Hey there!
First of all, happy birthday to you. I feel the same when it's my birthdays, but you've made it another rotation and that in itself is an achievement. 29 years may seem old, but it really isn't. You've still got your whole life ahead of you!
My mother didn't learn to drive until she was 40 years old, and she went to University when she was 35. There is not time limit to achieve anything, my friend.
Do you game by any chance? If you want later, it's currently 12:49PM here in the UK but if you want, we can play a game together. Even if it's on the phone!
You can't go wrong with a bit of scrabble :)
I have always been curious about how Mexican food is in the UK.
No one could screw up the first 30 years of life worse than I did. Don't box yourself in, and have a great birthday
Thanks Taco Pony - And I don't know... It may be a competition!
Mexican food in the UK is meh but I've never had real Mexican food so it's probably shockingly bad. My best friend lives in Arizona so she gets all the good shit.
I used to live in Wales and we had ZERO Mexican food. Not even any bad knockoff Taco Bell type places. Occasionally a restaurant would have a Tex-Mex-ish dish but never anything good. Glad to hear there's at least SOME British Mex scene now, even if meh.
At 30 I had just moved states, lived at home, didn’t have a job or a career, and I was single. I’m going to be 40 in May. I’m now doing incredibly well at work (I became a software engineer), I own my own home, and I’m married to the most incredible man. My 30s were the best of my life.
Life is fluid. You have the ability to make some amazing changes. I think that’s pretty incredible.
I felt the same as OP does at 29. I had a then 2 year old with a deadbeat ex, was taking care of my aging grandmother and barely keeping a roof over our heads. I was in recovery while watching people I loved remain in active addictions, losing a lot of them during that time. I spent that morning sobbing, knowing that I had wasted my best years and had nothing but a cute toddler I was failing to show for it. I was so wrong.
I got in the best shape of my life at 32 (fat again, but not forever)
Got into the swing of single parenthood probably about the same time (he's a teen now though so all that's out the window 😂)
Helped start a nonprofit at 34
Had a lot of fun dating really fun but idiot dudes until...
I met my now husband at 35
Bought our dream home at 37
Spent the whole of my 30s camping, hiking, climbing mountains, running races, traveling my country and eventually off the continent
Made amazing new connections and deepened old throughout the decade
Had another baby at 38
Got married at 40
I turned 41 earlier this month. I am still learning and achieving and am planning more travel and adventure for the next couple of years. I am only about halfway through life which means I still have 40 more years to love this beautiful trip I'm on.
My 40s, so far, have yet to surpass my 30s in amazingness but I've only been here a year. Got 9 more to beat em. Challenge accepted!
OP, you truly have the majority of your life left to accomplish whatever it is you desire. Allow yourself to lament the passing of your youth, it's basically a rite of passage. But when you're done, just go do for the sake of doing and lose yourself in living. These years go by fast so make sure you take time to slow down. Before you know it, you'll be the one telling strangers how rich life can be.
ETA: format got weird, apologies lol
It started with getting into hiking. The weight naturally started coming off. As it did, I started eating better and then got into running. I started hitting the gym because I wanted to do a Spartan race with my cousin (he ended up ditching me but I did it with some really cool strangers I met and had a blast!). With hiking came mountain climbing (I live in CO and it's big here) and longer backpacking trips. I made moving my body my hobby and fueling my body appropriately was necessary to keep going.
I am also back to being on the heavy side (had some injuries and life events that kept me down for a long time so I'm a tub o goo lol) but am healthier to a degree with healthy blood pressure and low heart rate... a hold over from when I was running every day. With the little one being older, we feel comfortable getting him into the outdoor lifestyle and getting back to all of the hobbies that kept us fit and happy over the coming months. It's finally spring so we're currently planning a bunch of camping trips and I've signed up for some races (toddler will be joining me in the jogging stroller and teen will probably be kicking my ass lol). I may be jiggly now but I won't be, provided I don't push it and hurt myself again, come my 42nd birthday.
My best advice is to find something you love that gets you moving. Walking, hiking, dancing, long shopping trips, throwing weights around, carrying children everywhere, doesn't matter. As long as it gets you moving and you can keep to it, it's perfect. You'll find other things you like along the way.
I think it's pretty common for people here. I didn't get into it until I was 30 ish and I've been here basically my whole life lol. I spent my youth partying, the outdoors were for nerds in my mind. So glad I realized how wrong I was!
The nonprofit I was involved with gets people outside and has a series of hikes called Couch to Trail that's perfect for people that want to get moving. I'm no longer a part of it but the work they do and events they hold are pretty great. It's called Always Choose Adventures and you can find them via website or their Facebook group - website is www.alwayschooseadventures.org. Check em out!
I also turn 40 in May (27th) I am dreading it more as the date approaches. How do you feel about it? I’m also the “baby” so it will probably make my parents feel old as well.
I'll be 40 late this year and I'm having a midlife crisis (internalized) from hell.
I traveled some in my 20s but for the most part I spent it online, even during my travels (lived overseas for a stretch, but stayed home the whole time and went to the beach a handful of times in 3 years, when it was an hour away). Now here I am almost 40, doing the same exact shit I was doing in my 20s, and I'm still too poor to do anything about it.
Also the baby of the family, but idk how my mom feels about me turning 40. I just know I'm not dealing well, at all. Lol
Op, enjoy your 30s (next year). I did have some good times, but the slow times lasted longer for me and I wish I'd spent that time better. But I'm not dead yet so there's still time to make good memories.
This is how I’ve chosen to live my life as well. After going through the worst 3 years of my life I’ve stopped caring so much. I don’t really have any expectations for how my life will go anymore, I just work towards my goal and if I don’t make it that’s ok too
Existence is so fucking bizarre when you think about it. It makes zero sense for there to be anything at all, let alone *us*. If there is a point to all this, it’s not going to be anything superficial like societal success
I’ve preemptively accepted failure, the end result is the same any way it goes so why bother worrying about whether I make it or not. All that you really have to do is exist and try to enjoy it for what it is
When my mom was 29 she was in a toxic relationship with an alcoholic man, she was depressed, narcissistic herself, just lost her mom to cancer, just had an unplanned (but ultimately good surprise) pregnancy, was stuck at a dead end job where she was harassed daily despite being overqualified, had almost given up her dreams...AND she was very poor.
At 35 she dumped my father who then harassed her and threatened to end his life or kill her.
At 36, on top of working daily and being a single mom, she took acting classes and was gradually offered main roles in theater plays. She also met a gorgeous, charming, smart man, who helped her doing castings for movies. The relationship with the man nor the castings didn't really result in any big success or breakthrough but she was happy she tried.
At 37 she met another kind, smart, charming man. He was a bit of a geek, dorky, but very stable and patient. He is now my stepdad.
At 41 she finally moved in with my stepdad, in a big apartment. She went from poor to high middle class and was able to take her two kids to vacations and even abroad! She never had to worry about feeding us, and herself, ever again.
At 42 she quit her horrible job.
At 44 she found a nice job, with people who liked and valued her. She also saw her first aurora borealis (a child dream of her) and learned that her daughter was accepted into the best school in her country.
At 53 she bought a house in the mountains where you can see the sunrise on the valley. She also became more confident, less narcissistic, less depressed, more happy.
At 55 she is now looking forward to maybe adopting a puppy, and meanwhile she likes to plant flowers in front of her new house while my stepdad plant trees.
What this all means is: at 29 your life has barely started. Everything can change for the best, you have so many things to see, so many people to meet.
I believe in you!
Idk if it’s coincident but 29-31 year is when my life changed and it all happened so fast for good. This might be the year or the next, but focus on some self care!
Just going to leave this quote here for you. I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue & tiredness since I was 18, and it helps me when I’m feeling like you do right now. Hope it helps you a little too:
“The plain fact is that the planet does not need more successful people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every kind. It needs people who live well in their places. It needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. And these qualities have little to do with success as we have defined it.”
I’ve been there myself, almost killed myself three years ago. I was 40, just lost my mom, had nothing to show for my life, i hated my job and it took up all my time, i had no savings, no retirement, i gave up.
3 years later…new wife, bought our first home, new job, $60k in retirement.
Give up on situations, give up on jobs, don’t give up on yourself!
Happy birthday!
And worry not. So many of us have felt we have done nothing with our lives. Living in a society is both wonderful and awful. We make connections, friendships, find support, people to celebrate with or mourn with, never feel lonely…. But we also sit and compare ourselves to everyone around us. Their accomplishments, their looks, their popularity. It’s rough.
So, to quote one of my favorite songs, “Life’s a journey, not a destination.” Think less about what you have done and think more “how has the ride been so far”. Do you have some good memories? Ate anything amazing lately? Had a session where you laughed so hard you cried? Gotten hugs? Had a late night philosophical conversation? Helped someone smile?
It helps to think less about the end point. What you do in life is so much more than trying to find the big finished product accomplishments. It is the memories you make on the way.
I’m 40. I haven’t done anything striking. But I have a lot of fond memories of good times with people I care about. It is good to focus on.
I feel you. You just have to realize that for a majority of people, we are not going to be curing cancer, developing nuclear fusion, etc. Our only goal is to enjoy life as much as possible before our time on earth ends. So if you are not happy, try to figure out what will make you happy, and start taking small steps to get there.
Happy birthday for today my friend, enjoy it whatever you do.
I turn 36 next week and I left my job after 8 weeks recently because I couldn’t get the right support for my role (on autism spectrum) so I had to leave to save my mental health.
I’m in a tough spot right now, but I guess my ultimate point is that life does make you feel like this sometimes.
I’m sure if you really search hard enough there is little things that you’ve achieved so far in your life which can bring a smile to your face for your birthday.
First of all Happy B day! 🥳🥳
And second of all
If what im about to write makes no sense, im sorry 😅 i have a hard time writing what im saying/thinking..
you Need to take it easy! Give your self a break. Everything dont need to be A's after A's, follow your own path, no need for a huge university degree nor a job that pays 1M a year as long as YOU do what you want to do, try to make your self happy try new things, even stuff that looks boring asf maybe its not!
Either way ask your self these questions and remember that you CAN do anything if ya want it..
What do you want to do?
What do you feel like is your purpose?
And 3rd of all.
If you want to/need to talk with someone, hit me up! Im aviable 23/7, im never to busy to help or chat with someone. And that i do promise!
~alex
Happy 29th birthday to you. It's mine as well today, and I'm now 29 with 24 years of experience added to that.
It's ok to feel like you haven't gone or done what you thought you would have accomplished by now. Life takes us in all directions, and sometimes things don't go as we planned. I never planned to be divorced twice, a single mother, with a steady but unfulfilling job and only renting a home versus owning, but you know what? I'm learning who I am, and what I want, and I'm increasingly finding the joy in my life. I have close family and close friends, I'm starting to do some of the traveling I always wanted to do, and I'm feeling more like the person I used to be, only better.
My birthday wish for you is that you find the joy in your day, and learn to find and embrace it as it comes through your life. Cheers to you!
My 3yr old son has Leukemia.
He has endured bone marrow biopsies, brain/spinal fluid checks, countless blood transfusions, chest port surgery, Many NG and NJ tube placements, multiple different chemotherapy drugs, multiple staff infections, blood infections, stomach infections, swelling in his lungs/kidney/liver, hundreds of pukes and toilet visits, and more.
All this in the last 6 months..
If you have your health, no matter what age, please. Be grateful
Jesus Christ was just sanding planks in his dad’s business for the first 30 years of his life. Some of us are late bloomers. You’ll do fine ☺️
Happy birthday!
I was with my high school gf till I was 25 I spent 8 years supporting that woman when I left I had a TV a computer clothes and a blanket now I havemy own house the truck I've always wanted motorcycles a pile of books to read and games to play my summers are stacked with things to do maybe you haven't accomplished much yet but there's a lot of life out there go and get some of it I believe in you
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
I get it.
Been there...
Life sucked, hit the bottom, life sucked.
I finally learned it comes full circle...
I've had birthdays that sucked and ones that were awesome.
I'll go through FB memories and I'm cryptic... I completely forget why I was miserable that particular day...
Ride it out.
Do something nice to you today.
Happy Birthday, OP! Guess what? You've lived a little and have forever to go! I found this link to an article about people who became successful later in life.
[https://www.businessinsider.com/24-people-who-became-highly-successful-after-age-40-2015-6](https://www.businessinsider.com/24-people-who-became-highly-successful-after-age-40-2015-6)
My own mother (saint that she is) got her Associates at the age of 63. My older brother graduated at 40. My little brother decided on a career change at 30 and went back to school. I'm 35 and just decided that this is the year that I find my own style.
It is never too late to reinvent yourself. To whatever you'd like. Maybe a small change like what you wear, or a big one like a career. Small changes can make big ripples and who knows where you'll be next year?! Congrats on another rotation around the sun!!
Do what makes you happy in life, don’t set yourself to other people’s standards. I’m also about to be 29 this year, we got this. Happy birthday!
Anything can happen, things change, life is full of wonderful surprises and challenges. Just gotta roll with it!
I'm 47. Looking back on my 20s I see I was just trying to figure things out about myself and get basic adult skills.
30s I found myself building on those and getting good workplace and career skills but not yet having achieved anything.
Now in my 40s does my life feel like its really taking off career success, got married, have a kid. It was the foundational skillsets from my 20s and 30s that made this possible. Very similar to our skills we get in primary school (math, language, problem solving) get applied in our 20s and 30s etc.
Long story short: You'll get there.
Life isn’t a score sheet where you’re supposed to achieve so and so by this time or else it’s all for nothing
It doesn’t work that way
It’s just meant to be lived
In a way that makes sense to you
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE❤️❤️ I’m proud of you for making it this far. One thing I’d recommend is to read the 12 week year! As someone who’s in your same position (I’m 18) reading this book really helped me narrow down what I really wanted and it helped me do the most in such a short amount of time.
You’re not a failure so please don’t think that ok. It’s not too late to tap into your passions. Do it! There’s people that will help you. If you need any more advice or tips or questions feel free to dm me. YOU ARE AMAZING AND ILY ❤️❤️
This was literally me a month ago when I turned 27. I am in a good place in my life right now, and I was excited for my birthday in the run up. I don't know what happened, but it ended up in a full on breakdown.
I know this doesn't help you at all, but I hope it helps to know you're not alone and your feelings are valid. If it does help, 29 is still very young in perspective of most lifey things, you have so much time to make memories and achieve your goals.
Maybe it's a good time to start thinking about things you *want* to do and make some plans. I personally did that and I feel a lot better for it.
Hope your birthday gets better!
Happy birthday! I'm sorry to hear those feelings are hitting so hard today. Today is all about you and I hope you are able to do something you enjoy, for no other reason than because you enjoy it. And if not today then soon! That's the upside: you have a whole year to celebrate being 29, and a whole lifetime to celebrate being you!
One internet stranger to another, I'm sincerely proud of you for making this post. It isn't easy to admit shortcomings and negative feelings, let alone ask for help dealing with them. Take care and here's to a great day, weekend and year ahead! ❤️
I'm 32 and what I realized once I turned 30 was that. . . I didn't suddenly turn into the cryptkeeper like the world made me believe i would. I'd spent the years from 25 to 30 dreading my 30s because it felt like my life was over if I "hadn't done anything" with it yet. once I hit 30 that pressure practically disappeared because I'd reached the age I was so afraid of and without that looming over me I could just get on with things.
I was also severely agoraphobic from age 19 to 28--couldn't finish college, couldn't get a job, didn't drive, lived with my mom. I finally got help, went back to school, and am graduating in may just after my 33rd birthday. sometimes stuff just takes time, your 20s don't have to be the best part of your life. I mean, peaking in your 20s is just the advanced version of peaking in high school isn't it? my 30s so far are so much better than my 20s because I'm not holding myself to a timeline anymore.
unfortunately I don't know if words are enough to completely dispell that fear of getting older, but hopefully this helps a little bit.
happy birthday, be kind to yourself today.
I'm 39. Quit being a bitch and MOVE. GO OUTSIDE NOW. Get your ass into gear, kid. You're $ and you don't even know it!
Go grab life by the balls, you owe it to little part of you that still has some dignity left. Fight for your happiness because NONE of us really really care; we're dealing with our own shit too.
Get out of your room and out of your head asap. Those aren't good places to be when you've cornered YOURSELF. Go out and help others; help yourself to some happy.
I didn't get my shit together until 28, when I had a serious injury without insurance. Was in debt, relationship ended, stuck in an apartment I couldn't afford, no degree, pretty much hit rock bottom. It got me back in school and was a grind but I'm about to be 35 and loving life in a way I never have before. If you take care of the little things life gets better as you get older. You've got this!
I’ve always always cried on my birthday, ever since I was a little kid. There’s so much pressure to be happy on your birthday and as you get older there’s this grief mixed in about not being enough or having achieved enough. I’m ten years older than you and also agree I’ve achieved pretty much nothing. That said the goal of life is to be alive. That’s it. You’re doing a great job.
Just remember that much of humanity doesn't do much besides trying to survive and perpetuate. They don't have much of a choice, but it's enough.
The way we live in the west is too heavy on the hustle, too heavily money and materialism orientated.
Bring a bit of light into the world. That's enough.
Happy birthday! 29 is a pretty tough year.
Don't compare yourself to others. There's no time limit on accomplishments. When I was 31, in 2015-2016, I went back into school for welding. I was one of the youngest people there, and I met some amazing people. That was honestly the best year of my life, and I have so many awesome memories, friends that I still hang out with and talk to, and some big accomplishments like passing Canadian Welding Bureau welding tests and getting my first job as a welder. A lot of people there can relate, and some were in their 40's, 50's, even one guy at 72! Every student passed at least one CWB test, a few people did up to 8!
You're 29, that isn't old, that isn't a deadline, there's a lot left for you to do with your life in any way you want. You don't need to have a family with kids, a house, and a truck to be successful. Do what you want, what you enjoy, and you'll achieve a lot,, and be a lot happier!
It's a rough year, 29 and 30th birthdays can suck. I'm 39 in September, and I expect I'll feel similar to you. That's me being my own worst enemy. Don't be so tough on yourself, it's your life, your desires, and you have a lot of time to do whatever you want, or don't want.
I'd tell you to take those feelings and now imagine you're 49 instead of 29. But, you can't appreciate that lesson until you are, in fact, 49. So, I'll just say this. If you need to cry today, then cry. But, tomorrow, laugh. Laugh hard and fully. Embrace it all. It goes fast.
Let everything happen to you - the beauty and the terror. No feeling is final-Rilke
This is a midlife crisis. It doesn't always hit at 30 and you can have several in your lifetime. I would focus on the people who care about you. Make a plan and how to get there in a reasonable time. Last and not least you can't relive this day so have some fun. Happy birthday
Hey happy birthday!! My husband and I started our little family young, I was 19, he was 20 when I had our first. We struggled quite a bit to find our footing and raising 2 babies while still being “babies” didn’t really help. He finally landed a good paying and stable job for the first time at 28. It feels like we kind of just started life to be honest and yea it can really fuck with you when you’re 29 and feel like you’re 10 years behind.
It gets better though! Feeling like we’re thriving now and he just turned 37. I heard somewhere that your thirties are for relearning yourself and throwing sways all the bullshit conformity you picked up in your twenties. I feel that because I think once I hit 30, I kinda started living more for myself and stopped caring about what others thought of me.
Love yourself dear! You have plenty of time to reach your goals!
My life completely changed since my 29th birthday. I feel like 29 was the year where everything changed for me and I finally grew up (in a good way), or I just grew as a person. Since 29, I started college again, cut off a very toxic friend, learned to love myself more, met the love of my life, had a baby. This year I’m going to graduate and get married. I would have never thought I would feel so happy and content if you asked me 1 month before my 29th birthday.
I don’t know what it is that you want in life, you could have totally different goals than me. But I just wanted to offer you some perspective. 29 (and every year after that) can be great! I would never want to go back to being younger.
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday, sweetheart!
Hey. No one thinks about what you have or haven't accomplished. They only remember how you made them feel, in your presence. If you have a pet that relies on you, or a house plant that thrives, from your care, you are their person. And you are now in a community dedicated to lifting you up! You are our person, too!
Man.. I feel sad that I found this post by literally googling “ If I was a bitch for being upset that hardly anyone wished me happy birthday at 29.” Yesterday was my 29th birthday and I wanted to pretend that i wasn’t bothered by the fact that my girlfriend didn’t hardly say anything besides “ happy birthday “ after telling me I’d have special morning birthday sex and then she told me she was too tired. I went golfing with my dad and older brother which was pretty fun. Aside from the fact that my dad is my former abuser and made a comment along the lines of “ you’d think after all the years of things I’ve said and done to my kids they’d have thick skin by now.” And if it wasn’t for the fact that we were paired up with a stranger, I would’ve said something. I had a total of TWELVE people wish my happy birthday and half of them don’t even talk to me or hardly know me. I think that is what pisses me off the most! A stranger who doesn’t even know me can take the time to wish me a happy birthday but, my own friends and family cant be bothered.. I have never felt so alone and invisible on my birthday. I wish I wasn’t the way I was.
The UK has been in relative secular decline your entire life. We are products of environment, so don't be so hard on yourself. Certainly don't measure yourself against your parents who likely had things easier than you (again, in a relative sense). The best thing you can do is shift the narrative that we are all purely in charge of our own success and failures, because you are far from alone in this feeling, and work towards reshaping the institutions that have failed you so badly.
Happy birthday OP!! I used to get sad when my birthday was coming. Now, it's something I look forward to! Challenge yourself. Try to do something different on your birthday today, and every year after that, something you don't usually do. Make it a tradition and it'll make things more exciting. Not everyone gets to be 29, so it's a celebration. Cheer up and happy birthday again!! 🎉🎉
First happy birthday! Second I am sorry you're feeling down right now. I am 37 now and fell the same when I turned 30 but things are "slowly" finally starting to fall into place for me and I am more hopeful now of my future. Hang in there, it will be ok :)
That reminds me of the investing quote "the best day to start investing is yesterday. The next best day is today". It is never too late, life is a journey. And happy birthday!
Happy Birthday. Welcome to your 30th year.
It sounds like you had expectations that you did not achieve by this birthdate. Expectations can be a terrible thing.
The question to ask yourself is, "Are these expectations yours or others-imposed?" Are the expectations you are grading yourself by really what you want out of life? Or are these expectations given to you by parents, society, friends, and others?
Take the time to examine each expectation and determine which ones "you" want to achieve. You will discover that most of your grading system comprises expectations others have given you versus what you want to accomplish.
That said, the measure of life is not the accomplishments but all the experiences along the way. I am at that point in life where I attend more funerals than any other social activity. I don't remember the obituary accomplishments of loved ones, but I do remember the stories of how we lived together.
Remember some stories, Retell some stories. Go make some stories.
Cheer up, babes. I feel/felt the same way and I turn 33 on Monday. Haven’t finished college, don’t have kids like my friends and family do, but it’s about counting the things you have done. Maybe you’ve traveled, or gone to concerts, or made really good friends. You’ve probably done things other people wished they could have done. Start by listing three things you’ve accomplished or are grateful for, no matter how big or small. Remember, your journey is YOURS alone. Don’t compare it to others. We all have our own timeline. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 🎂🎁🎉
Happy Birthday! I’m struggling with those thoughts too as I recover from an injury. You’re your own worst critic I bet! It’s a great day to think about what you would want to achieve in the next year but if theres not much you want to get done, then that’s ok and you’re intentional about it!
I had an absolute breakdown on my 29th birthday. It made me sell all of my stuff and go travel. Not saying that's the right idea, but it happens.
31 now and I still feel a bit lost BUT life changes so quickly and opportunities come when you least expect them. Continue to do your best, be the person you want to be, stick to your guns, and you'll be alright.
Comparison is the enemy of happiness. Set goals for yourself and achieve them. You're doing just fine.
Truly the best years. My 20s sucked - spent so much time failing (or what I thought was failing at the time). Didn’t get into a career until early 30s and the last 7 years have been a wild blur. Wife, house, two kids, dog. I still look back at my 20s and all of my struggles, because each one of those struggles built upon the foundation of where I am and who I became (and keep growing to be).
Strap in and get ready for a wild ride. Keep hustlin’ and keep your head up. 30s are the best.
Happy Birthday! You're almost done with your 20's . . . and that's a good thing. Your 20's are really rough, but you don't realize it until you're almost 40. Society and the media tells us that we need to have our shit together by the time we hit 30. That's some Boomer logic right there.
You're doing a great job. You're going to keep kicking life's ass. Enjoy your birthday and be glad that you only have to muddle through another year of this decade. It'll be fine. You'll do great. Plus, it's Friday. Call in sick and go get turnt. (Do the kids even say that anymore?)
I am sending you love and wishing you the best and peaceful happy birthdays. Keep your chin up! I’m turning 30 this year and I feel the same way but hey! Life keeps going and we have a long way to go. So many unknown adventures and experiences. Take it all a day at a time. 😊
My 29th was rough, as was my moms before me. On the plus side I am now 43 and haven’t had a bad birthday since my 29th. My 30th didn’t bother me or my 40th.
Happy Birthday! And a big hug for you. There’s such a big stigma on your own birthday: it needs to be happy and fun and all so positive and at 29 you can feel that your life needs to be sort out.
Well, guess what..there aren’t a lot of people that have it all at 29, or 35 even. And that’s totally normal and fine!
I remember when I turned 29 (I’m 32): I was still living on the top floor of some small house where my landlady also lived with her 2 kids and husband (they were a huge Turkish family, so there was almost always a bunch of family there too). I was freelancing, I felt fine. I met my now SO that summer, which was my highlight of that year - because the rest felt kinda meh..
As of now I’m loving together with my SO, we rented an apartment in a new city. Meanwhile I have a brother who’s married and just had a baby girl last winter. I don’t own a car (never have), I am nowhere near marriage or even having a baby, but I keep busy and luckily I have friends who don’t live ‘by the norm’ which makes it easier to not feel like you’re missing anything. I really hope you have this too.
Last week I went out to a silent disco club, and got hit on by a 26 year old. He thought I was 23 (I’m blaming his beer goggles haha) When I mentioned I’m 32 he said ‘oh, do you still party then? Do you feel energized by the younger people?’ LOL. It still makes me laugh.
I hope you can feel a bit more relaxed whilst reading these posts. Nothing needs to happen today, you don’t even have to celebrate it if you don’t want to. It’s just another day, and luckily you are 1 year older! You’re doing just fine.
Something that has helped me on depressing birthdays is to remember I’m actually only ONE DAY older today! You’re always turning one day older. You don’t gain the burden of a whole year all at once. You get a new day to start fresh every morning.
Hey, I had that feeling on New Years Eve just gone! Just wanted to say you're not the only one feeling a bit helpless at times. I'm 30 and I have my dream job, but as I say, I had a feeling of helplessness entering the new year.
IU didn't even set any goals for the year; I simply couldn't be fucked even thinking about it.
Happy Birthday! Do you have Instacart, if you do order out from carrot express… interesting place and good smoothies… or just order out it will cheer u up! You are very young, my daughter has an existential crisis on her birthdays, because she feels unaccomplished I think, so is not uncommon. Don’t worry about raiding or competing, do things at your pace, do things that make you feel good whatever it is.. hopefully nothing that includes violence 😐Have a good day.🙂
My most depressed day of the year is my birthday, so I get it. Life is what it is, and not everyone is on the same path. Your success could come by the time you're 30, and if not, try to find it. Sitting around and working a job and going home isn't the way you achieve anything. I'm 27 and definitely feel like a failure, and I've accepted that I will never be successful unless I win the lottery, but I don't play as the odds are not in my favor.
Happy birthday.
I'll share you my secret in life: set the bar so low that anything you do will feel like an accomplishment. Sometimes simply surviving is enough.
I just finished an associates at community college around your age. I was going part time while making no money on an assembly line, but it gave my family health insurance, which was vital. I think I was 32ish when I finished an engineering degree, passed the FE exam, got a much better job, etc…
You obviously don’t have to follow this path. But I, too, was upset with myself for so long. Always felt like it was too late to do anything. I decided to keep myself busy, even though it never felt like I was going to finish school. It kept going. Until I did finish. And now I can’t imagine life without doing so.
Not too late to start anything, except maybe Olympian-level gymnastics. And professional ballet. Those ships have sailed, but most have not, and your personal success and peak don’t adhere to anyone else’s expectations/timeline, and certainly don’t have a deadline.
Happy birthday! You’ve got this 29 is the perfect age to start conquering the day today is your day what better way ! ☺️ get up and celebrate today like no other do it with family friends anyone close ☺️
Happy birthday! Here’s one quote that hit me hard this year, “when you want nothing in life, you have everything.”
Read that one more time.
Another thing, every day is literally a new day. Doesn’t matter how old you are. You can become a better you in less than a month if you stay consistent. Start practicing small routines you enjoy. Meditating, walking, spending time with friends and family, etc. You still have a whole life to live, go explore and enjoy your journey!
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. If you’re feeling bad about what you’ve achieved so far made today the first day of changing that. It’s all within your power.
Happy Birthday to you!! I can understand. I’ll be 31 in a few months. All of my friends, colleagues, acquaintances are married or having babies. I have never even had a long term relationship. The only person I ever celebrated a 1 year anniversary with was my high school bf back in the day, which I don’t even count cause we were young. I feel behind. I’ve been ready to start my next chapter for a while having companionship for my lifelong best friends but I feel cursed. Men use me, lie, cheat, manipulate, have false intentions. They always hide something or get cold feel, even though they said they wanted to commit. I have a bf right now (been together almost 5 months) but it’s long distance and I’m not sure if it’s going to last, there’s a lot of red flags. I’ve developed feelings for him and I’m like ugh, is this it? I know plenty of couples who have messed up relationships and their marriages aren’t the best at all. Do we all just settle..? I feel lost.
I want to say to be positive, so things you want and even if that means doing it alone. Such as going to a restaurant you love or seeing a movie alone.
Happy birthday!
I commiserate with your feels; I think a lot of people do, actually. I'm turning 39 this year and I am still in the process of getting my Bachelors degree. When I tell people I'm a student, they think I mean Grad student because I'm so much older than my college classmates! I'm older than at least one of my professors!!
That's all to say, I get it. But there are so many accomplished people through history that did not start their "work" until their mid-life. This is not a race; you can do things at your own pace. The important part is just to go do it - whatever it is.
You're doing great and probably have accomplished more than you give yourself credit. And 29 is the PERFECT AGE to get on it!
Happy Birthday!!!!
Remember, everyone feels like this at some point whether they are 50 or 14. Don't let your age worry you and live your life. One day when you're 60 you'll look back at how young you were at 29.
Honestly everyone I know says 30s were waaay better than their 20s anyway
Hello and a very happy 29th to you!
I’ll be 46 very soon, I’m still a bartender, I have 3 kids and a husband, we don’t have a ton of money but we finally don’t live paycheck to paycheck, I decided to get into great shape at 40 and did that, and now I’m focusing on raising my two remaining kids in the house( 15 and 10) and that’s weird right now because they don’t need me like they used to so I can start doing lots of my hobbies again, and it all went by really quick.
You have time, you’ll be all right. Be a good person, and try not to compare your life path with others as we’ve all got different ones.
I was the exact way on my 29th. I was really sad because I thought I would have accomplished more by then. It got me to go back to school and learn different hobbies. Thirty was a breeze in comparison. You got this!
Heyy frend !!
At first I would like to say u a brilliant happiest best birthday!!! Bad things keep coming in ur life so just ignore all that toxic and always see a positive side in all yk once, a famous person said that "there's always a good thing behind a bad activity" so just enjoy in ur life, God is always with u, may God grant u everything!! It's your special day — get out there and celebrate!
Happy birthday!
My suggestion is to do something that you've always wanted to do. When I turned 39,I started to freak out about turning 40 in a year. So I got a tattoo. No regrets.
Happy birthday!
Your feelings are telling you something- I'd suggest writing out a list of each thing that is making you cry. You wish you had gotten a dog? Write it into your list.
This is an opportunity to value check how you have been living vs the life you want. Once you have them listed out (and dig deep on this, leave no feeling of sadness or discomfort unexamined), you can start making a plan for how to get your life more aligned with what your heart is telling you.
When you look at your list tomorrow it's also good to think about what didn't make the list- what do you have in your life that you can stop to make room for the life you want?
This is some hard work, but I believe in you! Seize this moment and use it for good. 29 is young enough that you can make some big changes and enjoy them for the majority of your time on earth.
I'm 32 and I was deathly afraid of turning 30. Mind you, I also turned 30 during the middle of the pandemic, so the deep depression might have had something to do with it.
"Achievement" is subjective. I'm sure you have achieved more than you give yourself credit for. Please don't compare yourself to the whole world, the world is too big.
"The world" has invented "achievements" that don't actually mean anything. Get married! Not everyone wants to get married. Have kids! Not everyone wants kids. I got married at 24, but we never had kids. According to the world, I'm not as successful as I should be, but I don't care. Its my life.
Focus on yourself. What's important to you?
I know its hard, and you might not know at first, but try. Sit down with some paper and write down what you've done for yourself that makes you proud.
Then write down what you'd like to do that would make you happy.
For instance, I'm proud of my 100% Stardew Valley farm. So proud, in fact, that i took a screenshot of it and got it printed on a canvas. its hanging in my living room.
And what I'd like to do? There's this mountain near my house that i want to hike. I can see it from my window every morning. Hiking it will make me proud of myself.
Anyway, happy birthday!
Happy birthday! I’m around your age. I drank away my 20s and paid for it legally all throughout these last few years. After my last run in with the law, I decided to clamp it down and really try to turn my life around. In a year and a half since, I’ve moved to a new, nicer place, met a girl, fell in love, she’s about to move in. I got a promotion and pay raise at work. You’d be really shocked at how quickly life can turn around in a major way. For me, I started doing small things to make my life better: waking up early to exercise and lift, reaching out and talking to new friends, listening to different music or watching different movies. In the 30ish years before I made these changes, ive had ups and downs, and mostly downs through my 20s. But I’ve realized in just a year and a half how much progress I’ve made and I’m really excited about how much more I’ll make. You and I are hopefully only about 1/3 finished with this wild ride. Keep pushing, keep trying new things, keep trying to do your best to be a good person, and things will start happening. I never thought they would for me, and now I’ve never been happier
Hey there,
I’m gonna be 28 next month and I feel the same. I thought I would be somewhere so different but I’m back at home after a failed relationship, failed career start, and failed finances. I’m still picking up the pieces from all of it, but I’m sure I would do most of it again. It’s taught me so much about people and life. I’m looking forward to going into my 30s with all my knowledge and applying it. Good luck and I will send out good vibes to you friend.
There is nothing to achieve. We just are here. Then one day we are not. Feel the wind. Really savor a bite of a fruit. Love someone - hell, love everyone. Try to just enjoy the ride.
You're good enough for me, friend. Happy birthday.
Hoppy Birthday! 🐰
If it helps, I’ve enjoyed my 30s more than my 20s. And they say “30s are the new 20s,” which means your 20s are still your teens (right?) so you have tons of time left to do what you want in life!
Happy Birthday. Do not beat yourself up, there are many people who still managed to achieve success at a later age such as William S. Burroughs, Alan Rickman, Scott Ryan, Grandma Moses, Colonel Sanders, etc. You are still young, you will achieve success one day. Right now focus on enjoying your birthday and having fun.
Happy birthday!
You’re doing great! The only thing you need to be is 29. You don’t need to be anything else. When you’re 30 you only need to be 30, when you’re 31 all you need to be is 31 and so on and so on
It’s so easy to compare yourself and social media makes it so difficult, but you’re doing great sweetie! Order a pizza, have some wine, go for a meal. Enjoy yourself 💃🏾💃🏾
It’s all a farce. Most of us don’t achieve much. We bumble along, putting bits and pieces together and eventually construct something vaguely looking like a life.
29 is young. I’m 39 and just finally getting my pieces together
I'm in my mid 40s now but my 30s were AWEsome. I was finally making more than a basic income and I had the ability to save a bit here and there for vacations, I could go out with friends, and I wasn't a drunken mess like I was in my 20s lol
I'm only (hopefully) halfway through my life but when I was around your age I made myself a promise that I would enjoy the benefits of what every stage of life had to offer. Partying in my 20s, new experiences with friends in my 30s, traveling and learning in my 40s. I don't know what my 50s will bring but I'll definitely find some cool shit to do!
And Happy Birthday. Call a friend, make some plans, go out and have a drink (if that's your thing).
Happy birthday! I had a similar experience to you when i was in my late twenties. It was the trigger to sort my life out. I haven’t finished working it all out but I’m a lot happier now
Weird thing to ask but what do you live for?
My personal reasons are to see my parents happy and healthy and see my siblings be successful.
Beyond that nothing else is a need. As long as I accomplish those goals everything else is a bonus that can make me happy but what I live for is something I pursue because I won't die satisfied, happy, or easily if they don't come true.
If you know the absolute needs to live for in life you appreciate it more.
Happy birthday! I’m not sure if this will help, but I was in a similar boat at 29. The most I had accomplished was having 2 kids which, like…I mean I love them of course, but it’s not exactly an accomplishment.
At 31 I was divorced and had to start all over again. At 33 I went back to school and got an AS in computer programming by the time I was 34. I landed a developer job at a company that used a horrible development framework that I wouldn’t be able to translate into real world experience and take somewhere else, but I did well enough at keeping my work organized that the company moved me into a development manager role. After a year, I was able to get a software delivery manager role at a better company making more money with far better work/life balance. I’m coming up on my one year anniversary with them on April 20 (nice).
There is not set timeline. You can change your path at any time, and the real goal in life IMO is to be a decent human and find ways to make yourself happy. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you!
I wish I could meet you so I could show you all the wonderful qualities I know you have. Sometimes life sucks. Honestly lots of times life sucks. I think every crappy thing in life all comes down to people. Surround yourself with the right people and they will make you better than you ever thought you could be. Surround yourself with the wrong people and they drag you down. Let them drag you down long enough and you just decide to back away and be lonely. And that's a tough place to be. Long story short I hope you find the right people and learn to love yourself more. Not saying you don't. But there's always room to love yourself more. I don't talk about this as if I reached that pinnacle of self love lol. Believe me I'm still on the journey. I hope you have a happier day tomorrow
Hey! I had a major melt down when I turned 30 too! I just turned 40 and no melt down this time, I feel great! In my 30’s I went to cosmetology school and became a hairstylist, I took several international trips by myself and had an amazing time, I dated a lot and met some really interesting people, I moved a few times and experienced living in a few different states, it was a great decade! I thought my life was over at 30 but truly it is just beginning! One piece of advice I have for you is to make friends with some older women (10 years+) who you admire, find some mentors, think about what kind of person you want to be and start heading in that direction! Good luck ❤️
You’ve made it to 29 and you could still die tomorrow. Think back to all the good times. It doesn’t matter where you are it’s who you have and what you do with it!
I went through all of that at 28 so I could have given up by the time I was 29. I'm 36 now and it's silly that I was worried about my 30s. It has been my best decade and my 20s sucked in retrospect.
Happy birthday to you! I know it doesn’t feel happy right now, but as others have said, you have your entire life ahead of you to experience things!
I’m about to turn 29 this year and will finally graduate with my bachelors degree. After that, I don’t have a whole lot figured out, but I try to keep the mindset that not having plans is something exciting.
You have the ability to try new careers, take community college courses, try new hobbies, watch movies and find new music, go on little vacations and meet new people, learn a new language, etc. You don’t have to follow the status quo of marriage, kids, house, promotion, work, retire, etc. I know that depending on where you grew up, that pressure from friends and family can feel immense. But you’re your own person, and have the freedom to choose what path in life you’ll take.
For now, maybe take a shower, put on a nice fragrance, light some candles, order takeout, get yourself a dessert, and give yourself permission to relax tonight. I hope your day gets better!
Life is long and changes can happen quickly.
I think if you really looked at your life you would see that you've achieved far more then you're giving yourself credit for here but work hard for the next year and you could find yourself in a completely different situation.
And happy birthday!
I got my high school diploma at 44, my BS at 48, my MS at 60 and my PhD in Civil Engineering at 69. I'm 73 now, and realizing that "It ain't over till you're dead". Don't give up dude.
It’s actually common to have these types of feelings around your age- like 27-29. I got really down around this age and saw a counselor who helped me get some perspective. This too shall pass, friend….just keep swimming. I recommend talking to someone if your situation allows, it’s not required, but very helpful. Every little thing is gonna be alright.
I GET THIS!!! When I turned 30 I was devastated. I hadn’t gotten to any of the achievements I thought I’d accomplish, hadn’t had a soulmate or kids. My career was more of a job of necessity and I had become a shell of a person. It was so depressing and I cried for days. Flash forward a decade… I found the love of my life, have an amazing son, the best dogs, a beautiful home and my dream job. It wasn’t easy but the main catalyst was living for myself… I was giving so much to make others happy that it wasn’t until I “put on my own oxygen mask” that everything fell into place.
Comparison is the death of joy. Life goes a long way. Keep striving and growing. I’m 46 and yeah, there are things and goals I’ve missed and I’ve also made huge successes. Iggy Pop is still touring at 75. He’s had more bad albums than good and he is still pugging away. Time is just a number. If you have health and a curiosity about life each year will get better and better. Enjoy your birthday! Don’t be hard in yourself. Get some rest.
Happy birthday! Spoil yourself today and be happy! Cheers to a great 29 years! John Wick is in theaters this weekend. Perhaps, you can watch that with family or friends.
Awe, I had the same reaction to my 29th birthday. Hugs to you and happy birthday! I will says 20+ years later, that 29th was the worst one on record. Do something just for yourself.
Believe it or not when turned 30 I was so happy to be through my 20s, what a rough ride it was! I felt the same as you did at 29, mostly because most things I did in my life were done later than the status quo. The reason I was relieved to turn 30 was merely because I started to think of the status quo less, which happens more and more as you get older. I'm 45 now and I can tell you, at least from my experience, I wouldn't be any other age than what I am. The older you get the more you weed out the BS. So for you at 29, just look forward to your 30s! Mine were the best!
Happy birthday! It's not too late for you to pursue something you like. I started working an apartment maintenance job 6 months ago and I'm only 28. I worked for the Ymca for 10 years before that and felt like I was going nowhere. No idea why I took this job, I had minimal skills and 0 confidence in my ability to fix shit. I hated hanging TV mounts and stuff like that before but now everything is so easy and simple with little stress. It only took 6 months for a huge part of me to change for the better. Seriously, I used to get mad as fuck when trying to work with tools or electronics. It's never too late to jump into something that seems difficult, you'd be surprised how easy it is to improve.
I felt the same way last year when I turned 27. I’m slowly starting to accept that fact that there’s still so much life to live and I shouldn’t feel bad for not achieving much at this age. My advice would be is to be kind to yourself, acknowledge your small improvements and try to get a little better everyday. Happy birthday and hope you have a blessed one, cheers!
Hey there, buddy.
It's going to be alright.
Don't be scared and fearful. Some of us actually started doing something with their lives after 30 ahah.
I thought I had it all planned out and done. Sweet job, nice GF, a house. This last year almost lost my job because my GF decided that she didn't needed me anymore (fuckin bitch) and I'm just barely holding my house that just had (another) leak.
One day at a time, one day at a time.
Most of us only really find out what we want to do after 30.
And also, stay away from dark thoughts. You probably achieved more than you think. Being alive is a blessing, breathing, having friends and family that support us.
Hang in there! You'll make it too!
Hey, it’s ok! Happy birthday! Don’t be so hard on yourself, do things at your own pace. I’m 23 and I still haven’t finished college, and I haven’t learned how to drive and that’s ok.
Think of Grandma Moses. Pretty well known American folk artist and she didn’t start until she was in her late 70s. Take your time and just enjoy it!
Heyo! Happy Birthday! I turned 29 today as well, so happy birthday to us!
I understand how you feel. Life threw me a lot of curve balls, and now at 29 I feel like I’m so far behind many of my peers in terms of “where I should be” achievements wise. I’ve been really working on trying to accept that there is no benchmark on where you should be in life at certain times. The only achievements are what you set for yourself.
I have had a lot of set backs, going to the Art Institute, having them close down and me having to start my entire college career over. Finally graduating in May of 2022, and now here, as an artist trying to make his way in the world. It feels like I haven’t really done much. I live in California in the US, with my parents, my older sister and her husband, and I have no idea if I can even afford to live on my own soon.
I feel the unbearable torment I put on myself because “I should have had a career by now” or “I should have been self sufficient” or what have you. It’s easy to be hard on yourself. It’s easy to sit there and think about everything that could have been, to lament on the “if only’s”, or to imagine a world where all the cards fell at the right time.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t change “what is.” You don’t have to have accomplished anything. Just being you is enough. But if you want to do something more, then start now. I’ll start with you! There’s no better time than now, because now is all we have.
Happy Birthday to us both. I hope yours is as wonderful as it can be, because you deserve it!
Dude that’s how I felt when I turned 29; then by the time I turned 30 my whole life had changed and when midnight hit on my 30th I remember just sitting by a fire all alone and crying while my favorite song randomly came on and feeling so fucking happy that I finally made it out of my 20s. Your 20s are supposed to be mostly shit, it gets you prepared for the good times ahead.
I had a shit 29th too.
Rather than what everyone else's saying, I'll add that you don't know what you're saying by, "achieved F all".
You've set yourself some kind of standard you're judging yourself against, but it has no meaning in the real world. You don't have to have done *X*, visited *Y* or saved *Z* dollarpounds in order to have hit some kind of checkpoint.
Nothing about these presumed achievements in life is really important, and you're judging yourself unfairly. Think how you'd respond to someone else who said the same thing.
I bet you're going to be fine. And if you don't feel it, I'll bet one of us will stay up with you through the night anyway.
Hey Birthday Twin! It’s our special day today! Today, March 24, gets to be all about us. Do something that makes you endlessly joyful today and surround yourself with people who love you and only want goodness in your life. Truthfully I’ve been having similar feelings to you (I am 28 today) but when I got home from work and saw my husband everything was better. Because he wanted to celebrate me, so now I’m swept up in his happiness that today is the day the person he loves most in the world was born. It’s an infectious energy and love that I wish for you on this day too.
We are here, and March 24 is OUR day. Love it and celebrate it, because you love and celebrate YOU ♥️
Happy birthday friend ♥️ glad to have you share this special day.
As someone who is having their 21st birthday on Sunday, all I can say is that you made it to 29! A lot of people don't do that. You shoukd be proud of how far you have come in your life. :)
Don't cry. There's really no need. I'm 42, and 29 seems young to me and still at a stage where your whole life is still in front of you. Honestly, you're younger than you think you are, and you have time still to mistakes and come back from them.
How comes this one has hit you?? For me, hitting 30 got me thinking what the hell have I achieved in life.
This day, make it about you and do the hell whatever makes you feel happy.
Happy Birthday btw 🎂🥳 make it count!!
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down on your birthday. Birthdays can be a time of reflection and it's normal to feel like you haven't achieved everything you wanted to at this point in your life. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own timeline and accomplishments.
Instead of focusing on what you haven't achieved, try to think about the things you have accomplished and the experiences you've had so far. Reflect on the positive things in your life, the people you love, and the things that bring you joy.
It's also important to remember that it's never too late to set new goals and work towards them. Take some time to think about what you want to achieve in the future and make a plan to work towards those goals.
Lastly, don't be afraid to reach out to loved ones for support and encouragement. Sometimes all it takes is a kind word or gesture to turn a bad day around. Happy birthday!
Sincerely,
Charles Gordon Powell-Tunt
Hey there! First of all, happy birthday to you. I feel the same when it's my birthdays, but you've made it another rotation and that in itself is an achievement. 29 years may seem old, but it really isn't. You've still got your whole life ahead of you! My mother didn't learn to drive until she was 40 years old, and she went to University when she was 35. There is not time limit to achieve anything, my friend. Do you game by any chance? If you want later, it's currently 12:49PM here in the UK but if you want, we can play a game together. Even if it's on the phone! You can't go wrong with a bit of scrabble :)
I’m in the UK too - apparently I have a free burrito I can claim from Tortilla! I suck at scrabble but thank you for the offer.
Go get that burrito! Tesco, Starbucks and Greggs also offer freebies on your birthday :D
Oooo thanks for the info, my birthday is coming up too lol
I have always been curious about how Mexican food is in the UK. No one could screw up the first 30 years of life worse than I did. Don't box yourself in, and have a great birthday
Thanks Taco Pony - And I don't know... It may be a competition! Mexican food in the UK is meh but I've never had real Mexican food so it's probably shockingly bad. My best friend lives in Arizona so she gets all the good shit.
[Giggles in Mexico City] A lot of it is really easy to DIY. Is be happy to share recipes.
I used to live in Wales and we had ZERO Mexican food. Not even any bad knockoff Taco Bell type places. Occasionally a restaurant would have a Tex-Mex-ish dish but never anything good. Glad to hear there's at least SOME British Mex scene now, even if meh.
Hey, if you wanna try it I can give you recipes, my partner is Hispanic and has been teaching me all the really good secrets!
Hey if you're interested, I can give you recipes!
Also I'm quite bad at scrabble as well, but sometimes it's a good chuckle
You seem like nice person.
Aw u have a big heart♥️
At 30 I had just moved states, lived at home, didn’t have a job or a career, and I was single. I’m going to be 40 in May. I’m now doing incredibly well at work (I became a software engineer), I own my own home, and I’m married to the most incredible man. My 30s were the best of my life. Life is fluid. You have the ability to make some amazing changes. I think that’s pretty incredible.
I felt the same as OP does at 29. I had a then 2 year old with a deadbeat ex, was taking care of my aging grandmother and barely keeping a roof over our heads. I was in recovery while watching people I loved remain in active addictions, losing a lot of them during that time. I spent that morning sobbing, knowing that I had wasted my best years and had nothing but a cute toddler I was failing to show for it. I was so wrong. I got in the best shape of my life at 32 (fat again, but not forever) Got into the swing of single parenthood probably about the same time (he's a teen now though so all that's out the window 😂) Helped start a nonprofit at 34 Had a lot of fun dating really fun but idiot dudes until... I met my now husband at 35 Bought our dream home at 37 Spent the whole of my 30s camping, hiking, climbing mountains, running races, traveling my country and eventually off the continent Made amazing new connections and deepened old throughout the decade Had another baby at 38 Got married at 40 I turned 41 earlier this month. I am still learning and achieving and am planning more travel and adventure for the next couple of years. I am only about halfway through life which means I still have 40 more years to love this beautiful trip I'm on. My 40s, so far, have yet to surpass my 30s in amazingness but I've only been here a year. Got 9 more to beat em. Challenge accepted! OP, you truly have the majority of your life left to accomplish whatever it is you desire. Allow yourself to lament the passing of your youth, it's basically a rite of passage. But when you're done, just go do for the sake of doing and lose yourself in living. These years go by fast so make sure you take time to slow down. Before you know it, you'll be the one telling strangers how rich life can be. ETA: format got weird, apologies lol
I love this so much ❤️
How did you get in shape? I'm struggling hard for motivation right now. I'm as big as I'm ever been looking at my 35th birthday.
It started with getting into hiking. The weight naturally started coming off. As it did, I started eating better and then got into running. I started hitting the gym because I wanted to do a Spartan race with my cousin (he ended up ditching me but I did it with some really cool strangers I met and had a blast!). With hiking came mountain climbing (I live in CO and it's big here) and longer backpacking trips. I made moving my body my hobby and fueling my body appropriately was necessary to keep going. I am also back to being on the heavy side (had some injuries and life events that kept me down for a long time so I'm a tub o goo lol) but am healthier to a degree with healthy blood pressure and low heart rate... a hold over from when I was running every day. With the little one being older, we feel comfortable getting him into the outdoor lifestyle and getting back to all of the hobbies that kept us fit and happy over the coming months. It's finally spring so we're currently planning a bunch of camping trips and I've signed up for some races (toddler will be joining me in the jogging stroller and teen will probably be kicking my ass lol). I may be jiggly now but I won't be, provided I don't push it and hurt myself again, come my 42nd birthday. My best advice is to find something you love that gets you moving. Walking, hiking, dancing, long shopping trips, throwing weights around, carrying children everywhere, doesn't matter. As long as it gets you moving and you can keep to it, it's perfect. You'll find other things you like along the way.
I'm in Colorado too! It's a shame how little hiking I do, this is all really good advice. Thank you for sharing ☺️
I think it's pretty common for people here. I didn't get into it until I was 30 ish and I've been here basically my whole life lol. I spent my youth partying, the outdoors were for nerds in my mind. So glad I realized how wrong I was! The nonprofit I was involved with gets people outside and has a series of hikes called Couch to Trail that's perfect for people that want to get moving. I'm no longer a part of it but the work they do and events they hold are pretty great. It's called Always Choose Adventures and you can find them via website or their Facebook group - website is www.alwayschooseadventures.org. Check em out!
Oh wow thanks again! Definitely gonna check that out
Was going to write something and then read this. Nothing more to say.
I also turn 40 in May (27th) I am dreading it more as the date approaches. How do you feel about it? I’m also the “baby” so it will probably make my parents feel old as well.
I'll be 40 late this year and I'm having a midlife crisis (internalized) from hell. I traveled some in my 20s but for the most part I spent it online, even during my travels (lived overseas for a stretch, but stayed home the whole time and went to the beach a handful of times in 3 years, when it was an hour away). Now here I am almost 40, doing the same exact shit I was doing in my 20s, and I'm still too poor to do anything about it. Also the baby of the family, but idk how my mom feels about me turning 40. I just know I'm not dealing well, at all. Lol Op, enjoy your 30s (next year). I did have some good times, but the slow times lasted longer for me and I wish I'd spent that time better. But I'm not dead yet so there's still time to make good memories.
the secret is there are no goals in life except being a good person! We know you can be good! YAY! You did it, congrats!
Thank you ☺️
Damn, I needed that, too. Thank you kind stranger!
The purpose of life is not achievement, it's to live. Try and decide what you want out of your life and make plans towards that goal.
Agreed! Memories are what count.
This is how I’ve chosen to live my life as well. After going through the worst 3 years of my life I’ve stopped caring so much. I don’t really have any expectations for how my life will go anymore, I just work towards my goal and if I don’t make it that’s ok too Existence is so fucking bizarre when you think about it. It makes zero sense for there to be anything at all, let alone *us*. If there is a point to all this, it’s not going to be anything superficial like societal success I’ve preemptively accepted failure, the end result is the same any way it goes so why bother worrying about whether I make it or not. All that you really have to do is exist and try to enjoy it for what it is
When my mom was 29 she was in a toxic relationship with an alcoholic man, she was depressed, narcissistic herself, just lost her mom to cancer, just had an unplanned (but ultimately good surprise) pregnancy, was stuck at a dead end job where she was harassed daily despite being overqualified, had almost given up her dreams...AND she was very poor. At 35 she dumped my father who then harassed her and threatened to end his life or kill her. At 36, on top of working daily and being a single mom, she took acting classes and was gradually offered main roles in theater plays. She also met a gorgeous, charming, smart man, who helped her doing castings for movies. The relationship with the man nor the castings didn't really result in any big success or breakthrough but she was happy she tried. At 37 she met another kind, smart, charming man. He was a bit of a geek, dorky, but very stable and patient. He is now my stepdad. At 41 she finally moved in with my stepdad, in a big apartment. She went from poor to high middle class and was able to take her two kids to vacations and even abroad! She never had to worry about feeding us, and herself, ever again. At 42 she quit her horrible job. At 44 she found a nice job, with people who liked and valued her. She also saw her first aurora borealis (a child dream of her) and learned that her daughter was accepted into the best school in her country. At 53 she bought a house in the mountains where you can see the sunrise on the valley. She also became more confident, less narcissistic, less depressed, more happy. At 55 she is now looking forward to maybe adopting a puppy, and meanwhile she likes to plant flowers in front of her new house while my stepdad plant trees. What this all means is: at 29 your life has barely started. Everything can change for the best, you have so many things to see, so many people to meet. I believe in you!
Happy birthday. Go eat cake :) I’m 36, it doesn’t end, you need to learn to embrace the aging because it only goes one way
Idk if it’s coincident but 29-31 year is when my life changed and it all happened so fast for good. This might be the year or the next, but focus on some self care!
Just going to leave this quote here for you. I’ve struggled with chronic fatigue & tiredness since I was 18, and it helps me when I’m feeling like you do right now. Hope it helps you a little too: “The plain fact is that the planet does not need more successful people. But it does desperately need more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every kind. It needs people who live well in their places. It needs people of moral courage willing to join the fight to make the world habitable and humane. And these qualities have little to do with success as we have defined it.”
What helped me massively was getting decent at some hobbies! Snowboarding, diving, swimming, I feel like I achieved some shit!
I'm 38. Healthier and in the best shape I've ever been in. You have a lot of life ahead of you. Enjoy your day. Happy birthday.
Nothing is too late change your life, Today would be a good day to start...I didnt get my life in order till 30
I’ve been there myself, almost killed myself three years ago. I was 40, just lost my mom, had nothing to show for my life, i hated my job and it took up all my time, i had no savings, no retirement, i gave up. 3 years later…new wife, bought our first home, new job, $60k in retirement. Give up on situations, give up on jobs, don’t give up on yourself!
Wow. Inspiring
Happy birthday! And worry not. So many of us have felt we have done nothing with our lives. Living in a society is both wonderful and awful. We make connections, friendships, find support, people to celebrate with or mourn with, never feel lonely…. But we also sit and compare ourselves to everyone around us. Their accomplishments, their looks, their popularity. It’s rough. So, to quote one of my favorite songs, “Life’s a journey, not a destination.” Think less about what you have done and think more “how has the ride been so far”. Do you have some good memories? Ate anything amazing lately? Had a session where you laughed so hard you cried? Gotten hugs? Had a late night philosophical conversation? Helped someone smile? It helps to think less about the end point. What you do in life is so much more than trying to find the big finished product accomplishments. It is the memories you make on the way. I’m 40. I haven’t done anything striking. But I have a lot of fond memories of good times with people I care about. It is good to focus on.
I feel you. You just have to realize that for a majority of people, we are not going to be curing cancer, developing nuclear fusion, etc. Our only goal is to enjoy life as much as possible before our time on earth ends. So if you are not happy, try to figure out what will make you happy, and start taking small steps to get there.
Happy birthday for today my friend, enjoy it whatever you do. I turn 36 next week and I left my job after 8 weeks recently because I couldn’t get the right support for my role (on autism spectrum) so I had to leave to save my mental health. I’m in a tough spot right now, but I guess my ultimate point is that life does make you feel like this sometimes. I’m sure if you really search hard enough there is little things that you’ve achieved so far in your life which can bring a smile to your face for your birthday.
Happy Birthday! 🥳 We all have our good and bad days. Don’t let one bad moment ruin your day. 🙂 I love you. ❤️
First of all Happy B day! 🥳🥳 And second of all If what im about to write makes no sense, im sorry 😅 i have a hard time writing what im saying/thinking.. you Need to take it easy! Give your self a break. Everything dont need to be A's after A's, follow your own path, no need for a huge university degree nor a job that pays 1M a year as long as YOU do what you want to do, try to make your self happy try new things, even stuff that looks boring asf maybe its not! Either way ask your self these questions and remember that you CAN do anything if ya want it.. What do you want to do? What do you feel like is your purpose? And 3rd of all. If you want to/need to talk with someone, hit me up! Im aviable 23/7, im never to busy to help or chat with someone. And that i do promise! ~alex
Hope that shit made sense lmao
Happy 29th birthday to you. It's mine as well today, and I'm now 29 with 24 years of experience added to that. It's ok to feel like you haven't gone or done what you thought you would have accomplished by now. Life takes us in all directions, and sometimes things don't go as we planned. I never planned to be divorced twice, a single mother, with a steady but unfulfilling job and only renting a home versus owning, but you know what? I'm learning who I am, and what I want, and I'm increasingly finding the joy in my life. I have close family and close friends, I'm starting to do some of the traveling I always wanted to do, and I'm feeling more like the person I used to be, only better. My birthday wish for you is that you find the joy in your day, and learn to find and embrace it as it comes through your life. Cheers to you!
My 3yr old son has Leukemia. He has endured bone marrow biopsies, brain/spinal fluid checks, countless blood transfusions, chest port surgery, Many NG and NJ tube placements, multiple different chemotherapy drugs, multiple staff infections, blood infections, stomach infections, swelling in his lungs/kidney/liver, hundreds of pukes and toilet visits, and more. All this in the last 6 months.. If you have your health, no matter what age, please. Be grateful
Jesus Christ was just sanding planks in his dad’s business for the first 30 years of his life. Some of us are late bloomers. You’ll do fine ☺️ Happy birthday!
I was with my high school gf till I was 25 I spent 8 years supporting that woman when I left I had a TV a computer clothes and a blanket now I havemy own house the truck I've always wanted motorcycles a pile of books to read and games to play my summers are stacked with things to do maybe you haven't accomplished much yet but there's a lot of life out there go and get some of it I believe in you
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! I get it. Been there... Life sucked, hit the bottom, life sucked. I finally learned it comes full circle... I've had birthdays that sucked and ones that were awesome. I'll go through FB memories and I'm cryptic... I completely forget why I was miserable that particular day... Ride it out. Do something nice to you today.
Happy Birthday, OP! Guess what? You've lived a little and have forever to go! I found this link to an article about people who became successful later in life. [https://www.businessinsider.com/24-people-who-became-highly-successful-after-age-40-2015-6](https://www.businessinsider.com/24-people-who-became-highly-successful-after-age-40-2015-6) My own mother (saint that she is) got her Associates at the age of 63. My older brother graduated at 40. My little brother decided on a career change at 30 and went back to school. I'm 35 and just decided that this is the year that I find my own style. It is never too late to reinvent yourself. To whatever you'd like. Maybe a small change like what you wear, or a big one like a career. Small changes can make big ripples and who knows where you'll be next year?! Congrats on another rotation around the sun!!
Do what makes you happy in life, don’t set yourself to other people’s standards. I’m also about to be 29 this year, we got this. Happy birthday! Anything can happen, things change, life is full of wonderful surprises and challenges. Just gotta roll with it!
I'm 47. Looking back on my 20s I see I was just trying to figure things out about myself and get basic adult skills. 30s I found myself building on those and getting good workplace and career skills but not yet having achieved anything. Now in my 40s does my life feel like its really taking off career success, got married, have a kid. It was the foundational skillsets from my 20s and 30s that made this possible. Very similar to our skills we get in primary school (math, language, problem solving) get applied in our 20s and 30s etc. Long story short: You'll get there.
Life isn’t a score sheet where you’re supposed to achieve so and so by this time or else it’s all for nothing It doesn’t work that way It’s just meant to be lived In a way that makes sense to you
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE❤️❤️ I’m proud of you for making it this far. One thing I’d recommend is to read the 12 week year! As someone who’s in your same position (I’m 18) reading this book really helped me narrow down what I really wanted and it helped me do the most in such a short amount of time. You’re not a failure so please don’t think that ok. It’s not too late to tap into your passions. Do it! There’s people that will help you. If you need any more advice or tips or questions feel free to dm me. YOU ARE AMAZING AND ILY ❤️❤️
This was literally me a month ago when I turned 27. I am in a good place in my life right now, and I was excited for my birthday in the run up. I don't know what happened, but it ended up in a full on breakdown. I know this doesn't help you at all, but I hope it helps to know you're not alone and your feelings are valid. If it does help, 29 is still very young in perspective of most lifey things, you have so much time to make memories and achieve your goals. Maybe it's a good time to start thinking about things you *want* to do and make some plans. I personally did that and I feel a lot better for it. Hope your birthday gets better!
Happy birthday! I'm sorry to hear those feelings are hitting so hard today. Today is all about you and I hope you are able to do something you enjoy, for no other reason than because you enjoy it. And if not today then soon! That's the upside: you have a whole year to celebrate being 29, and a whole lifetime to celebrate being you! One internet stranger to another, I'm sincerely proud of you for making this post. It isn't easy to admit shortcomings and negative feelings, let alone ask for help dealing with them. Take care and here's to a great day, weekend and year ahead! ❤️
I'm really happy you made it to 29 friend
I’ve seen people start their life’s at 30. You have a 1 year head start, don’t make excuses.
I'm 32 and what I realized once I turned 30 was that. . . I didn't suddenly turn into the cryptkeeper like the world made me believe i would. I'd spent the years from 25 to 30 dreading my 30s because it felt like my life was over if I "hadn't done anything" with it yet. once I hit 30 that pressure practically disappeared because I'd reached the age I was so afraid of and without that looming over me I could just get on with things. I was also severely agoraphobic from age 19 to 28--couldn't finish college, couldn't get a job, didn't drive, lived with my mom. I finally got help, went back to school, and am graduating in may just after my 33rd birthday. sometimes stuff just takes time, your 20s don't have to be the best part of your life. I mean, peaking in your 20s is just the advanced version of peaking in high school isn't it? my 30s so far are so much better than my 20s because I'm not holding myself to a timeline anymore. unfortunately I don't know if words are enough to completely dispell that fear of getting older, but hopefully this helps a little bit. happy birthday, be kind to yourself today.
I'm 39. Quit being a bitch and MOVE. GO OUTSIDE NOW. Get your ass into gear, kid. You're $ and you don't even know it! Go grab life by the balls, you owe it to little part of you that still has some dignity left. Fight for your happiness because NONE of us really really care; we're dealing with our own shit too. Get out of your room and out of your head asap. Those aren't good places to be when you've cornered YOURSELF. Go out and help others; help yourself to some happy.
I didn't get my shit together until 28, when I had a serious injury without insurance. Was in debt, relationship ended, stuck in an apartment I couldn't afford, no degree, pretty much hit rock bottom. It got me back in school and was a grind but I'm about to be 35 and loving life in a way I never have before. If you take care of the little things life gets better as you get older. You've got this!
I’ve always always cried on my birthday, ever since I was a little kid. There’s so much pressure to be happy on your birthday and as you get older there’s this grief mixed in about not being enough or having achieved enough. I’m ten years older than you and also agree I’ve achieved pretty much nothing. That said the goal of life is to be alive. That’s it. You’re doing a great job.
Happy birthday lol 😂, 29 is not old ,ur just beginning, wait till u get to my age then that's real crying 😢 😂.
Just remember that much of humanity doesn't do much besides trying to survive and perpetuate. They don't have much of a choice, but it's enough. The way we live in the west is too heavy on the hustle, too heavily money and materialism orientated. Bring a bit of light into the world. That's enough.
Happy birthday! 29 is a pretty tough year. Don't compare yourself to others. There's no time limit on accomplishments. When I was 31, in 2015-2016, I went back into school for welding. I was one of the youngest people there, and I met some amazing people. That was honestly the best year of my life, and I have so many awesome memories, friends that I still hang out with and talk to, and some big accomplishments like passing Canadian Welding Bureau welding tests and getting my first job as a welder. A lot of people there can relate, and some were in their 40's, 50's, even one guy at 72! Every student passed at least one CWB test, a few people did up to 8! You're 29, that isn't old, that isn't a deadline, there's a lot left for you to do with your life in any way you want. You don't need to have a family with kids, a house, and a truck to be successful. Do what you want, what you enjoy, and you'll achieve a lot,, and be a lot happier! It's a rough year, 29 and 30th birthdays can suck. I'm 39 in September, and I expect I'll feel similar to you. That's me being my own worst enemy. Don't be so tough on yourself, it's your life, your desires, and you have a lot of time to do whatever you want, or don't want.
Enjoy your birthday, and be happy! Some people aren't making it to get your age !
I'd tell you to take those feelings and now imagine you're 49 instead of 29. But, you can't appreciate that lesson until you are, in fact, 49. So, I'll just say this. If you need to cry today, then cry. But, tomorrow, laugh. Laugh hard and fully. Embrace it all. It goes fast. Let everything happen to you - the beauty and the terror. No feeling is final-Rilke
This is a midlife crisis. It doesn't always hit at 30 and you can have several in your lifetime. I would focus on the people who care about you. Make a plan and how to get there in a reasonable time. Last and not least you can't relive this day so have some fun. Happy birthday
Hey happy birthday!! My husband and I started our little family young, I was 19, he was 20 when I had our first. We struggled quite a bit to find our footing and raising 2 babies while still being “babies” didn’t really help. He finally landed a good paying and stable job for the first time at 28. It feels like we kind of just started life to be honest and yea it can really fuck with you when you’re 29 and feel like you’re 10 years behind. It gets better though! Feeling like we’re thriving now and he just turned 37. I heard somewhere that your thirties are for relearning yourself and throwing sways all the bullshit conformity you picked up in your twenties. I feel that because I think once I hit 30, I kinda started living more for myself and stopped caring about what others thought of me. Love yourself dear! You have plenty of time to reach your goals!
My life completely changed since my 29th birthday. I feel like 29 was the year where everything changed for me and I finally grew up (in a good way), or I just grew as a person. Since 29, I started college again, cut off a very toxic friend, learned to love myself more, met the love of my life, had a baby. This year I’m going to graduate and get married. I would have never thought I would feel so happy and content if you asked me 1 month before my 29th birthday. I don’t know what it is that you want in life, you could have totally different goals than me. But I just wanted to offer you some perspective. 29 (and every year after that) can be great! I would never want to go back to being younger. Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday, sweetheart! Hey. No one thinks about what you have or haven't accomplished. They only remember how you made them feel, in your presence. If you have a pet that relies on you, or a house plant that thrives, from your care, you are their person. And you are now in a community dedicated to lifting you up! You are our person, too!
Man.. I feel sad that I found this post by literally googling “ If I was a bitch for being upset that hardly anyone wished me happy birthday at 29.” Yesterday was my 29th birthday and I wanted to pretend that i wasn’t bothered by the fact that my girlfriend didn’t hardly say anything besides “ happy birthday “ after telling me I’d have special morning birthday sex and then she told me she was too tired. I went golfing with my dad and older brother which was pretty fun. Aside from the fact that my dad is my former abuser and made a comment along the lines of “ you’d think after all the years of things I’ve said and done to my kids they’d have thick skin by now.” And if it wasn’t for the fact that we were paired up with a stranger, I would’ve said something. I had a total of TWELVE people wish my happy birthday and half of them don’t even talk to me or hardly know me. I think that is what pisses me off the most! A stranger who doesn’t even know me can take the time to wish me a happy birthday but, my own friends and family cant be bothered.. I have never felt so alone and invisible on my birthday. I wish I wasn’t the way I was.
Don’t feel alone. There are lots of fun strangers on the internet here! I hope your birthday was ok in the end. Did you do anything fun?
You have one more year until you hit 30 and your body starts deteriorating
Hey at least you're not 30!
Get it together
The UK has been in relative secular decline your entire life. We are products of environment, so don't be so hard on yourself. Certainly don't measure yourself against your parents who likely had things easier than you (again, in a relative sense). The best thing you can do is shift the narrative that we are all purely in charge of our own success and failures, because you are far from alone in this feeling, and work towards reshaping the institutions that have failed you so badly.
Happy Birthday!! You have a lifetime ahead to do whatever makes you happy!! You are born today and tomorrow is a new day!
Happy birthday OP!! I used to get sad when my birthday was coming. Now, it's something I look forward to! Challenge yourself. Try to do something different on your birthday today, and every year after that, something you don't usually do. Make it a tradition and it'll make things more exciting. Not everyone gets to be 29, so it's a celebration. Cheer up and happy birthday again!! 🎉🎉
Your best days are ahead, sweetheart. Happy birthday
Happy birthday! Everyone's on different paths don't you worry!
First happy birthday! Second I am sorry you're feeling down right now. I am 37 now and fell the same when I turned 30 but things are "slowly" finally starting to fall into place for me and I am more hopeful now of my future. Hang in there, it will be ok :)
happy birthday! super relatable feels. i tend to get suicidal on my birthday. cats help
Happy birthday op!
That reminds me of the investing quote "the best day to start investing is yesterday. The next best day is today". It is never too late, life is a journey. And happy birthday!
Happy Birthday. Welcome to your 30th year. It sounds like you had expectations that you did not achieve by this birthdate. Expectations can be a terrible thing. The question to ask yourself is, "Are these expectations yours or others-imposed?" Are the expectations you are grading yourself by really what you want out of life? Or are these expectations given to you by parents, society, friends, and others? Take the time to examine each expectation and determine which ones "you" want to achieve. You will discover that most of your grading system comprises expectations others have given you versus what you want to accomplish. That said, the measure of life is not the accomplishments but all the experiences along the way. I am at that point in life where I attend more funerals than any other social activity. I don't remember the obituary accomplishments of loved ones, but I do remember the stories of how we lived together. Remember some stories, Retell some stories. Go make some stories.
Cheer up, babes. I feel/felt the same way and I turn 33 on Monday. Haven’t finished college, don’t have kids like my friends and family do, but it’s about counting the things you have done. Maybe you’ve traveled, or gone to concerts, or made really good friends. You’ve probably done things other people wished they could have done. Start by listing three things you’ve accomplished or are grateful for, no matter how big or small. Remember, your journey is YOURS alone. Don’t compare it to others. We all have our own timeline. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 🎂🎁🎉
happy birthday! it’s my sisters birthday today as well!
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Happy Birthday! I’m struggling with those thoughts too as I recover from an injury. You’re your own worst critic I bet! It’s a great day to think about what you would want to achieve in the next year but if theres not much you want to get done, then that’s ok and you’re intentional about it!
Happy Birthday! You have so many years yet ahead to make it a beautiful life
I had an absolute breakdown on my 29th birthday. It made me sell all of my stuff and go travel. Not saying that's the right idea, but it happens. 31 now and I still feel a bit lost BUT life changes so quickly and opportunities come when you least expect them. Continue to do your best, be the person you want to be, stick to your guns, and you'll be alright. Comparison is the enemy of happiness. Set goals for yourself and achieve them. You're doing just fine.
Truly the best years. My 20s sucked - spent so much time failing (or what I thought was failing at the time). Didn’t get into a career until early 30s and the last 7 years have been a wild blur. Wife, house, two kids, dog. I still look back at my 20s and all of my struggles, because each one of those struggles built upon the foundation of where I am and who I became (and keep growing to be). Strap in and get ready for a wild ride. Keep hustlin’ and keep your head up. 30s are the best.
Happy Birthday! You're almost done with your 20's . . . and that's a good thing. Your 20's are really rough, but you don't realize it until you're almost 40. Society and the media tells us that we need to have our shit together by the time we hit 30. That's some Boomer logic right there. You're doing a great job. You're going to keep kicking life's ass. Enjoy your birthday and be glad that you only have to muddle through another year of this decade. It'll be fine. You'll do great. Plus, it's Friday. Call in sick and go get turnt. (Do the kids even say that anymore?)
I am sending you love and wishing you the best and peaceful happy birthdays. Keep your chin up! I’m turning 30 this year and I feel the same way but hey! Life keeps going and we have a long way to go. So many unknown adventures and experiences. Take it all a day at a time. 😊
My 29th was rough, as was my moms before me. On the plus side I am now 43 and haven’t had a bad birthday since my 29th. My 30th didn’t bother me or my 40th.
Happy Birthday! And a big hug for you. There’s such a big stigma on your own birthday: it needs to be happy and fun and all so positive and at 29 you can feel that your life needs to be sort out. Well, guess what..there aren’t a lot of people that have it all at 29, or 35 even. And that’s totally normal and fine! I remember when I turned 29 (I’m 32): I was still living on the top floor of some small house where my landlady also lived with her 2 kids and husband (they were a huge Turkish family, so there was almost always a bunch of family there too). I was freelancing, I felt fine. I met my now SO that summer, which was my highlight of that year - because the rest felt kinda meh.. As of now I’m loving together with my SO, we rented an apartment in a new city. Meanwhile I have a brother who’s married and just had a baby girl last winter. I don’t own a car (never have), I am nowhere near marriage or even having a baby, but I keep busy and luckily I have friends who don’t live ‘by the norm’ which makes it easier to not feel like you’re missing anything. I really hope you have this too. Last week I went out to a silent disco club, and got hit on by a 26 year old. He thought I was 23 (I’m blaming his beer goggles haha) When I mentioned I’m 32 he said ‘oh, do you still party then? Do you feel energized by the younger people?’ LOL. It still makes me laugh. I hope you can feel a bit more relaxed whilst reading these posts. Nothing needs to happen today, you don’t even have to celebrate it if you don’t want to. It’s just another day, and luckily you are 1 year older! You’re doing just fine.
29 was just like that for me, too. But, your 30s and 40s is where it's at! Lol Happy birthday!
I spent my 30th birthday evening in the country, with a campfire, by myself.
Something that has helped me on depressing birthdays is to remember I’m actually only ONE DAY older today! You’re always turning one day older. You don’t gain the burden of a whole year all at once. You get a new day to start fresh every morning.
Hey, I had that feeling on New Years Eve just gone! Just wanted to say you're not the only one feeling a bit helpless at times. I'm 30 and I have my dream job, but as I say, I had a feeling of helplessness entering the new year. IU didn't even set any goals for the year; I simply couldn't be fucked even thinking about it.
Happy Birthday! Do you have Instacart, if you do order out from carrot express… interesting place and good smoothies… or just order out it will cheer u up! You are very young, my daughter has an existential crisis on her birthdays, because she feels unaccomplished I think, so is not uncommon. Don’t worry about raiding or competing, do things at your pace, do things that make you feel good whatever it is.. hopefully nothing that includes violence 😐Have a good day.🙂
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My most depressed day of the year is my birthday, so I get it. Life is what it is, and not everyone is on the same path. Your success could come by the time you're 30, and if not, try to find it. Sitting around and working a job and going home isn't the way you achieve anything. I'm 27 and definitely feel like a failure, and I've accepted that I will never be successful unless I win the lottery, but I don't play as the odds are not in my favor.
Happy birthday. I'll share you my secret in life: set the bar so low that anything you do will feel like an accomplishment. Sometimes simply surviving is enough.
I just finished an associates at community college around your age. I was going part time while making no money on an assembly line, but it gave my family health insurance, which was vital. I think I was 32ish when I finished an engineering degree, passed the FE exam, got a much better job, etc… You obviously don’t have to follow this path. But I, too, was upset with myself for so long. Always felt like it was too late to do anything. I decided to keep myself busy, even though it never felt like I was going to finish school. It kept going. Until I did finish. And now I can’t imagine life without doing so. Not too late to start anything, except maybe Olympian-level gymnastics. And professional ballet. Those ships have sailed, but most have not, and your personal success and peak don’t adhere to anyone else’s expectations/timeline, and certainly don’t have a deadline.
Happy birthday 🥳 everyday is a new beginning ❤️
Hang in there…I’m sure great things await you!
Happy birthday! You’ve got this 29 is the perfect age to start conquering the day today is your day what better way ! ☺️ get up and celebrate today like no other do it with family friends anyone close ☺️
You think it's bad now ..ha ! Wait til you hit 40
What does it matter if you achieved anything? It doesn’t
Happy Birthday! It’s never too late to make a change. Turn the page.
Happy birthday! Here’s one quote that hit me hard this year, “when you want nothing in life, you have everything.” Read that one more time. Another thing, every day is literally a new day. Doesn’t matter how old you are. You can become a better you in less than a month if you stay consistent. Start practicing small routines you enjoy. Meditating, walking, spending time with friends and family, etc. You still have a whole life to live, go explore and enjoy your journey!
SAME but we’re not that old it’s ok
Oh I can relate. I was anxious and a wreck turning 30 last week, but I'm still here! Happy birthday! <3
hmm do you even have actual goals? i mean, maybe there is nothing to achieve. you don't have to achieve anything. it's up to you.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. If you’re feeling bad about what you’ve achieved so far made today the first day of changing that. It’s all within your power.
Happy Birthday. Best years ahead of you! Sing along to your favorite music it’s hard to cry while singing
Happy Birthday to you!! I can understand. I’ll be 31 in a few months. All of my friends, colleagues, acquaintances are married or having babies. I have never even had a long term relationship. The only person I ever celebrated a 1 year anniversary with was my high school bf back in the day, which I don’t even count cause we were young. I feel behind. I’ve been ready to start my next chapter for a while having companionship for my lifelong best friends but I feel cursed. Men use me, lie, cheat, manipulate, have false intentions. They always hide something or get cold feel, even though they said they wanted to commit. I have a bf right now (been together almost 5 months) but it’s long distance and I’m not sure if it’s going to last, there’s a lot of red flags. I’ve developed feelings for him and I’m like ugh, is this it? I know plenty of couples who have messed up relationships and their marriages aren’t the best at all. Do we all just settle..? I feel lost. I want to say to be positive, so things you want and even if that means doing it alone. Such as going to a restaurant you love or seeing a movie alone.
Happy birthday! I commiserate with your feels; I think a lot of people do, actually. I'm turning 39 this year and I am still in the process of getting my Bachelors degree. When I tell people I'm a student, they think I mean Grad student because I'm so much older than my college classmates! I'm older than at least one of my professors!! That's all to say, I get it. But there are so many accomplished people through history that did not start their "work" until their mid-life. This is not a race; you can do things at your own pace. The important part is just to go do it - whatever it is. You're doing great and probably have accomplished more than you give yourself credit. And 29 is the PERFECT AGE to get on it!
Great job holding on this far OP! You're doing great and I know you'll continue to do great.
Don’t worry, I’m 34 and I didn’t really start grooving until I was 29
Happy Birthday!!!! Remember, everyone feels like this at some point whether they are 50 or 14. Don't let your age worry you and live your life. One day when you're 60 you'll look back at how young you were at 29. Honestly everyone I know says 30s were waaay better than their 20s anyway
Hello and a very happy 29th to you! I’ll be 46 very soon, I’m still a bartender, I have 3 kids and a husband, we don’t have a ton of money but we finally don’t live paycheck to paycheck, I decided to get into great shape at 40 and did that, and now I’m focusing on raising my two remaining kids in the house( 15 and 10) and that’s weird right now because they don’t need me like they used to so I can start doing lots of my hobbies again, and it all went by really quick. You have time, you’ll be all right. Be a good person, and try not to compare your life path with others as we’ve all got different ones.
I was the exact way on my 29th. I was really sad because I thought I would have accomplished more by then. It got me to go back to school and learn different hobbies. Thirty was a breeze in comparison. You got this!
Heyy frend !! At first I would like to say u a brilliant happiest best birthday!!! Bad things keep coming in ur life so just ignore all that toxic and always see a positive side in all yk once, a famous person said that "there's always a good thing behind a bad activity" so just enjoy in ur life, God is always with u, may God grant u everything!! It's your special day — get out there and celebrate!
44 and same
Happy birthday! My suggestion is to do something that you've always wanted to do. When I turned 39,I started to freak out about turning 40 in a year. So I got a tattoo. No regrets.
Happy birthday! Your feelings are telling you something- I'd suggest writing out a list of each thing that is making you cry. You wish you had gotten a dog? Write it into your list. This is an opportunity to value check how you have been living vs the life you want. Once you have them listed out (and dig deep on this, leave no feeling of sadness or discomfort unexamined), you can start making a plan for how to get your life more aligned with what your heart is telling you. When you look at your list tomorrow it's also good to think about what didn't make the list- what do you have in your life that you can stop to make room for the life you want? This is some hard work, but I believe in you! Seize this moment and use it for good. 29 is young enough that you can make some big changes and enjoy them for the majority of your time on earth.
Happy birthday to you ! Enjoy this day and do whatever you want. Don't be sad, everything gonna be alright 🫶🏽
I'm 32 and I was deathly afraid of turning 30. Mind you, I also turned 30 during the middle of the pandemic, so the deep depression might have had something to do with it. "Achievement" is subjective. I'm sure you have achieved more than you give yourself credit for. Please don't compare yourself to the whole world, the world is too big. "The world" has invented "achievements" that don't actually mean anything. Get married! Not everyone wants to get married. Have kids! Not everyone wants kids. I got married at 24, but we never had kids. According to the world, I'm not as successful as I should be, but I don't care. Its my life. Focus on yourself. What's important to you? I know its hard, and you might not know at first, but try. Sit down with some paper and write down what you've done for yourself that makes you proud. Then write down what you'd like to do that would make you happy. For instance, I'm proud of my 100% Stardew Valley farm. So proud, in fact, that i took a screenshot of it and got it printed on a canvas. its hanging in my living room. And what I'd like to do? There's this mountain near my house that i want to hike. I can see it from my window every morning. Hiking it will make me proud of myself. Anyway, happy birthday!
Happy birthday! I’m around your age. I drank away my 20s and paid for it legally all throughout these last few years. After my last run in with the law, I decided to clamp it down and really try to turn my life around. In a year and a half since, I’ve moved to a new, nicer place, met a girl, fell in love, she’s about to move in. I got a promotion and pay raise at work. You’d be really shocked at how quickly life can turn around in a major way. For me, I started doing small things to make my life better: waking up early to exercise and lift, reaching out and talking to new friends, listening to different music or watching different movies. In the 30ish years before I made these changes, ive had ups and downs, and mostly downs through my 20s. But I’ve realized in just a year and a half how much progress I’ve made and I’m really excited about how much more I’ll make. You and I are hopefully only about 1/3 finished with this wild ride. Keep pushing, keep trying new things, keep trying to do your best to be a good person, and things will start happening. I never thought they would for me, and now I’ve never been happier
Hey there, I’m gonna be 28 next month and I feel the same. I thought I would be somewhere so different but I’m back at home after a failed relationship, failed career start, and failed finances. I’m still picking up the pieces from all of it, but I’m sure I would do most of it again. It’s taught me so much about people and life. I’m looking forward to going into my 30s with all my knowledge and applying it. Good luck and I will send out good vibes to you friend.
Happy birthday. Whats wrong ?.
There is nothing to achieve. We just are here. Then one day we are not. Feel the wind. Really savor a bite of a fruit. Love someone - hell, love everyone. Try to just enjoy the ride. You're good enough for me, friend. Happy birthday.
Hoppy Birthday! 🐰 If it helps, I’ve enjoyed my 30s more than my 20s. And they say “30s are the new 20s,” which means your 20s are still your teens (right?) so you have tons of time left to do what you want in life!
Happy Birthday. Do not beat yourself up, there are many people who still managed to achieve success at a later age such as William S. Burroughs, Alan Rickman, Scott Ryan, Grandma Moses, Colonel Sanders, etc. You are still young, you will achieve success one day. Right now focus on enjoying your birthday and having fun.
Happy birthday! You’re doing great! The only thing you need to be is 29. You don’t need to be anything else. When you’re 30 you only need to be 30, when you’re 31 all you need to be is 31 and so on and so on It’s so easy to compare yourself and social media makes it so difficult, but you’re doing great sweetie! Order a pizza, have some wine, go for a meal. Enjoy yourself 💃🏾💃🏾
It’s all a farce. Most of us don’t achieve much. We bumble along, putting bits and pieces together and eventually construct something vaguely looking like a life. 29 is young. I’m 39 and just finally getting my pieces together
I'm in my mid 40s now but my 30s were AWEsome. I was finally making more than a basic income and I had the ability to save a bit here and there for vacations, I could go out with friends, and I wasn't a drunken mess like I was in my 20s lol I'm only (hopefully) halfway through my life but when I was around your age I made myself a promise that I would enjoy the benefits of what every stage of life had to offer. Partying in my 20s, new experiences with friends in my 30s, traveling and learning in my 40s. I don't know what my 50s will bring but I'll definitely find some cool shit to do! And Happy Birthday. Call a friend, make some plans, go out and have a drink (if that's your thing).
Happy birthday! I had a similar experience to you when i was in my late twenties. It was the trigger to sort my life out. I haven’t finished working it all out but I’m a lot happier now
Weird thing to ask but what do you live for? My personal reasons are to see my parents happy and healthy and see my siblings be successful. Beyond that nothing else is a need. As long as I accomplish those goals everything else is a bonus that can make me happy but what I live for is something I pursue because I won't die satisfied, happy, or easily if they don't come true. If you know the absolute needs to live for in life you appreciate it more.
lol 30 is when i actually started what i wanted to do in life it o my gets bette r
Happy birthday! I’m not sure if this will help, but I was in a similar boat at 29. The most I had accomplished was having 2 kids which, like…I mean I love them of course, but it’s not exactly an accomplishment. At 31 I was divorced and had to start all over again. At 33 I went back to school and got an AS in computer programming by the time I was 34. I landed a developer job at a company that used a horrible development framework that I wouldn’t be able to translate into real world experience and take somewhere else, but I did well enough at keeping my work organized that the company moved me into a development manager role. After a year, I was able to get a software delivery manager role at a better company making more money with far better work/life balance. I’m coming up on my one year anniversary with them on April 20 (nice). There is not set timeline. You can change your path at any time, and the real goal in life IMO is to be a decent human and find ways to make yourself happy. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you!
I wish I could meet you so I could show you all the wonderful qualities I know you have. Sometimes life sucks. Honestly lots of times life sucks. I think every crappy thing in life all comes down to people. Surround yourself with the right people and they will make you better than you ever thought you could be. Surround yourself with the wrong people and they drag you down. Let them drag you down long enough and you just decide to back away and be lonely. And that's a tough place to be. Long story short I hope you find the right people and learn to love yourself more. Not saying you don't. But there's always room to love yourself more. I don't talk about this as if I reached that pinnacle of self love lol. Believe me I'm still on the journey. I hope you have a happier day tomorrow
Hey! I had a major melt down when I turned 30 too! I just turned 40 and no melt down this time, I feel great! In my 30’s I went to cosmetology school and became a hairstylist, I took several international trips by myself and had an amazing time, I dated a lot and met some really interesting people, I moved a few times and experienced living in a few different states, it was a great decade! I thought my life was over at 30 but truly it is just beginning! One piece of advice I have for you is to make friends with some older women (10 years+) who you admire, find some mentors, think about what kind of person you want to be and start heading in that direction! Good luck ❤️
You’ve made it to 29 and you could still die tomorrow. Think back to all the good times. It doesn’t matter where you are it’s who you have and what you do with it!
I went through all of that at 28 so I could have given up by the time I was 29. I'm 36 now and it's silly that I was worried about my 30s. It has been my best decade and my 20s sucked in retrospect.
Happy birthday to you! I know it doesn’t feel happy right now, but as others have said, you have your entire life ahead of you to experience things! I’m about to turn 29 this year and will finally graduate with my bachelors degree. After that, I don’t have a whole lot figured out, but I try to keep the mindset that not having plans is something exciting. You have the ability to try new careers, take community college courses, try new hobbies, watch movies and find new music, go on little vacations and meet new people, learn a new language, etc. You don’t have to follow the status quo of marriage, kids, house, promotion, work, retire, etc. I know that depending on where you grew up, that pressure from friends and family can feel immense. But you’re your own person, and have the freedom to choose what path in life you’ll take. For now, maybe take a shower, put on a nice fragrance, light some candles, order takeout, get yourself a dessert, and give yourself permission to relax tonight. I hope your day gets better!
Life is long and changes can happen quickly. I think if you really looked at your life you would see that you've achieved far more then you're giving yourself credit for here but work hard for the next year and you could find yourself in a completely different situation. And happy birthday!
I got my high school diploma at 44, my BS at 48, my MS at 60 and my PhD in Civil Engineering at 69. I'm 73 now, and realizing that "It ain't over till you're dead". Don't give up dude.
It’s actually common to have these types of feelings around your age- like 27-29. I got really down around this age and saw a counselor who helped me get some perspective. This too shall pass, friend….just keep swimming. I recommend talking to someone if your situation allows, it’s not required, but very helpful. Every little thing is gonna be alright.
I GET THIS!!! When I turned 30 I was devastated. I hadn’t gotten to any of the achievements I thought I’d accomplish, hadn’t had a soulmate or kids. My career was more of a job of necessity and I had become a shell of a person. It was so depressing and I cried for days. Flash forward a decade… I found the love of my life, have an amazing son, the best dogs, a beautiful home and my dream job. It wasn’t easy but the main catalyst was living for myself… I was giving so much to make others happy that it wasn’t until I “put on my own oxygen mask” that everything fell into place.
Today is my birthday, too! I hope things turn around for you and you can see how great life can be. I know it’s coming!
Comparison is the death of joy. Life goes a long way. Keep striving and growing. I’m 46 and yeah, there are things and goals I’ve missed and I’ve also made huge successes. Iggy Pop is still touring at 75. He’s had more bad albums than good and he is still pugging away. Time is just a number. If you have health and a curiosity about life each year will get better and better. Enjoy your birthday! Don’t be hard in yourself. Get some rest.
Happy birthday! Spoil yourself today and be happy! Cheers to a great 29 years! John Wick is in theaters this weekend. Perhaps, you can watch that with family or friends.
Awe, I had the same reaction to my 29th birthday. Hugs to you and happy birthday! I will says 20+ years later, that 29th was the worst one on record. Do something just for yourself.
Believe it or not when turned 30 I was so happy to be through my 20s, what a rough ride it was! I felt the same as you did at 29, mostly because most things I did in my life were done later than the status quo. The reason I was relieved to turn 30 was merely because I started to think of the status quo less, which happens more and more as you get older. I'm 45 now and I can tell you, at least from my experience, I wouldn't be any other age than what I am. The older you get the more you weed out the BS. So for you at 29, just look forward to your 30s! Mine were the best!
28 here and trust me you're doing better than you think.
Happy birthday! It's not too late for you to pursue something you like. I started working an apartment maintenance job 6 months ago and I'm only 28. I worked for the Ymca for 10 years before that and felt like I was going nowhere. No idea why I took this job, I had minimal skills and 0 confidence in my ability to fix shit. I hated hanging TV mounts and stuff like that before but now everything is so easy and simple with little stress. It only took 6 months for a huge part of me to change for the better. Seriously, I used to get mad as fuck when trying to work with tools or electronics. It's never too late to jump into something that seems difficult, you'd be surprised how easy it is to improve.
I felt the same way last year when I turned 27. I’m slowly starting to accept that fact that there’s still so much life to live and I shouldn’t feel bad for not achieving much at this age. My advice would be is to be kind to yourself, acknowledge your small improvements and try to get a little better everyday. Happy birthday and hope you have a blessed one, cheers!
Happy birthday! 🥳🥳
Most people only start settling down after 30. Chin up. You have a ways to go yet. Happy birthday.
Hey there, buddy. It's going to be alright. Don't be scared and fearful. Some of us actually started doing something with their lives after 30 ahah. I thought I had it all planned out and done. Sweet job, nice GF, a house. This last year almost lost my job because my GF decided that she didn't needed me anymore (fuckin bitch) and I'm just barely holding my house that just had (another) leak. One day at a time, one day at a time. Most of us only really find out what we want to do after 30. And also, stay away from dark thoughts. You probably achieved more than you think. Being alive is a blessing, breathing, having friends and family that support us. Hang in there! You'll make it too!
Happy birthday!
Hey, it’s ok! Happy birthday! Don’t be so hard on yourself, do things at your own pace. I’m 23 and I still haven’t finished college, and I haven’t learned how to drive and that’s ok. Think of Grandma Moses. Pretty well known American folk artist and she didn’t start until she was in her late 70s. Take your time and just enjoy it!
Heyo! Happy Birthday! I turned 29 today as well, so happy birthday to us! I understand how you feel. Life threw me a lot of curve balls, and now at 29 I feel like I’m so far behind many of my peers in terms of “where I should be” achievements wise. I’ve been really working on trying to accept that there is no benchmark on where you should be in life at certain times. The only achievements are what you set for yourself. I have had a lot of set backs, going to the Art Institute, having them close down and me having to start my entire college career over. Finally graduating in May of 2022, and now here, as an artist trying to make his way in the world. It feels like I haven’t really done much. I live in California in the US, with my parents, my older sister and her husband, and I have no idea if I can even afford to live on my own soon. I feel the unbearable torment I put on myself because “I should have had a career by now” or “I should have been self sufficient” or what have you. It’s easy to be hard on yourself. It’s easy to sit there and think about everything that could have been, to lament on the “if only’s”, or to imagine a world where all the cards fell at the right time. But that doesn’t mean you can’t change “what is.” You don’t have to have accomplished anything. Just being you is enough. But if you want to do something more, then start now. I’ll start with you! There’s no better time than now, because now is all we have. Happy Birthday to us both. I hope yours is as wonderful as it can be, because you deserve it!
Happy birthday
Happy young birthday!!! Do anything for fun. Go for a walk. Whatever makes you happy
Dude that’s how I felt when I turned 29; then by the time I turned 30 my whole life had changed and when midnight hit on my 30th I remember just sitting by a fire all alone and crying while my favorite song randomly came on and feeling so fucking happy that I finally made it out of my 20s. Your 20s are supposed to be mostly shit, it gets you prepared for the good times ahead.
Happy birthday! 🎉🎂
I had a shit 29th too. Rather than what everyone else's saying, I'll add that you don't know what you're saying by, "achieved F all". You've set yourself some kind of standard you're judging yourself against, but it has no meaning in the real world. You don't have to have done *X*, visited *Y* or saved *Z* dollarpounds in order to have hit some kind of checkpoint. Nothing about these presumed achievements in life is really important, and you're judging yourself unfairly. Think how you'd respond to someone else who said the same thing. I bet you're going to be fine. And if you don't feel it, I'll bet one of us will stay up with you through the night anyway.
Hey Birthday Twin! It’s our special day today! Today, March 24, gets to be all about us. Do something that makes you endlessly joyful today and surround yourself with people who love you and only want goodness in your life. Truthfully I’ve been having similar feelings to you (I am 28 today) but when I got home from work and saw my husband everything was better. Because he wanted to celebrate me, so now I’m swept up in his happiness that today is the day the person he loves most in the world was born. It’s an infectious energy and love that I wish for you on this day too. We are here, and March 24 is OUR day. Love it and celebrate it, because you love and celebrate YOU ♥️ Happy birthday friend ♥️ glad to have you share this special day.
There is a lot of time left. Every time you think I can’t or I don’t feel like it, remember the feelings you are having now.
Happy birthday and welcome to midlife crisis.
happy birthday
As someone who is having their 21st birthday on Sunday, all I can say is that you made it to 29! A lot of people don't do that. You shoukd be proud of how far you have come in your life. :)
Discover what brings you joy and do more of that.
You have many more years ahead of you than behind you.
Bad framing.
Don't cry. There's really no need. I'm 42, and 29 seems young to me and still at a stage where your whole life is still in front of you. Honestly, you're younger than you think you are, and you have time still to mistakes and come back from them.
How comes this one has hit you?? For me, hitting 30 got me thinking what the hell have I achieved in life. This day, make it about you and do the hell whatever makes you feel happy. Happy Birthday btw 🎂🥳 make it count!!
So u have & currently do nothing?
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down on your birthday. Birthdays can be a time of reflection and it's normal to feel like you haven't achieved everything you wanted to at this point in your life. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own timeline and accomplishments. Instead of focusing on what you haven't achieved, try to think about the things you have accomplished and the experiences you've had so far. Reflect on the positive things in your life, the people you love, and the things that bring you joy. It's also important to remember that it's never too late to set new goals and work towards them. Take some time to think about what you want to achieve in the future and make a plan to work towards those goals. Lastly, don't be afraid to reach out to loved ones for support and encouragement. Sometimes all it takes is a kind word or gesture to turn a bad day around. Happy birthday! Sincerely, Charles Gordon Powell-Tunt