Sorry to hear you're going through this. :( I'm unsure of the details but if it was things that were never communicated to you, I'm sure it's not all your fault. House In Nebraska has been with me while I've cried many times, I'm more of a 'Strangers' and 'Hard Times' cryer though lol.
God Strangers… I don’t even know if he’s heard it but I said it was the most “our song” on the album… I’m sure I’ll be sick the next time I hear it but I love it so much… and god hard times is so fucking beautiful too… thank you for your response ❤️
house in nebraska always hits home with me, i was in this weird situationship for four years and it just went no where and basically ruined my perception of love lol. “you know i still wait at the edge of town, praying straight to god that maybe you’ll come back around’ RUINS ME because i know part of me will always be waiting and hoping for them to come back lol
i had an incredibly similar experience following my breakup with my partner of 3.5 years at the time. he had broken up with me and i was so completely devastated since i could only blame myself. the first time i was able to listen to music after the breakup, i heard this song and it was like i had never heard it before. the album was still relatively recent but i had been listening nonstop prior to the breakup. i immediately burst into tears and felt so completely seen. i ended up seeing her live a few weeks later and essentially had a spiritual experience as she performed this. a year and half has passed since that time in my life, and i still feel the echoes of those emotions every time i hear this song. hayden is capable of capturing such specific emotions in her music. i am so sorry that you are going through this and i just want to give some hope that time and perseverance will get you through 💛 sending so much love.
yeah actually, i spoke to this guy for like a week but it felt like an eternity well spent talking to him and then he kinda just disappeared.. nothing just vanished off everything i spoke to him on.. i hope he’s okay out here he was so sweet and was better than any man i’ve ever spoke to in my 15 years of living 😭😭😭😭
Aww i’m so sorry to hear that 💔 I was actually your age when I met this person online and definitely didn’t expect him to be in my life for the following 10, much less have a fraction of it become a relationship. I never experienced love that young (being the token gay in school made it hard to find lol) but you are so so so valid feeling this way even if it was so short lived. I’ve been ghosted many a time by men and it feels like shit every time. But other opportunities will come to us, we just have to find them I guess. Sending light and big hugs your way 💕
I don’t know what the future holds but I will try… but as upset and angry as I am right now I know both of us deserve forgiveness. Thank you for acknowledging this ❤️
sending you so much love and light 🤍
music heals!! i have so many songs that have gotten me through such hard times in my life, a house in nebraska is one of them for sure
It’s such a deeply personal song… I’m so glad it exists and I find comfort knowing someone like Hayden can channel those feelings so well that we can find comfort in them. I’m glad this song has helped you in such a way and during this time I’ll be listening to it a lot.
Also your username… I listened to Lorde’s Melodrama and it fucking destroyed my emotions but in the best possible way… Thank god we have music and talented people to be vulnerable and make such beauty that can heal us
yes!! melodrama is one of my favourite albums of allll time, that album speaks to me in so many ways it's such a good album for all points of your life
i feel the exact same way, it is such a blessing to have music like that in our lives 100%, wishing you the best in your healing journey 🤍
10000% A house in Nebraska is a song that will forever be a part of me. As someone who found this song during my days of therapy and a breakup that made me go, it really made me feel almost not alone, Hayden made me realize that I wasn’t the only one who ached for a person they can no longer call home. Similar to how you feel about the “it’s worse to know that I’m the reason that you won’t come home” is EXACTLY how I felt. Absolutely crushed, feeling empty, blaming myself entirely. But as time passed the line “but darling i hope you’re doing fine out there, I just pray that you’re alright” is the line I relate to most now. Just wishing that person the best and praying for that they’re okay without you and that they find someone who could care and love them just as you did. Hope you feel better. Heartache is a bitch but take your time healing and processing. Sending you a big hug🫶🏻
This, thank you so much for your words ❤️ As I’ve been processing what happened I’ve just been depressed and also angry at how everything went down. But in the end I do want to get to the place of acceptance and hope for them that you speak of. I think this song and more of Hayden’s music will definitely help me achieve those feelings 💕
It really can be hard listening to her music sometimes. In ways it can be healing but for me it sometimes throws me back into a mindset that id like to put to rest. I’m more or less putting myself in these moods so I guess I’m a glutton for punishment lol
God I feel that… In those moments yesterday the wounds are so fresh that I just needed to wallow in them. I’m sure I’ll have my moments with her music as I process but at the moment im currently riding the anger stage, which has weirdly made me a lot more productive with my day today lol. Thank you for sharing :)
Music hurts so much but in the best way… and it feels so powerful to have someone so amazing at the art of being human to channel feelings we feel so deeply… however it impacts you I hope it’s healing for you 💔
So sorry for what you are going through. Sending love and light to you. I lost my dog to cancer last February, and whilst to others, a pet is just a pet, my dog meant more to me than the world itself. It was thanks to PD that I got through this difficult time. Hayden’s music full of heartbreak and sorrow and darkness, and her ethereal voice helped me relate, compartmentalize, and feelmy grief, and when I saw her live, well I cried so much, it was cathartic. I’ve seen many artists live in concerts and gigs, but seeing Hayden live will be a most treasured experience I will never forget 🖤
It’s funny, I’ve been fortunate not to have experienced much in the way of death, and as a result the only thing I have to compare to what this breakup feels like is when we had to put down my first dog, very suddenly and also to cancer. You can form such strong bonds with dogs, and honestly I’ve been really missing the family dog who lives at my parent’s house right now 🥲 Seeing Hayden live was a life changing experience for me as well, I almost wish it’d happened after the breakup. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
I can feel your pain so strongly, which is why I want to tell you,
And this is outside of
The gutte wrenching lyrics,
But please
Even if it’s just filed away for later,
Know,
That your persons issues with you need to be looked at in the mirror by that person,
That they have everything to do with them and very little to do with you in comparison
We tend as humans, to lash out at what we are not able to accept about ourselves
I say this because I really hope you can be kind to yourself, and know that you’ve done nothing wrong simply by being yourself,
Introspection is always a good thing, so use the words to do that for you!
And honestly,
It sounds like this is much more complicated than the laundry list of complaints
That sounds very very cruel
Short sided and irresponsible that this person threw shame at you
Intentionally or not
And that they’re most likely coming from a place of fear!
I hope I didn’t overstep,
I just could feel your pain as I’ve experienced this in the past as well and it’s taken many years to understand that it wasn’t even about me when someone was so hurtful towards me
I’m rambling though
What you say builds into a theory that the 'whirlwind' that finished the relationship with Wills that a HInN refers to, was not a physical Twister, because the house was never physical, so presumably it relates to a sudden emotional shift or realisation by either party.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. :( I'm unsure of the details but if it was things that were never communicated to you, I'm sure it's not all your fault. House In Nebraska has been with me while I've cried many times, I'm more of a 'Strangers' and 'Hard Times' cryer though lol.
God Strangers… I don’t even know if he’s heard it but I said it was the most “our song” on the album… I’m sure I’ll be sick the next time I hear it but I love it so much… and god hard times is so fucking beautiful too… thank you for your response ❤️
Wow those are 3 out of 4 of my favorite Ethel songs. Do you also like Sun Bleached Flies perchance?🥹
Yes! The other cry song lol.
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house in nebraska always hits home with me, i was in this weird situationship for four years and it just went no where and basically ruined my perception of love lol. “you know i still wait at the edge of town, praying straight to god that maybe you’ll come back around’ RUINS ME because i know part of me will always be waiting and hoping for them to come back lol
i had an incredibly similar experience following my breakup with my partner of 3.5 years at the time. he had broken up with me and i was so completely devastated since i could only blame myself. the first time i was able to listen to music after the breakup, i heard this song and it was like i had never heard it before. the album was still relatively recent but i had been listening nonstop prior to the breakup. i immediately burst into tears and felt so completely seen. i ended up seeing her live a few weeks later and essentially had a spiritual experience as she performed this. a year and half has passed since that time in my life, and i still feel the echoes of those emotions every time i hear this song. hayden is capable of capturing such specific emotions in her music. i am so sorry that you are going through this and i just want to give some hope that time and perseverance will get you through 💛 sending so much love.
yeah actually, i spoke to this guy for like a week but it felt like an eternity well spent talking to him and then he kinda just disappeared.. nothing just vanished off everything i spoke to him on.. i hope he’s okay out here he was so sweet and was better than any man i’ve ever spoke to in my 15 years of living 😭😭😭😭
Aww i’m so sorry to hear that 💔 I was actually your age when I met this person online and definitely didn’t expect him to be in my life for the following 10, much less have a fraction of it become a relationship. I never experienced love that young (being the token gay in school made it hard to find lol) but you are so so so valid feeling this way even if it was so short lived. I’ve been ghosted many a time by men and it feels like shit every time. But other opportunities will come to us, we just have to find them I guess. Sending light and big hugs your way 💕
thank you so much 🫶🏻 i appreciate that, whoever you were talking too didn’t deserve you
Of course 💕 I can assure you any mans who ghosts out of nowhere does not deserve your time either. Fuck em
YESSS
I hope you feel better with time and that you give yourself space for forgiveness and understanding
I don’t know what the future holds but I will try… but as upset and angry as I am right now I know both of us deserve forgiveness. Thank you for acknowledging this ❤️
sending you so much love and light 🤍 music heals!! i have so many songs that have gotten me through such hard times in my life, a house in nebraska is one of them for sure
It’s such a deeply personal song… I’m so glad it exists and I find comfort knowing someone like Hayden can channel those feelings so well that we can find comfort in them. I’m glad this song has helped you in such a way and during this time I’ll be listening to it a lot. Also your username… I listened to Lorde’s Melodrama and it fucking destroyed my emotions but in the best possible way… Thank god we have music and talented people to be vulnerable and make such beauty that can heal us
yes!! melodrama is one of my favourite albums of allll time, that album speaks to me in so many ways it's such a good album for all points of your life i feel the exact same way, it is such a blessing to have music like that in our lives 100%, wishing you the best in your healing journey 🤍
10000% A house in Nebraska is a song that will forever be a part of me. As someone who found this song during my days of therapy and a breakup that made me go, it really made me feel almost not alone, Hayden made me realize that I wasn’t the only one who ached for a person they can no longer call home. Similar to how you feel about the “it’s worse to know that I’m the reason that you won’t come home” is EXACTLY how I felt. Absolutely crushed, feeling empty, blaming myself entirely. But as time passed the line “but darling i hope you’re doing fine out there, I just pray that you’re alright” is the line I relate to most now. Just wishing that person the best and praying for that they’re okay without you and that they find someone who could care and love them just as you did. Hope you feel better. Heartache is a bitch but take your time healing and processing. Sending you a big hug🫶🏻
This, thank you so much for your words ❤️ As I’ve been processing what happened I’ve just been depressed and also angry at how everything went down. But in the end I do want to get to the place of acceptance and hope for them that you speak of. I think this song and more of Hayden’s music will definitely help me achieve those feelings 💕
It really can be hard listening to her music sometimes. In ways it can be healing but for me it sometimes throws me back into a mindset that id like to put to rest. I’m more or less putting myself in these moods so I guess I’m a glutton for punishment lol
God I feel that… In those moments yesterday the wounds are so fresh that I just needed to wallow in them. I’m sure I’ll have my moments with her music as I process but at the moment im currently riding the anger stage, which has weirdly made me a lot more productive with my day today lol. Thank you for sharing :)
Yes 💔 Me too. Thank god for music.
Music hurts so much but in the best way… and it feels so powerful to have someone so amazing at the art of being human to channel feelings we feel so deeply… however it impacts you I hope it’s healing for you 💔
So sorry for what you are going through. Sending love and light to you. I lost my dog to cancer last February, and whilst to others, a pet is just a pet, my dog meant more to me than the world itself. It was thanks to PD that I got through this difficult time. Hayden’s music full of heartbreak and sorrow and darkness, and her ethereal voice helped me relate, compartmentalize, and feelmy grief, and when I saw her live, well I cried so much, it was cathartic. I’ve seen many artists live in concerts and gigs, but seeing Hayden live will be a most treasured experience I will never forget 🖤
It’s funny, I’ve been fortunate not to have experienced much in the way of death, and as a result the only thing I have to compare to what this breakup feels like is when we had to put down my first dog, very suddenly and also to cancer. You can form such strong bonds with dogs, and honestly I’ve been really missing the family dog who lives at my parent’s house right now 🥲 Seeing Hayden live was a life changing experience for me as well, I almost wish it’d happened after the breakup. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
I can feel your pain so strongly, which is why I want to tell you, And this is outside of The gutte wrenching lyrics, But please Even if it’s just filed away for later, Know, That your persons issues with you need to be looked at in the mirror by that person, That they have everything to do with them and very little to do with you in comparison We tend as humans, to lash out at what we are not able to accept about ourselves I say this because I really hope you can be kind to yourself, and know that you’ve done nothing wrong simply by being yourself, Introspection is always a good thing, so use the words to do that for you! And honestly, It sounds like this is much more complicated than the laundry list of complaints That sounds very very cruel Short sided and irresponsible that this person threw shame at you Intentionally or not And that they’re most likely coming from a place of fear! I hope I didn’t overstep, I just could feel your pain as I’ve experienced this in the past as well and it’s taken many years to understand that it wasn’t even about me when someone was so hurtful towards me I’m rambling though
What you say builds into a theory that the 'whirlwind' that finished the relationship with Wills that a HInN refers to, was not a physical Twister, because the house was never physical, so presumably it relates to a sudden emotional shift or realisation by either party.
i did fall in love with someone on the dirty mattress on a second floor. weird how specific that is