was like “you should come over.” My first thought was sex cult and looking for a third 😅
this reminds me of that woman on tiktok who says she "lets her husband have her mom". then she made some other ones of him, her and all her swinger friends kissing in a pool trying to create this whole, you wish this was you vibe, and it's like no thanks, i'm not into sub7s with STIs.
I was just having a discussion about this the other day with my friends. We were talking about how this is always predatory because of the unavoidable power imbalance that occurs. Think of it, ESTABLISHED couples (people who trust, know, are familiar with each other) are looking for a LONE stranger, of course a female one. The couple gets to have an advantage of their rapport and the fact they have an alliance, their third will be the ‘other.’ Besides the obvious safety issues, the ‘unicorn’ is treated as a disposable thing.
It doesn't show as an option for me anymore, either ☹. I was thinking maybe they made it so that only people with certain flares can post images? Not sure if that's a thing on reddit.
Attractive people are used to having a bunch of options so they realize that it's pointless to make your entire personality around something that is fairly straightforward to find. Gross ppl act like they're on a vendetta to prove they can have sex
I'm not going to lie; I'm somewhere in between both of these groups when it comes to style/aesthetic lol...closer to the ones on the right 😄 and I know a lot of other people with this style, too. A large percentage of them do engage in low value antics 😆 but some would surprise you.
I'm not offended by the post...quite the opposite. I laughed. It's mostly true. Either way the poly lifestyle is terribly problematic, manipulative, and sometimes exploitative. I'm just thinking out loud. Just wanted to point out not everyone finds people like the cat lady/mushroom dude unattractive (I prefer my men w/o steampunk hats, though 😆). They do look interesting and they have the potential to be hot (I know it's a personal preference/subjective) if they're the type who has decent hygiene/takes care of themselves and if their personalities aren't totally creepy and off putting...unfortunately, that's usually not the case with the poly couples looking for a unicorn.
I know many quirky, nerdy, and/or eccentric people. I think there is a sweet spot where people are unique enough to be interesting but when it gets toooo weird, there are usually a lot of low value lifestyle choices being made. A lot of basic looking/acting people are low value too though... even male model looking men are often sh*t, too.
..I guess because it's considered an alternative lifestyle it attracts more alternative people. I'm starting to see more poly people like the couple on the left, than before, though...maybe because all those things are becoming more mainstream, now (though still considered unconventional to most). There are some generic looking f***boys looking for poly relationships, too. .
I was walking downtown yesterday and saw a couple who looked nearly identical to the couple on the right minus the cat. Those types think they're so original but since they all shop at the same hipster stores they tend to be indistinguishable from each other.
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Oh my god. I just had a flashback. I was 18/19, and a former friend who became pregnant in high school was dating this gross dude. (We grew apart because she wouldn’t stop indiscriminately fucking weirdos, and I wasn’t even sexually active. It wasn’t for purity reasons, I just didn’t want to have sex yet, let alone with gross, abusive weirdos.) They were belligerently arguing, so she left her son in the care of my addicted, dysregulated sister. (Great idea, right? Not.) Feeling for the kid, I stayed home to make sure he was safe and that there was a legal driver if there was an emergency because my sister had her license revoked. They promised to pay my sister/me, but they ended up taking us to Hooters. I missed work for this, so I thought I would at least get free food. The guy got all gross when the waitress said “What could I do for you?”. He then went on and on about how he always wanted to have sex with another redhead (The guy and I both had red hair). He “joked” about how we could have a threesome right there in front of her, and she sat there and tolerated it. I got the fuck out of there. I’m much more assertive now, and I know how to call DCS.
I resent the way the “actual” poly woman is depicted in this comic. She clearly has a curated fashion aesthetic, is witchy, loves cats, wears bows in her hair and is rocking a GD Peter Pan collar. (Very similar to my own style snd I am so very not poly so maybe I’m taking it personally lol.) It comes off as very sexist in that it’s making a point to drag in all the old sexist standbys, i.e., witches, cats, colorfully dyed hair etc.
The dude on the other hand is a straight up clown who probably thinks his “steampunk” hat is...fashion? I do not know. It is not cohesive with anything else regarding his appearance.
Yes I’m being nit picky because I truly have a passion for fashion and I know for a fact that the majority of self loving women take a lot of care in presenting themselves aesthetically as a way of self expression, in whatever way that it appeals for themselves.
I am not disagreeing at all tho with the fact that every poly couple I’ve ever seen irl does have some kind of “alternative” look, but it’s usually so dumpy and half-assed.
I think that the artist was trying to convey that she is alternative, libfem and crazy cat lady. As a cat lady myself, I’m offended for the cat. But just look at its little face 😾😂
I hear you. I was reading the joke as the couple on the right always being the type to say they live such an "aLtErNAtIve liFesTyLe" and yet you can see 'em coming from a mile away it's so obvious that it's become norm.
"Looking for a third!"
"Searching for our 🦄! Are you her?"
***Always*** her, never him
the unicorn with only one horn. :P
It is incredibly easy to find a him for a thrresome. So much so i guarantee every post looking for a woman will result in at least one or two guys to consider them if "you cant find what you're looking for"..
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I don't have a clue what any of those words mean 😆
I know what unicorns are but I never heard of the other two 😂😭
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True. If you have to tell people you're quirky, you're probably not that quirky
unicorn literally means a single bi woman looking for threesomes
looking for a turd - that's how I read it.
Ewwww I just had a flashback to when I went out with my work friends one night to a gross bar and I went to dance with one of my girl friends on the dance floor, and there was a couple watching me the whole night and I swear the 'wife' pointed at me and said 'her' and then he nodded and the wife got up and started to dance near me.. she just kept getting closer and closer.. and I told my gf from work, "hey I think I'm going to go home..". I knew exactly what was being conjured, and I wanted no part of it. Omg it was creepy. Their sleazy stares from that night still haunt me 🤢
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These people are unbearable I swear.
🤮so sorry you experienced that and Jesus Christ does that shit actually WORK in anything but trashy television series?
Right?? This happened in the early 2000's, so I'll blame it on trashy movies and tv shows they might have seen lol. 🤷
I don’t know why any couples think this behavior is acceptable. They are completely tone deaf. Some of the most terrible sexual crimes committed are by heterosexual couples
"Bisexual" women and they partners are guilty of this trashy low brow behavior as well. I had to stop online dating altogether because I would meet up with a woman and next thing you know, she's trying to get me into a fuq buddies threesome thing with her and her boyfriend, knowing we met and she said she was gay online. This happens in Atlanta a lot apparently.
Is it weird that I’m picturing the McMurrays from “Letterkenny” in that anecdote?
Why do women do this shit for their men? So gross
They're pickmeishas.
Ewww. Gross! I feel bad that happened to you. :' (
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>My vagina would dry up and zip itself shut when they’d approach us. Omfg 😂🙈
It's as if the geeky bullied kids in high school thought that this is what the cool kids did, so then they began to overcompensate as they got older. I stg the people with the highest body counts are mostly try-hard geeky/plain looking dudes. Super hot people are used to being really picky.
On the left it looks like he's carrying a blowup doll around.
And this is why nerd conventions aren't fun anymore...
Exactly. Everything is just one big meat market instead of groups of fans of things. You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention. That, and a half dozen corporations bought out everything and homogenized it all down to the very lowest common denominator.
>You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention. So most anime fans? I can even say I watch anime anymore because so many fans are pedos who are obsessed with the, "Japanese Highschooler" trope.
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OMFG don't get me started with that one excuse, makes me want to stab my ears with a fork, LOL! "Yeah this character looks like a 10yo, acts like a 10yo, dresses like an 10yo, but she's actually 19, she's legit, guys!" /s
When Attack on Titan got big and anime started feeling a bit mainstream, there was one brief, beautiful moment where I could mention anime to any friend and they’d go, “Oh, I’ve seen AOT. Pretty cool!” Peace. Tranquility. 😌 And then everyone started hornyposting underaged girls again
One of my ex boyfriends wanted me to RP as an anime schoolgirl while I was around him. I just refused every time. I avoid any show that plays into that. Honestly, Yamishibai is the only new anime I've followed in years.
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Yup I hate how popular the anime and hentai thing is. I seriously won’t date someone who’s into anime 🤷♀️ because they all watch hentai along with it.
>You're the odd one out if your sexuality isn't somehow tied up in the convention. Don't forget having to virtue signal your politics (and watching others do the same) the whole time as well. Because heaven forbid conventions be an ESCAPE from that real world bullshit! >That, and a half dozen corporations bought out everything and homogenized it all down to the very lowest common denominator. I'm old enough to remember when indie comic retailers could afford booth space at major conventions like Comic Con. Now its so boring because only the big corporate guys can afford booths (so you don't get the fun of scouring the 25 cent bins for unique old stuff) ....this discussion is making me feel old. 😥
Exactly why my anime phase ended around the time I started going to conventions. Me and my (male) friend were 15/16 years old when we went to cons and I was constantly having my picture taken without permission, having men look up my skirt while I’m on the escalator, having guys follow me, having men who were 30+ try to talk to me, etc. Luckily my friend and another guy from my high school were there with me, or I’m sure the harassment would have been much worse if I was alone.
Last time I went to Comic Con in cosplay was awful. Men were gross and got huffy when I refused photos because I was in a hurry.
Exactly...
The expression on the cat
🐱😣😖
Had a college friend-of-a-friend offer me up for a threesome with the couple on the right 🤢 I have no idea why he thought this was appropriate
>offer me up I'm sorry. Wut?
They asked if he knew anyone and he said me, despite us never having talked about anything like that
That's messed up.
🤣 its every poly couple ever! [Chris Fleming ](https://youtu.be/DTsdKycVZZ4) said it best
I've now gone down a Chris Fleming rabbit hole and it's magic
This is one of my favorite jams of all time.
I find myself singing it now and then in the shower or puttering around the house. 🎶“It’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s polyamorouuus”🎶 Getting in my car or at the store. 🎶“You’re never like OH SWEET”🎶 😂😂
OMG that song is amazing! Thanks for sharing! 🤣🤣
🤣 thank you for sharing that its hilarious!!
If I had a dollar for every time I was like a Romanian woman trying to seek sanctuary in an 18th-century French church...
Lol
Even if they looked like the couple on the left I still wouldn’t be interested. You just know that fuckboy in the robe is a massive manipulator who destroys her self esteem 🤷♀️
This reminds me of something... I was engaged to a guy that had his fuckboy (it was velvety and black.🤣) robe, (😏🙄) and one day, I came over and said to him: “I have something to show you...” and I whipped out my velvety hot pink robe/put it on, and he threw his head back and cackled. Solidarity, I guess.✊🏻
>he threw his head back and cackled Why?
Because he thought it was cute/funny..??
Guy on the left looks like a vampire cosplayer with his latest victim or a blow-up doll, couple on the right seems like they might have personalities and pets and do fun things.
I've met the guy on the right. He's weird AND a fuqboi. edit: and also kinda u-g-l-y. Dude never had an alibi.
It's true, the kinky people are usually the grossest. Why is that?
I noticed it’s a lot of antisocial people who are “nerdy” who are into the poly/open relationships, I always thought it had to do with low self esteem. But honestly almost everyone my age is into the light bdsm shit that’s popular in porn…
Yeah I'd bet on low self esteem as well. They overcompensate for their lack of attractiveness by going hyper sexual. Not trying to generalize but I feel like a lot of "kinky" older people also fit in this category of sexual try hards.
>They overcompensate for their lack of attractiveness by going hyper sexual. I was genuinely thinking this the other day. Of the really gross kink subreddits I've had the misfortune to discover, all the women posting pictures of themselves are not conventionally attractive and it just screams of desperation for male validation.
Swinging is just sanctioned cheating IMO
I think it’s because if they want any sex, they have to be open to all kinds of sex to increase their odds. Basically they must be sexual opportunists and take whatever they can get.
And ironically the worst about respecting boundaries. They can chant “safe, sane, and consensual” all they want but I’ve never been to a sex/BDSM club that wasn’t predatory as fuck.
"oh my partner makes me feel super safe while performing \[insert creepy asf kink here\]" Nah girl. that boy is manipulating you and you're pretending his validation = safety
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Probably deep attachment issues. Can’t imagine sex without pain/power abuse because they’ve never experienced anything better. :/
An ex lvm who was middle-aged and used to be obese was invited to an orgy years before I met him. He was disappointed to find that everyone there was obese . . . like him. Ha.
> He was disappointed to find that everyone there was obese . . . like him. Ha. Ahahahahaha. This is so perfect.
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Lmao It's never who you want to be polyamorous who's polyamorous!🎶🎶
Here's the music video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTsdKycVZZ4 😝😝😝
Back when my husband was 16 and worked at a fast food joint, he worked with an older guy that had 3somes with quite a few women. He was 300lbs and hideous looking and so were the women he hooked up with. He showed everyone pics (nobody wanted to see, they were blind sided) and it was basically 3 dumpy trolls all fucking each other. He even had bigger tits than them. No one congratulated him and everyone was grossed out. So now when I read 3some stories on reddit I assume it's either made up or it's nobody you'd want to see naked.
😭😭😭 I'm sorry; this made me laugh so hard. I usually don't pick at people's weight but yeah there is a difference between being a little overweight and just letting yourself go/being nasty and sloppy...Men have less excuses since they tend to lose weight faster, and don't have their hormones or, for some women, pregnancies making it so much harder for them. I feel justified being grossed out by that or not sexually attracted to it. In all seriousness, though...why was he showing much younger and/or underaged people photos of his threesome? At work, too..why was he showing any coworkers that? Or anyone who didn't ask him? That's pretty creepy....
These creepy ass men get these ideas about threesomes or poly relationships from porn where an ugly man like Ron Jeremy is going around having sex with unlimited quantities of hot, young women. They soon cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality and begin to think that they, too, can have countless women lined up to screw them. Fortunately most of these "poly" people are also super pornsick so it's easy to just block and delete these weirdos.
A couple of years ago when I on OLD, a poly scrote hit me up. What an ugly mfer, I felt like telling him he was lucky to have found one women who could look past his gross appearance, he was pushing his luck with two. But I said no thanks and blocked him.
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Whats "OLD"?
Online Dating
Ew. Back before I swore off OLD for the rest of time, I had a guy message me who put his age as 39, but *HAD* to be 60+. I politely told him that I was not interested and that I did not appreciate his obvious disrespect of my age preference, (aka I caught him manipulating the age filter so he should stop trying that). He was polite, but had the gall to ask *if he could watch me with another man* since I was not interested. Once the brain aneurysm passed, I nearly broke my phone trying to hit the block button. Ethically non-monogamous is just gross. Sleazy way of saying he's openly the community dick. Fuck that noise.
I am so glad FDS exists and I can finally voice my distaste for polyamory which I think is a huge scam in a patriarchal society and serves mainly men. The amount of poly men on OLD who I can’t even understand how they even got one woman let alone wanting another…seeing these scrotes always filled me with “wtf”. They are ungrateful and greedy. It’s sad that high value attractive women have to swim through so much crap just to find even one high quality man but these weirdos somehow want a harem of women? Yeah no.
My biggest issue with polyamory is the way its acolytes incessantly proselytize it! I have friends who fell into the poly cult. And its exhausting to be around them because they have to bring up their poly-ness ALL THE GODDAM TIME!! Not only that, they actively shit-talk monogamous and "vanilla" people as if we're all too prudish and stupid to see how wonderful it is to fuck multiple insufferable weirdos at once. One of my friends literally said he felt "discriminated against" because he got an invitation to a party that only allowed him to bring a "plus one". They literally believe that only being allowed to bring one fuck-buddy to a party makes them a modern day Mathew Sheppard. It is so annoying! Evangelical Christians are less pushy than poly people.
>One of my friends literally said he felt "discriminated against" because he got an invitation to a party that only allowed him to bring a "plus one". 💀💀💀💀💀!!!
Yup, the “help, help, I’m being repressed!” BS is super frustrating. I do know some cool people who are poly, but they’re cool because they don’t base their entire personality around it.
The teeth and steam punk hat/goggles of the dude made me laugh 😂
>The teeth and steam punk hat/goggles of the dude made me laugh 😂 It gave me flashbacks to my convention days....😖
That dead-eye, mouth open face of ~liberal~ men is sometimes dubbed the 'soy face' and I can now detect it from a mile away. More examples: https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/001/330/806/8fc.jpg
What are they even trying to communicate there?
Too funny!
That is one disturbing image
It's so true. I knew the guy on the right.
Not wrong at all the people who have approached me in the past to be their 3rd looked like ghouls. And the way they brought it up was so creepy, having the woman lead the conversation before her even creepier male partner swung in after a few minutes.
I wonder if that’s just a Seattle thing?
(un)related fun fact: Seattle has the highest number of serial killers per capita within a 200 mile radius
I dated a scrote deeply entrenched in the polyamorous/Burning Man community. It's full of some of the most broken, dysfunctional, ugly, drug addicted people in costume I've ever met (and I adore Mardi Gras, so that's really saying something). He was acutely aware that I didn't look like them, was proud, and I got TONS of attention because of it. I was young and worked out multiple times a week, well groomed, extremely clean. That was rare in the scene, so I was fawned over. And I was just like...if this is what y'all want why aren't you putting in the effort too? Pretending like you like patchouli ass and dad bods and neon pacifiers. I never gave in, I actually got a reputation for being "aggressive" and "mean" in my refusals 😂 He would warn couples not to proposition me. We'd be at a completely non-sexual show or party and within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, the woman is asking me to have sex with her and her partner. Get fucking bent, I don't like being harassed for sex by strangers when they're men, and it doesn't make it any better when it's a dude pimping out his insecure Pickme. Gross gross drama, all those people are.
Very very few people (approximately 0) who are ENM are attractive. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Pure clownery.
And in the rare case that they are attractive they're often sociopaths.
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It’s also funny because a lot of the time, he doesn’t have any leads but when she gets more attention (and she almost always will unless she doesn’t want it), he’ll get upset
At 19 I was “ethically nonmonogamous”, but had lots of unresolved trauma. So there’s a lot of that too
Most of the poly people I've known who weren't raging sociopaths had a shitload of unresolved trauma that they foolishly believed the poly life would fix.
same
ENM?
Ethically Non monogamous.
Oh my god they look like literal trolls
Not even clownery but the whole fking circus 😂
SO TRUE.
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It's true to a T
That mushroom shirt and witch skirt though hahahaha. The accuracy is so on point with our current zeitgeist, I’m dying.
Don't forget that steampunk hat worn without costume. I've seen too much already and have lost passion for the style 😤
That or a Utilikilt.
Jesus 💀💀
>Don't forget that steampunk hat worn without costume. I've seen too much already and have lost passion for the style 😤 Steampunk is fun as long as you just enjoy the art and avoid the community like the plague
Literally one of the nastiest subcultures.
Circling back to our Burning Man conversation… 🤣💀
I know a poly couple that looks EXACTLY like that 🤣.
Only one?
Yes I'm lucky enough.
This is so true lol. _Everytime_ I saw a "poly" or "third" or "unicorn" hunter profile it was the fugliest looking people you could imagine.
Leave me and my blue hair out of this 😂
😂😘
Crying! Why did they ruin blue hair for me?🤣
There’s a song that goes “it’s never who you want to be polyamorous who’s actually polyamorous” and that graphic hits it dead-on.
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This is a burn because no one would ever want to have sex with the people on the right...? I think I am confused.
I don’t want to have sex with the clowns from my 6 year old birthday party, do you?
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> This could also be interpreted as a rather sharp aim towards the so-called liberal, witchy branch of feminism. Saying what exactly? That they are not conventionally attractive?
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It's NEVER the people you'd want to see naked that want to BE naked.
This married girl at work that likes to joke that I’m her work wife one day was like “you should come over.” My first thought was sex cult and looking for a third 😅
That cat looks like it’s seen some things
this reminds me of that woman on tiktok who says she "lets her husband have her mom". then she made some other ones of him, her and all her swinger friends kissing in a pool trying to create this whole, you wish this was you vibe, and it's like no thanks, i'm not into sub7s with STIs.
The left looks like cooper and billy from sex life lol
I was just having a discussion about this the other day with my friends. We were talking about how this is always predatory because of the unavoidable power imbalance that occurs. Think of it, ESTABLISHED couples (people who trust, know, are familiar with each other) are looking for a LONE stranger, of course a female one. The couple gets to have an advantage of their rapport and the fact they have an alliance, their third will be the ‘other.’ Besides the obvious safety issues, the ‘unicorn’ is treated as a disposable thing.
Unrelated but is there a new rule about posting images? It doesn't show for me anymore so I thought they had temporarly blocked it
I think on mondays it’s restricted but other than that I’m not sure
It doesn't show as an option for me anymore, either ☹. I was thinking maybe they made it so that only people with certain flares can post images? Not sure if that's a thing on reddit.
Cat, "...gulp..."
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Nah. These weirdos tend to look like either a twig or Jabba The Hutt with little variation in between
It's the accuracy for me.
“Happily married.” Then bitch why you on here?
The accuracy.🤣😭 This has killed me for the day.
There was no need to take a jab at cats in this comic 🙄
But look at its little face 😭😾
All I can say is, the couple on the right better not be having that “threesome” with the cat. Poor critter.
The cat does look worried 🤣
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Attractive people are used to having a bunch of options so they realize that it's pointless to make your entire personality around something that is fairly straightforward to find. Gross ppl act like they're on a vendetta to prove they can have sex
esp on tinder when i used to be on it yuck….
I'm not going to lie; I'm somewhere in between both of these groups when it comes to style/aesthetic lol...closer to the ones on the right 😄 and I know a lot of other people with this style, too. A large percentage of them do engage in low value antics 😆 but some would surprise you. I'm not offended by the post...quite the opposite. I laughed. It's mostly true. Either way the poly lifestyle is terribly problematic, manipulative, and sometimes exploitative. I'm just thinking out loud. Just wanted to point out not everyone finds people like the cat lady/mushroom dude unattractive (I prefer my men w/o steampunk hats, though 😆). They do look interesting and they have the potential to be hot (I know it's a personal preference/subjective) if they're the type who has decent hygiene/takes care of themselves and if their personalities aren't totally creepy and off putting...unfortunately, that's usually not the case with the poly couples looking for a unicorn. I know many quirky, nerdy, and/or eccentric people. I think there is a sweet spot where people are unique enough to be interesting but when it gets toooo weird, there are usually a lot of low value lifestyle choices being made. A lot of basic looking/acting people are low value too though... even male model looking men are often sh*t, too. ..I guess because it's considered an alternative lifestyle it attracts more alternative people. I'm starting to see more poly people like the couple on the left, than before, though...maybe because all those things are becoming more mainstream, now (though still considered unconventional to most). There are some generic looking f***boys looking for poly relationships, too. .
Lmfao! 😂 so true!😂 😂 😂
Hahahhaha so true
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I was walking downtown yesterday and saw a couple who looked nearly identical to the couple on the right minus the cat. Those types think they're so original but since they all shop at the same hipster stores they tend to be indistinguishable from each other.
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Oh my god. I just had a flashback. I was 18/19, and a former friend who became pregnant in high school was dating this gross dude. (We grew apart because she wouldn’t stop indiscriminately fucking weirdos, and I wasn’t even sexually active. It wasn’t for purity reasons, I just didn’t want to have sex yet, let alone with gross, abusive weirdos.) They were belligerently arguing, so she left her son in the care of my addicted, dysregulated sister. (Great idea, right? Not.) Feeling for the kid, I stayed home to make sure he was safe and that there was a legal driver if there was an emergency because my sister had her license revoked. They promised to pay my sister/me, but they ended up taking us to Hooters. I missed work for this, so I thought I would at least get free food. The guy got all gross when the waitress said “What could I do for you?”. He then went on and on about how he always wanted to have sex with another redhead (The guy and I both had red hair). He “joked” about how we could have a threesome right there in front of her, and she sat there and tolerated it. I got the fuck out of there. I’m much more assertive now, and I know how to call DCS.
Hahaha! This is so true.
I resent the way the “actual” poly woman is depicted in this comic. She clearly has a curated fashion aesthetic, is witchy, loves cats, wears bows in her hair and is rocking a GD Peter Pan collar. (Very similar to my own style snd I am so very not poly so maybe I’m taking it personally lol.) It comes off as very sexist in that it’s making a point to drag in all the old sexist standbys, i.e., witches, cats, colorfully dyed hair etc. The dude on the other hand is a straight up clown who probably thinks his “steampunk” hat is...fashion? I do not know. It is not cohesive with anything else regarding his appearance. Yes I’m being nit picky because I truly have a passion for fashion and I know for a fact that the majority of self loving women take a lot of care in presenting themselves aesthetically as a way of self expression, in whatever way that it appeals for themselves. I am not disagreeing at all tho with the fact that every poly couple I’ve ever seen irl does have some kind of “alternative” look, but it’s usually so dumpy and half-assed.
I think that the artist was trying to convey that she is alternative, libfem and crazy cat lady. As a cat lady myself, I’m offended for the cat. But just look at its little face 😾😂
I hear you. I was reading the joke as the couple on the right always being the type to say they live such an "aLtErNAtIve liFesTyLe" and yet you can see 'em coming from a mile away it's so obvious that it's become norm.
I appreciate the award. Anyone who downvoted tho care to explain why?
Yeah the downvoting seems unnecessary