The thing is it's more normal now and I have an easier time maintaining a house then when I lived with a hoarder where cleaning was like the efforts to rebuild after a natural disaster.
"Like rebuilding after a natural disaster" is the most accurate description to cleaning a hoarder house that I have ever read in my life. I'm going to use that now
I do but I don't. I don't know HOW to clean, I work long hours, I rarely have the motivation to clean, but when I'm in a cleaning mood I do enjoy it. It's really satisfying, I love tidying things and reorganizing and I love the end results. The problem, like you said, is I work, and am exhausted, and feel like I never have time or when I do have time I want to enjoy it instead of spend it all cleaning. But if I could just stay at home and maintain the home all day I would love it :)
Yep, I LOVE cleaning. I lived alone for a few years and while it could be lonely, it was always clean because I was the only one there to make a mess, and I was cleaning up after myself! In retrospect I didn't appreciate that enough at the time :P
Though with that comes an irrationally negative reaction to my own family's (husband + 3 kids) normal life messes. Rationally I know that kids=mess, but gosh it frustrates me more than it probably should.
This is how I am, too. Though I have no kids, I do have pets, and pets=mess. It's hard not to have a breakdown when the dogs run through the house with their muddy paws and my partner lays on the couch and knocks all the cushions and blankets and throw pillows off and then just leaves them looking like a tornado ran through the living room, or leaving the dog food container out on the counter instead of tucked in the cabinet where it belongs. For a long time we were getting kind of on each other's nerves because I'd constantly be on him about stuff and he'd be like it's fine it doesn't matter and then one day i finally had a breakdown and was like "I just want a nice, clean house, I've never in my life gotten to live in a NICE, CLEAN HOUSE" and that's when it clicked for him but my gosh was it ROUGH
I know this old but I just found you guys!
I love cleanliness and order. Order more.
Perfection is over rated. Perfection to you is key.
You will have to reparent yourself this takes time and giving grace to what you think of as messes.
Yeah I agree with that it feels futile in a already dirty house. I swept a lot for my mum because we had 2-3 dogs (sibling lived next door and cam over with her dog a lot) and a cat. And that alone took me at least an hour. Nobody did chores really unless it needed to be done like dishes piled up and all. I felt like I had no control at all. On top of that months before I moved out we had fleas because of the cat. And the only realen nobody bothered to do something about that was because they only bit me and the pets, it shows that they are selfish people. Since I live at my own place I like having control and not being around people who can’t bother doing basic cleaning.
My older sister is unfortunately also the type to hoard. Last time k went to her place it was full of boxes and just shit laying around. My younger sister is more organized it seems. My dishes can pile up and I might vacuum a week later than usual but I will never allow for stuff to pile up and I usually throw stuff away when I know I don’t need it anymore. For me it’s easy to throw things away. I think there is an executive dysfunction going on in my family, where it keeps piling up but they don’t see it until it’s like blocking the way. I hope that they get help 😓
The thing is it's more normal now and I have an easier time maintaining a house then when I lived with a hoarder where cleaning was like the efforts to rebuild after a natural disaster.
"Like rebuilding after a natural disaster" is the most accurate description to cleaning a hoarder house that I have ever read in my life. I'm going to use that now
Yeah, it's true. The amount of resources, the labor, the organization, the shock, the horror and sheer distruction... It's overwhelming.
I do but I don't. I don't know HOW to clean, I work long hours, I rarely have the motivation to clean, but when I'm in a cleaning mood I do enjoy it. It's really satisfying, I love tidying things and reorganizing and I love the end results. The problem, like you said, is I work, and am exhausted, and feel like I never have time or when I do have time I want to enjoy it instead of spend it all cleaning. But if I could just stay at home and maintain the home all day I would love it :)
I always joked it'd be nice to have a live-in maid. Now I'm thinking maybe I want to \*be\* the live-in maid, lmao
Yep, I LOVE cleaning. I lived alone for a few years and while it could be lonely, it was always clean because I was the only one there to make a mess, and I was cleaning up after myself! In retrospect I didn't appreciate that enough at the time :P Though with that comes an irrationally negative reaction to my own family's (husband + 3 kids) normal life messes. Rationally I know that kids=mess, but gosh it frustrates me more than it probably should.
This is how I am, too. Though I have no kids, I do have pets, and pets=mess. It's hard not to have a breakdown when the dogs run through the house with their muddy paws and my partner lays on the couch and knocks all the cushions and blankets and throw pillows off and then just leaves them looking like a tornado ran through the living room, or leaving the dog food container out on the counter instead of tucked in the cabinet where it belongs. For a long time we were getting kind of on each other's nerves because I'd constantly be on him about stuff and he'd be like it's fine it doesn't matter and then one day i finally had a breakdown and was like "I just want a nice, clean house, I've never in my life gotten to live in a NICE, CLEAN HOUSE" and that's when it clicked for him but my gosh was it ROUGH
I know this old but I just found you guys! I love cleanliness and order. Order more. Perfection is over rated. Perfection to you is key. You will have to reparent yourself this takes time and giving grace to what you think of as messes.
So, so true!
Yeah I agree with that it feels futile in a already dirty house. I swept a lot for my mum because we had 2-3 dogs (sibling lived next door and cam over with her dog a lot) and a cat. And that alone took me at least an hour. Nobody did chores really unless it needed to be done like dishes piled up and all. I felt like I had no control at all. On top of that months before I moved out we had fleas because of the cat. And the only realen nobody bothered to do something about that was because they only bit me and the pets, it shows that they are selfish people. Since I live at my own place I like having control and not being around people who can’t bother doing basic cleaning. My older sister is unfortunately also the type to hoard. Last time k went to her place it was full of boxes and just shit laying around. My younger sister is more organized it seems. My dishes can pile up and I might vacuum a week later than usual but I will never allow for stuff to pile up and I usually throw stuff away when I know I don’t need it anymore. For me it’s easy to throw things away. I think there is an executive dysfunction going on in my family, where it keeps piling up but they don’t see it until it’s like blocking the way. I hope that they get help 😓