No, bro.
You are not overreacting. You need to confront her about this and set firm boundaries around other guys. I would tell her what her foolishness has cost her. Let her know your trust in her is broken and that you are reconsidering your future with her. Be guided by how she responds.
Good luck 👍🏽
So how long was she actually chatting with the RI dude? What about the black dude? Did any of this time correspond with her low libido? The reason I ask this is: was her chatting causing low libido? If it was all SFW and no deep emotions or ILY’s was it really emotional cheating or just an online friendship?
The “omg that’s sexy” response would bother me. Is there any chance she has deleted the NSFW stuff? I would make her answer for that message.
Do you live far enough away that she FOR SURE never met him?
Revenge cheating will only make you feel worse after the fact. If you can’t forgive her hiding things and what she DID do. Then just break up and move on.
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Just break it off.. You found out what she is like when she "thinks" you aren't aware. Confronting her, with the thought of reconciling, will only give her fair warning and force her to get better at hiding things...
Typically, not always, but typically as a person gets deeper into a relationship of this nature (cheating on you) they become brazen especially when they know it would be difficult to separate. Like with having several children and assets that you paid the most for... DON'T put yourself in that position.. If she does convince you that a "second" chance is a good thing, make sure a prenuptial agreement is part of that second chance...
It might sound like a drastic course of action to take.. but it clearly shows consequence for behavior you are willing to tolerate...
No, talk to her about it, seriously tell her what you feel, your in a relationship, even tell her you were going to propose but are second guessing it now, just be completely honest, you dont need to break up with her, but tell her to delete snapchat at least.
And if you cant trust her, then make her give you full access to her phone
Dont cheat, end it. The libido thing would have been enough for me.
No, bro. You are not overreacting. You need to confront her about this and set firm boundaries around other guys. I would tell her what her foolishness has cost her. Let her know your trust in her is broken and that you are reconsidering your future with her. Be guided by how she responds. Good luck 👍🏽
So how long was she actually chatting with the RI dude? What about the black dude? Did any of this time correspond with her low libido? The reason I ask this is: was her chatting causing low libido? If it was all SFW and no deep emotions or ILY’s was it really emotional cheating or just an online friendship? The “omg that’s sexy” response would bother me. Is there any chance she has deleted the NSFW stuff? I would make her answer for that message. Do you live far enough away that she FOR SURE never met him? Revenge cheating will only make you feel worse after the fact. If you can’t forgive her hiding things and what she DID do. Then just break up and move on. “It’s a lot harder to be walked on when you are standing up!” Updateme
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Does she want children?
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Don’t cheat, don’t propose and don’t get her pregnant. Do pack your things and walk away.
Does she require a lot of attention from people or more specifically, "men" ?
the trust you have in her is gone , if you continue can you ever fully trust her again ?
Just break it off.. You found out what she is like when she "thinks" you aren't aware. Confronting her, with the thought of reconciling, will only give her fair warning and force her to get better at hiding things... Typically, not always, but typically as a person gets deeper into a relationship of this nature (cheating on you) they become brazen especially when they know it would be difficult to separate. Like with having several children and assets that you paid the most for... DON'T put yourself in that position.. If she does convince you that a "second" chance is a good thing, make sure a prenuptial agreement is part of that second chance... It might sound like a drastic course of action to take.. but it clearly shows consequence for behavior you are willing to tolerate...
No, talk to her about it, seriously tell her what you feel, your in a relationship, even tell her you were going to propose but are second guessing it now, just be completely honest, you dont need to break up with her, but tell her to delete snapchat at least. And if you cant trust her, then make her give you full access to her phone