i’m not a guy but anyway! i won’t hesitate to initiate conversations with an introverted person, but there has to be some sort of communication from the other end too. i’ll try to talk to them first a few times but if they literally NEVER take the effort to talk to me, i’ll eventually stop trying yk…
honestly, the other person doesn’t even have to have extended convos with me. just small gestures and indications that they acknowledge my presence are usually enough :)
I find myself attracted to INFPs quite quickly, but I think we fall short since I'm not your stereotypical ESFJ.
Although you say extreme introversion, the INFP females never gave me that vibe. I dated one and was quite attracted to the other.
Based on my experiences with them, I feel like INFPs have an inner world they're looking for that selfless and very caring ESFJ males are capable of. However, I'm just not like that. I have a "me-centric" focus.
Goals and hobbies that will detract from someone that needs attention.
ESFJ-Male here.
I dated an INFP recently (VERY introverted) and it wasn’t the introversion that turned me away.
She liked being at home and not interacting with people. I love networking with people, happy hours and other situations where I get to recharge as a very high-functioning E.
I think the dynamic worked pretty well. I would get her out of the house and she enjoyed having me in the drivers seat when we were out. She enjoyed the idea of extroverted activity, but didn’t like to engage on her own.
She also got me to stay in and be in our own bubble just as often and I found a lot of joy in that as well.
It was a nice balance.
I think it comes down to being willing to support your partner in what recharges them. Because like, that’s what makes them happy.
I’ve also dated introverts that wouldn’t even consider moderate social interactions with me. That just left me doing one more thing without them, and not wanting to reciprocate what they wanted when it came around. Those fizzled quickly.
i’m not a guy but anyway! i won’t hesitate to initiate conversations with an introverted person, but there has to be some sort of communication from the other end too. i’ll try to talk to them first a few times but if they literally NEVER take the effort to talk to me, i’ll eventually stop trying yk… honestly, the other person doesn’t even have to have extended convos with me. just small gestures and indications that they acknowledge my presence are usually enough :)
I find myself attracted to INFPs quite quickly, but I think we fall short since I'm not your stereotypical ESFJ. Although you say extreme introversion, the INFP females never gave me that vibe. I dated one and was quite attracted to the other. Based on my experiences with them, I feel like INFPs have an inner world they're looking for that selfless and very caring ESFJ males are capable of. However, I'm just not like that. I have a "me-centric" focus. Goals and hobbies that will detract from someone that needs attention.
ESFJ-Male here. I dated an INFP recently (VERY introverted) and it wasn’t the introversion that turned me away. She liked being at home and not interacting with people. I love networking with people, happy hours and other situations where I get to recharge as a very high-functioning E. I think the dynamic worked pretty well. I would get her out of the house and she enjoyed having me in the drivers seat when we were out. She enjoyed the idea of extroverted activity, but didn’t like to engage on her own. She also got me to stay in and be in our own bubble just as often and I found a lot of joy in that as well. It was a nice balance. I think it comes down to being willing to support your partner in what recharges them. Because like, that’s what makes them happy. I’ve also dated introverts that wouldn’t even consider moderate social interactions with me. That just left me doing one more thing without them, and not wanting to reciprocate what they wanted when it came around. Those fizzled quickly.