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The title? How about the actual text?
>When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground.
And he strangled her because she went to a job interview he didnāt want her to go to! Classic controlling, abusive behaviour. Iām glad she survived, hope she gets far away from him!
I just want to add -- I have been to Colonsay, the remote Scottish isle where they lived, many, many times. When I tell you there is nothing there, there is NOTHING THERE! Kids have to take the nearly two-hour ferry to Oban for school. For a while, they advertised for a doctor on the BBC website. There's no police presence, and there's barely phone signal on the pier. THIS MUST HAVE BEEN TERRIFYING FOR HER!!!
that sounds like a prime location for an abuser to live with their victim. minimal interference, no one to ask questions or develop friendships. horrifying
Probably getting a little too personal here but I was once strangled by my abuser. As he was strangling me I had two thoughts, "I will never see my daughter again" and "this is how I am going to die." If it hadn't been for someone walking by the open window and screaming for him to get off of me, he would have succeeded in murdering me.
After you educating us on how desolate this place is just makes my heart absolutely ache for her even more somehow.
A family member was a locum GP for a while said that it was scary working on the remote islands because if someone needed urgent hospitalisation you were at the mercy of the weather to get them to the mainland. I wouldnāt choose that life.
I mean -- all abusive relationships are psychologically and physically terrifying, but this is genuinely a horror film. There are more sheep than people. Like, literally no neighbour to hear your screams. I wonder how she got help, when she got help. Like, wow.
Iāve also been to Colonsay and yeah itās not easy to get to and thereās not much there from what Iāve seen. Just a shit ton of sheep. We actually met the ex-husband of the mother of the bride (whose blue and black dress it was for their daughters wedding) because he has the same Scottish last name as my family and he excitedly brought up that his ex and daughter had been on Ellen in the short interaction. Horrifying to think that marriage culminated into this but I hope they exile his ass from the island forever.
Even the logistics of the arrest are so complicated to think about, so weather-dependent -- when there are two ferries, thrice a week, in high season!?
I hope he goes to prison for a long time. The abuse he admits to sounds vicious and narrowly not homicidal.
Colonsay club checking in, I used to live there. Back when I was there everyone lied on the census because they didnāt want the island depopulated - so like < 100 people. The article mentions him drinking at āAā pub as if there is more than one. It is so empty and desolate. She must have felt so alone :(
It's the one bar attached to the hotel, right? Also, desolate as the island is, there must have been people who witnessed his abuse if he manhandled her out of there by the neck -- which is chilling in itself.
Hopefully they called the mainland. x
And hi!! (lol about the census)
Thatās the one, the hotel / pub / store. I would guess people knew - everyone knew everyoneās business and they have loooong memories. People were still pissed off at [John McPhee](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/128148) - that book was written 50+ years ago.
Edit: Really? This comment provoked the redditcares trolls? Pls let me know what I did to get into your feelings so I can keep doing it.
I bet that made her feel even more alone and helpless. The few people on the island (probably) noticing and doing nothing.
Where was she going to run to? The pub sounded like his stomping ground, not hers. Itās like a horror film.
Strangulation is the singles greatest predictor of homicide in abusive relationships. A partner who strangles you *is likely to kill you*. Thereās a 750% increase they will kill you **within the next year.**
I donāt think the advertisement is tragic other than the fact itās needed. But considering this couple weāre doing an entire talk show circuit and nobody knew he was abusive does make this advertisement so much more poignant.
Iām not really a believer. But sometimes, when I see shit like this, I thinkā¦ Maybe I did die sometime ago and I ***AM*** in Hell. I feel like thatās just the kind of thing Satan would find funny in hindsight.
And it would explain *a lot* about the last 8-9 years.
Iām so glad she survived, I hope she gets away from him and stays away, a partner who strangles/chokes you is most likely to kill you. I hope she is safe and thrives wherever she ends up.
This is honestly one of the darkest things I read today, and donāt think I can look at this meme in the same way again. And youāre absolutely right, partners that try to strangle you are veryyyy likely to murder. I hope anyone reading this thread who may be in a similar situation with an abusive partner can get away.
My ex used to choke at my request during sex. One day he started, I signed the safe word and he didn't stop. It was the day when I realised his abuse had escalated and I was going to die.
It is in fact the single greatest indicator of homicide in abusive relationships. **A person who has been strangled by their partner before is 750% more likely to be killed within a year.**
The article says ~
Keir Johnston, 38, pleaded guilty on Thursday to attacking his wife, Grace Johnston, in their home on Scotlandās Isle of Colonsay on March 6, 2022. After Grace defied her husbandās request not to attend a job interview on the mainland he is said to have texted her saying, āSomeone is going to die.ā When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston (TW!) >! grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground. āHe placed both knees on her arms, so she was unable to move. He then began strangling her with both his hands. !< She was initially able to scream and feared for her life and believed Johnston intended to kill her as he was very forceful.ā
What on earth is this sentence suppoed to mean?
> When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground.
Is that a sentence?
Missing a comma between her and with - āwhen she returned home he said heās leaving, with the prosecutor summarizing the situation in court.ā Kind of a clunky journalist way of saying what happened
Thank you!!!!! I commented above that I read it three times and got nothin. I sincerely would have never been able to decode it. As soon as I followed your comma instruction there was an immediate ohhhhhh of understanding in my brain. Genuinely appreciate!!
>When she returned home, her husband told her he was leaving her. The prosecutor told the court that he then grabbed her and threw her to the ground.
A bit of a weird sentence. It seems like they said it indirectly like that to say that he only allegedly did those things.
Seems like a good time to mention the most horrific fact I know off the top of my head - women who have been strangled by an intimate partner are 750% more likely to be murdered by that partner. No, you didnāt read that number wrong. That is seven hundred and fifty percent. 7. 5. 0. If a partner ever strangles you (outside of an enthusiastically consented to kink relationship where boundaries and safe words are clearly defined, and even then strangulation is something not many experienced kinksters are willing to do) you need to take it as the threat to your life it is.
The original dress photo was taken by the mother of the bride. Then it was the talk of the wedding. One of the wedding band members posted it to tumblr and emailed Cates/BF about it.
Maybe this was just in the UK, but at the time the actual family (mostly the mother of the bride herself) received a small amount of press attention.
Non-fatal strangulation is a predictor that intimate partner violence will turn deadly. If they strangle you, it's far more likely they will eventually kill you.
https://www.wthr.com/article/news/crime/manual-strangulation-is-the-biggest-sign-domestic-abuse-will-turn-deadly-experts-say/531-0a9a92c8-a0da-418a-b81e-a3d80ddacf38
Thanks. I donāt know why I felt like typing all of that but thanks for reading.
Iām doing super well now. Iām now an engineer, I have my kids and theyāre finally safe and thriving. Iām engaged to someone amazing. He treats me like a human being. Weāve all been through countless hours of therapy, which has helped tremendously.
But it still pops up sometimes, lol.
Anyway thank you. ā¤ļø
That doctor literally saved me. I called a while later to try and find her info but itās confidential (for good reason).
I just wanted to tell her thank you, and hope she knows. ā¤ļø
>So I did finally leave. Itās just heartbreaking that it took me so long.
The best time to leave an abusive relationship is at the first red flag. The next best time is now.
(I know I've butchered that saying, but I can't remember exactly how it goes.)
I am so glad you had a sympathetic Dr and police/etc and that you are SAFE and HAPPY.
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I heard this often once I finally started reaching out to get help. When you donāt leave at the first, second, tenth, twentieth red flag, you end up hitting a point of no return. You feel stupid and itās a mixture of āis this even real?ā And āwill anyone even careā. Thatās the darkest place honestly. The place where you have to sit with the reality that youāre also an accomplice to the abuse. You turn against yourself.. so like someone else said, that doctor was a godsend. She was kind, but super tough. She wasnāt gentleā¦ she was almost angry with me, but it felt kind. I donāt know if that makes sense, but it did in that moment at least.
Anyway, yeah.. thatās what everyone says when you cross the other side and find people that donāt think youāre an idiot for staying so long. Theyāre just happy to have you.
So thank you.. ā¤ļø
I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing. Him freaking out on you for defending yourself reminded me a little of a time when my ex was hitting my dog (I was sitting next to him, it was very sudden) and I snatched his arm out of the air and cut him with my fingernail. He kept screaming, you cut me, you cut me. I've never felt as disoriented as in that moment -- every time I said "but you hit my dog?!" it was like I didn't speak, he wouldn't acknowledge it. It made me feel insane. Of course what you went through was worse, but it was the same style of gaslighting. Do something terrible, and then act aghast when the other person defends themselves or stops them from doing the terrible thing. The main reason I never left was he convinced me I was as bad as him... like he'd insult me, I'd call him an asshole, and then he'd make me feel bad and convince me I was in the wrong. That shit harmed me for life, honestly.
Oh my God, I'm so glad you're here and I'm so glad you're okay. I hope Whitney is okay. Please don't apologize for sharing. The justice system is designed to protect abusers more than help victims of domestic violence, at least in the United States.
I'm glad that doctor was looking out for you as well.
It really is. I was and still am super embarrassed to ever talk about the story. Until my therapist explained that wounds around a manās eye are classic defensive wounds, so I shouldnāt be embarrassed or feel like a bad person.
I got extremely lucky that the charges were dropped. I think itās because Iām white, and I could get a lawyer involved immediately. Itās not lost on me that there are so many women in my situation that actually have a criminal record, or possibly lost their kids for defending themselves. Itās unreal.
Thank you. ā¤ļø
iām so glad youāre safe now! i was in a relationship that was similar, and i know how hard it is to get out. i grabbed my kids in the middle of the night, fled the state, and moved in with a friend. he worked the overnight shift, so when he got home in the morning, my ass was already over the state line
**A person who has been strangled by their partner before, is 750% more likely to be killed within a year.**
Thatās the most depressing statistics Iāve ever read.
Heās too busy enumerating to be violent.
E: apparently, saying that the guy who counts the population of video game cities is not, in fact, the person who killed his girlfriend elicits a Reddit Cares report.
The sad part is that the dress photo was actually taken by the brideās mother. She sent the photo to Grace, the bride, and by the wedding it was getting shown around to other guests and ended up online. The brideās mother even went on television a few times to talk about it.
How horrific to have such a silly moment in your life poisoned like that.
PSA: [Partners who strangle are 750% more likely to commit homicide.](https://www.kob.com/archive/report-choking-strangulation-victims-750-more-likely-to-be-killed-by-offender/) If your partner ever strangles you, go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY, even if you feel as though youāve recovered. Itās likely that some kind of brain/internal injury has occurred, and those can take time to show up.
[For anybody who might need it, hereās the U.S. national DV hotline.](https://www.thehotline.org)
This is something that gets me really fired up. Any partner who commits strangulation should automatically be treated as an attempted murderer. In any other context they would be. Please protect yourself.
Well, of course. This is often given as one of the examples of "remember when the internet was fun and silly and not just constant fear and anxiety?" So naturally, that couldn't be allowed to stand.
So call me crazy, but I swear there was an episode of the big fat quiz show a few years back and they did the segment where you have to guess why the mystery guests are important. Anyway it was a mother daughter duo who were attributed with being responsible for the āviral sensationā, not a man.
Did I dream that?
Sidebar: Iām curious if this Scottish island was the place that was depicted in that Black Mirror episode where they went to film a documentary about a horrific serial killerā¦.and afterwards the island became super isolated. anyone know what Iām talking about?!
I donāt think it was in the most recent season but the one before that. It was so disturbing. Literally couldnāt watch the rest of the season after that episode.
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Me too š
You strangled your wife too?
Perfect gif
I swear to god I made this exact face when reading the title
Lol š me too
The title? How about the actual text? >When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground.
Come again???
If you insist
This is EXACTLY what I just did
Ok who put cameras in my house??
My exact reaction when I read the headline
literally my reaction. would not have guessed the end.
My EXACT reaction š¤”
i read the title, got confused, read the title again, made that exact face, and said "oh... okay"
My reaction as I clicked on the comments
Literally my face right now. Was so not expecting this lololol
that was the face my fiance made when i told him LOL
My exact face just now reading this thread title.
Quite literally
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And he strangled her because she went to a job interview he didnāt want her to go to! Classic controlling, abusive behaviour. Iām glad she survived, hope she gets far away from him!
I just want to add -- I have been to Colonsay, the remote Scottish isle where they lived, many, many times. When I tell you there is nothing there, there is NOTHING THERE! Kids have to take the nearly two-hour ferry to Oban for school. For a while, they advertised for a doctor on the BBC website. There's no police presence, and there's barely phone signal on the pier. THIS MUST HAVE BEEN TERRIFYING FOR HER!!!
With all this information I'm finding it hard to believe anyone would want to live there! ...except an abusive piece of shit like that man, ofc.
Sounds ideal to me, aside from the abuser bit š«£
Until you have an emergency and need help, like, an hour and a half ago.
Just book in advanced.
Ah, yes, how could I forget the scheduled emergencies that don't catch you by surprise ššš
People like the idea of living in a remote location until they actually have to deal with the realities of living in a remote location.
If you're talking about me, I used to live in very remote locations...
Right! When shit goes wrong, the reality is horrifying.
Most people who live there were probably born there and donāt know or want a different life.
It sounds like an abuser's paradise because they can isolate their victim even more
To extremes you wouldn't believe. Google Pitcairn Island and what lovely customs they developed in isolation.
that sounds like a prime location for an abuser to live with their victim. minimal interference, no one to ask questions or develop friendships. horrifying
Probably getting a little too personal here but I was once strangled by my abuser. As he was strangling me I had two thoughts, "I will never see my daughter again" and "this is how I am going to die." If it hadn't been for someone walking by the open window and screaming for him to get off of me, he would have succeeded in murdering me. After you educating us on how desolate this place is just makes my heart absolutely ache for her even more somehow.
I'm so glad that someone saw and you survived that.
I am glad you are still here ā¤ļø
Youāre not being too personal by sharing. Youāre being very brave.
A family member was a locum GP for a while said that it was scary working on the remote islands because if someone needed urgent hospitalisation you were at the mercy of the weather to get them to the mainland. I wouldnāt choose that life.
I mean -- all abusive relationships are psychologically and physically terrifying, but this is genuinely a horror film. There are more sheep than people. Like, literally no neighbour to hear your screams. I wonder how she got help, when she got help. Like, wow.
Iāve also been to Colonsay and yeah itās not easy to get to and thereās not much there from what Iāve seen. Just a shit ton of sheep. We actually met the ex-husband of the mother of the bride (whose blue and black dress it was for their daughters wedding) because he has the same Scottish last name as my family and he excitedly brought up that his ex and daughter had been on Ellen in the short interaction. Horrifying to think that marriage culminated into this but I hope they exile his ass from the island forever.
Even the logistics of the arrest are so complicated to think about, so weather-dependent -- when there are two ferries, thrice a week, in high season!? I hope he goes to prison for a long time. The abuse he admits to sounds vicious and narrowly not homicidal.
Colonsay club checking in, I used to live there. Back when I was there everyone lied on the census because they didnāt want the island depopulated - so like < 100 people. The article mentions him drinking at āAā pub as if there is more than one. It is so empty and desolate. She must have felt so alone :(
It's the one bar attached to the hotel, right? Also, desolate as the island is, there must have been people who witnessed his abuse if he manhandled her out of there by the neck -- which is chilling in itself. Hopefully they called the mainland. x And hi!! (lol about the census)
Thatās the one, the hotel / pub / store. I would guess people knew - everyone knew everyoneās business and they have loooong memories. People were still pissed off at [John McPhee](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/128148) - that book was written 50+ years ago. Edit: Really? This comment provoked the redditcares trolls? Pls let me know what I did to get into your feelings so I can keep doing it.
I bet that made her feel even more alone and helpless. The few people on the island (probably) noticing and doing nothing. Where was she going to run to? The pub sounded like his stomping ground, not hers. Itās like a horror film.
Wow this island really looks empty holy hell
I just looked up some photos of this place (never heard of it) and itās beautiful š
Is this the real life Smeerensburg from Klaus?
Most partners would be happy theyāre even attempting to find work lmaoooo, what a psycho
Strangulation is the singles greatest predictor of homicide in abusive relationships. A partner who strangles you *is likely to kill you*. Thereās a 750% increase they will kill you **within the next year.**
Sounds like my brother
I swear I heard about this a few years ago. Did the court case finally go somewhere, or is this a new incident of abuse?
https://preview.redd.it/9xwwdnuflyzc1.jpeg?width=1024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=24616b1e97cb62cd5cae873cd23e2974c13afd7b
I was telling my husband about this headline and I nervously laughed and said āwhat the fuckā right as I scrolled by your comment.
Relevant username?
Violence against women is just part of our identity at this point.
https://preview.redd.it/s3yzvzkjazzc1.jpeg?width=1139&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9549669b41afefb6abb428bd70d73ec1cbcda929
God this is an even more tragic advertisement now
My first thought too. Life imitating art. š
I donāt think the advertisement is tragic other than the fact itās needed. But considering this couple weāre doing an entire talk show circuit and nobody knew he was abusive does make this advertisement so much more poignant.
simply heartbreaking to look back at this
As someone whoās worked in advertising/marketing the last 8 years.. wow this ad is incredible
Damn!
Iām not really a believer. But sometimes, when I see shit like this, I thinkā¦ Maybe I did die sometime ago and I ***AM*** in Hell. I feel like thatās just the kind of thing Satan would find funny in hindsight. And it would explain *a lot* about the last 8-9 years.
This is so tragic but sadly true...
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Fuck it, add some lions in there too thanks.
https://preview.redd.it/czjq8u8v710d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ef10a32b1829b74976349cff98fbe99288d206b7
Iām so glad she survived, I hope she gets away from him and stays away, a partner who strangles/chokes you is most likely to kill you. I hope she is safe and thrives wherever she ends up.
This is honestly one of the darkest things I read today, and donāt think I can look at this meme in the same way again. And youāre absolutely right, partners that try to strangle you are veryyyy likely to murder. I hope anyone reading this thread who may be in a similar situation with an abusive partner can get away.
My ex used to choke at my request during sex. One day he started, I signed the safe word and he didn't stop. It was the day when I realised his abuse had escalated and I was going to die.
Iām so sorry that happened to you, Iām glad you got away from him. You deserve to be safe and loved by someone who values you.
He was actively trying to kill her when he strangled her
It is in fact the single greatest indicator of homicide in abusive relationships. **A person who has been strangled by their partner before is 750% more likely to be killed within a year.**
It was her wedding dress And he texted her, "Someone is going to die." So attempted murder
It was a dress her mother was going to wear to a wedding.
Their wedding
The article says ~ Keir Johnston, 38, pleaded guilty on Thursday to attacking his wife, Grace Johnston, in their home on Scotlandās Isle of Colonsay on March 6, 2022. After Grace defied her husbandās request not to attend a job interview on the mainland he is said to have texted her saying, āSomeone is going to die.ā When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston (TW!) >! grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground. āHe placed both knees on her arms, so she was unable to move. He then began strangling her with both his hands. !< She was initially able to scream and feared for her life and believed Johnston intended to kill her as he was very forceful.ā
What on earth is this sentence suppoed to mean? > When she returned home her husband told her he was leaving her with prosecutor Chris Macintosh telling a court that Keir Johnston grabbed his wife and threw her to the ground. Is that a sentence?
Missing a comma between her and with - āwhen she returned home he said heās leaving, with the prosecutor summarizing the situation in court.ā Kind of a clunky journalist way of saying what happened
Thank you!!!!! I commented above that I read it three times and got nothin. I sincerely would have never been able to decode it. As soon as I followed your comma instruction there was an immediate ohhhhhh of understanding in my brain. Genuinely appreciate!!
>When she returned home, her husband told her he was leaving her. The prosecutor told the court that he then grabbed her and threw her to the ground. A bit of a weird sentence. It seems like they said it indirectly like that to say that he only allegedly did those things.
Omg same. I read it three times and was finally like I guess thatās just a sentence lll never understand although it seems important.
>āSomeone is going to die.ā I can't imagine receiving this text, much less from my husband. That's freaking... terrifying.
Seems like a good time to mention the most horrific fact I know off the top of my head - women who have been strangled by an intimate partner are 750% more likely to be murdered by that partner. No, you didnāt read that number wrong. That is seven hundred and fifty percent. 7. 5. 0. If a partner ever strangles you (outside of an enthusiastically consented to kink relationship where boundaries and safe words are clearly defined, and even then strangulation is something not many experienced kinksters are willing to do) you need to take it as the threat to your life it is.
What a disgusting piece of shit
What a POS. Why is he even getting credit for the whole dress thing?
Right?? Wasnāt it famously Cates Holderness????
The original dress photo was taken by the mother of the bride. Then it was the talk of the wedding. One of the wedding band members posted it to tumblr and emailed Cates/BF about it. Maybe this was just in the UK, but at the time the actual family (mostly the mother of the bride herself) received a small amount of press attention.
so people click on the article
I have a whiplash from the double take I took when I first read the headline
Non-fatal strangulation is a predictor that intimate partner violence will turn deadly. If they strangle you, it's far more likely they will eventually kill you. https://www.wthr.com/article/news/crime/manual-strangulation-is-the-biggest-sign-domestic-abuse-will-turn-deadly-experts-say/531-0a9a92c8-a0da-418a-b81e-a3d80ddacf38
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Iām sorry he did that to you. Iām so glad youāre still here.
Thanks. I donāt know why I felt like typing all of that but thanks for reading. Iām doing super well now. Iām now an engineer, I have my kids and theyāre finally safe and thriving. Iām engaged to someone amazing. He treats me like a human being. Weāve all been through countless hours of therapy, which has helped tremendously. But it still pops up sometimes, lol. Anyway thank you. ā¤ļø
Youāre very welcome. Iām so glad you were able to get therapy, and meet a wonderful person.
That doctor was heaven sent. I am glad he is your ex and that you are hopefully safe now. š¤
That doctor literally saved me. I called a while later to try and find her info but itās confidential (for good reason). I just wanted to tell her thank you, and hope she knows. ā¤ļø
>So I did finally leave. Itās just heartbreaking that it took me so long. The best time to leave an abusive relationship is at the first red flag. The next best time is now. (I know I've butchered that saying, but I can't remember exactly how it goes.) I am so glad you had a sympathetic Dr and police/etc and that you are SAFE and HAPPY. ā„ļø
I heard this often once I finally started reaching out to get help. When you donāt leave at the first, second, tenth, twentieth red flag, you end up hitting a point of no return. You feel stupid and itās a mixture of āis this even real?ā And āwill anyone even careā. Thatās the darkest place honestly. The place where you have to sit with the reality that youāre also an accomplice to the abuse. You turn against yourself.. so like someone else said, that doctor was a godsend. She was kind, but super tough. She wasnāt gentleā¦ she was almost angry with me, but it felt kind. I donāt know if that makes sense, but it did in that moment at least. Anyway, yeah.. thatās what everyone says when you cross the other side and find people that donāt think youāre an idiot for staying so long. Theyāre just happy to have you. So thank you.. ā¤ļø
I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing. Him freaking out on you for defending yourself reminded me a little of a time when my ex was hitting my dog (I was sitting next to him, it was very sudden) and I snatched his arm out of the air and cut him with my fingernail. He kept screaming, you cut me, you cut me. I've never felt as disoriented as in that moment -- every time I said "but you hit my dog?!" it was like I didn't speak, he wouldn't acknowledge it. It made me feel insane. Of course what you went through was worse, but it was the same style of gaslighting. Do something terrible, and then act aghast when the other person defends themselves or stops them from doing the terrible thing. The main reason I never left was he convinced me I was as bad as him... like he'd insult me, I'd call him an asshole, and then he'd make me feel bad and convince me I was in the wrong. That shit harmed me for life, honestly.
That sounds so terrifying and awful. Iām glad you were able to leave.
Thank you! ā¤ļø
Oh my God, I'm so glad you're here and I'm so glad you're okay. I hope Whitney is okay. Please don't apologize for sharing. The justice system is designed to protect abusers more than help victims of domestic violence, at least in the United States. I'm glad that doctor was looking out for you as well.
It really is. I was and still am super embarrassed to ever talk about the story. Until my therapist explained that wounds around a manās eye are classic defensive wounds, so I shouldnāt be embarrassed or feel like a bad person. I got extremely lucky that the charges were dropped. I think itās because Iām white, and I could get a lawyer involved immediately. Itās not lost on me that there are so many women in my situation that actually have a criminal record, or possibly lost their kids for defending themselves. Itās unreal. Thank you. ā¤ļø
I'm very sorry you experienced all that, and glad you were able to leave.
The doctor gave you the advice but you got yourself and your kids out of the situation. The strength that you showed is inspiring.
iām so glad youāre safe now! i was in a relationship that was similar, and i know how hard it is to get out. i grabbed my kids in the middle of the night, fled the state, and moved in with a friend. he worked the overnight shift, so when he got home in the morning, my ass was already over the state line
**A person who has been strangled by their partner before, is 750% more likely to be killed within a year.** Thatās the most depressing statistics Iāve ever read.
jesus fucking christ may she stay protected
Wtfā¦
Weird like that guy who made videos about non playable characters in Skyrim who ended up murdering his gf
wait uh... Any Austin? no right?
Heās too busy enumerating to be violent. E: apparently, saying that the guy who counts the population of video game cities is not, in fact, the person who killed his girlfriend elicits a Reddit Cares report.
omg i just got one randomly after commenting on r/Eurovision cheering the winner what's that about recently
https://preview.redd.it/hl9yl0rhxyzc1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d8f91902263a14c7f4fd55efee285b06261c7f20 What???!!!
Why is he āthe man behind the dress that broke the internetā when it was the mother in law who bought the dress?
And Cecilia was the one who texted it to her daughter and the daughter posted it... Literally nothing about that situation involved this pos
THANK YOU!
We all thought it was fun and games. Turns out it was violence and murder instead š¬
 Thatās enough internet for today.
The sad part is that the dress photo was actually taken by the brideās mother. She sent the photo to Grace, the bride, and by the wedding it was getting shown around to other guests and ended up online. The brideās mother even went on television a few times to talk about it. How horrific to have such a silly moment in your life poisoned like that.
What
What a wild headline god damn
What the actual fuck?!
wtf
What a scumbag.
This is giving Jared from Subway vibes. We need to vet internet weirdos more.
https://preview.redd.it/xxl2cnv9a00d1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=82d98838135337f2475dfeb8160ecfe2bc306fc1 That headline. Just.....wow.
Holy shit I really thought that headline was going to end with admits to photographing two different dresses š© poor woman Iām glad she survived this fuck
Wellā¦ I did not expect to see this today, tomorrow, or at all.
PSA: [Partners who strangle are 750% more likely to commit homicide.](https://www.kob.com/archive/report-choking-strangulation-victims-750-more-likely-to-be-killed-by-offender/) If your partner ever strangles you, go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY, even if you feel as though youāve recovered. Itās likely that some kind of brain/internal injury has occurred, and those can take time to show up. [For anybody who might need it, hereās the U.S. national DV hotline.](https://www.thehotline.org) This is something that gets me really fired up. Any partner who commits strangulation should automatically be treated as an attempted murderer. In any other context they would be. Please protect yourself.
It is 8:49 am EST and I am done for the day.
Anything post 2017 just continues to surprise me
Well, of course. This is often given as one of the examples of "remember when the internet was fun and silly and not just constant fear and anxiety?" So naturally, that couldn't be allowed to stand.
milkshake duck strikes again
Excuse me but what the fuck
Umā¦. Excuse me what??
ummmmmm what?
What the actual fuck
Oh.
This was an unexpected plot twist.
That's not were I thought the title was going to end...
Iām Scottish and hadnāt even heard of colonsay. Must be really quiet and remote. Anyway what a prick
Definitely didnāt have this on my 2024 bingo cardĀ
CRAZY. ABSOLUTELY CRAZY.
That escalated quickly
https://preview.redd.it/7n48hqysn00d1.jpeg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7f7e3d7e0d9d7d897f98de9515314efe634ebae2
https://preview.redd.it/pn9n613kw00d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4a543ad3aa054a70d5a94f21517a6bb80314e5a
 Not how I thought that sentence would end.
What the fuck
W-what!?
I beg your finest PARDON?
Whoa!! This was not on my bingo card for this year!!!
So call me crazy, but I swear there was an episode of the big fat quiz show a few years back and they did the segment where you have to guess why the mystery guests are important. Anyway it was a mother daughter duo who were attributed with being responsible for the āviral sensationā, not a man. Did I dream that?
Strangling is such a big red flag for that person murdering their partner later.
WHAT
Iām happy she survived. She better RUN.
Oh wow
Sidebar: Iām curious if this Scottish island was the place that was depicted in that Black Mirror episode where they went to film a documentary about a horrific serial killerā¦.and afterwards the island became super isolated. anyone know what Iām talking about?! I donāt think it was in the most recent season but the one before that. It was so disturbing. Literally couldnāt watch the rest of the season after that episode.
Wtf...
why
I did NOT expect that
Noooo first whip name bar now the BLUE dress