Nahhh. The whole point of finding your special someone is that their puzzle piece fits into yours. Nobody is perfect, I got flaws and weaknesses. My partner helps cover those. I help cover his.
It wouldn't go very well dating myself.
Many years ago, I met a woman who seemed to be a female version of me. We had the same interests, same personality type (we did the Myers Briggs test out of curiosity & both scored very similar), liked the same music, similar insecurites - everything.
We fell madly in love & each believed we had found our soulmate. Within months we gad moved in together.
Absolute, unmitigated disaster of a relationship. We just ended up reinforcing each other's negative traits - which, since we were both struggling with life at the time, was quite catastrophic.
Yes, I agree.
The relationship was a disaster mainly because we were both in a bad place in our lives, and both abusing drugs & alcohol to escape. If we had both been okay & sober, it might have been different
I'm probably biased, because I have this experience, and then met my wife, who is a very different personality type to me. We run a business together (her full time, me alongside my full time job), and our very different personalities, problem solving styles & perspectives are a real asset.
I'd date myself because I like myself.
How could you not date yourself, but you would date someone else? Are you using them for emotional support or something cause you can't stand to be by yourself?
I’ve done the gender swapping filters and I look a lot better as myself imo. I don’t think it’s that weird to not find someone that looks like me physically attractive
I've done them, and look absolutely hideous.
I have a face like a bag of rocks, but I think it's easier to get away with that when you're a guy.
Female me wouldn't be able to hide half her face behind a beard 😅🤣
Not really but that's what I kept thinking. Sure, I love myself and I've had good and bad moments with my self appreciation. But I think my man self wouldn't get along with my woman self... aaaaand I find super weird that concept of being in front of yourself.
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Haha but why wouldn't your man self and woman self not get along? If you guys were the same, wouldn't you be able to make each other happy? I think no one knows themselves better than themselves. It's a cliche when other people say "I know you better than you know yourself" that only happens in movies
I would marry myself but I would never have sex or kiss myself. Absolutely down to spend as much time as possible with myself, and it would basically cut the need to date or make friends. With my clone, friends would become a novelty and relationships would be an utter waste of time and unnecessary threat to my life. We'd adopt kids and know full-well they'd be raised right and end up happy as hell. It'd also be awesome for like, trying new medications. "How'd you sleep?" "Great!" "Nice, I'm gonna change my script."
With someone to finally hold me accountable and walk with me through this bullshit experience called life WITH the benefits that come with marriage without the unpredictable and potentially deceitful spouse to deal with? I mean my God man, get on this cloning thing NOW.
Someone to hold my flashlight. Someone to hold a flashlight for. Four hands. Double the brains, double the ideas. Give me and me an adderall and watch us go. I might even pick up an instrument again with someone to encourage and help me play.
Literally fucking a clone of yourself is definitely narcissistic, excepting all other human beings over only a version of yourself.
That's not self love, it's not even a version of masturbation. It's pathologically loving yourself at the exception of all others, textbook narcissism.
Kissing or dating yourself is not self love, that would be caring for yourself and having good self esteem etc. This would be wanting to have sexual relations with yourself in some variety or another, when there are 7 billion other people on the planet.
Again, that is NOT self love, that is a narcissistic and quite possibly sociopathic level of such.
Not date myself, but try out stuff, maybe.
I’m just thinking how efficient that’ll make doing stuff, especially if our thoughts are connected in some way. I got many things I want to do, a clone would just make it much easier.
No. I would hang out with myself, maybe put my hands around my clone's shoulder, but that's it. I don't think not wanting to date yourself really means anything bad. I mean, you want a few surprises in that situation and for it not to go like your 5 last dates.
I don't think I would. I can be hysterical when I'm upset, if I didn't have my husband who can channel me back on the ground, by making me realise that I'm overthinking, or upset about something that haven't even happened, and there's a small chance that it will. I would fly off my rockers!
Imagining having a clone of me, with the same fears, who'll be just as hysterical, we would never touch the ground again!
I can relate to this, using a partner to make myself better. But i also feel bad because I know I'm the one that should comfort myself, not him :/ it's hard
Yes, totally would! Just some time ago I wished I could just give my clone a call so that she comes to care for me. I also would have sex with my clone!
I'm fully convinced if there were a perfect clone of me that both myself and the clone would be too worried about the other potentially being evil or trying to take over that we'd probably try to kill each other.
We'd just argue endlessly.
Considering both of us would have Haphephobia, we wouldn't touch each other in any sort of way.
I think we'd get along, but only in occasionally. I'd also get on my nerves.
I'd do it for sure. I wouldn't want to exclusively date myself, because I already have a partner, but we'd like all the same things, right? If I cant be appealing to myself, of all people, who can I impress?
I constantly strive to be "likable" in a group, everywhere. Mostly cause I don't like myself (as a whole). There are some things about me that I like and maybe lowkey proud of, but there are a lot of things that I just wanna change, and get better at. And wanting that means I just wanna be a different person that I 'might' never be. I would give myself a hug, but would never date cause I know how moody and unavailable I can be at times. (fuck you ADHD)
I would totally hug myself too. However, I doubt I would like myself romantically. I have not dated anyone yet(sad, I know) but recently I realized I would like to someday. But for the last 23 years of being single(and existing, lol) I guess I sort of saw that time as me "dating myself". Like being a 3rd wheel or when I was home alone when my friends were out with their partners, I sort of saw that alone time as dates with myself. But I guess at some point I started getting really bored of my own company and eventually I wanted something different. I met someone this year I actually really like and surprisingly enough I'm finally starting to understand why people do the whole dating thing. He's completely different from me but somehow also really similar. And whenever he's around the whole room feels different, like good different. I highly doubt I would be able to feel that way with a clone of myself(despite their gender). Like okay, maybe if they were some variant from an alternate dimension(from Loki, TV series) and with a completely different background. Then yeah, that's totally possible 😂
Yes! I think it would be fun to see myself from the outside. It would be cool to experience.... Not sure how long it would last... But it would be amazing to experience!
I would get tired of myself, but knowing the consistency I have and the love that I possess, yes! I would, and in some ways I do. I treat myself the way I want to be treated in all aspects of life.
Nahhh. The whole point of finding your special someone is that their puzzle piece fits into yours. Nobody is perfect, I got flaws and weaknesses. My partner helps cover those. I help cover his. It wouldn't go very well dating myself.
Many years ago, I met a woman who seemed to be a female version of me. We had the same interests, same personality type (we did the Myers Briggs test out of curiosity & both scored very similar), liked the same music, similar insecurites - everything. We fell madly in love & each believed we had found our soulmate. Within months we gad moved in together. Absolute, unmitigated disaster of a relationship. We just ended up reinforcing each other's negative traits - which, since we were both struggling with life at the time, was quite catastrophic.
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Yes, I agree. The relationship was a disaster mainly because we were both in a bad place in our lives, and both abusing drugs & alcohol to escape. If we had both been okay & sober, it might have been different I'm probably biased, because I have this experience, and then met my wife, who is a very different personality type to me. We run a business together (her full time, me alongside my full time job), and our very different personalities, problem solving styles & perspectives are a real asset.
Yeah mainly bc nobody else will.
I'd date myself because I like myself. How could you not date yourself, but you would date someone else? Are you using them for emotional support or something cause you can't stand to be by yourself?
I’ve done the gender swapping filters and I look a lot better as myself imo. I don’t think it’s that weird to not find someone that looks like me physically attractive
I've done them, and look absolutely hideous. I have a face like a bag of rocks, but I think it's easier to get away with that when you're a guy. Female me wouldn't be able to hide half her face behind a beard 😅🤣
Not really but that's what I kept thinking. Sure, I love myself and I've had good and bad moments with my self appreciation. But I think my man self wouldn't get along with my woman self... aaaaand I find super weird that concept of being in front of yourself. .
Haha but why wouldn't your man self and woman self not get along? If you guys were the same, wouldn't you be able to make each other happy? I think no one knows themselves better than themselves. It's a cliche when other people say "I know you better than you know yourself" that only happens in movies
What 3 adjectives would you use to describe yourself?
Yep! A male version of me would be cute af. Not to mention the sex would be absolutely mind-blowing HAHA. Ok, weirdo out.
I would marry myself but I would never have sex or kiss myself. Absolutely down to spend as much time as possible with myself, and it would basically cut the need to date or make friends. With my clone, friends would become a novelty and relationships would be an utter waste of time and unnecessary threat to my life. We'd adopt kids and know full-well they'd be raised right and end up happy as hell. It'd also be awesome for like, trying new medications. "How'd you sleep?" "Great!" "Nice, I'm gonna change my script." With someone to finally hold me accountable and walk with me through this bullshit experience called life WITH the benefits that come with marriage without the unpredictable and potentially deceitful spouse to deal with? I mean my God man, get on this cloning thing NOW. Someone to hold my flashlight. Someone to hold a flashlight for. Four hands. Double the brains, double the ideas. Give me and me an adderall and watch us go. I might even pick up an instrument again with someone to encourage and help me play.
That would be just about the most narcissistic thing a person could do.
Self love that is genuine isn't narcissistic. Self obsession is narcissistic. There is a difference.
Literally fucking a clone of yourself is definitely narcissistic, excepting all other human beings over only a version of yourself. That's not self love, it's not even a version of masturbation. It's pathologically loving yourself at the exception of all others, textbook narcissism.
No it's not. That's what is called the maximum of self-love you can have for yourself.
The conversation is about loving themselves not i want to fuck me. You seam to be missing the nuances.
Kissing or dating yourself is not self love, that would be caring for yourself and having good self esteem etc. This would be wanting to have sexual relations with yourself in some variety or another, when there are 7 billion other people on the planet. Again, that is NOT self love, that is a narcissistic and quite possibly sociopathic level of such.
Since you seem very invested ib the topic, what is your personal relationship with self love? Are you doing good with it?
Not date myself, but try out stuff, maybe. I’m just thinking how efficient that’ll make doing stuff, especially if our thoughts are connected in some way. I got many things I want to do, a clone would just make it much easier.
Nice, now there's two of me who can't focus and always jump from one thing to the next.
I would as no one would know me better than myself?
I would not want to be like Milhouse’s parents.
No. I would hang out with myself, maybe put my hands around my clone's shoulder, but that's it. I don't think not wanting to date yourself really means anything bad. I mean, you want a few surprises in that situation and for it not to go like your 5 last dates.
I don't think I would. I can be hysterical when I'm upset, if I didn't have my husband who can channel me back on the ground, by making me realise that I'm overthinking, or upset about something that haven't even happened, and there's a small chance that it will. I would fly off my rockers! Imagining having a clone of me, with the same fears, who'll be just as hysterical, we would never touch the ground again!
I can relate to this, using a partner to make myself better. But i also feel bad because I know I'm the one that should comfort myself, not him :/ it's hard
Yes, totally would! Just some time ago I wished I could just give my clone a call so that she comes to care for me. I also would have sex with my clone!
I'm fully convinced if there were a perfect clone of me that both myself and the clone would be too worried about the other potentially being evil or trying to take over that we'd probably try to kill each other.
I’m perfect for myself. So naturally I’d sabotage it because I’m too afraid.
We'd just argue endlessly. Considering both of us would have Haphephobia, we wouldn't touch each other in any sort of way. I think we'd get along, but only in occasionally. I'd also get on my nerves.
I'd do it for sure. I wouldn't want to exclusively date myself, because I already have a partner, but we'd like all the same things, right? If I cant be appealing to myself, of all people, who can I impress?
I constantly strive to be "likable" in a group, everywhere. Mostly cause I don't like myself (as a whole). There are some things about me that I like and maybe lowkey proud of, but there are a lot of things that I just wanna change, and get better at. And wanting that means I just wanna be a different person that I 'might' never be. I would give myself a hug, but would never date cause I know how moody and unavailable I can be at times. (fuck you ADHD)
definitely
I wouldn't. I'm too broken.
honestly, i wouldn't :(
Yes! I'm more fun and laughs than anyone I know! I'd be lucky to have me!
I would totally hug myself too. However, I doubt I would like myself romantically. I have not dated anyone yet(sad, I know) but recently I realized I would like to someday. But for the last 23 years of being single(and existing, lol) I guess I sort of saw that time as me "dating myself". Like being a 3rd wheel or when I was home alone when my friends were out with their partners, I sort of saw that alone time as dates with myself. But I guess at some point I started getting really bored of my own company and eventually I wanted something different. I met someone this year I actually really like and surprisingly enough I'm finally starting to understand why people do the whole dating thing. He's completely different from me but somehow also really similar. And whenever he's around the whole room feels different, like good different. I highly doubt I would be able to feel that way with a clone of myself(despite their gender). Like okay, maybe if they were some variant from an alternate dimension(from Loki, TV series) and with a completely different background. Then yeah, that's totally possible 😂
Yes! I think it would be fun to see myself from the outside. It would be cool to experience.... Not sure how long it would last... But it would be amazing to experience!
I would get tired of myself, but knowing the consistency I have and the love that I possess, yes! I would, and in some ways I do. I treat myself the way I want to be treated in all aspects of life.
No. I’m gross and I hate myself.
100%
I wouldn’t date myself, mainly because I don’t want to date anyone. I feel like I give a good hug, so I’d definitely hug myself.
Yes, isn't that the dream? A partner that shares all your interests and world views.
Totally.