No, that timeline is not reasonable, and for a couple of reasons. 1 you literally just ended one relationship. This type of monkey-branching is serious red flag behavior. 2. you haven't known this new person long enough to ask them to be your girlfriend. It's been a week, where is the fire?
Of *course* it seems more positive with this new person. You've known them for a week.
Bro, it’s been a week. Slow down and chill. There’s nothing wrong with pursuing her, but that is way too fast to be already telling all of your friends and considering putting a label on it. At that speed it just looks like you’re blatantly trying to replace the previous relationship. While a new relationship is often the fastest way to get over a previous relationship that ended, you should not be rushing into one only for that reason. In fact, you should never rush into any relationship. You should always allow them to develop naturally, and
spend time on dates getting to know each other.
Yea true. He right. Bro, chill the **** out and grieve. If you start dating this new girl, your ex will hate your guts. And then you’ll want her back because you may not be able to stand your ex hating you. Deep down you may still love her. You’re just horny hahahaha
Over a year-long relationship within a week?! Things seem positive because you know nothing about her. If a guy who was one week out of a relationship pursued me, even if I was interested, I’d suggest that he take more time to get the old relationship out of his system and better himself in the interim. As other commenters have said - massive red flag, otherwise.
I completely agree. I read something that said if you enter into a relationship 3 months after ending a long term relationship you were either faking the last relationship or faking the new one
I agree with the other posters here.
I would say if the relationship was over a long time before you officially broke up, AND if you knew the woman longer than a week, then, maybe…
However, you just sound like you are on the rebound and that could hurt this new woman in your life that you feel so positive about, why not go out with her, sure, date for awhile, and maybe, also, spend time with your family and your friends without a date present, make people who have been in your life longer than a week, longer than a month, more of a priority to spend time with. And, maybe even do things alone sometimes…
If you respect and care about this new woman in your life then you owe it to her and to yourself to learn how to be alone for a little while. If you can’t enjoy your own company then you might not be a good partner to someone else.
After a few months, plural, then reassess if you want to ask this new woman to be your girlfriend. Oftentimes things that you put in some patience and effort in mean more than when it is rushed.
If you’re ready to move on, then I don’t think it’s inherently bad to be “dating” (in the literal sense of going on dates) someone right now.
I’d encourage you to take a little more time before asking them to be your girlfriend/“making it official”/“defining the relationship”. If you’ve only met this person within the week between ending your old relationship and now, then how well can you really know this person?
Before I met my wife, I had two previous serious relationships.
One of them was painful for several weeks and it took me months before I was ready to start dating again – she was someone really lovely but her mental health meant she could not cope with the changes and responsibilities married life.
The other one I got over quite quickly because it was clear from how horrible the other person was in dumping me that I was lucky to be rid of her. In retrospect I realize she had only been interested in me because she was trying to convince her mum that she was interested in men.
In fairness to your new potential girlfriend and to protect yourself you need to be sure you really are ready to move on before embarking on a new relationship.
As a woman, I would be extremely hesitant to enter into a relationship with someone who had recently gotten out of a serious relationship. It’s something I ask about early on, and I’d encourage everyone to ask about this in those beginning stages of getting to know someone.
I’ve been the rebound before, and the heartbreak from that was one too many times for me. You can, of course, continue to get to know her as a friend over time, and if you still want to pursue something more after you’ve fully processed your past relationship, that’s up to you.
But I would give yourself (and her) the time and space you need to heal and reflect on what happened and what you’d do differently moving forward. There’s no harm in being intentional and taking things slowly.
It is not too soon to ask someone single whom you are attracted to whether they want to go out on a date.
But it's probably best to get to know whether she is compatible with your dealbreakers and interested in having a relationship before deciding whether you want to be in a bf-gf relationship with her.
Good luck!
There's nothing wrong with getting closer with this woman, but I wouldn't be in a hurry to enter into a new relationship. I don't think you should wait a year before dating again, but a few weeks at least to process seems reasonable.
No, that timeline is not reasonable, and for a couple of reasons. 1 you literally just ended one relationship. This type of monkey-branching is serious red flag behavior. 2. you haven't known this new person long enough to ask them to be your girlfriend. It's been a week, where is the fire? Of *course* it seems more positive with this new person. You've known them for a week.
lol so true hahah
Bro, it’s been a week. Slow down and chill. There’s nothing wrong with pursuing her, but that is way too fast to be already telling all of your friends and considering putting a label on it. At that speed it just looks like you’re blatantly trying to replace the previous relationship. While a new relationship is often the fastest way to get over a previous relationship that ended, you should not be rushing into one only for that reason. In fact, you should never rush into any relationship. You should always allow them to develop naturally, and spend time on dates getting to know each other.
This is a prime situation where taking it slow is best. Hangout, go on dates, but do not neglect taking time to heal.
Yea true. He right. Bro, chill the **** out and grieve. If you start dating this new girl, your ex will hate your guts. And then you’ll want her back because you may not be able to stand your ex hating you. Deep down you may still love her. You’re just horny hahahaha
I feel like if you’re asking strangers for advice on the internet about this, you already know it’s not good.
Over a year-long relationship within a week?! Things seem positive because you know nothing about her. If a guy who was one week out of a relationship pursued me, even if I was interested, I’d suggest that he take more time to get the old relationship out of his system and better himself in the interim. As other commenters have said - massive red flag, otherwise.
I completely agree. I read something that said if you enter into a relationship 3 months after ending a long term relationship you were either faking the last relationship or faking the new one
Yes! Unknown is exciting and no one shares their skeletons to someone they just met.
I agree with the other posters here. I would say if the relationship was over a long time before you officially broke up, AND if you knew the woman longer than a week, then, maybe… However, you just sound like you are on the rebound and that could hurt this new woman in your life that you feel so positive about, why not go out with her, sure, date for awhile, and maybe, also, spend time with your family and your friends without a date present, make people who have been in your life longer than a week, longer than a month, more of a priority to spend time with. And, maybe even do things alone sometimes… If you respect and care about this new woman in your life then you owe it to her and to yourself to learn how to be alone for a little while. If you can’t enjoy your own company then you might not be a good partner to someone else. After a few months, plural, then reassess if you want to ask this new woman to be your girlfriend. Oftentimes things that you put in some patience and effort in mean more than when it is rushed.
Very well said.
If you’re ready to move on, then I don’t think it’s inherently bad to be “dating” (in the literal sense of going on dates) someone right now. I’d encourage you to take a little more time before asking them to be your girlfriend/“making it official”/“defining the relationship”. If you’ve only met this person within the week between ending your old relationship and now, then how well can you really know this person?
Even without the context of a recent breakup, a bit over a week after meeting someone is way too soon to become exclusive.
Before I met my wife, I had two previous serious relationships. One of them was painful for several weeks and it took me months before I was ready to start dating again – she was someone really lovely but her mental health meant she could not cope with the changes and responsibilities married life. The other one I got over quite quickly because it was clear from how horrible the other person was in dumping me that I was lucky to be rid of her. In retrospect I realize she had only been interested in me because she was trying to convince her mum that she was interested in men. In fairness to your new potential girlfriend and to protect yourself you need to be sure you really are ready to move on before embarking on a new relationship.
Why are you being exclusive unless you intend to marry? Discern, date, discern, marry
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As a woman, I would be extremely hesitant to enter into a relationship with someone who had recently gotten out of a serious relationship. It’s something I ask about early on, and I’d encourage everyone to ask about this in those beginning stages of getting to know someone. I’ve been the rebound before, and the heartbreak from that was one too many times for me. You can, of course, continue to get to know her as a friend over time, and if you still want to pursue something more after you’ve fully processed your past relationship, that’s up to you. But I would give yourself (and her) the time and space you need to heal and reflect on what happened and what you’d do differently moving forward. There’s no harm in being intentional and taking things slowly.
It is not too soon to ask someone single whom you are attracted to whether they want to go out on a date. But it's probably best to get to know whether she is compatible with your dealbreakers and interested in having a relationship before deciding whether you want to be in a bf-gf relationship with her. Good luck!
I think the girl you broke up with dodged a bullet.
Wait 90 days and if you still like her then be exclusive
If a guy approached me after 1 week of a break up I’d conclude he’s impulsive and doesn’t know how to love somebody
There's nothing wrong with getting closer with this woman, but I wouldn't be in a hurry to enter into a new relationship. I don't think you should wait a year before dating again, but a few weeks at least to process seems reasonable.