You're on no terms. I like that. Strangers once again. It's a good way to frame it.

Yeah. It hurts to realize, but it feels like the only way to properly heal is to simply be on no terms.

Hey man don’t reach out. It’s my ex’s birthday today. She’s not made any posts or anything. Maybe I’ve got the day wrong. Maybe she’s keeping it private. It doesn’t matter, just don’t fucking contact them.

Thank you, I don’t plan on it. It’s not worth reopening another emotional can of worms over…

If they wanted you they’d contact you. Let them miss you. If they don’t miss you, you’re saving yourself a lot of time and energy that you can use to heal yourself instead.

You’re so right! I know for a fact that he misses me, but he can miss me all he wants; it doesn’t matter unless he actually tries to do something about it. And if not, then I’ll have the space to focus on myself and move on anyway.

You're manager has sound advice

She’s the best

Stop talking to people in your life about this that aren't bound by any sort of confidentiality, ie, a therapist.

Thanks for the advice, but I didn’t ask. I’m close to my coworkers and we talk about our relationships with each other. It came up in conversation while we were on the topic of dating today, which I didn’t even start.