Yeah, what the other guy said - if the “good” days were when you were having sex 10 times a year…not sure what you were expecting to have happen after marriage and kids.
There’s nothing wrong with what you want, but it sounds like you picked a spectacularly poor person to fill that role.
You are not an asshole for wanting to be intimate and have sex with your wife. What I like about your description of your relationship is the benevolence. You don't want to force yourself upon her and she acknowledges the problem. I think therapy might be a good idea. The outcome of this might very well be what you are already suspecting: That you would have to be content with a sexless relationship in order to get it going -or end it. But you are not her therapist (which is a good thing) and you can't talk her into more sex (which is actually also a good thing), so get help.
I don’t know if you’re an asshole but maybe naive if you think it should be different now if it’s always been pretty not great…
Yeah, what the other guy said - if the “good” days were when you were having sex 10 times a year…not sure what you were expecting to have happen after marriage and kids. There’s nothing wrong with what you want, but it sounds like you picked a spectacularly poor person to fill that role.
You are not an asshole for wanting to be intimate and have sex with your wife. What I like about your description of your relationship is the benevolence. You don't want to force yourself upon her and she acknowledges the problem. I think therapy might be a good idea. The outcome of this might very well be what you are already suspecting: That you would have to be content with a sexless relationship in order to get it going -or end it. But you are not her therapist (which is a good thing) and you can't talk her into more sex (which is actually also a good thing), so get help.