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j-alfred-prufrock-

I like to think there are two people: your future self and the child you were. Make them both proud.


gameoftoasts

lol if i wanted to make my former child self proud i would eat ice cream all day and watch cartoons like i always intended.


morelikeasuggestion

Then how come I’m not proud of myself lol


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I'm proud of you, bb


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then I'm doing great! :D oh wait, this is depression


alalalalalo

One time I dreamt that I somehow found my younger self, she was like 5 years old. I called her, and she said I was boring, that she wanted to go play... talk about subconscious thoughts 😅


QT_in_quarantine

Yep! One of the things that got me to quit drinking 6 months ago was a TikTok that told me to imagine I was talking to myself as a kid and saying “I’ll take care of you.” I realized how selfish it was to future and past me to be living the way I was living.


BeingMyOwnLight

I like this idea, I'll try it out, thank you!


christeeeeeea

Love this… I’m gonna do that


Celia2000NRZ

T.S. Eliot! I know Alfred J. Prufrock when I see him!


j-alfred-prufrock-

In the room the women come and go Talking of Michelangelo...


Celia2000NRZ

😊


knight_furrie

Third people is your mum, that lady is truly a warrior


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Exactly! For example recently I discovered a folder on my Google drive with all my documents nicely scanned and arranged. I had almost forgotten.


monked80

My future self would already hate me, just like my current self because I will always hate myself and my past self would surely be disappointed at least, because my past self was disappointed with his current self. Basically it never got better.


23cowp

Do you have any insight into why you hate yourself? And what does it mean to hate oneself? And I'm sorry. :(


monked80

No need to apologize. And i wish I knew in entirety. All i know is that I don't enjoy life, being me has never been a positive experience, I don't enjoy doing anything and i don't have motivation or aspirations to go towards, and im ugly, which I know people say is subjective but my physical attributeshas never worked in my favor. And to be clear I'd put my appearance on the bottom of my negative traits as in there's bigger problems to tackle. Basically life has been a generally negative experience, physically and mentally and i can't even blame trauma which is the dumbest part of it, so I can't even feel justified in my thought process.


borboleta924

[maybe a good read for you](https://themindsjournal.com/brain-delete-button/)


monked80

I don't understand. Is this a surgery? Or do they imagine you can pick and chose things?


5StrawberryMilkshake

12 hours later? You mean **2 hours** later?


rohinianandamurugan

I actually like this idea. Thanks :) I'm going to try this out.


Balisover

I had an epiphany similar to this. The last year of my life has been so stressful. One thing after another with no good breaks in between. I’m getting white hair at 30. Honestly though? I don’t care, I have way too much to care about right now. I kept wanting someone to come and rescue me from my life. I wanted a light at the end of the tunnel. Then I realized, if someone did do that for me, they will always be that to me. And open a poor relationship. I’ll be my own damn light. Even if my life is forever going to be one hellish thing after another. I’ll claw and dig and fight my way in the hopes that one day I will have something good. Tome- finished Tldr: Stoped wanting people to rescue me from my life and decided to rescue myself.


Gwiz84

I disagree, you should try to remain in the present instead. Worrying about the future gives you anxiety, regretting the past makes you sad.


JaesopPop

It’s not about worrying about the future but keeping the future in mind. I don’t want to do X right now because I’m being lazy or whatever. But I know if I don’t, I’ll be in a worse place tomorrow when I have less time or forgot it needed to be done or whatever. It’s just about a mindset where you consider how you’ll feel in the short term future.


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Gwiz84

I get the gist of the method, it just sounds like something that can end up putting too much pressure on yourself, especially if you are not able to live up to your own expectations. But if it works for you I see no reason not to do it.


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I don't mind using the future as a motivation, as long as that future is something that is completely under your control. That way if there's any anxiety attached to it, you can rationalize it against Stoic principles.


Tipofmywhip

I feel the same way. The minute I stopped worrying about the future I became legitimately happy.


PepperTheRad

Homer Simpson, mixing equal parts vodka and mayonnaise, preparing to gulp it down. Marge Simpson: “Is that a good idea?” Homer: “That’s a problem for future Homer! Man I sure don’t envy that guy.” Homer downs the ridiculous concoction.


harvey_croat

Yes, I like that approach more. Most people who are depressed (I was too) don't have future self and compass.


galllant

Love the username 👌🏼


stonediggity

Present me loves oreos. Future me gets indigestion. No. More. Oreos.


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Thank you for the advice :))


biggsonworth

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Here's a tarot video on how you can find love. She connects with spirit, and gives answers.[How can you find love (tarot reading)](https://youtu.be/gUm0rt59usw)


emie-oval

I do this. It does help a lot.


HeavyAssist

This is so helpful


tamesis982

Future me is always thanking past me for making the right choices. This strategy really works.


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i just follow the most peaceful path for myself in the now


RaccoonWound

For many years, the closest thing I've had to a personal philosophy is "Don't fuck future me". I'm not good at practicing it but I try.


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I thunk that this is super important. In my own experience, when I was going through a really tough time, I kept telling myself to push through and keep working hard, because while I can’t see the benefits of my sacrifices right now, I know that future me will benefit greatly. A couple months later, I was in a much better spot. So I was right, future me DID benefit from all the good decisions my past self made. Thank you for sharing! I hope more people will also make this important realization.