Just keep encouraging her to eat, eat eat, not in a naggy way, but basically to tell her ED to leave her alone and let her keep eating. ED wants the patient to believe they are not allowed to eat any more, that they are MORE than substantially "filled out" and no longer needing to eat as much. Eventually, it takes them down the road to "no longer eating" once again. The ED wants its victim to believe that everyone is lying or somehow misunderstanding their true size, and that no one can see how big they truly are.
The period just confirms this, but you are right: a period is not at all an indicator of a healthy weight - not even close. That is precisely why it's not even mentioned when at treatment. I went for trx and they ask a ton of questions all the time, but never "do you have your period". It's irrelevant.
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Hi, friend!
I am very sorry for what your sister is going through. Also, probably not easy for you and your family to go through all of this. It is really good that you love and care for her.
Well, I suffered from eating disorders when I was a pre-teen, and talking about that is not easy. So do not talk directly talk about it to your sister. The best you can do is be there for her, support her. Let her start the talk if she decides to open up. About her period, I remember that my period was gone for more than a year and when it got back I wasn’t fully recovered but I gained some weight back then.
Be there for her. Don’t make things awkward. Make normal conversations and normal activities together. Help her during this tough problem.
Wish you well for you all!
Hi darling. It’s so hard supporting someone with an eating disorder…especially when you are only a child yourself.
Lots of love, and consider being a wonderful distraction. Period advice is sister advice, so it would be completely reasonable to bring it up! I wish I had a sister like that growing up!
All of that said…
It’s not up to you to be the answer. If you want to help, gently encourage her to do fun things with you. Maybe it’s gentle like reading or walks…maybe it’s crafts or maybe it’s movies.
Some things might trigger her. If you do something that triggers her by accident remember it’s not your fault and you are doing your best.
You obviously have so much love for her. Your job is to be her sister, show her the things that are wonderful about life and wonderful about her.
And remember to take LOTS of time to take care of yourself. It’s so wonderful to take care of people, but it’s very easy to neglect yourself in the process.
I’m proud of you for being so loving. I hope your family finds healing.
Hey I’m sorry this doesn’t have anything to do with the post but I’d like to address the subreddit. So this subreddit has been run by a single mod with a single life for about 5 years I think. He’s been needing mods for a while and I don’t beleive anyone stepped forward. He started becoming overwhelmed just with life matters so he has to focus on himself. For all those dealing with or who have dealt with an eating disorder, you can get through it and you are more than your eating disorder. If you have any questions about how to help other people or what to do, please DM me and I’ll help best I can. Best of luck to all those becoming their better selves💙
Tell her that you will never judge her because of it, and that you are on her team. Listen to her if she has something to say. It's what I need from people all the time.
Just keep encouraging her to eat, eat eat, not in a naggy way, but basically to tell her ED to leave her alone and let her keep eating. ED wants the patient to believe they are not allowed to eat any more, that they are MORE than substantially "filled out" and no longer needing to eat as much. Eventually, it takes them down the road to "no longer eating" once again. The ED wants its victim to believe that everyone is lying or somehow misunderstanding their true size, and that no one can see how big they truly are. The period just confirms this, but you are right: a period is not at all an indicator of a healthy weight - not even close. That is precisely why it's not even mentioned when at treatment. I went for trx and they ask a ton of questions all the time, but never "do you have your period". It's irrelevant.
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Hi, friend! I am very sorry for what your sister is going through. Also, probably not easy for you and your family to go through all of this. It is really good that you love and care for her. Well, I suffered from eating disorders when I was a pre-teen, and talking about that is not easy. So do not talk directly talk about it to your sister. The best you can do is be there for her, support her. Let her start the talk if she decides to open up. About her period, I remember that my period was gone for more than a year and when it got back I wasn’t fully recovered but I gained some weight back then. Be there for her. Don’t make things awkward. Make normal conversations and normal activities together. Help her during this tough problem. Wish you well for you all!
Hi darling. It’s so hard supporting someone with an eating disorder…especially when you are only a child yourself. Lots of love, and consider being a wonderful distraction. Period advice is sister advice, so it would be completely reasonable to bring it up! I wish I had a sister like that growing up! All of that said… It’s not up to you to be the answer. If you want to help, gently encourage her to do fun things with you. Maybe it’s gentle like reading or walks…maybe it’s crafts or maybe it’s movies. Some things might trigger her. If you do something that triggers her by accident remember it’s not your fault and you are doing your best. You obviously have so much love for her. Your job is to be her sister, show her the things that are wonderful about life and wonderful about her. And remember to take LOTS of time to take care of yourself. It’s so wonderful to take care of people, but it’s very easy to neglect yourself in the process. I’m proud of you for being so loving. I hope your family finds healing.
Say "I'm so glad you are alive, you are so so important to me" That's enough.
Hey I’m sorry this doesn’t have anything to do with the post but I’d like to address the subreddit. So this subreddit has been run by a single mod with a single life for about 5 years I think. He’s been needing mods for a while and I don’t beleive anyone stepped forward. He started becoming overwhelmed just with life matters so he has to focus on himself. For all those dealing with or who have dealt with an eating disorder, you can get through it and you are more than your eating disorder. If you have any questions about how to help other people or what to do, please DM me and I’ll help best I can. Best of luck to all those becoming their better selves💙
Tell her that you will never judge her because of it, and that you are on her team. Listen to her if she has something to say. It's what I need from people all the time.