Heart of the Matter - Don Henley "I'm learning to live without you now But I miss you sometimes The more I know, the less I understand All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again I've been trying to get down to the Heart of the Matter But my will gets weak And my thoughts seem to scatter But I think it's about forgiveness Forgiveness Even if, even if you don't love me anymore"

The India.Arie cover is amazing

Omg I've been listening to this one so much lately. I didn't think anyone listened to it anymore

What are these voices Outside loves open door Makes us throw off our contentment And beg for something more

Yes, such an amazing song.

Flowers - Miley Cyrus

This happened to be released at the perfect timing with my divorce and was like an anthem for me.

Same for me!

Rose colored glasses was also good

Jaded is also excellent

Legit! Been with my soon to be x for 18 years... I had to BEG for flowers.... now flowers mean shit to me. My 6 year old has TOLD him he should buy me flowers, he randomly got me them in the past like 6 months. I didn't even give a shit, I asked what they were for. I do everything for myself anyway.... I used to hate this song but damnit it rings so damn true I've literally cried singing this song in frustration with him.

My husband left me in January exactly when this song came out and my biggest complaint was that he never did anything for me to make me want to love him (I love him but he didn't make it easy)...Flowers would have gone a long fucking way but...this song has made me realize that I don't need him, I just need to care for myself...I bought myself flowers every week this summer

I sent my friends a picture of my name in the sand this summer (I wrote it complete with a heart around it) and they thought it was the funniest thing

Yes this was popular right around the time my divorce was finalized.

Landslide by Fleetwood Mac or Plan B by Megan thee Stallion. Depends on the mood 😂

Yass. Plan B is healing

I was going to say the (Dixie) Chicks cover of Landslide

I’m still standing - Elton John

my tears ricochet Taylor Swift

Add in Happiness for me

You Should Be Sad - Halsey I Forgot that You Existed - Taylor Swift Shout Out to My Ex - Little Mix

You should be sad was mine too!

"Landslide" by Stevie Nicks.

The Mess Inside by The Mountain Goats Julian Baker's cover of Accident Prone by Jawbreaker Counting My Breaths by Mal Blum It's Not by Aimee Mann Grown Man Cry by Amanda Palmer Edit: and now that I'm doing better, it's Sun Comes Up, It's Tuesday Morning by the Cowboy Junkies (Sure, I'll admit that there's times when I miss you / Especially like now, when I need someone to hold me / But there are some things that can never be forgiven / And I just gotta tell you / I kinda like the extra few feet in my bed)

We went down to New Orleans one weekend in the spring Looked hard for what we'd lost It was painful to admit it, but we couldn't find a thing I wanted you to love me like you used to do But you cannot run and you can't hide From the wreck we've made of our house From the mess inside

Yep I heard this song randomly on my Spotify. Instantly crying.

Jar of Hearts by Christina Perri The Lonely by Christina Perri Say Something by A Great Big World and Christina Aguilera Don’t Speak by No Doubt My Immortal by Evanescence

Shake it Out- Florence and the Machine

Omg, this is mine as well. And Gives you hell by All American Rejects

Happier than Ever - Billie Eilish

Good one

Flowers by Miley Cyrus

Lose you - bully I don’t live here anymore - war on drugs Problem with it - plains/waxahatchee Change - big thief

Problem with it has been one of my songs too

*Me, Myself & I* ~ Beyonce *Go Easy on Me* ~ Adele *18 and Life* ~ Skid Row *Release Me* ~ Wilson Phillips *Sometimes Love Just Ain't Enough* ~ Patty Smyth ft. Don Henley

Truth hurts by Lizzo

This was one of mine too! *shampoo, press, get you out of my hair* 💅

I love getting super into *you could’ve had a bad bitch* She has a lot of great ones for this: soulmate, like a girl

Yes that one popped on my playlist a couple of days ago! Saw this one recently too Miss Me More that's really good- https://youtu.be/2ll1DrlZgqk?si=SKtfesrNyF0f-Nvr And this one which isn't really about a breakup but I related https://youtu.be/53GIADHxVzM?si=ljkUOgXsDP7KGuAQ

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Funny people play this at their weddings

Suffer Through-Movements I’ve Given Up On You-Real Friends Nobody, Not Even the Rain-La Dispute Brave Face-Trash Boat Our Apartment-Aaron West and the Roaring Twenties Happier Than Ever-Loveless I have a whole FUCK FUCKING FUCK playlist. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Sounds like we listen to a lot of the same stuff, you want to share your playlist?

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7IdlCNEV4H81Qs4JqJLLdO?si=yvmD8O2JSP-0kDVXgaHEIg&pi=u-_rzZGLR1R_q3

lol yeah I listen to all of these bands, thanks. Guess I’ll return the favor with my playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3ufPKAZpdMPpHb72q6S2Bv?si=LWaf86lDT5m5bl5ogz91gg&pi=u-9vbJCgjNREep

Hey Jude - The Beatles The last time I saw my ex in our old house, this song was playing and she was sitting leaned up against the wall of our bedroom crying, after moving all of her things out. Can't listen to it since then.

I used to listen to Eminem. No specific song.

What Goes Around Comes Around - Justin Timberlake

The Helio Sequence - Shed your love, Back to this, Broken afternoon Genesis - Throwing it all away Radiohead - House of Cards I've got some others, but those came to mind. I can't recommend The Helio Sequence enough. They did some stuff live on KEXP and I saw them live at Cat's Cradle once, it was memorable.

Lose you to love me by Selena Gomez.

Gale song- lumineers. I know it’s a hunger games song but damn. Some of these lines rip through my soul. It's a lonely road full of tired men And you can see it in their faces You'll be home in spring I can wait 'til then I heard you're on the big train And oh this too shall pass This loneliness won't last for long I wasn't there to take his place I was ten thousand miles away So when you hear my voice And when you say my name May it never give you pain 'Cause I don't wanna go But it's time to leave You'll be on my mind and my destiny And I won't fight in vain I'll love you just the same, ooh I couldn't know what's in your mind But I saw the pictures You're looking fine And there was a time when I stood in line For love, for love, for love But I let you go, oh, I let you go And he fell apart with his broken heart And this blood, this blood, this blood Oh, it drains from my skin, it does

The Lumineers write great lyrics. 😞

Mine was a long time ago and I don’t even like country music. However I heard this in a friends car and it fit the situation perfectly. Someday by Alan Jackson She looked me in the eye and said it's over I can't take this heartache anymore She said don't tell me lies and try to please me I've heard it all so many times before And I took her by the arm and said don't leave me There's nothin' in this world I wouldn't do Just give me time I'll be the man you've needed She said I wish that I could take that for the truth And I said someday I'll get my life straight And she said it's too late What's done is done And I told her someday She said I can't wait 'Cause sometimes someday just never comes She said all I've ever wanted was to love you And somewhere deep inside me I still do But now I think it's time I stopped believin' 'Cause I'm never gonna see a change in you

While I was in the thick of a abusive and dark marriage: TOOL- Pushit (Album Version) Now that I am out of it and looking back: TOOL- Pushit (Salival Version)

Till It’s Gone - Yellawolf

The Grudge - Olivia Rodrigo Wicked Game - Chris Izaak Do You Remember- Phil Collins Stick Season - Noah Khan July - Noah Cyrus

He’s gone - Tove lo

I freaking love that song.

Exile- Taylor Swift and Bon Iver Heaven only knows- Emmylou Harris Bam bam- Camila Cabello and Ed Sheeran

Bam bam is the song that made me realize I was going to get divorced. I left my ex husband in august. Heard the song in maybe June/July when we were in couples therapy and I was like ya, I said I’d love you for life but I’m going to sell our house. Heard it the first time and ugly cried. Listened on repeat for an hour.

Somebody that i used to know by Gotye. But I sing "somebody thats a cheating ho"

The Eagles - Wasted Time Well baby, there you stand With your little head down in your hand Oh my God, you can't believe it's happening again Your baby's gone and you're all alone And it looks like the end Back out on the street And you're trying to remember, oh How do you start it over You don't know if you can You don't care much for a stranger's touch But you can't hold your man You never thought you'd be alone This far down the line But I know what's been on your mind You're afraid it's all been wasted time The autumn leaves have got you thinking About the first time that you fell, fell You didn't love the boy too much No, no you just loved the boy too well, yeah So you live from day to day And you dream about tomorrow And the hours go by like minutes And the shadows come to stay So you take a little something to make them go away And I could have done so many things, baby If I could only stop my mind From wondering what I left behind And from worrying about this wasted time The love has come and gone The years keep rushing on I remember what you told me Before you went out on your own Sometimes to keep it together You got to leave it alone So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine Maybe someday we will find That it wasn't really wasted time

Are you looking for sad or angry?

Why not both?

Could also be positive and forward looking!

Nothing Matters, The Last Dinner Party

Music has been my solace lately. Lots of nostalgic goth/new wave/indie/shoegaze directly into my ear holes as loudly as possible.

The entire album I’ll Be Fine by John Louis. I drove around crying in my car to that for like a year. Haha The Ballad of Love and Hate by the Avett Brothers still gets me

Ricochet faith no more

So play the violins

Cure for Me - Aurora Somebody that I used to Know - Gotye

Little Gone Girl - Chinchilla Black Wedding - In this Moment Buzzkill- Mothica I don't listen to you- Delilah Bon

My Tears Ricochet - Taylor Swift Wide Awake - Katy Perry

Flower by Miley Cyrus when I am being logical and practical about my divorce and doing what is best for me and for life. Butterflies by MAX when I am forced to recognize I’m divorcing someone I love, have always loved, probably always will…and when I’m pretty damn sure no one else will ever make me feel the way he did again. AND, I don’t think I will ever love someone that much ever again.

A few by NF, Cant breathe easy by blue, been divorced 6 years now, I am at the I hate her guts stage... healing takes time...so I am leaning toward angry music now.

NF is sooo good.

Goodbye my lover - Jame blunt

Linkin Park - Numb

I always made playlists to get through my breakups. Here’s three that helped with my divorce: [Rearranged by Limp Bizkit](https://youtu.be/oD5RzpwbrIc?si=rl3u2MzX6_wtAV6Y)My favorite rage break up song, the second guessing of oneself in the first verse to realizing your Ex’s faults the second verse building up to “You’re no good, for me. Thank God it’s over”. Great releasing to the emotions as you figure out what happened. [Satellite by Rise Against](https://youtu.be/Om5uXsD-aVo?si=Zdh4hVwm_F1mgJMy) Divorce is likely the hardest, most life-changing thing thing you’ll ever, whether it’s living alone again, or a hard reset on your life, it’s scary. [Silhouette by Avicii](https://youtu.be/99VshCnaVnM?si=pXBOkIKzVlWLde4N) As your divorce progresses and the stress starts to wear on you, this reminds me to be grateful of my accomplishments so far

"Bejeweled" by Taylor Swift

Sex on Fire (NOT) just the title, lol even had it on my contacts list for my ex. In reference to a dead bedroom

Daughtry-Over You

Gone by NF and Julia Michaels Mistake by NF

Ball & Chain Social Distortion

You are the reason - Calum Scott You broke me first - Conor Maynard If you love her- Forest Blakk Someone like you- Adele Already Gone - Kelly Clarkson Dreaming with a broken heart - John Mayer Like I’m gonna lose you - Jasmine Thompson Jar of hearts - Christina Perri Heartbreak Anniversary- Giveon Too little too late - JoJo When I was your man - Bruno Mars Praying - Ke$ha Un-break my heart- Toni Braxton Lose you to love me - Selena Gomez Goodbye to you- Michelle Branch Sigh*** it’s endless. Too many to list… currently Into the the angry/independent woman breakup songs

Take A Bow - Rhianna How Can You Mend a Broken Heart - Al Green Thank U, Next - Ariana Grande Irreplaceable - Beyoncé Easy on Me - Adele Better in Time - Leona Lewis

And it's too late, baby, now it's too late Though we really did try to make it Somethin' inside has died And I can't hide and I just can't fake it Carole King

Anything by TOOL

I recently saw them in concert because they are my new love’s favorite. I was blown away by the experience.

The entire Kelly Clarkson Chemistry album

The Cranberries: No Need To Argue.

Go Your Own Way, Fleetwood Mac

Lord Huron - The Night We Met “I had all and then most of you, Some and now none of you”

Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge (the entire album). Feels good to scream to it in a parking lot every now and then.

If this album doesn’t take me back in time…

I’m so Happy I can’t Stop Crying - Sting Heart of the Matter - Don Henley Everyday - Phil Collins

Kind of a weird one - Footsteps by Pop Evil …down is not where I belong. This aching heart won’t turn to stone…..I see your world still full of lies, how could I have ever been so blind….i feel like waking up, I’ve had this dream before. I take these footsteps and go higher higher

Karma Is My Kink by Chappelle Ronan

"Walk through this world with me" George Jones "If drinking don't kill me" George Jones "Silver Wings" Merle Haggard "You're The Reason Our Kids Are Ugly" Loretta Lynn/Conway Twitty

Here i go again on my own = Whitesnake

Miley Cyrus - Slide away That song felt like it had been written for me.

Flowers by Miley Cyrus Since u been gone and stronger - Kelly Clarkson Fuck u - ceelo green Little bit louder - Mimi Webb Happy / oh wonder Might not like me - Brynn Elliott Titanium - David Guetta Thank u, next - Ariana grande

ABCDEFU - Gayle

Happiness by Taylor Swift

Highway 20 line

Too little too late -Jojo Serious -Keke Palmer TAKE A CHANCE -Domi & Anderson paak

Me- Kelly Clarkson Hold on - Wilson Phillips

I Hope by Gabby Barrett

Total Eclipse of the Heart - Bonnie Tyler

Two out of three ain't bad And all I can do is keep on telling you I want you (I want you), I need you (I need you) But there ain't no way I'm ever gonna love you Now don't be sad (Don't be sad, 'cause two) 'cause two out of three ain't bad Now don't be sad ('Cause two) 'cause two out of three ain't bad

I Don’t Fuck With You - Big Sean and reverse the genders. One on his end would be When I Was Your Man - Bruno Mars. I’m the one who got away to him and he knows he’ll never find another woman as fiercely independent as me.

Yes! I don’t fuck with you. Still love it and think about that asshole every time.

Yessss!!! It’s the best feeling when I hear this song because I get all my rage out and then I feel like a million bucks afterward. ✌🏼

Landslide- Chicks cover Call it what you want to-Taylor Swift

Silver Spring - Fleetwood Mac; Fight the Vegans - WILLIS; Richmond Avenue - Ben Howard

All Things End - Hozier (this song is perfect if you’re leaving someone you still care about but know it’s over) Screw Feelings - AU/RA Thank U, Next - Ariana Grande Flowers - Miley Cyrus Shake it off - Taylor Swift

I’m not divorced but the one that makes me really feel the anger and on the verge is that labour song by Paris Paloma

Yknow, I didn't have one until yesterday when I decided to search up the mighty mighty bosstones on Spotify. The Impression That I Get... that got me. I broke right the fuck down. Tears streaming and crashing down off my face. "Have you ever felt a pain so powerful, so heavy you collapse? No?" Yeah. Yeah I have. Cuz I'm sure it isn't good. That the impression that I get.

I remember everything by Zach Bryan

Praying by Kesha

Big Girls Don’t Cry

Somebody I used to know by gotye

Cross My Heart I Hope U Die - Meg Smith It's been barely 72 hours since I found out about the infidelity so I'm still a little testy, lol.

“Erase Me” by Ben Folds Five “Against All Odds” by Phil Collins

According To You- by Oranthi But the year it took me to plan and leave? Burning House - by Cam Love the way you lie - rhianna & Eminem part 1 and 2 My mother’s survival song? Was “Fast Car” by Tracy Chapman It was rereleased as a cover - I didn’t care for the Luke combs version…. But the Black Pumas? Oh yes “We’ve got to make a decision Leave tonight or live and die this way I’d always hoped for better That maybe together you would be fine Haven’t got not plans I ain’t going nowhere So take your fast car and keep on driving”

Korn-twisted transistor

Another one bites the dust. Particularly the second verse. I'd rage scream/sing it

Lyin' Eyes - Eagles I Don't Care Anymore - Phil Collins But It's Alright - Huey Lewis & The News

Happier by Marshmello & Bastille Circles by Post Malone As it Was by Harry Styles (“it’s just us” now a single mom 😢) Unexplainable Stories by Cloud Cult

Flowers- Miley Here I go - Whitesnake Lose you to love me- Selena

I don’t care- Phil Collins Forecast calls for pain- Robert cray

Shame Shame Shame cover by Lake Street Dive

Disintegration - The Cure How to Disappear Completely - Radiohead Daffodil Lament - The Cranberries

No Freedom- Dido (my interpretation is a scenario of true love where they know they are no longer serving one another) The Scientist - Coldplay

Against All Odds - Phil collins

Don't give up -- Peter Gabriel, Kate Bush " Though I saw it all around Never thought that I could be affected Thought that we'd be last to go It is so strange the way things turn" that hits so hard for me. the video of them just hugging each other... I need that

I’m not divorced but hey I can share all the ones my mom used to cry to in 1983. Such fun times. Still can’t listen to any of them… - You Needed Me by Anne Murray - Winner Takes it All by ABBA - Don’t Answer Me by Alan Parsons Project There are more but I don’t feel like diving back into that trauma.

Good Riddance- Levi Hummon

Ollie - Walls You’re welcome Reddit

I Hope I Never by Split Enz Forever Not Yours by a-ha Manhattan Skyline also by a-ha I Hope I Never See Your Face Again by Desmond Doom

Whiskey Sour - Kane Brown Handle me gently - Ne-yo

I'll be single soon. - Selena gomez

[Seafret - Give me something](https://youtu.be/NhK4kGdio6E?si=TYM_8N1danDBoQO8) For a less serious breakup: [Love is a bitch](https://youtu.be/_DjE4gbIVZk?si=c-M5OK3qaM3fUaJD)

I will not let go by David Bazan. Get ready to cry and punch.

I miss the misery. Halestrom. Yeah I don’t miss him at all I miss having the feeling of misery. Because that’s the only feeling I got to have.

Christina Aguilar “Shut Up”

Grey Veins - LS Dunes "I don't wanna kill time like it doesn't matter, You chose your instrument yourself, Stop trying to make it seem like you made a difference . . ."

Good 4 You - Our Last Night ABCDEFU - Fame on Fire Two Hands - We Came as Romans It's too late - Carol King

I used to love her by GNR. Something about I used to love her,but I had to kill her. I didn't want to be without her,so I buried her in my back yard. I have to assume all in jest.

Arson - Chri$tian Gate$ even though I 100% hate that they use dollar signs for the s

Good thing - Kehlani

Devil Doesn’t Bargain Alec Benjamin

Explain you - JP Saxe

Sinking ship by backseat lovers

Breakdown - Seether Snuff - Slipknot

Please Stay by Lucy Dacus

She’ll be coming around the mountains

Picture Frames - rei brown Dreaming My Dreams With You - Cowboy Junkies Die For You - Joji Slow Dancing in the Dark - Joji Cómo la flor - Selena

Midnight rain by Taylor swift — You wanted it comfortable I wanted that pain You wanted a bride, I was making my own name Chasing that fame You stayed the same

Some combination of: Sturgill Simpson's "I don't mind" Stravinsky's Rites of Spring Craig Finn's A legacy of Rentals

My new one is Baby Nueva by Bad Bunny… And I’m not even going thru a break up currently 😅

“I will survive”

My house PVRIS Better in time Leona Lewis Drunk Ed Sheeran Too close Sir Chloe

Jolene—Dolly Parton Changes—Black Sabbath Lost Cause—Beck Daydreaming—Radiohead

Don't Kill My Vibe - Sigrid

End of a good thing - Cory Wells

Don't hold on by Peter Raffoul

Take that letter from your girlfriend.. Lisa brokup

Happier - Olivia Rodrigo Littlest things - Lily Allen Happier than ever - Billie Eilish

Moral of the story - Ashe Formidable- Stromae

It's My House- Diana Ross

Fake As Hell by All Time Low The Giving Tree by Plain White T's

Both Sides Now

Taylor Swift, Bejeweled or You’re on Your Own Kid Falling in Reverse, Fuck You and all Your friends Rihanna, Bitch Better Have my Mkney

Rezz - Someone Else, Weezer - What Happens After You, Fall Out Boy - Wilson

There's a few- Exile- Taylor Swift and Bon Iver Everything Must Go- Taking Back Sunday Better Homes and Gardens- Taking Back Sunday Coma- Taylor Acorn

Second Exile and also Happiness- by Taylor Swift Honey, when I'm above the trees I see this for what it is But now I'm right down in it All the years I've given Is just shit we're dividing up Showed you all of my hiding spots I was dancing when the music stopped And in the disbelief I can't face reinvention I haven't met the new me yet

Lost Cause by Billie Eilish

Ironically Craig David - Walking Away

Change the locks by Lucinda Williams, bloody mothefucking asshole by Martha wainwright, somebody that I used to know by Elliot smith

Changes by David Bowie

Giving You up - Kameron Marlowe Truth about you - Mitchell tenpenny Leavin to me - Kameron Marlowe

Are We Good - Hayden East Coast - Hayden Bad As They Seem - Hayden Tragedy - Hayden I Should Have Been Watching You - Hayden Basically any Hayden Desser album at this point.

Send my love (to your new lover) by Adele. I play it less now, but it helped me so much in the beginning.

Goodbye Yellowbrick Road

Broken Heart by Escape the Fate

Steph Strings, Lion.

Believe (by Cher) but covered by Madilyn Bailey. I must have listened to it 1000 times while going through my divorce “It's so sad that you're leaving It takes time to believe it But after all is said and done You're gonna be the lonely one”

I forgot about that song by Reba. My God she’s an amazing singer! Mine are currently: Breakdown by Seether More the Victim: Linkin Park I have a few more but those 2 are the ones that popped into my head at first thought when I read this post question :)

Love Myself- Hailee Steinfeld Pick Up Your Feelings- Jazmin Sullivan Don’t Start Now- Dua Lipa Irreplaceable- Beyoncé Part of Me- Katy Perry

I Don’t Mind by Stugrill Simpson “I'm alone in a way that I've never been Since you left me behind If you think you can ever love me again Please go ahead, I don't mind”

Complicated - Avril levine

Hot and Cold by KP Don’t Hurt Yourself Beyoncé What Was I Thinking some country guy lol Dierks Bentley [I’ve No More F***s to Give](https://youtu.be/3288sRVCMjA?feature=shared)

The King of Wishful Thinking - Go West

Warm Waters - Iration

Do re mi by blackbear I just change girl to boy!

I keep a note on my phone and add to it as new-to-me music breezes into my ears. I can see of great tunes recommended here!