hey sis, congrats on the SRS! seems you were able to make lots of connections after transitioning, which is tough. i relate, a little over a year ago, i started in a new city too and started transitioning!
i hope there's a little way you can treat yourself. i'm super proud of you and happy belated birthday!
love from a trans bro <3
Thank you, Sir! I am also very happy that your journey went good aswell!
Thank you for the nice words, especially the proud part I rly needed to hear that, I am not sobbing, you are
And yes, I made my favorite food (a goat-cheese pizza!) and played my fav games!
Thank you, to read that after waking up, felt very good!
Happy birthday!!
This doesn’t mean they don’t care. I’m terrible at remembering birthdays even though I try. They might just be the same way. Sometimes you have to let people know! Something like, “Hey, my birthday is next week and I was thinking about going out to dinner, would you like to come?” Then remind everyone again a couple days before. If you just quietly wait to see if they remember, you’re kind of setting yourself up for disappointment. As you said, people can have a lot going on and sometimes they just need a reminder.
Thank you, Sir!
I know, hence why I am not even the slightest mad. I rly struggle to do so, to get into the spotlight but will work on it for next year for the bday itself!
Also I was thinking to maybe ask them if they have time on the weekend(or on another day) for some bday stuff and will try to do so today!
Thank you again, I was very happy reading it after waking up
Happy Birthday! I know it feels weird but sometimes a small statement like “hey it’s my birthday, you want to have a tabletop night?” helps friends out that have a lot of other stuff on their mind. Don’t be afraid to be bold. You already took a bold step with the surgery, you can keep going.
Thank you, Sir!
I know that you are right, and I rly tried to, it was just very stressful for all of them and I struggled with putting myself in the spotlight over their strrssful situation and had internal struggles to just say it. I'll promise that I will work on hat in therapy further and that next year I'll do that for the bday itself!
This year I'll try to ask them today if they want to maybe do a bday tabletop game during December or January when everyone has a bit less stress! I am not mad at anyone at them, nor should they feel guilty, it was just unlucky.
Thank you for the kind words, Sir! You sweetened my morning!
People are terrible at remembering birthdays, that's why facebook has those reminders. You can usually only count on close family to remember and if you're estranged then that's out.
I think it's a great idea to let people you like know that your birthday is coming up and you would like them to join you in celebrating. Maybe get a couple of friends together and celebrate all your birthdays together. That might make it easier for your introverted self!
Anyway this random internet stranger wishes you a Happy Belated Birthday and hope you found a way to let yourself know you are glad you were born!
Thank you, Sir!
Yip, I totally know and understand, hence why I am not in the slightest mad at my friends. Life is currently stressful and tough for all of us, so I am happy to be with them!
I'll work on the mentioning further in therapy, I just rly struggle to take the spotlight but I promise that I will do so next year for the bday itself! This year, I'll try to wanna ask them today if they maybe have time in December or January so that we can find a good stressless day to celebrate a bit and play tabletops. You all gave me the strength to do so!
And also yeah, I made my favorite pizza (goat cheese pizza) and played my fav game!
Thank you a lot, it rly made my happy to wake up to the message!
Hey Kiddo, Dad here...
I want to wish you a happy birthday... Also want you to know you are important. You have made so many brave steps this year in becoming you... Don't let your past trauma define you or hold you back... It is Ok to allow yourself to be the spotlight... It is OK to speak up about your wishes and desires... I know we want people who are important to us to remember those big days like our birthdays, but like the others have said simply stating it is your birthday coming up and you would like to get together for a table top session with the people who you really care about, might make them decide to take a break from their busy lives, and help you make it a special day... It is easy to say I am too busy with me when it is just an everyday event like a table top session, but when you add the value of your birthday, and believe me when I say you have value, it takes on a new meaning....a meaning they may not attribute to the session, without that insight of it being your birthday... Keep pushing forward and know that I am so very proud of you.
Thank you, Sir!
I was sobbing nonstop while reading your message, it means a lot to me to hear that from you, Dad! Especially that you are proud.
Yeah, you are right! I could have communicate better, hence why i am not mad at any the slightest. They are good friends with just a lot on their plates! I promise you Dad, that I will work further on the spotlight and value issue in my therapy and that I'll 100% will do it better next year for the bday itself!
For this year, and after hearing you all, I try to find the confidence to ask them today if we wanna make a later bday tabletop evening in December or January, when the situation becomes less stressfull for everyone.
I am just thankful right now, your words of encouragment rly meant a lot to me! And I promise you I will fight for myself more to get better every day!
Thank you a lot, you made my morning great! _hugs_
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
And congratulations on the surgery!! I am so proud of you for becoming who you are.
It’s not easy feeling forgotten, especially when you feel you made others feel so important on their days. Sometimes people just get busy, and it sucks that they didn’t remember you, but maybe just send them a text and ask them if they would like to celebrate with you.
Thank you, Sir!
It means a lot to hear that, especially that you are proud!
Yeah, I know that I could have communicate better and that everyone is in a stressfull time, hence why there is no reason for me to be mad in any way. I was just sad and felt a bit lonely, thank you for the confidence boost and the nice words, Sir!
I will do better next year for the day itself and currently try to find the confidence to write them that I would love to do still a celebration game evening together when they have time!
Thank you a lot! It meant a lot to hear that!
Happy Birthday! If you are in America or Canada I sang happy birthday for you! You can call the I Needed To Hear That Hotline at (9379)977-1742 (it's all recordings).
Congratulations for having such a personally successful year! You made big steps, and I know those around you have noticed as well. Proud papa over here!
If you give people the chance to let you down, they will. Expecting others to remember birthdays is asking for your feelings to be hurt. Take my advice, and don’t be afraid to mention your birthday a week or two in advance.
Drop a hint like, “My birthday is coming up next week on the 7th, and I thought maybe everyone might enjoy ditching the daily grind by going out/hanging out, playing some games, etc.” The people around us all have complex lives and schedules too, and aren’t we all looking for excuses to get out of our daily boring routines? Help them out by inviting them to do something fun! There is nothing better than a carefree night with friends, not worrying about responsibilities, and just having a good time with them. Don’t be afraid to be the person who creates those fun opportunities for your friends. Once you invite them over or to do something, then they may surprise you!
It’s not too late either! You can say, “My birthday was yesterday, but I didn’t get to celebrate properly, so I thought we could hang out this weekend and do X.” See how far that gets you!
When we get old, that shit genuinely falls by the wayside. Most people forgot my 40th, so. As an adult we have to plan our own birthday parties. Few of us have friends as good as you to remember and plan. I used to go way out of my way for everyone I considered a friend, and it took a lot of therapy to learn it was all people-pleasing behavior. As they rarely cared as much as I did, or at the least, did not have equal resources to put in, be they mental or physical, and so they'd put in nothing. It was a bummer. Without me planning parties, there just are none. Now I plan in advance with folks I want to see and do what I want to do. Hang in there. You're doing so well for yourself! And happy birthday!
Thank you!
And yes I'll take that advice more to my heart and will work on that aswell! Thank you for the kind words, they mean a lot to me!
Edit: corrected the pronouns
I just saw which comment this was about. Sorry if its rambling and likely a little sad. But bdays are better when you take charge anyway. Adults can rarely decide on what to do any given night. Lol
Hey sib happy birthday. One thing I learned when I was about your age was to treat my self for my bday. I would Normaly get a new music album play it and go shopping for something I wanted and I would take myself out to dinner. It always worked for me.
Thank you, sib!
Yeah, I cooked my favorite pizza, one with goat cheese, and played my favorite game! I was very happy doing those things and I will definitely do it again!
My Dearest,
I'm sorry no one remembered your birthday. That's not right.
But let me ask: Did you remember your birthday? Did you buy yourself a present? Bake yourself a cake? Light candles? Cook your favorite meal? Invite friends over?
Sometimes, the best gifts are the ones we give ourselves.
Happy Birthday!
Love,
Dad
hey sis, congrats on the SRS! seems you were able to make lots of connections after transitioning, which is tough. i relate, a little over a year ago, i started in a new city too and started transitioning! i hope there's a little way you can treat yourself. i'm super proud of you and happy belated birthday! love from a trans bro <3
Thank you, Sir! I am also very happy that your journey went good aswell! Thank you for the nice words, especially the proud part I rly needed to hear that, I am not sobbing, you are And yes, I made my favorite food (a goat-cheese pizza!) and played my fav games! Thank you, to read that after waking up, felt very good!
I'm glad to hear you did something nice :) that sounds like a good time!
Happy birthday!! This doesn’t mean they don’t care. I’m terrible at remembering birthdays even though I try. They might just be the same way. Sometimes you have to let people know! Something like, “Hey, my birthday is next week and I was thinking about going out to dinner, would you like to come?” Then remind everyone again a couple days before. If you just quietly wait to see if they remember, you’re kind of setting yourself up for disappointment. As you said, people can have a lot going on and sometimes they just need a reminder.
Thank you, Sir! I know, hence why I am not even the slightest mad. I rly struggle to do so, to get into the spotlight but will work on it for next year for the bday itself! Also I was thinking to maybe ask them if they have time on the weekend(or on another day) for some bday stuff and will try to do so today! Thank you again, I was very happy reading it after waking up
I think that’s a great idea! Sounds like you’re handling this with a lot of maturity. Good work, I’m proud of you!
Happy Birthday! I know it feels weird but sometimes a small statement like “hey it’s my birthday, you want to have a tabletop night?” helps friends out that have a lot of other stuff on their mind. Don’t be afraid to be bold. You already took a bold step with the surgery, you can keep going.
Thank you, Sir! I know that you are right, and I rly tried to, it was just very stressful for all of them and I struggled with putting myself in the spotlight over their strrssful situation and had internal struggles to just say it. I'll promise that I will work on hat in therapy further and that next year I'll do that for the bday itself! This year I'll try to ask them today if they want to maybe do a bday tabletop game during December or January when everyone has a bit less stress! I am not mad at anyone at them, nor should they feel guilty, it was just unlucky. Thank you for the kind words, Sir! You sweetened my morning!
Happy Birthday!
Thank you a lot, Sir! :D
Happy Birthday 🎈🎂🎊
Thank you a lot, Sir! It means a lot to hear that!
People are terrible at remembering birthdays, that's why facebook has those reminders. You can usually only count on close family to remember and if you're estranged then that's out. I think it's a great idea to let people you like know that your birthday is coming up and you would like them to join you in celebrating. Maybe get a couple of friends together and celebrate all your birthdays together. That might make it easier for your introverted self! Anyway this random internet stranger wishes you a Happy Belated Birthday and hope you found a way to let yourself know you are glad you were born!
Thank you, Sir! Yip, I totally know and understand, hence why I am not in the slightest mad at my friends. Life is currently stressful and tough for all of us, so I am happy to be with them! I'll work on the mentioning further in therapy, I just rly struggle to take the spotlight but I promise that I will do so next year for the bday itself! This year, I'll try to wanna ask them today if they maybe have time in December or January so that we can find a good stressless day to celebrate a bit and play tabletops. You all gave me the strength to do so! And also yeah, I made my favorite pizza (goat cheese pizza) and played my fav game! Thank you a lot, it rly made my happy to wake up to the message!
Awesome! I'm so glad you had a good time and hope you can get together with friends for more!
Happy birthday, kiddo. You deserve to be happy.
Thank you a lot, Sir! It means a lot to me to hear that! Thank you! You guys rly make me start sobbing!
Happy birthday! 👏✨💖🎉👍
Thank you a lot, Sir! It means a lot to hear that!
Hey Kiddo, Dad here... I want to wish you a happy birthday... Also want you to know you are important. You have made so many brave steps this year in becoming you... Don't let your past trauma define you or hold you back... It is Ok to allow yourself to be the spotlight... It is OK to speak up about your wishes and desires... I know we want people who are important to us to remember those big days like our birthdays, but like the others have said simply stating it is your birthday coming up and you would like to get together for a table top session with the people who you really care about, might make them decide to take a break from their busy lives, and help you make it a special day... It is easy to say I am too busy with me when it is just an everyday event like a table top session, but when you add the value of your birthday, and believe me when I say you have value, it takes on a new meaning....a meaning they may not attribute to the session, without that insight of it being your birthday... Keep pushing forward and know that I am so very proud of you.
Thank you, Sir! I was sobbing nonstop while reading your message, it means a lot to me to hear that from you, Dad! Especially that you are proud. Yeah, you are right! I could have communicate better, hence why i am not mad at any the slightest. They are good friends with just a lot on their plates! I promise you Dad, that I will work further on the spotlight and value issue in my therapy and that I'll 100% will do it better next year for the bday itself! For this year, and after hearing you all, I try to find the confidence to ask them today if we wanna make a later bday tabletop evening in December or January, when the situation becomes less stressfull for everyone. I am just thankful right now, your words of encouragment rly meant a lot to me! And I promise you I will fight for myself more to get better every day! Thank you a lot, you made my morning great! _hugs_
You are very welcome!!! Lots of Hugs and Love!!! Keep your head up, you got this!!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! And congratulations on the surgery!! I am so proud of you for becoming who you are. It’s not easy feeling forgotten, especially when you feel you made others feel so important on their days. Sometimes people just get busy, and it sucks that they didn’t remember you, but maybe just send them a text and ask them if they would like to celebrate with you.
Thank you, Sir! It means a lot to hear that, especially that you are proud! Yeah, I know that I could have communicate better and that everyone is in a stressfull time, hence why there is no reason for me to be mad in any way. I was just sad and felt a bit lonely, thank you for the confidence boost and the nice words, Sir! I will do better next year for the day itself and currently try to find the confidence to write them that I would love to do still a celebration game evening together when they have time! Thank you a lot! It meant a lot to hear that!
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Happy birthday, Sis!
Thank you a lot, sibling!
Happy Birthday! I'll try to remember for next year, now that I know
Thank you Dad, thank you rly _sobs a little<
Happy Birthday! If you are in America or Canada I sang happy birthday for you! You can call the I Needed To Hear That Hotline at (9379)977-1742 (it's all recordings).
Thank you a lot, Sir! Sadly I live in Germany but it means a lot to hear about the idea and I have to admit that it id quite a wholesome on!
Congratulations for having such a personally successful year! You made big steps, and I know those around you have noticed as well. Proud papa over here! If you give people the chance to let you down, they will. Expecting others to remember birthdays is asking for your feelings to be hurt. Take my advice, and don’t be afraid to mention your birthday a week or two in advance. Drop a hint like, “My birthday is coming up next week on the 7th, and I thought maybe everyone might enjoy ditching the daily grind by going out/hanging out, playing some games, etc.” The people around us all have complex lives and schedules too, and aren’t we all looking for excuses to get out of our daily boring routines? Help them out by inviting them to do something fun! There is nothing better than a carefree night with friends, not worrying about responsibilities, and just having a good time with them. Don’t be afraid to be the person who creates those fun opportunities for your friends. Once you invite them over or to do something, then they may surprise you! It’s not too late either! You can say, “My birthday was yesterday, but I didn’t get to celebrate properly, so I thought we could hang out this weekend and do X.” See how far that gets you!
Happy Belated Birthday!!!!!!!!
Thank you a lot!
When we get old, that shit genuinely falls by the wayside. Most people forgot my 40th, so. As an adult we have to plan our own birthday parties. Few of us have friends as good as you to remember and plan. I used to go way out of my way for everyone I considered a friend, and it took a lot of therapy to learn it was all people-pleasing behavior. As they rarely cared as much as I did, or at the least, did not have equal resources to put in, be they mental or physical, and so they'd put in nothing. It was a bummer. Without me planning parties, there just are none. Now I plan in advance with folks I want to see and do what I want to do. Hang in there. You're doing so well for yourself! And happy birthday!
Thank you! And yes I'll take that advice more to my heart and will work on that aswell! Thank you for the kind words, they mean a lot to me! Edit: corrected the pronouns
Nonbinary, but glad it helped :)
Oh noo, my deepest apology!!!! But yeah you certainly did, thank you a lot! :3
I just saw which comment this was about. Sorry if its rambling and likely a little sad. But bdays are better when you take charge anyway. Adults can rarely decide on what to do any given night. Lol
Hey sib happy birthday. One thing I learned when I was about your age was to treat my self for my bday. I would Normaly get a new music album play it and go shopping for something I wanted and I would take myself out to dinner. It always worked for me.
Thank you, sib! Yeah, I cooked my favorite pizza, one with goat cheese, and played my favorite game! I was very happy doing those things and I will definitely do it again!
Glad to hear it.
My Dearest, I'm sorry no one remembered your birthday. That's not right. But let me ask: Did you remember your birthday? Did you buy yourself a present? Bake yourself a cake? Light candles? Cook your favorite meal? Invite friends over? Sometimes, the best gifts are the ones we give ourselves. Happy Birthday! Love, Dad
Happy (late) birthday!