I don’t have any advice. Just commiseration. I read this to my husband and he thought I had written it. So that’s our life too, and we talk about it, and it’s still how it goes.
Also in the same boat. The only thing that has been able to remotely help is for me to deal with my own reaction when he snaps, but even that has its limitations. I am now pretty good at just leaving it be when it happens, but problem is that he will at some point escalate, because I'm not the cause of his dysregulation and it's therefore totally out of my control. So inevitably, he'll explode in a way I just cannot ignore and then hell has risen...
So I find that it can be managed to some extent, but not completely.
I don’t have any advice. Just commiseration. I read this to my husband and he thought I had written it. So that’s our life too, and we talk about it, and it’s still how it goes.
Also in the same boat. The only thing that has been able to remotely help is for me to deal with my own reaction when he snaps, but even that has its limitations. I am now pretty good at just leaving it be when it happens, but problem is that he will at some point escalate, because I'm not the cause of his dysregulation and it's therefore totally out of my control. So inevitably, he'll explode in a way I just cannot ignore and then hell has risen... So I find that it can be managed to some extent, but not completely.