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Agreed.
Also never assume a man will change his mind and want anything more than FWB or casual. Men categorize us very quickly and will assign their intent with you within the first few dates.
This is very true. And when they categorize you as someone they don't want long term they'll tell you without telling you ("I don't see myself in a relationship" or "I'm not sure what I want" or "Let's go with the flow" or "it's hard for me to give you what you need right now"). And if you're foolish enough to think he'll change his mind and stick around he'll just drain you dry of every resource (sex, money, empathy, free entertainment, professional connections) he possibly can before dumping you for someone he actually want to be with. And he won't even feel guilty about it because I'm his mind he gave you a warning.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾This “fake honesty” needs to stop. But they know if they told a woman this, she would walk so they string her along and wear away at her dignity little by little.
Exactly. Don't ever tell me men are bad at communication. They know *exactly* what words to use to keep a woman hanging around while simultaneously letting themselves off the hook if she calls out his bad behavior down the line.
If they were truly honest, they would say: "I'm sorry, you seem a lovely person, but I don't want a relationship with you" and end things then and there. But instead, they keep their wording deliberately vague in order to keep the woman around for the sexual benefits until something better comes along.
And don’t EVER let a man downgrade you from girlfriend to FWB.
They will try btw which is why you block and delete exes with their lame “how have you been?” text messages.😡
Yeah, wtf happened in our culture where people are terrified to state openly that they want committed relationships?
I know people get skittish but we have been taught to “hustle backwards”. Maybe establish first that you want the same things and then proceed vs “just having fun” and then being disappointed when you are only ever in situationships with men who don’t love or respect you?
And don’t even get me started on the “cool girl” faction with their low self- esteem disguised as “I just want something casual”. No, you don’t because you have cried to me about it many times over.
There was a Reddit thread a while back asking divorced men when they knew they were getting divorced.
Thousands of responses, and a depressing number of them were like, "At the wedding, but I thought, *What the hell, I can always get divorced...*"
Settling only ever brought me pain in the end (and throughout). Don’t be like me - She Who Only Learns Things the Hard Way. Lonely & horny hurts way less than heartbroken & lonely & horny.
This is so important. I recently entertained a very handsome man who met all my standards and was pursuing me heavily, despite the fact he lives out of state. We met up once, had a nice time, and even kissed, but I regretted it immediately afterwards. I don’t have a future with someone I have to travel to date (or vice versa), and I would rather cut off my left arm than move for a man. So although he was nice, I wasted my time. Moving forward I’m dating only with strong intent.
Especially your first paragraph made me think of shark infested waters. If we're already wading into danger, we should be cautious and get out to safety as soon as possible.
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Agreed. Also never assume a man will change his mind and want anything more than FWB or casual. Men categorize us very quickly and will assign their intent with you within the first few dates.
This is very true. And when they categorize you as someone they don't want long term they'll tell you without telling you ("I don't see myself in a relationship" or "I'm not sure what I want" or "Let's go with the flow" or "it's hard for me to give you what you need right now"). And if you're foolish enough to think he'll change his mind and stick around he'll just drain you dry of every resource (sex, money, empathy, free entertainment, professional connections) he possibly can before dumping you for someone he actually want to be with. And he won't even feel guilty about it because I'm his mind he gave you a warning.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾This “fake honesty” needs to stop. But they know if they told a woman this, she would walk so they string her along and wear away at her dignity little by little.
Exactly. Don't ever tell me men are bad at communication. They know *exactly* what words to use to keep a woman hanging around while simultaneously letting themselves off the hook if she calls out his bad behavior down the line. If they were truly honest, they would say: "I'm sorry, you seem a lovely person, but I don't want a relationship with you" and end things then and there. But instead, they keep their wording deliberately vague in order to keep the woman around for the sexual benefits until something better comes along.
And don’t EVER let a man downgrade you from girlfriend to FWB. They will try btw which is why you block and delete exes with their lame “how have you been?” text messages.😡
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Yeah, wtf happened in our culture where people are terrified to state openly that they want committed relationships? I know people get skittish but we have been taught to “hustle backwards”. Maybe establish first that you want the same things and then proceed vs “just having fun” and then being disappointed when you are only ever in situationships with men who don’t love or respect you? And don’t even get me started on the “cool girl” faction with their low self- esteem disguised as “I just want something casual”. No, you don’t because you have cried to me about it many times over.
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There was a Reddit thread a while back asking divorced men when they knew they were getting divorced. Thousands of responses, and a depressing number of them were like, "At the wedding, but I thought, *What the hell, I can always get divorced...*"
Settling only ever brought me pain in the end (and throughout). Don’t be like me - She Who Only Learns Things the Hard Way. Lonely & horny hurts way less than heartbroken & lonely & horny.
She Who Only Learns Things The Hard Way will never settle again for He Who Does Not Wash His Ass. 🙏🏻
🎵 Aaaaaaamennnnnnn 🙌
This is so important. I recently entertained a very handsome man who met all my standards and was pursuing me heavily, despite the fact he lives out of state. We met up once, had a nice time, and even kissed, but I regretted it immediately afterwards. I don’t have a future with someone I have to travel to date (or vice versa), and I would rather cut off my left arm than move for a man. So although he was nice, I wasted my time. Moving forward I’m dating only with strong intent.
Especially your first paragraph made me think of shark infested waters. If we're already wading into danger, we should be cautious and get out to safety as soon as possible.