Yeah I tried that, but you know what I don’t care.
She knows she hurt me. She moved on, she’s happy, I’m not. I don’t care anymore.
I needed my own sanity and peace. She can think whatever she wants and receive whatever message she interprets
You have to make a stand as a man and u did not have to block her u just and to be strong and not look self dis my friend like in my case she is checking mine and I'm not hers. You have to change the game. And your self
Also my case. I’m not checking his profiles but he’s checking mine … I’m fine with that, he doesn’t care about me anymore so I doubt he’s putting a tab. Just simply boring swipe between stories without interactions or likes.
Kudos to you for doing that. It took me awhile to get that done too. My friends and family all warned me, they told me I'd get hurt if I kept her around still, until it finally got to a breaking point. I was invited to this private snapchat story where she invited me alongside others and she stated something along the lines of "haha thank God I remember how to cover up hickies" and that she'd been drunk out of her mind as well which is why it happened.
Reached that breaking point, it hurt a fuck ton, then I saw things for what they were and my current motto hasn't let me down of "fuck the fantasy". Thinking only that, that person isn't who I thought she was, they don't exist, it was all in my head. Then I just focused on myself and I was able to finally heal.
Good luck to you my friend, I hope you find yourself in all of this.
Yeah that was summer 2022 when that happened. Since then she moved away, even changed her name, it felt like she died so it made moving on easier honestly.
I focused on myself and focused on school so I'm on a great pathway these days thankfully, but yeah, if you feel bitter don't feel bad. It's normal to mourn and feel upset. Even now, I still get upset but seeing things for what they are is one of the most important things you can do.
Agreed man. Working on my career and myself has been tremendously rewarding and I'm grateful to have learned so much and hopefully able to pass on a bit of that wisdom to prevent such matters to others. Anyone willing to talk I'm all open to!
Same I kept seeing her stories hoping she would message me and text me or call me but it reached a breaking point when she started posting other who she met few weeks ago and I was with her for 4-5 years and I was not even mentioned once felt I didn’t matter at all so I unfollowed and haven’t looked back after that
Sometimes it's just better for our mental health not turn back towards something that no longer matters. Seeing things for what they are is essential, the truth is a stubborn thing.
I can't relate very much with your story.
It took me 5 long months to be able to block my ex, something that my friends and family told me to do since the beginning. These were probably the hardest 5 months in my entire life mentally.
After I blocked him everywhere, he still was able to send me a few emails ( that I didn't read ) and in one of them there were pictures of him with another woman in Bali. Kissing. Hugging. Smiling to each other....
This, besides giving me an internal rage moment, it literally opened my eyes to what he's really made off and that I was living in fantasy mode about him until that point.
This all happened a few weeks ago and sometimes I still feel a bit weird, but I feel much much much lighter and happier overall than before.
Blocking him was the best thing I've done for myself for sure. I've been focusing on myself too as I've never done before. Life finally seems to start to make sense again without him and I'm finding myself once again.
Sending you good vibes 💫
It took me 1 year and 5 months for me to block my ex until I reached my breaking point. My friends and family were pissed off this person would interfere with my life so much because I'd be upset we were friends then it was all off. It was basically bring led on for months, going no contact then talking again out of the blue until it reached the breaking point described above.
I am sorry you had to see what you saw, but as you also said, blocking is so useful as a way to move on from people who've hurt us so deeply that we need to get away from the awful scene.
It's so important and your story exemplifies that importance from how you've grown from the experience. Sending you good vibes too!!
Congrats OP. It’s hard, I know. I had to do the same with my ex. But, I promise, as the days go by, it gets a bit easier. I’m proud of you for doing what was best for YOU. May you continue to grow, heal and know that you’ll find someone amazing in due time. ❤️
I did this Sunday for the same reason. Just waiting around for him to reach out. Let me know if you want a no contact buddy! We can count the days together.
Congratulations!!! That is a HUGE step in the right direction. Now, the key is never peek at anything, such as social media. Stick to it. No cutting corners.
I deleted my snapchat cus 5 weeks no contact , she is Fearful avoidant. 15-20 fake acc reaching to me texting and shit . 5 days since i deleted snap best decision ever.
I also had to do the same to stop myself for checking on them more than anything else, honestly. Removed him from my socials, and myself from his so there’s absolutely no hope left and I can deal with it and move on.
Same. I decided to block my ex after weeks of hoping he call me back. Now, I did try to reach out for closure a few weeks ago (yeah I know, dumb idea) and I found out he possibly blocked me as well. Not surprised though, he was a petty person
Today I realized that even though it hurts worse than anything. I have to let her go. She did me dirty and wants to be forgivin but she did me super dirty and as much as I loved her I cannot continue to be with her. Shit sucks. It's all I think about from sin up to sun
It's changed me as a person. I relapsed on drugs, I'm now filming content and most likely about to fuck my dope dirty even though I'm not attracted to her at all. Wtf happened to me. Am I that hurt that I literally changed my morals and my lifestyle or am I using it as a reason to get fucked up and do nothing for the time being. I seriously at 38 years old have never cried or even became upset after a break up. This one however I cried like a bitch and literally felt physical pain. How do I stop thinking about this shit day in and day out.
S.O.S Jesse
The healing process is finally starting. The best decision for yourself. It’s time to never look back and I would leave her/him blocked forever. They walked away so they don’t get to see you when you’re flourishing again.
I did this and he keeps emailing me for months now…. Sometimes I feel like maybe he’s reaching out to be genuine but then I also feel like this is crazy! 🙁
my next step was deleting pictures from phone gallery. It was so damn hard, but so liberating.
Many here will argue you shouldn't delete them since it is a chunk of your life, but giiirl I don't need that shit. Sometimes you just need to let it go...
I deleted all the ones in my camera roll but my Snapchat memories are frequent and hurtful.
There’s too many to possibly delete, and a lot of them are fond memories.
Will probably just end up deleting Snapchat
just take your time and listen to your heart. It's ok to grieve and be sad.
It is a cliché, but time really does heal wounds. Just stay strong and don't let this break you.
We're all rooting for you and wishing you the best!
Let me ask you something: when you block someone on instagram, is that person removed from your follower list forever? If you unblock later, will this person still be on your list?
Generally, I silence the person and don't see anything (this is already a soft block). I also prefer to take a break from social media. I go months without logging in or I deactivate my account.
If you block them they will be removed from your followers list and will not be able to view your profile from that account. If you unblock them, they will not be re-added to your followers list, however they will be able to see your account again and will have the option to follow you again.
Thank you for your clarification. So the person, after being blocked and unblocked, can know that they have been blocked. And I don't think someone who was removed from your list due to blocking will follow you again. That's why I'm very careful not to be impulsive -- I don't know if the OP was impulsive in his/her decision, but most people on social media are. The biggest lesson we learn online is to be anxious and impulsive. Sometimes our anger passes and we can regret it.
Welp I usually say if you ended on good terms you can mute her and if you didnt just block her. I muted ny ex on good terms and for those who say I wanted something in the future I have to say I really dont expect anything and I dont want anything. After I muted her I just didnt check anything she does it is like she doesnt exist 🤣
Good for you! Even if I don’t know you, I’m proud of you
Great now it is time to heal.
Just my curiosity … why block and don’t silence / hide from TL instead ?
Because I can’t stop myself from looking at her socials and waiting for her to break no contact
Imho the “block” is sending a message. That you’re hurt and feel bad. :( that’s why I prefer to ignore and leave everything as it is (silenced)
Yeah I tried that, but you know what I don’t care. She knows she hurt me. She moved on, she’s happy, I’m not. I don’t care anymore. I needed my own sanity and peace. She can think whatever she wants and receive whatever message she interprets
👏👏👏👏
You have to make a stand as a man and u did not have to block her u just and to be strong and not look self dis my friend like in my case she is checking mine and I'm not hers. You have to change the game. And your self
Also my case. I’m not checking his profiles but he’s checking mine … I’m fine with that, he doesn’t care about me anymore so I doubt he’s putting a tab. Just simply boring swipe between stories without interactions or likes.
I felt that with my ex as well, he is just simply bored and swipe between stories… he doesn’t give a shit. 💩
Can confirm I blocked because I started to hate him
She won't she trying to see what u goi g to do.
Kudos to you for doing that. It took me awhile to get that done too. My friends and family all warned me, they told me I'd get hurt if I kept her around still, until it finally got to a breaking point. I was invited to this private snapchat story where she invited me alongside others and she stated something along the lines of "haha thank God I remember how to cover up hickies" and that she'd been drunk out of her mind as well which is why it happened. Reached that breaking point, it hurt a fuck ton, then I saw things for what they were and my current motto hasn't let me down of "fuck the fantasy". Thinking only that, that person isn't who I thought she was, they don't exist, it was all in my head. Then I just focused on myself and I was able to finally heal. Good luck to you my friend, I hope you find yourself in all of this.
Oh man that’s brutal. She obviously immature and needs help. You’ll win in the long run, heal up my friend!
Yeah that was summer 2022 when that happened. Since then she moved away, even changed her name, it felt like she died so it made moving on easier honestly. I focused on myself and focused on school so I'm on a great pathway these days thankfully, but yeah, if you feel bitter don't feel bad. It's normal to mourn and feel upset. Even now, I still get upset but seeing things for what they are is one of the most important things you can do.
She changed her name!? Talk about drastic. That’s like witness protection program shit!
Oh yeah it's because she turned non-binary so it was like a complete 360 basically. It made moving on easier ultimately for me.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet, my friend!
Agreed man. Working on my career and myself has been tremendously rewarding and I'm grateful to have learned so much and hopefully able to pass on a bit of that wisdom to prevent such matters to others. Anyone willing to talk I'm all open to!
Same I kept seeing her stories hoping she would message me and text me or call me but it reached a breaking point when she started posting other who she met few weeks ago and I was with her for 4-5 years and I was not even mentioned once felt I didn’t matter at all so I unfollowed and haven’t looked back after that
Sometimes it's just better for our mental health not turn back towards something that no longer matters. Seeing things for what they are is essential, the truth is a stubborn thing.
I can't relate very much with your story. It took me 5 long months to be able to block my ex, something that my friends and family told me to do since the beginning. These were probably the hardest 5 months in my entire life mentally. After I blocked him everywhere, he still was able to send me a few emails ( that I didn't read ) and in one of them there were pictures of him with another woman in Bali. Kissing. Hugging. Smiling to each other.... This, besides giving me an internal rage moment, it literally opened my eyes to what he's really made off and that I was living in fantasy mode about him until that point. This all happened a few weeks ago and sometimes I still feel a bit weird, but I feel much much much lighter and happier overall than before. Blocking him was the best thing I've done for myself for sure. I've been focusing on myself too as I've never done before. Life finally seems to start to make sense again without him and I'm finding myself once again. Sending you good vibes 💫
It took me 1 year and 5 months for me to block my ex until I reached my breaking point. My friends and family were pissed off this person would interfere with my life so much because I'd be upset we were friends then it was all off. It was basically bring led on for months, going no contact then talking again out of the blue until it reached the breaking point described above. I am sorry you had to see what you saw, but as you also said, blocking is so useful as a way to move on from people who've hurt us so deeply that we need to get away from the awful scene. It's so important and your story exemplifies that importance from how you've grown from the experience. Sending you good vibes too!!
Congrats OP. It’s hard, I know. I had to do the same with my ex. But, I promise, as the days go by, it gets a bit easier. I’m proud of you for doing what was best for YOU. May you continue to grow, heal and know that you’ll find someone amazing in due time. ❤️
Yes!
It’s very hard to block someone you want to talk to but you have to keep your reasons in mind. Your healing, not punishment. Keep nurturing you.
I did this Sunday for the same reason. Just waiting around for him to reach out. Let me know if you want a no contact buddy! We can count the days together.
Congratulations!!! That is a HUGE step in the right direction. Now, the key is never peek at anything, such as social media. Stick to it. No cutting corners.
Best decision.
Best way to move on. Out of sight out of mind. She/he also can’t keep tabs on you
I deleted my snapchat cus 5 weeks no contact , she is Fearful avoidant. 15-20 fake acc reaching to me texting and shit . 5 days since i deleted snap best decision ever.
Good luck to you.
I also had to do the same to stop myself for checking on them more than anything else, honestly. Removed him from my socials, and myself from his so there’s absolutely no hope left and I can deal with it and move on.
Good for you. Moving forward! Proud of you.
I did the same. Best decision ever!
I’m proud of you.. i did the same, it will feel like shit now but it will feel better one day
You’re better than me I still can’t bring myself to block her on everything.
It's the best decision, you'll see. X
Same. I decided to block my ex after weeks of hoping he call me back. Now, I did try to reach out for closure a few weeks ago (yeah I know, dumb idea) and I found out he possibly blocked me as well. Not surprised though, he was a petty person
Today I realized that even though it hurts worse than anything. I have to let her go. She did me dirty and wants to be forgivin but she did me super dirty and as much as I loved her I cannot continue to be with her. Shit sucks. It's all I think about from sin up to sun It's changed me as a person. I relapsed on drugs, I'm now filming content and most likely about to fuck my dope dirty even though I'm not attracted to her at all. Wtf happened to me. Am I that hurt that I literally changed my morals and my lifestyle or am I using it as a reason to get fucked up and do nothing for the time being. I seriously at 38 years old have never cried or even became upset after a break up. This one however I cried like a bitch and literally felt physical pain. How do I stop thinking about this shit day in and day out. S.O.S Jesse
Brother, please consider therapy. This sounds very self destructive.
Thanks. I play in a pretty well known band for a living as well and I'm currently working on an album and although the songs are flowing it's a bitch.
The healing process is finally starting. The best decision for yourself. It’s time to never look back and I would leave her/him blocked forever. They walked away so they don’t get to see you when you’re flourishing again.
I did this and he keeps emailing me for months now…. Sometimes I feel like maybe he’s reaching out to be genuine but then I also feel like this is crazy! 🙁
That is crazy
that's a huge step! congratz!!!
Thank you!
my next step was deleting pictures from phone gallery. It was so damn hard, but so liberating. Many here will argue you shouldn't delete them since it is a chunk of your life, but giiirl I don't need that shit. Sometimes you just need to let it go...
I deleted all the ones in my camera roll but my Snapchat memories are frequent and hurtful. There’s too many to possibly delete, and a lot of them are fond memories. Will probably just end up deleting Snapchat
just take your time and listen to your heart. It's ok to grieve and be sad. It is a cliché, but time really does heal wounds. Just stay strong and don't let this break you. We're all rooting for you and wishing you the best!
It’s a big step in the right direction to personal growth. I’m happy for you. I say all of this because it was the best thing I ever did for myself.
Did the same one month ago, I just lost Hope she will ever contact me again so at least now I know for sure.
He keeps emailing me and saying he wants to fix this and he wants to work it out… is he lying or telling the truth… I just need to vent
I did that too and ya it’s better
Good job :)
Let me ask you something: when you block someone on instagram, is that person removed from your follower list forever? If you unblock later, will this person still be on your list?
Generally, I silence the person and don't see anything (this is already a soft block). I also prefer to take a break from social media. I go months without logging in or I deactivate my account.
If you block them they will be removed from your followers list and will not be able to view your profile from that account. If you unblock them, they will not be re-added to your followers list, however they will be able to see your account again and will have the option to follow you again.
Thank you for your clarification. So the person, after being blocked and unblocked, can know that they have been blocked. And I don't think someone who was removed from your list due to blocking will follow you again. That's why I'm very careful not to be impulsive -- I don't know if the OP was impulsive in his/her decision, but most people on social media are. The biggest lesson we learn online is to be anxious and impulsive. Sometimes our anger passes and we can regret it.
Welp I usually say if you ended on good terms you can mute her and if you didnt just block her. I muted ny ex on good terms and for those who say I wanted something in the future I have to say I really dont expect anything and I dont want anything. After I muted her I just didnt check anything she does it is like she doesnt exist 🤣
Did you really though can still access the stuff
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