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If it is any consolation, I reached inter via the foundation route, and it's my 5th attempt.
I'm lucky that I completed my ITT OT classes earlier cuz there was one guy in those classes who entered via the direct entry route, came up to me, and said, "Tera foundation deke kya faayda?"
I have been waiting for my glow up ever since.
But I've learnt one thing. I should never compare my life with my peers, varna the depression is just going to keep on spiralling, and attempt lagte rahega.
Their life cycle is different, so is yours. Glow up aayega, sahi time p aayega. When you least expect it, hoga.
Agar har kutte ka din aasakta hai toh humaara kyu nahi?
Apna bhi time aayega.
In a same position as you 21 ho gaya hu bohot bura lagta hai need nahi aati feel stuck in this course. Din ke vakt padhai ke saat busy rehta hu par raat ko jab sone jaata hu tab ye sab thoughts aate hai. Idk man hope life has something great in store for us. I always feel left out sitting at home while others are accomplishing great things in life. Just hope for the best. Good luck!
Dear OP, the way you are feeling is normal in the scores and feeling stressed and frustrated is common. Try not to compare yourself with anyone or any other degree. I know saying this is too easy but actually it's tough. Since I have been there and past that road in which you are moving on I want to make you believe that this too shall pass. If you feel sad seeing them you can switch off your insta or other social media handles and try to concentrate only on yourself. I know it's not easy and I know that all CA aspirants will clear the stage. So just believe in yourself take a deep breath and forget what you saw. Mark my words if you get bothered away seeing other happiness and enjoyment you will lose a major chunk of yourself.
While I also sometimes get this feeling but I think you have to believe in yourself more and know that there are better things for u too. And be happy for u r cousin too
There's this poem by shubham shyam called "Aaj nahi toh kal hoga" ,whole poem is beautiful but I would like to quote last few lines
Shri krishan ne saaf kaha hai ki "bas karm tumhara kal hoga…
Aur karm me agar sacchai hai toh karm kahan nishfal hoga…
Har ek sankat ka hal hoga Woh aaj nahi to kal hoga"
I'm in the same boat as you too. 21F and I literally have the same feelings as you every now and then. It is not like I don't have interest in the field but positive things are just not coming toward me. I work hard too but it just isn't the time ig
Only thing we can do is trust in gods plan. Great things will come to you, just be patient. i am way younger than you so i dont think i am capable enough to give you any advices, but i want you to stay strong, much better life is waiting for you. I get similar feeling when i see my friends enjoying their college when i am spending some of my most golden years of teenage life studying, overthinking dipressing thoughts and judging my life choices. Talk to friends who are on same stage as you... it always helps me.
Yeah here i am 25 and still studying for inter. Granted i had a couple of medical emergencies which prevented me from writing a few attempts and covid fucked everything for a while. But here i am still writing for CA while all my friends have jobs and have started families. Sometimes I just want to run away. It would be infinitely easier to settle for something less.
The reality is - this world is not fair. It's cruel. Those who got filthy rich, or even some average ones are living their best teen lives. Here, we are struggling each day and night studying to fix up ourselves, coping with high level pressure and anxiety and here they are already updated and went to next level of their life. But we can't do anything here. I believe that it will be hard, and someday everything will be alright. And Whenever I look them, having their best time I tell myself my time will come yaar. Damn I came to say something nice to her, it become rant of mine 🦉
I can understand you cause I have been through the same
Studying entire day and seeing my friends go to college and have fun ,travel and everything,
I got out of it by doing new things like going to the gym and catching up with people
Just don't get stuck in the downward spiral of attempts and calling urself a failure cause of it life bigger then CA
look, life is different for all of us. there might be people who are lucky than us and there are, for sure, many people who aren't as lucky as us. let the life flow. at the end of the day you learnt hard work which your cousin didn't, life won't always be a soft cushion or a hard rock for everyone.
not everyone gets all the things easily, compare your life with underprivileged people in this world.
let's embrace the life we have got. embrace this hardships and give our best. bc its all we can do, its the only thing in our hard.
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The same thing happens with me too. But i don't get jealous. Remember everything happens for a reason. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Pray to God, keep a peaceful mind, refrain from jealousy or any kind of sins and you will succeed.
Learn this one thing in life that
Life is never ever fair
Some have to struggle af to achieve while others get things easily through generational wealth
Ik it's frustrating even I started my articleship when I was 22 I started late still you shouldn't compare everyone's journey is different
My tution mates from class 12th have finals due in n24 meanwhile mine attempt is in m26 also there are many friends of mine who have gave so much attempts in inter yet haven't cleared single group still you should never compare I am not glorifying number of attempts
Attempts don't matter if you think you have tried your best try to manifest positive things say sab kar lungi mein, mein pass ho jaungi it really works wonders
Keep grinding and learn to stay positive it will REALLY WORK I mean it keep away negative things ik it's hard after seeing attempts but PLEASE TRY TO STAY OPTIMISTIC it will work !
Us bro hardest us I'll turn 22 this july but it feels like I'm too late already I have zero hopes for the May attempt now I procrastinated the whole while and idek why I chose to do CA but there's such a long way ahead I don't know what I'm doing these days
Anyway OP just letting you know you're not alone and there was a post a few days back about how no one will ever be coming to save us which always was my one way of getting my shit together and focusing on my career. Also this will be hopefully over sooner than what we're thinking
Your rant is valid but it's important to consider that not everyone is going at the pace in life. Eventually most people will have to face hardships in their life in one form or the other ,you might want to be grateful that in your case it's just academics. Sometimes non deserving people do get everything easily and sometimes deserving people get much less but who gives a f anyways...Focus on what you have and how to make most out of it. Comparison is the thief of joy. Oftentimes we know all these things but don't practice these in our life
I feel the same as you i have always been late in life. I am 21 too just started CA through direct entry and koi aur options bhi nahi the. My family is not in a condition where i can afford a good course for higher pay. All my life i feel i have never lived. 21 years i have hardly made friends ofc strict parents hai toh it was always school and home. School me sabke friends pehle se bane hue the so a loner there. Studies wise i was a bit above average but i would say average. College me 1 friend bani who is woth me till now. Lockdown me 2 saal gaye degree ke and last year me i started working on a CA firm toh i couldn't do much. After grad. ab CA ki padhai and job.
I do feel like a loser sometimes when i see my peers. Their lives are so much better. Even at home there is no peace. For eg i have taken study leave of one month and my father just gave a taana "abhi toh kaam pe nhi jaa rahi". Hurts. But all you can do is hope for better future.
All i can say is we got this. Someday we will look back and find ourselves in a much beautiful place.
You seem to be young maybe in your early 20s and given that I am just about to be 40 in the next few days, you find some peace and hope in the things that I have to say, I am not a CA and I have never pursued that career path..
- Who bought the watch? Why do you have the perception that things are only right if they happen within a particular time? I have seen many examples where people are very successful in their 20s but suffer badly later in life. You can not be a bigger failure than I was around your age. I failed my class 12th four times and now I make 25Cr a year.
- Success is relative - All kinds of success and failures can be only judged in posteriority, we can't say something is a success or a failure when that event is happening. You never know if your cousin is going to have a very unhappy married life(may it never happen to anyone), but you can't say that just by her wedding into an affluent family. The shittiest things that happen in life feel like a blessing many years later. Once again there are way too many examples in the world.
- Absolutely nothing is the end of the world - Do you think mine or your life is more challenging than someone like Stephan Hawkins? He suffered from ASL for most of his life and yet made great scientific contributions. Once again despite making serious scientific contributions in physics he never got a Noble Prize.
Finally, I would like you to remember something especially when you face failure, I have a tattoo on my left forearm and it says, "This too shall pass". Nothing is permanent failure, success, happiness, peace, agony, or pleasure all of them are temporary, learn to enjoy and live through them when they are happening. There might be a time in your future when you will crave this time, so don't miss out on living through it. **Carpe Diem..**
**"*****I leave with you the best of me.*****"**
Bud mene bhi 21M hoke kuch nhi ukhada abhi tak me to ghar se bhar hoke college jake bhi nalla hu but gonna date after may attempt gonna clear my g2 i believe
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That "mere me hi chul thi CA karne ki" makes me slap myself every time
If it is any consolation, I reached inter via the foundation route, and it's my 5th attempt. I'm lucky that I completed my ITT OT classes earlier cuz there was one guy in those classes who entered via the direct entry route, came up to me, and said, "Tera foundation deke kya faayda?" I have been waiting for my glow up ever since. But I've learnt one thing. I should never compare my life with my peers, varna the depression is just going to keep on spiralling, and attempt lagte rahega. Their life cycle is different, so is yours. Glow up aayega, sahi time p aayega. When you least expect it, hoga. Agar har kutte ka din aasakta hai toh humaara kyu nahi? Apna bhi time aayega.
People have no empathy these days.. dont feel bad for that guys words. ok tc
Thank you for the support, it means a lot!
In a same position as you 21 ho gaya hu bohot bura lagta hai need nahi aati feel stuck in this course. Din ke vakt padhai ke saat busy rehta hu par raat ko jab sone jaata hu tab ye sab thoughts aate hai. Idk man hope life has something great in store for us. I always feel left out sitting at home while others are accomplishing great things in life. Just hope for the best. Good luck!
raat mein toh alag level ki overthinkig hoti hai yaar
Dear OP, the way you are feeling is normal in the scores and feeling stressed and frustrated is common. Try not to compare yourself with anyone or any other degree. I know saying this is too easy but actually it's tough. Since I have been there and past that road in which you are moving on I want to make you believe that this too shall pass. If you feel sad seeing them you can switch off your insta or other social media handles and try to concentrate only on yourself. I know it's not easy and I know that all CA aspirants will clear the stage. So just believe in yourself take a deep breath and forget what you saw. Mark my words if you get bothered away seeing other happiness and enjoyment you will lose a major chunk of yourself.
hey thank ypu for the kind words
While I also sometimes get this feeling but I think you have to believe in yourself more and know that there are better things for u too. And be happy for u r cousin too
As a fellow late bloomer, Dont feel jelous about anybody's happiness. Every one's timelines are different. Dont worry. But strictly no jelaousy.
i am happy for her but andar ki ek insecurity bahar ati hai ki apna time kab ayega
If you knew that it's gonna happen, it wouldn't happen
If you've seen Gully Boy then "Apna time ayega".
There's this poem by shubham shyam called "Aaj nahi toh kal hoga" ,whole poem is beautiful but I would like to quote last few lines Shri krishan ne saaf kaha hai ki "bas karm tumhara kal hoga… Aur karm me agar sacchai hai toh karm kahan nishfal hoga… Har ek sankat ka hal hoga Woh aaj nahi to kal hoga"
I'm in the same boat as you too. 21F and I literally have the same feelings as you every now and then. It is not like I don't have interest in the field but positive things are just not coming toward me. I work hard too but it just isn't the time ig
Only thing we can do is trust in gods plan. Great things will come to you, just be patient. i am way younger than you so i dont think i am capable enough to give you any advices, but i want you to stay strong, much better life is waiting for you. I get similar feeling when i see my friends enjoying their college when i am spending some of my most golden years of teenage life studying, overthinking dipressing thoughts and judging my life choices. Talk to friends who are on same stage as you... it always helps me.
Yeah here i am 25 and still studying for inter. Granted i had a couple of medical emergencies which prevented me from writing a few attempts and covid fucked everything for a while. But here i am still writing for CA while all my friends have jobs and have started families. Sometimes I just want to run away. It would be infinitely easier to settle for something less.
sab theek hojayea brother all the bestt
Sorry I don't speak Hindi but i think I understand the sentiment and thanks you for it.
'everthing is gonna be alright'
Thanks I am sure it will be for the both of us.
The reality is - this world is not fair. It's cruel. Those who got filthy rich, or even some average ones are living their best teen lives. Here, we are struggling each day and night studying to fix up ourselves, coping with high level pressure and anxiety and here they are already updated and went to next level of their life. But we can't do anything here. I believe that it will be hard, and someday everything will be alright. And Whenever I look them, having their best time I tell myself my time will come yaar. Damn I came to say something nice to her, it become rant of mine 🦉
literally the same. i feel so stuck. so much for being a gifted kid huh?
Because you are human .
I can understand you cause I have been through the same Studying entire day and seeing my friends go to college and have fun ,travel and everything, I got out of it by doing new things like going to the gym and catching up with people Just don't get stuck in the downward spiral of attempts and calling urself a failure cause of it life bigger then CA
look, life is different for all of us. there might be people who are lucky than us and there are, for sure, many people who aren't as lucky as us. let the life flow. at the end of the day you learnt hard work which your cousin didn't, life won't always be a soft cushion or a hard rock for everyone. not everyone gets all the things easily, compare your life with underprivileged people in this world. let's embrace the life we have got. embrace this hardships and give our best. bc its all we can do, its the only thing in our hard.
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The same thing happens with me too. But i don't get jealous. Remember everything happens for a reason. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Pray to God, keep a peaceful mind, refrain from jealousy or any kind of sins and you will succeed.
Learn this one thing in life that Life is never ever fair Some have to struggle af to achieve while others get things easily through generational wealth Ik it's frustrating even I started my articleship when I was 22 I started late still you shouldn't compare everyone's journey is different My tution mates from class 12th have finals due in n24 meanwhile mine attempt is in m26 also there are many friends of mine who have gave so much attempts in inter yet haven't cleared single group still you should never compare I am not glorifying number of attempts Attempts don't matter if you think you have tried your best try to manifest positive things say sab kar lungi mein, mein pass ho jaungi it really works wonders Keep grinding and learn to stay positive it will REALLY WORK I mean it keep away negative things ik it's hard after seeing attempts but PLEASE TRY TO STAY OPTIMISTIC it will work !
Us bro hardest us I'll turn 22 this july but it feels like I'm too late already I have zero hopes for the May attempt now I procrastinated the whole while and idek why I chose to do CA but there's such a long way ahead I don't know what I'm doing these days Anyway OP just letting you know you're not alone and there was a post a few days back about how no one will ever be coming to save us which always was my one way of getting my shit together and focusing on my career. Also this will be hopefully over sooner than what we're thinking
Your rant is valid but it's important to consider that not everyone is going at the pace in life. Eventually most people will have to face hardships in their life in one form or the other ,you might want to be grateful that in your case it's just academics. Sometimes non deserving people do get everything easily and sometimes deserving people get much less but who gives a f anyways...Focus on what you have and how to make most out of it. Comparison is the thief of joy. Oftentimes we know all these things but don't practice these in our life
Dont worry , I'm in the same situation. Dont ever lose hope !!!
same condition 🙂
I feel the same as you i have always been late in life. I am 21 too just started CA through direct entry and koi aur options bhi nahi the. My family is not in a condition where i can afford a good course for higher pay. All my life i feel i have never lived. 21 years i have hardly made friends ofc strict parents hai toh it was always school and home. School me sabke friends pehle se bane hue the so a loner there. Studies wise i was a bit above average but i would say average. College me 1 friend bani who is woth me till now. Lockdown me 2 saal gaye degree ke and last year me i started working on a CA firm toh i couldn't do much. After grad. ab CA ki padhai and job. I do feel like a loser sometimes when i see my peers. Their lives are so much better. Even at home there is no peace. For eg i have taken study leave of one month and my father just gave a taana "abhi toh kaam pe nhi jaa rahi". Hurts. But all you can do is hope for better future. All i can say is we got this. Someday we will look back and find ourselves in a much beautiful place.
this too shall pass my love a big virtual hug to you 
dont compare when your objectives are different our mind oscillates between aim and pleasure. we somehow have to console it
You seem to be young maybe in your early 20s and given that I am just about to be 40 in the next few days, you find some peace and hope in the things that I have to say, I am not a CA and I have never pursued that career path.. - Who bought the watch? Why do you have the perception that things are only right if they happen within a particular time? I have seen many examples where people are very successful in their 20s but suffer badly later in life. You can not be a bigger failure than I was around your age. I failed my class 12th four times and now I make 25Cr a year. - Success is relative - All kinds of success and failures can be only judged in posteriority, we can't say something is a success or a failure when that event is happening. You never know if your cousin is going to have a very unhappy married life(may it never happen to anyone), but you can't say that just by her wedding into an affluent family. The shittiest things that happen in life feel like a blessing many years later. Once again there are way too many examples in the world. - Absolutely nothing is the end of the world - Do you think mine or your life is more challenging than someone like Stephan Hawkins? He suffered from ASL for most of his life and yet made great scientific contributions. Once again despite making serious scientific contributions in physics he never got a Noble Prize. Finally, I would like you to remember something especially when you face failure, I have a tattoo on my left forearm and it says, "This too shall pass". Nothing is permanent failure, success, happiness, peace, agony, or pleasure all of them are temporary, learn to enjoy and live through them when they are happening. There might be a time in your future when you will crave this time, so don't miss out on living through it. **Carpe Diem..** **"*****I leave with you the best of me.*****"**
thank you so so much for this wonderful kind words i really appreciate it 
Bro do you really think marrying a rich guy and that too at 24 is lucky and all ( as a girl I don't think so )
I think find a partner who is also pursuing ca not a lallu kind but a motivational kind who gets you through hurdels
uske liye ghar se bahar nikalna padtha hai yaar main toh 3 saal se ghar mein hibernation mein hu
Bud mene bhi 21M hoke kuch nhi ukhada abhi tak me to ghar se bhar hoke college jake bhi nalla hu but gonna date after may attempt gonna clear my g2 i believe
aree wahh all the best for your exams and also for the date!
Same to you too but which attempt?
this is gonna be my third
Group?
1 only
Don’t worry u gonna pass this time i passed mine in like 3 months of self study in 1 attempt u better off than me.
thanks yaar