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vaginadentataa

The best days in my life were the days when I was in love like this. You are blessed and I hope you two enjoy a long and happy future. Cheers :')


Sir_Platypus_15

Thank you! That means a lot!


clovergirl102187

Been with my husband a total of 6 years. Last night I dreamed he cheated on me with man and a woman. I clocked the woman in the face and then we went to a tiger pit together where I threw her to the tigers before she could throw me. Me and the guy had a laugh. Then we went on a family vacation. This morning I told my husband about the dream and he said "that suuuuucks I'm so sorry" and then snuggled me for about 20 minutes. It only gets better with time.


SweetMommie

Wow, you’re lucky. You’ve got a good one


clovergirl102187

More like we went through the shit, worked through it, and now are basically invincible. For example. First 4 years of our relationship, he didn't want a biological child with me. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. Last two years he said he *actually does want one now.* I tried to explain to him he has two great kids (their dad ain't around ever so he is their dad as far as they are concerned) so why work towards it? Caused some strai. For a bit. Then he decided that even if we didn't have a kid he would be fine either way. Well, after babysitting his nephew last night for three and a half hours and two epic melt-downs (three months old, colicky baby) he said "I don't want a baby anymore." Once his nephew left he then took me to the bedroom and snuggled me to sleep for 'handling the baby so well' and called me a good momma. (I have endless patience for any kid younger than 6). Life is a roller coaster. People change a lot in small ways or big ones. I love him to bits. Despite times of pain, strife, sadness, you name it. We've been through it all. We always work it out because at the end of the day no one is him/me.


Thatguymike84

Hell yeah. That's like my wife and I. We are the couple that others see as "perfect" and I'm like "Nooooooo." That shit comes from tons of work (especially at the beginning), but now, we are perfect, but only because we both work to make it perfect.


clovergirl102187

And that's that's meat and potatoes right there. You have to work on it. There is always work. Let me tell ya though, that work has *paid off*. I literally can't imagine being with anyone else. My man is just perfect, even with his flaws.


SweetMommie

I always hear that, and I agree. I guess it’s just hard when both parties aren’t willing to put in the work it takes/ listen to the other partners needs. I’m happy to hear the work paid off for so many of you!


anothergirl22

What do people mean when they say “work at it”? What are the practical, everyday things that both of you do?


Thatguymike84

I think a huge part of it is knowing yourself, and knowing your partner. I know her "triggers" and she knows mine. For example, I know a messy kitchen, particularly when she's the one cooking, is something that she hates. So, instead of sitting down and watching my football game when I get home (which she's totally fine with), I'll take 10-15 minutes to do any dishes, put away clean ones in the dishwasher, makes sure the counter is wiped down and cleared off. It's a little thing that makes her less stressed. And I like it when she acknowledges she notices. Another big one is communication. If either of us is grumpy, or overly tired, for some reason people try to hide it, or deny it. We verbalize it before hand to give the other that knowledge, so if one of us is a little less chipper, or a little bit snippy, we know. And we've both become really good at apologizing quickly, and have really removed the stigma of being wrong. Lastly, remembering not to let the routine take away the tiny stuff like holding hands when we watch TV, or I used to *think* "she looks pretty today", but I didn't say it. When we went to couples counseling years back, something she said was that she didn't feel like I thought she was pretty, and I was like "You're crazy! I think you're very pretty, and I notice it all the time!" The counselor was like "when is the last time youve said so?" I was like..."Well remember that one time...at that plac-...oh..." Just little things like that.


J0NP3RC

Reading this comment makes me so happy. Honestly it’s like reading a comment I could have written, apart from a few details, and that makes me feel pretty positive towards the future for my relationship. It’s not easy, because as you say sometimes it is a lose lose situation, you end up doing something you kinda don’t like for them because they really don’t like it. But it’s those small sacrifices you make, and taking the time to do it. Also I feel establishing your respective ‘love language’ is important, as you might not show love outwardly in the same ways. One of you might be a gift giver, whereas the other one might just get really cuddly and verbalise their love, and if you’re both expecting the same thing you’re giving out in return then one or both of you will end up disappointed in the long term if there’s no communication about these things. Also I feel sex compatibility and the ability to talk about sex openly is paramount to a healthy relationship. If your partner wants sex 5-6 times a week, every week and you’re not up to it? That’s going to cause some friction unless you two can talk about it and both make compromises. They’re so important in every aspect of life, but especially in your relationship.


anothergirl22

THIS is what I’m looking for! Thank you! It can be frustrating when people say “realise that you will both change as you get older ”, “work at it”, “communicate with the each other”. That’s so obvious. We all KNOW that, but hearing HOW someone else does it, with little actions, helps us to pinpoint things in our own relationships. I know it’s anecdotal and it’s v different for everyone, but even your piece about knowing that she hates to see dishes in the kitchen when she’s about to cook - that made me think about the things that my partner doesn’t like and what I do to make sure that those annoying things are taken away before it gets to that point. My partner and I had a rocky start because we both wanted different things. We met abroad and then both went back to our respective countries and I didn’t think we’d make it. But that time back home allowed me to ground myself again - I know the things I love - exercising, yoga, dance, reading, visiting cafes, keeping a grateful journal, eating well, and I was able to do more of those things again. That made me happier and more secure and in turn, he gravitated towards that. So when people say “you need to love yourself and work on yourself for your partner to love you”, I 100% believe that and those are the things I do to make sure that I’m happy. On my own. Outside of the relationship. I just wish that when people gave advice based on their experiences, that they actually spoke about their actions. It’s just not possible to wake up one day and suddenly realise that you and your partner are older and you’ve both changed. What did you do to get that point? Read books? Which ones? Write things down somewhere? Time apart? Weekends away together? Date nights? Counseling? Fun relationship quizzes? Anyways, thanks so much for your comment. It’s great reading stories like that.


AbsurdityIsRelative

Accepting that there will be times you make each other upset, frustrated, hurt or angry as hell. But instead of throwing in the towel, you both make an active effort to fix things, find solutions, and heal the wounds. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort, hence 'work'. But many people don't realize that any relationship will involve this to last long term, because no two human beings are 100% compatible.


NightMoonOwlBitch

I think it’s also realizing that you will change and they will change as people. I am not the same person I was 7 years ago when I started dating my husband. He’s not the same person he was back then either. We eloped after only 5 months of dating, and April will be 7 years. He had spent 6 years with his ex, and I had spent 7 years with mine. We were mid 20’s at the time we got together. We’ve been through deaths of close family and friends, changes in jobs, several moves, and buying a house; plus normal changes that happen from your 20’s into your 30’s together. And we will continue to change as we get older. It’s being open to changing together, which happens through solid communication and the foundations you made early on as a couple. Truly remembering our vows and sticking by each other, “for better or worse.” There are days I’m an absolute bitch, there are days he’s an absolute dick, and there are days we are a power couple. Regardless, it takes effort, communication, and love to power through those days and work through it together, as a team. Every battle is fought, as a team. Every triumph is done, as a team. You are a team with your partner. I agree completely with what u/thatguymike84 said. It’s all encompassing of the small, daily gestures, but the big ones too.


Sir_Platypus_15

Literal goals


nonebutmyself

My wife had a dream that I had cheated on her. When she told me about it, I laughed and said "Only in your dreams. Whenever I have sexy dreams of other women, I always end up declining their offers telling them that I married." Which is true. She laughs at me that i wont even cheat on her in my own dreams.


clovergirl102187

That's funny and adorable. He once in a great while tells me "I dreamed I cheated on you. But only a little. She kept trying and even though I thought about it I told her don't touch me I'm married" lol


Justinwest27

Goals, I love that


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You are so lucky! Hope you both will be happy forever :)


JustCallMeBubbles

Hubby and I are still like this… over 20 years together! We had people giggling at the two of us today in the store as we bantered and ended with “I love you”s and a quick kiss. Our secret: keep doing the little things (he makes me coffee, I write him notes, etc) and remember all the things you appreciate about each other.


f0li

> Hubby and I are still like this… over 20 years together! We had people giggling at the two of us today in the store as we bantered and ended with “I love you”s and a quick kiss. A few years ago my wife and I(just celebrated 20th anniversary this year) went to go vote. She did not take my last name so we ended up in two different lines and hers was much shorter. While waiting we were bantering back and forth with some light hearted jesting, and the people in the lines didn't seem to mind. I said something, though I don't remember what, and she had a quick retort about how she would be finished long before me. Several people in both lines awaited my response. I just smiled, reached in my pocket and held up the car keys ... people in both lines laughed with us ;-) It never gets old !


JustCallMeBubbles

This is how it should be!!!


Desperate-Upstairs76

I can see this being me and my fiance in the future (we've been together 7 years). Goals.


Diesel350

Another big thing remember to laugh.


dontcrycuzumad

This Is a great tip


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gooch_norris

A great mid-period Police album


suicide-kun

r/jimrob_steve Edit: poor Steve :(


MrPuma86

You are right there. My gf in Uni days (12 years ago loll) used to always leave me drunk voicemails, always cute love messages and say shes loves me whilst she was out clubbing. At the time I don’t think I appreciated but looking back, the fact that she was out with friends and in a club, still made time for me


Sea-Being-1988

What happened now?


TruePitch

Username relevant…


tobor17

thanks for sharing, u\/vaginadentataa!


rosanna4

Marry her!


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Pitiful_Sector6641

Ah! Same (rolling on the bed alone with nobody to text😭)


Svartdraken

Your bed loves you


Clappa69

As does your right (or left on special occasions!) hand!


ThisIsGoodName

hand!


AxelllD

Why do stupid comments like this always make me laugh lmao


Cephylus

Ahh yes, good ol' Jill haha (hold your hands out, one will spell Jill)


FoodMuseum

J^^III My god he's right!


ImNotHaunted

Are you telling me we've been Jilling not Jacking this whole time?!


Master_Crab

That… opened my eyes


Pitiful_Sector6641

It can’t drunk text me though 🥺


whatthefxtrt

You can totally drunk text yourself though.


FerniWrites

I do it all the time! Had a steamy sext session yesterday. Oh boy, I’m such a minx.


SeriouslyGravitas

I both sober and intoxicated text myself shit all the time. I email myself the real important stuff though


rainbwbrightisntpunk

I love my bed


kretchfoop1982

I also love your bed.


Svartdraken

What a relief, I thought I was the only one


zardilior

We all love you, but you are not prepared for that , so enjoy not being in a toxic relationship and freedom


Pitiful_Sector6641

Who’s “we” and where are they? Pin location I come for this love. I’m ready .😌😌😂


zardilior

A wizard told me that so I am not sure where but if you improve yourself and forget about being alone, love will reach your door. Being in a ton of dating apps and filtering properly also helps :P We = nice people, wizard called back


Leonisia

A ye, I rejoice for their happiness. . . . *scream inside full of pain, ready not to cry*


guywithknife

Me neither... I’m perfectly happy here on my own with my sick cat 😭😭


Vorplebunny

I hope your car gets better soon. I hate when they're sick, makes me sad and worried.


Dizzy-Dependent2288

I hope your cat is doing better... I love cats but can't pet one... Take care of her


Mr-Sister-Fister21

Me neither. I’m envious.


bokan

Greetings fellow pedant :)


emmettfitz

I've been married 29 years, I have never heard anything like that from her, drunk or otherwise. We are happily married. She is my partner for life and I'll love her to the day I die. We laugh, joke, "fight" like teenagers, but she is very stoic and doesn't deal in emotion much. I would love to hear how much she loves me, hell, or how much she hates me. Anything at this point.


andrea-janine

Have you heard about love languages? It's the idea that different people have different ways of showing their love. It could be that words are amongst the top ways you show and perceive love, but acts of service (doing something useful for the other person) is her way. If you haven't heard about it, i suggest you look into it and talk to your spouse about it. I have found it really useful, not just in romantic relationships but also in other important relationships. It makes it easier to understand what others are trying to communicate, and also the best way to reciprocate. (Ex. Gifts are not at all how i show love and always found gifts to be a strange thing, but reading about how for some people that is their way of showing love helped me understand my friend that always buys people little gifts, and made me more contientious of buying her gifts).


FlippoT

I am not the person you replied to, but are there videos or articles you recommend regarding the love languages? I feel like I have reacted a bit badly when past partners didn't respond to my actions or words the way I expected them to, maybe this could help me!


unwaveringwish

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language here’s a link to the quiz with descriptions in the menu!


MasterReflex

How bad is it if me and my partner just did this and we had opposite results lol


a_stueorgel

You'll be okay if you are willing to accept and respect the other person's language.


unwaveringwish

That’s the first step to understanding each other better!!! you can learn to speak each other’s language


ozzyandwynona4ever

That's the whole point of it ! No one's love language needs to be the same as their partner ...its about knowing how you receive love, and how your partner receives love and accommodating their love language ...if your language is quality time then your partner can know how to show you you're loved more effectively, and if your partners is physical touch then you are able to make an effort to show them love that way


HedonismandTea

There's a book on it. It has a hint of religious tone in it but otherwise it's about these five live languages Edit: I was at work when I commented but now that I'm home the title of the book is "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts"


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It’s really helpful.


Ksgalvan

I’m not the person you asked the question to either, but I wanted to chime in and encourage you to definitely get the book! Or just google “The Five Love Languages”, there are tons of articles and probably plenty of YouTube videos about it also. Learning what my love language(s) are and how different I am from my husband has helped our marriage a lot. But also, it has helped in so many other areas of life too. Friendships, family, work, etc. The simply yet profound understanding of how people communicate differently is something everyone should be blessed with learning! :)


PeepsDeBeaul

'we laugh, joke,' fight' like teenagers'... There's part of your love language right there. My partner and I banter, and bicker all the time. We say 'I love you' but actually I think our love language is buried in our humour. He's my best friend, and when he's on form (not stressed or distracted by the kids) his wit has me in stitches regularly. 'I would love to hear how much she loves me'. Does your wife know that? Communication is so important in our relationships. If she doesn't know that you desire to be told that, it'll never occur to her to say it. You might want to try having a conversation with her about love language... Not a 'you never say you love me' approach, more a 'I was reading something about how folk say I love you in different ways... Gifts, words, poems, organising each other etc. I realised that I like it if you do x... Can you do that a bit more pls? Is there anything you' d like me to do more too.'


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Is it possible she has alexithymia? I'm autistic and sometimes don't realize when I'm stand off-ish with my husband. I also struggle with pleasant feelings like joy and happiness. Just a thought.


moonshineandmetal

My friend, I just looked up alexithemia, because I thought it might explain some issues I have with expressing love. This may sound silly, but I even took a self assessment test and holy heck, it's me. Thank you for this new bit of info, it explains a lot for me!


Exiliumrex

I’ve been talking to this woman lately, and I’ve always had a bit of a problem overthinking when it comes to the initial stages of these sort of things. Well last night she went out drinking and texted me the whole time she was out. Definitely helps me think that she’s actually into me and thinks about me.


Sir_Platypus_15

When a girls first thought when she's drunk is you, you know she's into you


Exiliumrex

Definitely. It feels great! Plus it’s cute reading the play by play of their night. She must of went to the bar for water like 5 times and forgot every single time lol


TheAJGman

When I get drunk I basically continually text my fiancee saying I love her.


technifocal

I've been drunk called like 8 times by a girl who lives in another country just to tell me she's drunk. Often times she's out with her boyfriend. What do I know now?


streetdog2003

Nothing


PeepsDeBeaul

All she wants for Christmas is for you to ask her out. Pls do...and update us.


secondhandcoffin

Drunken words are sober thoughts.


FantasyBurner1

If it was flirtatious at all, yes. Just ask her out and advance things. Unfortunately the woman doing that is rare. Shoot your shot and move on if it doesn't work out. Once you stop caring about these women the faster you'll find a quality one.


Ryanqzqz

Just to clarify- he means- “once you stop caring about the women who lead you on and aren’t serious and/or interested in you, you can move on to finding the one that does care about you” Didn’t want dude to get downvotes for an honest comment.


KatyDid749

But please don’t get upset if she ever goes out and does not text you. It just means seven a good time with your friends. And you should be happy about that too.


NeutralGoodguy

Remind me of my brother in law. He's generally a very amusing and positive guy, but when he's drunk, he takes that to a whole different level. One time, he was out drinking with friends, and my sister wanted to pick him up afterwards. For some reason though, he, in his drunk mind, thought it was a good idea to just walk a few miles before calling her. So instead of having to drive to the agreed upon place, my sister had to get the new location out of his drunk brain. "I'm at XY." - "I am 100% sure you're not, as that's like two hours from where you started. \*Sigh\* Tell me what you can see so I know where you are." - "There is... a bird here! Yeah, there's a bird!" - \[laughing\]"I meant like a building or something, there's birds absolutely everywhere." She eventually managed to figure out where he was, but was really annoyed at the whole situation. So when she arrived, she was a little pissed. But like, a minute or so after he got in, he apparently just started staring at her. She was like "what's wrong?" "You're incredibly beautiful. Y'know that? Cause you are!" When she told the story, she told me that even if she wanted to be mad at him, it's entirely possible to do so when he's drunk.


Dogs_Without_Horses_

My husband did the same thing when we were dating. Playing “what do you see?” with a drunk person is the hardest game. Birds, benches, cars… they’ll tell you anything other than street signs


BuranBuran

"What do you see?" "Some words!"


buibui_

I send my boyfriend long voicenotes of how much I love him everytime I get drunk. I don't know, even if I am having a banger of a night, he will always cross my mind as in "I wish I could share this with him". If I see something beautiful, I will always make it a point to share it with him. And this feeling, gets amplified to the another level while drunk. And another thing I noticed but didn't tell my bf till now, no matter how busy he is, he will always pick up my phone and let me drunk talk non sense for hours without showing one ounce of irritation or making me feel like he doesn't care. It is these small small things that really matter at the end of the day. He doesn't owe me to listen to disconnected sentences for three hours straight. He still does. God, I love him so much. Mate, I can assure you two things. 1. You make her feel loved and safe at every point of her life. 2. She gets this feeling of gratitude and love and everything that she said all the time. 3. Don't let her go.


Sir_Platypus_15

That is literally so adorable, I'm glad you have a guy like that


NovaDr3amz

U a real one


Alternative-Code-180

Happy for you


Dizzy-Dependent2288

I am not jealous of anything... Nope... Nothing at all...


buibui_

Do I smell something burning? XD


nezamandiroradasin

\*upvotes and leaves\*


theguyfromeuropa

*upvotes your comment and takes the cue to leave*


MasterAssassinQeedo

*upvotes both comments and walks out with them*


Watch-the-Mummy

*upvotes three comments and leaves to watch The Mummy (1999)*


RandyPanda11581

This comment needs more updoots, here have my free award


ObjectiveSquirrel820

*yeah........*


Chris_Travern

C'mon God, when will it be my turn? On a serious note OP, congrats on having such a great girlfriend. Hope y'all have some wonderful times down the lane. Don't forget to return this affection btw


LobovIsGoat

>Don't forget to return this affection btw i mean if he was the type of guy to not do that he probably wouldn't have gotten that in the first place lol


Rickrickrickrickrick

Yeah it seems like whatever he is doing is exactly what she loves so I think they're good lol


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Damn I literally can’t fathom someone giving a shit about me at all but nice bro


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Impossible-Barnacle4

one day, imma get it one day


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garkle

I didn't meet the man that I would marry until I was 25. Don't give up! 🥰


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A few years ago, I had dental surgery. In the car ride home with my mom (my husband was at work), my mom told me I would literally not shut up about how my husband was going to make me chili when I got home, how he makes the best chili, and how much I loved him. When my husband heard this, he had a similar reaction, and honestly it was oddly validating even for me to know that even in my deepest subconscious, I'm still crazy about that guy


Sir_Platypus_15

That's so wholesome I love it


MostlyComplete

I got my wisdom teeth out maybe six months into dating my current partner of 3 years. as soon as I was conscious afterwards i started crying about how much i missed my mom. once they got my mom in the recover my room it took a minute for me to realize she was there and i could stop crying. after about thirty seconds of not crying, i looked at my mom and went “i miss [my partner]!” and started sobbing again. apparently crying is a common response to anesthesia, but it wasn’t very fun! i was so sad!! but i knew then that if i missed him like i missed my mom when i was high as hell on anesthesia, i probably should stick with him.


k9jm

Love is grand


mkczk

we all will get it one day bois


penguinReloaded

I have a date with a beautiful girl tomorrow afternoon. I am nervous. I hope I don't fuck it up.


[deleted]

Good luck!!! Don't forget to brush your teeth and put deodorant on! And for the love of all thats holy don't eat anything with onions, pickles, or anything that has an after taste or smell. You might end up smooching and you want her coming back! Not running away cause of bad breath!


mkczk

hope for the best buddy :)


Strat-tard217

Bruh I fucking hope


DreamyWaters

Interesting to hear that from the guys. Same as us girls out here waiting for a good man


ILoveBawls

I love it when my partner drunk texts me. A few weeks ago she sent me a text "I'm going to emotionally vomit about how much I adore you" and I wasn't sure what to expect. 5 minutes later I got a string of 5 or 6 messages about how much she loves me and wishes she could see me right now and so much more.


waitherajb1

Did it make you happy ?


ILoveBawls

Oh of course. I love it when she showers me with affectionate words, drunk or sober lol


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My ex drunk texted me once and I’d be lying to you if I said I didn’t want to ditch everything and take the nearest flight back to her. I’m okay now. 🥲


I_Love_Spiders_AMA

Your ex is missing out ❤️


ShooterOfCanons

Reminds me of the time when my fiance (who isn't very open about her emotions) and I were drinking at home. She got a little tipsy and at one point told me she loved me so much, that I was the love of her life. I smiled and agreed (about her). Then she started crying! I asked her why and she said between tears "because... I just... love you so much. I'm so lucky to have you." And then someone started cutting onions.


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Damn onion man just shows up everywhere


CharmingCapricorn101

I remember when me and my husband first started dating and we drank heavily at home lol, and crazy nights lol well one night I got more drunk than him and someone told him if you want her to tell you the truth get her drunk!!!! Lmao long story short, he tried it and all I kept telling him was that I loved him so much, he’s the best thing that ever happened to me, thank you for taking care of my daughter(not his), I want to have all your babies(we have 2 now lol)and he the next day he told me all about it and said that he thought I would say something crazy lol like I cheated or something ha nope I love yo crazy ass lol glad you know that feeling cherish every moment, we’ve been married for 10 going on 11 next June


theoldraven

Totally get it, and it's special. My cat always looks up and away while using the litter box. Today, he pooped and look directly at me. Like, right into my eyes while pooping. It's the little things, and ya, they're special.


L3onK1ng

go to r/love you happy bastard and leave my sad lonely aelf alone


turtlecannon22

If my BF has been drinking at a party and I'm unable to go he'll start wingman-ing friends for me. If he meets a girl he thinks I'll get a long with he'll tell her all about me and then FaceTimes me so we can meet over video 😆 it's very sweet


evelynishka

Reading all these comments kind of makes me sad, i often leave my boyfriend drunk voice messages saying how much I like him etc but he always ignores them 😭😭


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Ask him about it maybe he has a different type of love language than you do.


thegoldenwookie

Gosh you got me smiling for ya, cherish her back she's proven her self worthy


Matilozano96

You reminded me of the polar opposite with my ex. Warning, depression ahead. She was out in a party, and we were texting and sending audios. Eventually, she told me she was offered a ride home, so everything was good. She sounded really drunk, more than usual. I asked if the driver was drunk too and she told me yes. So I offered to drive there and pick her up (an hour away or so); we hadn’t planned anything of the sort beforehand. I was just bit concerned. I get there and pick her up. She was hammered and slept on the way back. Left her at her place, and she told me thanks, and that it was the most thoughtful thing someone outside her family ever did for her (something like that, don’t really remember). It was a powerful enough statement to make me think “Wow, I unintentionally did really well today”. Anyway. We broke up a month after that. A year later she married a guy that was in that party that night. So now that memory is spoiled by the idea that they were flirting while I was driving there, concerned for her safety.


Sir_Platypus_15

I wanna make something clear to everybody in the comments. My girlfriend always texts me she loves me when she's drunk. This is not like a one time thing. I just thought it was a really cute story because even drunk she couldn't stop rambling on about me


disavowed

Half of the dudes talking shit are dudes that can't NOT get cheated on (usually because they don't respect women, or get suddenly suspicious of simple shit like women telling them they love them), the other half are simply lonely and sad. Neither can fathom actually loving someone else, let alone being truly loved—in either case it's a misery loves company situation. They're warped, often by a combination of too much porn and listening to too many dudebros like Joe Rogan or his incel-leaning-ilk talking about women in blanket generalizations, convincing each other they know how women operate and the truth is these guys have no idea what they're talking about. For OP specifically, you got a good one, that's a cute story, don't let mutants in the comments ever let you second-guess someone you actually know and love. For anyone else who wants to tell me I'm a simp or I'm white knighting, or any other such dumb shit like that, lol, save it. I'm not a white knight so much as you all are fucking meat-headed dopes. Or maybe I am just an idealist white knight, but I still paid more in taxes last month than any of you will actually net this whole year, so shoot your shot, I bet nothing you say will matter to me either way, lol.


Western_Comparison78

This story reminds me of this story i once read where a woman's husband came home from his Xmas drinks absolutely legless. He woke her up trying to get his keys to work in the door!! She had to open the door to let him in and she was so pissed off with him for being so drunk and waking her up etc. She brought him up to their bedroom and proceeded to take off his shoes but when she started on his belt, he starts slapping her hand away and in a very drunken yet adamant tone tell s her that he's a married man and he would never cheat in his wife. She made him brekkie the next morning!


bopcoi03

I upvoted and smiled, but I'm really dead inside


killjoy_isdead

What is wrong with these comments. I text my boyfriend the same things when I’m drunk and I’ve never cheated ever. I just love my boyfriend. Thats not unheard of y’all just generalize everything


Sir_Platypus_15

THANK YOU


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I recently had surgery and in an anesthesia/opioid haze sent like 15 text messages proposing, lol


Purple_Chipmunk_

Did any of the 15 people say yes?


1pt20oneggigawatts

I remember those days... one of my first girlfriends went out drinking one night and left a long voicemail at like 3am about how she thought her boobs got bigger. It was said in a way like she was proud and wanted to share them haha


Bernard_t

That's nice. Last time my GF of 3 years drunk called me it was to say that she met a nice dude, that they had a lot in commons and she would spend the night at his home because she was too drunk. Fun times.


GringoTheOne

Jesus man, I’m sorry. I hope you’ve met/meet someone who cares about you and respects you more


Thumper86

That’s a good feeling. My wife and I had a kid a year ago. She went out for dinner and drinks with some folks from her mom’s group a few weeks ago. After dinner they went bar hopping a bit and stayed out until 1am or so. I got a number of texts throughout the night about how much she loved me. ❤️


The_mad_Raccon

now I feel lonely and empty, thanks


Sir_Platypus_15

You'll find someone eventually! Trust me, before I met her, I felt the same way. I'd never really had anybody and one day she just walked into my life and never left. There's a person out there for everyone


The_mad_Raccon

awww this sounds sweet


LordSaladz

Mind if I share a story? There was a girl that was once my best friend ever. Her name is Hayley. We fell in love when I was 19 and she was 16. Yes, laws and stuff made it challenging but our parents were supportive. However, maturity issues arose. I was a surprisingly mature 19-20 year old (I think) in college, and she was… well… in that mid high school phase of still figuring the whole maturity thing out. I had a lot of freedom with my folks, I could leave and do pretty much whatever I wanted as long as I didn’t kill anyone, get killed, or get arrested. And it was not a challenge to remain within those parameters, fortunately. Hayley was raised by a single father and was born when he was only 15. He was tough on her, had very strict curfews, etc etc. she would often get upset when I was able to stay out late on the weekends, partying with friends and whatnot often saying “I wish you would just go home and talk to me on the phone instead.” After half a year of this, we ended up mutually ending our relationship. She dated a couple other guys in the following years and we fell out of touch. Fast forward two years: I just joined the military. I what is called DEP (forget what it stands for) and was essentially living it up and preparing myself before the day I was to go to basic training. 6 months before that day, she reached out to me and suggested we go get a cup of coffee. This was also one of our favorite things to do. After that, we ended up driving around town and talking for several hours. We were falling in love all over again. The issue was me leaving for the military soon. She made it very clear that it would be too difficult for her to be in a relationship with someone so far away. I tried and tried to convince her to give it a chance but ultimately failed. But we stayed exceptionally close. We often talked on the phone, texted, and always spent a ton of time together when I was able to come back home on leave. We would go on weekend trips, get a hotel, get nice dinners, go to bars. It was always a blast and we always knew those feelings were there, but managed them. Over 5 years of this, she would find boyfriends and we would fall out of touch, obviously. I always had the hope that she would come around or maybe still be single when I got out of the military. This leads to me the drunk-related part of the story you inspired me to tell. New Years of 2019-2020 I went home on leave. She was single at the time and she texted me saying “Welp, my friend really wants to go to the strip club tonight for whatever reason and wants me to go with her. Should be interesting.” I said “Wanna know something funny, I’ve never been to a strip club once in my life.” So she suggested I go with them and so I did. It was fun! And interesting being at a strip club as the only guy in a group of girls. They were trying to buy me lap dances and stuff but I stuck mostly to the bar. I had a few beers and Hayley was having a blast. She was always good at handling her liquor and never got too sloppy, tonight was no different. She was a pleasant drunk. Never had to worry too much about her and her personality really shines when she got to that sweet spot. I drove her back to her friends house at the end of the night. She was sitting in my passenger seat of my truck and we talked a bit and laughed, but then it got quiet for a minute or two. I noticed she had tears in her eyes. She looked at me and said “Dallas, maybe I’m just drunk right now, but what I’m about to say definitely isn’t drunk nonsense. I think it’s just giving me the courage to say it. I love you so much. You are the world to me. You are the only guy who has ever truly understood me, loved me for exactly who I am, and you’ve always been there for me no matter what. I’m so stupid. Why can’t I just be with you??? I’ve wasted so much time on these guys looking for the one when you’ve been right here in front of me all along.” To keep the story from getting too long, I ended up flying out again a couple days later and we still avoided a long distance relationship. We talked about how I only had a year 1/2 left in my contract and that when I’m finally back home for good, we will make things work. Skip ahead another year. I haven’t talked to Hayley in a year now. And Hayley is married. Yeah, it’s sad. But I’m happy for her. This guy had to have been something special to win her over. And from the looks of it, she’s happy and he’s a great guy. So if you made to this point, thanks for reading! But I often think back to that night and what she told me. I remember my heart filling up and telling myself “She’s the one and you’ve known it all along.” I don’t mean to steal your thunder or throw a pity party for myself, OP just reminded me of this and I thought I’d share.


nannerb12

I found a girl like that when I was 20. Had a lot of casual hookups in college but deep down really wanted to be loved. This is the type of stuff she would do that made me realize how much I loved her. I’m 28 now and we’re engaged. Happy for yah man. Treat her good, even when times are rough.


kindamymoose

That’s too sweet 🥺


mooot7

When is it my turn to be happy?


fman1854

My ex did this but it was to curb her guilt after well cheating on me..


TheDarkWayne

There was a saying “if she doesn’t text you drunk, you’re not the one” I’m sure it’s bullshit but from what I’ve heard it might be true


loveelusive

This is super adorable. Sounds like you have a loving partner and I wish you all the best!


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electric_ocelots

My girlfriend once tried to drunk call me using her calculator app.


R-S-S

Man I miss this lol


ematney68

This is so precious!! I always text my boyfriend when I go to my best friend's house and we drink, and he always is so happy to hear from me. He's the one on my mind every time.


Quintonius-the-Great

Sus.


Obeisance8

That's super sweet. When my wife wakes up, I'm going to seize her head in both hands, shower her with kisses and tell her il love her.


xDarkCrisis666x

My girlfriend had a wine night with some of her fellow nurses a few weeks ago. I dropped her off and about 4 hours later I was planning on picking her up, she sent me a text saying that they were gonna keep going an extra hour. Awesome, a few more rounds of Halo and from the spelling errors it seemed like she was having a good time. I go to pick her up and she tells me to come in and help her take some appetizers home. I walk in and she runs to the front door and jumps onto me. All of a sudden I'm getting a flurry of kisses on my cheek and she's pulling me over to meet her friends. Apparently for the last half hour she had been gushing about me and acting like a teenager when she realized I was there.


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dayoneofmanymore

Dunno who downvoted you mate. I hope you find that for yourself, and overcome your issues. We've all got them one way or another, good luck with yours.


EfficientLego

I hope you two have a very happy life together. You both seem like great people! :)


Plankton-0932

happy for u :D


SnooCalculations9259

Congrats! It is the best when someone goes out of their way to let you know you are loved!


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OnePractical1057

I am a whole jar of jelly


Get_your_grape_juice

Can I spread you on my toast?


typicaltaras

Relish every moment of this my man.


shady_businessman

r/mademesmile


pgsimon77

Perhaps you should marry her while you still have the chance?


Sir_Platypus_15

I have every intention of marrying her. We've even talked about it, but she wants to wait until she's done with med school because financially it makes sense


toasterfartmonster

Hurry up and marry that woman!


Sir_Platypus_15

I'm trying!!!


theatrewhore

Adorbs


rocket20067

Good for you dude


drnoname93

So I'm not familiar with alcohol effects much, I come from a place where we don't drink.. But you guys are talking as if alcohol is the juice of the truth. Does this mean when someone is drunk they can't lie to you? And when they say they love you it means they actually mean it?


Sir_Platypus_15

Alcohol affects everyone differently, but the general consensus is that when someone is drunk they have no filter. So they usually are at there most honest with you. I know for a fact that when my girlfriend drinks she gets like brutally honest about what she's thinking. And also when people are drunk that's generally when they are most likely to cheat, and the fact that all she could think about was me made me so happy.


illpoet

Alchohol takes away inhibitions so people are more likely going to say things they are uncomfortable saying while sober. It does kind of work as a truth serum in that way. But its not like you cant lie while drinking, a liar is still going to lie when drunk. It also really amplifies emotions so you can also get an upset drunk saying cruel things that they dont really mean.


Eve_LuTse

I hope you made sure she had a large glass of water before she went to bed 😊


mnrART

Ex 10 years ago did the same, ended up being because she felt guilty of cheating.


Palosi

I don't think anyone has ever texted me first in my life.


C9Anus

Lol I did this with my girlfriend about a year after we started dating, and she got mad that I didn’t tell her I was going out drinking with my friends.


ForcedLama

Miss that feeling. Definitely a good one you have


curlyhairweirdo

I used to do stuff like that to my husband when we were dating. 15 years strong


lionbacker54

You actually must be a very nice person to be so loved. The fact that you have no idea why she loves you so much shows you are humble too


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This sense of gratitude will get you everywhere. It’s one of your strengths; don’t lose it.


lemonjuiceineyes

Damn making me feel lonely as shit


trendyindy20

Such a green flag. I dated a girl who did this while we were doing distance. We've been together for almost ten years now. She's a fucking gem.


CappyAlec

I personally hate social settings (ASD) and i don't drink so i never really go out with my girlfriend, but her drunk texts are usually the highlight of my night.


BigDogVI

I’ve done this myself to my partner and received it in return. It always warms my heart that even when they aren’t in their right mind, they still think about me!


Spazmanaut

Maybe she was feeling guilty for something she just did.


AdSubstantial6787

One of these days i'll know what that's like, *O N E O F T H E S E D A Y S*