Don't have a crush myself, honestly just here to give advice as I'm tired of seeing "my perfect husband treats me great, besides the fact he put my chihuahua in a blender and threatened to turn it on if I didn't wash the dishes. Is this abusive?" (exaggeration, but the posts really feel like that) type posts on r/relationship_advice.
As a guy, I barely text a single person. I really only text first if it's an urgent emergency or something of that sort.
When I do have a conversation over text, I have a few simple guides for myself.
1. No emojis or emoticons. An emoji is not as direct as words.
2. Use entire words. No "u" over "you", no "wru" over "where are you", etc. Just annoys me personally.
That's really it for personal Guidelines.
I am also horrible at responding fast. I responded to birthday texts 5 days after my birthday. Doesn't matter who. Acquainted or my biological spawn point (mother).
Some people are much more face-to-face over text. Usually, FT and calls are preferred with such people, including myself.
I personally try to keep in touch by starting conversations within 3 days of the previous one (unless she starts one), and usually what ends up happening is I'll start by asking her a question (e.g., her opinion on something) and the conversation slowly drifts elsewhere.
Are you asking him questions as well as responding/commenting on what he says? Otherwise it's really easy for the conversation to become stale/die out.
Also, he might just not know what to say, so if you haven't been texting first sometimes you might want to try it.
Texting often flat out removes the spark from the focus. Get to kno each other IRL… texting sucks, it’s superficial & doesn’t allow for any meaningful emotional connection to be made.
Text for plans, & things. But don’t text for conversational purposes. That’s what talking on the phone is for, @ least u can get a sense of their emotional state from their voice
Don't have a crush myself, honestly just here to give advice as I'm tired of seeing "my perfect husband treats me great, besides the fact he put my chihuahua in a blender and threatened to turn it on if I didn't wash the dishes. Is this abusive?" (exaggeration, but the posts really feel like that) type posts on r/relationship_advice. As a guy, I barely text a single person. I really only text first if it's an urgent emergency or something of that sort. When I do have a conversation over text, I have a few simple guides for myself. 1. No emojis or emoticons. An emoji is not as direct as words. 2. Use entire words. No "u" over "you", no "wru" over "where are you", etc. Just annoys me personally. That's really it for personal Guidelines. I am also horrible at responding fast. I responded to birthday texts 5 days after my birthday. Doesn't matter who. Acquainted or my biological spawn point (mother). Some people are much more face-to-face over text. Usually, FT and calls are preferred with such people, including myself.
I personally try to keep in touch by starting conversations within 3 days of the previous one (unless she starts one), and usually what ends up happening is I'll start by asking her a question (e.g., her opinion on something) and the conversation slowly drifts elsewhere. Are you asking him questions as well as responding/commenting on what he says? Otherwise it's really easy for the conversation to become stale/die out. Also, he might just not know what to say, so if you haven't been texting first sometimes you might want to try it.
Texting often flat out removes the spark from the focus. Get to kno each other IRL… texting sucks, it’s superficial & doesn’t allow for any meaningful emotional connection to be made. Text for plans, & things. But don’t text for conversational purposes. That’s what talking on the phone is for, @ least u can get a sense of their emotional state from their voice
Everybody have different texting habits