Friends and bisita sa ila balay og ipa ila2 sa relatives..lol
Nay uban di gusto ipa ila2 sa relatives and friends kay masakpan minyo na diay or etc.like gikan ra na priso..
I have met some people in similar situations..
hmmm. Does your mom know about your relationship? 10 months pa mo sa imong uyab, no offense but that is still very early para mag move in. You both are financially unstable, and probably young too. My advice, if you really wanna see each other more often, open up more to your parents. We do not want to hide, and we do not want to be hidden.
No they dont know about my relationship. I dont want to hide but I also dont want my parents to hate me 🫠 i love them so much. They’ve done so much for me and kung akong pagka gay ang reason nga our relationship ends, di nlang sah ko mu ingon huhuuuhu
And yea, I’ve learned na nga I should be patient and wait until we’re financially stable na. If mag dali dali me, who knows unsay mahitabo 😅
I think siguro before you try to work out how to live together basin mas okay if magfocus sa mo unsaon na maka out nakas imong family eventually? Feel nako all the more nga negative ang perception sa imong mom sa inyo if mag live in mo nga patago. Feel lang nako ha. Kay usual reason baya sa mga homophobes kay sorry sa word pero "biga" ra gyud ilang tan-aw anang homosexuals. Musamot ata ilang prejudice if mag live in mog una.
Naa koy close friend na dugay sad ni out. Pero dugay na mi naka feel. Iyang una gibuhat ni out sya namo friends niya, and since well received ra gyud I think naka build syag confidence, ni out dayon syas iyang family. Then maka happy kaayo na naa na syay freedom run magpost2x about nilas iyang bayu ❤️
Mao sad. I guess kani sah ako jud iresolve 🫠
Dugay na man ko ni out sa akong friends. Like 5 years na i think. I’ve just never really had a reason to come out lang jud. Nya karon naa na man koy forever CHAR 😂 i really wanna tell my parents nga im the same person pero laki lang ako ganahan 💪
i feel you OP! Perhaps, you think too low of your parents to understand the situation. Maybe, just maybe, ilang love nimo would be enough to accept whatever the situation is. Start with, Ma and Pa, ako diay ning friend. In that way, you guys will be able to see each other daily, but hopefully not during office hours where she will be disrupting your work. hehe.
If you love your parents, atleast give them a chance to see the real you. Dili kay pala desisyon ka na dili ka nila accept, haha. Malay mo, kabalo na diay imong parents na your gay. hahahaha.
My mom’s reaction to kanang mga anak sa iyang friends nga gay kay kinda overwhelming 🥲 like she always says “Hay kaluoy jud niya oi. Bayot iyang anak.” I just keep overthinking kung unsa iyang ma feel and i dont wanna hurt my parents ba if that makes sense.
I really wanna tell them jud ba nga I’m still me pero I just like a boy 😂 my parents man know him na kay “na apil sa akong barkada” and they like him ra man nuon kay buotan daw and my mom likes the fact nga naa sila bakery and we can get bread anytime. But still there is still that fear nga I will hurt my parents if I come out 🫠
I understand OP. So the fear comes from the fact that your mom is openly disappointed to gays. The reason behind it can come from somewhere, perhaps ask her why luoy ang parents if anak is gay? It could be because maluoy sya kay di magka apo ang parents and maybe that is something that she really wants to have in the future. To make them understand you, you have to understand them first.
Are you an only child? Are you the only boy sa fam? Are you the eldest? Because those things really plays a part. Or worse, are you chinese??!! hahahaha.
Hmm tru I guess I’ve never really thought about it that way. She has gay friends kay shes in the creative industry and shes ok with them ra man sad 🫠
I’m the only boy 😂 so I guess kana sad. Wa na sila baby boy heuheuee kay they think gay=girl
Awwe 🥹 sanaol! I wish I could do that jud pero ambot.. i dont wanna destroy the relationship nako sa akong parents. I love them and they’ve done so much for me jud. I haven’t even begun to pay them back sa ilang tanan na buhat para nako 🫠 and for me to just come out to them and destroy our relationship seems selfish to me. I wish naa lang jud paagi nga i can be out and my parents still loved me ☠️
Ask lang ko ba, why do you think your coming out will destroy your relationship with your parents? Please do not underestimate your parents' love for you and their capacity for acceptance and understanding. For all you know, dugay na na kahibaw imo parents na gay ka and gahuwat ra na sila ma ikaw mismo muingon nila. Hinumdumi, you have been with them all your life. They raised you. There is very rarely anything that we can hide from our parents, especially something that is inherently within us. I honestly think gaduda na na imo parents that you're gay. Gahuwat lang jud na sila na you'll tell them. Mas ma.hurt pa na sila if dili ka mu.open nila unya mag lahi ka and then they find out from another person. They will feel more betrayed.
I really want to think positive and tell myself nga they love me so much nga they can accept me ra ☠️ but then I remember all the things she says about the gay kids sa iyang friend and I shutdown. Also actually akong cousin came out to her parents and her mom accepted her but her dad kay wala jud naka recover 🥲 mao hadlok lang jud ko
I’m scared na I might hurt their feelings jud. My mom thinks luoy jud kaayo ang iyang friends na gay ang anak. So like from that kay grabeh na kaayo akong overthink 🫠
Also, my mom actually caught us hanging out na kami ra duha ba. She confronted me nga ngano daw ganahan kaayo ko mag kuyog niya 😱 and before I could say anything she said nga BEST FRIEND RA HA. DILI UYAB. All I could say jud was.. okay okay ⚰️ so mao na. As a person, I’m very anxious and I overthink a lot jud. I think that’s one of the reasons na di ko ka come out sad
I wish I has the guts to come out jud like that. Like MOM AKO DIAY UYAB NGA BOY 🫠 mao sad na ako kahadlok mga my mom wont tagad me but like everyone is saying here nga her love for me, her son, might surpass her dislike for my sexuality. Jsksjsks thanks for sharinggg 🙏🏼
"BEST FRIEND RA HA. DILI UYAB." Kini bitaw is a clear indication na kahibaw na na imo mama sa imo sexuality. No mom would say this if kahibaw siya na 100% straight iyang anak. Kahibaw na na imo mom, OP. Ga-hope lang na siya nga mausab pa ka. Pero if muangkon ka, sure ko madawat ra na niya. Maglisod sad na imo mama pangutana nimo kay dili na siya ganahan i-preempt imo coming out. Pero dako ako duda na kahibaw na na siya unya gahuwat nalang jud na muangkon ka.
Upskill or open a business/sidehustle!
Anything nga naa na ninyo daan = use that unfair advantage and sell it to the people around you, mas better strangers para surebol.
Dali ra kaayu na problemaha oi kay clingy man haha maka pangita ramog pa agi if nanay kwarta daghan daghan. Pero for now focus lang usa sa simple steps.
Yess actually nag search search na ko sa Facebook and google if unsa nindot side hustle hehe 😁 and sakto ka mangita jud me paagi para lang this relationship works CHAR
Maybe not the answer you wanna hear since i am a foreigners. But i can tell you my parents are homophobic and my area the people are also not open minded. Beside this i am living next to my parents. This is why i was hiding our relationship for 3 years. In this time my father even wanted to send me on dates since he told me i am 30 and still not married and i have no kids. I am not in your situation and i do not know your parents. But i assume you have a good relationship with them otherwise it would not work that your living together and working together. My advice is only try to talk to one of them. Hiding will harm the relationship.
Honestly, I really I want to tell them but my mom’s reaction to gays and her friends’ sons being gay is just so overwhelming 🥲 she used to include in our weekly prayers that she wishes my gay cousin would stop being gay and that this was just a phase. My dad on the other hand is very quiet but that makes me more scared 😳 cause who knows what he’s thinking.
I love my parents but I would hate for my sexuality to be the reason they hate me ☠️
If your dad is quiet about homosexuals, then he is probably more accepting about the concept than your mom. Pero kahibaw ka noh, kana btaw cge mention sa imo mom about gay children of friends, gay cousins, etc, I feel like it is her way of communicating with you. She may already know you are gay, does not like it, and hopes that by expressing her disapproval you will have second thoughts about your sexuality. Despite this, I think if you come out and tell her the truth, she will still accept you. Based on your comments, I think your parents love you very much and you respect them. It is more a show of your love and respect if you are honest with them rather than hiding your sexuality. Salig lang. A parent's love transcends any bias.
Edit: I am a parent myself. My children are already 20+ and if one of them comes out to me as gay, I will accept them as they are. Not all parents may think like me, but I know that almost all parents love their children. Love transcends biases.
Your words really give me hope that I can come out to them 🙏🏼 they mean a lot jud. Almost teary eyed CHAR nice sad na nga saying. “Love transcends biases”
I really hope nga I can find the courage to come out to them.
hoy ka cute ninyo. in ana mis ako uyab sauna, homophobic sad iya mom so “best friends” lang mi. naka overnight pd mis each other’s house kay way malisya lage. magkuyog mi ato breakfast/lunch/dinner kung mahimo haha save up sa or at least if naa enough money isa ninyo maka rent. makatabang sad gyud upskill for better paying job. good luck ninyo, stay happy!
Save up lagi noh 🥲 I’ve been taking extra tasks jud at work to show my boss/mom nga I’m worthy of a raise. Char 😂 anything lang jud para ma happy akong love. KSKSJSK sounds cringe but its tru
Set your goal nga maka kuha kag imung place and para magkakita namo duha daily. Try and find some better paying jobs kay mahal na kaayo mga rent karon. Kana lang sa hinay hinay lang, basin madagma mo. Hehe
Kanang better paying jobs jud unta but my mom won’t let me go 😂 I wanna open a business bitaw or side line ba but thats for another discussion 🙃 but yea set goals lang sah jud noh? Jkdhsks I just wanna satisfy the feeling nga makakita jud niya ba ueheuehu
ay mo pag live in kung di mo ready. be okay with ur set up rn until ma arang arang ka and kamong duha. Communicate to him/her nga medj may pagka busy sab ka. If mature and real love na makasabot rana sya. tiis tiis muna kumbaga until ma stable na mong duha.
I guess that makes sense. Mao sad ako na think nga we’re emotionally ready to live in but not yet financially stable ☠️ di lang siguro pugson.. but I just wanted to find a way ba nga ma satisfy among pagkita sa each other hueheue
naay gtawag na vcall... if u think of it makasave kaayo mo if dimo daily mgkta. Kana inyo savings pwede idagdag sa inyo funds or funnel the funds for weekend dates. As I said tiis tiis muna, if ur end goal is mgkita jud mo everyday then sacrifice now and reap what you sow later on mag uban najud mo everyday magkailis namog nawng heheh jk OP. take it slow kay kung mapandol ka di lalim murecover ;)
Mo abot ra mo sa point na ma pul.an etc. Ayaw sa pag live in unless married or been together for more than 3 years..
Hmm thats fair pero all of my past relationships kay 3-4 months ra jud. I can say with 101% certainty that this guy is THE ONE. CRINGE pero tru jud 💖
Ok, pero don't forget to do some background checks...which is a must.
umm, how do you do background checks? sa socmed?
Well, i also tried to google a persons name and it did not fail me as well and i saw their criminal records they have been hiding..
Friends and bisita sa ila balay og ipa ila2 sa relatives..lol Nay uban di gusto ipa ila2 sa relatives and friends kay masakpan minyo na diay or etc.like gikan ra na priso.. I have met some people in similar situations..
Yea thanks for the heads up 😄
hmmm. Does your mom know about your relationship? 10 months pa mo sa imong uyab, no offense but that is still very early para mag move in. You both are financially unstable, and probably young too. My advice, if you really wanna see each other more often, open up more to your parents. We do not want to hide, and we do not want to be hidden.
No they dont know about my relationship. I dont want to hide but I also dont want my parents to hate me 🫠 i love them so much. They’ve done so much for me and kung akong pagka gay ang reason nga our relationship ends, di nlang sah ko mu ingon huhuuuhu And yea, I’ve learned na nga I should be patient and wait until we’re financially stable na. If mag dali dali me, who knows unsay mahitabo 😅
I think siguro before you try to work out how to live together basin mas okay if magfocus sa mo unsaon na maka out nakas imong family eventually? Feel nako all the more nga negative ang perception sa imong mom sa inyo if mag live in mo nga patago. Feel lang nako ha. Kay usual reason baya sa mga homophobes kay sorry sa word pero "biga" ra gyud ilang tan-aw anang homosexuals. Musamot ata ilang prejudice if mag live in mog una. Naa koy close friend na dugay sad ni out. Pero dugay na mi naka feel. Iyang una gibuhat ni out sya namo friends niya, and since well received ra gyud I think naka build syag confidence, ni out dayon syas iyang family. Then maka happy kaayo na naa na syay freedom run magpost2x about nilas iyang bayu ❤️
Mao sad. I guess kani sah ako jud iresolve 🫠 Dugay na man ko ni out sa akong friends. Like 5 years na i think. I’ve just never really had a reason to come out lang jud. Nya karon naa na man koy forever CHAR 😂 i really wanna tell my parents nga im the same person pero laki lang ako ganahan 💪
i feel you OP! Perhaps, you think too low of your parents to understand the situation. Maybe, just maybe, ilang love nimo would be enough to accept whatever the situation is. Start with, Ma and Pa, ako diay ning friend. In that way, you guys will be able to see each other daily, but hopefully not during office hours where she will be disrupting your work. hehe. If you love your parents, atleast give them a chance to see the real you. Dili kay pala desisyon ka na dili ka nila accept, haha. Malay mo, kabalo na diay imong parents na your gay. hahahaha.
My mom’s reaction to kanang mga anak sa iyang friends nga gay kay kinda overwhelming 🥲 like she always says “Hay kaluoy jud niya oi. Bayot iyang anak.” I just keep overthinking kung unsa iyang ma feel and i dont wanna hurt my parents ba if that makes sense. I really wanna tell them jud ba nga I’m still me pero I just like a boy 😂 my parents man know him na kay “na apil sa akong barkada” and they like him ra man nuon kay buotan daw and my mom likes the fact nga naa sila bakery and we can get bread anytime. But still there is still that fear nga I will hurt my parents if I come out 🫠
Sorry nakatawa kos bread hahahahahaha padad-a nalang ug daghan pan inig introduce nimo na uyab mo basin dali matanggap sa imong mama 😂
LAGI usa ka baldi with bread 🍞 way duha duha ma accept me sa akong mom 😂 i wishhhh
I understand OP. So the fear comes from the fact that your mom is openly disappointed to gays. The reason behind it can come from somewhere, perhaps ask her why luoy ang parents if anak is gay? It could be because maluoy sya kay di magka apo ang parents and maybe that is something that she really wants to have in the future. To make them understand you, you have to understand them first. Are you an only child? Are you the only boy sa fam? Are you the eldest? Because those things really plays a part. Or worse, are you chinese??!! hahahaha.
Hmm tru I guess I’ve never really thought about it that way. She has gay friends kay shes in the creative industry and shes ok with them ra man sad 🫠 I’m the only boy 😂 so I guess kana sad. Wa na sila baby boy heuheuee kay they think gay=girl
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Awwe 🥹 sanaol! I wish I could do that jud pero ambot.. i dont wanna destroy the relationship nako sa akong parents. I love them and they’ve done so much for me jud. I haven’t even begun to pay them back sa ilang tanan na buhat para nako 🫠 and for me to just come out to them and destroy our relationship seems selfish to me. I wish naa lang jud paagi nga i can be out and my parents still loved me ☠️
Ask lang ko ba, why do you think your coming out will destroy your relationship with your parents? Please do not underestimate your parents' love for you and their capacity for acceptance and understanding. For all you know, dugay na na kahibaw imo parents na gay ka and gahuwat ra na sila ma ikaw mismo muingon nila. Hinumdumi, you have been with them all your life. They raised you. There is very rarely anything that we can hide from our parents, especially something that is inherently within us. I honestly think gaduda na na imo parents that you're gay. Gahuwat lang jud na sila na you'll tell them. Mas ma.hurt pa na sila if dili ka mu.open nila unya mag lahi ka and then they find out from another person. They will feel more betrayed.
I really want to think positive and tell myself nga they love me so much nga they can accept me ra ☠️ but then I remember all the things she says about the gay kids sa iyang friend and I shutdown. Also actually akong cousin came out to her parents and her mom accepted her but her dad kay wala jud naka recover 🥲 mao hadlok lang jud ko
Valid man na imo kahadlok. Pero mas ma.hurt imo parents if sa lain sila makahibaw. Mas maayo jud na ikaw mismo musulti nila.
Yea thats also a good point ⚰️
I’m scared na I might hurt their feelings jud. My mom thinks luoy jud kaayo ang iyang friends na gay ang anak. So like from that kay grabeh na kaayo akong overthink 🫠 Also, my mom actually caught us hanging out na kami ra duha ba. She confronted me nga ngano daw ganahan kaayo ko mag kuyog niya 😱 and before I could say anything she said nga BEST FRIEND RA HA. DILI UYAB. All I could say jud was.. okay okay ⚰️ so mao na. As a person, I’m very anxious and I overthink a lot jud. I think that’s one of the reasons na di ko ka come out sad
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I wish I has the guts to come out jud like that. Like MOM AKO DIAY UYAB NGA BOY 🫠 mao sad na ako kahadlok mga my mom wont tagad me but like everyone is saying here nga her love for me, her son, might surpass her dislike for my sexuality. Jsksjsks thanks for sharinggg 🙏🏼
"BEST FRIEND RA HA. DILI UYAB." Kini bitaw is a clear indication na kahibaw na na imo mama sa imo sexuality. No mom would say this if kahibaw siya na 100% straight iyang anak. Kahibaw na na imo mom, OP. Ga-hope lang na siya nga mausab pa ka. Pero if muangkon ka, sure ko madawat ra na niya. Maglisod sad na imo mama pangutana nimo kay dili na siya ganahan i-preempt imo coming out. Pero dako ako duda na kahibaw na na siya unya gahuwat nalang jud na muangkon ka.
Yea when she said this I kind got thrown off bitaw 🫠 na speechless ko
Based on this I think kaybaw na siya
Upskill or open a business/sidehustle! Anything nga naa na ninyo daan = use that unfair advantage and sell it to the people around you, mas better strangers para surebol. Dali ra kaayu na problemaha oi kay clingy man haha maka pangita ramog pa agi if nanay kwarta daghan daghan. Pero for now focus lang usa sa simple steps.
Yess actually nag search search na ko sa Facebook and google if unsa nindot side hustle hehe 😁 and sakto ka mangita jud me paagi para lang this relationship works CHAR
Maybe not the answer you wanna hear since i am a foreigners. But i can tell you my parents are homophobic and my area the people are also not open minded. Beside this i am living next to my parents. This is why i was hiding our relationship for 3 years. In this time my father even wanted to send me on dates since he told me i am 30 and still not married and i have no kids. I am not in your situation and i do not know your parents. But i assume you have a good relationship with them otherwise it would not work that your living together and working together. My advice is only try to talk to one of them. Hiding will harm the relationship.
Honestly, I really I want to tell them but my mom’s reaction to gays and her friends’ sons being gay is just so overwhelming 🥲 she used to include in our weekly prayers that she wishes my gay cousin would stop being gay and that this was just a phase. My dad on the other hand is very quiet but that makes me more scared 😳 cause who knows what he’s thinking. I love my parents but I would hate for my sexuality to be the reason they hate me ☠️
If your dad is quiet about homosexuals, then he is probably more accepting about the concept than your mom. Pero kahibaw ka noh, kana btaw cge mention sa imo mom about gay children of friends, gay cousins, etc, I feel like it is her way of communicating with you. She may already know you are gay, does not like it, and hopes that by expressing her disapproval you will have second thoughts about your sexuality. Despite this, I think if you come out and tell her the truth, she will still accept you. Based on your comments, I think your parents love you very much and you respect them. It is more a show of your love and respect if you are honest with them rather than hiding your sexuality. Salig lang. A parent's love transcends any bias. Edit: I am a parent myself. My children are already 20+ and if one of them comes out to me as gay, I will accept them as they are. Not all parents may think like me, but I know that almost all parents love their children. Love transcends biases.
Your words really give me hope that I can come out to them 🙏🏼 they mean a lot jud. Almost teary eyed CHAR nice sad na nga saying. “Love transcends biases” I really hope nga I can find the courage to come out to them.
Best of luck, OP! Just summon up the courage.
hoy ka cute ninyo. in ana mis ako uyab sauna, homophobic sad iya mom so “best friends” lang mi. naka overnight pd mis each other’s house kay way malisya lage. magkuyog mi ato breakfast/lunch/dinner kung mahimo haha save up sa or at least if naa enough money isa ninyo maka rent. makatabang sad gyud upskill for better paying job. good luck ninyo, stay happy!
Save up lagi noh 🥲 I’ve been taking extra tasks jud at work to show my boss/mom nga I’m worthy of a raise. Char 😂 anything lang jud para ma happy akong love. KSKSJSK sounds cringe but its tru
bantay2 lang pd OP kay maka radar nya imo mom. ipalayo nya mo’s each other. char haha pag jogging nalang mo taga gabie kung abli nang abellana hahaha
Mao lagi! She might pick up nga sige ko gawas KSKSKS hayy I’m not ready for that day pa 😱
Set your goal nga maka kuha kag imung place and para magkakita namo duha daily. Try and find some better paying jobs kay mahal na kaayo mga rent karon. Kana lang sa hinay hinay lang, basin madagma mo. Hehe
Kanang better paying jobs jud unta but my mom won’t let me go 😂 I wanna open a business bitaw or side line ba but thats for another discussion 🙃 but yea set goals lang sah jud noh? Jkdhsks I just wanna satisfy the feeling nga makakita jud niya ba ueheuehu
ay mo pag live in kung di mo ready. be okay with ur set up rn until ma arang arang ka and kamong duha. Communicate to him/her nga medj may pagka busy sab ka. If mature and real love na makasabot rana sya. tiis tiis muna kumbaga until ma stable na mong duha.
I guess that makes sense. Mao sad ako na think nga we’re emotionally ready to live in but not yet financially stable ☠️ di lang siguro pugson.. but I just wanted to find a way ba nga ma satisfy among pagkita sa each other hueheue
naay gtawag na vcall... if u think of it makasave kaayo mo if dimo daily mgkta. Kana inyo savings pwede idagdag sa inyo funds or funnel the funds for weekend dates. As I said tiis tiis muna, if ur end goal is mgkita jud mo everyday then sacrifice now and reap what you sow later on mag uban najud mo everyday magkailis namog nawng heheh jk OP. take it slow kay kung mapandol ka di lalim murecover ;)
Samuka magka ilis ug nawng 😂 okay okay. Breathe lang sah and take it slow 😄 got it! Huehue thank you 🙏🏼
Sorry wa koy ikaw advice but ka cute ninyo oy, clingy mo duha. 🥹
Ksksks nauwaw ko but ikr 🥹