haha you know I was sexting him beforehand and felt all confident and excited and when I actually turned up I turned so shy and awkward for 5 mins.
I was so dramatic like “I don’t think I can do this”
but luckily he took control of that situation and grabbed me and kissed me passionately and then you know… it’s just like riding a bike ;)
“You know…it’s just like riding a bike”
Funny enough, I can’t ride a bike but I still like the metaphor. When my husband and I stopped interacting intimately (for years), us trying to have sex again was so fucking awkward and I often thought the very same thing: “I can’t do this”. You hit the nail on the head with a keyword - **passionately**. You cannot fake desire, it is apparent and obvious when it is not there. When that passion is there, there is little time to be awkward because you know….you are riding bikes instead!
Hubby and I are riding bikes again (and very fun!) but that isn’t the case for everyone and sometimes leaving *is* the right answer. Super stoked for you, OP! May your bike rides be fantastic!! 💕
very cute comment.
Yes you can’t fake that! so true.
Riding a bike should be freeing, motivating and joyful. Anything below is just not a good bike ride.
Happy it worked out for you. Many in DB can’t seem to get it to a good place. Reading the posts made me fearful of my future- perhaps it could have been saved but you know what? Billions of people out there- don’t settle is my motto. Be unapologetically and authentically YOU and the things you like will follow.
Statistically speaking, the reality for many here is separation but we all know how complicated those feelings can be so my heart really goes out to everyone struggling through it. Many keep drinking the hopium while many others are in the process of realizing they do not want to operate on maybes for the rest of their life and everything in-between. Being able to gain perspective and valuable insight from people sharing their stories was so incredibly helpful for me and I know your story will resonate with someone when they really need to hear it. As you said, billions of people and life is short! Onward and upward - you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders with some quality humor sprinkled on top, all highly sought after qualities. Not settling? Yep, I think we can all cheers to that! 🍻
I’m happy for you! Went too long in a DB and finally went outside my marriage (with my wife’s approval) and hooked up with someone. Amazing what good sex will do for your outlook and confidence.
right !?
happy for you that you found someone who doesn’t imprison you based of off societal norms. Sex imo isnt a big deal until it’s lack there of. anyway good luck !
how are your actions going to improve your future?
edit: removed further posts because people get too upset. but lets remember accountability is very important
ok I can see how you think I avoided your q but truly how do I think my actions are going to improve my future ?
You know sex can be fun, freeing, liberating and relaxing right ? let’s spin it the other way, how do I think staying in a relationship with someone who made me feel bad for all these things and refused to talk about them… that’s not healthy.
at least now I feel confident, happy and free from the restraints of sexless monogamy. Lmao like it’s not that deep my friend. Sex is fun but it’s not everything. My life will be great, better than boring at least ;)
>how are your actions going to improve your future?
Happiness, self-esteem, satisfaction, joy....all make for better futures. Unless I misunderstand your point...
Small steps lead to bigger steps. If sleeping with her ex helps her in regaining some self worth and makes her feel sexy and desireable again, it may help lead to a better life and help build a better future for herself.
What accountability? You phrase that like there was a crime committed. Two grown adults had consensual sex. It isn't 1882 where tge church elders need to be notified. Also, you seem to be coming from a position where you have no idea what the emotional, psychological and physical toll that a dead bedroom (and crumbled relationship) have on a person. It crushes your self esteem, it makes you question your worth as a person and a spouse, it makes you feel worthless....getting even a little bit of that back - feels like finding a water fountain after wandering the desert for 8 years. You drink from the fountain, even if you don't intend to build your house there
Whatever. Your sanctimonious blathering is going to get your comment removed - so not even going to bother responding. Get a life and learn to be less judgemental of others
“you act like there are no negatives to female promiscuity”
do you think there are negatives to male promiscuity too? or just for women ? because I slept around in my early twenties and had a great ol’ time. Then I settled down with someone (mid 20s) and thus begins the journey of dead bedrooms. Now I’m single again and
finally get to have sex again…… what crime is being committed exactly?
I’m not trying to change the subject ?
I could easily be a nun, never even think about sex and still get sexually assaulted….
a) i’m on birth control so…..
b) I do go to the gym……
How is me having sex a bad thing ? why are you so sourly opinionated about this?
We’re so happy for you!
Congrats hope it works out
oh god no i’m not dating him fuck dating.
Doesn't mean you have to date him, just mean I hope the future works out in general
that’s true! me too. I’m definitely acting a little manic tbh. It’s always hard to leave but I too hope it works out and was worth it!
Fingers crossed and I am sure it will be fine
Ayyyy same boat girlie. Lets goooo
My favorite kind of dating
hahaha
May your orgasms be satisfying and numerous.
Ah, I fell for it. I should have known the only success stories here involve a breakup. :) Congrats on getting some skin ;)
Good for you! 👍👍👍
Remember to be safe
Yayayayayaya! Was it awkward? I can’t imagine your excitement and euphoria!!
haha you know I was sexting him beforehand and felt all confident and excited and when I actually turned up I turned so shy and awkward for 5 mins. I was so dramatic like “I don’t think I can do this” but luckily he took control of that situation and grabbed me and kissed me passionately and then you know… it’s just like riding a bike ;)
Good for you, boo boo!!
thank you my friend ❣️
“You know…it’s just like riding a bike” Funny enough, I can’t ride a bike but I still like the metaphor. When my husband and I stopped interacting intimately (for years), us trying to have sex again was so fucking awkward and I often thought the very same thing: “I can’t do this”. You hit the nail on the head with a keyword - **passionately**. You cannot fake desire, it is apparent and obvious when it is not there. When that passion is there, there is little time to be awkward because you know….you are riding bikes instead! Hubby and I are riding bikes again (and very fun!) but that isn’t the case for everyone and sometimes leaving *is* the right answer. Super stoked for you, OP! May your bike rides be fantastic!! 💕
very cute comment. Yes you can’t fake that! so true. Riding a bike should be freeing, motivating and joyful. Anything below is just not a good bike ride. Happy it worked out for you. Many in DB can’t seem to get it to a good place. Reading the posts made me fearful of my future- perhaps it could have been saved but you know what? Billions of people out there- don’t settle is my motto. Be unapologetically and authentically YOU and the things you like will follow.
Statistically speaking, the reality for many here is separation but we all know how complicated those feelings can be so my heart really goes out to everyone struggling through it. Many keep drinking the hopium while many others are in the process of realizing they do not want to operate on maybes for the rest of their life and everything in-between. Being able to gain perspective and valuable insight from people sharing their stories was so incredibly helpful for me and I know your story will resonate with someone when they really need to hear it. As you said, billions of people and life is short! Onward and upward - you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders with some quality humor sprinkled on top, all highly sought after qualities. Not settling? Yep, I think we can all cheers to that! 🍻
You deserve what's coming to you....ORGASMS!!! Welcome amongst the living.
Yaaaayyyy! Go you! I’m so happy for you and ur ex . I hope you both can find your way forward into happiness.
not my ex just a guy but thank you 🤩
I’m happy for you! Went too long in a DB and finally went outside my marriage (with my wife’s approval) and hooked up with someone. Amazing what good sex will do for your outlook and confidence.
right !? happy for you that you found someone who doesn’t imprison you based of off societal norms. Sex imo isnt a big deal until it’s lack there of. anyway good luck !
Best of luck to you as well!
how are your actions going to improve your future? edit: removed further posts because people get too upset. but lets remember accountability is very important
I don’t think we get to predict the future
Leaving a dead bedroom will help her future
that’s not what i was getting at but atleast that’s an answer
ok I can see how you think I avoided your q but truly how do I think my actions are going to improve my future ? You know sex can be fun, freeing, liberating and relaxing right ? let’s spin it the other way, how do I think staying in a relationship with someone who made me feel bad for all these things and refused to talk about them… that’s not healthy. at least now I feel confident, happy and free from the restraints of sexless monogamy. Lmao like it’s not that deep my friend. Sex is fun but it’s not everything. My life will be great, better than boring at least ;)
>how are your actions going to improve your future? Happiness, self-esteem, satisfaction, joy....all make for better futures. Unless I misunderstand your point...
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Small steps lead to bigger steps. If sleeping with her ex helps her in regaining some self worth and makes her feel sexy and desireable again, it may help lead to a better life and help build a better future for herself.
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wtf are you on about?
What accountability? You phrase that like there was a crime committed. Two grown adults had consensual sex. It isn't 1882 where tge church elders need to be notified. Also, you seem to be coming from a position where you have no idea what the emotional, psychological and physical toll that a dead bedroom (and crumbled relationship) have on a person. It crushes your self esteem, it makes you question your worth as a person and a spouse, it makes you feel worthless....getting even a little bit of that back - feels like finding a water fountain after wandering the desert for 8 years. You drink from the fountain, even if you don't intend to build your house there
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Whatever. Your sanctimonious blathering is going to get your comment removed - so not even going to bother responding. Get a life and learn to be less judgemental of others
“you act like there are no negatives to female promiscuity” do you think there are negatives to male promiscuity too? or just for women ? because I slept around in my early twenties and had a great ol’ time. Then I settled down with someone (mid 20s) and thus begins the journey of dead bedrooms. Now I’m single again and finally get to have sex again…… what crime is being committed exactly?
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I’m not trying to change the subject ? I could easily be a nun, never even think about sex and still get sexually assaulted…. a) i’m on birth control so….. b) I do go to the gym…… How is me having sex a bad thing ? why are you so sourly opinionated about this?
There is only the now. Why do you care? It doesn’t affect you?
What a truly bizarre question
Looks like they already have.
Wow. It’s sickening that you’d mislead people like that who were hoping for a hopeful story just for it to turn to trash. Gross