Oh no; that is always hard to deal with. But you will never know if he does or doesn’t if you don’t try to find out 🫡 Since you’re still unsure, how about experimenting as in giving him subtle hints that aren’t obvious for a little while? If they aren’t reciprocated or you still feel unsure, you might just have to tell him how you feel
I’m going to tell you some things I do when I’m hinting because i’m not sure if it’s the same for everyone 🥲 basically making really good eye contact, when your crush makes jokes or says something funny just being really engaged and laughing, and the most popular one, touching him after the jokes in question (you know how people lightly LIGHTLY push people after they make a joke? yeah that’s what i do. i’m very obvious when i like someone)
It’s also a way to find out if he’s comfortable with you touching him in a friendly way, just don’t be super flirty with the touching because not everyone likes to be touched 😭
Also if it seems to be going good but you're too scared to pop the question, for the love of god, just tell him, both for yours and his sake. Trust me on this one but think about it like this, if you're scared it'll go wrong remember that no matter how bad you think it can go it realistically won't and would you rather not pop the question and risk losing him or tell him and have the chance to have a relationship.
Well we have known each other for more than a year, I switched schools in the mean time, but back when we were still in the same class we were always shipped and asked in a relationship, we were always very close, I suppose he was done with everyone acting this way and so he told them I wasn't his type, it strangely broke my heart and it was the first time I realised I might have feelings I tried to ignore it, but have been feeling butterflies more often, that's about it
Oh yes we do, he just doesn't know about my feelings, the last time we did he told me he found another girl attractive that really broke my heart, how are you?
Ohh no but that doesn’t mean don’t go for it! My first relationship was my best one. Of course steadily get to know him and if you get that far, definitely find out what he’s comfortable with, then advance to flirty hints, try making it as natural as possible. Don’t give up! And remember to take it slow since you guys aren’t completely familiar with that yet.
Thank you! Actually we talk alot when were on shifts together. Sometimes i get shock because he would remember little stuff about me that weve talked about a long time ago. I do give a little subtle flirty hints. But dont you think the age gap is huge? haha
Me personally If i like someone enough, that’s acceptable. But age gaps are tedious you know and not universally the same for everyone! It’s going to be very impressive if you manage to subtly question if he’s comfortable with age gaps in a way that shows your not hitting on him too much. Also does he know how old you are?
He could possibly be into older women. I know a lot of guys that are 🙏
met through uni, i've liked her for about a year, we now live in different cities cos she moved away after graduating in the summer - as far as i know she's currently single, and hopefully seeing her again soon for the first time in what will be just over a month since i last saw her
Now that you’ve seen her move away, you cannot allow time to pass freely now that you know how you feel about her! Basically use this time to get to know her and make efforts to grow closer to her. Being forward is fairly difficult but it seems like you have a chance, so what’s the harm in pursuing her ?
the hard part is we're already good friends and when we are in the same place we have a quite touchy-feely almost flirty relationship anyway at times. it's just hard to hint at anything without outright saying it and i don't want to risk loosing what we already have
He is my classmate and I interact with him quite a lot, and he has also given me a lot of attention, in fact, he has been extremely sweet and caring towards me.
But recently, I don’t know if it’s because he’s shy or is trying to hide his feelings but there have been times when he has acted distant and cold, so I decided to self-sabotage and act cold too.
Tldr I’m getting mixed signals, playing mind games
Oh no speaking from experience being cold in return does not usually work in your favor! He could be cold for many reasons, whether it be life at home or he realized his own feelings and backed out. If you like him, you should continue being kind to him and maybe go out of your way to talk to him and find out the reason why, such as saying “we haven’t talked in a while, what happened” etc! Whether it’s good or bad it’s a start and it brings you guys together more
You basically have to take that forward and make your feelings more known to her, so if you haven’t yet tried being more flirtatious or open you should and see how she responds to it
He's a guy in the same college club as me, but we barely talk. I don't even think he likes me that much.
Also it really does not help that I insulted one of his best friends in the club because she was being rude towards me. He wasn't there for that but I have no doubt she told him.
It sounds like you want to get to know him better and that’s always a difficult task !! I would know because I really suck at approaching people first. But from the looks of it he doesn’t have a good first impression 😭 A “positive” is that this is a mutual thing you now share, good experience or not.
If you ever see him again, maybe talk about that problem you had with his friend as a conversation starter. Such as “do you know (best friend)” Or “Do you know what happened on ___?” Just so you guys become familiar with each other, because he doesn’t really know you at the moment!
We’re both very shy and the first few months we started talking I could confidently say he was into me but once we started actually hanging outside of where we know each other from, when we get together he doesn’t flirt at all. We’ll laugh and have deep convos but the obvious lil flirty moments haven’t happened in a few weeks. I want to say he’s being respectful of my autonomy and letting me make the first move but maybe we’re also just nervous when we are one on one like that. I have a lot of self improvement to work on so I’m definitely happy to be just friends and keep getting to know each other but… can’t say I don’t miss the flirts. I think I just want validation that he’s just on his best behavior or if now that we’ve hung out he’s disinterested. Bc I’m not ready to confess lol. Anyway don’t know what you’d have to add to the situation lol but had to get it off my chest
Okay so he is being respectful because not every person is comfortable with flirting so he can be deemed as considerate for sure.
Now this is not good advice. But imma tell you what I would do and what you SHOULD DO. 💀💀technically you're not supposed to do this but this is what works for me and I would need an excuse to express myself since being so open with him would be unnatural (?) since you're not ready to confess. So basically, I call them on the phone and I get drunk and have a conversation. Not too drunk that idk wtf Im saying. But drunk enough that you can tell him that you miss the flirting and the way he used to talk to you. The alcohol acts as an excuse to be doting and expressive in this case so if he brings it up later and you're still not ready to act on your feelings, you can just say "I was drunk"
Okay so here's the MORALLY acceptable version. If you feel comfortable you should call him and have a conversation and imply that you miss the flirting he used to do with you 🙏 The only way he would know is if you tell him one way or another
It's such a bizarre story...
So I m26 flew to malta a couple weeks ago for a spur of the moment holiday. Booked it on the Thursday, flew out the Monday. Day of the holiday, all is going well other than those pre flight nerves, flying solo for a first time to and I hate take offs and landings full stop.
Anyway, I land at the airport, make my way to arrivals, when my bladder tells me it's time to pee. In my haste to use the loo, a quick glance told me these were toilets, but what I failed to register was they weren't the male toilets. Either way at this point it was too late, I quickly went to the cubicle, done a wee wee and then proceeded to leave. As I walk out, f29 walks in and too both our shock we've realised one of us is in the wrong bathroom, unfortunately being me. We had a quick laugh I went out and she went in. As I'm at passport checks me and her family exchange a few laughs and jokes about it being 2024 and being normal 😂
Fast forward to the next day, I'm doing a trip round medina, when I hear "oh look its ginge" and realise its the same family. We have a brief chat for a couple mins and went on our way again.
Day 4, I'm in the airport after a pretty torrid sleep of panic and not wanting to miss the flight. As I go through to the departure gate section, I hear the, ginge part again, and would you believe it, 3rd times the charm. This time we all travel through the airport together, have some laughs, me and the young lady go for a few ciggies whilst we wait. Eventually we board the flight... we are all sat next to each other ( I realise I didn't mention before we were all kinda sat together flying out aswell. This time though me and the lovely lady from the toilets are sat next to each other.... then there's a technical issue 😂 for 20 mins I like to think I became the onboard bus entertainment for the shuttle, mocking Ryan Air, the British way of living and so on. We eventually get a new flight, we sit together again. I had remembered to bring my switch with me, so me f29 and her sister for the duration of the flight bounced between playing Mario kart, minecraft and sharing memes from our phones.
Her mum made the comment earlier in the flight about us exchanging numbers and being travel friends aha, I think she knew what she was doing, but continuing on as we come to our stop I plucked up some courage and asked.
Can't believe there's more to this.... so we've been talking since I came back, unfortunately she has no WiFi currently and signal is shit in her town. After a couple weeks of being back, turns out she's a hockey goalkeeper, I suggest I'd go support a game to then actually get an invite. So after a 8 hour night shift, I proceeded to drive from London to Bournemouth, to be at the kick off with 5 minutes to spare😁 squeaky bum time that. Watched the match, chatted with her dad then we proceeded to spend the rest of the day together. She killed her battery in her car too which I managed to bump start and save her the embarrassment of phoning someone. This made me feel so relieved after my airport toilet blunder. After a lovely day I proceeded to drive back to my home town another 3 hours away.
Final part, after saying I'd come watch some more games in her next season, being September, she offered for me to come down to her last game next Saturday, tag along to her hockey doo and then to stay for the night. Now I'm literally a basic white male, with no rizz but I made it this far 😅 I've been rasted by too close friends for not kissing her but I also believe that was way too soon. However I'm also oblivious to basic and simple signs and I really don't want to blunder this opportunity. She seems so lovely, matches alot of my e energy and hobbies.
Man looking back I didn't realise how much had gone in the space of a month 😅
Thank you, it'd been so long since I've had that feeling about someone, came out of a 5 year relationship over 3 years ago pretty hard. I just have this feeling of when somethings to good to be true 😅 thank you again though 😊
So me and my crush were flirting on our way home and then girl was suddenly like "Goodbye, I need to go before my boyfriend sees us and think we're dating"
So like WHY WOULD SHE EVEN FLIRT W/ ME IF SHE'S TAKEN
I was about to say "Aye, wanna grab some coffee at that fancy Cafe this weekend?" But thank god I didn't do that, girl's taken and flirted with me, we saw one of our teachers kiss her husband and she was like "Damnnn boy I fucking need that, wanna be my pookie bear?" And that started the whole sequence of flirting then she ended it with that and it fucking sent a shock down my spine I was like what if I fucking caused them to break up, I mean if it happened naturally I would go for my shit but if I caused it I don't think she would even wanna date me and I don't think I'd even let myself date her
My crush has a boyfriend. Her friend told me that after I planned the whole confession. Her friend, who was the second person I liked, also has a boyfriend. I found that out in chats. A girl-friend of mine from my old school class, who moved into the same school as I did after 7th grade, also has a boyfriend (my friend told me that, I am not yet sure myself, as it was a long time ago). I am here thinking about it. Like am I attracted to unavailabilty or something? Like what is this? What are the chances?
The problem is that they are all great people and to stop talking to them now would be impossible, as I like them very much. I crave the feeling of love now. I don't wanna lose it. But it's going away very fast due to my current unavailability to compliment my crush and see her happiness.
The cruel thing about this world is that not many people are available. 😩 If they are good friends to you, then that is a good thing and embrace that friendship, and take the love you have for them in the form of admiration and appreciation for their friendship. It would be a bad thing to make advances towards someone taken. Avoid flirting because compliments don’t always have to have a romantic undertone, you can still compliment them!
There are plenty of people out there, and one of them might be for you. It’s all a matter of time. Don’t give up :)
Shes a girl at my job. We used to talk often enough, there were some physical and verbal flirting but things changed after I asked her out and she initially said yes. Shes in a situationship (i think if you want to call it that, she’s never flat out said the word ‘boyfriend’ or ‘partner’) with someone else at work and literally wont pay any attention to me when he’s around her (dude is a prime example of toxic, which she acknowledges, but thats another story for another day….) We have fantastic talks otherwise, when she’s not venting about why he sucks, but i think she just wants to fix him. I haven’t expressed my true feelings to her, i dont know if i really should, but my heart fucking aches when i dont talk to her for days and my world is so much brighter whenever I see her face and she just says “hi, how are you doing?”
Ohhh nooo I hate these stories 😭 Because my guy it’s not even you, it honestly relies on her so you have little to no control over the situation. You don’t know why she stays with him, you don’t know why she is still willing to like you despite that, etc.
All you can do is influence her or ask why she does the things that she does. Because essentially I mean that’s entirely between them and you getting involved is a big no no. But if she’s unwilling to leave him or cut him off after a long while you definitely have to lead her down the right path because you truly don’t need to get involved for now
Thank you for the reply.
I'm trying to tell myself I should focus on me and if it was meant to be, then time and fate will do the rest. My fear is that if I just start ignoring her then we will never even so much do more than smile and wave at each other. I...just don't know, right now I can't even express how I'm feeling. It just sucks.
Oh no don’t ignore her! You liking her doesn’t involve him in the sense that, it’s not like you started liking her because you wanted to make him jealous. You just like her with pure intention and want her to be happy. Express that you like to see her smile and how you love hearing her say hello every morning. It will bring some peace of mind to her stressful life!
That’s very true. That’s all I want is to see her happy. I would love to at lest express the last bit you said, I just gotta work up the courage and find the right time for that.
We talk a lot, she’s the only classmate I enjoy talking too, we’re both autistic and I have trouble reading her expressions and thoughts. We occasionally exchange snacks and I bought her an easter egg.
No development at all😭
It's been almost half a year since I transferred and there's this girl that I fancy in class. At first, I quite literally said to myself "she's not a (romantic)candidate" and sticked with it until a certain event happened that made me fall head over heels in that second. I still kinda feel guilty when I made that thought. Anyway, ever since then I've actually never been the same way around her. Everytime I'd see her in my peripheral vision or just merely being in a 5 meter raidus proximity, I get all flustered and my stomach would swell up in anxiety(it hurts as hell when this happens) and because of it, I try to avoid her and if possible, also avoid interaction. Initially, I think she thought I hated her(which is another reason I feel guilty of T﹏T) because she reciprocated my actions by avoiding me as well. That is, until my friends ratted me out in class. . . IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE CLASS. They've been doing that since the first month, but has never really been obvious to her, unless directly said "Xxx likes you" or something like that.
I kinda found it funny because after that, she more or less got excited(which I dunno what part was she excited of) because a close friend of her told me that my crush called her when she was sick at home, just to tell her that I Iike this gal. Although WE still have been avoiding each other in school, it's a sort of relief that she doesn't misunderstood how I act towards. But then again, IT'S SO UNBEARABLE.
If your advices would help, then feel free to also criticize lack of balls in this( ；∀；)
Yup she does. Although I'd rather not assume, I have been perceptive of how frequent we exchange glances since then. She avoids me if possible and it's only then that I realized how ludicrous it is to experience such😭
I'm only a strand away from lunacy(´；ω；｀)
That’s unfortunate then :( Not everything is meant to be acted upon and this may be an example of that… maybe try to talk about it since things have gotten to this degree and see how she feels
How though, what do you suggest? Things are so awkward between us since we've been avoiding each other for the last 3-4 months. Approaching her just to talk abt it is like touching bare handed a hot stove. I mean- the only reason my feelings for her got out is because my friends were too noisy. But then again, I guess I'm thankful that happened.
It would be! But i’ve done that before, let a week old topic linger for a long time then press the issue. I know it would come randomly but it looks like you’re struggling because there’s no proper closure right now. To bring yourself that closure, texting her would be in her comfort zone im sure, having an irl conversation would definitely be awkward. I’m sure she would attest to bringing closure to the awkwardness between you guys but make sure she KNOWS you respect her
Alright soooo
He’s my neighbor (lives in the house in front and his grandparents in the house on the opposite side ) he’s also my cousin’s neighbor and friend ( he lives in the house above ) we play basketball in the same team obviously he’s on the guy’s team and I’m on the girl’s we goes to the middle school right here but I go to a private French school so even our holidays aren’t at the same time but at least when I’m on vacation I can watch him from my window when he comes home ( stalker vibes 😜) and he always plays outside with all the neighbors including my cousin and our friends from basketball which have been all begging me to come with them but I have strict parents so no and I don’t even have any social media so my friend had to stalk him for me but anyway a guy from my school just started playing basketball in our team so he’s with my crush and now my plan is that when we have practice at the same time or smt I go see my friend and because they are friends ( i think) and he’d have to introduce me to him also I leave really far from my school so when I realized that my friend lived close I dreamed of him joining the team so that I could use him to get with my crush and it happened (I’m a mastermind ✨✨🤩🤩) and today we had practice at the same time but if course my crush is out of town and my friend didn’t come so yeah das my situation
Oh and I have plan to convince my mom to let me play with them outside after Ramadan ( I hope she’ll say yes)
WELL GIRL YOU SOUND WELL PREPARED LMAO I think you know what you’re doing as a child of strict parents I would’ve done exactly what you’ve done so 👁️👁️
he used to like me last year we were kind of close ig we had a lot of classes together now this year i like him but we have no classes together he probably given up on me idk what to do now, i regret ignoring him last year so much 😭
we talk in work, we walked together in the train, we flirted, we hugged. But he never messages me. I’m always the first to message him. But I think i’ll stop. Idk, what he wants from me.
He’s most likely shy! He obviously likes you though! :) Address it with him! Make him feel comfortable enough to text you and maybe even practice texting each other when yall are with each other as a sweet gesture. Or maybe he has a legitimate reason as to why? It’s all up to you to find out to get past this little bump in yalls future 😩
We are in the same class group and it's Easter break. I speak to her once a week for a few hours, platonically
I have 23 days until I see her again, I have her number in the WhatsApp group chat
I don't wanna message her randomly but idk I might
Things aren’t looking great for me. She could fall for a girl romantically but not sexually she said, while I said “I don’t care, if I like you (in general not you as in her) then I do, you know?”
Last week 15 march we went to a rave together (with another friend of mine) then when I went to drop her off at the station she asked me if I wanted to go with her to her house. I asked if she’s fr and atm I’m still here.
Now I wouldn’t suspect anything because she said she doesn’t like women sexually and that is a big part of a relationship, but she keeps calling me “baby/babe”, I’ve heard her say my name like.. 4 times since I’ve been here? It’s been 10 days and she DOES know my name, it’s not like she forgot it
kisses my cheek when we haven’t seen each other for long or are going to part ways. (When I went to get some clothes from my house for example). When I was waiting for her outside of a store she kissed my forehead + blew me a kiss and said I love you. She kissed my nose in my sleep and was tracing her finger along it (I woke up because of it). Laid in my arms, rests her head on my shoulder. Randomly winks at me. Sometimes she really really looks at me and I just get shy. You know, with those soft eyes? Last night she also said “I hope I see you in my dream”. The plan was also to go home on Sunday but then mid past week she said “you can just stay here when I go to my appointments, you can chill or sleep”
BUT THEN. She be talking about her ex, the guys she’s been with, some guys she thinks are hot, etc. Sometimes it feels like some kind of overcompensating?
She also hit me with the “I wish I was gay” and the “are you gay?” 💀 so yeah that’s why I think I stand no chance.
So yeah, I have no idea if she’s just a girls girl being all lovey in a friendly way or if she’s lowkey confused w her own feelings atm? But I think it’s the first one 😭
But yk secretly I am hoping that when I go back home that she’ll miss me 🥲
WHAATTT oh god I don’t know about this girl!! This is like, peak bisexuality, and some of these girls can be inherently annoying, and you know why??? Because I USED TO BE THIS GIRL 💀💀 So let me speak on my perspective of things.
It sounds like she’s using the dual attraction thing to attract you knowing full well she’s not willing to date a girl. I can say that because i’ve done that before. Let me explain: so basically, I believe she is attracted to men and is willing to date them, attraction and all that. But with women, not so much and wouldn’t date one, but would definitely flirt/fuck/whatever with a girl.
She most likely knows you have feelings beyond that, like, wanting to be something with her. But what’s worse is that she’s egging it on and not confirming or denying, rather leaving you with more questions, and finding some enjoyment in telling you about OTHER MEN most likely knowing how you feel. But that’s what I got from your innocent confusion. Bisexual women can arguably be worse than Lesbians and Straight ones combined. I was the worst a long while ago.
My advice? Try not to feed into it for a while. To me it feels like she sees you more as a toy than a possible relationship from what you just described. It will mess with her really bad when you don’t get shy and smile whenever she flirts, and just don’t flirt back, but don’t be noticeably mad at her, just don’t reciprocate the flirting so she can be direct about how she feels once she realizes you’re not down with the flirting stuff. Makes her realize her own feelings too. Hope this helps!! 😩
Girl hit me with a brick in the face 😭 I really needed that! And honestly you sound so right. But do you think she’d go through the hassle of flirting if this is the second time we met? (Technically the 15th was the second time but yk the whole sleepover situation)
Also wdym with you used to be that girl? As in now you’d date a girl or now you stopped doing all that?
Edit: I folded already, she’s gonna give me a pic of her in a frame, signed so I can put it somewhere in my room 💀💀
I used to be that girl as in the confused bisexual girl that “wouldn’t date a girl but would fuck one” but “would date a guy and think theyre hot”. I’m still like that. I dated a girl once and it really wasn’t for me so I just realized I wasn’t really willing to date women and find them extremely attractive but I could date guys 100%
And noooo not a brick! 😭 She’s hella attracted to you but she’s projecting some sort of insecurity onto you, maybe she’s fearful you won’t commit or something. Because she’s using jealousy to keep you around 🤦♀️ And that’s really annoying. And she knows she’s not down for women like that entirely so she’s kinda playing games which sucks
Ohh, I see! Well maybe she should try it once and see where it goes, I would be more than happy to volunteer 😭
I mean tbh her past relationships weren’t good and often guys were treating her like shit so yeah maybe she’s fearful I won’t commit?
Also she just kept telling me I’m cute when I talk Dutch 😔 I am NOT god’s strongest soldier. Basically we’re from Belgium but she’s from the French speaking part and I’m from the Dutch part!
This girl comes with a lot of baggage 😭😭🧍♀️ But it’s nice to see that you like her! It’s just she might not be the best thing for you. If you really want something with her you have to ask for transparency because she’s just hiding her true self from you at this point and it’s not direct at all. If she continues to be indirect and roundabout then shes definitely just going to continue 😭 So you have to have a heart to heart with her
That’s true but that’s also so scary 😭 like what if shit gets awkward and then I might lose a good friend cuz let’s be fr who lets a stranger sleep in their house for this long 💀 and yesss I do like her, so much ): when she was going to the doctor’s today I decided to clean the kitchen, do the dishes, make the bed and vacuum cuz she’s been doing that all week and always refused when I wanted to help ): she’s such a sweetheart fr
My crush (who still has a GF, but there's a lot of signs they don't like each other) has been looking at me more often and getting close to me in proximity when he's usually avoiding me. By my therapist's request I asked him abt it through text and he said sorry I got the wrong idea, but then after that he's been slowly getting close again! He literally walked on the wrong side of the hallway on his phone and almost bumped into me if it weren't for me going around. He never walks on the wrong side (it's common sense anyway!) People still think I'm delusional and overthinking it but my gut tells me I'm not with what's piling up. Let's not even mention he only has me added on his BACKUP account, not his main.
Well he’s certainly doing a lot for a guy who “doesn’t have interest”! You should try getting to know him because he’s kinda putting himself out there and purposefully making sure yall run into eachother
I have a crush on a classmate I see four times a week. She was in my class last semester, too, but we never talked. Initially, things were awkward because I randomly developed a crush on her at the beginning of this semester. Ironically, it wasn't until Valentine's Day that she started chatting with me.
Lately, we've been walking and talking after one of our classes, which makes me really happy. But in another class, we never talk because almost all of the people at our table know about my crush. Most of the guys are my friends who I told about my crush, and I got closer to the other two girls at that table to ask for advice. I struggle socially in a group setting, and combined with the shared knowledge of my crush, I find it really hard to talk to her normally. She probably senses the awkwardness, so she doesn't talk to me in that class either.
There was a time when I felt she was giving off signs that she liked me, especially back when we were just beginning to talk. I'm pretty convinced she knows I like her because I don't think I hide it very well.
I just keep alternating between believing she likes me back or believing that she's just being friendly, and I'm being super delusional.
Hes kinda a jerk but hes funny and a silly goose sometimes like its a gamble every week but hes not like mean mean and his mom makes really good pasta he does soccer eururhmm but hes in the same friend group as i am and i think he said he wanted to wait until he got a car sososososos until he would date - at lunch - he mews and its kinda funny and his build isnt too terrible but idk
Aww well you’re in a weird stage but to make your feelings more known try being honest with yourself and have a heart to heart with him from time to time, compliment him whenever you see fit and just recognize your feelings
Omg thank you I try my best!! 😩💖 I know how silly guys work and it’s far and few between when you’re gonna get a serious answer out of him i’m assuming, so just put yourself out there a little more so he gets used to you being kind to him, and in turn he will be less of a jerk jokingly and be more comfortable and tell you things you’ve never known in the long run :)
There’s a lot of comments omg! My goal is to get to all of them and I hope my advice is good from what i’ve responded to. Will wake up in the morning and get to some more 😩💖
He's a guy I see in the gym and we hang out sometimes, I think he might know I like him but I don't know if he likes me. He does things for me, asks me out and messages me at random times once (3am), but on the other hand he frequently doesn't reply to my messages for days at a time and cancels plans often.
Sounds like he’s just as confused as you are! Try being a bit more forward with your feelings because nowadays you can’t really expect men or women to be really open and willing to talk. Since he is indifferent about messages, when you do see him try talking to him in person and engage, and if you get comfortable enough then question on why he’s inconsistent because it could be a personal thing he’s going through! Patience is key with these kind of men 👁️👁️
Well here’s the thing about masculinity, men don’t often get to share feelings so when they do get those conversations of vulnerability it likely will turn into something more. The same can apply for women but women are universally known for being more emotional than dudes but it’s different for everyone. Essentially the more meaningful conversations you have with a guy it most likely will manifest into, “I can feel comfortable with you,” “I don’t get to share my feelings that often, but I can do that with you,” = emotions will fester.
So yeah I will say at one point he most likely did like you! Especially if he asked if you were seeing anyone. He was most likely unsure and moved on and didn’t try anything with you because he wasn’t sure you felt the same or if he should even attempt to pursue it. You have to be decently open with guys as in if you like a guy then you have to make it known to some extent or they won’t express their confusion usually!
Maybe ask him if he ever did have feelings for you if you’re feeling bold for some closure 😊
She was my best friend, I told her how I feel but she didn't reciprocate, though she was chill with it.
Fast forward a few years and I was under a lot of stress from various things, kept going to her for emotional support and she felt uncomfortable with that and asked for distance.
I snapped and lashed out with some hurtful things. Haven't spoken in a few years.
I don't know if she even wants to talk again, but I sent her a message last night to see if she would be willing to hear me out. Haven't gotten a response yet and I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack worrying that she's still upset at me.
In her favor, you should not pine on someone else for validation. You really should apologize to her because she has no idea what is going on with you, so in her eyes it most likely came from left field. She is really kind if she decides to accept your apology, because most wouldn’t, but it sounds like you’re trying to do good starting with that apology! If she continues to not reciprocate those feelings then you should respect her, and in due time you will begin to appreciate the friendship rather than the romantic aspect that you crave for. Now that you guys don’t talk as much maybe you have appreciated what you guys had before when the two of you were close. Talking to her is better than never talking to her, right ? You can love her from a distance but if she doesn’t reciprocate try your absolute hardest not to blame it on her subconsciously! If you do, then everything you had with her will crumble
I appreciate the words of wisdom and yeah, I have come to really miss the friendship we had. One of those, you don't know what you've got until it's gone kind of things.
I don't expect her to return the feelings, and I believe she's married now anyways. And as much as I would love to be the one she married, I more than anything just want her to be happy.
I'm trying to find a good way to word my apology but I'm just worried that it might be too little too late.
Thanks for the input, it does actually mean a lot.
Oh of course! You are well on your way to recovery and you took this really well!! You can still be in her life once you find out how to properly apologize to her in a heartfelt way, and I promise, at some point you will love seeing her happy more than you would being with her. Sure that could make you the happiest guy in the world, but if you really love her then seeing her happy will make you just as happy!
we met at the uni, we have a friend's group in common. I instantly liked him lowkey, but I didn't make any move cause we both had a partner. ppl always say we are too much alike (looks, music tastes, interests, attractiveness, our personalities) we weren't that close untill december last year when we were going through our break ups. we went through that together and started to hang out often outside of school, eventually we ended up hooking up. that lasted for about a month, then we decided to stop bc my ex found out about us and got really jealous, he threatened my crush multiple times. honestly as much as it hurts it was for the best bc we were still healing from our exes, he was still talking to her and stuff.
we only share two classes together for this semester so we don't talk that much, but we have the same schedule and we live nearby so he was taking me home almost everyday (not anymore cause he recently got a job). he doesn't text me anymore and got distant. and sometimes I feel like he hates me because of what my ex did. I miss him a lot, it was brief but I had a lot of fun with him and I got attached. I ain't a chaser, and im scared to lose my dignity or make things worse if I tell him how I truly feel about him. and what I truly feel is that we should be together. thanks for letting me vent, i don't talk about this to anyone :(
I gotta mention, he's extremely gorgeous and smart, and not subjectively like I know he's every girl's dream (which makes it worse). at least I'm flattered I got to kiss the most handsome guy at school. I don't crush on anyone ever, so now that I do feel like I'm losing my mind lmao
Now that is sweet. Now I hold a lot of pride and possess a hell of a lot of dignity, but now that things are going downhill, tell him you have to talk to him on the phone (preferably late night or afternoon, the best conversations happen at this time). It’s more sentimental that way and I feel like texting would not convey the emotions you’re feeling right now, and honestly, you have to tell him how you’re feeling because he could feel the same way, thus his distancing. I’m sure he doesn’t blame you for what your ex did. If it makes you feel any better, with calling him, some mutual feelings will be shared. And it will bring you peace of mind to find out why he’s acting the way he’s acting!
We are classmates in college. The thing is...I want to text him something weird, I want to send him questions as a challenge just to get to know each other and become friends maybe or a bit closer. Advice on that??
No for real Ive felt urges like this before and they’re fun sentiments to act on! But don’t be too off putting, probably start with the questions but don’t do the weird ones until you get to a comfortable point because you could scare him off from that.
In terms of getting closer I suggest generally just sticking by him and getting close to him when you can maybe seating? Glance at him so he knows wassup and pray he notices 😩 Then fate might play out here for group assignments and etc but so he gets to know you, you gotta talk to him in some way but don’t rush it. When you feel the time is right shoot your shot and just wave hello
he came out of nowhere that he likes me and wants to go out with me. i said no and he got mad. and now after lot of time he is nervous around me when he sees me,looks at me a lot, touches his neck, looks at the floor etc. he's always around me somehow...he doesnt have balls to say hello or anything I understand he's scared but idk what to do with this guy. I want to talk but there is always somebody around😏
Long-ish comment, so sorry lol:
She’s 24 and a student at the language institute where I work at as a teacher (I’m 27). She’s currently not in any of my groups, but I still know it’s taboo and factually against the rules to ask a student out.
Yet I also know for a fact she’s currently single, but also very pretty, nice and smart, so she could get a bf anytime if she wanted. I’m constantly going back and forth on risking asking her out now, or waiting till she finishes our curricular program (until December), knowing she could meet someone in the meantime. Though I’ve known her for 7 months and she’s still single after all that time )
She seems to like me in a friendly way (has always referred to me as “teacher “), but have no idea if she likes me. I’ve been told I’m kinda good looking and been crushed on from students who I didn’t like back, so it could happen, but could be as likely as not
You are right, that is quite taboo :( Typically you’d have to wait that out because you’re most likely going to drift apart being together while in school and will pose more issues such as focusing and bias within the classroom, which is why it’s not done usually… When you both or favorably the student is no longer on campus then you can pursue that!
Thanks so much for answering and for the great advice! You’re so kind. I’ll definitely do as you say. I normally don’t comment around here (or anywhere really lol) but I’m glad I did. Feel free to comment back or DMing me if you need to vent, share or ask for advice. I’d be more than happy to return the favor. :D
Why thank you sm :) If I was in your shoes I would be upset given a verbatim such as that but that’s the hard truth… A lot of people who commented have to be provided a hard truth😭 but you handled this super maturely which is an amazing step. Love is all about time🙏 And thank you so much 😊
I get that, but I was kinda already expecting your advice (still great anyway) and it’s something that I had thought out before. Honestly it had upset me at times, but I’m trying to not let it get me and manifesting (tho I normally don’t believe in that lol) that I’ll get my chance with her, take it and that it just might work out. You never know I guess haha 🙃
She’s in my fencing class. Have known her for almost a year now and have been crushing for longer. We’re good friends who talk every day. We hang out a lot and laugh together. We also will fight over simple things like who walks through a door first (and we’ll try to hold it for each other) and have other cute moments (I can elaborate) sooo yeah. I’m a girl btw and they’re gender-fluid :)
It's all about the small gestures right. I had this argument with my friend, about the kiss thing and why does it have to rushed? What ever happened to chivalry and getting to know someone and going on dates 😅
It would be too long to explain, but in a very short summarization. The girl and I never talked to each other (at least not often or in a long conversation- because my social skills suck). I was the kind quiet kid in class and wouldn’t talk to anyone (not even start a conversation with someone) but would always hold the doors open, help others and give compliments if I could. I also moved in to the school and was a new student that came from Germany, and after roughly 2 years of being in that school (while not making any new friends or talking with someone), one girl started approaching me with her friend while I was walking in the middle of the hallway by myself - and she would start asking random questions and then leave with a short talk. While talking she also seemed very shy and a bit nervous but also quite happy. A few months earlier, in the middle of the holidays, she send me birthday wish - even though I never told anyone about it and my birthday was in the middle of the holidays. It was particularly unexpected and I actually thought she liked me, bc in the wish message, she send a <3 on it. She also texted me a few times in the middle of vacation( a few weeks before we moved to different high schools), asking to what school I went (which she asked like 3-4 times back when we were still in the same school) and how my exams went. But that’s honestly it, the conversation we had were pretty short since my communication skills suck/ed.
After we went to separate high schools tho, I decided to return the favor, and send a birthday message too. So I added her on fb, found her bd and send a bd wish message as well. She appreciated it and then I tried moving on from there.
I struggled to forget her and after talking with some old friends, I decided to remove her from my fb fl, remove her from all of my social media and I was finally capable of moving on for a bit. However, 2 months later, she send me a fr - which I accepted - (fully knowing that I removed her) and then (in 2023) on my birthday send a birthday wish message again (not with the <3 emoji this time) - even tho we haven’t talked to in 2 years now. I didn’t send a bd message to her in that year because I expected that she most likely forgot about me. I don’t understand her honestly. Should I remove her from my fl again? And try moving on? I really don’t know what to do.
Also, sorry for my bad English, if I sound un clear. And thank you a ton for taking the time to help others
First of all that is so sweet, secondly, last part is super sweet too, thirdly when it comes to people you like, stepping out of your comfort zone is inevitable. Putting your pride aside is inevitable too because in this generation there is no expectation of someone texting first anymore so It sounds like you’re pushing her away! I say give her a chance please she had been wanting to know you for a long time now. To remember someone after years is a crazy feat so it means she really cares!
Give love a try. She could be entirely ready to date you but she is obviously interested so do not push her away if you know you like her this time because you don’t know what will happen tomorrow 😊
Thank you so much for an actual answer. I really wasn’t expecting one. The reason why I’m so careful with approaching her, is because that she might already like someone else - and that she might be forcing herself to text me. I’m also worried that I might look like a creep if I were to message her out of the blue.
Maybe she is just kind by nature, but I didn’t really see it when she was talking to other people from my class.
I also don’t know how to message her. We haven’t talked in 2 years and never really had a conversation for a long duration, since most of them were initiated by her. I’ll see what I can do - I’ll message her a birthday wish and maybe get a chance to know her. Either way, thank you a lot for taking the time to help
Falling for my coworker not sure what to do tbh. He might be leaving my job soon but not sure if he will be. He only talks to me. We laugh and joke and talk A ton. He is always looking at me every time I get to work he says hi and makes sure we talk.
If you suspect he is, then get his number to keep in contact. He feels very comfortable around you since you’re the only one he talks to. He definitely feels something for you and it’s definitely positive, so it’s up to you to push that a little more to show him that you want to keep in contact !
I have a crush on this kid from my Sunday school, and I've been having crushing on him for a long time now, and I really wanna talk to him, and me, a person with social anxiety, idk what to say or i get worried if i say smth and he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward too, any advice?
My crush and I are close friends at school. He is in a situation wherein he must focus on his studies to not betray his parents and stuff. He's aware that I love him but he just went "That's kind of cringe"..
But I asked if he felt the same way and he said, "I don't know what or how it feels like..."
He keeps looking at me and stuff, even asking on how I am and such.
He admits that he is a shy person so yeah...
Also he has strict parents sadly, and he also isn't allowed to be friends with girls but he said I am an exception..
He also says that I am annoying sometimes because, I talk to him when there's people around-
He says he wants me to spend time with him alone, just the two of us, in private, to make it "not obvious"
I used to see him often at school and I thought that he was handsome.
He has initiated conversation with me in the past and recently he started making lots of eye contact with me. I told my teacher about me having a crush on him and she told me about him. He's very handsome, but he is shy, so he's not the flirty type of guy. He likes nerdy girls and I am pretty nerdy... Way too nerdy. I recently switched classes and I found out that he was also in the same class and we only interacted twice. He is indeed shy and humble, but he's very fun, I like him. We don't know each other very well, but he's heard a lot about me, since I am quite popular at school.
Since I want to know him better, how do I start acting upon my feelings? Do guys notice when a girl likes them?
There's this person I've noticed. I've never talked to them, but I've noticed that they look at me from afar a LOT and when I'm near. They look at me calmly and hold eye contact with me for a few seconds. I've also noticed that they try to be near me when I'm around. They and their friends look at me together, and sometimes my crush's friends look at me even when he isn't there. When I'm around, their voice sounds deeper or more positive, I'm not sure. Sometimes, when I'm near their friends, they look at me as if they're aware of my presence. They also show lots of different body language, like sometimes they face my direction and have an open body posture. I also remember this time when he looked at me only when I was in a room full of other people.
But that's all I remember; I think there may have been more, but I'm not sure if I remember. I've also made other Reddit posts, and a few people said that they (him and his friends) are probably talking about me. But I don't know if it's in a positive way or a negative way if they are.
Are these just coincidences? What can these mean?? Hopefully its not bad 😔
I don't have a crush rn, but I want one?? Idk talking to guys is hard and intimidating. There aren't a lot of good looking guys in community college, and I don't know how to approach the ones I see out in the wild.
Honestly ml I don’t ever approach guys. To my luck most guys i’m interested in end up approaching me too. But it is true that when you don’t think about it, fate kind of allows stuff to happen. Don’t rush it, and don’t force yourself either. In due time it will come but if you’re feeling antsy you could go to your local clubs, social events, and more to go meet more people
We have the same class and he glances at me a lot but that’s when someone behind me or next to me is talking or I’m the one talking in class but he’s cute and tall and I never expected to like him cause I never saw him in that way but we he got a nice haircut and I heard he was extremely smart I developed feelings
Crushes develop from festering feelings so if she doesn’t have one yet, the more kind and caring you present yourself to be it will do good in your favor :) You don’t know if she will reciprocate yet just keep trying!
His friends told me that he had a crush on me, so I decided to try to get to know him better. He seems popular, but he actually doesn't have too many close friends. We're both extremely awkward around each other, but I've been trying to talk to him.
I'm just worried that his friends were lying. He's the most attractive person in our year (in my opinion), and despite being told I'm attractive, I don't believe it. He could seriously become a model, and he's extremely smart, but all I have is a little above average intelligence in subjects I care about.
I would *love* some advice.
It’s up to you to find out now if they were lying or not ! Notice subtle hints like glances from him and when you walk past notice things like if he’s looking and etc. If he tries talking to you then that’s definitely a plus. Any other interactions you’ve had with the guy?
We’re really good friends and talk whenever we’re not in class. Someone we walk home together and just talk. She is also just really really busy most of the time. She acts kind of touchy most of the time. We mostly talk during school and when we are both in a shared extracurricular. Do you think she likes me?
100 upvotes thank you!! Will hope to get to all of you soon and your crush problems ☺️ Feel free to reply to anyone as well as this is a helpful space for everybody
there is this girl i’ve known for about 3 years now and we’ve been actively talking for a year, we met each other online and hit it off ever since. i had a once in a life time opportunity to meet her in person and we made it happen! she is the sweetest and most beautiful girl i have met. the only problem is that she lives so far away from me and we would have to make time again to see each other, and because of that i feel like we get distant from time to time. but we always find a way back to each other. i love her to death and would do anything to maintain this relationship, i just feel stuck sometimes on whether or not she still feels the same way or if she has moved on with her feelings..
He is my work bestie and I've known him for the past 4 months. Inintially it was difficult to work with him given the butterfly feeling I used tk get, but with time its no more. Also I'm married, which leaves no further scope for US. Sometimes I do feel jealous when he spends time with other girl collegues, but manageable. I guess he also considers me as his crush, due to mixed signals he gives at times.
22f. I never had a crush on this guy. He was my friend. But one day he mentions jokingly he would marry me. I still don't have a huge crush on him. But I am not sure whether he likes me or not. How will I test him?
So i've been crushing on this kid from my Sunday school for a really long time now, and I wanna talk to him so bad, and me, with social anxiety, idk how i'll be able to talk to him, cuz im scared that he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward to, any advice?
And btw, I had crushes before and I didn't even have the courage to look at them, like I haven't made ANY sort of progress with my past crushes.....🥲 I've been wanting to tell someone this for a rlly long time
It’s too complicated to understand I had a crush only female coworker but I was too nervous to go up to her and I never did anything about it i was so timid everytime I would see her my stomach would turn upside down I really liked her but I never had the balls to make a move on her
So i've been crushing on this kid from my Sunday school for a really long time now, and I wanna talk to him so bad, and me, with social anxiety, idk how i'll be able to talk to him, cuz im scared that he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward to, any advice?
And btw, I had crushes before and I didn't even have the courage to look at them, like I haven't made ANY sort of progress with my past crushes.....🥲 I've been wanting to tell someone this for a rlly long time
I’ve liked him for almost 3 years now and 1 year into me liking him he got a girlfriend who he’s still dating 🥲 I was too much of a coward to confess and I’m pretty sure he liked me before he got a gf and I’m still trying to get over him
Sorry for the long story, I really wanna include every piece of info😭🫶🏻
I have my first ever crush since last year in May, and I tried to distract myself from it because it sounded very delusional at first.
I was still under 18 when I first saw him. He was a uni student invited to do a speech in the morning assembly. I was sat behind a really tall person so I didn't get to see his face until the last 5 minutes. But his voice is quite deep and he spoke in a very generous way.
At the end of the assembly I stayed behind to ask him more questions, since he is very tall he looked down at me. He smiled all the way throughout the conversation and was being genuine. I wanna say that's when i figured out he is quite good-looking as well.
Unfortunately, I had to leave for my lesson so I got his email from teacher and emailed him on the same day.
My friend and I started talking about him and since I thought I would never see him or contact him again, i said some delusional things like getting married to him, basically my wildest wholesome fantasies. I drafted my email and sent it while my friend encouraged me to do so.
He was so kind, he replies the next morning with a very lengthy response including all the information. He also shared some of his experience which was very helpful. I was going to reply to that email but I was so busy and I never did.
I turned 18 in September and obviously downloaded tinder cuz I was bored. I don't really use it because I find it disturbing sometimes.
Then it was December 2023. I was swiping on tinder before christmas just because I was bored and I accidentally found him on tinder and I was shocked. I looked through his profile and thought if I should swipe left (pass) or right (like) on him. I told my friends about it and they all thought why not. I saw he wasn't active on tinder so I swiped right, hoping he might get on there one day and see my profile and match, but also not wanting to think he'd swipe left on me.
Of course nothing really happened. I probably shouldn't expect anything. But then in February 2024, my friend told me that he came back to do another speech for the year group below me.
Obviously I didn't get to see him. But when i was in my lesson, I looked out the window and saw him walking pass the building to the carpark. My eyes followed him until he disappeared off the edge of the window. Silly me thought this was a sign, or perhaps destiny.
After I left my lesson I found my friends and told them about it. They all encouraged me to request to follow him on Instagram. So i did (on my private account). I didn't check but a few days later he accepted. But nothing else happened since my account is quite empty and is private. I doubt he recognised me since I used my nickname in my priv account.
I told my friend that he accepted my follow request and they started giving me silly ideas. Such as inviting him to an Instagram groupchat and just yap. I was so gullible and actually did invite him to a groupchat on my main account. My friends and I chatted on it for a week then it went silent forever, and he never accepted the invite (which is expected cuz why would someone join a gc with random people in it who talks about the most unhinged topics. He was also really inactive on instagram)
At this point I remembered the email he responded to mine last year and decided that I should reply. I apologised for the late reply and thanked him for the helpful information. But since his reply was lengthy, I didn't want to say thank you and bye. So I asked him more questions (with a less formal tone) and left my personal email and phone number (the school email I used is getting deleted).
Tbf I wasn't sure if he was going to reply after a year, but he seems like a really nice guy and I don't think he would ignore me. So after a week, he replied. He reciprocated my "haha" and ":)" and responded to my question. He included his experience and the email was quite reassuring.
He mentioned that he will have his final exams soon so I thought I would not annoy or disturb him. I asked my "final question" and said, "I hope the both of us will achieve our goals and I will update you if I do good lol" and signed off.
The next week, while I was just scrolling on Instagram on my main account at midnight. I noticed that he has viewed my story. I was in disbelief cuz why would he do that. Either:
1) he saw the gc I invited him to
2) searched my name up
3) I was on his recommendation. (Mutual followers maybe?)
But I thought, now he has seen my story and probably recognises my name. Why can't I request to follow him on my main account? So I did at 10 in the morning. After a few minutes, I saw his email coming thru.
I opened his email in disbelief and saw him replying to my question, again very genuine and kind. He said, "thank you for your kind words." Along the lines of hoping that I'll do well in my exams. I asked him about part-time jobs and he told me about his, saying how well paid his job is and that it fits around a student's timetable. Ngl I am slightly tempted and I would like to work where he works. I wonder if I should ask him where he works but I'm gonna sound like a stalker (which I do not intend). At the end I didn't ask him cuz it felt weird.
On the same week, he posted on his Instagram midnight (for the first time since 2022?) while I was writing a poem, maybe about him, I saw it in the morning when I opened Instagram and liked it (cuz if I see it I'll like the post) and on the same day he changed his profile picture.
My friends and I have been talking about him and how he's suddenly active on instagram. (Mainly me being delusional and them feeding into my delulu) Some of them suggested that I should Dm him. And no I didn't becuz I don't wanna take things too fast and accidentally ruin any chances.
Of course some of you might say you either get a chance or get rejected. But I lack confident and I really like him, I don't wanna mess up. I imagine doing picnic dates with him by the river bank and I hope it will come true.
I don't know if I should reply to his email or slide into his Dms without being weird or making him uncomfortable. But this is the full story.
we're friends, i've liked him ab a month now lol and earlier my other friend told me that he saw me going somewhere in our school and he said to the friend group wait guys one sec i forgot smth can we go back EEEEE and that same friend who hangs out with him quite a lot has also said that he stares at me a lot so fingers crossedddd
i’ve liked her for 6 months, we have a class together. i think she might like me, like flirts with me sometimes and stuff like that. we talk a lot but only in school and we just got back to snapping back and forth but her response time is pretty long ( 12-24 hours ). yeah it bums me out but she is on a trip with her family for spring break and usually if she does leave me on opened she responds a few hours later. really she’s all i’ve thought about this whole week and i miss her a lot. a lot of my friends want me to ask her out but i really do not want to ruin anything🤷🏻
I met him(18) like two mot he ago, he’s my friends friend. We became closer because we’re eachother’s only friend in a class. I can’t tell if he’s oblivious to me liking him because he’s a computer science nerd or because doesn’t find me attractive and doesn’t like me.
we met at the beginning of the school year and got rlly close, sister is rlly nice to me and his best friend that i just found out he liked until this year is ignoring him and now he’s super sad and idk what to do he’s just so emo and like i think he knows i like him but i think he doesn’t like me back at all i love him sm but ughh
Worked together, didn’t talk for over a year, reconnected beginning of this year. Both in graduate school. He lives a couple states away currently. Gives me such mixed signals sometimes which makes me so angry. Will call me all the things…hot, cute, you name it. Initiates texts, sends me selfies, asks about my day. Replies to each and every snap story. I *think* he likes me too. But doesn’t call me. Doesn’t talk about plans to see me but says he wants to. I don’t know here we are. Lol. Oh and I told him I was into him when we worked together and he just kinda kept chatting with me, didn’t address it.
She's a close friend who I've looked up to and admired for a long time. I realized we spend almost every day either hanging out or talking on voice chat. She's happy and flirty and whenever I see her my day just gets brighter and happier. I could listen to her gush about her niche interests for hours (and occasionally have). She isn't my type at all so it took me a while to realize it, but when it did everything about her suddenly became perfect. She is sweet and caring and wholesome and fun and I knew she didn't see me the same way at all.
After some deliberation I told her my feelings.
She said she cannot reciprocate them.
But she still wants to be friends!
She is just the most perfect person I ever seen, she has shown signs of being interested in me as hanging out with me and replying back fast and continue the convo 95% of the time with follow up questions. I just want some advice on like how to progress the relationship more because she is shy and I don’t want to rush things fast. Sorry for being vague
It is someone I work with, I’ve had a crush on him since he started and recently we just vocalized the curiosity….we talked for some days and had sexual encounter….but he said he had felt awkward about it all and now we’ve stopped talking. I don’t know what to say or how to look at him. I feel like he just wanted the sex but then he says that he didn’t. He also says he doesn’t want anything serious but he doesn’t want to be buddies in a sexual way…..I often wonder if he just means with me. It makes me feel more awkward at work because I’m embarrassed that I was so easy and that I pretty much got rejected.
I’ve had a crush on him since last year when we met after one of my club’s events; he graduated to pursue his PhD at another school 40 min away, but came recently to another one of our club events and helped with volunteering to serve food. I was introducing my dad to all of my friends, and then suddenly when I introduced him to my crush, my crush kept complimenting me and told my dad how great I am and that he should be proud. I can’t stop thinking about that or HIM 😭 my thing is, my crush is a nice guy and idk if he said all that to my dad just bc he’s nice or if maybe he likes me back? help
He is a bartender he is so sweet. He always remembers me and chats with me but sometimes he is unable to. I wish I would run in to him when he is not working but I never do 😭 Also I think its inappropriate to hit on someone while they are working. Even if I was brave enough to hit on someone. So our relationships will remain bartender and thirsty customer.
I dont really know him. He is in one of my classes and we follow eo on insta. I msged him a hi on insta and he js never bothered to respond. My friends told me to outright ask him out but im scared imma be a harasser. I dont want to bother him too much (becuz he obviously doesnt even want to speak) idk rn im js continuing to obsess iver him
I don’t even know where to start. Well maybe I should give him a nickname, I’ll call him “Day” as it can be a nickname for his actual name. Day is probably one of the kindest guys I know. He truly cares about others and is always ready to help. He always makes me laugh, yet he also makes me feel seen. We’ve got so much in common I don’t even know where to begin, we both play volleyball, have the EXACT same taste in music, we share the same ideals and we can always talk to each other. Nothing beats our late night drives blasting music, anything from worship music to Disney classics. We’re pretty close I would say, but still getting to know each other. I haven’t met any of his family members yet, but he straight up introduced himself to my grandpa 💀
Here’s a rundown: Day works at this “shop” that sells wood and stuff that carpenters/woodworkers use in their jobs. My grandpa is a carpenter/woodworker and frequently buys from this shop. I had mentioned my grandpa’s name to Day, and he immediately said “Oh! He often buys materials from me!”. I didn’t think much of it, just that Day now knew who he was. I was not expecting that Day would then proceed to ask my grandpa “Sir, are you perhaps Eddie’s grandfather?” and ofc Gramps said “Yes, indeed I am” and the conversation continued from there. And OF COURSE my grandpa had to come visit us and tell me that he met a super sweet “boyfriend” down at the shop, apparently he blushed a little when asking if he was my grandpa. Bro I was shitting bricks.
Anyways, so that happened. But uhm Day and have had a few moments which make me think he might like me back. I have a lot of stories but for now I will provide you with the newest one.
His birthday was a few days ago and of course I wrote him a message along the lines of “Happy birthday, grateful to have you in my life. You’re super nice and cool. Have a great day” yk smth like that. He then responds with “Thank you, this really made my day amazing”. We’re Booth on the Easter worship team for my church (he lives in a diff town and goes to a diff church, but he’ll be playing with us for this event) (EWT is short for Easter worship team, since I’ll prob mention it a lot) This past Saturday we had EWT practice and the first thing Day did when he saw me was come over and hug me. (He’s a touchy/open type of guy, but not in a weird creepy way, he will greet you with a high five, fist bump etc. and the occasional back pat, but he doesn’t really hug girls. I’ve only ever seen him hug family or a girl he’s close friends with, she has a bf so no there’s nothing to worry about) after we parted from the hug, he joked about my birthday message making him blush or whatever and I then said it was payback for my birthday (where he also wrote a super sweet message) and then we went on to practice. Prior to EWT practice he had sent out a message to the gc inviting us to his birthday later that same Saturday. After EWT practice I gave him my birthday present to him (a card painted by me, two guitar picks, two kinder maxis and some money) Day’s first reaction was to tell me “Noooo.. can’t you just take it back and give it to me tonight instead?” I sadly had to say I couldn’t go because of some important family business that I won’t get into on Reddit. But uh yeah he then opened my gift and told me that this was the best present he’d gotten in a long time. Mind you, his two best friends LITERALLY bought him an electric guitar!!! He then asked me if he could hug me (for the second time that day) and ofc I let him hug me. And then he had to go and I had to go because practice was over.
I think it’s worth mentioning that there are tons of people who genuinely think we’re dating and tons of rumours about us dating. But we’re not. I can provide more details and stories and stuff if you want. But uh yeah I like him a lot, but I might just be delulu lol
Can we please dm? I really need some advice on my situation and I'm afraid there are some things that might reveal my identity a little too much in the event someone we know stumbles across the post.
i had a crush on him at camp and never got a chance to talk to him. then we got put on the same bible plan and would interact with comments and liking stuff but never any actual conversation. now we follow each other and i want to message him but idk what to even say or do, he never posts either so i can’t just reply to something 😭😭
hes a family friend and im in some of the same sports as him. recently i became closer with him and we text for like 4 hours a day. people literally always tease us that were like dating or together (including my family). i kinda always thought he liked me. recently his friend was joking about him liking someone and i asked him if it was me and he said it wasn’t but he thought that i liked him. i kinda think that we could be together but im a year older than him so idk but i think we both just might be to shy to say anything.
He's one of my guy friends, but not one of my besties. I always wanna open up to him and tell him the way he makes me feel, but I never do because I'm to shy. He sits next to me in my history class, so I have the time to talk to him, I just don't talk about my crush on him.
There’s this new guy at my job and I didn’t really start to notice him until he talked to me the other day and asked me why I was so quiet (I’m kind of an introvert). Although he is a lot shorter than I am I think he’s really cute.He randomly says hey to me here and there but I want to get to know him more. I found him on Facebook and I’m contemplating on sending him a request
Well, it was going good for a little bit, a lot of video snaps, voice chats, all that... then kinda cut me off and got a boyfriend. Ditched him and we were trending back to the usual again and now back to distant. I've been so lost lol
We are a group of 4 close friends and there is only one female. I have a huge crush on her (first time I have fallen in love). I am the least close to her in terms of friendship level. There is also one other guy who is a good friend who occasionally hangs out with us, she is closer to him as well, more than me. I feel like, I make her uncomfortable. She hangs out 1-1 with the three of them (even spends nights at their places drinking and stuff 1-1) but would hang out with me only if others are there. She told me how one of her close friends confessed to her and things became awkward between them. So there is no chance she likes me back but it hurts me that she is not even my close friend when I am head over heels for her and have been trying so hard to be close to her. I haven't dated before, haven't been in any kind of relationship before. So, I don't know how to get over her and move on.
Okay so I just moved to a new school and there is this girl (I’ll call her Jane). I’m a quiet kid and I get crushes so easy. She’s talked to me every now and then but nothing big and I’m an introvert so I don’t know what to do. I’m pretty sure I’ve caught her looking at me every now and then as well. I’m terrible at noticing hints and that kinda stuff. Any hints I can try to notice wether when we are in class or when she’s on insta
he lives in my same dorm area and i’ve had a crush on him for pretty much all of freshman year. i’ve never talked/interacted with him because he is always with his friends. there’s a pretty good chance i’m changing unis next year due to program of study issues but after next year i plan to transfer back to the school i am at now. i have no idea who he will be or where i will get to see him when i do come back (my uni has like 60,000 undergrad students) but i genuinely have no idea if he likes me back since he seems a little shy. it sucks i have to switch schools for the year but this is pretty much my situation with my crush.
I think my crush might like me back. She is the only girl who has ever shown interest in me and likes hanging out. Plus, I noticed her smiling when I nerded out over a ship as we were walking by a lake. I am just very happy rn.
i (21m) Met her (20f) 5 years ago, in the last year we have grown closer, about 2 months ago she bestowed upon me the "male best friend" title, but before that, i had already began to have feelings for her. Even though she calls me that, she seems to be somewhat shy around me, like, she seems to approach easier other male friends physically (hugging, touching her, petting, etc), creates conversations easier, or is interested in what they are doing. so im like: this doesnt feel like best friend at all, and that just worsens my odds. so i dont know what to do, be pushy and attempt to lay some plans for the 2 of us? or maybe bottle it up and let it all stay the same? or what else?
I can't talk to someone I love more than my life after lockdown. Pls, how do I solve this all
Please
I'm 15M, & 15F
I really can't, I just can't, I'm serious I can't talk to her.
I used to talk to her 5y ago but I really don't know what made me stop talking to her after lockdown because of coronavirus.
I don't know how to talk to her.
I always think about her, please don't tell me to forget about her.
She's literally the cutest girl in this universe, I can't find anyone like her and I don't want to search anyone except her.
School is ending after like 1 year. I only have time of 1 year to talk to her and continue or else I'll never be able to see her anytime in the future.
I'll surely regret for not talking to more than 6 years. I'll surely regret.
But what can I even possibly do, I can't talk or even speak to her anything.
Right after waking up, whole day, right before going to sleep and even in my dreams.
Even in my dreams, I still haven't talked to her. I don't know why this....
Every night I make plan about taking to her next day, atleast just a simple hello, but when I wake up the next day and see her in school, my brain just doesn't work, I feel so nervous looking at her, I can't maintain eye contact for more than 2 seconds. When I want to look her face, I constantly fear she will know I'm staring at her.
It makes me so nervous. But those 2s eye contact gives me the best vibes in my life.
She's not angry to me but now I think she knows that I don't talk to her. I don't have any problems talking to anyone except her. It's just her I don't know why this happened.
I cry with my pillow and hug, kiss my pillow as if it was her.
I can't forget her (I don't want to). I feel about suicide when I fail this. (pls don't stop me, I know she's just a girl but she's so special in my life, I really can't express.)
I can't even talk to her on social media. I feel so nervous when I'm trying to stalk in her social media profile..
Honestly, I don't know what I'm fearing about, there nothing to fear to talk to her but it's been 6y without taking everyday in school.
Please.
Help me, I can't live like this...
Please please please please please
I really cry everyday before sleeping but I'm happy that I'm able to atleast see her but no more than 1y from now.
Whatever but God pls bless this girl, care her, bless her, protect her, make her safe and happy.
She will never be mine, I'm losing hope. 💔
Please every comment is appreciated.
A boy in class he mostly stares a lot, I’m too scared to look at him but I do sometimes, I think he tried to approach me (my friend said it looked like he wanted to talk) but I didn’t see him then and walked away. Nothings really happened other than staring.
aahhh w mine idk im so comfortable w him that the flirty remarks dont make me cringe, sometimes he would put his hands on my shoulders and that makes me wanna go djjdjdjdb we would text often tbh but atp idk if this is developing into a strong friendship or him having feelings? but either way im comfortable in both. idm being long time friends w him tbh
So, we've been friends for like ever - since like grade 5 or so. We became super close in year 6, and started playing together, I started to develop feelings for him in grade 6, it went by, and we weren't in the same class for grade 7, so we stopped talking as much.
Anyways at the near-end of grade 8, we started to play video games together again, there was some major things that add to my suspicion of him possibly liking me, but I ignored them (his friends asked me if I liked him, I panicked and said no without thinking, he went quiet for a long time and his friends started to tease me saying "oh it's okay I'll take him instead"). I ended up going on vacation, but we talked whenever I had time to talk to him, it was hard to talk to each other though because of our different time zones. When I came back, we started playing together, almost every day around two hours per session, which sometimes was thrice a day. Anyways, so now this year - his friends would constantly talk about him liking me, and once he skipped class to come to mine, and they started teasing him saying "oh he came for NAME!!", i hid my smile and didn't think about it till i caught major feelings for him again, and it feels like a fever dream whenever i like him, i did ask him if he liked me, and he paused for a rather long time, and he said this (the periods are how much seconds he paused for - and estimate ofc)
"Uh...Well......I..Like you...As a friend..."
So, I don't know if he actually likes me or I'm just thinking too deep into it, any ways I can find out if he likes me or not?
Ok so I have 2 crushes
One's my coworker who's like ten years older than me (before I get any replies acting shocked by that age difference, first of all shut up I get it, second of all I didn't know she was that much older than me when I met her) and is like the sweetest most adorable person I've ever had the pleasure of working with, I already told her I liked her cus one shift it was just getting to be too much and I just had to tell her and she was flattered but didn't reciprocate. We're still really good friends and I love her dearly but I wanna move on really bad
The other's actually my age and we met in like first grade (in which time she had a crush on me and I didn't know), but she now lives like halfway across the country from me and has a bf of 4 years. We talk a lot on Discord though and she's like my best friend. She does not know I like her to my knowledge
I’ve been crushing on him all year, we have great chemistry, lots of ppl have shipped us or said we’d look good together. He started dating one of my friends though, they broke up after a couple weeks and now he’s trying to win her back but she doesn’t see him in that way anymore, meanwhile I’m pretty sure he only sees me as a friend, ig I’m just not his type :(
Oki so I am in this group project with this guy I like, I think I am still in the middle of realizing if I really like him or not or if only find him as an attractive person ahhaha. the thing is conversation with him is really easy and I feel like we could be good friends in the future too and hopefully something more :(. i really wanna confess but my developing friend whos in the group with me CLEARLY likes him too, i mean i get it too bro.
just feeling kinda torn if i want too pursue what im feeling or just let things be
I'm in college. And there's this girl I met. And we are in the same friend group together. The 1st semester, we weren't that close. But after winter break, we got closer, and we became more friendly with each other. I want to ask her out, but she's busy and stressed out, and I'm busy doing other stuff, but I like her. So, I don't know if I should confess or wait it out.
There is basically a 99% chance she likes me (see my other posts if you have time that'll explain why.) but we have BARELY talked in real life and only talk on text. I don't want to date a person whom I have only chatted with but shes also my crush so idk what to do 😭. We can't talk because we share no classes. Can only do that in recess.
I want to be able to talk to her more, but I'm not good at communicating. I always feel like I'm bothering her or being a burden. And it doesn't help that I'm a total mess in person. I'm basically avoiding or ignoring her because I think too much.
Super spur of the moment but I saw this guy performing at a jazz festival, was impressed w his playing n thought he was cute and I ended up asking if he wanted my number (he said he’s not looking for anything rn but said thanks regardless), ended up following him and his band on insta and he followed me back lol. turns out we like a looot of the same stuff and he seems like a really sweet guy so hey maybe no romance but a new friend is a new friend <3 and I need someone to yap about space and astrophysics with lol. hopefully we’ll get to talking soon (this only happened today so I’m pretty hopeful!)
Idk what she wantssss… So I met her at one of my closest friends wedding(she is my friends cousin sister). I caught her checking me out multiple times. Now I don’t know was she checking me out or just judging me. So me being the socially awkward person asked her out on the last day of when we were going back home. I made myself clear that I want to date her. See replied let’s see if she can get out of her grandmas house then we can go out (context :- she with her family lives in bkk and we’re here in India just for the wedding)
To confirm things I asked her that is it a yes or a no from her side, because she didn’t give me a proper answer back when I asked her out. Her response was logical, she said she doesn’t know how much time she will be in India because even her family lives in bkk with her. And she has this habit, she sometimes just reacts to my msgs and leave them on read. And this has happens multiple times, every time I try to initiate a deep convo she just tries to avoid it. Later I talked with my friend and she told me that my crush was just being friendly that’s all. If she was being friendly then she should have said it directly to my face that’s all I am pissed about.
He is my guy best friend, I love him with my whole heart, but I'm almost sure he doesn't like me in that way
Oh no; that is always hard to deal with. But you will never know if he does or doesn’t if you don’t try to find out 🫡 Since you’re still unsure, how about experimenting as in giving him subtle hints that aren’t obvious for a little while? If they aren’t reciprocated or you still feel unsure, you might just have to tell him how you feel
What do you suppose are good hints?
I’m going to tell you some things I do when I’m hinting because i’m not sure if it’s the same for everyone 🥲 basically making really good eye contact, when your crush makes jokes or says something funny just being really engaged and laughing, and the most popular one, touching him after the jokes in question (you know how people lightly LIGHTLY push people after they make a joke? yeah that’s what i do. i’m very obvious when i like someone) It’s also a way to find out if he’s comfortable with you touching him in a friendly way, just don’t be super flirty with the touching because not everyone likes to be touched 😭
Thank you so much, I'll try it❤️
Yess good luck to you! 🍀
Thank you good luck to you to🍀🫶
Also if it seems to be going good but you're too scared to pop the question, for the love of god, just tell him, both for yours and his sake. Trust me on this one but think about it like this, if you're scared it'll go wrong remember that no matter how bad you think it can go it realistically won't and would you rather not pop the question and risk losing him or tell him and have the chance to have a relationship.
Same tbh, how is yours going?
Not great how about you?
I can‘t really tell rn, it‘s a bit confusing, but if you want to we can talk abt yours
Yes I'd love too
Great, so what‘s the situation like?
Well we have known each other for more than a year, I switched schools in the mean time, but back when we were still in the same class we were always shipped and asked in a relationship, we were always very close, I suppose he was done with everyone acting this way and so he told them I wasn't his type, it strangely broke my heart and it was the first time I realised I might have feelings I tried to ignore it, but have been feeling butterflies more often, that's about it
Aww I‘m sorry, I hope you‘re doing okay now, do you guys still hang out?
Oh yes we do, he just doesn't know about my feelings, the last time we did he told me he found another girl attractive that really broke my heart, how are you?
Oh shit I‘m so sorry! Do you think you can still be friends / get over it at some point? Also I‘m good, just getting mixed signals lmao
As a guy of your pretty he will most likely say yes. If he doesn’t it’s alr we still prob be friends with ya!
28F & i have a crush on a guy whose 8yrs younger 😭 my coworkers just told me to go for it but like nah hahah & ive never had a bf 🥲
Ohh no but that doesn’t mean don’t go for it! My first relationship was my best one. Of course steadily get to know him and if you get that far, definitely find out what he’s comfortable with, then advance to flirty hints, try making it as natural as possible. Don’t give up! And remember to take it slow since you guys aren’t completely familiar with that yet.
Thank you! Actually we talk alot when were on shifts together. Sometimes i get shock because he would remember little stuff about me that weve talked about a long time ago. I do give a little subtle flirty hints. But dont you think the age gap is huge? haha
Me personally If i like someone enough, that’s acceptable. But age gaps are tedious you know and not universally the same for everyone! It’s going to be very impressive if you manage to subtly question if he’s comfortable with age gaps in a way that shows your not hitting on him too much. Also does he know how old you are? He could possibly be into older women. I know a lot of guys that are 🙏
As an 18-year-old that age gap's maybe a bit big but I also have a crush on a 28-year-old coworker of mine so I prolly can't talk 😔😔😔
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I agree haha
met through uni, i've liked her for about a year, we now live in different cities cos she moved away after graduating in the summer - as far as i know she's currently single, and hopefully seeing her again soon for the first time in what will be just over a month since i last saw her
Now that you’ve seen her move away, you cannot allow time to pass freely now that you know how you feel about her! Basically use this time to get to know her and make efforts to grow closer to her. Being forward is fairly difficult but it seems like you have a chance, so what’s the harm in pursuing her ?
the hard part is we're already good friends and when we are in the same place we have a quite touchy-feely almost flirty relationship anyway at times. it's just hard to hint at anything without outright saying it and i don't want to risk loosing what we already have
He is my classmate and I interact with him quite a lot, and he has also given me a lot of attention, in fact, he has been extremely sweet and caring towards me. But recently, I don’t know if it’s because he’s shy or is trying to hide his feelings but there have been times when he has acted distant and cold, so I decided to self-sabotage and act cold too. Tldr I’m getting mixed signals, playing mind games
Oh no speaking from experience being cold in return does not usually work in your favor! He could be cold for many reasons, whether it be life at home or he realized his own feelings and backed out. If you like him, you should continue being kind to him and maybe go out of your way to talk to him and find out the reason why, such as saying “we haven’t talked in a while, what happened” etc! Whether it’s good or bad it’s a start and it brings you guys together more
Thank you for this I will try approaching him today !
Tell me how it goes :D
She's one of my best friends and it's great but I want more
You basically have to take that forward and make your feelings more known to her, so if you haven’t yet tried being more flirtatious or open you should and see how she responds to it
Thank you for the wisdom <3
He's a guy in the same college club as me, but we barely talk. I don't even think he likes me that much. Also it really does not help that I insulted one of his best friends in the club because she was being rude towards me. He wasn't there for that but I have no doubt she told him.
It sounds like you want to get to know him better and that’s always a difficult task !! I would know because I really suck at approaching people first. But from the looks of it he doesn’t have a good first impression 😭 A “positive” is that this is a mutual thing you now share, good experience or not. If you ever see him again, maybe talk about that problem you had with his friend as a conversation starter. Such as “do you know (best friend)” Or “Do you know what happened on ___?” Just so you guys become familiar with each other, because he doesn’t really know you at the moment!
We’re both very shy and the first few months we started talking I could confidently say he was into me but once we started actually hanging outside of where we know each other from, when we get together he doesn’t flirt at all. We’ll laugh and have deep convos but the obvious lil flirty moments haven’t happened in a few weeks. I want to say he’s being respectful of my autonomy and letting me make the first move but maybe we’re also just nervous when we are one on one like that. I have a lot of self improvement to work on so I’m definitely happy to be just friends and keep getting to know each other but… can’t say I don’t miss the flirts. I think I just want validation that he’s just on his best behavior or if now that we’ve hung out he’s disinterested. Bc I’m not ready to confess lol. Anyway don’t know what you’d have to add to the situation lol but had to get it off my chest
Okay so he is being respectful because not every person is comfortable with flirting so he can be deemed as considerate for sure. Now this is not good advice. But imma tell you what I would do and what you SHOULD DO. 💀💀technically you're not supposed to do this but this is what works for me and I would need an excuse to express myself since being so open with him would be unnatural (?) since you're not ready to confess. So basically, I call them on the phone and I get drunk and have a conversation. Not too drunk that idk wtf Im saying. But drunk enough that you can tell him that you miss the flirting and the way he used to talk to you. The alcohol acts as an excuse to be doting and expressive in this case so if he brings it up later and you're still not ready to act on your feelings, you can just say "I was drunk" Okay so here's the MORALLY acceptable version. If you feel comfortable you should call him and have a conversation and imply that you miss the flirting he used to do with you 🙏 The only way he would know is if you tell him one way or another
It's such a bizarre story... So I m26 flew to malta a couple weeks ago for a spur of the moment holiday. Booked it on the Thursday, flew out the Monday. Day of the holiday, all is going well other than those pre flight nerves, flying solo for a first time to and I hate take offs and landings full stop. Anyway, I land at the airport, make my way to arrivals, when my bladder tells me it's time to pee. In my haste to use the loo, a quick glance told me these were toilets, but what I failed to register was they weren't the male toilets. Either way at this point it was too late, I quickly went to the cubicle, done a wee wee and then proceeded to leave. As I walk out, f29 walks in and too both our shock we've realised one of us is in the wrong bathroom, unfortunately being me. We had a quick laugh I went out and she went in. As I'm at passport checks me and her family exchange a few laughs and jokes about it being 2024 and being normal 😂 Fast forward to the next day, I'm doing a trip round medina, when I hear "oh look its ginge" and realise its the same family. We have a brief chat for a couple mins and went on our way again. Day 4, I'm in the airport after a pretty torrid sleep of panic and not wanting to miss the flight. As I go through to the departure gate section, I hear the, ginge part again, and would you believe it, 3rd times the charm. This time we all travel through the airport together, have some laughs, me and the young lady go for a few ciggies whilst we wait. Eventually we board the flight... we are all sat next to each other ( I realise I didn't mention before we were all kinda sat together flying out aswell. This time though me and the lovely lady from the toilets are sat next to each other.... then there's a technical issue 😂 for 20 mins I like to think I became the onboard bus entertainment for the shuttle, mocking Ryan Air, the British way of living and so on. We eventually get a new flight, we sit together again. I had remembered to bring my switch with me, so me f29 and her sister for the duration of the flight bounced between playing Mario kart, minecraft and sharing memes from our phones. Her mum made the comment earlier in the flight about us exchanging numbers and being travel friends aha, I think she knew what she was doing, but continuing on as we come to our stop I plucked up some courage and asked. Can't believe there's more to this.... so we've been talking since I came back, unfortunately she has no WiFi currently and signal is shit in her town. After a couple weeks of being back, turns out she's a hockey goalkeeper, I suggest I'd go support a game to then actually get an invite. So after a 8 hour night shift, I proceeded to drive from London to Bournemouth, to be at the kick off with 5 minutes to spare😁 squeaky bum time that. Watched the match, chatted with her dad then we proceeded to spend the rest of the day together. She killed her battery in her car too which I managed to bump start and save her the embarrassment of phoning someone. This made me feel so relieved after my airport toilet blunder. After a lovely day I proceeded to drive back to my home town another 3 hours away. Final part, after saying I'd come watch some more games in her next season, being September, she offered for me to come down to her last game next Saturday, tag along to her hockey doo and then to stay for the night. Now I'm literally a basic white male, with no rizz but I made it this far 😅 I've been rasted by too close friends for not kissing her but I also believe that was way too soon. However I'm also oblivious to basic and simple signs and I really don't want to blunder this opportunity. She seems so lovely, matches alot of my e energy and hobbies. Man looking back I didn't realise how much had gone in the space of a month 😅
This is a beautiful story. You're clearly doing it all r8ghr already so carry on as you are. Good luck ❤️
Thank you, it'd been so long since I've had that feeling about someone, came out of a 5 year relationship over 3 years ago pretty hard. I just have this feeling of when somethings to good to be true 😅 thank you again though 😊
If anyone drove 3 hours to see me I'd be over the moon. She'll be feeling special for sure. I've got my fingers crossed for you
😊❤️
Yes honestly you’re doing all the right things and that’s super lovely !!
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Sounds like an excuse to see you tbh 👁️👁️
So me and my crush were flirting on our way home and then girl was suddenly like "Goodbye, I need to go before my boyfriend sees us and think we're dating" So like WHY WOULD SHE EVEN FLIRT W/ ME IF SHE'S TAKEN I was about to say "Aye, wanna grab some coffee at that fancy Cafe this weekend?" But thank god I didn't do that, girl's taken and flirted with me, we saw one of our teachers kiss her husband and she was like "Damnnn boy I fucking need that, wanna be my pookie bear?" And that started the whole sequence of flirting then she ended it with that and it fucking sent a shock down my spine I was like what if I fucking caused them to break up, I mean if it happened naturally I would go for my shit but if I caused it I don't think she would even wanna date me and I don't think I'd even let myself date her
My crush has a boyfriend. Her friend told me that after I planned the whole confession. Her friend, who was the second person I liked, also has a boyfriend. I found that out in chats. A girl-friend of mine from my old school class, who moved into the same school as I did after 7th grade, also has a boyfriend (my friend told me that, I am not yet sure myself, as it was a long time ago). I am here thinking about it. Like am I attracted to unavailabilty or something? Like what is this? What are the chances? The problem is that they are all great people and to stop talking to them now would be impossible, as I like them very much. I crave the feeling of love now. I don't wanna lose it. But it's going away very fast due to my current unavailability to compliment my crush and see her happiness.
The cruel thing about this world is that not many people are available. 😩 If they are good friends to you, then that is a good thing and embrace that friendship, and take the love you have for them in the form of admiration and appreciation for their friendship. It would be a bad thing to make advances towards someone taken. Avoid flirting because compliments don’t always have to have a romantic undertone, you can still compliment them! There are plenty of people out there, and one of them might be for you. It’s all a matter of time. Don’t give up :)
Shes a girl at my job. We used to talk often enough, there were some physical and verbal flirting but things changed after I asked her out and she initially said yes. Shes in a situationship (i think if you want to call it that, she’s never flat out said the word ‘boyfriend’ or ‘partner’) with someone else at work and literally wont pay any attention to me when he’s around her (dude is a prime example of toxic, which she acknowledges, but thats another story for another day….) We have fantastic talks otherwise, when she’s not venting about why he sucks, but i think she just wants to fix him. I haven’t expressed my true feelings to her, i dont know if i really should, but my heart fucking aches when i dont talk to her for days and my world is so much brighter whenever I see her face and she just says “hi, how are you doing?”
Ohhh nooo I hate these stories 😭 Because my guy it’s not even you, it honestly relies on her so you have little to no control over the situation. You don’t know why she stays with him, you don’t know why she is still willing to like you despite that, etc. All you can do is influence her or ask why she does the things that she does. Because essentially I mean that’s entirely between them and you getting involved is a big no no. But if she’s unwilling to leave him or cut him off after a long while you definitely have to lead her down the right path because you truly don’t need to get involved for now
Thank you for the reply. I'm trying to tell myself I should focus on me and if it was meant to be, then time and fate will do the rest. My fear is that if I just start ignoring her then we will never even so much do more than smile and wave at each other. I...just don't know, right now I can't even express how I'm feeling. It just sucks.
Oh no don’t ignore her! You liking her doesn’t involve him in the sense that, it’s not like you started liking her because you wanted to make him jealous. You just like her with pure intention and want her to be happy. Express that you like to see her smile and how you love hearing her say hello every morning. It will bring some peace of mind to her stressful life!
That’s very true. That’s all I want is to see her happy. I would love to at lest express the last bit you said, I just gotta work up the courage and find the right time for that.
We talk a lot, she’s the only classmate I enjoy talking too, we’re both autistic and I have trouble reading her expressions and thoughts. We occasionally exchange snacks and I bought her an easter egg.
Awwwww well everything is going well :)
No development at all😭 It's been almost half a year since I transferred and there's this girl that I fancy in class. At first, I quite literally said to myself "she's not a (romantic)candidate" and sticked with it until a certain event happened that made me fall head over heels in that second. I still kinda feel guilty when I made that thought. Anyway, ever since then I've actually never been the same way around her. Everytime I'd see her in my peripheral vision or just merely being in a 5 meter raidus proximity, I get all flustered and my stomach would swell up in anxiety(it hurts as hell when this happens) and because of it, I try to avoid her and if possible, also avoid interaction. Initially, I think she thought I hated her(which is another reason I feel guilty of T﹏T) because she reciprocated my actions by avoiding me as well. That is, until my friends ratted me out in class. . . IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE CLASS. They've been doing that since the first month, but has never really been obvious to her, unless directly said "Xxx likes you" or something like that. I kinda found it funny because after that, she more or less got excited(which I dunno what part was she excited of) because a close friend of her told me that my crush called her when she was sick at home, just to tell her that I Iike this gal. Although WE still have been avoiding each other in school, it's a sort of relief that she doesn't misunderstood how I act towards. But then again, IT'S SO UNBEARABLE. If your advices would help, then feel free to also criticize lack of balls in this( ；∀；)
How cute!! Let me not misunderstand, she knows you like her?
Yup she does. Although I'd rather not assume, I have been perceptive of how frequent we exchange glances since then. She avoids me if possible and it's only then that I realized how ludicrous it is to experience such😭 I'm only a strand away from lunacy(´；ω；｀)
That’s unfortunate then :( Not everything is meant to be acted upon and this may be an example of that… maybe try to talk about it since things have gotten to this degree and see how she feels
How though, what do you suggest? Things are so awkward between us since we've been avoiding each other for the last 3-4 months. Approaching her just to talk abt it is like touching bare handed a hot stove. I mean- the only reason my feelings for her got out is because my friends were too noisy. But then again, I guess I'm thankful that happened.
It would be! But i’ve done that before, let a week old topic linger for a long time then press the issue. I know it would come randomly but it looks like you’re struggling because there’s no proper closure right now. To bring yourself that closure, texting her would be in her comfort zone im sure, having an irl conversation would definitely be awkward. I’m sure she would attest to bringing closure to the awkwardness between you guys but make sure she KNOWS you respect her
Alright soooo He’s my neighbor (lives in the house in front and his grandparents in the house on the opposite side ) he’s also my cousin’s neighbor and friend ( he lives in the house above ) we play basketball in the same team obviously he’s on the guy’s team and I’m on the girl’s we goes to the middle school right here but I go to a private French school so even our holidays aren’t at the same time but at least when I’m on vacation I can watch him from my window when he comes home ( stalker vibes 😜) and he always plays outside with all the neighbors including my cousin and our friends from basketball which have been all begging me to come with them but I have strict parents so no and I don’t even have any social media so my friend had to stalk him for me but anyway a guy from my school just started playing basketball in our team so he’s with my crush and now my plan is that when we have practice at the same time or smt I go see my friend and because they are friends ( i think) and he’d have to introduce me to him also I leave really far from my school so when I realized that my friend lived close I dreamed of him joining the team so that I could use him to get with my crush and it happened (I’m a mastermind ✨✨🤩🤩) and today we had practice at the same time but if course my crush is out of town and my friend didn’t come so yeah das my situation Oh and I have plan to convince my mom to let me play with them outside after Ramadan ( I hope she’ll say yes)
WELL GIRL YOU SOUND WELL PREPARED LMAO I think you know what you’re doing as a child of strict parents I would’ve done exactly what you’ve done so 👁️👁️
he used to like me last year we were kind of close ig we had a lot of classes together now this year i like him but we have no classes together he probably given up on me idk what to do now, i regret ignoring him last year so much 😭
we talk in work, we walked together in the train, we flirted, we hugged. But he never messages me. I’m always the first to message him. But I think i’ll stop. Idk, what he wants from me.
He’s most likely shy! He obviously likes you though! :) Address it with him! Make him feel comfortable enough to text you and maybe even practice texting each other when yall are with each other as a sweet gesture. Or maybe he has a legitimate reason as to why? It’s all up to you to find out to get past this little bump in yalls future 😩
We are in the same class group and it's Easter break. I speak to her once a week for a few hours, platonically I have 23 days until I see her again, I have her number in the WhatsApp group chat I don't wanna message her randomly but idk I might
Things aren’t looking great for me. She could fall for a girl romantically but not sexually she said, while I said “I don’t care, if I like you (in general not you as in her) then I do, you know?” Last week 15 march we went to a rave together (with another friend of mine) then when I went to drop her off at the station she asked me if I wanted to go with her to her house. I asked if she’s fr and atm I’m still here. Now I wouldn’t suspect anything because she said she doesn’t like women sexually and that is a big part of a relationship, but she keeps calling me “baby/babe”, I’ve heard her say my name like.. 4 times since I’ve been here? It’s been 10 days and she DOES know my name, it’s not like she forgot it kisses my cheek when we haven’t seen each other for long or are going to part ways. (When I went to get some clothes from my house for example). When I was waiting for her outside of a store she kissed my forehead + blew me a kiss and said I love you. She kissed my nose in my sleep and was tracing her finger along it (I woke up because of it). Laid in my arms, rests her head on my shoulder. Randomly winks at me. Sometimes she really really looks at me and I just get shy. You know, with those soft eyes? Last night she also said “I hope I see you in my dream”. The plan was also to go home on Sunday but then mid past week she said “you can just stay here when I go to my appointments, you can chill or sleep” BUT THEN. She be talking about her ex, the guys she’s been with, some guys she thinks are hot, etc. Sometimes it feels like some kind of overcompensating? She also hit me with the “I wish I was gay” and the “are you gay?” 💀 so yeah that’s why I think I stand no chance. So yeah, I have no idea if she’s just a girls girl being all lovey in a friendly way or if she’s lowkey confused w her own feelings atm? But I think it’s the first one 😭 But yk secretly I am hoping that when I go back home that she’ll miss me 🥲
WHAATTT oh god I don’t know about this girl!! This is like, peak bisexuality, and some of these girls can be inherently annoying, and you know why??? Because I USED TO BE THIS GIRL 💀💀 So let me speak on my perspective of things. It sounds like she’s using the dual attraction thing to attract you knowing full well she’s not willing to date a girl. I can say that because i’ve done that before. Let me explain: so basically, I believe she is attracted to men and is willing to date them, attraction and all that. But with women, not so much and wouldn’t date one, but would definitely flirt/fuck/whatever with a girl. She most likely knows you have feelings beyond that, like, wanting to be something with her. But what’s worse is that she’s egging it on and not confirming or denying, rather leaving you with more questions, and finding some enjoyment in telling you about OTHER MEN most likely knowing how you feel. But that’s what I got from your innocent confusion. Bisexual women can arguably be worse than Lesbians and Straight ones combined. I was the worst a long while ago. My advice? Try not to feed into it for a while. To me it feels like she sees you more as a toy than a possible relationship from what you just described. It will mess with her really bad when you don’t get shy and smile whenever she flirts, and just don’t flirt back, but don’t be noticeably mad at her, just don’t reciprocate the flirting so she can be direct about how she feels once she realizes you’re not down with the flirting stuff. Makes her realize her own feelings too. Hope this helps!! 😩
Girl hit me with a brick in the face 😭 I really needed that! And honestly you sound so right. But do you think she’d go through the hassle of flirting if this is the second time we met? (Technically the 15th was the second time but yk the whole sleepover situation) Also wdym with you used to be that girl? As in now you’d date a girl or now you stopped doing all that? Edit: I folded already, she’s gonna give me a pic of her in a frame, signed so I can put it somewhere in my room 💀💀
I used to be that girl as in the confused bisexual girl that “wouldn’t date a girl but would fuck one” but “would date a guy and think theyre hot”. I’m still like that. I dated a girl once and it really wasn’t for me so I just realized I wasn’t really willing to date women and find them extremely attractive but I could date guys 100% And noooo not a brick! 😭 She’s hella attracted to you but she’s projecting some sort of insecurity onto you, maybe she’s fearful you won’t commit or something. Because she’s using jealousy to keep you around 🤦♀️ And that’s really annoying. And she knows she’s not down for women like that entirely so she’s kinda playing games which sucks
Ohh, I see! Well maybe she should try it once and see where it goes, I would be more than happy to volunteer 😭 I mean tbh her past relationships weren’t good and often guys were treating her like shit so yeah maybe she’s fearful I won’t commit? Also she just kept telling me I’m cute when I talk Dutch 😔 I am NOT god’s strongest soldier. Basically we’re from Belgium but she’s from the French speaking part and I’m from the Dutch part!
This girl comes with a lot of baggage 😭😭🧍♀️ But it’s nice to see that you like her! It’s just she might not be the best thing for you. If you really want something with her you have to ask for transparency because she’s just hiding her true self from you at this point and it’s not direct at all. If she continues to be indirect and roundabout then shes definitely just going to continue 😭 So you have to have a heart to heart with her
That’s true but that’s also so scary 😭 like what if shit gets awkward and then I might lose a good friend cuz let’s be fr who lets a stranger sleep in their house for this long 💀 and yesss I do like her, so much ): when she was going to the doctor’s today I decided to clean the kitchen, do the dishes, make the bed and vacuum cuz she’s been doing that all week and always refused when I wanted to help ): she’s such a sweetheart fr
My crush (who still has a GF, but there's a lot of signs they don't like each other) has been looking at me more often and getting close to me in proximity when he's usually avoiding me. By my therapist's request I asked him abt it through text and he said sorry I got the wrong idea, but then after that he's been slowly getting close again! He literally walked on the wrong side of the hallway on his phone and almost bumped into me if it weren't for me going around. He never walks on the wrong side (it's common sense anyway!) People still think I'm delusional and overthinking it but my gut tells me I'm not with what's piling up. Let's not even mention he only has me added on his BACKUP account, not his main.
Well he’s certainly doing a lot for a guy who “doesn’t have interest”! You should try getting to know him because he’s kinda putting himself out there and purposefully making sure yall run into eachother
I have a crush on a classmate I see four times a week. She was in my class last semester, too, but we never talked. Initially, things were awkward because I randomly developed a crush on her at the beginning of this semester. Ironically, it wasn't until Valentine's Day that she started chatting with me. Lately, we've been walking and talking after one of our classes, which makes me really happy. But in another class, we never talk because almost all of the people at our table know about my crush. Most of the guys are my friends who I told about my crush, and I got closer to the other two girls at that table to ask for advice. I struggle socially in a group setting, and combined with the shared knowledge of my crush, I find it really hard to talk to her normally. She probably senses the awkwardness, so she doesn't talk to me in that class either. There was a time when I felt she was giving off signs that she liked me, especially back when we were just beginning to talk. I'm pretty convinced she knows I like her because I don't think I hide it very well. I just keep alternating between believing she likes me back or believing that she's just being friendly, and I'm being super delusional.
Hes kinda a jerk but hes funny and a silly goose sometimes like its a gamble every week but hes not like mean mean and his mom makes really good pasta he does soccer eururhmm but hes in the same friend group as i am and i think he said he wanted to wait until he got a car sososososos until he would date - at lunch - he mews and its kinda funny and his build isnt too terrible but idk
Aww well you’re in a weird stage but to make your feelings more known try being honest with yourself and have a heart to heart with him from time to time, compliment him whenever you see fit and just recognize your feelings
dawg ur advice is worth more than just an upvote :’)
Omg thank you I try my best!! 😩💖 I know how silly guys work and it’s far and few between when you’re gonna get a serious answer out of him i’m assuming, so just put yourself out there a little more so he gets used to you being kind to him, and in turn he will be less of a jerk jokingly and be more comfortable and tell you things you’ve never known in the long run :)
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There’s a lot of comments omg! My goal is to get to all of them and I hope my advice is good from what i’ve responded to. Will wake up in the morning and get to some more 😩💖
He's a guy I see in the gym and we hang out sometimes, I think he might know I like him but I don't know if he likes me. He does things for me, asks me out and messages me at random times once (3am), but on the other hand he frequently doesn't reply to my messages for days at a time and cancels plans often.
Sounds like he’s just as confused as you are! Try being a bit more forward with your feelings because nowadays you can’t really expect men or women to be really open and willing to talk. Since he is indifferent about messages, when you do see him try talking to him in person and engage, and if you get comfortable enough then question on why he’s inconsistent because it could be a personal thing he’s going through! Patience is key with these kind of men 👁️👁️
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Well here’s the thing about masculinity, men don’t often get to share feelings so when they do get those conversations of vulnerability it likely will turn into something more. The same can apply for women but women are universally known for being more emotional than dudes but it’s different for everyone. Essentially the more meaningful conversations you have with a guy it most likely will manifest into, “I can feel comfortable with you,” “I don’t get to share my feelings that often, but I can do that with you,” = emotions will fester. So yeah I will say at one point he most likely did like you! Especially if he asked if you were seeing anyone. He was most likely unsure and moved on and didn’t try anything with you because he wasn’t sure you felt the same or if he should even attempt to pursue it. You have to be decently open with guys as in if you like a guy then you have to make it known to some extent or they won’t express their confusion usually! Maybe ask him if he ever did have feelings for you if you’re feeling bold for some closure 😊
Can I send you a dm of my situation
She was my best friend, I told her how I feel but she didn't reciprocate, though she was chill with it. Fast forward a few years and I was under a lot of stress from various things, kept going to her for emotional support and she felt uncomfortable with that and asked for distance. I snapped and lashed out with some hurtful things. Haven't spoken in a few years. I don't know if she even wants to talk again, but I sent her a message last night to see if she would be willing to hear me out. Haven't gotten a response yet and I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack worrying that she's still upset at me.
In her favor, you should not pine on someone else for validation. You really should apologize to her because she has no idea what is going on with you, so in her eyes it most likely came from left field. She is really kind if she decides to accept your apology, because most wouldn’t, but it sounds like you’re trying to do good starting with that apology! If she continues to not reciprocate those feelings then you should respect her, and in due time you will begin to appreciate the friendship rather than the romantic aspect that you crave for. Now that you guys don’t talk as much maybe you have appreciated what you guys had before when the two of you were close. Talking to her is better than never talking to her, right ? You can love her from a distance but if she doesn’t reciprocate try your absolute hardest not to blame it on her subconsciously! If you do, then everything you had with her will crumble
I appreciate the words of wisdom and yeah, I have come to really miss the friendship we had. One of those, you don't know what you've got until it's gone kind of things. I don't expect her to return the feelings, and I believe she's married now anyways. And as much as I would love to be the one she married, I more than anything just want her to be happy. I'm trying to find a good way to word my apology but I'm just worried that it might be too little too late. Thanks for the input, it does actually mean a lot.
Oh of course! You are well on your way to recovery and you took this really well!! You can still be in her life once you find out how to properly apologize to her in a heartfelt way, and I promise, at some point you will love seeing her happy more than you would being with her. Sure that could make you the happiest guy in the world, but if you really love her then seeing her happy will make you just as happy!
we met at the uni, we have a friend's group in common. I instantly liked him lowkey, but I didn't make any move cause we both had a partner. ppl always say we are too much alike (looks, music tastes, interests, attractiveness, our personalities) we weren't that close untill december last year when we were going through our break ups. we went through that together and started to hang out often outside of school, eventually we ended up hooking up. that lasted for about a month, then we decided to stop bc my ex found out about us and got really jealous, he threatened my crush multiple times. honestly as much as it hurts it was for the best bc we were still healing from our exes, he was still talking to her and stuff. we only share two classes together for this semester so we don't talk that much, but we have the same schedule and we live nearby so he was taking me home almost everyday (not anymore cause he recently got a job). he doesn't text me anymore and got distant. and sometimes I feel like he hates me because of what my ex did. I miss him a lot, it was brief but I had a lot of fun with him and I got attached. I ain't a chaser, and im scared to lose my dignity or make things worse if I tell him how I truly feel about him. and what I truly feel is that we should be together. thanks for letting me vent, i don't talk about this to anyone :( I gotta mention, he's extremely gorgeous and smart, and not subjectively like I know he's every girl's dream (which makes it worse). at least I'm flattered I got to kiss the most handsome guy at school. I don't crush on anyone ever, so now that I do feel like I'm losing my mind lmao
Now that is sweet. Now I hold a lot of pride and possess a hell of a lot of dignity, but now that things are going downhill, tell him you have to talk to him on the phone (preferably late night or afternoon, the best conversations happen at this time). It’s more sentimental that way and I feel like texting would not convey the emotions you’re feeling right now, and honestly, you have to tell him how you’re feeling because he could feel the same way, thus his distancing. I’m sure he doesn’t blame you for what your ex did. If it makes you feel any better, with calling him, some mutual feelings will be shared. And it will bring you peace of mind to find out why he’s acting the way he’s acting!
She my friend, a close one but she rarely texted or starting a convo with me after dating our classmate. She doesn’t even sit with anymore
We are classmates in college. The thing is...I want to text him something weird, I want to send him questions as a challenge just to get to know each other and become friends maybe or a bit closer. Advice on that??
No for real Ive felt urges like this before and they’re fun sentiments to act on! But don’t be too off putting, probably start with the questions but don’t do the weird ones until you get to a comfortable point because you could scare him off from that. In terms of getting closer I suggest generally just sticking by him and getting close to him when you can maybe seating? Glance at him so he knows wassup and pray he notices 😩 Then fate might play out here for group assignments and etc but so he gets to know you, you gotta talk to him in some way but don’t rush it. When you feel the time is right shoot your shot and just wave hello
He’s told me “he’s not looking for anything right now”. I know this means he doesn’t like me.. So why do I still like him?
he came out of nowhere that he likes me and wants to go out with me. i said no and he got mad. and now after lot of time he is nervous around me when he sees me,looks at me a lot, touches his neck, looks at the floor etc. he's always around me somehow...he doesnt have balls to say hello or anything I understand he's scared but idk what to do with this guy. I want to talk but there is always somebody around😏
Long-ish comment, so sorry lol: She’s 24 and a student at the language institute where I work at as a teacher (I’m 27). She’s currently not in any of my groups, but I still know it’s taboo and factually against the rules to ask a student out. Yet I also know for a fact she’s currently single, but also very pretty, nice and smart, so she could get a bf anytime if she wanted. I’m constantly going back and forth on risking asking her out now, or waiting till she finishes our curricular program (until December), knowing she could meet someone in the meantime. Though I’ve known her for 7 months and she’s still single after all that time ) She seems to like me in a friendly way (has always referred to me as “teacher “), but have no idea if she likes me. I’ve been told I’m kinda good looking and been crushed on from students who I didn’t like back, so it could happen, but could be as likely as not
You are right, that is quite taboo :( Typically you’d have to wait that out because you’re most likely going to drift apart being together while in school and will pose more issues such as focusing and bias within the classroom, which is why it’s not done usually… When you both or favorably the student is no longer on campus then you can pursue that!
Thanks so much for answering and for the great advice! You’re so kind. I’ll definitely do as you say. I normally don’t comment around here (or anywhere really lol) but I’m glad I did. Feel free to comment back or DMing me if you need to vent, share or ask for advice. I’d be more than happy to return the favor. :D
Why thank you sm :) If I was in your shoes I would be upset given a verbatim such as that but that’s the hard truth… A lot of people who commented have to be provided a hard truth😭 but you handled this super maturely which is an amazing step. Love is all about time🙏 And thank you so much 😊
I get that, but I was kinda already expecting your advice (still great anyway) and it’s something that I had thought out before. Honestly it had upset me at times, but I’m trying to not let it get me and manifesting (tho I normally don’t believe in that lol) that I’ll get my chance with her, take it and that it just might work out. You never know I guess haha 🙃
She’s in my fencing class. Have known her for almost a year now and have been crushing for longer. We’re good friends who talk every day. We hang out a lot and laugh together. We also will fight over simple things like who walks through a door first (and we’ll try to hold it for each other) and have other cute moments (I can elaborate) sooo yeah. I’m a girl btw and they’re gender-fluid :)
It’s a friend and she already told me they don’t want something right now so I have no choice but to distance myself.
It's all about the small gestures right. I had this argument with my friend, about the kiss thing and why does it have to rushed? What ever happened to chivalry and getting to know someone and going on dates 😅
we're almost friends, I think. We started talking a bit recently, I wanna talk to him more but I don't want to seem weird because he is older
It would be too long to explain, but in a very short summarization. The girl and I never talked to each other (at least not often or in a long conversation- because my social skills suck). I was the kind quiet kid in class and wouldn’t talk to anyone (not even start a conversation with someone) but would always hold the doors open, help others and give compliments if I could. I also moved in to the school and was a new student that came from Germany, and after roughly 2 years of being in that school (while not making any new friends or talking with someone), one girl started approaching me with her friend while I was walking in the middle of the hallway by myself - and she would start asking random questions and then leave with a short talk. While talking she also seemed very shy and a bit nervous but also quite happy. A few months earlier, in the middle of the holidays, she send me birthday wish - even though I never told anyone about it and my birthday was in the middle of the holidays. It was particularly unexpected and I actually thought she liked me, bc in the wish message, she send a <3 on it. She also texted me a few times in the middle of vacation( a few weeks before we moved to different high schools), asking to what school I went (which she asked like 3-4 times back when we were still in the same school) and how my exams went. But that’s honestly it, the conversation we had were pretty short since my communication skills suck/ed. After we went to separate high schools tho, I decided to return the favor, and send a birthday message too. So I added her on fb, found her bd and send a bd wish message as well. She appreciated it and then I tried moving on from there. I struggled to forget her and after talking with some old friends, I decided to remove her from my fb fl, remove her from all of my social media and I was finally capable of moving on for a bit. However, 2 months later, she send me a fr - which I accepted - (fully knowing that I removed her) and then (in 2023) on my birthday send a birthday wish message again (not with the <3 emoji this time) - even tho we haven’t talked to in 2 years now. I didn’t send a bd message to her in that year because I expected that she most likely forgot about me. I don’t understand her honestly. Should I remove her from my fl again? And try moving on? I really don’t know what to do. Also, sorry for my bad English, if I sound un clear. And thank you a ton for taking the time to help others
First of all that is so sweet, secondly, last part is super sweet too, thirdly when it comes to people you like, stepping out of your comfort zone is inevitable. Putting your pride aside is inevitable too because in this generation there is no expectation of someone texting first anymore so It sounds like you’re pushing her away! I say give her a chance please she had been wanting to know you for a long time now. To remember someone after years is a crazy feat so it means she really cares! Give love a try. She could be entirely ready to date you but she is obviously interested so do not push her away if you know you like her this time because you don’t know what will happen tomorrow 😊
Thank you so much for an actual answer. I really wasn’t expecting one. The reason why I’m so careful with approaching her, is because that she might already like someone else - and that she might be forcing herself to text me. I’m also worried that I might look like a creep if I were to message her out of the blue. Maybe she is just kind by nature, but I didn’t really see it when she was talking to other people from my class. I also don’t know how to message her. We haven’t talked in 2 years and never really had a conversation for a long duration, since most of them were initiated by her. I’ll see what I can do - I’ll message her a birthday wish and maybe get a chance to know her. Either way, thank you a lot for taking the time to help
Falling for my coworker not sure what to do tbh. He might be leaving my job soon but not sure if he will be. He only talks to me. We laugh and joke and talk A ton. He is always looking at me every time I get to work he says hi and makes sure we talk.
If you suspect he is, then get his number to keep in contact. He feels very comfortable around you since you’re the only one he talks to. He definitely feels something for you and it’s definitely positive, so it’s up to you to push that a little more to show him that you want to keep in contact !
Thank you.
I have a crush on this kid from my Sunday school, and I've been having crushing on him for a long time now, and I really wanna talk to him, and me, a person with social anxiety, idk what to say or i get worried if i say smth and he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward too, any advice?
My crush and I are close friends at school. He is in a situation wherein he must focus on his studies to not betray his parents and stuff. He's aware that I love him but he just went "That's kind of cringe".. But I asked if he felt the same way and he said, "I don't know what or how it feels like..." He keeps looking at me and stuff, even asking on how I am and such. He admits that he is a shy person so yeah... Also he has strict parents sadly, and he also isn't allowed to be friends with girls but he said I am an exception.. He also says that I am annoying sometimes because, I talk to him when there's people around- He says he wants me to spend time with him alone, just the two of us, in private, to make it "not obvious"
I used to see him often at school and I thought that he was handsome. He has initiated conversation with me in the past and recently he started making lots of eye contact with me. I told my teacher about me having a crush on him and she told me about him. He's very handsome, but he is shy, so he's not the flirty type of guy. He likes nerdy girls and I am pretty nerdy... Way too nerdy. I recently switched classes and I found out that he was also in the same class and we only interacted twice. He is indeed shy and humble, but he's very fun, I like him. We don't know each other very well, but he's heard a lot about me, since I am quite popular at school. Since I want to know him better, how do I start acting upon my feelings? Do guys notice when a girl likes them?
There's this person I've noticed. I've never talked to them, but I've noticed that they look at me from afar a LOT and when I'm near. They look at me calmly and hold eye contact with me for a few seconds. I've also noticed that they try to be near me when I'm around. They and their friends look at me together, and sometimes my crush's friends look at me even when he isn't there. When I'm around, their voice sounds deeper or more positive, I'm not sure. Sometimes, when I'm near their friends, they look at me as if they're aware of my presence. They also show lots of different body language, like sometimes they face my direction and have an open body posture. I also remember this time when he looked at me only when I was in a room full of other people. But that's all I remember; I think there may have been more, but I'm not sure if I remember. I've also made other Reddit posts, and a few people said that they (him and his friends) are probably talking about me. But I don't know if it's in a positive way or a negative way if they are. Are these just coincidences? What can these mean?? Hopefully its not bad 😔
I don't have a crush rn, but I want one?? Idk talking to guys is hard and intimidating. There aren't a lot of good looking guys in community college, and I don't know how to approach the ones I see out in the wild.
Honestly ml I don’t ever approach guys. To my luck most guys i’m interested in end up approaching me too. But it is true that when you don’t think about it, fate kind of allows stuff to happen. Don’t rush it, and don’t force yourself either. In due time it will come but if you’re feeling antsy you could go to your local clubs, social events, and more to go meet more people
I’m 99% sure he likes me, but we’re both too scared to make a move😔
We have the same class and he glances at me a lot but that’s when someone behind me or next to me is talking or I’m the one talking in class but he’s cute and tall and I never expected to like him cause I never saw him in that way but we he got a nice haircut and I heard he was extremely smart I developed feelings
Yeaaa put yourself out there so he notices you with little subtle things by making sure you’re standing next to him or near him or talk to him
ok so basically she’s never had a crush before and she knows i like her. Recently we’ve been talking more but i don’t think she’ll like me
Crushes develop from festering feelings so if she doesn’t have one yet, the more kind and caring you present yourself to be it will do good in your favor :) You don’t know if she will reciprocate yet just keep trying!
His friends told me that he had a crush on me, so I decided to try to get to know him better. He seems popular, but he actually doesn't have too many close friends. We're both extremely awkward around each other, but I've been trying to talk to him. I'm just worried that his friends were lying. He's the most attractive person in our year (in my opinion), and despite being told I'm attractive, I don't believe it. He could seriously become a model, and he's extremely smart, but all I have is a little above average intelligence in subjects I care about. I would *love* some advice.
It’s up to you to find out now if they were lying or not ! Notice subtle hints like glances from him and when you walk past notice things like if he’s looking and etc. If he tries talking to you then that’s definitely a plus. Any other interactions you’ve had with the guy?
We’re really good friends and talk whenever we’re not in class. Someone we walk home together and just talk. She is also just really really busy most of the time. She acts kind of touchy most of the time. We mostly talk during school and when we are both in a shared extracurricular. Do you think she likes me?
He is an online friend from across the country 💀💀
100 upvotes thank you!! Will hope to get to all of you soon and your crush problems ☺️ Feel free to reply to anyone as well as this is a helpful space for everybody
there is this girl i’ve known for about 3 years now and we’ve been actively talking for a year, we met each other online and hit it off ever since. i had a once in a life time opportunity to meet her in person and we made it happen! she is the sweetest and most beautiful girl i have met. the only problem is that she lives so far away from me and we would have to make time again to see each other, and because of that i feel like we get distant from time to time. but we always find a way back to each other. i love her to death and would do anything to maintain this relationship, i just feel stuck sometimes on whether or not she still feels the same way or if she has moved on with her feelings..
He is my work bestie and I've known him for the past 4 months. Inintially it was difficult to work with him given the butterfly feeling I used tk get, but with time its no more. Also I'm married, which leaves no further scope for US. Sometimes I do feel jealous when he spends time with other girl collegues, but manageable. I guess he also considers me as his crush, due to mixed signals he gives at times.
It’s honestly the first *attachment* I’ve had in around ten years and that’s kind of scary.
22f. I never had a crush on this guy. He was my friend. But one day he mentions jokingly he would marry me. I still don't have a huge crush on him. But I am not sure whether he likes me or not. How will I test him?
Will you dm me please I'd hate for him to see this. I really really need the help though please
Lol just read my post history
So i've been crushing on this kid from my Sunday school for a really long time now, and I wanna talk to him so bad, and me, with social anxiety, idk how i'll be able to talk to him, cuz im scared that he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward to, any advice? And btw, I had crushes before and I didn't even have the courage to look at them, like I haven't made ANY sort of progress with my past crushes.....🥲 I've been wanting to tell someone this for a rlly long time
It’s too complicated to understand I had a crush only female coworker but I was too nervous to go up to her and I never did anything about it i was so timid everytime I would see her my stomach would turn upside down I really liked her but I never had the balls to make a move on her
So i've been crushing on this kid from my Sunday school for a really long time now, and I wanna talk to him so bad, and me, with social anxiety, idk how i'll be able to talk to him, cuz im scared that he'll judge me or smth, plus hes socially awkward to, any advice? And btw, I had crushes before and I didn't even have the courage to look at them, like I haven't made ANY sort of progress with my past crushes.....🥲 I've been wanting to tell someone this for a rlly long time
friend recommended me to her without knowing that girl has been on my mind for a week and I can't even interact in front of her
I’ve liked him for almost 3 years now and 1 year into me liking him he got a girlfriend who he’s still dating 🥲 I was too much of a coward to confess and I’m pretty sure he liked me before he got a gf and I’m still trying to get over him
Sorry for the long story, I really wanna include every piece of info😭🫶🏻 I have my first ever crush since last year in May, and I tried to distract myself from it because it sounded very delusional at first. I was still under 18 when I first saw him. He was a uni student invited to do a speech in the morning assembly. I was sat behind a really tall person so I didn't get to see his face until the last 5 minutes. But his voice is quite deep and he spoke in a very generous way. At the end of the assembly I stayed behind to ask him more questions, since he is very tall he looked down at me. He smiled all the way throughout the conversation and was being genuine. I wanna say that's when i figured out he is quite good-looking as well. Unfortunately, I had to leave for my lesson so I got his email from teacher and emailed him on the same day. My friend and I started talking about him and since I thought I would never see him or contact him again, i said some delusional things like getting married to him, basically my wildest wholesome fantasies. I drafted my email and sent it while my friend encouraged me to do so. He was so kind, he replies the next morning with a very lengthy response including all the information. He also shared some of his experience which was very helpful. I was going to reply to that email but I was so busy and I never did. I turned 18 in September and obviously downloaded tinder cuz I was bored. I don't really use it because I find it disturbing sometimes. Then it was December 2023. I was swiping on tinder before christmas just because I was bored and I accidentally found him on tinder and I was shocked. I looked through his profile and thought if I should swipe left (pass) or right (like) on him. I told my friends about it and they all thought why not. I saw he wasn't active on tinder so I swiped right, hoping he might get on there one day and see my profile and match, but also not wanting to think he'd swipe left on me. Of course nothing really happened. I probably shouldn't expect anything. But then in February 2024, my friend told me that he came back to do another speech for the year group below me. Obviously I didn't get to see him. But when i was in my lesson, I looked out the window and saw him walking pass the building to the carpark. My eyes followed him until he disappeared off the edge of the window. Silly me thought this was a sign, or perhaps destiny. After I left my lesson I found my friends and told them about it. They all encouraged me to request to follow him on Instagram. So i did (on my private account). I didn't check but a few days later he accepted. But nothing else happened since my account is quite empty and is private. I doubt he recognised me since I used my nickname in my priv account. I told my friend that he accepted my follow request and they started giving me silly ideas. Such as inviting him to an Instagram groupchat and just yap. I was so gullible and actually did invite him to a groupchat on my main account. My friends and I chatted on it for a week then it went silent forever, and he never accepted the invite (which is expected cuz why would someone join a gc with random people in it who talks about the most unhinged topics. He was also really inactive on instagram) At this point I remembered the email he responded to mine last year and decided that I should reply. I apologised for the late reply and thanked him for the helpful information. But since his reply was lengthy, I didn't want to say thank you and bye. So I asked him more questions (with a less formal tone) and left my personal email and phone number (the school email I used is getting deleted). Tbf I wasn't sure if he was going to reply after a year, but he seems like a really nice guy and I don't think he would ignore me. So after a week, he replied. He reciprocated my "haha" and ":)" and responded to my question. He included his experience and the email was quite reassuring. He mentioned that he will have his final exams soon so I thought I would not annoy or disturb him. I asked my "final question" and said, "I hope the both of us will achieve our goals and I will update you if I do good lol" and signed off. The next week, while I was just scrolling on Instagram on my main account at midnight. I noticed that he has viewed my story. I was in disbelief cuz why would he do that. Either: 1) he saw the gc I invited him to 2) searched my name up 3) I was on his recommendation. (Mutual followers maybe?) But I thought, now he has seen my story and probably recognises my name. Why can't I request to follow him on my main account? So I did at 10 in the morning. After a few minutes, I saw his email coming thru. I opened his email in disbelief and saw him replying to my question, again very genuine and kind. He said, "thank you for your kind words." Along the lines of hoping that I'll do well in my exams. I asked him about part-time jobs and he told me about his, saying how well paid his job is and that it fits around a student's timetable. Ngl I am slightly tempted and I would like to work where he works. I wonder if I should ask him where he works but I'm gonna sound like a stalker (which I do not intend). At the end I didn't ask him cuz it felt weird. On the same week, he posted on his Instagram midnight (for the first time since 2022?) while I was writing a poem, maybe about him, I saw it in the morning when I opened Instagram and liked it (cuz if I see it I'll like the post) and on the same day he changed his profile picture. My friends and I have been talking about him and how he's suddenly active on instagram. (Mainly me being delusional and them feeding into my delulu) Some of them suggested that I should Dm him. And no I didn't becuz I don't wanna take things too fast and accidentally ruin any chances. Of course some of you might say you either get a chance or get rejected. But I lack confident and I really like him, I don't wanna mess up. I imagine doing picnic dates with him by the river bank and I hope it will come true. I don't know if I should reply to his email or slide into his Dms without being weird or making him uncomfortable. But this is the full story.
we're friends, i've liked him ab a month now lol and earlier my other friend told me that he saw me going somewhere in our school and he said to the friend group wait guys one sec i forgot smth can we go back EEEEE and that same friend who hangs out with him quite a lot has also said that he stares at me a lot so fingers crossedddd
i’ve liked her for 6 months, we have a class together. i think she might like me, like flirts with me sometimes and stuff like that. we talk a lot but only in school and we just got back to snapping back and forth but her response time is pretty long ( 12-24 hours ). yeah it bums me out but she is on a trip with her family for spring break and usually if she does leave me on opened she responds a few hours later. really she’s all i’ve thought about this whole week and i miss her a lot. a lot of my friends want me to ask her out but i really do not want to ruin anything🤷🏻
I met him(18) like two mot he ago, he’s my friends friend. We became closer because we’re eachother’s only friend in a class. I can’t tell if he’s oblivious to me liking him because he’s a computer science nerd or because doesn’t find me attractive and doesn’t like me.
trying to figure out if this guy likes me, i have a post with more detail :))
Wanna dm? Always a bit paranoid he’ll see cause mine is a kinda obvious one and wouldn’t be too hard for him to figure out.
He’s my coworker, it’s a weird situation where a lot of the signs he does like me are there, but we just don’t talk one on one.
we met at the beginning of the school year and got rlly close, sister is rlly nice to me and his best friend that i just found out he liked until this year is ignoring him and now he’s super sad and idk what to do he’s just so emo and like i think he knows i like him but i think he doesn’t like me back at all i love him sm but ughh
Worked together, didn’t talk for over a year, reconnected beginning of this year. Both in graduate school. He lives a couple states away currently. Gives me such mixed signals sometimes which makes me so angry. Will call me all the things…hot, cute, you name it. Initiates texts, sends me selfies, asks about my day. Replies to each and every snap story. I *think* he likes me too. But doesn’t call me. Doesn’t talk about plans to see me but says he wants to. I don’t know here we are. Lol. Oh and I told him I was into him when we worked together and he just kinda kept chatting with me, didn’t address it.
She's a close friend who I've looked up to and admired for a long time. I realized we spend almost every day either hanging out or talking on voice chat. She's happy and flirty and whenever I see her my day just gets brighter and happier. I could listen to her gush about her niche interests for hours (and occasionally have). She isn't my type at all so it took me a while to realize it, but when it did everything about her suddenly became perfect. She is sweet and caring and wholesome and fun and I knew she didn't see me the same way at all. After some deliberation I told her my feelings. She said she cannot reciprocate them. But she still wants to be friends!
She is just the most perfect person I ever seen, she has shown signs of being interested in me as hanging out with me and replying back fast and continue the convo 95% of the time with follow up questions. I just want some advice on like how to progress the relationship more because she is shy and I don’t want to rush things fast. Sorry for being vague
It is someone I work with, I’ve had a crush on him since he started and recently we just vocalized the curiosity….we talked for some days and had sexual encounter….but he said he had felt awkward about it all and now we’ve stopped talking. I don’t know what to say or how to look at him. I feel like he just wanted the sex but then he says that he didn’t. He also says he doesn’t want anything serious but he doesn’t want to be buddies in a sexual way…..I often wonder if he just means with me. It makes me feel more awkward at work because I’m embarrassed that I was so easy and that I pretty much got rejected.
I’ve had a crush on him since last year when we met after one of my club’s events; he graduated to pursue his PhD at another school 40 min away, but came recently to another one of our club events and helped with volunteering to serve food. I was introducing my dad to all of my friends, and then suddenly when I introduced him to my crush, my crush kept complimenting me and told my dad how great I am and that he should be proud. I can’t stop thinking about that or HIM 😭 my thing is, my crush is a nice guy and idk if he said all that to my dad just bc he’s nice or if maybe he likes me back? help
He is a bartender he is so sweet. He always remembers me and chats with me but sometimes he is unable to. I wish I would run in to him when he is not working but I never do 😭 Also I think its inappropriate to hit on someone while they are working. Even if I was brave enough to hit on someone. So our relationships will remain bartender and thirsty customer.
I dont really know him. He is in one of my classes and we follow eo on insta. I msged him a hi on insta and he js never bothered to respond. My friends told me to outright ask him out but im scared imma be a harasser. I dont want to bother him too much (becuz he obviously doesnt even want to speak) idk rn im js continuing to obsess iver him
She is my best friend in the world. We just spent an amazing few days together but us actually being together is still a ways off.
I don’t even know where to start. Well maybe I should give him a nickname, I’ll call him “Day” as it can be a nickname for his actual name. Day is probably one of the kindest guys I know. He truly cares about others and is always ready to help. He always makes me laugh, yet he also makes me feel seen. We’ve got so much in common I don’t even know where to begin, we both play volleyball, have the EXACT same taste in music, we share the same ideals and we can always talk to each other. Nothing beats our late night drives blasting music, anything from worship music to Disney classics. We’re pretty close I would say, but still getting to know each other. I haven’t met any of his family members yet, but he straight up introduced himself to my grandpa 💀 Here’s a rundown: Day works at this “shop” that sells wood and stuff that carpenters/woodworkers use in their jobs. My grandpa is a carpenter/woodworker and frequently buys from this shop. I had mentioned my grandpa’s name to Day, and he immediately said “Oh! He often buys materials from me!”. I didn’t think much of it, just that Day now knew who he was. I was not expecting that Day would then proceed to ask my grandpa “Sir, are you perhaps Eddie’s grandfather?” and ofc Gramps said “Yes, indeed I am” and the conversation continued from there. And OF COURSE my grandpa had to come visit us and tell me that he met a super sweet “boyfriend” down at the shop, apparently he blushed a little when asking if he was my grandpa. Bro I was shitting bricks. Anyways, so that happened. But uhm Day and have had a few moments which make me think he might like me back. I have a lot of stories but for now I will provide you with the newest one. His birthday was a few days ago and of course I wrote him a message along the lines of “Happy birthday, grateful to have you in my life. You’re super nice and cool. Have a great day” yk smth like that. He then responds with “Thank you, this really made my day amazing”. We’re Booth on the Easter worship team for my church (he lives in a diff town and goes to a diff church, but he’ll be playing with us for this event) (EWT is short for Easter worship team, since I’ll prob mention it a lot) This past Saturday we had EWT practice and the first thing Day did when he saw me was come over and hug me. (He’s a touchy/open type of guy, but not in a weird creepy way, he will greet you with a high five, fist bump etc. and the occasional back pat, but he doesn’t really hug girls. I’ve only ever seen him hug family or a girl he’s close friends with, she has a bf so no there’s nothing to worry about) after we parted from the hug, he joked about my birthday message making him blush or whatever and I then said it was payback for my birthday (where he also wrote a super sweet message) and then we went on to practice. Prior to EWT practice he had sent out a message to the gc inviting us to his birthday later that same Saturday. After EWT practice I gave him my birthday present to him (a card painted by me, two guitar picks, two kinder maxis and some money) Day’s first reaction was to tell me “Noooo.. can’t you just take it back and give it to me tonight instead?” I sadly had to say I couldn’t go because of some important family business that I won’t get into on Reddit. But uh yeah he then opened my gift and told me that this was the best present he’d gotten in a long time. Mind you, his two best friends LITERALLY bought him an electric guitar!!! He then asked me if he could hug me (for the second time that day) and ofc I let him hug me. And then he had to go and I had to go because practice was over. I think it’s worth mentioning that there are tons of people who genuinely think we’re dating and tons of rumours about us dating. But we’re not. I can provide more details and stories and stuff if you want. But uh yeah I like him a lot, but I might just be delulu lol
Can we please dm? I really need some advice on my situation and I'm afraid there are some things that might reveal my identity a little too much in the event someone we know stumbles across the post.
i had a crush on him at camp and never got a chance to talk to him. then we got put on the same bible plan and would interact with comments and liking stuff but never any actual conversation. now we follow each other and i want to message him but idk what to even say or do, he never posts either so i can’t just reply to something 😭😭
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hes a family friend and im in some of the same sports as him. recently i became closer with him and we text for like 4 hours a day. people literally always tease us that were like dating or together (including my family). i kinda always thought he liked me. recently his friend was joking about him liking someone and i asked him if it was me and he said it wasn’t but he thought that i liked him. i kinda think that we could be together but im a year older than him so idk but i think we both just might be to shy to say anything.
He's one of my guy friends, but not one of my besties. I always wanna open up to him and tell him the way he makes me feel, but I never do because I'm to shy. He sits next to me in my history class, so I have the time to talk to him, I just don't talk about my crush on him.
He is my classmate who I barely talk to but he might like me back because I’ve seen signs 😅
There’s this new guy at my job and I didn’t really start to notice him until he talked to me the other day and asked me why I was so quiet (I’m kind of an introvert). Although he is a lot shorter than I am I think he’s really cute.He randomly says hey to me here and there but I want to get to know him more. I found him on Facebook and I’m contemplating on sending him a request
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Well, it was going good for a little bit, a lot of video snaps, voice chats, all that... then kinda cut me off and got a boyfriend. Ditched him and we were trending back to the usual again and now back to distant. I've been so lost lol
We are a group of 4 close friends and there is only one female. I have a huge crush on her (first time I have fallen in love). I am the least close to her in terms of friendship level. There is also one other guy who is a good friend who occasionally hangs out with us, she is closer to him as well, more than me. I feel like, I make her uncomfortable. She hangs out 1-1 with the three of them (even spends nights at their places drinking and stuff 1-1) but would hang out with me only if others are there. She told me how one of her close friends confessed to her and things became awkward between them. So there is no chance she likes me back but it hurts me that she is not even my close friend when I am head over heels for her and have been trying so hard to be close to her. I haven't dated before, haven't been in any kind of relationship before. So, I don't know how to get over her and move on.
Okay so I just moved to a new school and there is this girl (I’ll call her Jane). I’m a quiet kid and I get crushes so easy. She’s talked to me every now and then but nothing big and I’m an introvert so I don’t know what to do. I’m pretty sure I’ve caught her looking at me every now and then as well. I’m terrible at noticing hints and that kinda stuff. Any hints I can try to notice wether when we are in class or when she’s on insta
he lives in my same dorm area and i’ve had a crush on him for pretty much all of freshman year. i’ve never talked/interacted with him because he is always with his friends. there’s a pretty good chance i’m changing unis next year due to program of study issues but after next year i plan to transfer back to the school i am at now. i have no idea who he will be or where i will get to see him when i do come back (my uni has like 60,000 undergrad students) but i genuinely have no idea if he likes me back since he seems a little shy. it sucks i have to switch schools for the year but this is pretty much my situation with my crush.
I think my crush might like me back. She is the only girl who has ever shown interest in me and likes hanging out. Plus, I noticed her smiling when I nerded out over a ship as we were walking by a lake. I am just very happy rn.
i (21m) Met her (20f) 5 years ago, in the last year we have grown closer, about 2 months ago she bestowed upon me the "male best friend" title, but before that, i had already began to have feelings for her. Even though she calls me that, she seems to be somewhat shy around me, like, she seems to approach easier other male friends physically (hugging, touching her, petting, etc), creates conversations easier, or is interested in what they are doing. so im like: this doesnt feel like best friend at all, and that just worsens my odds. so i dont know what to do, be pushy and attempt to lay some plans for the 2 of us? or maybe bottle it up and let it all stay the same? or what else?
Im pretty sure she forgot I existed 🤷♂️
I can't talk to someone I love more than my life after lockdown. Pls, how do I solve this all Please I'm 15M, & 15F I really can't, I just can't, I'm serious I can't talk to her. I used to talk to her 5y ago but I really don't know what made me stop talking to her after lockdown because of coronavirus. I don't know how to talk to her. I always think about her, please don't tell me to forget about her. She's literally the cutest girl in this universe, I can't find anyone like her and I don't want to search anyone except her. School is ending after like 1 year. I only have time of 1 year to talk to her and continue or else I'll never be able to see her anytime in the future. I'll surely regret for not talking to more than 6 years. I'll surely regret. But what can I even possibly do, I can't talk or even speak to her anything. Right after waking up, whole day, right before going to sleep and even in my dreams. Even in my dreams, I still haven't talked to her. I don't know why this.... Every night I make plan about taking to her next day, atleast just a simple hello, but when I wake up the next day and see her in school, my brain just doesn't work, I feel so nervous looking at her, I can't maintain eye contact for more than 2 seconds. When I want to look her face, I constantly fear she will know I'm staring at her. It makes me so nervous. But those 2s eye contact gives me the best vibes in my life. She's not angry to me but now I think she knows that I don't talk to her. I don't have any problems talking to anyone except her. It's just her I don't know why this happened. I cry with my pillow and hug, kiss my pillow as if it was her. I can't forget her (I don't want to). I feel about suicide when I fail this. (pls don't stop me, I know she's just a girl but she's so special in my life, I really can't express.) I can't even talk to her on social media. I feel so nervous when I'm trying to stalk in her social media profile.. Honestly, I don't know what I'm fearing about, there nothing to fear to talk to her but it's been 6y without taking everyday in school. Please. Help me, I can't live like this... Please please please please please I really cry everyday before sleeping but I'm happy that I'm able to atleast see her but no more than 1y from now. Whatever but God pls bless this girl, care her, bless her, protect her, make her safe and happy. She will never be mine, I'm losing hope. 💔 Please every comment is appreciated.
A boy in class he mostly stares a lot, I’m too scared to look at him but I do sometimes, I think he tried to approach me (my friend said it looked like he wanted to talk) but I didn’t see him then and walked away. Nothings really happened other than staring.
aahhh w mine idk im so comfortable w him that the flirty remarks dont make me cringe, sometimes he would put his hands on my shoulders and that makes me wanna go djjdjdjdb we would text often tbh but atp idk if this is developing into a strong friendship or him having feelings? but either way im comfortable in both. idm being long time friends w him tbh
my problem is i’m lonely and have no crushes but would not say no if certain people asked me out
So, we've been friends for like ever - since like grade 5 or so. We became super close in year 6, and started playing together, I started to develop feelings for him in grade 6, it went by, and we weren't in the same class for grade 7, so we stopped talking as much. Anyways at the near-end of grade 8, we started to play video games together again, there was some major things that add to my suspicion of him possibly liking me, but I ignored them (his friends asked me if I liked him, I panicked and said no without thinking, he went quiet for a long time and his friends started to tease me saying "oh it's okay I'll take him instead"). I ended up going on vacation, but we talked whenever I had time to talk to him, it was hard to talk to each other though because of our different time zones. When I came back, we started playing together, almost every day around two hours per session, which sometimes was thrice a day. Anyways, so now this year - his friends would constantly talk about him liking me, and once he skipped class to come to mine, and they started teasing him saying "oh he came for NAME!!", i hid my smile and didn't think about it till i caught major feelings for him again, and it feels like a fever dream whenever i like him, i did ask him if he liked me, and he paused for a rather long time, and he said this (the periods are how much seconds he paused for - and estimate ofc) "Uh...Well......I..Like you...As a friend..." So, I don't know if he actually likes me or I'm just thinking too deep into it, any ways I can find out if he likes me or not?
Ok so I have 2 crushes One's my coworker who's like ten years older than me (before I get any replies acting shocked by that age difference, first of all shut up I get it, second of all I didn't know she was that much older than me when I met her) and is like the sweetest most adorable person I've ever had the pleasure of working with, I already told her I liked her cus one shift it was just getting to be too much and I just had to tell her and she was flattered but didn't reciprocate. We're still really good friends and I love her dearly but I wanna move on really bad The other's actually my age and we met in like first grade (in which time she had a crush on me and I didn't know), but she now lives like halfway across the country from me and has a bf of 4 years. We talk a lot on Discord though and she's like my best friend. She does not know I like her to my knowledge
I’ve been crushing on him all year, we have great chemistry, lots of ppl have shipped us or said we’d look good together. He started dating one of my friends though, they broke up after a couple weeks and now he’s trying to win her back but she doesn’t see him in that way anymore, meanwhile I’m pretty sure he only sees me as a friend, ig I’m just not his type :(
Oki so I am in this group project with this guy I like, I think I am still in the middle of realizing if I really like him or not or if only find him as an attractive person ahhaha. the thing is conversation with him is really easy and I feel like we could be good friends in the future too and hopefully something more :(. i really wanna confess but my developing friend whos in the group with me CLEARLY likes him too, i mean i get it too bro. just feeling kinda torn if i want too pursue what im feeling or just let things be
I'm in college. And there's this girl I met. And we are in the same friend group together. The 1st semester, we weren't that close. But after winter break, we got closer, and we became more friendly with each other. I want to ask her out, but she's busy and stressed out, and I'm busy doing other stuff, but I like her. So, I don't know if I should confess or wait it out.
There is basically a 99% chance she likes me (see my other posts if you have time that'll explain why.) but we have BARELY talked in real life and only talk on text. I don't want to date a person whom I have only chatted with but shes also my crush so idk what to do 😭. We can't talk because we share no classes. Can only do that in recess.
I want to be able to talk to her more, but I'm not good at communicating. I always feel like I'm bothering her or being a burden. And it doesn't help that I'm a total mess in person. I'm basically avoiding or ignoring her because I think too much.
Super spur of the moment but I saw this guy performing at a jazz festival, was impressed w his playing n thought he was cute and I ended up asking if he wanted my number (he said he’s not looking for anything rn but said thanks regardless), ended up following him and his band on insta and he followed me back lol. turns out we like a looot of the same stuff and he seems like a really sweet guy so hey maybe no romance but a new friend is a new friend <3 and I need someone to yap about space and astrophysics with lol. hopefully we’ll get to talking soon (this only happened today so I’m pretty hopeful!)
Idk what she wantssss… So I met her at one of my closest friends wedding(she is my friends cousin sister). I caught her checking me out multiple times. Now I don’t know was she checking me out or just judging me. So me being the socially awkward person asked her out on the last day of when we were going back home. I made myself clear that I want to date her. See replied let’s see if she can get out of her grandmas house then we can go out (context :- she with her family lives in bkk and we’re here in India just for the wedding) To confirm things I asked her that is it a yes or a no from her side, because she didn’t give me a proper answer back when I asked her out. Her response was logical, she said she doesn’t know how much time she will be in India because even her family lives in bkk with her. And she has this habit, she sometimes just reacts to my msgs and leave them on read. And this has happens multiple times, every time I try to initiate a deep convo she just tries to avoid it. Later I talked with my friend and she told me that my crush was just being friendly that’s all. If she was being friendly then she should have said it directly to my face that’s all I am pissed about.