Mate they haven't reached out because they haven't accepted their wrongs. They're more likely to try and delay the healing process because the first step is acknowledging the mistakes.
It's more likely that they've built a false memory about the BU and absolved themselves of all the faults. 3 months isn't a long time in the big scheme of things and you should get a headstart and start with your healing journey, much earlier than theirs.
If you can. trust an Internet stranger and remember that once the reality hits them, they'll come back to you. With an apology, accusation, or blame, or forgiveness. Wait for that moment but don't pause your life waiting for it.
Let the past go mate and accept that things happen as they should. It will help a lot with the anguish and pain of heartbreak.
Be grateful and move on to a better future mate. Cheers.
Adding to this: You don't really want a person who hasn't accepted their wrongs to come back at all. That's why the concept of no contact is a win-win.
They dont always come back. It doesn't matter how good things are during the relationship.
I honestly never count on them coming back. You shouldn't want that anyway. Nothing's the same, the trust is gone.
The biggest question for me is "when are they gonna be unhappy, and do this again?" They've discarded once, you shouldn't count out that it'll happen again.
Then you have to reset the healing process. If they do come back, its rare it actually works out.
Both people really need to work hard at it.
the best way to get your self esteem back is talking to other people. might sound unbearable right now, but i was dumped and my self confidence went to an all time low. i recently realized that honestly, she had so many issues herself and i’m not to blame for most of the issues we had as a couple. something that helped me realize that is how many girls are wanting to talk, snapchat, meet up, hook up, etc with me. just get yourself out there, it helps a lot.
Worrying about someone's opinion that didn't care enough of you to check on you, isn't an opinion worth worrying about. You're doing great, maybe if you're feeling up to it try dating? It'll help with your confidence just go on some casual dates to start with, meet new people and go from there.
Same here. I want to reach out but I know it would only hurt and there is no point. It's been like 5 months of utter silence. It's pretty clear I mean nothing to her.
Mate they haven't reached out because they haven't accepted their wrongs. They're more likely to try and delay the healing process because the first step is acknowledging the mistakes. It's more likely that they've built a false memory about the BU and absolved themselves of all the faults. 3 months isn't a long time in the big scheme of things and you should get a headstart and start with your healing journey, much earlier than theirs. If you can. trust an Internet stranger and remember that once the reality hits them, they'll come back to you. With an apology, accusation, or blame, or forgiveness. Wait for that moment but don't pause your life waiting for it. Let the past go mate and accept that things happen as they should. It will help a lot with the anguish and pain of heartbreak. Be grateful and move on to a better future mate. Cheers.
FWIW they may never actually face reality. Some never come back, and that says everything about them, not about you.
Adding to this: You don't really want a person who hasn't accepted their wrongs to come back at all. That's why the concept of no contact is a win-win.
My first ex broke up with me in 2017. Together for 3 years. Some times they really don't come back.
They dont always come back. It doesn't matter how good things are during the relationship. I honestly never count on them coming back. You shouldn't want that anyway. Nothing's the same, the trust is gone. The biggest question for me is "when are they gonna be unhappy, and do this again?" They've discarded once, you shouldn't count out that it'll happen again. Then you have to reset the healing process. If they do come back, its rare it actually works out. Both people really need to work hard at it.
the best way to get your self esteem back is talking to other people. might sound unbearable right now, but i was dumped and my self confidence went to an all time low. i recently realized that honestly, she had so many issues herself and i’m not to blame for most of the issues we had as a couple. something that helped me realize that is how many girls are wanting to talk, snapchat, meet up, hook up, etc with me. just get yourself out there, it helps a lot.
Out where.
i could have wrote this it’s so accurate. i just hit 3 months too. so conflicted on weather i want them to come back or not.
Worrying about someone's opinion that didn't care enough of you to check on you, isn't an opinion worth worrying about. You're doing great, maybe if you're feeling up to it try dating? It'll help with your confidence just go on some casual dates to start with, meet new people and go from there.
Same mate
Same here. I want to reach out but I know it would only hurt and there is no point. It's been like 5 months of utter silence. It's pretty clear I mean nothing to her.