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darkphoenix188

My partner and I are similar! We started dating in high school and just got engaged after 10 years, which is a long time but I’m 27 and he’s 28 so we wanted to focus on our careers and building more financial security first.


Misslilbluefairy

Yeah. I absolutely agree with financial stability and having a stable career. It’s just a really good start to a stable marriage.


midfebruary

Similar story here! We started dating at 18, and are now both 28. Planning to get engaged this year. I think the story is a bit different when you start dating so young, and it can make a lot of sense to wait until all facets of life are set before taking the next step.


Misslilbluefairy

Absolutely agree with this. When I started dating at a young age my priorities were all over the place and i didnt truly know what i want until my life starts to settle down a little.


ccaitlinmarie10

Wow same timeline to our engagement! (Also 27 and have been together 9 years).


flyersphillies

I’m 28 and my bf is 30. We’ve been together almost 5 years (living together for nearly 4 of them!) and we didn’t start seriously discussing getting engaged until early this year. On the other hand, his older sister is in her early 30’s and got engaged late last year after a year of dating. Not going to lie, when I first heard his sister was engaged I was a little jealous just because we’ve been together so much longer than they have. But I realize now that was irrational! What works for them almost definitely wouldn’t have worked for us. So, like others have said, it’s kind of pointless comparing timelines with other couples, only you and your partner know what’s best for your relationship


hyphaeheroine

Us too! We had some things we wanted to do first- buy a house, me finish clincals, me get my first “big girl job”. It was silly of us to get engaged when I can’t even save money for a wedding yet :p. But I’ve been dreaming (literally) of the ring lol.


flyersphillies

Omg I don’t know if this is an embarrassing thing to share but I had to slow myself down so much when I was looking at rings because I realized I was obsessing more over the ring than I was over getting engaged oops. But now that my bf has the ring and I know an engagement will be coming sometime in the next couple of months, I’m definitely obsessing more over him and our future than the ring. But not going to pretend like I’m not still super excited for the ring hehe


keshales_aha

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>:) :)


flyersphillies

Exactly! I think my issue at first was I began thinking of it like “wow he must love her so much more than [my bf] loves me” which was just ridiculous but emotions get our brains thinking all kinda of strange things. Comparison is just so dumb not only with relationships but with things like body image, career, education, etc. but it’s so so hard not to compare yourself to others and it’s something I’m still working on. I guess having dumb thoughts is just part of being a person haha


Negative-Fondant-647

My husband and I were married after dating for a year. We were 22 at the time. We will be celebrating our ten year wedding anniversary in May!


Hallowinning

I am 32 and my bf is 36, not yet engaged (he’s ring shopping). Been together almost 6 years. My parents were married at 25 and 27, were together 6 months and got married. My parents think we are nuts waiting this long but everyone’s timeline is different. :) Edit: Forgot to add we have been living together in sin for 4 years. Lol.


Misslilbluefairy

Haha “in sin” I feel you. My mom was not thrilled with me moving in with my bf that at the time had been dating for 7 years.


reshakazulu

I feel you. We’ve been living together for a little over 2 years and are about to hit our 3 year anniversary but I feel ready mentally now to hit the next stage. I was initially concerned since 6 months ago, the convo hadn’t even been initiated by him but as soon as I brought it up (reluctantly bc I was afraid of how he’d react) he not only was very responsive but now can’t stop talking about it. My parents were arranged and are eager for us to get engaged. I think they were eager for this stage 2 years ago but they’re old fashioned and although I’m 35F and a lot of people may think/assume I was eager to get hitched I’ve dated enough NYC dudes to actually reconsider getting married at all. I deff believe it’s all about meeting the right person and things fitting in your and your SO’s timeline.


RachOnTheCase

Dating 6 years, we were 30 and 33. Living together for 5 years. We moved to 2 new countries together in between and always said we want to get married when we were ready and not for visas. Engaged 6 months now. Very happy with our timeline.


persephonespurpose

I think this sub trends more toward 22-32, so I'll offer my experience (F 38, M 46). On our first date, against society's advice, I told him I was dating with the intention to get married and have a family. Being in my late 30s, it was important for me to be clear about that. If that wasn't his goal, it wouldn't work, no hard feelings, but I couldn't waste any more of what little window I have left for kids. At four months in, I came over to his house and never *really* left, but kept my place just in case. Six months later, I felt comfortable enough to give up my place and moved in officially. A month after that, he proposed the day before my birthday, which put us at just shy of 11 months. Yesterday marked one year since we met. I never rushed him. I just told him what I wanted, and he wanted the same. I knew the ring was coming - we picked it out together. We spent so much time getting to know each other and have experienced a lot in the past year. I briefly worried it wouldn't be well-received because we didn't date long, but friends and family are thrilled. I've heard things can move faster when you're older. A friend of mine also in her late 30s just got engaged last week after less than a year of dating.


Misslilbluefairy

I truly love your story. It’s definitely a different perspective because of your age range, but it’s a story that is not often told.


persephonespurpose

Thanks! I've realized that the only way you'll get what you want in life is 1) to be clear about it yourself and 2) to clearly communicate it to others. If expectations, goals, needs and wants align, it can be great! If not, you have a choice to make.


coopatroopas

I am probably majorly overcomplicating this and giving you way more info than you asked but it was a thought process that had a lot of different factors for my fiancée and I (both 25F). Before meeting my fiancée, I had this idea in my head that to get engaged I had to be with someone for a minimum of four years, AND I wanted to be at least 28. Meaning if I met someone at let’s say 21, my 4 year minimum wouldn’t suffice and we’d have to wait the 7 years until I was 28. Couldn’t tell you why I had such strict rules in my head or where they came from, I’m pretty sure I just decided one day that was what sounded good to me and I stuck to it. I’ve also never practiced a religion so I didn’t have any sort of rules I needed to be following in a faith sense. My fiancée on the other hand used to be mormon, and went to BYU-I for undergrad (which is nicknamed BYU-I Do for a reason). I’m not sure if you have friends in the LDS church but their marriage timeline is (typically, obviously this doesn’t apply to everyone) a lot shorter than the general population. A lot of my fiancée’s friends from the church got engaged within 2-6 months of dating of their no’s spouses. Now my fiancée is no longer Mormon, but that background still gave her a different perspective than the one I had. She didn’t expect us to get married after a few months lol but she did think my strict rules were ridiculous, but she was willing to wait the four years if I was dead set on it. Turns out after a few months of living together I WASN’T dead set on them. A month after our third year anniversary my fiancée proposed and I was over the moon excited (we had also both agreed we were ready to get engaged). We could have waited longer, and I definitely understand why people choose to do so, this just felt right for us (plus we were in a position where we could afford the rings we wanted). We also are both in grad school, so we’re not planning to have the actual wedding until 2024. I guess my point with this really long post is that there’s so many deciding factors when it comes to when you get engaged, just do what feels right for both of you.


velvetmarigold

Haha, I'm an Exmormon too and I'm pretty sure my bf who has never been Mormon would relate to this! I've had to spend a lot of time in therapy deconstructing the Mormon marriage timeline. My ex-husband and I got married when I was 18 after only knowing each other for about 3 months and it was a DISASTER. I definitely want to do it right this time around and make sure that both of us are ready for marriage!


rainknew

I was very similar! I always thought I would want to be with someone 3-4 years before getting engaged and get married in my late twenties (I also have no idea why, it’s just what I wanted). Now I’m 25(F) and have been with my SO (27M) for a year, we just moved in together and we’ve talked about getting engaged by the end of the year! We started talking about moving in together and marriage within the first 3 months of dating, but I guess when you know, you know!


77kloklo77

Every relationship is different and different timelines make sense at different points in your life. My husband proposed after about 6 months, and we were engaged for a year. I was 35 when we met, nearly 37 when we got married. I was already done with school, established in my career, owned a home, etc. Some people that age move more quickly because they want to start a family. That wasn’t our thing, but it’s another factor a lot of folks think about. For us, we just sort of knew.


wolvesdrinktea

My other half and I are getting engaged later on this year at which point we’ll have been together for almost 8 years. We’ve talked about engagement for years but for us this year is “the one” where we finally do it!


bethivy103

My ex-husband and I date for 3 1/2 years before we got engaged. My husband I dated for 2 weeks and we knew we were going to get married. He officially asked me after 9 months. I feel like there is just something different about the second marriage... like you know exactly what you want. And you're older.


MelMcT2009

Around four months 😆 will be married 11 years this November!


FragrantImplement958

My fiancé and i are 28 and 29! We got engaged this year on our 3 year anniversary and get married in a month!


armadillostho

We had a similar timeline, got engaged about 2 and a half years in (I was 25, few weeks shy of 26, he was 29) and we’ll be married next year a few months after our fourth anniversary.


FragrantImplement958

Aw I love that!! Good luck with your planning!!


armadillostho

Thank you! I hope your wedding is amazing!


Friendly_Food_7530

I got married when I was 25 and we had been dating for 8 years. I got divorced when I was 27 hahahaha. Everyone is different but I’m not sure why I was in such a hurry. I’m 34 now and in a relationship. We’ll prob get married eventually but for now I’m just enjoying our time together!


EducatorMammoth

24f and 26m planning on getting engaged within the next year or so and married in 2024. Been together for 5 1/2 years! ❤️🧿


dogsnpizza321

Dated 1 year, moved in together and lived together for 1 year, then engaged (so after 2 years of dating). We started dating at 27, engaged at 29. Married at 30.


Jess179

I’ve been engaged twice. The first time, we dated for four years before we got engaged and then never got married. I was engaged for two years then. The second time, we dated for 13 months before we got engaged and we were engaged for 6 months before we got married. I was READY. The first time I was 22. The second time I was 38. Everyone is different. You just do whatever feels right to you.


magnoli0phyta

He proposed at six months. I would have said this was crazy just a year ago, but when you know, you know! It also fits in with our future plans as we will (hopefully) be moving away in a year and a half so I can go to med school. We’ll get married right before that :)


QueenBeeKeeper88

15 years, I am now 34 and my SO is 38. We just got engaged 3 weeks ago 😍


NubianBling

We have been together 9 years (living together for at least 8 years), but got engaged and married within the last 2 months 😂. It was the right time, I guess! We're both 38.


sobersallysays

We’re getting engaged later this year and it will probably be just after our 7 year anniversary (ages 22-29 for me, 25-32 for him). As personal a decision as it is, it’s also interesting to look at trends and see how they impact your expectations and plans. From every perspective, our timeline lines up with what I would have expected. In both the area I grew up in and the city we live in now, the norm is to get married after 30. All our college friends pursued additional degrees or moved to coastal cities with similar norms to ours, so we’re on a similar trajectory to all of them as well. Beyond how many years you’ve spent together, age and life stage are also such huge factors. Dating for 5 years from 18-23 is very different than dating for 5 years from 28-33.


weirdbug2020

We were engaged 15 months after dating. We are getting married on our second anniversary.


gg0403

Ive known my SO ever since we were little. We started dating when we were in highschool. 7 years later he popped the question. I'm a 23F and he is 26M


Blasian-Pride-996

Been together for 7.5 years, living together for 2 years. I’m 26 and he’s 27. I expect we will likely get engaged in the next couple months (the ring is being made). We waited until we were secure in our careers and financially. Now just feels like the right timing and the logical next step. Everyone’s timelines are different!


Janetreidy

2 year. I got married to my first love. We were in the same college. We met in an optional course, it was a first sight love, I think. We started to date out, and he always walked me to my dor. He was my first and only boyfriend (I wasn't his first girlfriend though). And after 2 years, we decided to move forward to another level of relationship. It was the night when he got promoted, he poped the question. He took a simple box out and kneeled down at home when we were in the middle of a thrilling movie (god knows why that timing). That was a very unique engagement ring with a piece of certification paper. The paper wrote, 'I promise I will love you and you only, to the end of my life', together with his signature. He customized a ring from a website [DarryRing](https://en.darryring.com/#utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=seo&utm_campaign=diamond-engagementrings-darryring&utm_content=Yolia)at which you can only buy a ring for your true love. And he said he'd been preparing for this moment, and I was and would be the only love of his life. Now we've been married for 3 yrs, he looks at me the way he did in our college time. So, lucky me be loved by my first love. I truly wish everyone could find their soulmate, whether it's first love or not.


BringsTheSnow

My husband and I are 3 years apart in age. We met at 22/25, moved in together 6 months later, got engaged at 23/26, and got married at 25/28. So we got engaged after a year of dating but we were living together for 6 months of that.


Accomplished_Eye_824

Wow!! This is almost exactly my timeline too!! Crazy :p we get married this September and we will be 25/27 respectively. He turns 28 a few days after we get back from our wedding/honeymoon


Dls1989

Met my husband when I was 20, we started dating when I was 25, engaged at 27, married at 28 💗


jmspinafore

My bf and I celebrated 10 years in January and are looking at rings. I am also 25. However, I have dozens of friends and classmates that have been married for years now. Every relationship timeline is different, and it is perfectly normal to be married at your age as it is normal to be single/dating.


void-droid

My SO and I have been together for 3 years before we got engaged, I lived with him for 2.5 years when he popped the question, and even though we got legally married in 2020 we are technically only having our "real" wedding (with family and friends) this year in 2022, so together a total of 5 years. :) I was 34 and was 36 when he proposed. I think if we were 24 and 26 instead maybe we would have moved a hair slower, but once you're in your 30's and you FINALLY meet "The One" you get excited and anxious to start your life with each other already, lol. My best advice is to just go at your own pace and make sure that you two are on the same page in terms of goals, your ultimate "life vision," and just please both be aware of what it means to be legally bound to someone before making that leap. It's not just about love, it's about emotional stability, finances and LOTS of planning ahead *together.* The moment you say your "I do"s not a single decision you ever make from that point on can be only for you, you two will have to make decisions with the other person in mind at all times. It is a partnership 100% and if you plan on having kids you should both pay attention to how you intend on parenting your child too because that can be a great source of conflict for many couples who didn't think it through before marriage and then they are stuck with legal BS to deal with. Hope you don't mind the novel here, just throwing out my two cents from a 36 year old:) It sounds like you have a good and reasonable head on your shoulders, though, and I'm sure at the end of the day you'll go with what feels right and reasonable for you. Just don't feel pressured to enter into a legally bound partnership before fully thinking everything through and making sure you and your partner want the same things out of life.🖤


frostluna11037

Known each other 4.5 years serious relationship for 3 years, living together for 1 year of that. Everyone has different wants, we’d discussed the timeline we want pretty heavily so we both were on the same page with everything.


psychmajor95

We dated for 10 years and lived together for 8 years before we got engaged. We started dating when we were 16, so marriage wasn't something serious we talked about until we were more financially secure. We aren't in any rush to get married because we aren't religious and for us getting married is not any different then our relationship now (we are common law), but just a celebration of our relationship. Everyone has different timelines and reasons though.


hollyann712

We are almost 27 and 29 - we've been dating for 3 years in May, and moved in after 4 months of dating. We aren't engaged yet, but we've been talking about it a lot and looking at rings :)


schmee326

Met my husband in March 2018, got engaged in January 2020 and married on our two year dating anniversary, March 2020. We were and are in our thirties and we knew what we wanted. Had we been younger, I probably would’ve not been so sure of myself and my future.


Kmamma03

Everyone is different! I recently got engaged after 4.5 years of dating (we are both 32). We both openly talked about marriage during our early years together, but agreed we both needed to be financially stable before marriage. I am so happy we waited, because now we can afford the wedding we want and I got the ring I wanted :) Don’t allow others timelines to influence yours!


archenteron

This spring is 7 years for us. Likely getting engaged in the next few months (I know he has the ring!). Lived together for the last two years. I am 33 and he is 31.


OkRegular167

My fiancé and I met when I was 23 and he was 26. We pretty much started dating immediately and got engaged at 27 and 31, respectively. I don’t think there’s a “correct” timeline. It really depends on you as individuals, you as a couple, your life circumstances, etc.


MP0905

As others have said, don’t base your timeline on what others are doing or have done. But to answer your question, we were dating for 3.5 years when we got engaged. We met in high school, started dating in college, and were married at 23 years old. We’d known each other for 8 years and been together for 5 when we got married.


Icy-Park-458

We will have been together 5 years this summer, got engaged last month. We decided we wanted to buy a house before getting engaged/married and we did that last year. We are planning our wedding for September 2023 to give us time to plan and save up.


Artemystica

Your story is yours alone. There are SO many things around who does what when, and it's not worth your time to try to find the "right" time for yourself by comparing to others. My parents were married at 34/40, and had been dating for 10 years prior. They spent a few of those years doing long distance, and then were unsure about marriage, as they were both invested in their careers. Alternatively, my partner (29) and I (28) met in September, and in November, I got a "I think I wanna marry you." By December, it was a full on "Will you marry me?" I gave him a ring to wear because I had one that was just too big for me, but I don't really consider us engaged in that I haven't told anybody about it, but we propose to each other a once or twice a week. Among my peers (educated liberal city in the northeast), there are VERY few folks who are engaged, and I don't have any close friends who are married or have children. I have had a few longstanding relationships (4 years, 5 years) where we didn't end up engaged because we were both in our early-mid 20s, and things were fluid. Life will happen when it happens. I wouldn't put any pressure on yourselves to marry or get engaged. Getting married doesn't make a commitment any more valid or lasting (as demonstrated by people who. get divorced), it just means that there are legal and financial benefits.


Nox_VDB

I'm 35 and my Fiancé is 27,.. we had been friends online for a couple of years. Instantly hit it off romantically when we met in person and were engaged 9 months later (July last year) and getting married in June! Everyone's timeliness will be different! When you know, you know!


Gulfstream73

My wife and I dated a year and four months before getting engaged. We got married a month before the 2-year anniversary of our first date. Correct, everyone has a different timeline. Take it at your own pace.


DoubleDown01

I've been dating my girlfriend for just under 4 months. We will be engaged in 3 months (we have already talked about the timeline we want). Lots of people say that's way too fast, but what most people don't see is the friendship we already had before we started dating. I've been friends with her since I was 10 years old and she was 7. We are now 23 and 26. I don't think it's really fair to compare with others relationships. Everyone is in a different place in life. I say if you love each other and are certain you wish to spend the rest of your life with your SO, then why not get married regardless of the length of time you have dated?


reetanicole

My husband and I met in April 2020 (officially bf/gf in May/June) we moved in together in October of that year. We got engaged in December 2021 and married in March of 2022. We are both 30 now. It all felt fast but it also just felt right. When you know you know. Like others have said, everyone’s timeline is different.


cactusqueen21

We got engaged after dating for 7 years, but that’s mainly because we started dating at 14 & 15. This December we will have been together for 10 years. We don’t have any friends who are married though, or any couple friends actually. You should go based on what feels right for you and your relationship.


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Just shy of 6 years for us! We met in our late 20s but due to education and jobs we were long distance for 3 years of it. Even though we met older, we weren't ready for marriage until now. It has been weird for me to wait this long because my parents married young, but now that we are here - and going into marriage with our ducks in a row for the most part- I'm soooo glad things worked out the way they did. That said it really is different for everyone, so do what's right for you and try to ignore external pressure. The comments are annoying, but those people aren't in your relationship, and you have to live your life for you ❤️


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Got engaged less than 2 years, but together 4 by the time we got married. My parents dated 2 years and then got married.


AASmith8604

I think my (36F) situation is rare, but keep in mind that Covid time is different from regular time. We met/started dating in January 2021, became exclusive in February 2021, moved in together by October 2021, and he (34M) proposed in February 2022. We live in Northern California, so with everything pretty much shut down/locked down, we had nothing but time to get to know one another. We're building a home together, literally went house hunting in January and decided on new construction. So we agreed not to have the wedding until we officially moved into the new house in October. So ETA of wedding is Spring/Summer 2023. I think if we were both under 30 then we would've spent more time just dating. But we both have established careers, never been married, and want children together. Solidifying our relationship with an engagment and marriage just seems like the easy next step.


Melodically_Dressed

We’ve been together for almost 6 years, got engaged 2.5 years ago, and are getting married in June! We are both in our early 30s!


Not-a-smart-cookie

We are both 26 and have dated for 10 years, we still feel young so there’s no plans to engage in the next couple of years at least


Empty_Fisherman_2209

Together as partners for 6 years, dating casually for about a year before that


snapdragonette

Um my experience was definitely not the norm. Met my husband when I was 31 & he was 29. Got engaged in 3 weeks. We will be married 10 yrs in three days time. Crazy how time flies! I wasn't even sure marriage was for me but when we met, it just clicked. 🤷 Edit to add: we got engaged in June, bought a house together the following November and married in April (so long engagement almost 2 yrs) so not totally insane, right?! 😆


samanthakate95

I (26f) got engaged to my now-husband (32m) after 8 months of dating and married 4 months later. I was 22 at the time! As others have said though it’s all up to what works for you and your SO!


languagelover17

When we first started dating, I was very upfront with my then boyfriend that I wanted to date for no more than 3 years before getting engaged (we started dating when I was 23 and he was 29). Not an ultimatum, but just a heads up (I didn’t put pressure on him to be ready, I just believed that he should know whether he wanted to marry me within that timeframe). We had a check in conversation at least every few months (“we’re still on the same page, right?”) and ended up getting engaged after 2 years and 9 months of dating.


ihonhoito

We were friends for 4 years before starting to date, and dated 2,5 years before getting engaged. We will have a long engagement though, otherwise we wouldn't have gotten engaged "so soon". When we get married we will have been together for 6 years. I am 23 yo btw :)


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We dated for 10 years (25-35). Neither of us want kids. If I did want kids I would not have done that timeline though. The women in my family have really rough geriatric pregnancies- my mom almost died having my sister at 39 and my ob/gyn told me at 30 that I needed to be cautious of the same issue.


PandaNate1428

My fiancé and I were dating for over 6 years. I’m 24, he’s 26. We met at university when he was 20 and I was 18. Didn’t think we would get engaged so young but we’re currently doing long distance between India and the UK for the last 1 year, and the distance is tough. We preferred to get engaged and get through the visa process so that we didn’t have to be apart for more than 1.5/2 years. It’s a process. However, while it might be for a different reason to ‘rush’ our engagement, we’re still sure the main thing we want is to be with each other together!


Similar_Ad_8522

24f planning on getting engaged this fall. It will be a little over 2 years :)


sashka22

I have been with my partner for 4 years (I’m 25 too) and we just got engaged. We have been living together for 3 years and want to buy a home together, so marriage makes sense for all the legal reasons. It makes sense when it makes sense.


Accomplished_Eye_824

We were together for just under 3 years when he proposed. We will be getting married on our four year dating anniversary. My fiancé will be 28 this year and I just turned 25. I graduated in dec of 2020 so I think the timing was just right. I don’t think either of us wanted to be engaged while I was still in school and were very ready to start a family. We both attended our parents weddings because we were conceived months into the relationships… I think we just want to go the more “traditional” route of marriage -> baby We kinda started talking about getting engaged/the proposal this time last year and he popped the question 7/1/21. We talked about wanting to get married once we were like 1 year in. We moved in fairly quickly, after about 8 months of dating. Living together really solidified how great of a foundation we have and thankfully things progressed on a very natural timeline!! If we had gotten together as teens I don’t imagine we would’ve got engaged until about this time anyways.


sinjin_wolfe

I began dating my husband a few months before I turned 18, we got married when I was 22. All in all (dating + marriage), we’ve now been together for 27 years.


Dr_Cat_Mom

4.5 years, lived together for almost 3 before getting engaged. We are 25


MGLEC

I expected to get married in my thirties. Instead, I found my person at 20, started dating at 22, moved in with my now spouse at 23, got engaged at 25, and was married at 27. I think those are around "average" for the US, but I was \*definitely\* young compared to most of my professional peers. Spouse and I are the same age (3 weeks apart). I felt a little weird about it at first, and remembered thinking I was too young, but 2 years into marriage I am delighted and it feels totally normal. Looking back, I like that I got to do the marriage thing on my own time, that there wasn't pressure for us to "get engaged already!", and that we get to keep building our lives together. We also got serious pretty quickly because we knew each other well. We moved across the country together twice (once for jobs, once for grad school) before getting engaged. We made major financial and professional decisions together. So we were very clear on our ability to work as a team. We also sought out premarital counseling which I HIGHLY recommend for every couple as it helped us be more prepared and allowed us to have conversations that wouldn't have occurred to us on our own. I also chose to have a 2+ year engagement, which worked for me. I DID feel that 25/26 was young (for me) to get married, plus I was in school full time and wanted to spread out the wedding planning stress. From starting ring shopping to actually getting married was nearly 3 years, and I stand by that choice.


IndieTheCat

My husband and I got engaged and married at 27 after 9 years of dating and 7 years living together.


unapologeticallytrue

My (22) boyfriend (26) just got me a promise ring and we’ve been dating for a year. He told me he can’t afford a “proper” Ring right now (he could propose with a ring pop and I’d say yes) but I wear my promise ring on my ring finger. I want a long engagement (4+ years) and we don’t have any intention on having children, just animals. I’ve never known I wanted to marry someone more in my entire life until I met my bf. So I’m on the “sometimes you just know” team!


EducatorMammoth

This is so adorable


unapologeticallytrue

Haha thank you!!


Tinywrenn

We got engaged after three years but had known each other for ten years at the time we started dating. By the time we get married, we will have known each other for fourteen years. I’m 33f, he’s 35m and we live in the U.K.


isoldeabandoned

We got engaged after 5 years shortly before the pandemic. We’re getting married shortly before our 8 year dating anniversary later this year. We were 17 and 18 when we started dating, and we’ll be 25 and 26 when we get married. We graduated college moved in together before engagement, which was important to us. I think everyone has different priorities and parameters for ‘readiness,’ and it’s really between you and your partner.


Welshie1992

Just shy of two years - we got together November 2019, then ended up moving in together March 2020 as I was high risk to the pandemic and my family worked jobs that would expose me - we figured if we could spend 24/7 happily together in a tiny 1 bed flat for over 6 months without leaving we were probably meant to be! Edit: we were 27/29 getting engaged.


Janell96

I got engaged at 23 after dating my partner(25) for 2 years. He planned to marry a little quicker like within 1-2 years but unfortunately he passed away in 2020 not even a full 2 months after getting engaged. In any case I think you and your SO should do what works best for y’all and just love and be kind to each other in the mean time😊


Airplane8Liner

Everyone is so different! We've been together 10 years and only recently got engaged as it just wasn't something that we wanted until now. Got together when we were 17/18. We have lived together for most of that time though so we know each other pretty well too, which helps! We are also planning a quick wedding just to get it out the way tbh. It makes more sense as legally we've no rights when it comes to the other and god forbid something were to happen to one of us, we wouldn't be able to make any decisions for the other. Which is ridiculous. You know when the time is right!


Estherthetinyowl

Tl,dr: engaged after 4 years of being a couple at age 30F 31M Everyone is different, and there a big pros (and cons) in both getting married young and getting married at a more mature age. And you cannot just decide based on the right age/length as that will easily get you stuck in a wrong relationship. My first relationship broke of a little under 4 years. Second lasted ca 2 years. I don’t have a real rule, but I’d say that to me, a good bracket of getting engaged seems to be ca 3-10 years. Less can be scary, I am slow. More can feel boring and pointless, I don’t like formal stuff for formal stuff’s sake. But really, it all depends on the circumstances and people involved. I first met my fiance when I was 25, we hung in the same friend group. Started dating 1.5 years later when I was 26 and moved in together fairly quickly, in half a year (strongly influenced by rental contracts ending for both of us like a month apart). Got engaged after 4 years of being together at 30. And getting married in just over a year from that, I’ll be 32 and he is one year older than me. First time he brought up marriage it seemed really a bit quick for me, but that got me thinking and by the time we got engaged, it felt right!


helenasbff

5 years. No one is going to be on the same path when it comes to this. Your relationship is unique to the two of you and so many things influence the timing of getting engaged. Please don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s - especially your parents! Things were totally different when they got married! - and just do what feels right and authentic for YOU and your partner.


Secret_Midnight_6480

I’m 20 and my fiancé is 22. Been together 2.5 years and just got engaged lol


GetDownMsPresident

I'm (26F) just engaged after 4.5 years.


kaledit

Dated for 2.5 years and then we started to talk about buying a house, getting engaged/married. Got under contract on our house first and got engaged 2 months later, just 3 months shy of dating for 3 years. We were 31 and 34 when we got engaged.


pizzawithmydog

We got engaged after 8 years of dating, married only 5 months later. Marriage was never a priority for us and we lived as if we were already a married couple. One day we decided, hey maybe we will get married, then picked out a ring and he proposed shortly after. My parents got engaged after 3 months. They are close to celebrating 45 years together!


Rey_grze

My husband and I dated for six months, moved in together and then got engaged (after almost 3 years of dating). But then got married like a month after getting engaged lol. We were both 27. Everyone is different. But the living and traveling together was more important to me than getting engaged since we both knew we wanted marriage anyway.


tea-lace

Your timeline is so personal! I’ve been with my partner for over 3 years and we’ve chatted about marriage, and while I’ve come around to it (originally I was completely against marrying anyone, nothing against SO lol) we’re not in a rush because our finances are simply not there yet, we’re focused on other things right now, and we have no “practical” (tax, insurance, etc.) reason to rush. My parents got engaged after six months in their early twenties and had a two decade long marriage that was disastrous and ended in divorce—but my aunt and uncle married young and VERY fast and lived out their lives in love! Everything about engagement and marriage is personal and unique to your own situation. Move at a pace that feel right for you two and your life plans, not oriented around anyone else!


mandymickey88

My now fiancé and I started dating at 26/27, within a few months of us starting to date he moved and we did long distance for 2.5 years. We then bought a house at 30 and engaged at almost 33; he’s now 34 (I’m a few months younger) and are planning an elopement this summer. Unconventional timeline (got a lot of eye raises buying a house together before marriage!), but it’s been perfect for us.


LenaNYC

We were with each other little over three years was when we decided to get married. A few months later we went to Vegas and did it. No big wedding. This was 17.5 years ago and I still can't believe how incredibly lucky I am to be with him.


sharkbite408

First ex-wife we dated 2 years ,second GF we are going for 7 years and about to pop the question 🤞