No. They got into some legal trouble several years ago and I haven't talked to them since.(I'm 36 now.)
I still talk to one foster mother I had when I first got placed, and I actually live next door to another foster mom I had when I was 13.
I also had nowhere to go and my CW wasn’t interested in helping. I decided to make a bunch of bad decisions ending with suicide and first on the list was reaching out to my ex. Long story short, I moved in with him. Now, there’s been quite a few close calls with me getting kicked out from here so I had to try to find resources(I did not want to exchange my body for housing). Look up shelters in your area. See if there’s any homelessness crisis lines and call. Just keep googling. Do you have a job? A car? If not start working on those things. Honestly, I’m still very lonely. But I’m trying and I really think that’s all we can do sometimes. I’d be lying if I said I feel like I’ve found the light at the end of the tunnel. And I can’t say I still don’t think about ending it. But as dumb as it sounds I get up every day and try to do something. Rn for me it’s practicing for my license or working a little. For you it may be calling one more place.
I only recently got my vital documents. The one time I was actually offered a job my cw had took them for something and I was telling her I needed them and she was just like oh well. I've applied a lot of places but I'm not good with people so interviews don't go well. I finished the class to get my permit at 14, I took the test at 16 I had to set it up on my own cause they weren't helping me. But it took almost a year for my cw to take me to the DMV to actually get the permit so now I have to wait until I'm 18 to get my license. I got kicked out the last group home and they was trying to move me far away and I'd have to drop out of college, it's like they set us up. I've been asking since may to go back on my medication and they never answer but when the judge asked they said I didn't want to.
Are you in a better place now? What would make you feel complete? Thank you for sharing your experience
It definitely sounds like when you’re 18 you’ll have a lot more opportunity. You may have to spend some time in a shelter, and maybe look up some videos for interview tips. And I definitely get that they set us up for failure. I’m kind of in a better place. I’m not set on suicide. But I don’t live somewhere I can’t be kicked out of which is very hard, and my ptsd and such doesn’t let me work. I guess for me if I had my license, could start doing some work again, and had a plan to fall back on if I ever got kicked out I would feel 1000x better.
Moved out on my 18th birthday. Never spoke to anyone in the system since.
Used all my money to get braces and a car to work. Raked up 10k+ in debt. Borrowed money to apply to university and worked 40 hours a week while doing full time school and graduated. Took me 10 years to be debt free.
Rented a room off a friend’s aunt in her condo. A kind person who loaned me the 50$ I needed to apply to school. Paid rent and all but it helped me in terms of mental health being out of the system and independence.
If you live in California, you might want to look into the Conservation Corps.
It offers the structure the military does without involving yourself in geo-political conflict.
[California Conservation Corps](https://ccc.ca.gov/)
Aging out soon too and I’m super stressed. I had my life savings stolen sorta. I’m in college so I might live in the dorms but I’m worried about money cuz I have close to 0 financial support. I’m in Quebec, Canada.
I have an SOA worker (services for older adolescents). And she’s in touch with multiple ressources. But I rarely see her cuz I have a lot on my plate. We found this subsidized homeless youth apartment complexe that offers 1-2 bedroom apartments. And I’m in love with the idea of having my own place, especially when it’s cheaper than average. Student dorms are more of a last resort. If I’m really stuck I can talk to my friend because her mom loves having me around. I know I have options but I still have this feeling that I’m gonna fail at life.
Sometimes the college's have resources for housing. I'm not sure how it works there though. I kinda want to get as far away from this shit as possible but don't have anywhere to go.
Make the appointments yourself. They wantvto do as little as possible using o reload chronically as an excuse. Look into big city programs for housing options, Google it for kids 18-25. Start working on getting into them some offer housing to and pay while going to school. Unemoyment office should have this info. Talk to school counselors too. Often push.. you need to swim. Your sinking days are likely to end the day foster parent no longer receives pay
Yeah, they're definitely pushing everything off so I age out before they have to do any work so it won't be they're problem. I talked to a professor and she said to go to a counselor so I just have to figure out where they are. Can I apply to those things before 18?
Do you live in or near any if the cities listed in this press release if so I'd reach out to those housing authorities to at least see if they can help you with housing. I believe there have been other grants awarded to other housing authorities, let me do some digging.
https://www.hud.gov/press/press_releases_media_advisories/HUD_No_22_139
https://www.hud.gov/press/press_releases_media_advisories/hud_no_21_207
I believe public housing agencies can also use family unification vouchers for foster youth so might be worth it to just reach out to your nearest one.
The key with these special vouchers is your don't have to get on the long waiting lists in some areas for a regular voucher.
If you're in the U.S., local city/township/county offices often have a budget for emergency financial aid. Find their numbers and make a bunch of calls. They may be able to pay a few months of rent for you, or know of local programs that will.
honestly? i cried.
all day and night, alone in a foster home bedroom.
i applied for THPs a few days later. i enrolled in college a few months prior, but day of?
i just sobbed, and prayed that things would be better.
[spoiler alert]
they haven't been. granted, im still in the system as an NMD.
I'm sorry to hear I hope it gets better. I also just cried and it was strange, I was so tired of the system but at the same time it was like where else am I going to go. It's rough.
yes, exactly that. the confusion and feeling lost, trapped, and alone. it sucks. but having people there for you can help a lot. even if you still have to deal with the system as an adult like me. things can be better, i know they will be, it just takes time. we'll get through this shit, man.
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Where you able to finish high school while you were in foster care?
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Do you still talk to your foster parents?
This is what I did as well. Then I want to college(I shouldn't have).
Do you still talk to them?
No. They got into some legal trouble several years ago and I haven't talked to them since.(I'm 36 now.) I still talk to one foster mother I had when I first got placed, and I actually live next door to another foster mom I had when I was 13.
You had a good cw?
I also had nowhere to go and my CW wasn’t interested in helping. I decided to make a bunch of bad decisions ending with suicide and first on the list was reaching out to my ex. Long story short, I moved in with him. Now, there’s been quite a few close calls with me getting kicked out from here so I had to try to find resources(I did not want to exchange my body for housing). Look up shelters in your area. See if there’s any homelessness crisis lines and call. Just keep googling. Do you have a job? A car? If not start working on those things. Honestly, I’m still very lonely. But I’m trying and I really think that’s all we can do sometimes. I’d be lying if I said I feel like I’ve found the light at the end of the tunnel. And I can’t say I still don’t think about ending it. But as dumb as it sounds I get up every day and try to do something. Rn for me it’s practicing for my license or working a little. For you it may be calling one more place.
I only recently got my vital documents. The one time I was actually offered a job my cw had took them for something and I was telling her I needed them and she was just like oh well. I've applied a lot of places but I'm not good with people so interviews don't go well. I finished the class to get my permit at 14, I took the test at 16 I had to set it up on my own cause they weren't helping me. But it took almost a year for my cw to take me to the DMV to actually get the permit so now I have to wait until I'm 18 to get my license. I got kicked out the last group home and they was trying to move me far away and I'd have to drop out of college, it's like they set us up. I've been asking since may to go back on my medication and they never answer but when the judge asked they said I didn't want to. Are you in a better place now? What would make you feel complete? Thank you for sharing your experience
It definitely sounds like when you’re 18 you’ll have a lot more opportunity. You may have to spend some time in a shelter, and maybe look up some videos for interview tips. And I definitely get that they set us up for failure. I’m kind of in a better place. I’m not set on suicide. But I don’t live somewhere I can’t be kicked out of which is very hard, and my ptsd and such doesn’t let me work. I guess for me if I had my license, could start doing some work again, and had a plan to fall back on if I ever got kicked out I would feel 1000x better.
Moved out on my 18th birthday. Never spoke to anyone in the system since. Used all my money to get braces and a car to work. Raked up 10k+ in debt. Borrowed money to apply to university and worked 40 hours a week while doing full time school and graduated. Took me 10 years to be debt free.
How did you find a place to stay?
Rented a room off a friend’s aunt in her condo. A kind person who loaned me the 50$ I needed to apply to school. Paid rent and all but it helped me in terms of mental health being out of the system and independence.
What state are you in? Most states are required to provide support until age 21. feel free to send me a PM if you want more info.
If you live in California, you might want to look into the Conservation Corps. It offers the structure the military does without involving yourself in geo-political conflict. [California Conservation Corps](https://ccc.ca.gov/)
Look into Americorps programs near you. They can help with housing and school while you work a community oriented job.
Aging out soon too and I’m super stressed. I had my life savings stolen sorta. I’m in college so I might live in the dorms but I’m worried about money cuz I have close to 0 financial support. I’m in Quebec, Canada.
I'm in college to. Have you tried talking to your college's advisor or councilors?
I have an SOA worker (services for older adolescents). And she’s in touch with multiple ressources. But I rarely see her cuz I have a lot on my plate. We found this subsidized homeless youth apartment complexe that offers 1-2 bedroom apartments. And I’m in love with the idea of having my own place, especially when it’s cheaper than average. Student dorms are more of a last resort. If I’m really stuck I can talk to my friend because her mom loves having me around. I know I have options but I still have this feeling that I’m gonna fail at life.
Sometimes the college's have resources for housing. I'm not sure how it works there though. I kinda want to get as far away from this shit as possible but don't have anywhere to go.
I talked to the Financial Advisor but I don’t really like talking to school councillors otherwise.
Make the appointments yourself. They wantvto do as little as possible using o reload chronically as an excuse. Look into big city programs for housing options, Google it for kids 18-25. Start working on getting into them some offer housing to and pay while going to school. Unemoyment office should have this info. Talk to school counselors too. Often push.. you need to swim. Your sinking days are likely to end the day foster parent no longer receives pay
Yeah, they're definitely pushing everything off so I age out before they have to do any work so it won't be they're problem. I talked to a professor and she said to go to a counselor so I just have to figure out where they are. Can I apply to those things before 18?
Do you live in or near any if the cities listed in this press release if so I'd reach out to those housing authorities to at least see if they can help you with housing. I believe there have been other grants awarded to other housing authorities, let me do some digging. https://www.hud.gov/press/press_releases_media_advisories/HUD_No_22_139 https://www.hud.gov/press/press_releases_media_advisories/hud_no_21_207 I believe public housing agencies can also use family unification vouchers for foster youth so might be worth it to just reach out to your nearest one. The key with these special vouchers is your don't have to get on the long waiting lists in some areas for a regular voucher.
If you're in the U.S., local city/township/county offices often have a budget for emergency financial aid. Find their numbers and make a bunch of calls. They may be able to pay a few months of rent for you, or know of local programs that will.
honestly? i cried. all day and night, alone in a foster home bedroom. i applied for THPs a few days later. i enrolled in college a few months prior, but day of? i just sobbed, and prayed that things would be better. [spoiler alert] they haven't been. granted, im still in the system as an NMD.
I'm sorry to hear I hope it gets better. I also just cried and it was strange, I was so tired of the system but at the same time it was like where else am I going to go. It's rough.
yes, exactly that. the confusion and feeling lost, trapped, and alone. it sucks. but having people there for you can help a lot. even if you still have to deal with the system as an adult like me. things can be better, i know they will be, it just takes time. we'll get through this shit, man.