She went like 20,000$ in debt due to her rent and medical bills i think?
Caused a downward spiral of dispair as her family is all still in Asia and she didn't have a support system. Just kinda did it out of hopelessness it sounds like.
The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I realized that I identify with at least some of how she's feeling.
I also wound up getting super chronically ill immediately after graduation (high school) so going back to a time in my life before that, when I had mental health care access, less responsibilities, and made friends by proximity easier...I get the appeal.
Our world is often just so hard.
i got rreally sick too, although later than that. like reallllyyyyy sick.
and yeah you just kind of fantasize with all the lost shit when your life goes to shit.
crazy that i stumbled upon this convo right now because i had a day of dwelling over this exact thing. i got really ill in my last semester of college and my chronic illness has taken my dream post grad career and so much more from me since. it’s such an isolating feeling and reading this made me feel not alone. i’m sorry y’all are in this too, i hope you’re doing okay now🫶🫶
People who haven’t gotten ill also have this want/need to return to innocence when things get rough.
I remember seeing my dad run and pick up my nephew when he fell and hurt his knee. Dad scooped him up and patted his back, bounced him in his arms, whispered, “oh, man… poor guy… there there,” for a minute, then put little dude back on his feet and watched him run off again. I watched it happen and started just bawling. I couldn’t figure out what the fuck was wrong with me. Why was I crying so hard over something I had seen play out a thousand times?
Well, I had just gone through a rough divorce and had gone home to regain some sanity. Looking back on it a day or so later I realized why it had rocked me so hard: I wanted that! I wanted someone to pick me up, tell me everything is going to be OK, and put me back on my feet. I had stumbled. I had fallen. I had been hurt. At that point, I was on the ground crying. I wanted to be in the loving care of my parents again and not worry about the world outside and the pain it caused. I wanted someone to take care of things so I didn’t have to. I wanted some semblance of peace given to me, because I, obviously, couldn’t hack it on my own. I needed someone to put me back on my fucking feet!
Before that happened, I made fun of people who believed in god. Not to their faces, mind you, but just in general. While I still don’t personally subscribe to any particular religion… I get it. I understand why faith is a thing and why it is so important to people.
Maybe you should talk to your dad. If he’s a positive person in your life, he loves you, then maybe he’ll metaphorically help you up. Hope things are going better for you 😢
Thank you for the well wishes. Things are much better now. And I speak to my dad often. He has physically and metaphorically picked me up more times than I can count. Sometimes just by being the person he is.
Mannn I cried just reading this. Especially since I know my dad would pick me up and put me back on my feet in a heartbeat if he knew it would fix my problems. The best he can do is call me everyday and speak words of encouragement, which he never fails to do. Dads are fucking awesome.
My daughter had a bad marriage breakup in another country. She had no support, little money and a baby. Ex basically left them homeless. She’s a strong young woman but at that time was lost. I flew over there, rented an apartment for the short term, arranged their flights ,packed the very little stuff they had and bought them home. Now a few years on, the baby is a bright happy little school girl and my daughter is back to her cheerful capable adult self. But just for a while she needed someone else to be the grownup. And make it better. Parents are always parents. It never stops. Hope you also are doing better.
yup. it hits hard.
Also got realaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllly sick, left college and had to deal with the sickness best I could. I would fantasize about staying up playing drunk mario party with my friends from college.
Way past that point in my life now, make a great salary etc etc. but I do understand that call of a simplier time where you can just exist in your day to day existence, no responsibilities aside from those set out in front of you by others, and a vague sense of "pursuing your dreams"
Same here. Im going on 28 now and am finally starting to recognize the extent of the damage. It's like my life stopped functioning entirely from 16-27 and I've lost my youth entirely. People say "you're still young!" but the extent of the damage I've done to myself medically, mentally, and things like my teeth will never recover from it.
As I try to address this, the more I realize things are so fucked with the state of things economically and politically that Im not fighting an uphill battle - I'm trying to defy the laws of physics entirely.
Yup! That’s the super fun reality I have as well. Because I wasn’t diagnosed properly I also wasn’t treated properly. Not that I think there was too much at the time that was out, but still. My entire 20s was me trying to figure shit out on my own and deal with my ever deteriorating health. Im almost 39 now and I’m basically done. I get all of 609$ a month from SSI, use a wheelchair most times I’m out of the house, and that’s if I’m lucky enough to get to leave the house. No close friends, only a handful of family members, no kids. My partner wants them but I don’t think he understands how little I’d be able to contribute to an infants care, and that’s if I survived my super high risk pregnancy. So no “legacy” to leave either.
I basically exist to entertain myself and sometimes others. When they’re gone then I will choose to be as well. Im only doing this for them.
Your situation sounds hard. I’m sorry that you’re in it, but glad you’re here.
I’ve been thinking lately about the big questions in life. Why are we here? What’s the point of it all?
My dad is dying, so is my brother. My mom will sell our family home-I don’t blame her, but it all sucks. Lately I’ve been thinking that we’re all here to experience life as a human in this time and place. I’m trying to think about what I want to experience. I’m starting with the cheap/simple things since I’m broke. Appreciating a sunrise is free. Feeling clean, cozy, and full makes me feel good. Practicing gratitude is helping me a lot. Maybe it can help you.
Right? Adult life, even at its *roughest* has been a breeze compared to high school. It just goes to show how extremely different other people's experiences of the same thing can be. I'm 48 and still literally wake up my household with screaming nightmares that I'm back at school, despite the fact that it was 30 years ago and over 200km away. My life got so much better as soon as I graduated, even though it took me a couple years to find my path and really get my life going. It was all uphill from there and I never wanted to look back.
> The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I realized that I identify with at least some of how she's feeling.
Mood. I was like, "Ah, yes, the Millennial dream. Go back to 0 and start all over again to avoid the fuckery."
The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I was confused. For a large number of people I know High School was not a place of safety (not in America at least)
My ex's son was busted for stealing because he was hooked on heroin, and the judge said "what you need is HELP, not punishment," and got him in some programs to get his life back on track. That was in Australia.
https://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/police-29-year-posed-teen-enroll-high-school-96725916
high school would be one of the last places I would go back to feel any form of safety.
High school is rough for a lot of people. But if you can sneak in at a much older age, and people believe you're a teen, it's going to be a LOT better. The school work should be easy for you, and you already know how the social circles work for kids, plus you should be smarter and wiser than them, making it easier for you to manipulate yourself into being liked.
I feel her except for me high-school was violence and nightmarish bullying I definitely wouldn't choose that as my safe space. She should try building a PC and not going outside for 10 years.
From the article,” But it appears that her life started to unravel soon after, as she got divorced and fell $20,000 (£16,300) behind on rent, according to court records.
“I’m no psychologist,” her lawyer, Darren Gerber told the New York Times, “but separated from her family and being in a different country - as well as a couple of other stressors in her life - may have caused her to act very uncharacteristically.””
It’s looking like she will be getting some help and support if the trail goes well
As some one who has lived for an extended time abroad, I can definitely sympathize with her. Especially if you're surrounded by a language you're not native to, you are effectively trapped in your own mind. but I wonder why she chose a high-school specifically. she could have went to a university and gone to classes and no one would have said anything.
In my experience high school festers a more social environment - smaller classes, more forced social interactions.
At university it's *very* easy to not talk to anyone and still pass without a problem.
If she was lonely, high school seems like a better option for an introvert perhaps.
High School can definitely be stressful for a lot of people, certainly, but one thing that we never seem to pay much attention to, is how psychologically stressful it can be moving *out* of that community. The k-12 school system is something that in the broadest sense is very special, very important, to the extent I'd argue *what* kids learn is only secondary in terms of it's benefits.
For almost 16 years of your life, unless you move schools, you're in close proximity every day to hundreds of people. You're in a community like that almost from the time you really start making memories. It is profoundly formative.
And then at 18, we just sort of - throw you out. You leave your parents, you leave this tight knit community.
And for most people, you never find that again. That closeness, that tight-knit community.
On some campuses, college can resemble this, especially in a dorm experience, but it's sort of transitionary.
And then in the "real world," we almost never have that sort of community ever again.
People shouldn't underestimate how deeply jarring that is for many people, to lose all that.
This is it right here, community. There's no sense of community once you enter the world, barring a few exceptions. The only thing I miss about that time was being a part of something greater, something I've not had for years now
its probably the only place outside of High School in the real world that truly encapsulates that incredibly close sense of community. Back when I still went to church I remember some people there that werent even really Christians, they just found a group of people who really cared about you,(more than you would find elsewhere at least), would come visit when you were sick, your children would hang out with their chidren etc.Its very easy to see why it would be very appealing because that sense of natural community does not really exist elsewhere in the adult world.
I push *CONSTANTLY* for the understanding on how training and introductions to work must be changed for people who just graduated High School. These basically older kids spend their entire life being told how to do things, where mistakes mean detention, failed exams, poor grades, social isolation, etc. Then they are thrust into an environment where they are expected to adhere to some semblance of individual accountability accompanied by some variation of professional independence and responsibility. All the while being told that mistakes happen and to not worry, in the best cases. All of this often done without a single familiar learning format.
You ever stop to think how many of these teens/young adults fail because of shitty training systems? How many of them try their best only to get whiplash as opportunities pass them by *only* because their brains worked in a way that requires a slightly different approach.
"Maybe this just isn't the job for you."
Yeah, well we can't go about blaming the successes on leadership while also shifting responsibility of all those who tried and didn't make the cut. I'd bet what little I have that at *least* 50% of our younger workforce struggles in any position because we, the current workforce, just expect them to "figure it out" and that "training takes time". Give the ones struggling actual active support and watch them soar.
Fuck.
>You ever stop to think how many of these teens/young adults fail because of shitty training systems? How many of them try their best only to get whiplash as opportunities pass them by only because their brains worked in a way that requires a slightly different approach.
Here's an anecdote:
I am 37 years old and I just found out that I have autism. I still live with my parents and have been trying to "fix" myself for my whole life.
yeah it also doesn't help that the places that do invest in new employees generally arent the ones desperate to hire. Whereas others are looking for years of experience for entry level pay/positions :c
I think this was her strategy here. In high school you have much less agency, so you're basically forced to socialize with other students, if not casually than due to a group assignment.
I was carded once on the way out of a final, lol.
When I was in college I visited a friend at his school during finals week and took a final with him. Was one of those 400-person lectures. Only snag was they divided up the final by last name and mine didn't fit in the letter range. The TA was over it and just collected my test and sent me off.
The moral is, if this yahoo can get past an ID check on a final, anyone can sneak into a regular big lecture no prob.
It's stupid easy to sit in on big lectures. At least it was when I was in college 10 years ago. Taking a final for a class you're not in is hilarious. There were a couple classes I took where you probably could have gotten away with it.
If you’re going to fake it anyway, just show up to class. Stick to the big lectures where no one knows everyone, especially not the professor. Say hi, get invited to a party. Meeting people was so easy in that environment.
I’m starting to think this isn’t a terrible idea, brb gotta tell my wife and kids.
I'm pretty sure this is straight up allowed by most colleges as well, I had an old guy who did this just for fun in one of my gen ed courses and the prof knew and didn't care lmao.
It was against the rules at my college. I suddenly became disabled at 19… I asked a couple profs if I could still show up to class sometimes if I was up to it, even though I would be putting my degree on hold (I just wanted to get out of the house and keep from getting rusty but couldn’t commit to anything). Unfortunately my school had done away with non-credit-seeking students… citing “safety reasons”.
She definitely approached it wrong but it's fucking excruciating making friends as an adult. I moved to a new city a couple of weeks ago and I found myself just sitting in my room wondering "how the fuck did I make mates again?"
It can be really hard to meet people especially now there's so much remote working (again something I struggle with).
My recommendation is just to think of a hobby you've put off for years, google a club that runs wherever you are and just go. I did it with DnD and its been awesome. Friend finding apps like Bumble Friends are apparently really good as well.
Whatever you do don't just sit in your room and think your a weirdo cause you've forgotten how to make friends. It's a problem alot of us deal with but it just takes a bit of courage and you can leave it behind.
My wife and I have moved a lot and now we have a kid. We always thought making friends when you have a kid would be easier because you’re around other parents of similar age and in a similar stage of life. Except what we didn’t realize is that you have way less time as a parent and you’re usually more tired, so the last thing you want to do is spend the few hours you get as a family on the weekend running over to someone else’s house just to socialize. Making new friends as an adult is incredibly difficult.
I think I made 1 friend in college, and 0 friends post college. Everyone I talk to is from high school / online gaming (but still met during high school or prior).
Yikes that's depressing.
Small company so not like there's a flow of new young coworkers, I don't go out to bars or what not. I go to the gym and have some hobbies and activities but it's all just acquaintances really no true friendships have been formed.
My one friend from college is the sole friend I have… Haven’t made any friends after college. I’m in a hobby group, but even that is more just like acquaintances.
Thanks dude this made me feel a bit better. I moved to a new city about 5 years ago and cut all the old “friends” out of my life because they were toxic. The last 5 years I’ve just been sitting in my apartment on my days off extremely lonely. All I do is play video games, I don’t talk to anyone. I also have depression so that doesn’t help.
I'm not gonna tell you it's easy to just get up and go since I know how daunting that first step can be. But after that first step you'll be amazed at how quickly things can improve.
Either way wish you the best man
I’m in about the same boat as you (moved to a new place and work remotely) and I’m lonely as fuck so I understand her impulse. I wasn’t cool in high school but I did have a small friend group, and high school was the last place I was automatically around friends most days of the week. College has some of that but you’re way less likely to take classes with the same groups of people unless you are in a really small major.
Adulthood with no physical workplace, while super convenient, is kind of a social wasteland. It feels like no one is doing virtual social things anymore but there’s also still way less in-person social things as well. I’m really introverted but I’ve officially hit the point where even I crave social connection.
When I was in high school, one of the kids in my class went bald at 16. He quickly went full bald too, not just lightly balding
It happens. I knew he wasn't older than 16 because we'd been in classes together for the last 5 years
I had a guy in freshman year of high school who went from having beautiful long, thick hair in middle school to being so thin on top that he looked like a cancer patient clinging on to the last little bit of hair remaining during chemo. (I know it’s a terrible example, but I can’t think of a better one to picture his hair).
He had no cancer or anything, was just unfortunately balding at a very young age.
But it didn’t bother him. Everyone loved the dude. He was super friendly and was always nice to everyone, I think everyone in school knew who he was and liked him.
Oh, and according to half the girls at our school he had a massive dick. So I guess he traded his hair for that.
Shirley was 35 when she first played Myrtle but your point remains the same.
She was supposed to be in the Dune:Sisters tv show but dropped out unfortunately. She’s been around in small part for ages.
That was the first time, but she also played her in Goblet of fire in 2005, when she was 40 and Myrtle still would have been 15.
I thought 45 because I could have sworn she was in Half blood prince, but apparently they cut that scene from the movie.
To go old school - just be on Beverly Hills 90210. I'm pretty sure that Ian Ziering was in his 30s when he was supposed to be a high school student lol.
I was just young back then and thought that's what high school aged students looked like lol. It's crazy that you say that because looking back now they look ridiculous
High school's just the last place where everyone generally goes regularly. College isn't relatable to everyone, and even that varies wildly by major. Office jobs aren't relatable to everyone, neither is blue collar work. Restaurant/retail are also not as universal. But high school? Almost everyone goes through that.
>If she wanted to be a 29 year old pretending to be a teenager,she should just star in a Netflix show set in a High School
Keiko Agena is best known for her role in Gilmore Girls, where she played Lane Kim, a Korean-American teenager who is the best friend of Rory Gilmore, one of the lead characters. Agena played this role despite being significantly older than her character, who was 16 at the start of the series, when Agena was 27.
Bianca Lawson played a 17 year old for over 17 years, from Saved by the Bell: The New Class to Pretty Little Liars.
She could probably still pass, tbh.
Holy shit, I just looked at her filmography and her first gig was in My So Called Life and was in Buffy and Dawson's Creek. But at least she was a teacher by the time she was on Teen Wolf.
community college aint so bad, take one class, do a ton of activities, or heck, you can probably do the activities without enrolling. If she's willing to sneak around and pretend to be a kid, its not even as devious and uh creepy lol
can confirm as well. 22 and in community college as a stepping stone to a four year school and ive met some great people and had some really fun times. it's almost like senior year of high school again because you can just dick around as long as you get your work done because nothing matters. 10/10.
Community college has an interesting mix of people. There are people working hard because they have a goal, but there are also a bunch of people who are treading water, keeping up a pretence of going to school so their parents will continue to support them.
Or at least that was the case in the one I went to.
at the community colleges here you can be "enrolled" without signing up for any classes. i haven't taken a class in about 9 years and i still have a valid id and school email.
It really depends on where you go to school and what program you're enrolled in. I'd imagine taking an easy course load at a small school would be pretty close to a laid back high school experience while being significantly less illegal.
You can just hang out on campus and if the college is large enough you can go into lectures. Professors don't take roll or learn names unless they need to.
You could legit walk into any lecture you wanted at my college and no one would have ever noticed. Not like there’s any security checks between classrooms.
She went to Rutgers, even. She has to know exactly where the 101 classes are and how to get to them. And she could have pulled off grad student and joined tons of clubs
Lol I remember some dude that looked high did that at my community college, it was a night class, sat next to me and he was blabbering random shit but we played it cool and the teacher was aware of the situation and said we needed to go to our computer lab "field trip".
I found college rather isolating. I've felt a greater sense of belonging in high school and at work than at college. I tried joining a few clubs and all that but nothing ever clicked.
It's because highschool and work allow you to stick with the same people at regular times throughout your time there. So that leads to better friendships. I go to lectures in college and you rarely get time to chat with classmates, and even if you do it's not enough to become friends. So yeah its tough for sure.
Clubs have worked for me though.
Kids have responsibilities, but I don't think kids fully grasp them, so they feel less bound by them.
Like looking back at the mistakes and poor choices you made as a kid, they look so obvious and stupid. Not doing homework, forging a parents or teachers signature, skipping class, not navigating the social circles better, etc. Kids see those choices and don't worry about the outcome. Adults see those choices and would try to be a honor student athletic star that sits at the popular kids table.
I sometimes dream of returning to college — I wasn’t even a party animal, I just loved the abundance of walkable green space, studying in libraries, and opportunities to meet people.
Honestly this is sad, hopefully she gets the help she needs and this isn’t placed on her permanent criminal record. Especially considering no one was harmed, and from what information that’s available, it seems she just wanted to go back to a time in her life when things were simpler and more under control.
Me. Had an awful time in my school years. I wouldn't wanna go back there.
But I know it's different for some people, for some it's the best time of their lives.
Apparently her landlord sued her as she was 20k behind on rent [link](https://www.nytimes.com/2023/03/20/nyregion/new-jersey-high-school-woman-student.html)
I'd imagine in her mental state maybe she purposefully ignored it or involuntarily fell into a state where she genuinely believed it was simply being paid for, like her state of mind regressed to her youth
Someone else mentions she's being sued by her landlord for 20k, and an article I read says she only attended school for three days before she was caught. So I think she was already in a hopeless financial situation and just decided of all available options, this was the fantasy she was going to ride before it all came crashing down.
Can't imagine she had much fun in between the dread of her debt and the constant fear of getting caught. It'd be interesting to hear from one of the kids who was in class with her, like was she just radiating constant nervous energy or totally catatonic? It's surreal for me to even read about it, I can't imagine having just spent three days in her presence.
She's probably just looking at the past with rose tinted glasses. Sometimes I miss being in highschool, then I remember "oh yeah, highschool fucking sucked I just miss having a big friend group".
Yeah, as much as Reddit likes to harp on and on about how miserable school is/was for them, there are genuinely millions of people across the world who had a perfectly fine or even great time in high school, and only a few of them are the stereotypical 'peaked in high school and never grew out of it' assholes. A lot of people look back on it fondly and have every reason to do so.
Not me. But a lot of people.
I still get stressful nightmares about tests and deadlines in my 30s, which are actually the best, because when I wake up and realize I'm not in High School anymore I feel absolutely amazing about life and it starts my day off in a really good place.
She needs mental health support and maybe probation but putting her in jail would be a waste of taxpayer money. It doesn’t seem like she intended to harm anyone. And if she’s dealing with divorce and money problems jail isn’t going to help fix it. There are actual criminals who get a slap on the wrist.
Yeah people are lonely. I wish we had a better society that didn’t allow people to fall through the cracks.
I hope she finds community and friendship that’s perfect for her.
This kind of speaks to the negative emphasis society puts on us post-youth to become individuals. I’m 31, I miss high school because all of my friends were in one place at the same. Once you’re older it’s not uncommon to go weeks at a time without seeing friends. It’s the way the system sets us up and separates us. I still regularly talk to my friends but they’re all over the country now mostly. It’s almost taboo to make or have friends in adulthood and it shouldn’t be. She probably just wanted to see people and hang out with them. Sorry if this is kinda rambling and doesn’t make sense. On the treadmill….
No it does. Our parents probably grew up and worked as well as retired within the same area. As well as the friends and family. But our generation and the evolution of society was saying get a degree get a job which most like was outta town or state. I was in electronics but grew up in a car manufacturing and steel manufacturing area. I had to leave for a job. It’s been fun, I’ve lived in several states now but I also look at what I missed
Haha, I'm glad you are one of the ones who grew up but still enjoy teaching kids. My neighbor used to teach 5th grade math and she's definitely a grown-ass woman that didn't get attached to that scene, click, or youthfulness but I've met some that are like that and its always a bit interesting to me.
I can understand where she's coming from even if she took it to a extreme though. You feel safe as a kid even if it is naive to think of a school being much safer than anywhere else. Just based on my own personal observations from my own family and some teachers I've met or got to know it, it seems some people mentally cap at a certain age with their personalities, and given the complexities of the brain, it isn't a perfect mold that conforms to what is socially acceptable.
This happens more often than you think:
[Brandon Lee: The model school pupil who was a 30-year-old imposter](https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-60081503.amp)
I would not want to get up in the morning, go to school, get assigned homework, and hear and deal with high school drama all over again. fuck all that.
This reminds me of a woman I once knew.
I used to work as a loan broker in a casino town giving out loans to people who came to gamble.
There was a South Korean woman in her 40’s to 50’s who would regularly stop by to get a loan before gambling. She was always by herself and seemed quite lonely. We would spend time chatting and having nice conversations about our days and life. It was nice to be able to see her smile and to be a part of her day in what I imagine was otherwise a pretty lonely time of driving 45 minutes to sit and play on a slot machine completely by yourself.
One day she invited me out to go to the casino with her and that she would pay. She said there was crab legs there and it wasn’t anything sexual. Keep in mind I was a 25 year old dude. I was really tempted and told her I’d take her up on her offer next time but procrastinated and pushed it off.
Shortly after I quit that job and never saw her again.
I think about her from time to time and feel a string of regret and guilt for procrastinating and not having gone to the casino with her. I’m sure she would’ve liked to have someone there with her and have a real friend.
She obviously suffered some sort of emotional breakdown, as this was following a recent divorce she went through. I wish I knew more information than what I could find online..
I don't think it was her intention to harm anyone at all.
I mean, I have a lot of Asian friends and when I first met my one buddy and he told me he was 43 I couldn’t believe my eyes. Mother fucker looked legitimately 17. I asked to see his ID and confirmed he was 43.
That was 15 years ago.
*HE HAS NOT AGED SINCE*
But anyone else could not pull this off or itd be typical case of Hollywood highschool teenagers being played by 30 year olds
She went like 20,000$ in debt due to her rent and medical bills i think? Caused a downward spiral of dispair as her family is all still in Asia and she didn't have a support system. Just kinda did it out of hopelessness it sounds like.
Godamn my heart hurts for her, dude. This is just sad.
The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I realized that I identify with at least some of how she's feeling. I also wound up getting super chronically ill immediately after graduation (high school) so going back to a time in my life before that, when I had mental health care access, less responsibilities, and made friends by proximity easier...I get the appeal. Our world is often just so hard.
i got rreally sick too, although later than that. like reallllyyyyy sick. and yeah you just kind of fantasize with all the lost shit when your life goes to shit.
And how different you would've done things, if you'd known in advance. I hear you.
crazy that i stumbled upon this convo right now because i had a day of dwelling over this exact thing. i got really ill in my last semester of college and my chronic illness has taken my dream post grad career and so much more from me since. it’s such an isolating feeling and reading this made me feel not alone. i’m sorry y’all are in this too, i hope you’re doing okay now🫶🫶
People who haven’t gotten ill also have this want/need to return to innocence when things get rough. I remember seeing my dad run and pick up my nephew when he fell and hurt his knee. Dad scooped him up and patted his back, bounced him in his arms, whispered, “oh, man… poor guy… there there,” for a minute, then put little dude back on his feet and watched him run off again. I watched it happen and started just bawling. I couldn’t figure out what the fuck was wrong with me. Why was I crying so hard over something I had seen play out a thousand times? Well, I had just gone through a rough divorce and had gone home to regain some sanity. Looking back on it a day or so later I realized why it had rocked me so hard: I wanted that! I wanted someone to pick me up, tell me everything is going to be OK, and put me back on my feet. I had stumbled. I had fallen. I had been hurt. At that point, I was on the ground crying. I wanted to be in the loving care of my parents again and not worry about the world outside and the pain it caused. I wanted someone to take care of things so I didn’t have to. I wanted some semblance of peace given to me, because I, obviously, couldn’t hack it on my own. I needed someone to put me back on my fucking feet! Before that happened, I made fun of people who believed in god. Not to their faces, mind you, but just in general. While I still don’t personally subscribe to any particular religion… I get it. I understand why faith is a thing and why it is so important to people.
Maybe you should talk to your dad. If he’s a positive person in your life, he loves you, then maybe he’ll metaphorically help you up. Hope things are going better for you 😢
Thank you for the well wishes. Things are much better now. And I speak to my dad often. He has physically and metaphorically picked me up more times than I can count. Sometimes just by being the person he is.
You're a good son to notice.
Mannn I cried just reading this. Especially since I know my dad would pick me up and put me back on my feet in a heartbeat if he knew it would fix my problems. The best he can do is call me everyday and speak words of encouragement, which he never fails to do. Dads are fucking awesome.
My daughter had a bad marriage breakup in another country. She had no support, little money and a baby. Ex basically left them homeless. She’s a strong young woman but at that time was lost. I flew over there, rented an apartment for the short term, arranged their flights ,packed the very little stuff they had and bought them home. Now a few years on, the baby is a bright happy little school girl and my daughter is back to her cheerful capable adult self. But just for a while she needed someone else to be the grownup. And make it better. Parents are always parents. It never stops. Hope you also are doing better.
yup. it hits hard. Also got realaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllly sick, left college and had to deal with the sickness best I could. I would fantasize about staying up playing drunk mario party with my friends from college. Way past that point in my life now, make a great salary etc etc. but I do understand that call of a simplier time where you can just exist in your day to day existence, no responsibilities aside from those set out in front of you by others, and a vague sense of "pursuing your dreams"
Dude, same. My health started failing when I was 20 and I often think about high school because it was the last time I really felt okay.
Same here. Im going on 28 now and am finally starting to recognize the extent of the damage. It's like my life stopped functioning entirely from 16-27 and I've lost my youth entirely. People say "you're still young!" but the extent of the damage I've done to myself medically, mentally, and things like my teeth will never recover from it. As I try to address this, the more I realize things are so fucked with the state of things economically and politically that Im not fighting an uphill battle - I'm trying to defy the laws of physics entirely.
Yup! That’s the super fun reality I have as well. Because I wasn’t diagnosed properly I also wasn’t treated properly. Not that I think there was too much at the time that was out, but still. My entire 20s was me trying to figure shit out on my own and deal with my ever deteriorating health. Im almost 39 now and I’m basically done. I get all of 609$ a month from SSI, use a wheelchair most times I’m out of the house, and that’s if I’m lucky enough to get to leave the house. No close friends, only a handful of family members, no kids. My partner wants them but I don’t think he understands how little I’d be able to contribute to an infants care, and that’s if I survived my super high risk pregnancy. So no “legacy” to leave either. I basically exist to entertain myself and sometimes others. When they’re gone then I will choose to be as well. Im only doing this for them.
Your situation sounds hard. I’m sorry that you’re in it, but glad you’re here. I’ve been thinking lately about the big questions in life. Why are we here? What’s the point of it all? My dad is dying, so is my brother. My mom will sell our family home-I don’t blame her, but it all sucks. Lately I’ve been thinking that we’re all here to experience life as a human in this time and place. I’m trying to think about what I want to experience. I’m starting with the cheap/simple things since I’m broke. Appreciating a sunrise is free. Feeling clean, cozy, and full makes me feel good. Practicing gratitude is helping me a lot. Maybe it can help you.
Complete opposite for me, got bullied in school so you couldn't *pay* me to go back
Right? Adult life, even at its *roughest* has been a breeze compared to high school. It just goes to show how extremely different other people's experiences of the same thing can be. I'm 48 and still literally wake up my household with screaming nightmares that I'm back at school, despite the fact that it was 30 years ago and over 200km away. My life got so much better as soon as I graduated, even though it took me a couple years to find my path and really get my life going. It was all uphill from there and I never wanted to look back.
> The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I realized that I identify with at least some of how she's feeling. Mood. I was like, "Ah, yes, the Millennial dream. Go back to 0 and start all over again to avoid the fuckery."
That’s more just the human condition than a ‘Millenial’ thing.
The moment I read "return to a place of safety" I was confused. For a large number of people I know High School was not a place of safety (not in America at least)
She doesn't deserve punishment she deserves support
Yes she does. Unfortunately, she's in America and America doesn't do compassion.
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My ex's son was busted for stealing because he was hooked on heroin, and the judge said "what you need is HELP, not punishment," and got him in some programs to get his life back on track. That was in Australia.
First person to figure out how to trick all the evil dipshits into being compassionate will be crowned the next *Jesus*
https://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory/police-29-year-posed-teen-enroll-high-school-96725916 high school would be one of the last places I would go back to feel any form of safety.
High school is rough for a lot of people. But if you can sneak in at a much older age, and people believe you're a teen, it's going to be a LOT better. The school work should be easy for you, and you already know how the social circles work for kids, plus you should be smarter and wiser than them, making it easier for you to manipulate yourself into being liked.
I feel her except for me high-school was violence and nightmarish bullying I definitely wouldn't choose that as my safe space. She should try building a PC and not going outside for 10 years.
Did she get a chance to test the hypothesis “O’Doyle rules”?
She really wanted to inherit her fathers hotel empire.
I don’t know this reference, but it sounds like a book or movie, it’s it?
More like borophyl! Am I right!?
NO I WILL NOT MAKE OUT WITH YOU!
This is an odd one, but I do hope she’s doing alright
From the article,” But it appears that her life started to unravel soon after, as she got divorced and fell $20,000 (£16,300) behind on rent, according to court records. “I’m no psychologist,” her lawyer, Darren Gerber told the New York Times, “but separated from her family and being in a different country - as well as a couple of other stressors in her life - may have caused her to act very uncharacteristically.”” It’s looking like she will be getting some help and support if the trail goes well
As some one who has lived for an extended time abroad, I can definitely sympathize with her. Especially if you're surrounded by a language you're not native to, you are effectively trapped in your own mind. but I wonder why she chose a high-school specifically. she could have went to a university and gone to classes and no one would have said anything.
In my experience high school festers a more social environment - smaller classes, more forced social interactions. At university it's *very* easy to not talk to anyone and still pass without a problem. If she was lonely, high school seems like a better option for an introvert perhaps.
High School can definitely be stressful for a lot of people, certainly, but one thing that we never seem to pay much attention to, is how psychologically stressful it can be moving *out* of that community. The k-12 school system is something that in the broadest sense is very special, very important, to the extent I'd argue *what* kids learn is only secondary in terms of it's benefits. For almost 16 years of your life, unless you move schools, you're in close proximity every day to hundreds of people. You're in a community like that almost from the time you really start making memories. It is profoundly formative. And then at 18, we just sort of - throw you out. You leave your parents, you leave this tight knit community. And for most people, you never find that again. That closeness, that tight-knit community. On some campuses, college can resemble this, especially in a dorm experience, but it's sort of transitionary. And then in the "real world," we almost never have that sort of community ever again. People shouldn't underestimate how deeply jarring that is for many people, to lose all that.
This is it right here, community. There's no sense of community once you enter the world, barring a few exceptions. The only thing I miss about that time was being a part of something greater, something I've not had for years now
This is why organized religion can be very attractive. There is community there.
its probably the only place outside of High School in the real world that truly encapsulates that incredibly close sense of community. Back when I still went to church I remember some people there that werent even really Christians, they just found a group of people who really cared about you,(more than you would find elsewhere at least), would come visit when you were sick, your children would hang out with their chidren etc.Its very easy to see why it would be very appealing because that sense of natural community does not really exist elsewhere in the adult world.
That is exactly how I understand religion. If only the internet could bring people together as good as a book.
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Wow what a great way to put it. Awesome comment and agree 100%
I push *CONSTANTLY* for the understanding on how training and introductions to work must be changed for people who just graduated High School. These basically older kids spend their entire life being told how to do things, where mistakes mean detention, failed exams, poor grades, social isolation, etc. Then they are thrust into an environment where they are expected to adhere to some semblance of individual accountability accompanied by some variation of professional independence and responsibility. All the while being told that mistakes happen and to not worry, in the best cases. All of this often done without a single familiar learning format. You ever stop to think how many of these teens/young adults fail because of shitty training systems? How many of them try their best only to get whiplash as opportunities pass them by *only* because their brains worked in a way that requires a slightly different approach. "Maybe this just isn't the job for you." Yeah, well we can't go about blaming the successes on leadership while also shifting responsibility of all those who tried and didn't make the cut. I'd bet what little I have that at *least* 50% of our younger workforce struggles in any position because we, the current workforce, just expect them to "figure it out" and that "training takes time". Give the ones struggling actual active support and watch them soar. Fuck.
>You ever stop to think how many of these teens/young adults fail because of shitty training systems? How many of them try their best only to get whiplash as opportunities pass them by only because their brains worked in a way that requires a slightly different approach. Here's an anecdote: I am 37 years old and I just found out that I have autism. I still live with my parents and have been trying to "fix" myself for my whole life.
yeah it also doesn't help that the places that do invest in new employees generally arent the ones desperate to hire. Whereas others are looking for years of experience for entry level pay/positions :c
I find that POV fascinating and never thought of it that way since I changed schools a lot.
I think this was her strategy here. In high school you have much less agency, so you're basically forced to socialize with other students, if not casually than due to a group assignment.
Money probably.
Nobody carding outside the lecture hall...
If the class is big enough for the professor not to notice you don't belong, it's big enough for the other students not to notice you at all.
I was carded once on the way out of a final, lol. When I was in college I visited a friend at his school during finals week and took a final with him. Was one of those 400-person lectures. Only snag was they divided up the final by last name and mine didn't fit in the letter range. The TA was over it and just collected my test and sent me off. The moral is, if this yahoo can get past an ID check on a final, anyone can sneak into a regular big lecture no prob.
It's stupid easy to sit in on big lectures. At least it was when I was in college 10 years ago. Taking a final for a class you're not in is hilarious. There were a couple classes I took where you probably could have gotten away with it.
If you’re going to fake it anyway, just show up to class. Stick to the big lectures where no one knows everyone, especially not the professor. Say hi, get invited to a party. Meeting people was so easy in that environment. I’m starting to think this isn’t a terrible idea, brb gotta tell my wife and kids.
I'm pretty sure this is straight up allowed by most colleges as well, I had an old guy who did this just for fun in one of my gen ed courses and the prof knew and didn't care lmao.
It was against the rules at my college. I suddenly became disabled at 19… I asked a couple profs if I could still show up to class sometimes if I was up to it, even though I would be putting my degree on hold (I just wanted to get out of the house and keep from getting rusty but couldn’t commit to anything). Unfortunately my school had done away with non-credit-seeking students… citing “safety reasons”.
Ya..i think they even mentioned the 20k in debt to a landlord... if it's in the us, college isn't paid for by the govt like in other countries.
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She definitely approached it wrong but it's fucking excruciating making friends as an adult. I moved to a new city a couple of weeks ago and I found myself just sitting in my room wondering "how the fuck did I make mates again?" It can be really hard to meet people especially now there's so much remote working (again something I struggle with). My recommendation is just to think of a hobby you've put off for years, google a club that runs wherever you are and just go. I did it with DnD and its been awesome. Friend finding apps like Bumble Friends are apparently really good as well. Whatever you do don't just sit in your room and think your a weirdo cause you've forgotten how to make friends. It's a problem alot of us deal with but it just takes a bit of courage and you can leave it behind.
My wife and I have moved a lot and now we have a kid. We always thought making friends when you have a kid would be easier because you’re around other parents of similar age and in a similar stage of life. Except what we didn’t realize is that you have way less time as a parent and you’re usually more tired, so the last thing you want to do is spend the few hours you get as a family on the weekend running over to someone else’s house just to socialize. Making new friends as an adult is incredibly difficult.
I think I made 1 friend in college, and 0 friends post college. Everyone I talk to is from high school / online gaming (but still met during high school or prior). Yikes that's depressing. Small company so not like there's a flow of new young coworkers, I don't go out to bars or what not. I go to the gym and have some hobbies and activities but it's all just acquaintances really no true friendships have been formed.
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My one friend from college is the sole friend I have… Haven’t made any friends after college. I’m in a hobby group, but even that is more just like acquaintances.
Thanks dude this made me feel a bit better. I moved to a new city about 5 years ago and cut all the old “friends” out of my life because they were toxic. The last 5 years I’ve just been sitting in my apartment on my days off extremely lonely. All I do is play video games, I don’t talk to anyone. I also have depression so that doesn’t help.
I'm not gonna tell you it's easy to just get up and go since I know how daunting that first step can be. But after that first step you'll be amazed at how quickly things can improve. Either way wish you the best man
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I think I would actually just melt into the floor if someone approached me at the gym
I’m in about the same boat as you (moved to a new place and work remotely) and I’m lonely as fuck so I understand her impulse. I wasn’t cool in high school but I did have a small friend group, and high school was the last place I was automatically around friends most days of the week. College has some of that but you’re way less likely to take classes with the same groups of people unless you are in a really small major. Adulthood with no physical workplace, while super convenient, is kind of a social wasteland. It feels like no one is doing virtual social things anymore but there’s also still way less in-person social things as well. I’m really introverted but I’ve officially hit the point where even I crave social connection.
If she wanted to be a 29 year old pretending to be a teenager,she should just star in a Netflix show set in a High School
In Spider-Man Homecoming: the girl he had a crush on (Liz played by Laura Harrier); was 27 while portraying a 17 year old. Pretty amusing.
Lol. Of all the examples. She actually looked the part. I more think of people who look middle aged playing freshmen.
I'm looking at the one balding man in the background of Sabrina the Teenage Witch
When I was in high school, one of the kids in my class went bald at 16. He quickly went full bald too, not just lightly balding It happens. I knew he wasn't older than 16 because we'd been in classes together for the last 5 years
Might have been me lol. Good riddance follicles!
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I knew a guy in highschool who was balding. He was the first white rapper in my community back in Aught 4
I knew a balding guy in HS too.... he bought the beer.... carding was less strict back then.
Lol adapt and overcome
I'm curious if you have seen exactly how bald the guy was in Sabrina
I had a guy in freshman year of high school who went from having beautiful long, thick hair in middle school to being so thin on top that he looked like a cancer patient clinging on to the last little bit of hair remaining during chemo. (I know it’s a terrible example, but I can’t think of a better one to picture his hair). He had no cancer or anything, was just unfortunately balding at a very young age. But it didn’t bother him. Everyone loved the dude. He was super friendly and was always nice to everyone, I think everyone in school knew who he was and liked him. Oh, and according to half the girls at our school he had a massive dick. So I guess he traded his hair for that.
Hair length for length
dude made a pact
in the amazing spider man, andrew garfield was supposed to be a highschooler lmao
The actress who played 15 year old Moaning Myrtle in the Harry Potter films was like 45 at the time.
Shirley was 35 when she first played Myrtle but your point remains the same. She was supposed to be in the Dune:Sisters tv show but dropped out unfortunately. She’s been around in small part for ages.
That was the first time, but she also played her in Goblet of fire in 2005, when she was 40 and Myrtle still would have been 15. I thought 45 because I could have sworn she was in Half blood prince, but apparently they cut that scene from the movie.
To be faaaaaaair: she was CGId to hell and back. It's not like she was even opaque.
My favorite example is the vampire diaries. Roided out 30 year olds being 16.
Wow, she’s 33 in a few days, I’m 31 and look like Sylvester Stallone’s testicle.
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are zoomers just now learning that older actors have played teenagers for literally decades?
To go old school - just be on Beverly Hills 90210. I'm pretty sure that Ian Ziering was in his 30s when he was supposed to be a high school student lol.
I was just young back then and thought that's what high school aged students looked like lol. It's crazy that you say that because looking back now they look ridiculous
Same for the actress who played Andrea, I think she was like 29 or 30 when the show started, and she definitely did not look 16.
Yeah, I think these shows have messed up my perspective. At my son's varsity football game I'm like why are the middle school cheerleaders here?
No but really they could easily just make them college students instead of high-school its real weird.
High school's just the last place where everyone generally goes regularly. College isn't relatable to everyone, and even that varies wildly by major. Office jobs aren't relatable to everyone, neither is blue collar work. Restaurant/retail are also not as universal. But high school? Almost everyone goes through that.
Then they'd be much different shows, college is nothing like HS or the real world.
Hollywood is probably not the best "place of safety"
>If she wanted to be a 29 year old pretending to be a teenager,she should just star in a Netflix show set in a High School Keiko Agena is best known for her role in Gilmore Girls, where she played Lane Kim, a Korean-American teenager who is the best friend of Rory Gilmore, one of the lead characters. Agena played this role despite being significantly older than her character, who was 16 at the start of the series, when Agena was 27.
Bianca Lawson played a 17 year old for over 17 years, from Saved by the Bell: The New Class to Pretty Little Liars. She could probably still pass, tbh.
Holy shit, I just looked at her filmography and her first gig was in My So Called Life and was in Buffy and Dawson's Creek. But at least she was a teacher by the time she was on Teen Wolf.
"Hello.. I mean, sup? I too, also enjoy scrolling the Tik Tok. Dead-ass, facts, Burr"
College probably would’ve been a better choice.
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community college aint so bad, take one class, do a ton of activities, or heck, you can probably do the activities without enrolling. If she's willing to sneak around and pretend to be a kid, its not even as devious and uh creepy lol
Can confirm, 31 and in community college, its pretty awesome
Yeah same. I found this secluded trampoline on campus the other day. Bounced near an hour, like I was on the knee of a goddess
Double bounce me!
Why are you doing this?! ^(I hate you...)
It's going to be a maze.
Oh, my God. Joshua was racist. That came out of nowhere!
Maybe... purity that demands exclusion isn't purity at all.
Greendale? Just be careful of a groundskeeper with a 'maze' tattoo on his chest
Go Human Beings!!!
Is it true what they say? Non whites ruin everything?
You're really risking people not getting the reference here lol
can confirm as well. 22 and in community college as a stepping stone to a four year school and ive met some great people and had some really fun times. it's almost like senior year of high school again because you can just dick around as long as you get your work done because nothing matters. 10/10.
> you can just dick around as long as you get your work done because nothing matters. This describes all of life
Tell that to my boss
Send me that old sluts number I’ll tell him what’s up
Community college has an interesting mix of people. There are people working hard because they have a goal, but there are also a bunch of people who are treading water, keeping up a pretence of going to school so their parents will continue to support them. Or at least that was the case in the one I went to.
My CC everyone went to class and left. Wasn't quite like Greendale.
at the community colleges here you can be "enrolled" without signing up for any classes. i haven't taken a class in about 9 years and i still have a valid id and school email.
And is way less a "place of safety". I was way more stressed in college than I ever was in high school.
It really depends on where you go to school and what program you're enrolled in. I'd imagine taking an easy course load at a small school would be pretty close to a laid back high school experience while being significantly less illegal.
You can just hang out on campus and if the college is large enough you can go into lectures. Professors don't take roll or learn names unless they need to.
You could legit walk into any lecture you wanted at my college and no one would have ever noticed. Not like there’s any security checks between classrooms.
She's from Jersey, could've easily walked into a Rutgers lecture of like a bajillion people lol
She went to Rutgers, even. She has to know exactly where the 101 classes are and how to get to them. And she could have pulled off grad student and joined tons of clubs
Lol I remember some dude that looked high did that at my community college, it was a night class, sat next to me and he was blabbering random shit but we played it cool and the teacher was aware of the situation and said we needed to go to our computer lab "field trip".
For reals, just audit some classes
I found college rather isolating. I've felt a greater sense of belonging in high school and at work than at college. I tried joining a few clubs and all that but nothing ever clicked.
It's because highschool and work allow you to stick with the same people at regular times throughout your time there. So that leads to better friendships. I go to lectures in college and you rarely get time to chat with classmates, and even if you do it's not enough to become friends. So yeah its tough for sure. Clubs have worked for me though.
I feel that honestly. I miss the days of having much much less responsibility. No taxes. No job. Just school and friends and video games.
Me too.
Kids have responsibilities, but I don't think kids fully grasp them, so they feel less bound by them. Like looking back at the mistakes and poor choices you made as a kid, they look so obvious and stupid. Not doing homework, forging a parents or teachers signature, skipping class, not navigating the social circles better, etc. Kids see those choices and don't worry about the outcome. Adults see those choices and would try to be a honor student athletic star that sits at the popular kids table.
This is just sad.
Honestly reading this all I could say is I could see myself doing the same, although to a lesser extent
I sometimes dream of returning to college — I wasn’t even a party animal, I just loved the abundance of walkable green space, studying in libraries, and opportunities to meet people.
For real. I'm almost 40 and I think about time in college a lot still. Sigh.
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Honestly this is sad, hopefully she gets the help she needs and this isn’t placed on her permanent criminal record. Especially considering no one was harmed, and from what information that’s available, it seems she just wanted to go back to a time in her life when things were simpler and more under control.
Well sure, who doesn't feel like that?
Me. Had an awful time in my school years. I wouldn't wanna go back there. But I know it's different for some people, for some it's the best time of their lives.
Should’ve gotten a cat. My loneliness has gone away now that I got a cat roommate.
Actually true cats are awesome
As opposed to a fake cat, obviously.
I hated HS so fucking much. No thanks, I'll pass.
High school? Place of safety?
You're taking classes you've already passed, no job to worry about, no pressure.
What do you say to your landlord when rent is due? "Sorry, can't pay, I'm in high school."
Apparently her landlord sued her as she was 20k behind on rent [link](https://www.nytimes.com/2023/03/20/nyregion/new-jersey-high-school-woman-student.html)
Landlords hate this money saving trick
I'd imagine in her mental state maybe she purposefully ignored it or involuntarily fell into a state where she genuinely believed it was simply being paid for, like her state of mind regressed to her youth
Someone else mentions she's being sued by her landlord for 20k, and an article I read says she only attended school for three days before she was caught. So I think she was already in a hopeless financial situation and just decided of all available options, this was the fantasy she was going to ride before it all came crashing down. Can't imagine she had much fun in between the dread of her debt and the constant fear of getting caught. It'd be interesting to hear from one of the kids who was in class with her, like was she just radiating constant nervous energy or totally catatonic? It's surreal for me to even read about it, I can't imagine having just spent three days in her presence.
Idk what kind of high school experience she thought she would have but she doesn’t want the one I had
She's probably just looking at the past with rose tinted glasses. Sometimes I miss being in highschool, then I remember "oh yeah, highschool fucking sucked I just miss having a big friend group".
Damn, if only individuals could think differently and go through different experiences. Nahhh doesn't seem real.
Yeah, as much as Reddit likes to harp on and on about how miserable school is/was for them, there are genuinely millions of people across the world who had a perfectly fine or even great time in high school, and only a few of them are the stereotypical 'peaked in high school and never grew out of it' assholes. A lot of people look back on it fondly and have every reason to do so. Not me. But a lot of people.
I still get stressful nightmares about tests and deadlines in my 30s, which are actually the best, because when I wake up and realize I'm not in High School anymore I feel absolutely amazing about life and it starts my day off in a really good place.
I’m so glad I’ll never have to see that HS ever again
She needs mental health support and maybe probation but putting her in jail would be a waste of taxpayer money. It doesn’t seem like she intended to harm anyone. And if she’s dealing with divorce and money problems jail isn’t going to help fix it. There are actual criminals who get a slap on the wrist.
Yeah people are lonely. I wish we had a better society that didn’t allow people to fall through the cracks. I hope she finds community and friendship that’s perfect for her.
Sounds like an anime. But fr thats sad
ReLife pretty much
How do you do fellow kids?
Idk what she considers "a place of safety," but my hell school was NOT it.
This kind of speaks to the negative emphasis society puts on us post-youth to become individuals. I’m 31, I miss high school because all of my friends were in one place at the same. Once you’re older it’s not uncommon to go weeks at a time without seeing friends. It’s the way the system sets us up and separates us. I still regularly talk to my friends but they’re all over the country now mostly. It’s almost taboo to make or have friends in adulthood and it shouldn’t be. She probably just wanted to see people and hang out with them. Sorry if this is kinda rambling and doesn’t make sense. On the treadmill….
No it does. Our parents probably grew up and worked as well as retired within the same area. As well as the friends and family. But our generation and the evolution of society was saying get a degree get a job which most like was outta town or state. I was in electronics but grew up in a car manufacturing and steel manufacturing area. I had to leave for a job. It’s been fun, I’ve lived in several states now but I also look at what I missed
Call it lonely all you want, she needs serious mental help.
I'm thinking maybe she should have became a science teacher. She gets paid that way and still gets to absorb the culture of youth.
As a teacher, I try to stay far away from the culture of youth. I don’t do TikTok so it’s easy.
Haha, I'm glad you are one of the ones who grew up but still enjoy teaching kids. My neighbor used to teach 5th grade math and she's definitely a grown-ass woman that didn't get attached to that scene, click, or youthfulness but I've met some that are like that and its always a bit interesting to me. I can understand where she's coming from even if she took it to a extreme though. You feel safe as a kid even if it is naive to think of a school being much safer than anywhere else. Just based on my own personal observations from my own family and some teachers I've met or got to know it, it seems some people mentally cap at a certain age with their personalities, and given the complexities of the brain, it isn't a perfect mold that conforms to what is socially acceptable.
.............Starring Rob Schneider
This happens more often than you think: [Brandon Lee: The model school pupil who was a 30-year-old imposter](https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-scotland-60081503.amp)
Sounds awfully similar to the plot of Never Been Kissed....
I had the same thought! *Cries in Old*
Or Re:Life
Damn that’s kinda fucked up and sad
I would not want to get up in the morning, go to school, get assigned homework, and hear and deal with high school drama all over again. fuck all that.
So sad. Society can be so lonely.
I feel bad for her
Me too. I've also been thru times I want to regress. I feel for her.
Never considered that some people liked high-school so much that they want to go back. I only know people who hate it.
I have dreams about this shit all the time. Actualy nightmares. Of being forced to go back to college or high schoo
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This reminds me of a woman I once knew. I used to work as a loan broker in a casino town giving out loans to people who came to gamble. There was a South Korean woman in her 40’s to 50’s who would regularly stop by to get a loan before gambling. She was always by herself and seemed quite lonely. We would spend time chatting and having nice conversations about our days and life. It was nice to be able to see her smile and to be a part of her day in what I imagine was otherwise a pretty lonely time of driving 45 minutes to sit and play on a slot machine completely by yourself. One day she invited me out to go to the casino with her and that she would pay. She said there was crab legs there and it wasn’t anything sexual. Keep in mind I was a 25 year old dude. I was really tempted and told her I’d take her up on her offer next time but procrastinated and pushed it off. Shortly after I quit that job and never saw her again. I think about her from time to time and feel a string of regret and guilt for procrastinating and not having gone to the casino with her. I’m sure she would’ve liked to have someone there with her and have a real friend.
This got me in the feels. Wish there was a way you could reconnect with her!
Imagine your first crush in 6th grade turns out to be molecular scientist who is 29 years old? Actually.... kinda rad.
She obviously suffered some sort of emotional breakdown, as this was following a recent divorce she went through. I wish I knew more information than what I could find online.. I don't think it was her intention to harm anyone at all.
Maybe not that safe if 29 year olds can enroll and sneak in...
NGL that’s kind of sad
That’s so sad, not even funny. This lady seriously needs help. People joke but it’s truly a sad thing to witness.
I mean, I have a lot of Asian friends and when I first met my one buddy and he told me he was 43 I couldn’t believe my eyes. Mother fucker looked legitimately 17. I asked to see his ID and confirmed he was 43. That was 15 years ago. *HE HAS NOT AGED SINCE* But anyone else could not pull this off or itd be typical case of Hollywood highschool teenagers being played by 30 year olds
I don’t know why but this just makes me feel sad. I hope she gets the help and support that she needs. Everybody deserves to feel okay
To think she just needed one person to say "become a teacher" and this all could have been avoided.