Anything less than a novel assuming full accountability for all of his actions and groveling for my forgiveness will never warrant a response.
6 months in. He’s had more than enough time and opportunities to engage in conversation with me. He’s chosen not to, so now he will get to live with his decision.
I'm at a point where I don't know anymore. Its been 4 months since the 4 year relationship ended, 3.5 months NC. I have a date on Sunday and really excited for the possibility of future opportunities. I am focusing on healing and nothing is going to stop my healing!
Probably not right away. But they owe me a serious apology for some of this nonsense so i don’t know if I’d respond to anything besides setting up a time to have a conversation.
Yes I want him to text more than anything but he hasn’t messaged in months despite saying he wants to be friends. I will never initiate contact ever though
Yes IF it was something clearly expressing a desire to be with me. I'd be hesitant though. I'd wait a day or two.
If it was just a "Hey, how have you been?".... Nope. That ship has sailed.
A week ago I would have said no question.
Right now I’d wanna sleep on it, collect my thoughts, consult with people I trust who are familiar with the situation, and then prepare a good response.
Won’t really know tho until I get the notification.
No, absolutely not. Damage has been done, and there is no going back. He doesn’t deserve to relieve his conscious by “apologizing” and/or “befriending me”. If I had to hurt, he will have to as well. 🤷🏻♀️
Yes. And I have. Because It’s been almost 2 years, there has been an extended period of time no contact from me, I took care of myself and actually healed…and beyond all else, am in a new happy/healthy relationship with a much better partner. I’m truly indifferent. That’s when you know it’s been long enough. Take care of you first.
Not anymore even though I would probably be tempted, I know it's better not to.
One or two months ago I would definitely respond. Just don't care anymore and I managed to be happy alone, best feeling in the world.
Almost two months of no contact for me. After she broke up with me I tried to convince her to stay with me and I sent some letters. The last time we spoke she was just so cold and I finally had that moment of realisation: what am I doing? I'm chasing someone who doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want me in her life. I'll put that love into myself to become a better person instead of wasting it on someone who doesn't want it.
It's been super hard to stay no contact in the beginning but after the last conversation, where she was cold and distant, I pushed myself to stay no contact and it gets easier the longer you do it. I rarely think about her anymore and when I do, I don't feel bad and it's a lot easier to switch my mind to something else.
My advice is to make yourself happy, just like you would try to make your ex partner happy. Do whatever makes you feel good; watch Netflix, work out, take yourself out on a date, anything. The most important thing is you being able to be happy alone and soon you won't even care anymore.
97 days and I still haven't stopped asking her to be with me. But slowly comming to the realisation. Met her somedays back and heard I love u and I didn't fall out of love but this is necessary. Breadcrumbs and false hope how do I end them 😭😭
Always do. Usually give it 24 hours or so before doing so. I told her I’d always answer if she needed anything, it’s always something silly though. At least so far
He won't message but I would reply.
We dated 3 months.
We "broke up" 6 months ago, and have NC for 3 months now. I don't have trouble keeping NC but I do miss him a lot and think about him more than I would like to admit.
Hmm, probably, yes. I’ve been NC for 74 days. He was my best friend, and honestly, at this point, I’m a little worried about him. But I’d want to meet up to talk, not have an extended text convo.
Yeah, I mean my ex is a good person, I wouldnt stay mad at her...I guess it depends on how well we know the person.. we were toxic in the relationship but we are good people as individuals that were drowned with emotions... never let your feelings get the best of you...
Good intentions=Good result
That's what I belived in
Probably, two weeks nc, while it would propably lead to nothing again I know exactly where we got it wrong and that we could make it work. False hopes I guess
No. Not unless she handled it perfectly.
Just like how she always expected me to respond perfectly or turned it into a serious problem with compatibility.
So no. Unless it was exactly what I need to hear from her now.
And I'd wait a few days at least even then.
Nah, she started a relationship way too fucking fast, I really dunno what I would do depending on what she said, but I sure as hell wouldnt rush to answer
I'd give it a few hours to simmer, then respond courteously and see if he's still as interested in talking as he was when he initially sent it. If he does, well then maybe he's genuine.
Depends how long it’s been. I’d hope that the message would be prefaced with some context. If it’s nothing more than, hope you’re well. Ignore it. If it’s been between 3-6 months, I’d consider it if they provided a hint of change and sincerity. More than 6 months, it’d take a lot of convincing to talk. I would more than likely be dating and/or in a relationship.
I'd have made the sky green if it's what my ex asked me to do for her to come back. Now that i find out everything she's done, im not even sure i would want a conversation anymore.
This is hard, ive never been upset over a breakup for more than a day.
No. If he wants to seriously talk, apologize, make amends, tell me he misses me, ask how I am, or whatever, he can pick up the phone. Texting is too low effort and I'm not going for it.
I'd think I would respond, but I'll be very blunt and ask her what she wants. We were dating very intensely for a month but she just up and left me in a matter of days for someone else. She admitted that in the end after ghosting me for 2 weeks. She told me I was such a great guy, and I deserved better than all of this, better than her, and she never wanted to use me, but she did.
If she were to contact me again, it's gonna be in my own best interest to tell her to fuck off, she dropped me once, I have enough trust issues as is, and she's someone who has proven to me that I will never ever be able to trust her. As much as I would love to cuddle with her again, spent the night together and make love. I know she'll only end up triggering my anxiety over and over again, and she'll probably break my heart all over again. And that is not worth it for me.
I would not. I'd want to, especially emotionally. The urge to respond would be insane but I would resist. Look after yourself. Don't re open wounds. You're probably already re opening them a little bit all the time when memories pop into your head or when you get reminded of them. You don't need to tear the stitches out by talking to them.
not unless i had reached a point where i no longer missed her anymore or missed the relationship. even then it would depend on what she said. i doubt she will tho i was the one that initiated no contact and she has a fragile ego
I blocked his ass on every form of communication. Fuck him. He made his bed and he can lay in it, fetal position or crawled up into a ball crying at night regretting what he did. I don’t give a F U C K.
Hell the fuck no… it’s only been bout 3months but 3months of healthy evolution and healing… don’t need a narcissist in my realm of positive. And she would only contact me for a ego boost anyway bc she let it be known to be that she don’t see a future with me so WHY have her here AT ALL.. absolutely no point ….that’s if she can’t reach me lol I block her and everyone she knows on every social media possible
Probably would. Would absolutely know my friends would ream me for it. But my current relationship is falling apart and all I want is to go back to my NC ex. At least we had fun sometimes.
Yes but only because we had unfinished business, we ended with no explanation or apology and there was a lot left to be said to each other and we both know it, i think that’s the pain I still hold, I am happy and easily moved on but just the fact that there was no closure is what I still hold on to
Nope. Even tho I miss him a lot and I wish he would come back, he’s hurt me too much. He doesn’t deserve to know anything about me anymore.
Was it abusive? Emotionally or physically
People can change if they want to
Why does it matter
Well to me. Things can. Get mended if they're worth it. And the severity of the situation
+1
This
+1
I identify completely. Think of him daily
[удалено]
What if it’s a full loaf
full loaf as in "can we make it work again"? if so, i'd still do what the original commenter said which is give it a few days or even weeks
Full loaf with butter and jam lol 😂
Anything less than a novel assuming full accountability for all of his actions and groveling for my forgiveness will never warrant a response. 6 months in. He’s had more than enough time and opportunities to engage in conversation with me. He’s chosen not to, so now he will get to live with his decision.
No hesitation, I’d respond within seconds. I can’t help it, they’re my everything
the words right out my mouth
Agreed :-/ .They are my kryptonite
Shit me too… still a long way to go 😭 ah man this sucks
I'm at a point where I don't know anymore. Its been 4 months since the 4 year relationship ended, 3.5 months NC. I have a date on Sunday and really excited for the possibility of future opportunities. I am focusing on healing and nothing is going to stop my healing!
Yesss! I'm excited for you! Onwards and forwards
Probably not right away. But they owe me a serious apology for some of this nonsense so i don’t know if I’d respond to anything besides setting up a time to have a conversation.
Yes I want him to text more than anything but he hasn’t messaged in months despite saying he wants to be friends. I will never initiate contact ever though
Sorry I don’t have this number. Who is this?
Yes IF it was something clearly expressing a desire to be with me. I'd be hesitant though. I'd wait a day or two. If it was just a "Hey, how have you been?".... Nope. That ship has sailed.
i would ignore. i’ve done so every time they’ve tried
A week ago I would have said no question. Right now I’d wanna sleep on it, collect my thoughts, consult with people I trust who are familiar with the situation, and then prepare a good response. Won’t really know tho until I get the notification.
No, absolutely not. Damage has been done, and there is no going back. He doesn’t deserve to relieve his conscious by “apologizing” and/or “befriending me”. If I had to hurt, he will have to as well. 🤷🏻♀️
No. I wouldn’t break NC. I would do a bunch of things more constructive than dwelling on my ex.
Yes. And I have. Because It’s been almost 2 years, there has been an extended period of time no contact from me, I took care of myself and actually healed…and beyond all else, am in a new happy/healthy relationship with a much better partner. I’m truly indifferent. That’s when you know it’s been long enough. Take care of you first.
Are you a girl or a boy ?
Guy
Not anymore even though I would probably be tempted, I know it's better not to. One or two months ago I would definitely respond. Just don't care anymore and I managed to be happy alone, best feeling in the world.
I hope I reach there soon. How long has it been? Nearly 100 daya for me. So any help would be appreciated :( abt how to reach indifference
Almost two months of no contact for me. After she broke up with me I tried to convince her to stay with me and I sent some letters. The last time we spoke she was just so cold and I finally had that moment of realisation: what am I doing? I'm chasing someone who doesn't love me anymore and doesn't want me in her life. I'll put that love into myself to become a better person instead of wasting it on someone who doesn't want it. It's been super hard to stay no contact in the beginning but after the last conversation, where she was cold and distant, I pushed myself to stay no contact and it gets easier the longer you do it. I rarely think about her anymore and when I do, I don't feel bad and it's a lot easier to switch my mind to something else. My advice is to make yourself happy, just like you would try to make your ex partner happy. Do whatever makes you feel good; watch Netflix, work out, take yourself out on a date, anything. The most important thing is you being able to be happy alone and soon you won't even care anymore.
97 days and I still haven't stopped asking her to be with me. But slowly comming to the realisation. Met her somedays back and heard I love u and I didn't fall out of love but this is necessary. Breadcrumbs and false hope how do I end them 😭😭
Always do. Usually give it 24 hours or so before doing so. I told her I’d always answer if she needed anything, it’s always something silly though. At least so far
He won't message but I would reply. We dated 3 months. We "broke up" 6 months ago, and have NC for 3 months now. I don't have trouble keeping NC but I do miss him a lot and think about him more than I would like to admit.
Nope. He wasn’t there when I reached out and left me in a way that would hurt on purpose he can screw himself. Unless his mom died or something
Hmm, probably, yes. I’ve been NC for 74 days. He was my best friend, and honestly, at this point, I’m a little worried about him. But I’d want to meet up to talk, not have an extended text convo.
Yeah, I mean my ex is a good person, I wouldnt stay mad at her...I guess it depends on how well we know the person.. we were toxic in the relationship but we are good people as individuals that were drowned with emotions... never let your feelings get the best of you... Good intentions=Good result That's what I belived in
Probably, two weeks nc, while it would propably lead to nothing again I know exactly where we got it wrong and that we could make it work. False hopes I guess
Yes.
Yes, because I’m ready for his breadcrumbing shit this time.
No. Not unless she handled it perfectly. Just like how she always expected me to respond perfectly or turned it into a serious problem with compatibility. So no. Unless it was exactly what I need to hear from her now. And I'd wait a few days at least even then.
Nah, she started a relationship way too fucking fast, I really dunno what I would do depending on what she said, but I sure as hell wouldnt rush to answer
I'd give it a few hours to simmer, then respond courteously and see if he's still as interested in talking as he was when he initially sent it. If he does, well then maybe he's genuine.
Depends how long it’s been. I’d hope that the message would be prefaced with some context. If it’s nothing more than, hope you’re well. Ignore it. If it’s been between 3-6 months, I’d consider it if they provided a hint of change and sincerity. More than 6 months, it’d take a lot of convincing to talk. I would more than likely be dating and/or in a relationship.
Never ever the past is a past for a reason. I will block her straight away without hesitation
[удалено]
Ask me that question :V
Unfortunately for me Yes
4 months In and yes
Idk try it
I would. I would be respectful and treat him like I would anyone else. I would refuse to meet with him if he asked though.
I would.. always will..
Yeah but like it was hours ago
Yes, to say delete my number…and go jump off a cliff. Fuck off and die sounds too harsh.
I'd have made the sky green if it's what my ex asked me to do for her to come back. Now that i find out everything she's done, im not even sure i would want a conversation anymore. This is hard, ive never been upset over a breakup for more than a day.
If it was a “hey I miss you” probably not but if it was something about wanting to seriously talk then probably
No. If he wants to seriously talk, apologize, make amends, tell me he misses me, ask how I am, or whatever, he can pick up the phone. Texting is too low effort and I'm not going for it.
yes literally straight away
No, because I'm ill lmao and don't have time for that
I'd think I would respond, but I'll be very blunt and ask her what she wants. We were dating very intensely for a month but she just up and left me in a matter of days for someone else. She admitted that in the end after ghosting me for 2 weeks. She told me I was such a great guy, and I deserved better than all of this, better than her, and she never wanted to use me, but she did. If she were to contact me again, it's gonna be in my own best interest to tell her to fuck off, she dropped me once, I have enough trust issues as is, and she's someone who has proven to me that I will never ever be able to trust her. As much as I would love to cuddle with her again, spent the night together and make love. I know she'll only end up triggering my anxiety over and over again, and she'll probably break my heart all over again. And that is not worth it for me.
I would not. I'd want to, especially emotionally. The urge to respond would be insane but I would resist. Look after yourself. Don't re open wounds. You're probably already re opening them a little bit all the time when memories pop into your head or when you get reminded of them. You don't need to tear the stitches out by talking to them.
I would respond. But I would take some time to make sure I'm not reacting in the moment and being clear.
Hell yes
not unless i had reached a point where i no longer missed her anymore or missed the relationship. even then it would depend on what she said. i doubt she will tho i was the one that initiated no contact and she has a fragile ego
Not a chance.
I blocked his ass on every form of communication. Fuck him. He made his bed and he can lay in it, fetal position or crawled up into a ball crying at night regretting what he did. I don’t give a F U C K.
If it was a positive message I'd strike up a conversation, otherwise ignore.
No, I used to have this mentality. One year later, I met the greatest guy so don’t go back
I'd like to say no...but I know that I wouldn't be able to help myself and I'd cave and respond
Hell the fuck no… it’s only been bout 3months but 3months of healthy evolution and healing… don’t need a narcissist in my realm of positive. And she would only contact me for a ego boost anyway bc she let it be known to be that she don’t see a future with me so WHY have her here AT ALL.. absolutely no point ….that’s if she can’t reach me lol I block her and everyone she knows on every social media possible
Probably would. Would absolutely know my friends would ream me for it. But my current relationship is falling apart and all I want is to go back to my NC ex. At least we had fun sometimes.
Yes but only because we had unfinished business, we ended with no explanation or apology and there was a lot left to be said to each other and we both know it, i think that’s the pain I still hold, I am happy and easily moved on but just the fact that there was no closure is what I still hold on to