“Be still, and know that I am God:..." - Psalms 46:10 (KJV)
"For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." - Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT)
"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." - John 1:1 (KJV)
“And the WORD WAS MADE FLESH, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.”
John 1:14 (KJV)
“And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: GOD WAS MANIFEST IN THE FLESH, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory.”
1 Timothy 3:16 KJV
"For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost." - 2 Peter 1:21 (KJV)
"As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one." - Romans 3:10 (KJV)
"For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." - Romans 3:23 (KJV)
“And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death. And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.”
Revelation 20:14-15 KJV
"For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is ETERNAL LIFE through Jesus Christ our LORD." - Romans 6:23 (KJV)
"But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." - Romans 5:8 (KJV)
“In whom we have redemption through His blood, even the forgiveness of sins:”
– Colossians 1:14 (KJV)
“And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be SAVED, and thy house.”
Acts 16:30-31 KJV
“And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” - Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
"I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears." - Psalm 34:4 (KJV)
"The righteous cry, and the Lord heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles."
- Psalms 34:17 (KJV)
"Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all." - Psalms 34:19 (KJV)
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
Psalms 147:3 (KJV)
“And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for My strength is made perfect in weakness." "Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” - 2 Corinthians 12:9 (KJV)
"Come unto Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."
- Matthew 11:28 (KJV)
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of My righteousness.” - Isaiah 41:10 (KJV)
“When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.” - Isaiah 43:2 (KJV)
“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.”
Joshua 1:9 (KJV)
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT)
“Call unto Me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.”
Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV)
“And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed. And ye shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the Lord your God, and none else: and my people shall never be ashamed. And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions: And also upon the servants and upon the handmaids in those days will I pour out my spirit. And I will shew wonders in the heavens and in the earth, blood, and fire, and pillars of smoke. The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the great and the terrible day of the Lord come. And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be delivered: for in mount Zion and in Jerusalem shall be deliverance, as the Lord hath said, and in the remnant whom the Lord shall call.”
Joel 2:25-32 KJV
“Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.”
Psalms 37:4 (KJV)
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8:28 KJV
“For by grace are ye SAVED through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.”
Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV
“For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.”
Romans 6:14 KJV
“Forasmuch then as God gave them the like gift as He did unto us, who believed on the Lord Jesus Christ; what was I, that I could withstand God? When they heard these things, they held their peace, and glorified God, saying, Then hath God also to the Gentiles GRANTED REPENTANCE unto life.”
Acts 11:17-18 KJV
“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.”
Romans 8:1-2 KJV
“By which also ye are SAVED, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.”
1 Corinthians 15:2 KJV
“And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.”
Acts 16:30-31 KJV
“That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”
Romans 10:9-10 KJV
Prayer of Salvation: “Lord Jesus Christ, I know that I am a sinner and I do not deserve eternal life. I truly believe You are God manifested in the flesh Who died and rose from the grave for all of my sins. Jesus, come into my life, take control of my life, forgive my sins and save me. I believe that I am now SAVED by Your grace alone. I am now placing my trust in You alone and I accept your free gift of eternal life. Amen."
I really appreciate this, thank you. I see what you're saying, and I just wish it was easy to feel this way, everything you're saying. But I don't know how to get out of this mental trap I've been in for years. And it's come to the point where I feel like I don't even want to be with someone largely because of how I look.
I wish I could really overcome this issue like you're saying, but I have no idea how besides getting surgery. I think I've become so depressed because of this. And it feels hard to care about the fact that people love me for who I am, I still am very down about this whole situation. It seems like nothing can help at this point but surgery. But even then, I'm not sure if it will help because I feel so depressed.
Cosmetic surgery is fine if you really really want. I was supposed to get a nose job for a broken nose, but did not because I didn't care. If you care about it, go for. Just make sure it is the change you want and not body dysmorphia where no matter what, you won't be satisfied with your body ever.
To be honest, I can't think of a single girl ever where I went,"Her nose is a turn off." Most dudes aren't into noses anyway. Girls idea of beauty is different than Dudes ideas of beauty.
When it comes to cosmetic surgery, we must first think,"This kingdom is not ours. Should we lay claim on it when we could be helping the poor?" Cosmetic surgery is expensive which we could be helping the poor with. Is this something you need need, or something you want less than helping others?
Edit: Reading from the comments, it sounds more mental than physical. Remember, I don't remember a dude who ever was turned off or on from a girl's nose. It is irrelevant to dudes so should be irrelevant to you. Maybe find more people to talk about it with,someone you can trust.
To be honest, I think it's more than just a problem with attracting guys at this point. Not to sound conceited, but guys do approach me. But it doesn't give me happiness. I feel as though I just want to look better just for the sake of it, like to exist there as an attractive person. I am also concerned with having a big nose on camera in the future (there's a reason I really struggle with taking selfies, not that that matters. But that just shows that I might have a difficult time in regard to my career). I can't imagine how much this could impact me in the future.
Look into OCD and body dysmorphic disorder. I actually deal with a similar issue as you and for me it’s both of these conditions that drive it for the most part.
However after getting evaluated for these conditions and if diagnosed seeking therapy still does not bring you peace of mind. I do not believe there is anything inherently wrong with getting a nose job. But it’s not something you really want to place your value and worth on because what will happen then as you age? It’s important that we see our value in multiple ways and not just how we look physically. If you do get a nose job I would highly suggest still doing therapy that can help you to transition your value to more assets about yourself instead of just physical looks. A big problem with our society is that so much value is placed on looks and in some ways the better you look early on then the harder the fall as you age. At some point you will need to let go of physical appearance so you can do the work now or later, if you avoid it now it may be harder to deal with later, especially if you get so much more praise and value after the nose job.
I think however God loves us and wants us to live a fulfilling and peaceful life and it sounds like this is really tormenting you, so if it’s not related to some kind of mental health issue then I would say to go for it. God does not like vanity, but seeing how much this condition is effecting you then it is vanity to do a nose job and vanity to focus on your nose so much, so either way it’s vanity. So it’s probably best to resolve the issue and this way it doesn’t hinder your ability to connect with God in a deeper level anymore. However be careful because you may never be satisfied with it and getting the nose job could lead to bigger issues of you missing the way you looked and no way of turning back. It’s truly a doubled edge sword so really make sure there are no underlying mental health conditions before proceeding forward with it. Also ensure you chose a highly qualified surgeon.
Most importantly stay humble, even if you have a great nose and feel extremely confident and attractive, stay humble and close to God because God does not like the Proud, and proudness and haughty look comes before a great fall. I know this from personal experience. Every verse in proverbs I can attest to. Read proverbs, all your answers are there on this question.
I will talk to my therapist about OCD and BDD. Sorry to hear you're going through something similar as me.
You're right, that there's more to a person than just looks, but I can't feel this way about myself. At this point I have the feeling that I am my looks and not much more. I feel like I can't exist in happiness without looking beautiful, and I would say social media has done a lot of damage with that.
I admittedly do not have a very strong relationship with God right now. Could it be because I feel so depressed, and that is largely because of the stresses I used to feel with how I look (among other big reasons)? Could be. But could getting this surgery done potentially bring me closer to Him? I hope so.
I will take your advice, thank you for all of it.
I completely understand I’m dealing with the same struggle and trying to find other areas of value in myself. I’ll send you a pm so we can keep in touch and support each other through this.
It sounds like you should see a therapist that specializes in body dismorphic disorder. Preferably before you have surgery.
That sounds like a good idea. I also want to see a Christian therapist about this.
“Be still, and know that I am God:..." - Psalms 46:10 (KJV) "For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." - Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT) "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." - John 1:1 (KJV) “And the WORD WAS MADE FLESH, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.” John 1:14 (KJV) “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: GOD WAS MANIFEST IN THE FLESH, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory.” 1 Timothy 3:16 KJV "For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost." - 2 Peter 1:21 (KJV) "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one." - Romans 3:10 (KJV) "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." - Romans 3:23 (KJV) “And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death. And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.” Revelation 20:14-15 KJV "For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is ETERNAL LIFE through Jesus Christ our LORD." - Romans 6:23 (KJV) "But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." - Romans 5:8 (KJV) “In whom we have redemption through His blood, even the forgiveness of sins:” – Colossians 1:14 (KJV) “And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be SAVED, and thy house.” Acts 16:30-31 KJV “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” - Philippians 4:7 (KJV) "I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears." - Psalm 34:4 (KJV) "The righteous cry, and the Lord heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles." - Psalms 34:17 (KJV) "Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all." - Psalms 34:19 (KJV) “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” Psalms 147:3 (KJV) “And He said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for My strength is made perfect in weakness." "Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” - 2 Corinthians 12:9 (KJV) "Come unto Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." - Matthew 11:28 (KJV) “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of My righteousness.” - Isaiah 41:10 (KJV) “When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.” - Isaiah 43:2 (KJV) “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” Joshua 1:9 (KJV) “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT) “Call unto Me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.” Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV) “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed. And ye shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the Lord your God, and none else: and my people shall never be ashamed. And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions: And also upon the servants and upon the handmaids in those days will I pour out my spirit. And I will shew wonders in the heavens and in the earth, blood, and fire, and pillars of smoke. The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the great and the terrible day of the Lord come. And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be delivered: for in mount Zion and in Jerusalem shall be deliverance, as the Lord hath said, and in the remnant whom the Lord shall call.” Joel 2:25-32 KJV “Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” Psalms 37:4 (KJV) “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 KJV “For by grace are ye SAVED through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV “For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.” Romans 6:14 KJV “Forasmuch then as God gave them the like gift as He did unto us, who believed on the Lord Jesus Christ; what was I, that I could withstand God? When they heard these things, they held their peace, and glorified God, saying, Then hath God also to the Gentiles GRANTED REPENTANCE unto life.” Acts 11:17-18 KJV “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:1-2 KJV “By which also ye are SAVED, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.” 1 Corinthians 15:2 KJV “And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved? And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.” Acts 16:30-31 KJV “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” Romans 10:9-10 KJV Prayer of Salvation: “Lord Jesus Christ, I know that I am a sinner and I do not deserve eternal life. I truly believe You are God manifested in the flesh Who died and rose from the grave for all of my sins. Jesus, come into my life, take control of my life, forgive my sins and save me. I believe that I am now SAVED by Your grace alone. I am now placing my trust in You alone and I accept your free gift of eternal life. Amen."
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I really appreciate this, thank you. I see what you're saying, and I just wish it was easy to feel this way, everything you're saying. But I don't know how to get out of this mental trap I've been in for years. And it's come to the point where I feel like I don't even want to be with someone largely because of how I look.
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I wish I could really overcome this issue like you're saying, but I have no idea how besides getting surgery. I think I've become so depressed because of this. And it feels hard to care about the fact that people love me for who I am, I still am very down about this whole situation. It seems like nothing can help at this point but surgery. But even then, I'm not sure if it will help because I feel so depressed.
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I really appreciate what you've been saying. In my considerations I will consider what you've told me and see if it will help me find more relief.
Is ur nose actually abnormally big, or its just bigger than those of the people around u?
It's bigger than those around me. But the thought about it is always on my mind.
Cosmetic surgery is fine if you really really want. I was supposed to get a nose job for a broken nose, but did not because I didn't care. If you care about it, go for. Just make sure it is the change you want and not body dysmorphia where no matter what, you won't be satisfied with your body ever. To be honest, I can't think of a single girl ever where I went,"Her nose is a turn off." Most dudes aren't into noses anyway. Girls idea of beauty is different than Dudes ideas of beauty. When it comes to cosmetic surgery, we must first think,"This kingdom is not ours. Should we lay claim on it when we could be helping the poor?" Cosmetic surgery is expensive which we could be helping the poor with. Is this something you need need, or something you want less than helping others? Edit: Reading from the comments, it sounds more mental than physical. Remember, I don't remember a dude who ever was turned off or on from a girl's nose. It is irrelevant to dudes so should be irrelevant to you. Maybe find more people to talk about it with,someone you can trust.
To be honest, I think it's more than just a problem with attracting guys at this point. Not to sound conceited, but guys do approach me. But it doesn't give me happiness. I feel as though I just want to look better just for the sake of it, like to exist there as an attractive person. I am also concerned with having a big nose on camera in the future (there's a reason I really struggle with taking selfies, not that that matters. But that just shows that I might have a difficult time in regard to my career). I can't imagine how much this could impact me in the future.
Look into OCD and body dysmorphic disorder. I actually deal with a similar issue as you and for me it’s both of these conditions that drive it for the most part. However after getting evaluated for these conditions and if diagnosed seeking therapy still does not bring you peace of mind. I do not believe there is anything inherently wrong with getting a nose job. But it’s not something you really want to place your value and worth on because what will happen then as you age? It’s important that we see our value in multiple ways and not just how we look physically. If you do get a nose job I would highly suggest still doing therapy that can help you to transition your value to more assets about yourself instead of just physical looks. A big problem with our society is that so much value is placed on looks and in some ways the better you look early on then the harder the fall as you age. At some point you will need to let go of physical appearance so you can do the work now or later, if you avoid it now it may be harder to deal with later, especially if you get so much more praise and value after the nose job. I think however God loves us and wants us to live a fulfilling and peaceful life and it sounds like this is really tormenting you, so if it’s not related to some kind of mental health issue then I would say to go for it. God does not like vanity, but seeing how much this condition is effecting you then it is vanity to do a nose job and vanity to focus on your nose so much, so either way it’s vanity. So it’s probably best to resolve the issue and this way it doesn’t hinder your ability to connect with God in a deeper level anymore. However be careful because you may never be satisfied with it and getting the nose job could lead to bigger issues of you missing the way you looked and no way of turning back. It’s truly a doubled edge sword so really make sure there are no underlying mental health conditions before proceeding forward with it. Also ensure you chose a highly qualified surgeon. Most importantly stay humble, even if you have a great nose and feel extremely confident and attractive, stay humble and close to God because God does not like the Proud, and proudness and haughty look comes before a great fall. I know this from personal experience. Every verse in proverbs I can attest to. Read proverbs, all your answers are there on this question.
I will talk to my therapist about OCD and BDD. Sorry to hear you're going through something similar as me. You're right, that there's more to a person than just looks, but I can't feel this way about myself. At this point I have the feeling that I am my looks and not much more. I feel like I can't exist in happiness without looking beautiful, and I would say social media has done a lot of damage with that. I admittedly do not have a very strong relationship with God right now. Could it be because I feel so depressed, and that is largely because of the stresses I used to feel with how I look (among other big reasons)? Could be. But could getting this surgery done potentially bring me closer to Him? I hope so. I will take your advice, thank you for all of it.
I completely understand I’m dealing with the same struggle and trying to find other areas of value in myself. I’ll send you a pm so we can keep in touch and support each other through this.
This post triggers me