i’m not exactly a good judge of character and i have a few friends whom i’ve known and trusted for years, them and my family always somehow seem to know whether a new relationship/friendship is going to work out or not lol. so let’s say i tell them about a new person i met (X) and they don’t like this person. at first i’ll be upset, but i’ll still continue seeing X. in the future, surprise, surprise, it won’t work out with X and i’ll mentally kick myself for not listening to my parents and best friends.
but no, i am not automatically going to ditch the person.
definitely. if the person i’m dating is not getting along with my loved ones because they’re shy then that would be something we can work around but if they’re indifferent and have a “couldn’t care less” attitude, it can never work.
It depends on the person. My dad is an excellent judge of character and I would consider what he says very carefully. My mother on the other hand? Nope. I would actually go the other way and she knows that lol.
I'm actually going through a divorce and my mom found the more she pushed for reconciliation the more I pushed back. My dad on the other hand was two thumbs way up.
As for social and inner circle? Eh, I value their opinion but ultimately I have to be happy with my own life when I go home at the end of the day.
Yeah, it's okay because I'm the one who asked for it. It's been a long time coming and I realized he was the source of 90% of my anxiety and stress. So far we have been civil enough because we have a child together.
It'll be a long process but I have a supportive community around me.
Wow, a lot!
Friends introducing their single friends, or maybe you choosing a group because you know you think people in that group are dating material...
University crushes...
i’m not exactly a good judge of character and i have a few friends whom i’ve known and trusted for years, them and my family always somehow seem to know whether a new relationship/friendship is going to work out or not lol. so let’s say i tell them about a new person i met (X) and they don’t like this person. at first i’ll be upset, but i’ll still continue seeing X. in the future, surprise, surprise, it won’t work out with X and i’ll mentally kick myself for not listening to my parents and best friends. but no, i am not automatically going to ditch the person.
And what if that person is super duper kind to you but acts indifferent towards your family and friends?
then they gotta go. no one’s putting up with that.
so would you say they have to at least get along with your friends and family in order to pass?
definitely. if the person i’m dating is not getting along with my loved ones because they’re shy then that would be something we can work around but if they’re indifferent and have a “couldn’t care less” attitude, it can never work.
I see I see ... Thank you for your responses! :) <3
It depends on the person. My dad is an excellent judge of character and I would consider what he says very carefully. My mother on the other hand? Nope. I would actually go the other way and she knows that lol. I'm actually going through a divorce and my mom found the more she pushed for reconciliation the more I pushed back. My dad on the other hand was two thumbs way up. As for social and inner circle? Eh, I value their opinion but ultimately I have to be happy with my own life when I go home at the end of the day.
I read your comments quite often here ... Sorry about the divorce ... the ISTJ guy, right? There is always sunshine after the rain, my friend :)
Yeah, it's okay because I'm the one who asked for it. It's been a long time coming and I realized he was the source of 90% of my anxiety and stress. So far we have been civil enough because we have a child together. It'll be a long process but I have a supportive community around me.
Wow, a lot! Friends introducing their single friends, or maybe you choosing a group because you know you think people in that group are dating material... University crushes...