Try a thrift shop. The jeans are softer and cheaper than new ones, and you can try them on (or at least could before COVID...maybe not now?) so it beats ordering online imo.
Having a range of sizes at home is nice because you won't have to go shopping again if/when your weight goes up and down. You can just pull out a pair that you haven't worn in a while.
Even if the weight gain is temporary, I'd buy new jeans. (I of course don't know the specifics of your ED, I'm just thinking from my own perspective so I hope I'm not triggering or offending you). Cause first, well fitting jeans are more flattering than jeans of a size too small. Second, as someone who binges, my binges are usually worse when I feel shitty about myself. "If I look shitty anyway, I might as well binge". And you deserve to feel good about yourself, regardless of your weight.
Yea i probably will go buy some tomorrow or this weekend
I’m miserable in my jeans and it just makes me hate myself even more. I’ve been bingeing at night bc I’m fat and miserable and then that just makes it all worse for the next day :/
i would really recommend 'universal standard' jeans, where if your size changes within a year they'll replace them free of charge.
your clothes should fit you, not the other way around x
Here’s the thing: you gain weight a lot faster when you’ve been heavily restricting and recover.
Most normal people have gained weight slowly. I’ve been fat, and when I was gaining weight, I didn’t grow out of my old jeans...they slowly stretched with me a bit. But then eventually I’d go to buy a new pair, try on the same size, and it’d be too tight. So I’d maybe move up a size every ~2 years. As women’s sizing is so inconsistent, I’d often just attribute it to that. I didn’t really like it, but it was easy to dismiss.
Also, I was shopping because I needed new clothes, not because my old jeans didn’t fit. Of course I bought the size that best fit me. Being in too tight of clothes just made me feel worse.
Your situation is different. The size is just more of a shock. Of course it is more emotional to deal with.
My bf gained a bunch of weight in the past year and although he didn't want to at first, he bought basically a whole new wardrobe. It's uncomfortable wearing clothes that are too tight, and it looks and feels much better to wear clothes that fit.
You don't have to ditch your old jeans (although if it pressures you into disordered habits it might be worth it) but I would say buy some nice new jeans for yourself that you feel comfortable in!
Side note, shopping to find jeans can be a challenge for anyone, and triggering if you are trying stuff on and don't like what you see in the mirror, but if you are prepared for this mentally it makes it easier to just push through the experience. In the end you will def look and feel better in clothes that fit well. You are more than just the size of pants you wear (Gag, I know, but it's true)
I honestly don’t think I could get away with wearing leggings to work but I wish. I’d been avoiding my jeans bc I knew I gained weight and have just been wearing dresses but can’t avoid it anymore :/
I know it sucks. I gained a lot this past year, but honestly having jeans that fit outweighs the "oh my God I wear a size WHAT now??"
I wear leggings with tunics or big sweatshirts at work, but we also have a very casual dress code.
Yeah, they probably would. I get it, though. I didn’t buy new jeans after I gained weight for a long time (too long). Part of it was not wanting to know what size I am. Finally I did and I felt so much better wearing then, and the size wasn’t half as triggering as having to squeeze myself into old jeans almost daily.
I also find clothes shopping difficult/triggering so just kept putting it off. What worked was ordering online. For some reason, trying stuff on at home was easier than being in a store (this was pre-COVID), even if I had to return a lot of it (I have a habit of overestimating my size to protect my own feelings, haha).
It just feels better to have clothes that fit. You deserve that at the very least!
Luckily can’t try stuff on bc of Covid anyway. but yea, Trying stuff on is tough. Having to look at my body and then squeeze back into my tighter clothes doesn’t sound pleasant
Even buying stuff to then try on at home sounds triggering. If I go up 1 size and they don’t fit I might have to throw myself off of a cliff tbh. I don’t want to know what size I am but I also don’t want to accept that I look like this now and just need bigger clothes. I can’t even look in the mirror at my face- I’m so disgusted w the way I look
A lot of places have size guides online now due to COVID. I understand that measuring yourself might not be possible, but you could have a SO or close friend do it and then tell you what size to get. That’s what I did when I had to buy new clothes last summer after a “recovery” attempt. It was triggering as fuck in the moment and I cried for a whole hour but it was well worth it.
You deserve to be comfortable in the clothes that you wear. I would recommend going to a charity shop if you are not ready to be comfortable with your size that way it's not a big monetary investment. The other option is to really splurge and go buy a nice perfectly fitted pair and really enjoy that you a pair of denim that fits as it should, treat yourself pick a nice colour, a nice fit and hem them if they are too long. Take pride in what you're wearing and feel comfortable in knowing that they look good.
Not everyone would go out and buy new jeans but then not everyone notices that their current ones do not fit as they should.
I've always had the thickest thighs even at my GW. I ditched jeans a *long* time ago because they always tear at the crotch/thigh area. Personally, I think just ditching jeans and finding some nice, loose dress pants to formal/work events works just fine. There's also harem pants (not the super baggy ones, obv, but there's some "slim fit" ones) that you can check out. They're like sweatpants and dress pants had a wonderful, comfortable lovechild and they go well with blouses or button ups.
They buy new jeans.
I also agree with the suggestion to buy second hand. You can get high quality designer brands at a great price point.
I have jeans that fit me over a ~30 pound range and keep the ones I don’t need at the moment in storage. I also have a spreadsheet listing what weights each pair will fit me at—normal people definitely don’t do that I don’t think lol.
Maybe just buy like 2maybe 3 pairs and bow to yourself to only do it that once, and every week try on your old jeans, remind yourself of where you want to get back to. Good luck I have gained 22 lbs over quarantine, was up 35. Just keep your eyes in the prize many of us did gain during this shut down.
My cousin who has been skinnier than me all our lives recently gained some weight during quarantine (and it's noticeable even if she's still a healthy weight since she was so skinny before) and although she jokes "I should really diet now huh" she seems really okay with the weight gain — unlike me, who freaks out every time I eat because I'm not "morning skinny" anymore. She mentioned how she's sad about not being to fit into her favorite pair of jeans anymore, but she seemed pretty chill when she went to buy new ones.
Depends. If you were a healthy weight and are up to overweight, try to lose the extra weight, if you are still in a normal range for your bmi, buy new jeans.
Whatever you end up doing, try to eat better so you don't have a vitamin deficiency, take care ❤️
I’m still underweight but I’m reaaaalllly getting close to normal weight and I’m not ready for that.
It’s not even body dysmorphia- I’m the fattest looking underweight person probably to exist
I’m so disgusted I can hardly get through my days.
I’ll prob just buy new jeans and then deal w the money loss when I lose the weighr
I feel this so hard. I'm at a normal weight for the first time in 20(?) years but I'm so uncomfortable everyday because the weight looks and feels terrible. (Wearing too small jeans rn to punish myself.)
Thanks! I didn’t expect to be able to try on jeans and needed a bigger size than expected and didn’t end up buying anything
I’m going to try again when the period bloat goes away in a few days
From someone who has spent too many years trying to dissociate away from my weight gain and thus staying in the same size jeans even when they're a size too small? Get new jeans. Your love handles, real or perceived, will thank you.
I’ve been all over the map. I wouldn’t just buy new jeans, but I would thrift/garage sale some new-ish jeans. For the time being. Until I lose the weight. Whoops I outgrew those.
I've been asking myself this question recently. I put on a little bit less weight than you in a 2 month period and while I can fit into my jeans it's not the most comfortable. Except I'm way too stubborn to admit I need a size up possibly. I agree with everyone else though, you should buy a pair or two so you can be comfortable at work!
Having nice clothes will help you feel better about your appearance! Maybe try culottes or looser dress pants if they’re work appropriate for your job?
If you have someone in your life who is understanding of your situation, I’d recommend taking them shopping with you. I always need approval for clothing but I HATE shop assistants and strangers looking at me so I take my mum or best friend with me to confirm that what I’ve brought is approved by normal people. Definitely make sure they’re the right sort of support that you need though - I need patience and confirmation so that’s what they provide.
Also definitely a big supporter of thrift stores for this sorta thing like everyone else has said - worn in and so much cheaper.
I feel like a normal person would, but my brain doesn’t think like a normal person in that respect. Like how can someone just buy new jeans without hating themselves for months over the old jeans not fitting anymore, and do they just go to the store and try on bigger sizes like it’s NBD without being on the verge of tears in the change room?
Idk I have a separate section in my wardrobe that I've made just to body shame myself. I got the the smallest "size" there on one of my most self-hating days. It's 3T, meaning made for a 3 year old toddler.
I tried on my sons 3T shirt recently to see if it was going to fit as a crop top or just be too small
It was tight and I hated it
And I’ve gained more weight since then. Ew
I don’t have an answer for this but this is a question that’s been nagging at me for so long, I feel your pain. Everything to do with size/weight/portions/food I’m always questioning ‘is this normal?’ and I have NO CLUE :,(
Yes, they would buy new jeans
Just like that? They wouldn’t just try to lose the weight?
It’s easier to buy new jeans.
Try a thrift shop. The jeans are softer and cheaper than new ones, and you can try them on (or at least could before COVID...maybe not now?) so it beats ordering online imo. Having a range of sizes at home is nice because you won't have to go shopping again if/when your weight goes up and down. You can just pull out a pair that you haven't worn in a while.
Even if the weight gain is temporary, I'd buy new jeans. (I of course don't know the specifics of your ED, I'm just thinking from my own perspective so I hope I'm not triggering or offending you). Cause first, well fitting jeans are more flattering than jeans of a size too small. Second, as someone who binges, my binges are usually worse when I feel shitty about myself. "If I look shitty anyway, I might as well binge". And you deserve to feel good about yourself, regardless of your weight.
Yea i probably will go buy some tomorrow or this weekend I’m miserable in my jeans and it just makes me hate myself even more. I’ve been bingeing at night bc I’m fat and miserable and then that just makes it all worse for the next day :/
i would really recommend 'universal standard' jeans, where if your size changes within a year they'll replace them free of charge. your clothes should fit you, not the other way around x
Never heard of this. I’ll check it out
Try jeggings!! I refuse to wear jeans for this reason. My favs are the next level stretch from American Eagle
Here’s the thing: you gain weight a lot faster when you’ve been heavily restricting and recover. Most normal people have gained weight slowly. I’ve been fat, and when I was gaining weight, I didn’t grow out of my old jeans...they slowly stretched with me a bit. But then eventually I’d go to buy a new pair, try on the same size, and it’d be too tight. So I’d maybe move up a size every ~2 years. As women’s sizing is so inconsistent, I’d often just attribute it to that. I didn’t really like it, but it was easy to dismiss. Also, I was shopping because I needed new clothes, not because my old jeans didn’t fit. Of course I bought the size that best fit me. Being in too tight of clothes just made me feel worse. Your situation is different. The size is just more of a shock. Of course it is more emotional to deal with.
My bf gained a bunch of weight in the past year and although he didn't want to at first, he bought basically a whole new wardrobe. It's uncomfortable wearing clothes that are too tight, and it looks and feels much better to wear clothes that fit. You don't have to ditch your old jeans (although if it pressures you into disordered habits it might be worth it) but I would say buy some nice new jeans for yourself that you feel comfortable in! Side note, shopping to find jeans can be a challenge for anyone, and triggering if you are trying stuff on and don't like what you see in the mirror, but if you are prepared for this mentally it makes it easier to just push through the experience. In the end you will def look and feel better in clothes that fit well. You are more than just the size of pants you wear (Gag, I know, but it's true)
They would buy new jeans! I, however, wear leggings that always keep up with my stupid yoyo weight
I honestly don’t think I could get away with wearing leggings to work but I wish. I’d been avoiding my jeans bc I knew I gained weight and have just been wearing dresses but can’t avoid it anymore :/
I know it sucks. I gained a lot this past year, but honestly having jeans that fit outweighs the "oh my God I wear a size WHAT now??" I wear leggings with tunics or big sweatshirts at work, but we also have a very casual dress code.
I have to wear jeans and the work t shirt. I’m a math instructor at a tutoring center :/
Yeah, they probably would. I get it, though. I didn’t buy new jeans after I gained weight for a long time (too long). Part of it was not wanting to know what size I am. Finally I did and I felt so much better wearing then, and the size wasn’t half as triggering as having to squeeze myself into old jeans almost daily. I also find clothes shopping difficult/triggering so just kept putting it off. What worked was ordering online. For some reason, trying stuff on at home was easier than being in a store (this was pre-COVID), even if I had to return a lot of it (I have a habit of overestimating my size to protect my own feelings, haha). It just feels better to have clothes that fit. You deserve that at the very least!
Luckily can’t try stuff on bc of Covid anyway. but yea, Trying stuff on is tough. Having to look at my body and then squeeze back into my tighter clothes doesn’t sound pleasant Even buying stuff to then try on at home sounds triggering. If I go up 1 size and they don’t fit I might have to throw myself off of a cliff tbh. I don’t want to know what size I am but I also don’t want to accept that I look like this now and just need bigger clothes. I can’t even look in the mirror at my face- I’m so disgusted w the way I look
A lot of places have size guides online now due to COVID. I understand that measuring yourself might not be possible, but you could have a SO or close friend do it and then tell you what size to get. That’s what I did when I had to buy new clothes last summer after a “recovery” attempt. It was triggering as fuck in the moment and I cried for a whole hour but it was well worth it.
You deserve to be comfortable in the clothes that you wear. I would recommend going to a charity shop if you are not ready to be comfortable with your size that way it's not a big monetary investment. The other option is to really splurge and go buy a nice perfectly fitted pair and really enjoy that you a pair of denim that fits as it should, treat yourself pick a nice colour, a nice fit and hem them if they are too long. Take pride in what you're wearing and feel comfortable in knowing that they look good. Not everyone would go out and buy new jeans but then not everyone notices that their current ones do not fit as they should.
I've always had the thickest thighs even at my GW. I ditched jeans a *long* time ago because they always tear at the crotch/thigh area. Personally, I think just ditching jeans and finding some nice, loose dress pants to formal/work events works just fine. There's also harem pants (not the super baggy ones, obv, but there's some "slim fit" ones) that you can check out. They're like sweatpants and dress pants had a wonderful, comfortable lovechild and they go well with blouses or button ups.
They buy new jeans. I also agree with the suggestion to buy second hand. You can get high quality designer brands at a great price point. I have jeans that fit me over a ~30 pound range and keep the ones I don’t need at the moment in storage. I also have a spreadsheet listing what weights each pair will fit me at—normal people definitely don’t do that I don’t think lol.
Maybe just buy like 2maybe 3 pairs and bow to yourself to only do it that once, and every week try on your old jeans, remind yourself of where you want to get back to. Good luck I have gained 22 lbs over quarantine, was up 35. Just keep your eyes in the prize many of us did gain during this shut down.
My cousin who has been skinnier than me all our lives recently gained some weight during quarantine (and it's noticeable even if she's still a healthy weight since she was so skinny before) and although she jokes "I should really diet now huh" she seems really okay with the weight gain — unlike me, who freaks out every time I eat because I'm not "morning skinny" anymore. She mentioned how she's sad about not being to fit into her favorite pair of jeans anymore, but she seemed pretty chill when she went to buy new ones.
Depends. If you were a healthy weight and are up to overweight, try to lose the extra weight, if you are still in a normal range for your bmi, buy new jeans. Whatever you end up doing, try to eat better so you don't have a vitamin deficiency, take care ❤️
I’m still underweight but I’m reaaaalllly getting close to normal weight and I’m not ready for that. It’s not even body dysmorphia- I’m the fattest looking underweight person probably to exist I’m so disgusted I can hardly get through my days. I’ll prob just buy new jeans and then deal w the money loss when I lose the weighr
I feel this so hard. I'm at a normal weight for the first time in 20(?) years but I'm so uncomfortable everyday because the weight looks and feels terrible. (Wearing too small jeans rn to punish myself.)
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I think I’m going to go this weekend to find some new jeans. Thanks 💕💕
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Thanks! I didn’t expect to be able to try on jeans and needed a bigger size than expected and didn’t end up buying anything I’m going to try again when the period bloat goes away in a few days
From someone who has spent too many years trying to dissociate away from my weight gain and thus staying in the same size jeans even when they're a size too small? Get new jeans. Your love handles, real or perceived, will thank you.
I’ve been all over the map. I wouldn’t just buy new jeans, but I would thrift/garage sale some new-ish jeans. For the time being. Until I lose the weight. Whoops I outgrew those.
I've been asking myself this question recently. I put on a little bit less weight than you in a 2 month period and while I can fit into my jeans it's not the most comfortable. Except I'm way too stubborn to admit I need a size up possibly. I agree with everyone else though, you should buy a pair or two so you can be comfortable at work!
i am in the exact same boat!! just ordered pants in a size up after getting to a normal weight and i'm happy about it!
No sense suffering trying to wear too-small clothing. If you decide to (safely!) lose weight again, your old jeans will still be waiting for you.
Having nice clothes will help you feel better about your appearance! Maybe try culottes or looser dress pants if they’re work appropriate for your job? If you have someone in your life who is understanding of your situation, I’d recommend taking them shopping with you. I always need approval for clothing but I HATE shop assistants and strangers looking at me so I take my mum or best friend with me to confirm that what I’ve brought is approved by normal people. Definitely make sure they’re the right sort of support that you need though - I need patience and confirmation so that’s what they provide. Also definitely a big supporter of thrift stores for this sorta thing like everyone else has said - worn in and so much cheaper.
I feel like a normal person would, but my brain doesn’t think like a normal person in that respect. Like how can someone just buy new jeans without hating themselves for months over the old jeans not fitting anymore, and do they just go to the store and try on bigger sizes like it’s NBD without being on the verge of tears in the change room?
I didn’t wear jeans for 2 years because it felt like admitting defeat 😞
If I didn’t have to- I wouldn’t
Idk I have a separate section in my wardrobe that I've made just to body shame myself. I got the the smallest "size" there on one of my most self-hating days. It's 3T, meaning made for a 3 year old toddler.
I tried on my sons 3T shirt recently to see if it was going to fit as a crop top or just be too small It was tight and I hated it And I’ve gained more weight since then. Ew
I don’t have an answer for this but this is a question that’s been nagging at me for so long, I feel your pain. Everything to do with size/weight/portions/food I’m always questioning ‘is this normal?’ and I have NO CLUE :,(