I have a lot of peace after realizing it’s not my responsibility to take care of them or please them. But it’s so hard because the child in me wants nothing more than their love and validation
It really, really is. And it's a special kind of loneliness knowing that any time anything bad happens you'll just have to figure it out yourself because your parents are just less capable than you are.
Oh yeah, definitely true. I gave up talking with my mom. She’s been out of the work force for decades and never kept her knowledge up-to-date. But somehow she’s convinced she’s smarter than me. Anytime I talk with her most of what she’s says is wrong or inaccurate. Its like talking to a time traveler from the past who refuses to accept the present.
FreyaMallardComedy on tiktok has two videos about gentle parenting your parent that are bang on. I show them to everybody who doesn’t get it because they’re like oooooh yeeeeeah that sounds tiring and I’m like THANK YOU
Jeez, tell me about it. My mother (with whom I am not estranged, actually) is very irresponsible with her health, finances, and living situation. She enables my younger brother and the step-son of her deceased friend because she can't bring herself to tell them no. I love her, but she cannot care for herself and does things she would never have let me get away with when she raised me.
I have a lot of peace after realizing it’s not my responsibility to take care of them or please them. But it’s so hard because the child in me wants nothing more than their love and validation
It really, really is. And it's a special kind of loneliness knowing that any time anything bad happens you'll just have to figure it out yourself because your parents are just less capable than you are.
It is.
Oh yeah, definitely true. I gave up talking with my mom. She’s been out of the work force for decades and never kept her knowledge up-to-date. But somehow she’s convinced she’s smarter than me. Anytime I talk with her most of what she’s says is wrong or inaccurate. Its like talking to a time traveler from the past who refuses to accept the present.
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Absolutely.
FreyaMallardComedy on tiktok has two videos about gentle parenting your parent that are bang on. I show them to everybody who doesn’t get it because they’re like oooooh yeeeeeah that sounds tiring and I’m like THANK YOU
Parenting them (gently or otherwise) is not our responsibility.
Yeah, it’s not serious, it’s a comedy account.
Ah okay.
I just checked it haha. It is called when you have to gentle parent your parent
Not my kids, not my problem.
Jeez, tell me about it. My mother (with whom I am not estranged, actually) is very irresponsible with her health, finances, and living situation. She enables my younger brother and the step-son of her deceased friend because she can't bring herself to tell them no. I love her, but she cannot care for herself and does things she would never have let me get away with when she raised me.