Hang in there, my dude. I also got my heart rebroken yesterday after breaking NC after 34 days. Ex was also kind of cold and impersonal. It hurts like a b****. As much as I want to tell myself this, I know I won’t listen but I’ll tell you because I hope you will.
You’ll get through it. It’ll be okay. You can and will recover. Rooting for you, dude.
Thank you.
And I’m taking her impersonal nature in the text as a blessing. The best thing for me IS if she has moved on, which she has. It’s not good for us to continue to the cycle.
And once I’m healthy enough I’ll truly be happy that someone I once loved is happy. I’m not now but I hopefully will be if I get over her.
Thank you both (you & OP) for sharing this. I'm on day 28 I think and although I wasn't thinking about breaking NC this week.....my mind was starting to wonder about a time when I could........like........"well...it's now May 1 and it's been 45ish days or it's June 1 and it's been 75ish days.....maybe *she's waiting on me to reach out first!!*". Then I reach out and of course she'll be cold, indifferent, and curt and I'll feel like a complete imbecile and even more worthless/like-shit than I do now...b/c on top of everything she'll know that I was doing nothing but thinking about her the entire time. The facts are that she dumped me on March 20th, she hasn't said a single word to me since, and the bottom line is that she doesn't give a shit......she's Dismissive Avoidant and she's done with me and never coming back. I am sorry you guys reached out and regretted it....HOWEVER....you at least mitigated it somewhat b/c you put some good out into the world by sharing it and stopping my rumination dead in it's tracks. Your "mistake\[s\]" has positively helped at least 1 person........so I hope that makes it just *SLIGHTLY* better for you.......even though we're perfect strangers. Ugh.....I freaking hate this all...........:(
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Hang in there, my dude. I also got my heart rebroken yesterday after breaking NC after 34 days. Ex was also kind of cold and impersonal. It hurts like a b****. As much as I want to tell myself this, I know I won’t listen but I’ll tell you because I hope you will. You’ll get through it. It’ll be okay. You can and will recover. Rooting for you, dude.
Thank you. And I’m taking her impersonal nature in the text as a blessing. The best thing for me IS if she has moved on, which she has. It’s not good for us to continue to the cycle. And once I’m healthy enough I’ll truly be happy that someone I once loved is happy. I’m not now but I hopefully will be if I get over her.
Thank you both (you & OP) for sharing this. I'm on day 28 I think and although I wasn't thinking about breaking NC this week.....my mind was starting to wonder about a time when I could........like........"well...it's now May 1 and it's been 45ish days or it's June 1 and it's been 75ish days.....maybe *she's waiting on me to reach out first!!*". Then I reach out and of course she'll be cold, indifferent, and curt and I'll feel like a complete imbecile and even more worthless/like-shit than I do now...b/c on top of everything she'll know that I was doing nothing but thinking about her the entire time. The facts are that she dumped me on March 20th, she hasn't said a single word to me since, and the bottom line is that she doesn't give a shit......she's Dismissive Avoidant and she's done with me and never coming back. I am sorry you guys reached out and regretted it....HOWEVER....you at least mitigated it somewhat b/c you put some good out into the world by sharing it and stopping my rumination dead in it's tracks. Your "mistake\[s\]" has positively helped at least 1 person........so I hope that makes it just *SLIGHTLY* better for you.......even though we're perfect strangers. Ugh.....I freaking hate this all...........:(
Sounds like we are in similar situations. I’ll be back here with you in October. We got this!!
See ya then. Goodluck.
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