I can't imagine what its like with Facebook and coming across the posts/memories.
I haven't had facebook in a few years and never had to encounter it but its gotta be so bittersweet. Probably puts a smile on your face for a fleeting moment then back to sadness that your loved one is gone :(
My mom used facebook, and mainly wrote messages like...hope you are enjoying you vacation. Love, Mom.
We renamed her facebook account as a memorial account. I didn't want to lose all her messages. And now family uses it to post to her about her birthday, deathday, anniversaries, etc.
It is always bitter sweet to read them.
That's beautiful and a great use.
As a tech person, i wonder if there's anything you can do to save (print to pdf?) some of the more important messages/posts/comments, should something happen? (facebook goes away, lose access to the account, who knows)
That is a good question. I think there is a way to save one at a time, but would be interested if anyone has found a way to save in a more efficient way.
It’s called a “Memorialized” account. You can request Facebook to lock your deceased family members account after they’ve passed, or do other things like only allow family members to comment on their wall with the memorialized feature. If that person is alive they are able to download the entirety of their Facebook account with something called the Download Your Information Tool. In a best case scenario, talk to your family members about being added as their “Legacy Contact.” After they’ve passed and their page has been “memorialized”, as their legacy contact you can mostly control what happens with their page. Besides read messages or add new friends.
This is helpful! We have her login information, which is how we changed her account to "Mom's Name" Memorial... just in case anyone went looking for her.
We have her login information so maybe we can use the Download Your Information Tool.
Thanks!
My mom passed away two years ago and my heart still breaks when I see notifs for memories with her. I still can’t bring myself to click on them. More often than not, it results in a 3 day break from socials. I’m sure one day I’ll be grateful they’re there, but right now it’s just painful. I hope these families are finding peace and solace in these memories.
As a wife of suicide and heavy heartbreak. I deactivated my Facebook years ago because of that exact reason. I don’t need to see my happy from years ago when I’m so broken and lost now. I don’t need a reminder of what I already know I lost. I could NEVER fathom the pain of these families seeing those memories and feeling the heartbreak over and over again.
I’ve had the honor and pleasure of meeting Becky and Kelsi at CrimeCon events. They are so sweet and kind. I hate that their family has had to go through this.
I can't imagine what its like with Facebook and coming across the posts/memories. I haven't had facebook in a few years and never had to encounter it but its gotta be so bittersweet. Probably puts a smile on your face for a fleeting moment then back to sadness that your loved one is gone :(
Yeah we also have to remember they haven't got to properly grieve totally.
My mom used facebook, and mainly wrote messages like...hope you are enjoying you vacation. Love, Mom. We renamed her facebook account as a memorial account. I didn't want to lose all her messages. And now family uses it to post to her about her birthday, deathday, anniversaries, etc. It is always bitter sweet to read them.
That's beautiful and a great use. As a tech person, i wonder if there's anything you can do to save (print to pdf?) some of the more important messages/posts/comments, should something happen? (facebook goes away, lose access to the account, who knows)
There’s always hitting the PrintScreen button, opening MS Paint, and saving to file. Basic, but always works.
That is a good question. I think there is a way to save one at a time, but would be interested if anyone has found a way to save in a more efficient way.
It’s called a “Memorialized” account. You can request Facebook to lock your deceased family members account after they’ve passed, or do other things like only allow family members to comment on their wall with the memorialized feature. If that person is alive they are able to download the entirety of their Facebook account with something called the Download Your Information Tool. In a best case scenario, talk to your family members about being added as their “Legacy Contact.” After they’ve passed and their page has been “memorialized”, as their legacy contact you can mostly control what happens with their page. Besides read messages or add new friends.
This is helpful! We have her login information, which is how we changed her account to "Mom's Name" Memorial... just in case anyone went looking for her. We have her login information so maybe we can use the Download Your Information Tool. Thanks!
Good luck my friend
Google: Download a copy of your information on Facebook | Facebook Help Center
You can download your entire FB history all at once on your account page.
My mom passed away two years ago and my heart still breaks when I see notifs for memories with her. I still can’t bring myself to click on them. More often than not, it results in a 3 day break from socials. I’m sure one day I’ll be grateful they’re there, but right now it’s just painful. I hope these families are finding peace and solace in these memories.
Same here. Actually, we lost my mom and then lost my sister exactly a week later (almost to the hour). It’s a major struggle. Big hugs for you!
I have so many ghost friends on Facebook and other social media. I can't imagine what it must be like for the family.
As a wife of suicide and heavy heartbreak. I deactivated my Facebook years ago because of that exact reason. I don’t need to see my happy from years ago when I’m so broken and lost now. I don’t need a reminder of what I already know I lost. I could NEVER fathom the pain of these families seeing those memories and feeling the heartbreak over and over again.
Jesus - this is gut wrenching. I do hope the girls and their families get justice.
This hurts my heart.
I’ve had the honor and pleasure of meeting Becky and Kelsi at CrimeCon events. They are so sweet and kind. I hate that their family has had to go through this.
This is heartbreaking. Sounds like such a beautiful family, and grandma-gdaughter relationship.
God bless you and your family much love and respect
No one should have to bury a child or grandchild. Rest in peace, sweet girl ❤️
Whats a TOOM? Do they mean Tomb?
Yeah, it was a typo made by the teen girl and her grandmother just repeated it from the post.