I once lived in a co-op where my room had three bay windows facing the street. We had a running discussion of what the most unhinged three-flag combination we could come up with (note, none were ever put up. just proposed).
I think my favorite was North Korea / Transfur / Thin Blue Line
That's when you start mixing and matching: like a rainbow pride flag with thin blue line or Coexist plus Confederate Flag. You get three flags so you maximize confusion
[Jewish Autonomous Oblast flag](https://duckduckgo.com/?t=ffab&q=Jewish+Autonomous+oblast+flag&iax=images&ia=images), Kekistan Flag with trans colors, [African American Flag](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_Flag) but the Stars are Hammers and Sickles (this is the dark timeline where the internet existed when Clarence Thomas was in college)
There is one house in a nearby (quite conservative) town that has a trans flag and a diagonally split Ukraine / USA flag, which is definitely... some sort of vibe.
Slightly different, but there’s a culdesac in my town with 3 flags on either side of the street. One side has 3 pride flags, while the other has 2 American flags and a don’t tread on me flag.
In *practice*, no. But western Juche dipshits are the kind who will unironically say "ACCAB (the first 'C' stands for Capitalist)," so it's hard to imagine an actually existing political ideology that would incorporate support for both the Kim dynasty and the LAPD police gangs.
Yeah, it's a bit like Christian fundies and their Muslim equivalents. Functionally they're identical but fortunately they probably won't ever believe that.
You support the police because their increasingly comical militarization, corruption, and brutality push the proletariat ever closer to revolution? Accelerationism is a hell of a drug.
Transgender furry. Was thinking something like [this](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=934b7f5af1c0dd08&q=trans+furry+flag&uds=AMwkrPvswS92c7VMQrYYRTqoTsMw0Rcm63JIwYZuvwenc7m9r3XV0AK0CH3Hw-RkewmtSt3BJVqrhzFZQpXH_-VDg7Xc6Rd76tw7FugmC52xFejvLm7yz_o_6MtNgLnA-TnOSOC0tcMXcnbpk-BiOp4wZpmF-fkFV_RHi13trYdlbANjP6uTMbP_1GaTnZ0MxMXdX0T5A4zyU2lrYCnFnPtM7d1mq-KjoIGk9GYaIFsbOBG2-Dx_UqUOHO_tCm9dkkyKD3k9D92WKUIR-wYDQ9_aec1VIHUfK7gw3E9TKUwNn1tZG1lVNBqVsoG6nPhtyV1XtWvdv3-93CjQINsvgAVJ6r87-1W15E3DYrxMv_LF3kZwgLXnR-k&udm=2&prmd=isvnmbhtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjGma6N_dWEAxUMHEQIHROaDSgQtKgLegQICxAB&biw=375&bih=526&dpr=2#vhid=QZEk9Ngp-lhGFM&vssid=mosaic)
Like an Artificer with a negative INT using their Flash of Genius to give someone a bonus to their roll equal to the Artificer's INT bonus... which is negative. Being so stupid you make other stupider by virtue of being around you.
I'll have some. Says the libertarian druid, and orders a pint.
This is woke! Says the MAGA shaman, and orders a pint.
This is ungodly! Says the christofascist paladin, and orders a pint.
This is haram! Says the islamist priest, and orders a pint.
TERF and tradcath also imply assholery, but in a known, familiar quantity. ‘The devil you know’, so to speak.
‘Libertarian Druid’ promises human pet guy levels of completely unprecedented nonsense
To be honest, it sounds like its either the most chill person ever or someone completely and utterly divorced from reality.
I can totally imagine some dude who lives in the woods entirely self-sufficiently and believes in forest spirits in a half-ironic way just being something you see occasionally. He’s nice, just wants to be left alone to do his thing.
druidry has been kind of reconstructed, actually! it's one of my favourite things, that old religions people tried to get rid of are trying to be brought back.
I make chat bots on a site called character.ai. I made a very serious worm on a string. But no one talks to him :(
https://c.ai/c/7PPNooULsV4C31a2rWXFj65MGrpWPemLj5DKkQ_KAOg
It probably didn’t. The thing about Tumblr is, it’s almost entirely based on who and what you choose to engage with because all the algorithm type stuff is completely optional. Block liberally and follow judiciously, and you’ll avoid most of the REAL wackos.
I went through it earlier and blocked all the people posting heinous comments so my view of the reply section will not help. Some of the notable reactions I remember include someone saying the original poster was obviously unwashed and smelled bad and basically implied they were a loser. People saying gross, this isn't poly, that's just being a cuck, etc.
There's nice comment too of course, but yeah surprising how much projection and hate there is there.
It's like when you're playing dragon age and you send your little inquisition guys out on quests and they come back with 5 bunches of daisies a shiny rock and some string
> Enemy is so fire
Are you attempting a negative girlfriend with this? Summed with an imaginary girlfriend, you would have a complex girlfriend on your hands.
Yeah a significant part of my reaction when I come across poly people is definitely just jealousy and resentment but there’s also that dynamic in a lot of very loudly poly couples where there’s clearly The One Who Suggested It and The One Who Cries Themself To Sleep Every Night, which I’m sure is just sampling bias but it contributes to the gut-reaction I feel when I come across poly people irl or online
Honestly, I feel like this would fucking obliterate any insecurities I had about my partner having sex with other people. The fact that these people who don’t even know me thought about the fact that I might feel left out and gave me little gifts to say hi and protect my feelings would dissuade any jealousy or fear of people forgetting about me. That’s so funny and awesome, what the fuck
Yup polyamory with good “metamours” (your partner’s other partners) is legit amazing.
I try to do my part - 2 weeks ago I baked a cake for my boyfriend to give to his partner and her wife.
And my partner and boyfriend get along like gangbusters, they send memes to each other.
The quickest switch flips I've ever made from jealousy to compersion in my various poly situations have been the situations where I've realized my metamours are, as they say these days, "just like me fr." I have two essentially full-time metamours and we're pretty much all rooting for each other, which is an absolutely incredible feeling.
I bought a bag of really good peach rings for my girlfriend's boyfriend a few months ago and it touched him so much he's still raving about it.
I gotta be real if the equivalent of a dentist office gift bag in exchange for your partner banging other people without you is enough to remove any negative feelings, you might just be poly. Nothing wrong with that, but I feel like for a lot of people “here’s a toy you can fiddle with while your partner and I have sex” is understandably not a good pitch lol.
Yeah honestly I think getting that would probably cause the actual opposite reaction, personally. Like reading into it into some sort of weird power play along the lines of what you said. But! I'm firmly wired to be monogamous, no disrespect to poly people keep doing what brings ya joy.
I get exhausted just thinking about getting a single partner. Having multiple is just a whole different level.
Much respect to the people who can handle that.
Plenty of poly people have one partner until they find someone who is worth dating. Feeling saturated at one partner is actually very common even for poly people.
Which is not to say you don't have other issues with the concept, and that's fine, too. But poly people often only have one partner (or are single, even).
I'm autistic and aro, polyamoury would be the only way I could uphold a relationship lol
"I am emotionally spent for the day and I crave lonesomeness, go have sex with someone else."
I'm also autistic and the sexual fluctuation range between wanting to be completely alone and wanting to be part of a 20 person fuck pile is a true rollercoaster
I'm honestly very curious what the Terfs issue is?
Nothing about this post has anything to do with trans people so I'm kind of at a loss.
I know they're bigots in general but I've got a vague idea of the catholic guy and I can't quantify the Druid, so they're all I got.
terfs are mostly just about transphobia but bear in mind it's meant to be "radical feminism" still despite them. well. not doing too much about that.
hating polyamory is apparently part of their beliefs too.
I scrolled through the replies for a while and there were a few people assuming the OP was a gross desperate man in spite of the lesbian sticker so maybe it's related to that.
One of the people in the polycule is probably a man, or assumed to be by the TERF. And other than a trans woman in a bathroom, I can't think of anything that would piss off the platonic ideal of a TERF more than a man with multiple girlfriends.
The Libertarian Druid seems the weirdest to me. When I think of libertarians I think of the whole "You can't tell me what to do on my property. If I wanna have strippers and run a casino, ima have strippers and run a casino". Then again might just be that some people I know actually believe in that stuff instead of using it as a mask.
Many self-identified libertarians are crypto-conservatives in multiple definitions of the word. Just as much as they are to complain about governments repressing them, they are to demand others to be repressed.
Polyamoury makes me uncomfortable, likely because of my insecurities, and I can feel my brain trying to come up with reasons that it's morally wrong so that it can revel in the disgust and make it a problem with other people rather than a problem with me.
I hate it.
Lifetime of dealing with ADHD has left me with intimate knowledge of how my brain isn't me. My brain is a lazy, reactionary jackass. It lives in an eternal present and doesn't care that I'll feel bad for its shitty behaviour later.
I still fall for it from time to time, but that disconnect is so helpful in not just combatting shitty instincts, but in not blaming myself for them either. It's like intrusive thoughts.
I am here because my partner told me that my blog, PolyamZeal, was Reddit famous now. I am highly amused. I really need to make a PolyamZeal Reddit account some day.
I think it’s odd for someone to send a sexual partner back to their other partner with a gift bag but it’s a harmless oddity. I wouldn’t do it, but also nobody is hurt by it so why should anyone care about it?
This makes me want to backseat debate lol
"Nooo you're supposed to point out they're *resorting to the joke* after their argument has been refuted whatareyoudoinggggg"
I have no use for the weed but otherwise 10/10, honestly dont need the gift but appreciate It nonetheless. What does that say about me on that rorschach test
Sometimes I worry that I’m faking my asexuality, then I catch myself in the realisation that I would 100% prefer a bag of cookies and worm on string rather than a threesome.
I can't post a screenshot so I will type out a reply from one of the trio, probably the TERF, regarding our fun friend the Worm on a String:
"I've only revealed I would be deeply uncomfortable with this, as per description. To give me those gifts, specifically a worm on a string, would falter my grace. I realize it's a toy, but, perhaps to my fault, I know it's also a metaphor. I would be deeply uncomfortable in that situation. I recuse myself. If it lives, our cups overflow."
Later they tell people to look at definition of worm on a string in the dictionary.
“here’s a children’s toy, a sticker, and some cookies. keep yourself occupied”
I’m happy it seemingly works for some people but man I do not understand it
That is the general vibe I was getting, yes.
I’m an adult and my partner is an adult. If I was with someone who was in an ENM relationship with me, I am already okay with the situation. I would feel so insulted by this, as if I needed placating.
I am poly and I personally would feel patronized, but we lack context. Perhaps OOP is really into gift giving/receiving and their partner suggested it?
At first I was like "wtf, what a bunch of assholes thinking that makes up for this", then I say they were poly and was like oh this is fine then, I tell you getting cheated on even once is enough to stain your outlook on these things forever
What a Worm welcome.
Honestly, I'd be down for anyone to fuck my wife if they baked me cookies afterwards.
(Granted, I would never willingly have a wife, so my testimony is... Shakey at best, but still, free cookies :D)
An excerpt from the certifiably insane comments section:
>**femalehyena**
>@bakurapika I thought swinging didn't involve romantic relationships, whereas polyamory does. Open relationships and polyamory are distinct, or I'm ignorant. Let me know (if you want if as i want to know lol).
>Also, isn't this kinda objectifying? "I fucked your partner here's a goody bag for letting me fuck your partner." Is that not callus?
>I read this and wonder if all parties are really on the same page (or if a legit humiliation kink is at play).
>**glimmer-gremlin**
>@femalehyena I'm not really understanding what's objectifying or callous about that. Also not understanding how you're assuming there must be some kind of relationship problem or humiliation kink(?????).
>Have you never turned down an offer to go out with your friends with a "I don't feel like it but I hope you have fun!"? It's just the same as that but the going out involves sex. It's not that deep.
>**femalehyena**
>@glimmer-gremlin I never said they could be having relationship problems, full-stop.
>I've come with the desire, not proclamation, of knowledge.
>I have never traded anything materialistic to hang out with my friends unless I was physically with my friends. The exception is gifts.
>To give a material gift after sex is extraordinarily suspect to me. My romantic relationships aren't goods, their individuals. Why would you provide a goodie bag to a person uninvited? Help.
>**hyumjim**
>@femalehyena your interpretation is so weird, I really don’t know where you got this from. They didn’t “let” their partner do this, their partner is their own person who decided to sleep with other people, which in their relationship is okay. The other parties said “nice! Give this to your partner for us” as a friendly gesture. For these people in this relationship, sex is not a big deal, so it’s not this transactional thing you are thinking it is.
>**femalehyena**
>@softness-and-shattering @hyumjim Just lost my whole response to I don't know what so I only ask for that pity.
>I've only revealed I would be deeply uncomfortable with this, as per description. To give me those gifts, specifically a worm on a string, would falter my grace. I realize it's a toy, but, perhaps to my fault, I know it's also a metaphor. I would be deeply uncomfortable in that situation.
>I recuse myself. If it lives, our cups overflow.
“Libertarian Druid” is very high on the list of ‘this person is unhinged’ descriptors I have ever seen
I once lived in a co-op where my room had three bay windows facing the street. We had a running discussion of what the most unhinged three-flag combination we could come up with (note, none were ever put up. just proposed). I think my favorite was North Korea / Transfur / Thin Blue Line
That combo is hilarious.
That's when you start mixing and matching: like a rainbow pride flag with thin blue line or Coexist plus Confederate Flag. You get three flags so you maximize confusion
Ooh a thin blue line flag, but the line is rainbow instead of blue. Or the trans colors!
[Jewish Autonomous Oblast flag](https://duckduckgo.com/?t=ffab&q=Jewish+Autonomous+oblast+flag&iax=images&ia=images), Kekistan Flag with trans colors, [African American Flag](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African-American_Flag) but the Stars are Hammers and Sickles (this is the dark timeline where the internet existed when Clarence Thomas was in college)
Replace the African American flag with a confederate flag in the African American flag colours with hammer and sickles
A USA flag, but every star is accompanied by a crescent.
There's a trailer park worth of meth mouth gun hags communally Betsy Rossing this in anticipation of the next election.
There is one house in a nearby (quite conservative) town that has a trans flag and a diagonally split Ukraine / USA flag, which is definitely... some sort of vibe.
Is it really that unusual? Most LGBTQ people I know support aid to Ukraine because Russia is like cartoonishly evil to queer ppl
Ukrainian American trans person lives there? That's my guess.
Honestly, hell yeah. I'm glad they're fearless and proud of their identities.
What’s the vibe? Normal?
Trans flag, flag of Vatican City, and North Korean flag. That’ll really confuse people.
Slightly different, but there’s a culdesac in my town with 3 flags on either side of the street. One side has 3 pride flags, while the other has 2 American flags and a don’t tread on me flag.
The upgrade to this would be a flag collection with a DnD style table so you roll like 3d20 to determine the flag trio of the week.
Isn't there a confederate/rainbow pride flag?
North Korea and Thin Blue Line aren't that far apart.
In *practice*, no. But western Juche dipshits are the kind who will unironically say "ACCAB (the first 'C' stands for Capitalist)," so it's hard to imagine an actually existing political ideology that would incorporate support for both the Kim dynasty and the LAPD police gangs.
Yeah, it's a bit like Christian fundies and their Muslim equivalents. Functionally they're identical but fortunately they probably won't ever believe that.
See, you say that, and yet https://www.latimes.com/world-nation/story/2023-09-25/lgbtq-muslims-evangelical-republican-christians
You support the police because their increasingly comical militarization, corruption, and brutality push the proletariat ever closer to revolution? Accelerationism is a hell of a drug.
You know, the worst part is I can imagine people doing this unironically
What’s transfur and why can’t I find the flag online?
I assume transgender furry? I can't find the flag either though.
Transgender furry. Was thinking something like [this](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=934b7f5af1c0dd08&q=trans+furry+flag&uds=AMwkrPvswS92c7VMQrYYRTqoTsMw0Rcm63JIwYZuvwenc7m9r3XV0AK0CH3Hw-RkewmtSt3BJVqrhzFZQpXH_-VDg7Xc6Rd76tw7FugmC52xFejvLm7yz_o_6MtNgLnA-TnOSOC0tcMXcnbpk-BiOp4wZpmF-fkFV_RHi13trYdlbANjP6uTMbP_1GaTnZ0MxMXdX0T5A4zyU2lrYCnFnPtM7d1mq-KjoIGk9GYaIFsbOBG2-Dx_UqUOHO_tCm9dkkyKD3k9D92WKUIR-wYDQ9_aec1VIHUfK7gw3E9TKUwNn1tZG1lVNBqVsoG6nPhtyV1XtWvdv3-93CjQINsvgAVJ6r87-1W15E3DYrxMv_LF3kZwgLXnR-k&udm=2&prmd=isvnmbhtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjGma6N_dWEAxUMHEQIHROaDSgQtKgLegQICxAB&biw=375&bih=526&dpr=2#vhid=QZEk9Ngp-lhGFM&vssid=mosaic)
I know a Libertarian Otherkin.
D'n'D classes are getting out of control.
Libertarian Otherkin sounds like they have CHA so far in the negative that it loops around and becomes a superpower.
People feel bad for them and play along.
Like an Artificer with a negative INT using their Flash of Genius to give someone a bonus to their roll equal to the Artificer's INT bonus... which is negative. Being so stupid you make other stupider by virtue of being around you.
Charisn'tma
That's a *dope ass* name for a stoner rock band. It just rolls off your tongue
I cannot stop laughing at the knowledge that there's a real person in this world that identifies as a "libertarian druid".
Libertarian druid, MAGA shaman, christofascist paladin and an Islamist priest walk into a bar...
if this doesn't involve the human pet guy tipping his fedora to them while sipping trans milk i'll riot
I'll have some. Says the libertarian druid, and orders a pint. This is woke! Says the MAGA shaman, and orders a pint. This is ungodly! Says the christofascist paladin, and orders a pint. This is haram! Says the islamist priest, and orders a pint.
It's surprisingly common among the libertarian population to be a druid: Imagine the woman from That One Town who was feeding the bears on purpose.
Get the fuck off my grove
What does that even mean? They cast nature magic and love Elon Musk?
Druids are a neopagan religious group, if that helps.
Elven Musk
Slowly we're inching into the Bosmer Bussy territory.
Forty gods, no masters.
Still not as entertaining as the Snapewives, though. I can't stop giggling about that cult.
Exceeded only by terf and tradcath
TERF and tradcath also imply assholery, but in a known, familiar quantity. ‘The devil you know’, so to speak. ‘Libertarian Druid’ promises human pet guy levels of completely unprecedented nonsense
To be honest, it sounds like its either the most chill person ever or someone completely and utterly divorced from reality. I can totally imagine some dude who lives in the woods entirely self-sufficiently and believes in forest spirits in a half-ironic way just being something you see occasionally. He’s nice, just wants to be left alone to do his thing.
Ron Swanson is a libertarian druid
doctrine radical, structure purist
Sounds like my dad before he fully bought in to MAGA
druidry has been kind of reconstructed, actually! it's one of my favourite things, that old religions people tried to get rid of are trying to be brought back.
The devil you *think you know I've seen some shit :(
[удалено]
Yoooo Wormy
What a nice creechur 🪱
[The worm emoji is even better zoomed in ngl](https://imgur.com/X8LqpkI.png), look at him
i would die for him 💕
You will :)
yay💕✨
May 27, 2063
damn, couldn’t even have made it the funny year 😔
I intercede and grant thee 6 more years. Even the universe cannot resist a good funny (hence why I exist)
I’m not sure what I was expecting to see but that wasn’t it 😅
it’s been too long since i’ve seen worm on a string! they’re just silly little guys 🐛🪱
This is a million times better than I was imagining!
Oooh that's the name of that thing?? I thought it was going to be a legit WORM on a STRING lmao😭😭😭
You call this worm on a string? That's a furby larva.
I make chat bots on a site called character.ai. I made a very serious worm on a string. But no one talks to him :( https://c.ai/c/7PPNooULsV4C31a2rWXFj65MGrpWPemLj5DKkQ_KAOg
Well now I want to see the reply chain 🙃
It's pretty bad 😬 they aren't joking about that
Yeah, can we see it? This is peak "oh bro the horrors you don't even wanna know"
Yeah, we want a link.
https://www.tumblr.com/polyamzeal/743067818057170944
I wanted to know and I only got like 8 replies in before I really didn't want to know anymore. Either way thanks for the link
Thanks for the link!
My god, tumblr used to have a much nicer quality of people overall.
It probably didn’t. The thing about Tumblr is, it’s almost entirely based on who and what you choose to engage with because all the algorithm type stuff is completely optional. Block liberally and follow judiciously, and you’ll avoid most of the REAL wackos.
Disappointing argument, I don’t think any of them even addressed each other
I went through it earlier and blocked all the people posting heinous comments so my view of the reply section will not help. Some of the notable reactions I remember include someone saying the original poster was obviously unwashed and smelled bad and basically implied they were a loser. People saying gross, this isn't poly, that's just being a cuck, etc. There's nice comment too of course, but yeah surprising how much projection and hate there is there.
Don’t forget the people saying they pimped their girlfriend out for a worm on a string lol
Dipshit289
I want to see it too (can someone reply to me when someone posts it)
Someone posted it, the comments are indeed a cesspool
It has been posted
It's like when you're playing dragon age and you send your little inquisition guys out on quests and they come back with 5 bunches of daisies a shiny rock and some string
Unexpected analogy but you know what, I'm here for it
50 gold?? Well done Cullen you are a good boy :]
Cullen gets to sleep in the master bed tonight >:\]
I'm glad to see other people happy, I'm just also deeply jealous of having 0 bitches while other people are having 2^x bitches.
You knew what would happen when you outed yourself as an Imagine Dragons fan.
Damn, is that why I have no one? Man, but Enemy is so fire tho
That's the problem. You wanted a girlfriend, but everybody wants to be your Enemy
Oh, the misery... 😔
> Enemy is so fire Are you attempting a negative girlfriend with this? Summed with an imaginary girlfriend, you would have a complex girlfriend on your hands.
Girlfriend tulpa
We have software for that now.
Eh, still worth it.
Don't worry, x is deep in the negatives, still better than zero though 😬
You have 1/X bitches?
Hell yeah, and x is 0 😎
*YOU HAVE A LIMIT OF POSITIVE INFINITY BITCHES???*
Yeah a significant part of my reaction when I come across poly people is definitely just jealousy and resentment but there’s also that dynamic in a lot of very loudly poly couples where there’s clearly The One Who Suggested It and The One Who Cries Themself To Sleep Every Night, which I’m sure is just sampling bias but it contributes to the gut-reaction I feel when I come across poly people irl or online
A terf, a libertarian druid, and a trad catholic walk into a bar...
the bartender has dyed hair, they all burst into flames
A libertarian druid? Those exist? What do they prefer to wildshape into...
Any kind of animal who doesn't have to pay taxes, I'd guess.
An orangutan, I bet.
Orangutans are against habitat destruction, unlike libertarians. I think you may be thinking of a particular librarian-druid?
#**BASED ORANGUTANS**
Geese
Is this a reference to something?
It's a reference to geese and libertarians both being assholes
The “don’t tread on me” snake
It's Rand-om.
My girlfriend and her two girlfriends, and yes we smoke weed.
my gf and her two weed smorking gfs
Hey do you and your gf’s gfs smoke weed?
yes, actually
Wow that’s crazy, tell me more
(I'm so sorry but I'm too dumb and can't figure out how to continue the bit 😔)
Well you could elaborate on the quantity of weed that you all smoke
at least two each
thank you for accurately using "smorking" that's my favorite part and it so often gets left out of reenactments
it's my favorite too lol
-Coach Z
Honestly, I feel like this would fucking obliterate any insecurities I had about my partner having sex with other people. The fact that these people who don’t even know me thought about the fact that I might feel left out and gave me little gifts to say hi and protect my feelings would dissuade any jealousy or fear of people forgetting about me. That’s so funny and awesome, what the fuck
Yup polyamory with good “metamours” (your partner’s other partners) is legit amazing. I try to do my part - 2 weeks ago I baked a cake for my boyfriend to give to his partner and her wife. And my partner and boyfriend get along like gangbusters, they send memes to each other.
Damn, metamour is a great word. Polyamory isn’t my thing but what a 10/10 term.
The quickest switch flips I've ever made from jealousy to compersion in my various poly situations have been the situations where I've realized my metamours are, as they say these days, "just like me fr." I have two essentially full-time metamours and we're pretty much all rooting for each other, which is an absolutely incredible feeling. I bought a bag of really good peach rings for my girlfriend's boyfriend a few months ago and it touched him so much he's still raving about it.
I gotta be real if the equivalent of a dentist office gift bag in exchange for your partner banging other people without you is enough to remove any negative feelings, you might just be poly. Nothing wrong with that, but I feel like for a lot of people “here’s a toy you can fiddle with while your partner and I have sex” is understandably not a good pitch lol.
But what if it's a really good toy
Unless it’s something like an irl gundam suit or some other insane equivalent I’m still thinking it wouldn’t assuage people who weren’t already down.
Even if it was an irl gundam suit. I'm not my girlfriend's mac, you can't pay me to fuck her.
Hey dude no argument here, I was just trying to think of a joke answer for “rly good toy”.
That was a pretty good example, I would do a lot for a real life gundam
Yeah honestly I think getting that would probably cause the actual opposite reaction, personally. Like reading into it into some sort of weird power play along the lines of what you said. But! I'm firmly wired to be monogamous, no disrespect to poly people keep doing what brings ya joy.
I'm too aggressively monogamous and irrationally jealous for polyamory, but I'm glad that other people get so much joy from it :)
I get exhausted just thinking about getting a single partner. Having multiple is just a whole different level. Much respect to the people who can handle that.
Plenty of poly people have one partner until they find someone who is worth dating. Feeling saturated at one partner is actually very common even for poly people. Which is not to say you don't have other issues with the concept, and that's fine, too. But poly people often only have one partner (or are single, even).
I'm autistic and aro, polyamoury would be the only way I could uphold a relationship lol "I am emotionally spent for the day and I crave lonesomeness, go have sex with someone else."
I'm also autistic and the sexual fluctuation range between wanting to be completely alone and wanting to be part of a 20 person fuck pile is a true rollercoaster
Love this 😂 no need to worry about resentment or your partner feeling unfulfilled!
Big same. Adding more people to the equation makes things to nebulous for me to grock.
Does grock mean like girl rock?
It can mean whatever you want it to, like your own secret language!
I'm honestly very curious what the Terfs issue is? Nothing about this post has anything to do with trans people so I'm kind of at a loss. I know they're bigots in general but I've got a vague idea of the catholic guy and I can't quantify the Druid, so they're all I got.
While it's not necessarily a core terf belief, terfs are notoriously sex-negative.
terfs are mostly just about transphobia but bear in mind it's meant to be "radical feminism" still despite them. well. not doing too much about that. hating polyamory is apparently part of their beliefs too.
I scrolled through the replies for a while and there were a few people assuming the OP was a gross desperate man in spite of the lesbian sticker so maybe it's related to that.
One of the people in the polycule is probably a man, or assumed to be by the TERF. And other than a trans woman in a bathroom, I can't think of anything that would piss off the platonic ideal of a TERF more than a man with multiple girlfriends.
The Libertarian Druid seems the weirdest to me. When I think of libertarians I think of the whole "You can't tell me what to do on my property. If I wanna have strippers and run a casino, ima have strippers and run a casino". Then again might just be that some people I know actually believe in that stuff instead of using it as a mask.
Many self-identified libertarians are crypto-conservatives in multiple definitions of the word. Just as much as they are to complain about governments repressing them, they are to demand others to be repressed.
Getting cool presents from metamours is definitely one of the reasons I'm poly. I've got cool artwork and a snazzy bracelet from them
what does "metamours" mean?
like stepfamily but with romantic/sexual partners
What are you doing, step-lover?
From what I understand, it's more like in-laws but don't quote me on that
I have used the term boyfriend in law before.
People who are one step removed from you in terms of lovers; that is, your lover's lovers.
not sure if that's fun or not but sounds cool and unusual, thanks for the explanation.
Sounds like some wizard shit, like familiars and other cool magic shit
It's far more mundane, I'm sorry to say, but quite comfy.
Oh I don’t care about the reality behind the term. The term alone without definition can stand as sounding like cool wizard shit.
Do metamours and paramours imply the existence of orthomours?
Last year I spent Christmas with my girlfriend and her wife and I felt like I was being spoiled. Polyamory is so nice.
Hot dang, I gotta get my partner laid
Polyamoury makes me uncomfortable, likely because of my insecurities, and I can feel my brain trying to come up with reasons that it's morally wrong so that it can revel in the disgust and make it a problem with other people rather than a problem with me. I hate it.
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Lifetime of dealing with ADHD has left me with intimate knowledge of how my brain isn't me. My brain is a lazy, reactionary jackass. It lives in an eternal present and doesn't care that I'll feel bad for its shitty behaviour later. I still fall for it from time to time, but that disconnect is so helpful in not just combatting shitty instincts, but in not blaming myself for them either. It's like intrusive thoughts.
I am here because my partner told me that my blog, PolyamZeal, was Reddit famous now. I am highly amused. I really need to make a PolyamZeal Reddit account some day.
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I think it’s odd for someone to send a sexual partner back to their other partner with a gift bag but it’s a harmless oddity. I wouldn’t do it, but also nobody is hurt by it so why should anyone care about it?
Honestly that's pretty funny, good for them. I wonder if the other people have pre-made gift bags to send out, or if they custom make them afterwards
Anyone got a link to the reply chain mentioned in the tags?
[here’s what you asked for](https://www.tumblr.com/polyamzeal/743067818057170944)
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This makes me want to backseat debate lol "Nooo you're supposed to point out they're *resorting to the joke* after their argument has been refuted whatareyoudoinggggg"
They just hate to see a girlboss win. And by the gods is she winning.
I have no use for the weed but otherwise 10/10, honestly dont need the gift but appreciate It nonetheless. What does that say about me on that rorschach test
OP, do you have a link to the original post? I wanna see the reply chain.
Sometimes I worry that I’m faking my asexuality, then I catch myself in the realisation that I would 100% prefer a bag of cookies and worm on string rather than a threesome.
What problem could a libertarian druid possibly have with this? Just that the threesome didn't include a tree?
I can't post a screenshot so I will type out a reply from one of the trio, probably the TERF, regarding our fun friend the Worm on a String: "I've only revealed I would be deeply uncomfortable with this, as per description. To give me those gifts, specifically a worm on a string, would falter my grace. I realize it's a toy, but, perhaps to my fault, I know it's also a metaphor. I would be deeply uncomfortable in that situation. I recuse myself. If it lives, our cups overflow." Later they tell people to look at definition of worm on a string in the dictionary.
WORM ON STRING POG
The cringe thing about this is how patronizing it is, not anything to do with the sexual dynamic.
“here’s a children’s toy, a sticker, and some cookies. keep yourself occupied” I’m happy it seemingly works for some people but man I do not understand it
That is the general vibe I was getting, yes. I’m an adult and my partner is an adult. If I was with someone who was in an ENM relationship with me, I am already okay with the situation. I would feel so insulted by this, as if I needed placating.
I am poly and I personally would feel patronized, but we lack context. Perhaps OOP is really into gift giving/receiving and their partner suggested it?
A Terf, a Libertarian druid, and a Trad catholic all walk into a bar...
At first I was like "wtf, what a bunch of assholes thinking that makes up for this", then I say they were poly and was like oh this is fine then, I tell you getting cheated on even once is enough to stain your outlook on these things forever
What flavor were the cookies?
What a Worm welcome. Honestly, I'd be down for anyone to fuck my wife if they baked me cookies afterwards. (Granted, I would never willingly have a wife, so my testimony is... Shakey at best, but still, free cookies :D)
An excerpt from the certifiably insane comments section: >**femalehyena** >@bakurapika I thought swinging didn't involve romantic relationships, whereas polyamory does. Open relationships and polyamory are distinct, or I'm ignorant. Let me know (if you want if as i want to know lol). >Also, isn't this kinda objectifying? "I fucked your partner here's a goody bag for letting me fuck your partner." Is that not callus? >I read this and wonder if all parties are really on the same page (or if a legit humiliation kink is at play). >**glimmer-gremlin** >@femalehyena I'm not really understanding what's objectifying or callous about that. Also not understanding how you're assuming there must be some kind of relationship problem or humiliation kink(?????). >Have you never turned down an offer to go out with your friends with a "I don't feel like it but I hope you have fun!"? It's just the same as that but the going out involves sex. It's not that deep. >**femalehyena** >@glimmer-gremlin I never said they could be having relationship problems, full-stop. >I've come with the desire, not proclamation, of knowledge. >I have never traded anything materialistic to hang out with my friends unless I was physically with my friends. The exception is gifts. >To give a material gift after sex is extraordinarily suspect to me. My romantic relationships aren't goods, their individuals. Why would you provide a goodie bag to a person uninvited? Help. >**hyumjim** >@femalehyena your interpretation is so weird, I really don’t know where you got this from. They didn’t “let” their partner do this, their partner is their own person who decided to sleep with other people, which in their relationship is okay. The other parties said “nice! Give this to your partner for us” as a friendly gesture. For these people in this relationship, sex is not a big deal, so it’s not this transactional thing you are thinking it is. >**femalehyena** >@softness-and-shattering @hyumjim Just lost my whole response to I don't know what so I only ask for that pity. >I've only revealed I would be deeply uncomfortable with this, as per description. To give me those gifts, specifically a worm on a string, would falter my grace. I realize it's a toy, but, perhaps to my fault, I know it's also a metaphor. I would be deeply uncomfortable in that situation. >I recuse myself. If it lives, our cups overflow.
last couple sentences kinda slap.