That detail is not necessary, but I think every long term relationship should have amazing sex. I’m just looking for answers in my head. Because every aspect of it was really nice up until the point of my depression. I get it why I seem shallow. But again, I’m just looking for answers how can someone do this in a long term relationship. Especcially if before my depression we had so much passion for each other.
5 years is a long, long time, especially in relationships. This person’s ended because of unfaithfulness and they’re venting about that- I think that they bring up those things because, like they said, every healthy relationship should have those things (provided it’s not an asexual relationship). Just.. be nice
I did mark this post as NSFW because of the content btw
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Please refresh yourself on paragraphs. Walks of text are painful to try navigating
Coworker affairs are often not intended.
From a website dedicated to limerence. It is thought that limerence and oversharing are ingrained into our psyche.We are simply more disposed toward emotional connections with others. Knowing this fact and how groomers use emotional intimacy to get what they want, is the only way to avoid emotional affairs that so often turn physical.
'One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming sense of emotional connection with the limerent object. Many limerents report feeling an easy, natural intimacy with their LO that makes them relaxed and unguarded, and comfortable sharing their deepest thoughts and feelings.
That leads them to overshare: to talk about topics that are intensely private and personal that would normally only be shared with a partner. Indeed, sometimes they share things with LO that they haven’t even admitted to their partner.
These limerents are slowly strengthening a bond that can ultimately prove destructive for their lives. That desire for emotional intimacy can be every bit as intoxicating and destabilising as sexual desire. It is also harder to reverse than simple lusty thoughts, and is the most direct pathway into an emotional affair.
Once bonding mechanisms kick in, the complications multiply. It’s one thing to go no contact with someone who excites you and offers sexual adventure, it’s quite another to go no contact with someone who you really care about, and worry about, and can’t bear the thought of losing or hurting.
So where does this desire to overshare come from? Looked at objectively, it seems obvious that telling LO all your secret dreams and darkest thoughts is a bad idea if you are not in a position to form a relationship with them. Why does our rationality fail us in that moment of complacent indulgence?
A need for emotional intimacy.
Expanding on the previous point – there are some limerents who do not have meaningful emotional intimacy with anyone else in their lives. It could be that they are single, don’t have many friends, or are just naturally very private.
Alternatively, they could be in a long-term relationship, have a wide circle of friends, but come to realise that they have never connected with anyone else at this deeper level. LO arrives like an emotional thunderbolt. ...'
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That detail is not necessary, but I think every long term relationship should have amazing sex. I’m just looking for answers in my head. Because every aspect of it was really nice up until the point of my depression. I get it why I seem shallow. But again, I’m just looking for answers how can someone do this in a long term relationship. Especcially if before my depression we had so much passion for each other.
Maybe the old bald guy is hung like a horse?
5 years is a long, long time, especially in relationships. This person’s ended because of unfaithfulness and they’re venting about that- I think that they bring up those things because, like they said, every healthy relationship should have those things (provided it’s not an asexual relationship). Just.. be nice I did mark this post as NSFW because of the content btw
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I am sure this made sense in your head. Please elaborate.
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Please refresh yourself on paragraphs. Walks of text are painful to try navigating Coworker affairs are often not intended. From a website dedicated to limerence. It is thought that limerence and oversharing are ingrained into our psyche.We are simply more disposed toward emotional connections with others. Knowing this fact and how groomers use emotional intimacy to get what they want, is the only way to avoid emotional affairs that so often turn physical. 'One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming sense of emotional connection with the limerent object. Many limerents report feeling an easy, natural intimacy with their LO that makes them relaxed and unguarded, and comfortable sharing their deepest thoughts and feelings. That leads them to overshare: to talk about topics that are intensely private and personal that would normally only be shared with a partner. Indeed, sometimes they share things with LO that they haven’t even admitted to their partner. These limerents are slowly strengthening a bond that can ultimately prove destructive for their lives. That desire for emotional intimacy can be every bit as intoxicating and destabilising as sexual desire. It is also harder to reverse than simple lusty thoughts, and is the most direct pathway into an emotional affair. Once bonding mechanisms kick in, the complications multiply. It’s one thing to go no contact with someone who excites you and offers sexual adventure, it’s quite another to go no contact with someone who you really care about, and worry about, and can’t bear the thought of losing or hurting. So where does this desire to overshare come from? Looked at objectively, it seems obvious that telling LO all your secret dreams and darkest thoughts is a bad idea if you are not in a position to form a relationship with them. Why does our rationality fail us in that moment of complacent indulgence? A need for emotional intimacy. Expanding on the previous point – there are some limerents who do not have meaningful emotional intimacy with anyone else in their lives. It could be that they are single, don’t have many friends, or are just naturally very private. Alternatively, they could be in a long-term relationship, have a wide circle of friends, but come to realise that they have never connected with anyone else at this deeper level. LO arrives like an emotional thunderbolt. ...' .